This is the fifth and final week of our exploration of vulnerability, cultivating our relationship with being vulnerable and improving our ability to engage and open up in a positive way, maybe for the first time.

Now if this is the first video that you're seeing in this series, make sure that you hit pause, go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com and start from part one, so that you are grounded in this process. Without further ado, this week in particular for the fifth and final week of our discussion on vulnerability, my spirit guides have asked us to discuss vulnerable leadership.

Last week, we talked about the power of opening up as an empath to being vulnerable, so that we can better relate to and interact with the people and things that we care about in this lifetime. We talked about respecting our energy as empaths, but also not letting our sensitivity dominate us in this lifetime – claiming that as a power, rather than a disability – or be something that you're constantly afraid of or overly protecting yourself from. This week, however, we're going even farther into vulnerability as a power and applying it to leadership.

A wonderful role model of vulnerable leadership and someone who's a thought leader in this area, two people actually, I would have to say one is Simon Sinek and the other is Brene Brown. If you have not checked out their work, I highly recommend it. They have amazing, inspiring, empowering things to share with you around vulnerable leadership and how healing it is especially in the professional world.

The most painful thing that I've seen is how insensitive leadership destroys powerful teams that have become like family and overcome the most incredible odds together. These things that come from the top-down in corporate – restructuring, or layoffs, or whatever hot word they use to explain being insensitive to the needs and the preciousness of the relationships of the people that are working under them – it's incredible how destructive they can be.

I grew up watching my mother re-enter the workforce after 17 years as a homemaker to work for a certain corporation as a technical writer, and then a web developer, and coder for over 20 years. I remember as a kid going to their picnics and things and seeing all of these people that she worked with like my extended family, and feeling part of something bigger; seeing them laughing, and supporting one another. ...Then I also lived through, as a young woman, watching them be torn apart, seeing the stress, and the pain of those wonderful relationships being just torn apart, torn apart by restructuring or “re-orgs” as the company would say. I'm not going to say what company because I want to respect privacy here.

Maybe you've seen this happen in your family – your work family – or your corporation as well, this being torn apart by insensitive leadership, putting numbers before people, or putting self-protection first, which is something that we hinted at last week. Let's go into it this time for our final discussion: the toxic effects of putting self-protection before serving their community around us.

We can get protection-obsessed especially in the professional world because for some reason we allow money and numbers to make us paranoid and prioritize dollars and quotas, and metrics above people, relationships, health and mutual human respect. Be kind to yourself if this is something that you've witnessed happening and that you don't want to be a part of any longer. If only just for today, commit to being open as a leader. Commit to developing your ability to be vulnerable along with the people who you are leading.

Simon Sinek gives us a wonderful example of how to measure how open-hearted you are as a leader. Leaders, he says, are people who watch out for the people to the right and to the left of them. That is it. It has nothing to do with titles, what's on your business card, or what your website says, or how big your office is, or how big your bank account is, or not. It's who are you being on a moment-to-moment basis. In order to look out for, to take care of, the people to the left and to the right of you, you've got to be open to what's going on with them, rather than just what's going on with “Me” and making sure that I'm getting x, y, z done, and so on.

It is a mental acrobatic that you do at first to decide, “I'm going to be concerned, and open, and curious, and communicative with the people that are to the left and to the right of me. The people that are supporting me, I am going to support them. I'm going to be open to how do they feel right now. I'm going to ask them, ‘how are you feeling? Are you all right?’ and loving and supporting them in that.”

Coming from a space of your own center of love and support and not forgetting that you as a leader have needs and have feelings is also important, which is something that we also discussed last week, opening to the fact that I have feelings, too, as an Empath. As someone who supports others, I have feelings. I have needs, and they have got to be honored and respected by me first and then also the people that I'm sharing this life experience with.

Be kind to yourself if in trying to be a vulnerable leader, meaning someone who is present to and caring for the people who are in your care, you've sacrificed your own self-care. That is negative vulnerable leadership because it leaves you open to health problems, relationship problems, spiritual and emotion oppression, depression. Be kind to yourself. That leaves you negatively vulnerable.

How can we then as leaders, moreover as Healing Leaders (that's my term) on this planet, how can we open up to leading from the heart, leading with courage, and positive vulnerability? I’m curious, what does that look like? Positive, vulnerable leadership, is healing leadership. I would venture that it starts with healing self, first, and staying open to being present to those that are in our care, who are supporting us, who are following us, and share the same beliefs and vision that we have. We're all working together in one direction. At the same time, there's the person out in front who holds the vision, being the Visionary. --

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Are you healing? Are you present to yourself? Okay, if you are, you're doing your self-care, you're doing your spiritual nourishment, your physical nourishment and love. Good. And are you present to the people around you needing the same, just as much love, and approval, and support, and honor as you're showing yourself? Are they also learning how to do that for the people behind them as well?

Be a Healing Leader. It entails being open to being vulnerable, cultivating that ability to be vulnerable, but if only just for today, commit to being a healing leader by opening to being vulnerable in a positive and empowering way.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards like, "Hey, pick us!" It's Healing with the Angels oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue, her very first oracle cards deck that she ever made in her career. Angels, what do we need to know right now about stepping into healing leadership by embodying being positive, vulnerable leaders? ...This is so good, like I could literally do an entire summit on this, “listening.” Listening! This is so perfect. I love that in the picture, she's listening to her angels, and her angels are listening to her. I'm going to read, I don't really have to, but before I read I just want to tell you what I'm hearing from my spirit guides around listening.

The most powerful leaders I've ever followed in my own life have been profound listeners, profound. Having the courage to listen to your people as a leader is essential. God, She gave us two ears and one mouth. We've got to listen twice as much as we give directions and directives. Anyway, let’s start listening. Let me read:

Listening. You are in communication with your angels and the messages that you are receiving are very real indeed. Trust them. This card is a validation from your angels that you really are hearing them. You have been receiving repetitive messages through your feelings, dreams, visions, inner voice, or knowingness. Are you listening and trusting these messages? Are you following them? If you get an inclination to call someone, go somewhere, or read something, it's important to follow this guidance. By drawing this card, your angels ask you to give all your doubts or worries about divine guidance to them. Know that you truly are communicating with heaven and enjoy the conversations.

This is so perfect. Here's where we'll leave off for this entire series: Cultivating your listening sense. Your active listening is also cultivating positive vulnerability. If you are not comfortable listening to others, or you feel impatient, it's just because you haven't cultivated listening as a skill. It's just a skill that you're a little bit deficient in. If you just dedicate time and mental space to it, it gets easier and more pleasurable with time.

If you need to work on your listening skills, I highly recommend my book Natural Intuition Now. I take you step by step exactly through how to listen with presence and also why it is so important. The more that we become intuitive, open, vulnerable, healing and empowered leaders, the better our world becomes, the better the legacy of love becomes that we leave behind us in all the work that we do and all the people, all the lives that we touch.

Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfiled.com. What's coming up for you around this? Make sure you subscribe on YouTube, so that you get Love Letters first every single week. Tag someone who needs to hear this, and I will see you in the next one.

May you feel loved and safe to be your most brilliant self at work.

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This is our final week four of four in our exploration of healing sales, our sales scars and shame around asking for the sale. Healing the bad, crusty experiences that we've had in the past.

If this is the first video that you are seeing in this series, make sure you hit pause, and go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com so that you start from part one and are grounded in this process.

Without further ado, for week four of four, the guides have asked us to continue the conversation that we started last week, and specifically talk about sales as healing. Sales as healing? Holy tomato! For some people, that's about the most opposite possible thing that they could think of when they think of sales. “Are you kidding me? Sales is like you're raiding and pillaging everyone. It's like an attack.”

Sales can be perceived as an attack, and if we've had some negative experiences in the past, in those really powerful transformational moments that come up for us regarding a larger sale such as buying a house or a car, or a coaching program, or a new building, and so on and so forth. If someone's done you wrong in that level sale, that scar runs deep, but in the words of Robert Bly from Iron John- which is amazing if you haven't read it yet – “Every wound is a womb.” Every wound is a womb.

The wounds that we may have received in our past of sales not going very well for ourselves or being done to us - or even witnessing sales happening between others that aren’t ethical - every wound that we receive is actually a womb. And what is a womb? It's a place where new life is created, so that's why we're talking about sales as healing. These wounds that we've received over the course of engaging in commerce are sacred, whether you are an entrepreneur or not. You don't have to own a business to have engaged in the sale. Anything you have, the clothes on your back, glasses, the shoes, underpants on your butt (hopefully, you're not wearing any? No judgment.) you have that because someone sold it to you.

You live in this house because someone sold it. Be kind to yourself. Your education, you have it because someone sold you on having education. But at the same time some of those experiences of being sold, being brought from one paradigm to another through a sale - a sale bridges gaps - that paradigm shift can be a bit traumatic.

But I want to elevate to this vision that the guides are sending for us right now of sales as something entirely different: sales is healing. I really want to drop into my heart and be blunt right now with you, because a lot of my lists of people who are watching these videos, following on YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, Pinterest, or wherever you are, if it's just landed into your inbox or someone forwarded me to you: nine times out of 10 you're some sort of a teacher, coach, healer, or a caregiver of some sort, right? You support people. You offer a healing presence.

If you are watching or reading this right now, whether you're a hairdresser cutting hair, an accountant doing taxes, or a lawyer working through your cases, whether you're working in construction, or you're like a transformational women's divine feminine coach goddess, or some other service-based business in addition to all of the above. If you're watching and still reading this right now, what magnetized you is not just my lovely exciting shirt and sparkly energy, but it's the fact that you see a piece of you in me. By the way, likewise; I see a piece of myself in you, in that we are Healers. We're here to heal the world. We're here to bring healing presence.

If you are having a hard time receiving financial abundance, it's because you have not shifted your point of view yet around sales. You haven't shifted it yet to see sales as healing. Sales is healing. Now, I'm a Reiki Master, an alternative medicine energy healer. I'm a woo-woo person, and proudly wave my rainbow woo-woo flag. I’m down with unicorns and glitter and high vibrational multi-dimensional energy - all of that, 100%. And the only way that I am able to share all that woo-woo goodness juice with the people who are starving and dried out and like desperate for it – they’re spiritually dehydrated. They need the juice. - is if I get out there and share my gift. If I get out, open up and talk about who I am and what I do, and what I can do for you. That's the purpose of sales.

Sales is actually healing for the people who are thirsty for the juice that you have created. I'm not talking about selling people stuff that they don't need. That can actually turn more into an addiction. I mean, hey, I have an addictive personality. Let me pull myself out the closet and like flap that in the air for you, okay? So yeah, I can have an addictive personality where, oh my gosh, I just want to go, I want to buy a bunch of stuff to alleviate my frustration right now. I want to buy a bunch of information courses and a bunch of books, and a bunch of crystals, right? Maybe that's been you before, and to some extent the things that I'm drawn to are what I need in the moment.

And those people who are out there selling the crystals, the necklaces, the books, the audio courses, the things that are going to lift me back up, I thank the Goddess for them. But I'm not going to be going out there and buying like, you know, sprockets and light bulbs and tires and things when I'm in my emotional state searching for a certain thing. If I need energy, I'm going to go out there looking for things that are going to give me energy for what I'm looking for.
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That's the key for sales being healing. It's you putting out “what am I going to help people with? And here it is.” I really appreciate Russell Brunson, his concept of having a Bridge to help us get from that state of “Alright already! I'm in frustration and in trouble” to “here, let's talk about the sale.” Having a Bridge is what's going to help you engage more sales as the healing part of your business. It not only heals your bank account when you close successful sales, but it also is healing for the clients and customers who are receiving exactly what they need.

Having a Bridge, and this comes from Russell Brunson, is to have a phrase that helps anchor in the fact that you are here to help them, and you have something that you would like to help them with. So what is that phrase? It could be asking for permission of someone who, you know, if you're out sharing your gifts and you see they could really use what you are providing, say, "Hey, I see that you have this situation going on. Is it okay if I share with you something that I put together to make things easier for you?” Or, “I put something together to serve you, and I was wondering if you would want to hear more about it?"

Ask for permission. Sales is healing when you always ask permission, first.You want to get consent in guiding someone through their paradigm shift, because the worst thing is pushing someone into a paradigm shift who doesn't want it and isn't ready for it. Sales is healing because we raise the buyer’s vibration. We help people into a new, more empowered reality as long as you're doing it ethically. When done unethically, unfortunately it can become like what we've been talking about for the last few weeks: something that is much more of a scarring experience.

Now, you've got to remember to turn on your natural intuition. Tune into your body. Clear your energy. Listen to your heart. If you feel your heart opening towards someone, feeling compassionate and wanting to help them, listen to that desire, that sensation of oh my goodness, I really want to help them. I feel for them. That's a sign from the Universe to actually take out your bridge, bring it over to them and say, "Hey, I see you're going through this situation. I know about something that could help you”, or “I put this thing together that could really make it easier for you. Is it okay if I share it with you?" Get their consent, and then go ahead, honor them by giving them access to the thing that will help them the most. Sales is so incredibly, powerfully healing. Comment below, send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com. Let me know what's coming up for you around this.

For now we're going to jump into the Oracle cards. The deck that we've been journeying with is Angels of Abundance by Doreen Virtue, these Oracle cards of Doreen with her son Grant. “Alright, Angels of Abundance, what do we need to know right now about sales as healing and how to activate our natural intuition now, other than reading Victoria's book?” ...Oh, snap. Throwing down some serious love bombs.

