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Dealing With Disappointment At Work

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 18 Dec 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Dear Love,

We stand at the precipice of the dawn of a new era in your life this week.

With the Winter Solstice occurring this Thursday being the shortest day and the longest night of the year, it signals a time of rebirth. Your rebirth.

It is time for you to let go of the year behind you; to let go of the projects, the people, the dreams and relationships that are unrealized, unfinished, and unsalvageable.

Clear your cache. Empty your emotional and financial Trash bin.

What have you pushed back on to the backburner, indefinitely?
What have you hung up to slowly fade in to the background and be eaten away by the moths of mental abandonment and forgetfulness?

My spirit guides say there are things hanging in your energy like cobwebs - unfinished or unresolved initiatives, conversations and promises - that are sneakily draining your energy in the background, similarly how leaving a ton of apps open on your device eats up its battery life.

But this week, we need to look at why you left these issues unresolved; and my guides say, it's to avoid dealing with the feeling of Disappointment.

Let's talk about it...

I explore this in detail in this week's video: CLICK TO WATCH on YouTube.

"Disappointment is hot lava; avoid it at all costs," chants the inner Perfectionist.

"And while you're at it, don't give in to any negative feelings at all. That's not allowed. You can't be wrong. Nope. You can't be negative. Nope. That's not allowed. No anger, no resentment, no frustration, no dissatisfaction, no betrayal, no confusion, no grief, no shame, no jealousy, no regret, no nothing..."

She continues, clenching her controller claws around your mind: "Must be positive. Must keep it together. Must put on a happy face. Must look successful. Must be fine. Must not let on. Must hide. Must keep going. Must keep up. Must power through it. Must not set off any alarms. Must be strong. Must not be weak. Must stay on top of things. Must..."

Denying your negative feelings is not dealing with them.

In fact, it makes them worse, because when you deny admitting how you really feel, you drive the negative energy of your negative feelings deeper into your body and psyche, and this breeds disease and dysfunction.

Denying is lying.

To yourself, and to others.

Still holding on to something - a person, project or plan - that is dead and gone?
Can't seem to let it go and move on to manifesting your next big thing?

If so, let me help you get the clarity you need to move forward:
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Deep breath in... and exhale.

When we can't let go, when we can't admit defeat, when we can't admit we were wrong, when we can't admit we aren't happy, when we can't admit we're angry, when we can't admit we are disappointed...we deny ourselves the right to Humanity.

The inner Perfectionist, the inner Controller - she is doing her best to protect you from how bad negative feelings feel. However, she is part of your Traumatized Mind. She is not part of your Healthy Mind.

Mistakenly, her version of protecting you from "bad things" is based in restricting your access to, and even erasing altogether, your authentic feelings that lie outside the range of "acceptable" feelings to have - it's as if you're trying to play music on a grand piano by only using 7 out of he 88 keys. You lack range of expression.

There is beauty and power in the high notes, and there is power and healing in the low notes. They're all yours, and they're all part of your Whole story.

My spirit guides say that this week, you are being called to step in to the full range of your soul's expression, including all of you: the highs and the lows.

And with it being the longest nights of the year this week, this is the best time to embrace the power and healing laying in wait for you in your Shadow. It's time to dive into the Dark Gift of Disappointment.
I go in to this in detail in this week's video. Click the link or video above to watch.

Remember:

You create your reality. You create your flow.

You also can destroy your flow.
The choice is yours.

In case you were not aware: you are not alone in this. We are walking this journey of universal service (as conscious entrepreneurs) and spiritual ascension (as spiritual beings).

The fight to stay grounded and clear in mind, body and business is a daily one. I know.

So I will continue to share these messages out of devotion to my soulmate clients who may be watching from the sidelines; to my Loves who are up at 3am praying for the strength to keep serving their clients and community, praying for a safe place and a safe person who can help them accept themselves, too. Someone who can help them clear their energy, get out of their own way and finally grow and flow into their goals of having massive positive impact.

Is that you? (Or someone you know?)
If so, I see you, and I am here when you are ready.

You are enough.
You are ready.
You are worthy.

I believe that you do not have to lose your glow as you grow in life and business.
I believe that you have what it takes to make your vision happen, and that with a little extra love, you will see it manifest and come to fruition.

And that's what I'm here for. If you sense that you need to ground and clear or balance and align your energy in your life and business, and are seeking support in doing so, don't hesitate to reach out.

You are not weird or crazy for sensing it - it's NORMAL!
Well, our tribe's "normal." *wink*

As an empath AND an entrepreneur myself, I understand that your energy is everything, especially in businessman a very deep and personal level.

Your energy is everything because when you feel better, you do better.
It's that simple.

And when you're energy is off kilter, you feel stressed, stuck and scattered, and that can stop you in your tracks, which cuts off the universal flow of abundance and positive manifestation in your life.

Manifestation of health, love, money, energy, progress...
I can help you with that.

So let's talk about it - I'm just one text message away: book your session by clicking below or texting "PRIVATE SESSIONS PRICING" to +1-732-903-8573 for private session pricing and scheduling options now.

With love, that you may shine your light,

S. Victoria

Sensei Victoria Whitfield - Personal Energy and Business Coach for Spiritual CEOs, Business Reiki Master™ | Strategic Meditation for High Performance | Intuitive Business Development | Personal Energy Mastery

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The Secret To Getting And Staying Focused

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Fri, 15 Dec 2023 02:36:45 +0000

Dear Love,

Lately all we do is rush, rush, rush.

"Hurry up!"
"Get the lead out!"
"Pick up the pace."
"Get a move on."
"You snooze, you lose."

Why are you always rushing yourself?

Especially when you know that you don't do nearly as good a job when you rush yourself as when you take your time. Where is this coming from?

Perhaps you were rushed by well-meaning family, teachers or friends as a child, and so you learned to rush yourself so that you don't have to endure their shame and nagging.

Or maybe you were made to feel slow or stupid when you didn't react or think as fast as others, and so you learned from them to be impatient with yourself, as a rule of thumb.

My spirit guides are saying to watch out this week for rushing yourself, because that is fueling your pattern of self sabotage.

Let's talk about it:

I explore this in detail in this week's video: CLICK TO WATCH on YouTube.

In an alternate, negative universe, everybody wins when you sabotage your own progress, and everybody wins when you are distracted.

You win because you are off the hook and don't have to deal with upsetting your status quo.
Others win for the same reason; they are let off the hook not having to deal with you upsetting their status quo.

And, anyone who is seeking power and control over you and others wins, because the less progress you make, and the less you have the ability to focus, the more you are a compliant pawn in helping them realize their agenda.

My spirit guides say that if you are reading this email though, the above idea makes your skin crawl, because the last thing you want is to be somebody else's pawn, let alone make no progress and have everything remain the same.

You and me both!

But if that's the case, then why are you allowing yourself to be distracted so often, especially while doing what you love or spending time with people you love?

I'll tell you why: focus is a CHOICE and a skill to be developed.

Are you having a hard time getting and staying focused?
Can't seem to stop sabotaging your progress, and wonder if you're blocked?

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Technology rewards us for handing over our ability to make our own choices on what to pay attention to because we are currently living in the Age of Attention.
Read that sentence again.

Notifications, pop ups, funnels, commercials, apps, ai-driven data results, social media doom scrolling, algorithms, tracking cookies and ads guide our decisions on what to focus on through a constant stream of interruptions.

