Do you say “sorry” all the time?
Are you apologizing for everything, mindlessly and automatically?
Think that constantly apologizing makes you appear polite, safe or “nice” to others?
Because empaths like us are exceptionally tuned in to emotional energy — especially that of fear, shame and aggression — we can adopt saying “sorry” often to try and smooth over rough situations.
But for some of us, the very word “sorry” can warp in to an unconscious addiction to self-sabotage, if left unchecked.
Watch this week’s 10-minute Love Letter, the second installment in our 5-week series, to learn how to free yourself from “sorry” and shift your energy, now!
"I say I'm sorry all the time."
This is week two of five in our deep dive into what it takes to live an unapologetic life.
Last week we talked about why we need you now more than ever to live an unapologetic life, and this week we're going to continue to step forward in that brilliance, living unapologetically now.
What it takes to live unapologetically now, and this week we're going to talk about sorry, that word sorry. It's time. This is the week. Today is the day.
Right now is the hour is the minute is the moment that you are going to delete "sorry" from your vocabulary. Yes, it's possible. Yes, it's possible. We're going to do it together. Hashtag sorry not sorry.
So, be kind to yourself. This is easier said than done. Are you somebody who tends to lead with saying sorry, right? You might be having little bit deja vu. I asked this last week, but the word sorry herself is our meditation this week on living unapologetically, right? Are you apologizing for everything?
Women especially are taught to apologize when they have anything to say, and what's the story around sorry that you carry for yourself, right? We often tell ourselves a story that it's polite, right? Or you're nice, you're being nice, you're being polite, you're being courteous if you say sorry constantly, right?
You're pleasing and taking care of everybody around you when you say I'm sorry.
Maybe when you were a little kid and you were out of line, you might've smacked the other kid, and you took somebody's toy, or you were naughty, right? Your parents brought you to the other kids', "All right, say you're sorry." "I'm sorry," and the other kid says, "Okay, thank you."
Or "I apologize too, right, I'm sorry." That sort of thing, and we create a story around the word sorry where it's taking ownership and taking responsibility for being out of line.
But here's the thing. The reason why you're watching this video in particular is because your relationship with sorry, the word sorry, has gotten out of hand. Right? Whereas it's meant to be used extremely sparingly, right? Next to never, actually. You're using it like breathing.
It's as if every other breath we're saying, "I'm sorry," and it becomes an apology for existing. It becomes an apology for occupying the same space as others, and what that can end up looking like is that we're afraid to make others feel small because we're here, right?
So, we'll turn down our light to appear nice or polite and not rock the boat. Yes, yes? And meeting the world at I'm sorry.
Here's the thing. The guides are saying that this week, you're going to try, at least try, replacing the word sorry with thank you. Right? If only just for now, if only just for this week, if only just for today, you're going to, when you say you're sorry, X that.
You're going to say thank you, because whenever you are sorry actually, or in need of apologize, there's something to be grateful for. And gratitude has a significantly higher vibration than sorry. Right?
It's time for you live life unapologetically, and the way that we're going to do that this week in particular is with gratitude. Saying thank you. Thank you in and of herself is a mantra for abundance.
Know this: Saying sorry by default turns down your light in the world. It warps into apologizing for your existence.
This meets the world with open heart, shoulders back, chin up, proud and strong and receptive. So, even if, you know how last week we talked about at the movie theater, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, right? Trying to move through. Instead, listen to how different this sounds. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Thanks so much. Thank you.
How beautiful! How different did that feel to go through saying, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry," versus, "Thank you, thank you so much, thank you, thank you, thanks, thank you." Right?
Higher vibration, and it's just changing the words. What matters most is how you feel. Notice the shift in vibration between meeting the world saying, "I'm sorry," versus meeting the world saying, "Thank you." This week in particular.
There's a difference between being polite and being afraid. Right? This year is not about meeting the world with fear. We're gonna meet the world with love and readiness, right? Coming openhearted.
You can be full of positive decorum, elegance, grace, right? You can be very polite and a very nice person, and unapologetic at the same time. It's the intention, the energy that you arrive with, and for this week in particular, we're gonna focus on arriving with gratitude.
Now, I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. It is "Daily Guidance from your Angels" by Doreen Virtue.
The deck that we're going to journeying all month in the living unapologetically. So, angels, what do we need to know this week in particular about sorry not sorry? Oh, I felt it. Release and surrender. This is so beautiful. We shower you with blessings of our radiant love. Open your arms and release the challenge, thank you.
I will say that. I'll finish reading first. Open your arms and release the challenges that you've held tightly gripped within your hands. Open your hands, arms and heart to our love and assistance. This is where we're gonna leave off this week in particular.
Letting go of saying "I'm sorry" is actually letting go of trying to control everything. The angels are really good that they have brought this forward, that it's part of our control coping, right? With, hmm, things don't feel comfortable. Let me apologize so I can take back control over the situation by taking responsibility, even if I didn't do anything wrong. Right?
So, this is how we're taking on being polite or taking on being nice, taking control over the situation. It takes courage to release saying "I'm sorry" all the time. Surrender it over to the angels. Ask your angels for support in being able to shift from saying "I'm sorry" to saying "Thank you."
Go ahead. Comment below. Send me an email back. What comes up for you around releasing and surrendering, being sorry all the time and instead meeting the world in gratitude. What stories do you have to share around this, right? What's coming up for you? I want to know.
Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every week, and we'll see you next time for part three of five of living life unapologetically.
Are you ready for it? I'll see you then.
Just for Today...
Listen to yourself speak to others so you catch yourself mindlessly apologizing.
When you do, pause, rewind and swap out “I’m sorry” for “thank you” in the conversation.
Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!
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