Face your financial fears. When you are honest with yourself about fears of success or failure, honest with yourself, they can no longer control you. Be free of hidden fears by exposing them to the light of awareness, and you'll realize that you in fact have nothing to fear, and that every successful person has struggled with and releases these self-doubts. This is where we're going to leave off for the week. The perfect landing point for this series.

You know, when you release fear around sales, receiving more or delivering more sales conversations, when you release that fear and you have faith that this is actually a healing going on, all of that momentum around blocking abundance lifts. Have faith that what you are sharing is healing. Focus on the healing. Don't focus on your fear or on your self-doubt. That'll sabotage you. You'll end up self-sabotaging.

Do the inner work first, though, to get yourself into a space of total faith in the work that you do or in the product that you're talking about. Do the inner work around understanding that when you go into a sales conversation, or when someone's trying to engage you in that, there's a healing going on. Be open to receiving or giving the healing more so than the money, okay? Be more focused on the healing work than the finances, and nine times out of 10 you'll end up closing the sale and the finances will come.

Be kind to yourself if you're afraid of focusing on the healing because you're so afraid of the money. If that's your case, please reach out to me at www.victoriawhitfield.com/contact You can hop on the phone with me and we'll be able to get you sorted and see how we can best support you moving through that fear of receiving.

I'm sending you so much love, blessings and abundance, and I'll see you in the next one.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey.

Bye for now.

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Believe you're meant for more than just working hard to get by?

Tired of feeling limited by your circumstances?

Ever wonder what makes someone a leader vs. a follower?

There's a special sauce that triggers greatness in certain people that causes them to achieve more than the average human being.

Causes them to think big, reinvent themselves and leave a legacy when they're gone.

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"I need to find a mentor."

This is week five of five. Five of five, of our deep dive into finding the courage to be yourself, your whole self, stepping into your divinity. Stepping into your purpose as a healer in this lifetime.

We've been journeying for the last couple weeks in particular with the bee animal totem. Honey bee animal totem, and we've been receiving more wisdom and insight into what's been going on along the path of our personal development.

If you haven't caught those previous two videos, again, pause. Go back on YouTube or on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com so that you can get all of the juicy bits.

This week in particular, honey bee has a third and final stage for us to consider as we're finding the courage to be ourselves. These three archetypes that her life cycle gives us as a gift and as a wisdom that we can receive around shaping our own destinies in life the natural way, right?

Following our instinct and our intuitive guidance with the health of bee animal totem. So, remembering, just a quick recap, first stage was larval, right? Where we're going around and around in circles, searching for ourselves, searching for sustenance, for insight, for more nourishment for ourselves because we're in need, right?

Think of the larva. That's what she's all about, is just herself, so that she can grow.

The sustenance that you get at that stage, though, forces you to grow. There's no going back unless something goes wrong. The way that it's designed is to inspire growth, right? Mother's milk causes the babies to grow.

Then at the worker stage where after we've matured as a larva, now we're at the worker stage where instead of searching to receive just for ourselves, now we're searching, searching for problems to solve.

We're searching for ways to contribute to others. This is really powerful because this is where we learn to collaborate and connect and communicate. Remember the dance, the magic communication dance of honey bee, so that they can build the hive as well as cause more reproduction throughout all of the plants around them by spreading their wonderful, wonderful contribution to all of us. Bee is sacred.

Here's the thing though. At both of those levels, there are clear limitations, right? Larva can only move within her small, little world, and the more she eats, the more there's no way she's going back. It's a clear, one way, linear street to being the worker and then worker bee has clear limitations as well.

The purpose of the worker bee is work, and worker bees work themselves to death. In fact, they only live about six to eight weeks, tops. 20 of those days is spent as the larva, so it's a hard life, it's a short life. Sure, they live longer in the winter because they're dormant for about five months, but with that, worker bee serves to work and to give to others.

There's a third archetype that honey bee is gifting us to see past only searching for yourself and only searching for others, and this is where we step outside of limitation and into legacy.

Know This: Step outside of just managing your Limitations and into building your Legacy in life and #business.

This is queen bee week. Now, oh my goodness, I could do an entire year, or in fact, by the time you're watching this, I've already done an entire retreat, three days, three whole days down the shore talking about being and stepping into queen presence, but suffice to say, we're going to dedicate a few minutes to harmonizing you with queen bee's energy.

First off, queen bee is different than the other bees in the hive. For one, she lives one to four years instead of six to eight weeks, so talk about legacy and longevity. Secondly, she gives birth to everybody in the hive.

All of their day to day tasks come from her come from protecting her and serving her, right? Following her pheromones, knowing what to do next. She generates purpose. She generates life.

How does one transition into this archetype and also applying it as a metaphor to life and business? This is stepping out of just being the worker into being the creator. How that happens in particular is two things.

One, queen bees come from queen bees. When you are cultivating that creator essence within you, you have got to get a mentor. One who has got it, too, where your central nervous system learns from hers or your business is molded after hers or your point of view reflects and is informed by that elevated point of view that comes from him.

Queen bees make queen bees. They don't come from anybody else. You have got to have a mentor.

So, that's one.

Two, the second thing that differentiates creating a queen bee is the royal jelly. Remember from before, the larva are drinking the mother's milk that worker leaves behind, right? Previous workers have left behind to support the generations coming afterward.

That mother's milk, though, coming from a worker, makes more workers whereas the royal jelly coming for the queen bee, by the queen bee, this initiates organs to be grown in that bee's body that others don't have access to.

There's a mindset within you that can be birthed and grown over time if you get another level of nourishment, one that comes from that higher paradigm, affirming that you are a creating, learning about exactly how to master your intuition, trust it, cultivate it.

Learning how to be the visionary in your life in business rather than just getting by and just being the worker, work, work, working, hard working. Smart working is a whole new paradigm and that is the wonderful archetype of the queen bee.

Now, I'm already hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy, but suffice to say, hold on a second, ladies, suffice to say that as we begin to transition out of worker, into queen, it's only a very few people are capable of doing this because queen bee is responsible, right?

Responsible for keeping the vision alive, keeping the tribe and the hive alive. It takes a lot of energy to birth ideas and to hold the vision. It may look cushy. She only stays in the hive the entire time of her life unless there's a swarm, like unless there's trouble, and if she does leave, half the whole swarm leaves with her. She's never by herself.

So there's not exactly freedom. There is agency, but with that agency comes responsibility as queen, as the visionary, as the healer. When you're fully stepping into your role as not just a healer but as a leader and a healer, there's a whole new level of nourishment that you need in the form of royal jelly as well as a whole new level of guidance that you need coming from mentorship.

So, we want to honor that. If you're called to queen, let's not take this lightly, but that is the third and final stage. So, let's get to it.

Goddesses, what do we need to know? Goddess Guidance from Doreen Virtue oracle cards deck. What do we need to know about having the courage to fully be ourselves, to step into that divinity and really become creators of our lives, not just working, working, working, day in and day out?

