Tired of keeping up with the Joneses?
Wish you could just be yourself with people, but are too scared of what they'll think?
Hiding your pain and exhaustion behind your smile more than you'd like to admit?
Popular culture and educational systems teach us that it's our level of performance that determines our worth.
Unfortunately, living a life of high-performance doesn't lead to self-acceptance and fulfillment; instead, quite the opposite happens.
Watch this week's 10-minute Love Letter video to explore why we overperform so much, and how you can start to break free from this vicious cycle!
"I am so drained. I feel like everything is falling apart."
This week, Source has got two words for you.
Stop performing. Stop it. This is not a performance. You're not putting on a show. Your life is meant to be lived authentically, okay?
Let's get into this. When we are performing, we feel like we're pushing to get others' approval, or pushing to be productive, or pushing to get recognition, or pushing to be accepted, or we're trying to be good, or we're trying to be healthy, or we're trying to make everyone feel comfortable. There's this sense of artifice, and energy that's expounded, and really shoved out of us, this performance. It's go time.
Performance is really meant for spurts. It's not meant to be a lifestyle.
I'm telling you, who's watching right now, you've created a lifestyle of performing:
- You perform for your kids, as mother.
- You perform for your clients.
- You perform for your boss, as star employee.
- You perform for your parents as the perfect son.
- You perform for your community as the perfect person, or the best, the go-to guy.
- As grandma, you're just always there, filling this role that either you've created for yourself, that you have to live up to, or it's been placed upon you.
Oh, you're really good at this. Let's put you on this pedestal, so that you have to always operate at that level.
I'm vibing very specific with you right now. I feel it very strongly, of how tired you are performing, performing, performing, trying to be someone that at the end of the day, you're just drained, pushing at that level, or really trying to make something work that is falling apart.
Maybe you're trying to make it work, and you're the only one trying to make it work, and putting on a happy face for others, so that no one knows all of the pain that is behind that performance mask, that has become your face.
There's so much more for you. Beaming love and acceptance at you. And this week in particular, we have to accept who we are, is what Source is saying, specifically by stopping the performance.
Know this: Know this: Self-acceptance starts where performing ends. #loveyourself @SenseiWhitfield http://bit.ly/295Gf4K
Performance is over. Curtain call. Yay. Everyone's clapping. Okay, you're done. What happens?
I'm starting to hear the oracle cards calling in the energy about who are you when you're not performing?
This is a journaling. This is a conversation having kind of topic. This is not one specific, one love letter, and you're going to figure this one all out. No.
This is a journey in and of itself, finding out, who are you when you're not performing, into the role, or the mask, right, that you've created for yourself, or that you've inherited.
The Oracle Cards that want to weigh on this, so who are you when you're not performing is the life purpose oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue.
Can you even imagine? Angels, help us imagine, who are we when we stop performing, and really start stepping into being authentic?
Maybe at work, maybe even in our homes, and our private lives, who are we? Hmm.
School. The answer that you're seeking involves going to school, and this is where we're going to leave off this week in particular.
This is about learning more about yourself, so perhaps you are currently in school right now, or you've been to school in the past, you've studied before, majored in a certain area, or have had certifications in a certain area.
Look to what inspires you the most in your self education. At school, there are certain subjects that you vibrate with the most.
If you're currently in school, maybe art class is something that really just flows out of you. You don't have to perform when you're drawing. You're just in the moment, or writing, or theater, or perhaps in debate, you're just flowing. You don't even have to perform. It's just part of you. You love that intellectual stimulation, right, of debate, or history.
If you are not currently in school, what have you been looking at going back to school for recently?
What would you study simply for the love of it, where you know that at 3AM, if you had to do a project for that specific field of study, you'd be over the moon. "Oh, my gosh. I would love to be up at 3AM writing about this, or studying and practicing for this."
The guides are pushing you towards education to really help you see, who are you when you're not performing?
It's a bit ironic, because we tend to associate school with performance, right? If you get an A, then you're acceptable. A does not mean acceptable. Wrong, so if that's what's coming up for you, by the way, if you're watching, let that one go.
Instead, what would you study simply for the love of it, if there was no grade, if you were just in school for the love of it?
For me, it's meditation and Reiki, world religions, parapsychology, metaphysics, manifestation, and all of that yummy, juice, vortex-y goodness. Right? That's who I am when I'm not performing, and I happen to have integrated that personally into my work. What is it for you? Look to your education.
Post below in the comments. Let me know, what do you find out? What would you study for the love of it? What are you doing in your free time, and studying in your free time, Googling constantly about? That might be a clue as to who you are when you're not performing. I'm here for you.
Contact me if you want to set up a session, so that we can clarify that. I do hour long sessions, as well as half hour sessions on a regular basis, because having regular accountability makes all the difference, okay?
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In Love and Light,
Just for Today...
Make time to get clarity: journal about what you do simply for the love and pleasure of it, especially listing things that no one knows.
Then write down how it feels when you're doing these things, versus when you feel like you're performing or trying to appease others.
Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!
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