Calculated colors, sounds, branding, haptics (the vibrations of your device), editing and catchy sayings stimulate our senses to trigger pleasure sensations in the brain and associate Their Choice with pleasure.

This influences what we focus on, without us even knowing most of the time.

And, "wherever your awareness goes, energy flows" so that means your energy is being siphoned away from what you want to focus on and instead to Their Choice for you to focus on, so that your energy can fuel the realization of Their agenda.

Who are "They"? It doesn't matter; They are not YOU.

Just for today, focus on YOU and Your unique point of view, on moving the needle forward on Your agenda and choosing Your Choice.

And the secret for reconnecting to You and Your ability to focus is practicing the art and skill of Pausing Powerfully, as you go about your day, each day, this week.I go in to this in detail in this week's video. Click the link or video above to watch.

Remember:

You create your reality. You create your flow.

You also can destroy your flow.
The choice is yours.

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Love Letters | VulnerAble Leadership – Part 5 of 5

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 28 Sep 2020 05:00:43 +0000

This is the fifth and final week of our exploration of vulnerability, cultivating our relationship with being vulnerable and improving our ability to engage and open up in a positive way, maybe for the first time.

Now if this is the first video that you're seeing in this series, make sure that you hit pause, go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com and start from part one, so that you are grounded in this process. Without further ado, this week in particular for the fifth and final week of our discussion on vulnerability, my spirit guides have asked us to discuss vulnerable leadership.

Last week, we talked about the power of opening up as an empath to being vulnerable, so that we can better relate to and interact with the people and things that we care about in this lifetime. We talked about respecting our energy as empaths, but also not letting our sensitivity dominate us in this lifetime – claiming that as a power, rather than a disability – or be something that you're constantly afraid of or overly protecting yourself from. This week, however, we're going even farther into vulnerability as a power and applying it to leadership.

A wonderful role model of vulnerable leadership and someone who's a thought leader in this area, two people actually, I would have to say one is Simon Sinek and the other is Brene Brown. If you have not checked out their work, I highly recommend it. They have amazing, inspiring, empowering things to share with you around vulnerable leadership and how healing it is especially in the professional world.

The most painful thing that I've seen is how insensitive leadership destroys powerful teams that have become like family and overcome the most incredible odds together. These things that come from the top-down in corporate – restructuring, or layoffs, or whatever hot word they use to explain being insensitive to the needs and the preciousness of the relationships of the people that are working under them – it's incredible how destructive they can be.

I grew up watching my mother re-enter the workforce after 17 years as a homemaker to work for a certain corporation as a technical writer, and then a web developer, and coder for over 20 years. I remember as a kid going to their picnics and things and seeing all of these people that she worked with like my extended family, and feeling part of something bigger; seeing them laughing, and supporting one another. ...Then I also lived through, as a young woman, watching them be torn apart, seeing the stress, and the pain of those wonderful relationships being just torn apart, torn apart by restructuring or “re-orgs” as the company would say. I'm not going to say what company because I want to respect privacy here.

Maybe you've seen this happen in your family – your work family – or your corporation as well, this being torn apart by insensitive leadership, putting numbers before people, or putting self-protection first, which is something that we hinted at last week. Let's go into it this time for our final discussion: the toxic effects of putting self-protection before serving their community around us.

We can get protection-obsessed especially in the professional world because for some reason we allow money and numbers to make us paranoid and prioritize dollars and quotas, and metrics above people, relationships, health and mutual human respect. Be kind to yourself if this is something that you've witnessed happening and that you don't want to be a part of any longer. If only just for today, commit to being open as a leader. Commit to developing your ability to be vulnerable along with the people who you are leading.

Simon Sinek gives us a wonderful example of how to measure how open-hearted you are as a leader. Leaders, he says, are people who watch out for the people to the right and to the left of them. That is it. It has nothing to do with titles, what's on your business card, or what your website says, or how big your office is, or how big your bank account is, or not. It's who are you being on a moment-to-moment basis. In order to look out for, to take care of, the people to the left and to the right of you, you've got to be open to what's going on with them, rather than just what's going on with “Me” and making sure that I'm getting x, y, z done, and so on.

It is a mental acrobatic that you do at first to decide, “I'm going to be concerned, and open, and curious, and communicative with the people that are to the left and to the right of me. The people that are supporting me, I am going to support them. I'm going to be open to how do they feel right now. I'm going to ask them, ‘how are you feeling? Are you all right?’ and loving and supporting them in that.”

Coming from a space of your own center of love and support and not forgetting that you as a leader have needs and have feelings is also important, which is something that we also discussed last week, opening to the fact that I have feelings, too, as an Empath. As someone who supports others, I have feelings. I have needs, and they have got to be honored and respected by me first and then also the people that I'm sharing this life experience with.

Be kind to yourself if in trying to be a vulnerable leader, meaning someone who is present to and caring for the people who are in your care, you've sacrificed your own self-care. That is negative vulnerable leadership because it leaves you open to health problems, relationship problems, spiritual and emotion oppression, depression. Be kind to yourself. That leaves you negatively vulnerable.

How can we then as leaders, moreover as Healing Leaders (that's my term) on this planet, how can we open up to leading from the heart, leading with courage, and positive vulnerability? I’m curious, what does that look like? Positive, vulnerable leadership, is healing leadership. I would venture that it starts with healing self, first, and staying open to being present to those that are in our care, who are supporting us, who are following us, and share the same beliefs and vision that we have. We're all working together in one direction. At the same time, there's the person out in front who holds the vision, being the Visionary. --

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Are you healing? Are you present to yourself? Okay, if you are, you're doing your self-care, you're doing your spiritual nourishment, your physical nourishment and love. Good. And are you present to the people around you needing the same, just as much love, and approval, and support, and honor as you're showing yourself? Are they also learning how to do that for the people behind them as well?

Be a Healing Leader. It entails being open to being vulnerable, cultivating that ability to be vulnerable, but if only just for today, commit to being a healing leader by opening to being vulnerable in a positive and empowering way.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards like, "Hey, pick us!" It's Healing with the Angels oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue, her very first oracle cards deck that she ever made in her career. Angels, what do we need to know right now about stepping into healing leadership by embodying being positive, vulnerable leaders? ...This is so good, like I could literally do an entire summit on this, “listening.” Listening! This is so perfect. I love that in the picture, she's listening to her angels, and her angels are listening to her. I'm going to read, I don't really have to, but before I read I just want to tell you what I'm hearing from my spirit guides around listening.

The most powerful leaders I've ever followed in my own life have been profound listeners, profound. Having the courage to listen to your people as a leader is essential. God, She gave us two ears and one mouth. We've got to listen twice as much as we give directions and directives. Anyway, let’s start listening. Let me read:

Listening. You are in communication with your angels and the messages that you are receiving are very real indeed. Trust them. This card is a validation from your angels that you really are hearing them. You have been receiving repetitive messages through your feelings, dreams, visions, inner voice, or knowingness. Are you listening and trusting these messages? Are you following them? If you get an inclination to call someone, go somewhere, or read something, it's important to follow this guidance. By drawing this card, your angels ask you to give all your doubts or worries about divine guidance to them. Know that you truly are communicating with heaven and enjoy the conversations.