Okay. Sulis. Bodies of whatever. Spend time near water such as a lake, river or ocean to recharge your batteries. Here's where we're going to leave off this week. My guides are saying that the goddess Sulis, who watches over all bodies of water on earth specifically is coming forward because this is to help open you up to being limitless.

Think about water. Is there any limit to what water can do on planet earth? It's in the sky, underground, flowing down mountains, right? We've harnessed maybe a fraction, we've harnessed a fraction of the water coming through pipes and things like that, but how vast is the ocean? How incredibly vast is all of the icebergs as well? Limitlessness.

That is why we are considering beyond around water this week in particular. By the way, being by water is very, very healing. Not just the detoxifying and anti-inflammatory properties of being around saltwater in particular ... Not to down play that, but emotionally, right?

Emotionally and spiritually, when you are by lakes, by the ocean, by waterfalls, by a river, there is an activation that happens in the body that is unique to being in the presence of water as well as drinking fresh alkaline, right? Alkalized water. It heals the body and cleans your blood.

So, to prepare moving from your worker into your queen, meditations with water, taking in clean water, being around water is going to help you release that limited mindset and step into your creator, you being a healing leader.

So, what's coming up for you hearing all this really powerful message this week? Send me an email back at info@VictoriaWhitfield.com and, by the way, make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every week.

Ready? Let's step into our queen. Whether you're a male or a female, it's the archetype.

Tell me about it. What comes up for you, all right? I'll see you next week. Bye.

(Original post 07/30/2018)

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If so, then first of all let me tell you: thank you, from the bottom of my heart!

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"I don't feel like I've found my tribe yet."

So this is week four of five of our deep dive on the courage, finding the courage to be yourself, your whole self, your true self.

So if you haven't seen the previous few, hit pause, go back on YouTube or on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and make sure that you catch up. For week four, this week we're going to continue discussing the different stages that we go through on the path to being ourselves fully.

We're calling upon Honey Bee spirit animal, our totem for guidance so that we can understand what's going on and what's needed for each transition.

Last week we talked about the larva stage. Where we're going around and around in circles and the way that we're able to transition, fully honor and receive, being in that larva stage, it's necessary, right? We're receiving mother's milk going round and around, seeking those nourishing positive mindsets, positive beliefs, positive ideas and concepts and experiences.

The way that we do that is go and consume it, go read the book, stop avoiding it, stop avoiding and consume fully those resources that you're looking for and all of those that are around you so that you can complete that discovery process.

What naturally comes as the baby continues to drink mother's milk is, all of these wonderful hormonal changes and growth. Growth, growth, growth, and learnings come at an accelerated rate.

So when we're talking about honey bee in particular, after a larva we turn into the worker, the worker bee and this as a honey bee, are those lovely people that you see floating from flower to flower, if you have gardens, who are responsible for ensuring all creatures have food to eat going forward.

It's their movement on a day to day basis in a coordinated way, a cooperative way that enables the rest of creation to be fertilized and continue forward.

Honey bee is sacred by the way and if this speaks to you, by all means please do support your local beekeepers, your people who are honey makers as well as preserving the lives and researching the lives of honey bee.

So go ahead, I'm not going to recommend a charity, it's up to your energy and your research to find one that you find breath with, but please do support our bees for the future.

So when we're in worker, when we've moved past that going round and around and around seeking for ourselves. Seeking answers, seeking answers constantly, when we're in the larval stage of our life in business, remember because we're looking at this as a metaphor, right and the parallel to what we're going through in our personal and business development.

It's similar, now as a worker, instead of going round and around searching for answers for ourselves, now as a worker bee you're going in a larger sphere round and around looking for problems.

Does that sound familiar? So, everyday, worker bee wakes up to go out and search and find pollen to go and then bring it back. Go out and search for that nectar and bring it back because worker bee is building something. Worker bee also is the master communicator by the dance, the amazing worker bee dance.

That's communicating the story, the worker bees story is why they dance, so that others can then go and help them too, or help themselves too, to nectar and bring it back to the hive. The purpose of the worker bee is to build, build, build. Communicate, communicate, communicate. Now maybe you've been at the worker bee level for quite some time, where it's your joy to give and give generously because there is nothing more fulfilling than contributing to something that is bigger than just you.

Right, at the larva stage, you know it's comfortable, to a certain extent and familiar, searching only for ourselves answers for ourselves, healing for ourselves, right? We were in pain or we came through a challenge such as maybe getting laid off, or someone passing away, or there's an accident, et cetera, which forces us back into the larval stage where I've got to receive for me.

Honoring that, there's nothing wrong with you if that's what you're going through.

There's a point where we feel more fully formed and satiated, more stable and with a sense of agency. Which by the way are wings, that's the symbol of power in many different spiritual traditions. It's an elevated mindset when we finally grow our wings.

As a worker bee we're spreading our wings to make sure that others that come behind us, remember from last week the nurse bees that are worker bees, leaving that trail of mother's milk so that the others can grow up abundantly in our wake. So as the worker bees we're going, spreading our wings to share. That is so gorgeous and beautiful and amazing.

Know this: Sharing what helped us overcome our past problems with others changes our old wounds into wisdom.

If that's where you're at, honor that, make sure that as you're in your worker bee that you feel like you are contributing to a purpose that is greater than you. Now remember, I mentioned last week, there's a third and final stage that's even past that. We're going to get into it next week but for, just for today, right just for this moment in particular, you want to focus on giving and giving in an organized, systematic, and highly communicable, communicating openly, cooperating openly, just like honey bee. That's the level of giving that you want to focus that if you are worker bee. It's not good to be giving on a small scale or to be disorganized.

One thing about honey bee, she's incredibly organized. She's one of nature's engineers. The way that she does it is through communication and teamwork. So if you're a worker bee, what you need are other worker bees to dance with, who get it to and to contribute to a cause that is bigger than you.

The reason why and I'll hint at what's coming next week, is because it's going to give you purpose. The greater your purpose as a worker bee, or as someone who is fully being herself, being himself, the greater your purpose, the closer you're coming to the third and final stage of being yourself. Being the healer as we talked about in week two. I'm hearing the oracle cards like, ah, we need to talk.

Here we go, Goddess Guidance deck, we're journeying with all month, let's see. What are you ladies shouting about? Goddesses what do we need to know about honoring the worker bee and this level of our development?

Oh beautiful. Mary Magdalene, unconditional love. Love yourself, other, and every situation, no matter what the outward appearances may be.

Here's where we're going to leave off this week, you know I often speak to bee achiever in all of us and sometimes we're coming to the activity of giving and contributing thinking that, I'm not enough so if I give more than maybe I'll be something. Or maybe that'll make me worthy because I've given more than anyone could ever ask of me or expect of me and that's not the case.

It's hard to give abundantly, systematically, in an organized way, in one that is highly communicated if you don't love yourself first. One of my most favorite people on the planet, Ru Paul says, "If you can't love yourself, how the hell are you going to expect to love somebody else?"

Be kind to yourself, love yourself, others and every situation, no matter what the outward appearances may be, because that, love, that is what carries through all. That's what makes this sustainable.

So go ahead, send me an email back, what comes up for you. Did you need to hear this, this week? Or is someone coming to mind who's supposed to hear it? If so, hit that share button, let your tribe know that it's okay to honor the worker and this is how you do it. This is how we do it.

Hit subscribe by the way on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every week and we'll see you next week for the third and final stage. Bye.

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"I always feel like I have to do more."

So this week two of five of our exploration of the courage to be yourself.

We left off talking about why it's time. Why? Why do you need courage to be yourself?

We touched on it a little bit last time, but to continue that thought, and by the way if you new to the series, et cetera, go ahead, stop, go back on YouTube or on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com so you can catch the previous episode.

So this week in particular, what's going to lift you rather than you push to be yourself is one simple fact that has been hiding in your closet for quite some time, may have fell out, may have flashed people here and there with, but you know, you haven't really owned it, right, or brought it forward in your life in a way that you're meant to.

It's time to bring this out of the closet. Are you ready ready ready?

You are a healer. You're a healer. We're finding the courage to be ourselves. You, it's time for you to find the courage to be yourself. Why? Because you are a healer, and you just can't hide it anymore.

Incoming soapbox ... Our world needs what only you can provide. The insight, the humor, the love, the creativity, the solutions, right? You have a unique perspective. No one else has got your two eyes or your history, your fields of expertise, your passions, or your purpose.

No one else has got you, and it's the unique essence of who you really are, and in the previous video we talked about that being divinity, we need that unique essence to heal our world.

Now I believe in filling in the blank. So as I speak about this, what comes up for you about how our world needs healing? Could it be helping the oceans, healing our children, healing our families? For me, it's healing our businesses, and how business is done. I have a vision personally for a world of healing businesses, where people wake up and go to work and are healed because they decide to participate in engaging and professional activities. That's what my passion and vision is as a healer, but this week, this day, this moment in particular it's time for you to find your soapbox.

What are you here to heal? It takes courage though, in order to reveal your healer, as well as allow healing to pour forth through you. What would that look like, you showing up as a healer in your office space, or you showing up as a healer consciously in your family, or in your friend circle, you showing up as a healer at your school, you showing up as a healer in your business? What would that look like?

Okay, thank you. Someone in the energy just said "Savior complex." Now, I have a training on this, but imagine this is like my magic cape, and we're flying through the air coming to save the day, right? No. That's not what we're talking about.

So for some of you watching who are already high-achievers, who are go-getters and moreover go-givers, who are generous generous and happy to help others, you're very dutiful. So when I start talking duty you get triggered like "I'm not enough, I'm not enough, I'm not enough. I gotta do more. Get me an even bigger cape, or more people to help and save."

So it's important for you, especially if you're whipping out your cape to go save the day for somebody else, as a healer if you're being yourself you are healing yourself first. World healing starts with the individual. World healing starts with you.

Know this: World healing starts with the individual. World healing starts with YOU.

Whoever's on my team that just put that as the tweetable thank you. Felt that!

But world healing starts right here. Remember, courage, that's the heart, your heart is where the healing is going to start. So be kind to yourself. If, when we talk about this fact that you might have been hiding back there in the closet of "I'm a healer," or "I got a little woo in here," right let my woo hang out a little bit here and there, sprinkle some fairy dust, sneeze it on you.

Oh, you might get infected. Right? Be kind to yourself if you've been on the down low about being a healer, and if you're also putting in overtime on the down low saving the day for everybody else except yourself, this day, this moment in particular you're going to focus on being the healer between you and you. And I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy as we continue to build on our topic in this series and God is Guidance. Love this deck, love this deck. Whether you are male or female this deck is absolutely powerful.

So goddesses, what do we need to know right now about being a healer, especially for ourselves first and finding that courage? Ooh, hello. Yay! Siege. See I feel some of my latino friends, we'd be like "Siege! Yeah!" I know it's siege, but yes! Familia, hola. So siege, quiet time. She's like so peaceful and rainbow-y with the night sky.

Take some quiet time alone to rest, meditate, and contemplate. And this is where we're going to leave off for the week with a homework. Your focus this week is going to create quiet time for you. Even if it's like a family or a team-wide, office-wide timeout where we're all gonna have time, like quiet time, so that I can. So if you are in a relationship in those ways, because immediately I can hear someone say "Well I can't have quiet time, it's always loud here, everyone's running around crazy," be kind to yourself. Let's all have quiet time.

But the reason why we desire quiet time, this week in particular, is so that you can sit and either think or write with the intent to find your healing edge. There's an area in your life that needs healing, more nurturing, more love, and in order to create that alchemical reaction of healing in that area we've gotta create the space for it. So that's quiet time.

Now tell me what's coming up for you around this. Do you need help creating quiet time? It's pretty quiet here, especially during sessions in the dojo. Whether you're coming in person or online, you're welcome to request a session or info at VictoriaWhitfield.com, or join us at the deep dive retreat where we're completely unplugged from technology for several days. It's the third week of every July. So VictoriaWhitfield.com/DeepDiveRetreat by the way. If there's still spaces left for this coming one it'll be for this year, if no it'll show next year's.

So it's important for you to create quiet time so that you can find your healing edge, and be there. We're not gonna break through or anything like that, we're literally just going to be ourselves on the healing edge in our lives. So send me an email back, comment below what comes up for you around that.

Let's keep this conversation going, right. But I need to hear what you have to say for us to be having a conversion. Duh! I'm sending you so much love. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters every week, and I'll see you for our next one. Bye.

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"I don't feel like I have the courage to be myself."

So this love letter is the first in a five-week new series and it's an honor to get to share space with you and time with you on a week to week basis. We've been doing these love letters for over five and a half years straight now, every single week and wanted to let you know that my team and I are so happy to get to continue to serve you and to encourage you from a week to week basis and supported by four, a team of four right now.

I bet you thought it was just me sending you videos, right? Nope. So I want you to know that all of us, although you can't see my team yet on video, are really happy to have a regular part in your life and upholding you in all of the magical work that you do out there in the world, whether it's for your clients, through your business, or for your family, right through your home light or even for yourself and the legacy that you create in walking this earth.

So with that being said, the new topic of our series of love letters now is finding the courage to be yourself. Finding the courage to be yourself. I want to send a special, special shout out to all of my goddesses who are attending the deep dive retreat, at the filming of this video, it is July, right?

I'm really happy to get to share a space with you because we're going to be covering these concepts in depth, right, and ... Hi, Georgina Noel, if you're watching because this topic in particular is literally tattooed on her body. Go check her out. She has a bee tattooed on her for what we covered at the deep dive retreat.

But as a love letters list subscriber, I want you to be part of our healing experience and stepping into and living into being yourself.