This is so perfect. Here's where we'll leave off for this entire series: Cultivating your listening sense. Your active listening is also cultivating positive vulnerability. If you are not comfortable listening to others, or you feel impatient, it's just because you haven't cultivated listening as a skill. It's just a skill that you're a little bit deficient in. If you just dedicate time and mental space to it, it gets easier and more pleasurable with time.

If you need to work on your listening skills, I highly recommend my book Natural Intuition Now. I take you step by step exactly through how to listen with presence and also why it is so important. The more that we become intuitive, open, vulnerable, healing and empowered leaders, the better our world becomes, the better the legacy of love becomes that we leave behind us in all the work that we do and all the people, all the lives that we touch.

Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfiled.com. What's coming up for you around this? Make sure you subscribe on YouTube, so that you get Love Letters first every single week. Tag someone who needs to hear this, and I will see you in the next one.

May you feel loved and safe to be your most brilliant self at work.

Please, enjoy the journey. Muah. See you soon. --

Just for today...

Challenge yourself to actively listen twice as much as you speak, when in conversations and meetings.

Listen to your body, your feelings, others’ bodies and feelings, and shine the light of your attention on the things left unsaid by all involved in the conversation (yourself included).

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

-- Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business. Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...

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Love Letters | Empath Entrepreneur Tribe – Part 4 of 4

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 25 May 2020 05:00:05 +0000

This is week four of four of our exploration of what is at stake being an empath entrepreneur.

If this is the first time you're seeing me, please make sure you stop now and go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com to start from part one so that you're grounded in this process. For week four of four my guides have asked us to discuss the power of minding your tribe. Mind your tribe as an empath entrepreneur, as an empath with professional engagements, as an empath growing and advancing his or her career. Mind your tribe.

You know, last week we discussed what your needs are, and we explored understanding the power of environment. Environment meaning the physical environment within which you work. This is super important because how grounded and clear your environment around you is really dictates how productive, focused and effective you're able to be in business and in your career. Now, we're taking that one step further to mind your tribe as an empath entrepreneur.

This is regarding not only the physical things that you have in your environment, making sure that it's clean, orderly, gentle, loving, reminding you of your highest self, reminding you of your own positive inherent nature, your own inherent clarity and empowerment. It’s not just having lovely things – to some extent, if you're by yourself, okay, that's a great start – but now the guides want us to discuss the power of minding our tribe of people around us.

What is this concept of tribe, by the way? Well, a tribe is similar to a family. It is a group of those of us who are cut from the same cloth, emotionally and spiritually speaking. That's what we mean when we're talking about a tribe. What we’re talking about is not just if you are an indigenous person, like your tribe genetically speaking, but I'm talking about for everyone, for all of us. It’s feeling like we have our posse, our cheerleading squad, our equals, the people who are on that same emotional, energetic, spiritual and even professional level. Mind your tribe.

I want you to think for a moment right now as we invoke this topic. Who are the five people you spend the most time with? Who are the five people who have influenced your outlook the most? Who are the five people that you purchase the most things from? Who are the five people whose books, articles and blogs you read or listen to the most? Who are the five people, if you have five, who when stuff hits the fan, you could call them and lean on them? Mind your tribe. Be kind to yourself. Having those who are strong enough to uphold you as the strong one, having five is uncommon. We're lucky if we even have one, maybe two.

Ensuring that as an empath, you have nourishing people around you is part of building that nourishing environment that keeps your energy clear, productive, bright and uplifting. If there aren’t good people around you, be kind to yourself. If there are people around you who shoot down your creative ideas, who encourage you to be pessimistic, fearful, competitive, insecure or doubtful, be kind to yourself. These may not be nourishing people for your tribe.

How do you know if someone is nourishing for your tribe? Because when you're around them, your energy feels clear, or in other words, when you're around them, emotionally you feel safe, uplifted and inspired in a positive way. So, how many people do you have around you that make you feel safe, uplifted and inspired? They don't have to be physically next to you in order to nourish you. As an empath, we have this gift of being able to absorb others' physical and emotional feelings, but not just in person, like right here physically in the room with you and I. We can feel them at a distance.

In fact, time and space have no dictation, they have no governance over how effective your empathic sense may be. It could be that you spend your time really soaking up your grandmother's wisdom. When you think of what to do or how to make a decision, immediately your mind goes to your grandmother. Who's an excellent example of this? Other than myself, I would have to say Lisa Nichols. She's always talking about all that wonderful, wonderful wisdom she soaked up from her grandmother. Bringing that up in her. Her grandmother, although she may be more than alive at this time is still part of her tribe, and through Lisa, her grandmother inspires millions. Now that’s a high vibe tribe. Positive vibes only!

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So, mind your tribe. Does this mean you need to cut people out of your life and stop being around them? I would say leave that to your own discretion. For someone who's survived abuse, there comes a certain point where you say no more and then you're out, or in my case, there came a point where I said, "I have to leave." I had to cut this person out of my life. It was not healthy, but at the same time, maybe this is a complicated relationship that is not necessarily abusive. It's just an opportunity for you to learn how to communicate better. Maybe it's your life partner or your child, so on and so forth.

In that respect, what you want to do, if the people who are very close to you aren't very nourishing, is to go and seek out those who are nourishing. Add more good rather than subtract the bad. Just keep crowding yourself with more good, nourishing, uplifting, inspiring and safe people. Pile them on. Pile them on. Five to one ratio, some people have recommended, if you're a numbers person, to bring in more of that love to surround you. As an empath, you need nourishing people. You need that high vibe tribe to keep your energy clear and flowing abundantly, organically.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. All month long we have been journeying with Archangel Michael. Again, he’s the patron angel of protection and clearing and he's a wonderful archetype to start with, and to call on, to keep your energy clear. Okay, Archangel Michael, what do we need to know right now about minding our tribe as empathic entrepreneurs? ... This is where we'll leave off for the week, and for the month. My goodness! Innocence.

Innocence. Dear God and angels, thank you for helping me see that all of your qualities of pure love and light are reflected within me and all others. Help me embrace my God given innocence so that I may be at peace.

Okay. So I just heard very clearly in the energy that someone watching this right now has a mindset that says, "I don't deserve any better than what I have right now. I don't deserve to be around people who are safe or I'm not worthy because of X, Y, Z.” Or “I'm not good enough, so that means I cannot bring in people who are high vibe.” Or “I should just be satisfied with the people who are around me, no matter how much they hurt me." If that was you thinking that just now, I want you to know that the angels are assuring you that we are all at essence innocent. We are all at essence worthy, and what I mean by innocent is just as innocent as nature.

Whether or not you believe in the inherent beauty and dignity of nature, you would never assume evil of a wild animal. They're just there. They're just a part of nature. That kind of innocence is what we're talking about. Sure, we may do bad things, like a lion might cut apart another animal and eat it, but is that really bad? It's just the circle of life. I mean, sure, it's perceived bad to the one getting eaten, and for us it may appear violent, but at essence, that lion is still just a part of nature as is that other animal that they're consuming.

Remember your innocence. You are just as worthy as the next person to receive love, to feel safe at work. You are just as worthy whether you've done things that would earn you the Nobel peace prize or if you never got out of bed or even open your eyes. You are just as worthy of love and support. I love that the sun is coming out to affirm that, and on that note, please make sure you comment below or send me an email back at team@VictoriaWhitfield.com. What's coming up for you hearing all of this?