Now, the totem animal for our entire five weeks together is the bee. We're going to be talking about her quite a bit this series. So you're going to get a lot more familiar with what's going on with these. But before we go into all of the juicy bits, we have to start with why, why do you need the courage to be yourself?

Now, someone just shouted in the energy at me right now, like, I know I do. You don't even have to explain it. It takes courage to be a bee. We really want to dig into that so that you're not only you're generating your own sense of inner courage, but also being swept up by the incredible pleasure and love of getting to be yourself.

Let's clarify what exactly yourself is first and foremost, when I and the guides right at the ... Yeah, I'm pointing kind of up and around. You know who I'm speaking with. You speak to them too, right? Shout outs to all who are watching. When we're talking about, talking together about being yourself, the yourself that you are being is your higher self, right?

This is all about remembering your divinity inside of you right now, whether you are male or female is a king or a queen, right? The divine essence of you that is ready to come forth and bless, right, to share abundantly, to give so much love and to receive so much and appreciate and enjoy so much of what this earth has to offer.

There's a part of you that you are afraid to uncover and allow out for especially women these days. It is the inner feminine, right? Our feminine core. For men, especially these days, it's not the inner feminine, right? It's the true man, right? The fully actualized king essence that's within every man. I like to speak to both so we're going to be speaking even though the core feminine being myself, right, embracing my queen, how do you like the regal, the regality, hashtag Tony Baker, right?

Know this: Embrace your inner Queen, your inner King. You are royalty, divinity incarnate. Be your true Self.

So be kind to yourself. If as I'm talking to you, you're starting to feel uncomfortable, I want you to sense the discomfort. This five weeks in particular, this week in particular, and today in particular because we're calling out your inner king, your inner queen essence, right? Your higher self is, was unlimited, infinitely abundant, has an unlimited amount of energy at his or her disposal, their excess, right?

You have so much more to you than you are allowing to come through and for whatever reason, my guides are saying this is the time to open that up, right, and find the courage to be yourself. Now, I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy room before I picked them very quick, about courage. The word, root word for courage is coeur, in French means the hearts, right?

So when we have courage, we're coming from our heart center, this is a feeling space. We're going to be talking, right? Of course that comes from more of a left brain logical type of mindset. Of course, right, I'm seducing your right, ... The logical brain with our conversation, but where your courage is really going to come from is not from the talking, but coming from the feeling.

I want you to know that because if you've been shut off from your feelings, you have got to get support in opening that up. Forget developing your natural intuition, right? Being functional as a fully actualized human being requires feeling and if you don't have support and being open to your heart center, right, following your heart, listening to your heart, trusting your heart or your gut, right?

Same, lower sensing, sensual, sensate, intuitive anatomy. I'm here to help. Go ahead. Hit the reply and say, "Victoria, I'm ready to work with you." With that being said, what better deck than Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards to help us step into the power of being ourselves, right? Finding that courage.

This is actually the first deck I ever got for myself when I began my own personal growth and development journey years and years ago. I pulled one of these cards a day at the beginning of every day and it changed my life. So life hack for personal growth and development and spiritual awakening. Get this deck, pull one a day. So we're going to be journeying with this deck all month.

Goddesses, what do we need to know right now about why it's time for us to find the courage to be ourselves? Thank you. This is kind of meta. Do you recognize this person? Kind of meta, right? I feel like this is a meme.  Compassion, release judgments about yourself and others and focus on the love and light that is within everyone.

So because this is a juicy, juicy topic, next week we're also going to be talking about the second half of why you ... Like it's time for us all to find the courage to be ourselves but this week in particular, it's about compassion, right? Being kind to yourself. I know you've heard me say that like a bajillion times, and if this is the first video you're seeing, I say that a lot, right?

You're being called this week, this day, this moment to have compassion for yourself. Compassion is the healing, nourishing multivitamin, but every achiever and over achiever has got to take daily. So having that self compassion, that's where we're going to find the courage to truly be ourselves, to reveal and open our higher selves. This is not going to be a pushing into it series. No. We're going to open and allow.

So tell me what's coming up for you hearing all this? Is this timely, right? Is this resonating for you?

Send me an email back, right? The team will get it at info@Victoriawhitfield.com and also tell me if this is completely off base. I'd love hearing that as well. I'm curious to start the conversation, so, and continue it, but let's talk in a more intimate forum. Send me an email back, info@Victoriawhitfield.com. I'd be happy to connect with you and by the way, hit the share button.

If there's someone that you know who it's time for them to find the courage to be their higher selves, right?

To really have more of a sense of self compassion, right? It's nourishing time. Shall We? Alright. I'll see you next week. Hit subscribe on YouTube so that you get these first every week. Ready for it? Bye.

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We are in the middle of a five-week series on stepping into your divinity, this time in business.

What is required? What do our spirit guides have for us? If you haven't seen parts one and two, we're on part three right now. Go ahead, pause this, and go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com so that you can be grounded in this process.

This is week three of five in our deep dive around stepping into our divinity. And this week in particular, the message from the spirit guides for all of us is to Know Your Role. It’s the dead of Winter at the filming of this Love Letter, and we're at Washington Rock State Park in New Jersey. Beautiful, almost 30-mile view. Little bit foggy today in particular, but this is a sacred space for me to clear my head. Many people come here just to enjoy the view and be reverent and silent. Though we're in Central Jersey here, you can see all the way to New York City on a clear day.

Beautiful, isn't it? I want to share this beautiful space with you so that you can take it all in; if you don't have the opportunity to get outside and to clear your energy and to be in nature, or if you're like, "Well, it's too cold," this is for you. By the way, comment below if you appreciate it or if you have a special sacred space that you go to outdoors to clear your energy. There are eagles circling around above me here. Wonderful. Powerful shamanic image.

Today, we're talking about knowing our role. When we don't know our role, we end up constantly being in search of someone to come and save us in this lifetime, to do things that we need done for us. Not in the sense of claiming our power as being a leader, and being above certain tasks that others would be so happy to help us with. But instead we are hot potato-ing our responsibility, hot potato-ing our personal growth and development onto others, saying, "Please certify me so that I'm worthy," for example. Or, "Please love and approve of me, or choose me so that I'm finally worthy."

That's not your role. My guides have told me to remind you that your role is actually to be a light and a guide yourself in this lifetime. You were meant to shine bright, that light of who you are, so that others can see it and then be inspired to turn on their lights and shine as well. What does that mean, in particular, to be the light or to be a guide yourself? It means being conscious of how your perspective, as we discussed in previous weeks, how your perspective connects with and affects others.

In the first two weeks, we really got clear within ourselves around what it takes to step into our divinity. Firstly, stepping back and taking in more of the grand scheme of things. The larger view of your life and what you're doing with it, and of your business, and what you're doing with it, and why. And then secondly, we made it really small, as distilled as possible if you can, on to a three by three sticky. A simple sticky note.