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every single week. If you need more support, by the way, don't forget to go to VictoriaWhitfield.com/contact to set up your call. I would love to talk to you about how you could join our tribe here of high vibe entrepreneurs if you're looking for people who would be happy to be in your corner rooting for you as we altogether glow as we grow. I'll see you next week.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey.

Bye for now!
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Just for today...

Choose to believe that you are worthy, enough and inherently innocent and precious, just like the forests or the ocean.

See yourself as worthy of being surrounded by people who love, honor, respect and cherish you as are, because you are indeed precious.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...

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Love Letters | Empath Entrepreneur Superpowers – Part 2 of 4

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 11 May 2020 05:00:39 +0000

This is week two of four in our exploration around being an empath entrepreneur.

What's at stake? What's it like? Let's own it. Let's talk this through. If this is your first exposure to me, I would highly recommend you go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and make sure that you start from week one, part one in this four-part series.

Without further ado, last week, we discussed what are some of the pitfalls and the challenges illuminating that of being an empath entrepreneur, so this week, we're going to talk about why this makes you a freaking superhero. Let's talk about it. Yeah, it's clear that there are things that are extra-challenging about being an empath. You are an emotional sponge, just to summarize. Whether or not you ask for it, you're soaking up what's going on in other people's emotional bodies.

Meaning, if they are feeling angry, or sad, or overwhelmed, or anxious, you're absorbing that without asking. You're just sponging it up into you, and you're also soaking up what's going on in people's physical bodies as well. If they have ache in their head or in their shoulder, or pain in their gut or jaw, so on and so forth, you feel that as well. When you're talking to them, you're thinking, "Ugh, why does my head hurt all of a sudden now that I'm in this space / now that I've walked into this new home?” For all my realtors out there, how many of you have walked into this new space, and thought, "Ugh, why am I getting all this back pain all of a sudden? I'm fine. I never had anything wrong with me before." Right? This is what happens when you're empathic. You soak up the emotional or physical energy of an environment.

But here's the thing: being an empath is not a curse. Absolutely not. It is a freaking advantage when you know how to work it properly. And here's why: Empaths are superior communicators. Superior as in like supercharged, superhuman communicators. So anyone who's watching right now, if you are a manager or a coach of any kind or a teacher of any kind, and you are empathic, that means that the people who you serve, those that are under you feel extra-heard, understood, seen, held, and honored by you. You more often than not happen to be the best boss that they have ever had or the best manager that they have ever had, the best coach that they have ever had because they usually say to you, "You get me like nobody else gets me. I don't know why I end up telling you way more or entrusting you with way more information or things about myself than other people. For some reason, you get me, and I feel so connected to you."

For those of you who are empaths and that serve others, you are super communicators and super connectors because of your empathic sense. You communicate with another person's energy. You pick up on what has been left unsaid. I want to tell you a brief story of when I was working with one of my private clients - she owns a bed and breakfast. She is incredibly brilliant, champions feminism and has had a long history of women’s sexual health advocacy, and she's just a freaking rock star. She's an earth angel. At the same time, she's so frustrated with me on our call because she's saying, "Victoria, I don't ... I can't get over how much I'm absorbing from people. I keep getting the feeling like I'm doing something wrong."

Remember last week when we spoke about that same feeling? How sometimes if you're an empath business owner or an empath professional, you feel like there's something wrong with you to the point that you're in the wrong vocation, no matter how much passion you have for it? She was at that state, and my guides sent me a vision for her because she was just so frustrated with being overwhelmed as an empath.
Sound familiar? Maybe this has been your situation, but the vision that my guides sent to me for her, and now I'm going to share with you, is this: they sent me a vision of, if you would remember, 9/11 where the Twin Towers fell. All of the rubble. So many lives lost, but at the same time, right after the towers fell, after the dust for the most part cleared, there was this whole other level of rescue missions that had to happen because people weren't all dead. They were trapped underneath the rubble.

So, picture this with me: all this concrete... huge piles of broken concrete, and twisted metal, and whatnot. Underneath the rubble, there are people who are praying to God, "Somebody come find me, please," or shouting, but their voices beneath all of that are just completely muffled to human ears. The real heroes - other than the courageous firefighters and our awesome first-responders, police workers, and volunteers, all humans out there searching - the unsung heroes of recovering people and finding them who've been trapped beneath the rubble of the Twin Towers were actually the rescue dogs. My guides are showing me these dogs who are going through all of the rubble, hearing the sounds of the screams from stories down or smelling the sense of bodies of people who are still alive, but don't even have the strength to make a sound and cry out for help. They can hear beneath the rubble. I'm getting the chills as I say this to you right now.
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As an empath, you can hear those who are crying out for help, silently crying out, who are in deep need, and they are trapped beneath the rubble of their lives. Perhaps, they have no voice left, but you can hear them because you have that empathic sense, just like a canine has super smell and super hearing - and animals are also empathic, by the way. Let's throw that in there.

The same way that they're able to hear, and dig, and start clawing through until they get down to that person that they could feel the energy of and bring them, pull them back up from the darkness, out of being trapped, into the light, that is what you have been equipped to do in this lifetime. That is why being empathic is a freaking superpower. Can you feel it? Type it below. Enter it in the comments below, "I embrace my empathic superpower. I can hear people beneath the rubble of their lives." Own it!

For some people, they're buried in so much grief or so much shame that they're not comfortable enough, or don't have enough energy, or just don't give themselves enough time or permission to reach out and to start that healing process, or start that transformational process, but because you as an empath can hear what's going on beneath the surface, you're able to pull them up from the darkness and back into the light like none other. That's why they say, "You get me like none other." That's why they say, "Ah, I can entrust you with so much more," because they know you can hear them.

With that being said, I'm going to take it to the Oracle cards for the week. We're using the Archangel Michael Doreen Virtue Oracle cards deck. We are journeying with this deck all month. Alrighty. Such a powerful message this week. Isn't it good? Tell me, tell me. Is it good? Yeah! All right, angels. What do we need to know right now? Archangel Michael, what do we need to know right now about stepping into and owning our superpower as empath entrepreneurs and empathic professionals? I feel this one. Oh my goddess! I got a little bit of Déjà vu here. Sense of humor.

Sense of humor. "My prayer, thank you for helping me see the humor in this situation so I can lovingly laugh at human nature. I am willing to view my experience in a new light in order to attract love and healing energy." I love it. I love it. I love it! Brought you all the way down deep into your soul with that channeled message, and the angels are like, "Bring it back up. Turn it on!" One of the ways that empaths call people out of the darkness and into the light is actually through having a great sense of humor, being able to find the laughter in that incredibly oppressive and heavy situation.

Laughter is the best medicine. It is said that shamans, true shamans will keep you laughing the whole time while you are working with them and going through the healing process. The best coaches know how to keep their clients or their audiences giggling their way through their transformation, right? Being able to move through our pain with ease and joy. And the best mothers know that when their kids get a boo-boo, it's time to have them laugh their way through it so that they feel better and recover the energy that they think they may have been lost by getting hurt in the first place.

Is this vibrating with you? Are you feeling aligned with calling on your sense of humor about your empathic sense so that you can claim that power, the power that has always been yours by birthright? Comment below or send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com, or if you need help connecting to your sense of humor about it because you've been in a state of overwhelm for too long, YOU might be the one who's beneath the rubble in your life right now. Make sure that you reach out so that we can book a session and talk about how I can best support you and glowing as you grow your business, so I'll see you next time.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey.

Bye for now!

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Love Letters | Empath Entrepreneur Challenges – Part 1 of 4

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 04 May 2020 05:00:28 +0000

This is a new series and my guides have shown me that we are going to be talking about what is it like to be an empath entrepreneur: an entrepreneur that happens to be highly empathic, or someone who is highly empathic, who happens to be an entrepreneur.

Over the next four weeks we're going to be journeying on this topic. And this week in particular, my guides asked us to shed some light on what are the unique challenges of being an empath and owning a business, being empathic and leading your team at your office. For those of us who are called to serve in a professional status of some sort, whether you are the manager of your shift or your office, whether you are the owner of your business or you are just getting started serving more clients as an entrepreneur, or even in the prelaunch stage – regardless of your current status, you are called to serve at a greater level. If that's you, then this one is to support you in particular. Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your first notification every week of when these new love letters come out. Let's get to it. The pitfalls of being an empath entrepreneur.

If you've never really heard of the term being empathic, let me break it down for you really quick. It is not the same as being empathetic. When you have empathy for others, this is a choice that you make to see yourself walking in somebody else's shoes. That's a compassionate mental move that you make to better communicate with others around you, and that's awesome.

However, being empathic removes your choice. This is where whether you want to or not, you feel what it's like to be in another person's emotions or to be in another person's physical body. You can feel the pain sensations that are going through somebody's body while you're interacting with them, or even if they're far away. That's being empathic. You can also feel emotionally when someone may be suppressing or hiding more intense emotion such as anger or great big joy, as if they're sitting on it, hiding it underneath a performance of a different, more acceptable emotion. You may pick up on that, or even in a space where someone passed away and they're not even physically there anymore, but you are able to sense the sadness or sense the happiness in their home. That is a sign that you are empathic.

Now, for those of you who already know that you're empathic, it can be super challenging. Because you are an emotional sponge. And as an emotional sponge, this is extra tough if you work in retail, or you have to handle a high volume of people physically coming to you. Maybe if you work at a stadium, serving crowds or you work at a storefront serving walk-ins. Your job requires you serve whoever walks in; maybe as a salon owner, you don't know who's the next person that's going to walk in to want a haircut. Or as an artist. Who's the next person who is going to come around and take a look at your art and want to give you a commission. Especially in those types of vocations, you don't really know who you're going to get – being a massage therapist is another one.

Be kind to yourself because you, more than ever, have got to learn about how to protect your energy, as an empath entrepreneur, as a professional who happens to be empathic.Why? Because you're an emotional sponge. So, shall we take a look at what can happen when you’re like this? By the way, comment below or send me an email back at team@VictoriaWhitfield.com of your Empath Entrepreneur experiences. Ok?

See if some of the following challenges describe your previous situations. Maybe you've come in, you're juiced, you're ready to go, happy for the work day and a client, customer or prospect comes in and just derails all that good energy and sucks the life out of you. Have you ever had that? Those vampire clients and customers? Oh Man. Other pitfalls of being an empath and a professional person, or a business owner who's an empath is that you have so much love and so much passion for what you do, but unfortunately because of the emotions, the crappy emotions of the people that you work with, whether they're on your team or your clients, it just sucks the life out of you.

Perhaps you're at that point where you're feeling, “is this really what I should be even doing with my life? In the beginning it was so great, but now the people are just vultures.” Oh my goodness. Be kind to yourself, again if that's your situation. Other pitfalls of being an empath entrepreneur is that where some people are able to get so much done in a day and just be able to maintain their focus and, wow, smash through their goals, breakthrough, breakthrough, breakthrough... for some reason, something about the environment that you're sitting in or something about the people that you're interacting with just completely sucks the energy and the focus, the productivity out of you.
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Maybe it's your loved ones who derail you if you work at home, for example. This is another really tough situation that we're going to talk about over the next four weeks. Maybe your home life is not that supportive, and as you are still absorbing all of the frustration of your spouse and the anxiety of your kids into your body, you still have got to be on that client call. If you're a marketing coach or you're a life coach that does video coaching, you've got to be ready to be supportive while your energy is all funked up. As an empath entrepreneur, you sponged up, soaked up so much negativity, anxiety, anger, frustration from your environment that it's affecting your ability to perform at work. If any of that speaks to you, please stay tuned. Subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first, and if it's bringing anyone to mind, make sure you hit that Share button and say, "you had better subscribed to this because she's talking to you, baby!"

Let's get to the oracle card of the week. We're going to be journeying with all month with Doreen Virtue's, Archangel Michael Oracle Cards deck, because Archangel Michael is a wonderful archetype for protection and covering. We have got to make sure that your energy feels nourished as you get out there and serve in a big way. You're called to it and you deserve to feel safe and sound and full of life and energy no matter who or what you are called to serve.

Okay, Angels, what do we as empath entrepreneurs need to know right now, especially when we're dealing with the challenges, the frustrations of being an empathic person who happens to own a business or who is a professional serving others? Whoa... We've got some pretty serious energy going here. What do we need to know? This card on top – hey! This is where we'll leave off for the week: Lean on God and the angels for support.

“Lean on God and the angels for support.My prayer: Dear God and the angels, I give you this situation now and completely. I step out of the way and allow divine miracles to shine through everyone and everything involved.”

As an empath more than anybody else in business, more than any other kind of person out there who is a professional and has a career and decides to participate professional activities, YOU have got to lean on Spirit, whatever that means to you. For those of you who are atheist, this means leaning on your human potential, your belief that life is going to have positive outcomes and is bringing you more good, rather than more bad. It’s about you committing to having more of a pronoia or a positive mindset rather than a paranoia or a negative mindset: give it all over to positive expectation.

Feed your faith, my dear, because you're going to be sponging up energy, anyway. You had better know that you've got someone or something watching your back - your power animals, your spirit guides, your angels, your fairies, whoever, your grandma. My grandma has got my back, in the energy. Lean on spirit when you feel depleted, that's what the angels want you to know this week in particular as we start owning it and opening up the conversation around what it means to be an empath in business.

Now, I want to hear from you. Make sure you comment below or send me an email back at team@VictoriaWhitfield.com. I am here to support you. If you want to know more about how you can shift your state in business so that you feel like you are glowing, rather than draining yourself out, as you grow your business, reach out. Let me know and I'd be so happy to schedule a session with you so that we could talk about how we can best turn your light back on.

All right, I'll see you in the next one.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey.

See you soon!

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Acknowledge the unique challenges you or your loved ones face as empaths at work.

Be kind to yourself, and be conscious of your need to lean on Spirit moreso than the average person.

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Love Letters | Sales As Healing – Part 4 of 4

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 27 Apr 2020 05:00:00 +0000

This is our final week four of four in our exploration of healing sales, our sales scars and shame around asking for the sale. Healing the bad, crusty experiences that we've had in the past.

If this is the first video that you are seeing in this series, make sure you hit pause, and go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com so that you start from part one and are grounded in this process.

Without further ado, for week four of four, the guides have asked us to continue the conversation that we started last week, and specifically talk about sales as healing. Sales as healing? Holy tomato! For some people, that's about the most opposite possible thing that they could think of when they think of sales. “Are you kidding me? Sales is like you're raiding and pillaging everyone. It's like an attack.”