But where we're at now, is remembering. Now that we have this clarity, if you do ... And, by the way, remember to share it with me, I'd love to hear what clarity you got. Now that we have that, is to remember that our role is to shine and to guide others.
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The vision that I get for this in particular on how we do that, how we know our role and how we bring it into us in a really powerful way, is an image of the lighthouse. Here's a flagpole, as an example, again this is a monument to where George Washington stood to watch the opposing armies in American history. But a monument, or a lighthouse, stays stationary. It stands firm. It has a firm base. It's very powerfully connected to the earth. Knows its roots, right? And does not move from them. Yet, at the same time, stands head and shoulders above. Sticks out on purpose, to be a marker for what is possible.

Now, be kind to yourself if you, like I in my own humanity, have found yourself maybe in your business throwing away responsibility or trying to throw money at whoever can figure out your problems or who looks like or talks like they've figured out your problems. First, be kind to yourself. That's not your role.

Your role is not to give away your power. But, instead, it's to stand firm in it and deal, find a way to deal, with remaining visible as the lighthouse that you are. You are not just a monument, but you're a lighthouse. Lighthouses shine. And they shine for a reason, constantly, to help others who are trying to find their way. Do you see? It's just being who you are. You don't do it because others are lost and finding their way. But you do it because of who you are. You shine your light because of that.

With that, I'm hearing the Oracle Card calling in the week. Calling in the energy. Again, for these five weeks, we're journeying with Isis Oracle Cards by Alana Fairchild to really help us continue to open up to that powerful transformative energy of which the Goddess Isis is an archetype. And the Oracle Card of the week is, ooh, Chariots of Ascension. It's gorgeous. A beautiful purple Merkabah. “Chariot of Ascension. Spiritual work of the higher initiate.” Here's where we're going to leave off this week.

You're called to ascend. This is not a descent.What you're being called into is not you coming down or lowering yourself for anyone else to make them feel comfortable or acceptable, or for you to appear acceptable to them. No, you're being called to ascend, become even more of who you are. And because of that, like the Merkabah, you become a chariot, a vehicle. A vehicle for others to do the same.

Now, I know we're talking about all these wonderful, high-spiritual concepts. But you and I own businesses. So, I'm curious: how are you going to increase or turn up the volume on your light, your passion, your purpose, and who you really are in your business this week? Or what areas in your business are you going to stop turning down, coming down, and diminishing yourself in?

Send me an email back, comment below, email me at team@VictoriaWhitfield.com so that I can see what you have to say.By the way, make sure you subscribe on YouTube, so that you get these Love Letters first every single week. And I'll see you next time.

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We're back here at Washington Rock State Park for the continuation of our five-part series around perspective and stepping into your divinity in life and business.

This week in particular, my guides have asked me to talk to you about making one big idea sticky. One big idea. Last week, we talked about the power of stepping back, making sure that we're taking in that 20-mile view of our lives, first. And this is the perfect setting to discuss that because we've got a good 20 or 30-mile view here at Washington Rock State Park.

It's important also to be out in nature to allow your surroundings to help your mindset to expand. That's what we discussed last week, the power of stepping back, first, if we're really going to step in to our divinity. Whether it's this month, this year, or in this era of your life, we need to step back, first. And so, this week in particular, we want to take that perspective, that massive perspective, and whittle it down into one idea. Again, it's the dead of winter and I’m outside here for you, so I'm going to make this quick. Lol!

The idea, the exercise this week that my guides gave me for you so that you can make that big perspective small and to make it really stick in your heart and mind is kind of the inverse of what we did last week. Being here at Washington Rock we're using the space, we're using the openness, the vastness of the environment to open our hearts and minds, or wherever you go. Maybe for you, it's going to the ocean. Or, maybe for you, it's going skiing or going up onto the rooftop wherever you are. By the way, comment below or send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com. Let me know where did – or do – you go to expand your perspective and really step back in a big way?

This week, instead, what we're going to do is use space to help us make a big idea small and sticky; what’ I’m talking about quite literally is a sticky pad. What is this pad, I’d guess about three inches or around three centimeters square? This is the amount of space to which that you have to whittle down your idea, and I recommend writing with big letters. Big ideas are best distilled down into about six words maximum, so I challenge you to do that on behalf of the spirit guides to really help you focus on your path to stepping into your divinity.

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Ask yourself: What's your main outcome? What's your soul’s one desire? What is the one thing that you want the most? For me, what it came out to when I wrote my sticky was to feel loved at work. “To feel loved at work” is just five words. What's yours? Write it down on a sticky, and share it with me on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/SenseiVictoriaWhitfield/

With that, I'm going to go ahead and pull the oracle card of the week. We're journeying over these five weeks with the Isis Oracle Cards Deck by Alana Fairchild. Let's see here. What've we got? ...Ooh, awesome! “Soul retrieval. Deep soul healing with the goddess.”

I’m just going to tune in for a second now, to hear what’s the message: Guides, what do we need to know about soul retrieval and deep soul healing with the goddess? ...The first thing that drops in for me as I tune in for you is Reunion.The more that you give yourself time and space – and I mean like compressed space, or even compressed time – the more you give yourself time and space to get clarity, the more you reunite with more of who you really are.

This says soul retrieval, and it means that the more that we give ourselves these experiences and commit to actually doing the work, the more of our own power that we may have lost or forgotten along the way – whether in this lifetime or, depending on your beliefs, in other lifetimes – the more that we give ourselves time to reunite and get that clarity, the more we recover. Robert Bly describes soul as something “low and wet”, whereas spirit is something high and dry, high and bright. Soul is that which motivates us, brings us passion, joy, love, emotion, gives us strength to go on no matter what our lessons, whether they've been hard won, or from the parts of us that we may have rejected.

When we're recovering soul, this is really about us connecting to our deep passions, and how beautiful would it be if we're able to reconnect to our passion at work? As entrepreneurs, we have got to be motivated on what's our Big Why, right? This week in particular, this challenge is made simple by the spirit guides: to make sure that you use a simple, little sticky note to try and figure that Big Why out.

That's it for this week. Go ahead, comment below, send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every week. And I'll see you in the next one.

May you feel loved and safe at work this week. And, please: Enjoy the journey.

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Grab yourself a small, square sticky note on which to write down your single-most greatest desire in life and business.

It may take a few tries, but whittle it down to a phrase of 6 words or less, written large and stated with feeling and confidence.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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This is week four of four of our exploration of stopping faking it. You do not have to fake it to make it anymore.

We've been diving deep into that concept. However, if this is the first one in the series that you are seeing, make sure you hit pause, and go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com, click on part one and start there so that you're grounded in this clearing process. Without further ado, this week in particular, we are talking about allowing diversity.

Now, when we're talking about stopping faking it until you make it, there's an undercurrent of emotion flowing underneath it, where we are trying to make everything perfect. There's a palpable undercurrent, and that undercurrent is fueled by a lack of acceptance for diversity, of things being different. There's a lack of acceptance for imperfection, for things going a different way than expected, for multiple viewpoints and new and different, or old and different, points of view. Be kind to yourself if you're driven to perfection because you're driven to uniformity, or to make sure everything is balanced and set ...or else.