Sales can be perceived as an attack, and if we've had some negative experiences in the past, in those really powerful transformational moments that come up for us regarding a larger sale such as buying a house or a car, or a coaching program, or a new building, and so on and so forth. If someone's done you wrong in that level sale, that scar runs deep, but in the words of Robert Bly from Iron John- which is amazing if you haven't read it yet – “Every wound is a womb.” Every wound is a womb.

The wounds that we may have received in our past of sales not going very well for ourselves or being done to us - or even witnessing sales happening between others that aren’t ethical - every wound that we receive is actually a womb. And what is a womb? It's a place where new life is created, so that's why we're talking about sales as healing. These wounds that we've received over the course of engaging in commerce are sacred, whether you are an entrepreneur or not. You don't have to own a business to have engaged in the sale. Anything you have, the clothes on your back, glasses, the shoes, underpants on your butt (hopefully, you're not wearing any? No judgment.) you have that because someone sold it to you.

You live in this house because someone sold it. Be kind to yourself. Your education, you have it because someone sold you on having education. But at the same time some of those experiences of being sold, being brought from one paradigm to another through a sale - a sale bridges gaps - that paradigm shift can be a bit traumatic.

But I want to elevate to this vision that the guides are sending for us right now of sales as something entirely different: sales is healing. I really want to drop into my heart and be blunt right now with you, because a lot of my lists of people who are watching these videos, following on YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, Pinterest, or wherever you are, if it's just landed into your inbox or someone forwarded me to you: nine times out of 10 you're some sort of a teacher, coach, healer, or a caregiver of some sort, right? You support people. You offer a healing presence.

If you are watching or reading this right now, whether you're a hairdresser cutting hair, an accountant doing taxes, or a lawyer working through your cases, whether you're working in construction, or you're like a transformational women's divine feminine coach goddess, or some other service-based business in addition to all of the above. If you're watching and still reading this right now, what magnetized you is not just my lovely exciting shirt and sparkly energy, but it's the fact that you see a piece of you in me. By the way, likewise; I see a piece of myself in you, in that we are Healers. We're here to heal the world. We're here to bring healing presence.

If you are having a hard time receiving financial abundance, it's because you have not shifted your point of view yet around sales. You haven't shifted it yet to see sales as healing. Sales is healing. Now, I'm a Reiki Master, an alternative medicine energy healer. I'm a woo-woo person, and proudly wave my rainbow woo-woo flag. I’m down with unicorns and glitter and high vibrational multi-dimensional energy - all of that, 100%. And the only way that I am able to share all that woo-woo goodness juice with the people who are starving and dried out and like desperate for it – they’re spiritually dehydrated. They need the juice. - is if I get out there and share my gift. If I get out, open up and talk about who I am and what I do, and what I can do for you. That's the purpose of sales.

Sales is actually healing for the people who are thirsty for the juice that you have created. I'm not talking about selling people stuff that they don't need. That can actually turn more into an addiction. I mean, hey, I have an addictive personality. Let me pull myself out the closet and like flap that in the air for you, okay? So yeah, I can have an addictive personality where, oh my gosh, I just want to go, I want to buy a bunch of stuff to alleviate my frustration right now. I want to buy a bunch of information courses and a bunch of books, and a bunch of crystals, right? Maybe that's been you before, and to some extent the things that I'm drawn to are what I need in the moment.

And those people who are out there selling the crystals, the necklaces, the books, the audio courses, the things that are going to lift me back up, I thank the Goddess for them. But I'm not going to be going out there and buying like, you know, sprockets and light bulbs and tires and things when I'm in my emotional state searching for a certain thing. If I need energy, I'm going to go out there looking for things that are going to give me energy for what I'm looking for.
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That's the key for sales being healing. It's you putting out “what am I going to help people with? And here it is.” I really appreciate Russell Brunson, his concept of having a Bridge to help us get from that state of “Alright already! I'm in frustration and in trouble” to “here, let's talk about the sale.” Having a Bridge is what's going to help you engage more sales as the healing part of your business. It not only heals your bank account when you close successful sales, but it also is healing for the clients and customers who are receiving exactly what they need.

Having a Bridge, and this comes from Russell Brunson, is to have a phrase that helps anchor in the fact that you are here to help them, and you have something that you would like to help them with. So what is that phrase? It could be asking for permission of someone who, you know, if you're out sharing your gifts and you see they could really use what you are providing, say, "Hey, I see that you have this situation going on. Is it okay if I share with you something that I put together to make things easier for you?” Or, “I put something together to serve you, and I was wondering if you would want to hear more about it?"

Ask for permission. Sales is healing when you always ask permission, first.You want to get consent in guiding someone through their paradigm shift, because the worst thing is pushing someone into a paradigm shift who doesn't want it and isn't ready for it. Sales is healing because we raise the buyer’s vibration. We help people into a new, more empowered reality as long as you're doing it ethically. When done unethically, unfortunately it can become like what we've been talking about for the last few weeks: something that is much more of a scarring experience.

Now, you've got to remember to turn on your natural intuition. Tune into your body. Clear your energy. Listen to your heart. If you feel your heart opening towards someone, feeling compassionate and wanting to help them, listen to that desire, that sensation of oh my goodness, I really want to help them. I feel for them. That's a sign from the Universe to actually take out your bridge, bring it over to them and say, "Hey, I see you're going through this situation. I know about something that could help you”, or “I put this thing together that could really make it easier for you. Is it okay if I share it with you?" Get their consent, and then go ahead, honor them by giving them access to the thing that will help them the most. Sales is so incredibly, powerfully healing. Comment below, send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com. Let me know what's coming up for you around this.

For now we're going to jump into the Oracle cards. The deck that we've been journeying with is Angels of Abundance by Doreen Virtue, these Oracle cards of Doreen with her son Grant. “Alright, Angels of Abundance, what do we need to know right now about sales as healing and how to activate our natural intuition now, other than reading Victoria's book?” ...Oh, snap. Throwing down some serious love bombs.

Face your financial fears. When you are honest with yourself about fears of success or failure, honest with yourself, they can no longer control you. Be free of hidden fears by exposing them to the light of awareness, and you'll realize that you in fact have nothing to fear, and that every successful person has struggled with and releases these self-doubts. This is where we're going to leave off for the week. The perfect landing point for this series.

You know, when you release fear around sales, receiving more or delivering more sales conversations, when you release that fear and you have faith that this is actually a healing going on, all of that momentum around blocking abundance lifts. Have faith that what you are sharing is healing. Focus on the healing. Don't focus on your fear or on your self-doubt. That'll sabotage you. You'll end up self-sabotaging.

Do the inner work first, though, to get yourself into a space of total faith in the work that you do or in the product that you're talking about. Do the inner work around understanding that when you go into a sales conversation, or when someone's trying to engage you in that, there's a healing going on. Be open to receiving or giving the healing more so than the money, okay? Be more focused on the healing work than the finances, and nine times out of 10 you'll end up closing the sale and the finances will come.

Be kind to yourself if you're afraid of focusing on the healing because you're so afraid of the money. If that's your case, please reach out to me at www.victoriawhitfield.com/contact You can hop on the phone with me and we'll be able to get you sorted and see how we can best support you moving through that fear of receiving.

I'm sending you so much love, blessings and abundance, and I'll see you in the next one.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey.

Bye for now.

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Love Letters | Sales Scars and Shame – Part 2 of 4

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 13 Apr 2020 05:00:00 +0000

This is week two of four in our exploration of money as spiritual, money as good, being open to, loving and healing our relationship to money.

Be kind to yourself, if this is your first video please hit stop, go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com so that you start from the very first part of our series so that you're grounded in this process.

Without further ado, this week in particular my guides are saying that we've got to talk about sales shame and scars. Sales shame, and scars. Now, this comes up all the time with my clients. Doesn't matter if it's someone who I've met while on the road or networking or for the first time or if it's one of my clients who's been with me for the last, gosh, six, seven years straight. We all, myself included, have a sense of sales shame and sales scars.

Now I remember hearing at a speech by Myron Golden where he said that by the time a child turns 18 years old, in the media the child has seen over 10,000 business owners killed on TV, online, and in the news. His point was that in that figure right there we see a systemic epidemic of putting down salespeople, of demonizing business owners, entrepreneurs, and people who are out there making money. There's a strategic demonization of that.

Our minds and our hearts become scarred seeing all of this. That figure really shocked me, but it makes sense because how many times do we – wait, I'll put it on me. I personally have been to so many sales presentations. I've walked in hoping someone would sell me what they're selling, legitimately excited to buy, and I've also walked in having made a commitment to myself, “I swear to God, if this person tries to sell me, I'm walking out.” Sound familiar?

I even have equated bad sales with unwanted touching, like being physically attacked. In my opinion, it is a mental rape when done horribly wrong. By the way, comment below, send me an email back at Team@VictoriaWhitfield.com if that's you, where you're finding yourself bracing when somebody's trying to sell you, as if you're about to get attacked mentally, emotionally, financially, and even spiritually by someone. Here's the thing, we have scars. We have scars because some people in the past, for all intents and purposes, used this powerful tool to, unfortunately, cut into our energy.

These are soul scars that we carry along the way and it's doubly bad for those of us who are entrepreneurs and business owners because part of the way that ... actually the only way that we're able to share our gifts at the level that we've been called to by God, by Source, is to sell - which means to serve. We've got to make the offer to invite people to work with us. If you sincerely are doing something that's going to help somebody, it's your divine duty to invite them to work with you. You shouldn't be ashamed of it.

But here we go with carrying our soul scars around sales. The feeling of having been - and I'm going to go there, and I'm going to repeat it just as I said without limiting myself - mentally and emotionally and even spiritually, financially raped. Mentally “raped” or attacked or scarred by someone whose done sales on us; this unwanted touching, mentally and energetically. Be kind to yourself if that has been your experience before, and you got totally taken advantage of. If that happened to you, from my heart to yours, I am so sorry. It's terrifying. You work so hard for your money, and then someone turns on your emotions and then leads you down a path that is unfortunately destructive to you.

It's heartbreaking when that happens, and because of our soul scars around sales, then we carry the shame, the shame, the shame – which hides the secret rage. This is especially prevalent in the holistic healing community, amongst life coaches, business coaches, marketing coaches, amongst reiki masters, massage therapists, naturopathic doctors, osteopaths. I'm just going through all the different clients that I've had in my head who’ve had this sales shame: my goodness, bookkeepers, everyone who's loving and kind and really sincerely wanting to help people.

There's this haunting shame that comes for all of us when it’s time to share our gifts... Where you start thinking, “what if they're going to tell me they can't afford it? What do I do? I don't want to make people spend money, I feel bad.” Or, “who's going to pay for that? Maybe I shouldn't be charging so much. I should really even be doing this for free. Who gets paid to listen to their intuition and who gets paid to listen to people?” By the way - you're looking at and reading a blog someone who does, and I get paid well because I do tremendous work. I give massive, massive value, and I am grateful that my life’s purpose fully supports me.

Gosh, it is such a gift. And I pay good money for this spiritual and personal development stuff as well, for people to do energy work on me and to help me hear my intuition better and also to hear myself better. Absolutely. I pay five figures a year and I've paid out in total six figures now over the last few years to ensure that I am fully self-actualized. You absolutely should be charging for that, whatever you're healing gift is, but there's this haunting, persistent shame that we are carrying around charging. I'm hearing the word “why”, and the reason why we carry that shame is because we have the mistaken thought that we are protecting other people by not sharing our services with them.

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Maybe you don't have your own business yet, but you're working at a company or working for a nonprofit that you sincerely believe in, that you absolutely love, and you're rooting for. You see the good that they do in the world, and then you see someone who could really benefit from the service or from donating to this gorgeous, fabulous, charitable cause.

Then here comes the shame of: “but I can't tell them because they're going to have to spend money,” or “I can't ask for the donation, I should be ashamed of myself, asking for this person’s money.” No, you shouldn't! No, you shouldn't! Don't should on yourself, please, if you have something powerful and healing to share with the world, if you have more love that you can pour into this world by sharing your product or service, please, please DO.

If I'm the only person who gets to tell you this, please believe in yourself, please believe that sales is service. Don't let your shame or your mistaken thinking that you are protecting people from spending money keep you from shining bright. We're in a dark world and we need your light, but in order for some of us to turn on, we have got to learn how to invest in ourselves.

I know for me, my life changed when I started to invest in myself. Personally, I am completely unrecognizable - go ahead on my Facebook and ask some of my friends who first became my friends when Facebook first came out, "Do you recognize Victoria now? Is she like she was 15, 20, 25 years ago?" They're like, "Nope, she's completely different” and some may even add “but she's more of herself than she's ever been." It's because I learned how to invest in myself by being open to receiving sales.

Now, this also has to do with discernment, and the more you cultivate your emotional capital - meaning your ability to value how you feel, and accrue good feeling, generate good feeling - the more you will cultivate your discernment, so that you don't have to be afraid of people selling you, and you don't have to be afraid of sharing your service with people who are desperately seeking it.

The only reason why you're carrying around that sales shame is actually because you haven't cultivated enough of your emotional capital. Pour into your positive feeling emotions, pour into that on a daily basis, that's the first thing I do every single day, and I've been doing it for 11 years straight, is to pour positive feeling, good feeling, raise my vibration, get into the vortex, shift my state, change my mind, raise my standards, put my mindset at the same level of the Universe to make sure that I am seeing with clear eyes. I’ve cultivated my discernment, my emotional capital, ceaselessly.

I'm hearing the oracle cards screaming in the air, "Oh my God, Victoria, hurry up and pull us." Okay, lol! Let me just stuff them back in this box because I was just sifting through them... This is the Angels of Abundance oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue and her son, Grant Virtue, if you want to pick it up yourself. Okay. Angels of Abundance, what do we need to know right now? About, gosh, our sales shame, our sales scars. - I love this: Bountiful Nature. This is where we're going to leave off for the week.

Bountiful Nature. Spending time in nature helps shift you to a higher vibration and reminds you of God’s infinite abundance. Go outside and enjoy a walk or hike with your pet, meditate beneath a tree, garden, sit under the stars, or do some other activity to connect with the limitless vastness.

This is so beautiful, this is a perfect ending point.

A lot of our fear and shame around selling, as well as being sold, is that there's not enough to go around. There's not enough even if you're selling something amazing or you're being sold on exactly what you need. That fear comes up that there's not enough to go around. Please let nature affirm you in that there is no limit to the amount of wealth, and abundance, and resource supporting you now, right now, in this moment.