With love, that's a traumatized mindset, where everything has to be perfect. Everything has to be fine. We have to look fine. All of our Facebook Livestreams have to be perfect and look fine. All of the marketing materials in the business have to be perfect and look fine in order for anything to happen, or else. It’s insidious. It’s infectious.

Your speech has to be absolutely perfect in order for it to be effective. Your weight has to be absolutely perfect in order for you to be loved or to be seen. Your hair has to be absolutely perfect - according to some external force that says this is what perfect hair is - in order for you to be taken seriously. Only just for today, as we say in reiki, no more, just for today. No more of that traumatized mindset.

What helps us to stop faking it is allowing for diversity. When someone comes early or comes a little bit later, allow for the diversity and say, "How can we acknowledge this situation?" and then weave it in. Integrate it in. If your partner is seeing a completely different point of view, how can we allow our partner to have a different point of view, and still have a two-way conversation as two brilliant beings? Do we have to win, win, win every single argument - or every single discussion, even if we're not arguing? Do we have to win, win, win in order to feel heard or to feel safe, or to feel served?

Allowing feels different than winning. As I’m recording the video for this blog, there’s powerful lightning going on in the background. I'm leaving that lightning in, by the way, because it was gorgeous, and it's just another example of allowing diversity. We're not faking it. I'm not faking it in here. I'm listening to what my spirit guide are telling me and relaying it to you, aka, channeling. The same way that the rain gutters are doing their best that they can here in the dojo to channel the water away from the roof, away from the house. That way, it's protecting as well as continuing this beautiful cycle of flow and nourishment.

Be kind to yourself if you've been feeling blocked and stuck or undernourished in your body, your mind, your heart, your business or your spirit lately. Be kind to yourself if you've been feeling that blocked or stuck feeling. It's because we're not allowing for diversity. This also involves accepting others as they are. This comes up a lot with love and relationship issues in my private sessions with clients who are, as we discussed in our previous weeks, people who orient to clarity. My clients are very conscious, awakening, evolving souls. You come home, and your family is like, "We're just trying to relax and chill," while you’re gushing about your aha-moments and breakthroughs and how things need to change. ::take a deep breath in... exhale...:: Here's the thing. Allow for the diversity. Allow for the diversity.

It doesn't mean you approve or condone bad behavior, or people overstepping your boundaries, per se. Be kind to yourself in that respect, and at the same time, allow people who are orienting to comfort to just be as they are. The big, big, big source of suffering in our tribe of conscious, driven, high-vibrational individuals is not allowing people who genuinely just want to be comfortable to just be where they are at. Just let them be.

Because coaching is addictive, we tend to come in guns blazing: “I'm going to coach you! RAWRRR! I'm going to coach you! I'm going to transform your life!” Lol... umm. That's cool. You don't have to transform everyone all the time, ok? If someone doesn't want it, they don't want it. Let them go. If someone doesn't get it, they don't get it, ok? Relax.

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Molding your children is a give and take. This is something that, especially when you're trying to be the best guardian for your children that you've manifested in this lifetime, it’s a give and take: on one hand, you can't just let them roam free. We're guarding them and making sure that they know that they're safe because someone's watching them. And at the same time, if they see the world differently than you do, allow the diversity. As a parent, be kind to yourself and allow their diversity, their point of view, within your sacred container of safety for them.

Here’s the mindset of assertiveness and allowing that my guides are offering to parents. Within these four walls, when I pay the bills for this, when I cook the food for you, and I wash your clothes, you honor this sacred container I created for you. I take care of you, I birthed you, I love you, and you're fully yourself, within these certain sacred parameters. You still have a mind of your own, and at the same time, you get to honor the fact that you're being taken care of, protected and guided with deep unconditional love. Allowing diversity is a special case with kids. I understand that. I honor that and respect that.

However in your career, alternatively, when you have teen members who see things differently from you, don't throw them to the side too fast. Allow them to have your back, ok? Imagine I'm standing back-to-back with another person. If I face this way, I can't see what they're seeing. Does that that if they look the other way that they're wrong for what they're seeing? No. Not necessarily; we are just standing back to back, looking at different sides of the same thing, with different eyes.

In fact, they actually have my back. That's the greatest gift of having a diverse team with diverse points of view. Allow it, so that they can have your back and watch out for things that may be in your blind spot. Allowing diversity doesn't have to be perfect. It does, however, need to be conscious. This is where we've got to turn up the volume on our communication arm, leaning into uncomfortable yet productive and loving conversations.

Loving to yourself, being loving to the person you're having the conversation with, and being loving to the entire tribe that the two of you are a part of or supporting or building. Lean into those loving conversations because they allow diversity and diversity is power. The fairies are calling in the energy, by the way - Healing with the Fairies: Oracle Cards deck is who we've been journeying with all month for this series around stopping faking it. You literally can just stop. Just let it go, if only just for today, as we say in reiki. Only just for today, let go of faking it.

Fairies, what do we need to know right now about allowing diversity? ...This is a good thing to add. I'm grateful for it. Creative Expression. And here's where we're going to leave off for today, and for this series. When we're stopping faking it until we make it, when we're stopping pretending and starting to allow different points of view, allow imperfection, allow being natural or being ourselves, there emerges a beauty in diversity. There's an incredible beauty in diversity, and it is creative expression. You get to see how marvelous and awesome it is to have so many different points of view and have so many different experiences. Variety is the spice of life, right?

This tree behind me, for example, and all the other ones with it too, are gorgeous because it's unique expression. It's natural. It's not perfect. It is perfectly imperfect, and it is a part of creation. Right? Well, guess what? That's a tree. If a tree is allowed to be unique and expressive and imperfect and still be gorgeous and healing and beautiful and precious, so are you. I mean it sounds like a bit much, but as we're stopping faking it, can we at least give ourselves the same permission that we give to freaking trees to just be natural and to be magnificent at the same time?

What's coming up for you around this? What are you creating now that we're walking this path together as journey partners to releasing faking it, and stepping into an authentic life and business? I'm curious. Go ahead. Comment below or send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield. Tell me your story.

Perhaps you need help tapping into your creative expression - that flow for you, maybe it's blocked right now. If you just can't see your own perfectly imperfect natural beauty and magnificence, please go to naturalintuition.com. Hop on my calendar by clicking that Contact button, and let's talk about working together so I can support you as your journey partner, okay?

I'm sending you so much love. Do not lose that glow as you're growing in life, in business. Enjoy the journey. I'll see you in the next Love Letter video. Bye for now. --

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See the beauty and power in diversity: differing backgrounds, ages, points of view and ideas.

When things don’t go as expected, remember to say to yourself “variety is the spice of life,” and allow the unexpected to create something new, different and magnificent.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

-- Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business. Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...