Nature is a gorgeous example of interconnection and agreement, of constant inflow and outflow, inhale and exhale. Let that remind you of what true wealth and abundance looks like. Allow it to soothe your emotions so that you can raise your emotional vibration and increase your emotional capital.

All right, this is it, Bountiful Nature. Go outside, breath it in and receive. Okay. Send me an email back at Team@VictoriaWhitfield.com or comment below. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every week, and I'll see on the next one.

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Believe in yourself and believe that sales is service.

Take a deep breath in, and connect to your divine purpose, and then open your heart and mouth and share your healing work for the good of all involved.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Love Letters | The Empath Trap – Part 5 of 5

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 27 Jan 2020 05:00:33 +0000

This is week five of five in our deep dive into shifting our perspective, and we’ve been discussing the exact mechanics of how to shift our perspective so that we can step into our divinity fully in life and business.

For week five, my guides have asked me to speak to you on a pivot topic as we prepare for our next series of love letter videos. But before I get to the topic, if this is the first of the series that you are seeing, make sure you pause, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and start from week one so that you are grounded in this process.

This week, my guides have shown me that we need to talk about the empath trap. Don't fall for the empath trap. And I see this is shockingly prevalent, the more I've been going live on Facebook, actually. If you haven't seen my Facebook page, where I'm dropping what I call #lovebombs for you, then youre missing out on some real activating inspiration. Go ahead to Facebook.com\senseivictoriawhitfield to catch some of those. They really, really add a pep to your step and wake you up if you've been kind of asleep at the wheel in life and business.

What I found is that the more that I've been going live, the more I find people from all over the world falling into the empath trap. And here's what it is: where you expect somebody else to make you feel better. Now, that's it in a nutshell, but I'd like to just clarify a little bit more of that. First of all, if you don't know what an empath is, let's start there because that's jargon, right?

An empath is someone who is an emotional sponge. It's different than empathy. With empathy, you choose to see a situation through somebody else's eyes. You use your mind, your mental acrobatics abilities to construct the idea of what it would be like to walk in somebody else's shoes. You choose to do that, and that's compassionate, that's awesome, and develops rapport.

But someone who's an empath has the ability to really feel what others are going through, emotionally and physically, and it happens against their will. So that means, if someone's coming in in a grumpy mood, all the sudden, the person in the room who's an empath will start feeling grumpy, and they were fine before. Or if somebody has a headache, the person who's an empath will start feeling like their head hurts, or another part of their body is suddenly hurting too, not because they're mentally unstable or something like that, but because the way that their body is wired is that they're a sponge. They soak in the physical and emotional feelings of others in their environments.

We see this in the animal kingdom as well, not just amongst people. Think of dogs and cats. If you have a dog or a cat, it's not that they can speak English, necessarily, but have you ever noticed that they feel sad when you feel sad? Or they can sense in their bodies if something's not quite right with you? It's amazing because animals are highly empathic. It's our birthright as beings here on earth, being empathic. It's another sense that we have, to be able to sense the emotional and physical feelings of others around us, because it's another form of communication.

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Now, in more recent years, in the New Age, Metaphysical, spiritual-but-not-religious sort of soul-seeking communities online or the self-help or Angel Healing, energy healing and etc. groups online, there's this whole philosophy and subculture around being an empath that says, "Oh, you're special and you need special help. And we got to band together and got to protect and got to read all these books" and similar stuff like that. What I found is, when I'm going live on Facebook, I'll attract more empaths as viewers because I am one, and I understand that. But those who have fallen into the empath trap think that other people are going to solve their problem for them, or ease their symptoms, or give them the answers that they're seeking.

And when we're committed to shifting our perspective so that we can finally step into, meaning claim, the power of our divinity in life and business, we're not waiting for somebody else to come to the rescue. In the words of the fabulous Lisa Nichols, the mantra is, “I am my rescue." It's so important, as an empath, to honor the fact that you have power.

So if someone's sharing, like myself, intuitive readings or channelings or insights or talking about psychic development and so on and so forth, and you feel like, "Okay, this person has answers. Hey, you tell me blah blah blah about my parent who's passed on" or "Hey, you look at my aura and see if there's any blockages in it," then be kind to yourself: that's actually disempowering for you. That doesn't enable you to step into your divinity. Instead, that puts the onus on the other person and gives your power away.

I want you to know that you have power and that this is the week that you are going to get out of that empath trap. Because when it comes down to it, an imbalanced or dysfunctional empath feels good when others feel good or feels bad when others feel bad. That always puts you at a disadvantage. Please take your power back!

We're going to go more into this in the next series, but for now, we’re here at beautiful Washington Rock in the dead of winter to really open up and get that nature energy to help us process and reclaim our expansive power. I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. It's the Isis Oracle by Alana Fairchild. The last one of the series is ... Ooh, this couldn't have been better. The Eye of Horus. Awakening divine perception.

Here's where we're going to leave off for the week: Claim your ability to take control of your life. Claim your ability to create your life by design, to tune into Source, to plug in to Spirit. You can do this. Awaken your divine perception. You have it by birthright. You don't have to get it from somebody else secondhand. It's yours. You can cut out the middleman.

If this message was for you, go ahead, send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com or comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every week, and I'll see you next time for the next series.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey. Bye for now.

Just for today...

Decide to take back your power by claiming your birthright as an empowered, empathic and intuitive being, and to stop giving your power away.

Declare "I am my rescue. I claim my birthright to create my own life and to connect to Spirit myself!"

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Love Letters | No Longer Tolerable – Part 4 of 5

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 20 Jan 2020 05:00:41 +0000

This is week four of five of our deep dive into shifting our perspective, so that we can step into our divinity, finally, in life and business.

If you are just seeing this for the first time and you didn't start from week one, please make sure that you go ahead and stop now, go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com, so that you can be grounded in this process. Start at week one.

For our fourth week, my spirit guides have said that we need to talk about the importance of knowing what is no longer tolerable. Last week, we really sank our teeth into our role, and knowing it clearly. We honored who we are and what our purpose is here on Earth: to be that guide, that light, that only you can shine, or only I can shine, from my own unique story, and yours within yours.

We're here, again, at Washington Rock in the dead of winter. It is a very foggy day, so normally we are able to see between 20 to 30 miles out. You might have seen that in the previous videos. But, this is so good, that the weather has shifted to be even more foggy, because this now brings the perspective inward. Right? That's a message and a representation of our intention right now, is to be very clear, inwardly, of what is no longer acceptable.

At your previous point of perspective of where you were coming from before, perhaps there were certain people, certain behaviors, certain foods, and certain investments that you were engaging in, that were acceptable. They were part of your standard operating procedure. And, when we get to a certain point of development, or achieve a certain level of success, there is this expectation that what's been working is going to continue to work.

Now, if you keep doing the same thing and expecting different results, however, that is unfortunately the definition of insanity. There's real satisfaction, there is real fulfillment in having progress, meaning, when we get to grow from our experiences. So, when we're called for to expansion and ascension, personally or professionally, that involves changing what our definition of what is tolerable.

I'm not exactly sure who this message is for. But, I want you, since you're watching or reading this right now, I want you to consider, “What am I tolerating?”

Ask yourself “what am I tolerating in my personal life?” for example, that is keeping me at this level of weight, or in this type of relationship. “What am I tolerating? Am I tolerating people talking down to me, or telling me how things need to be? Or, am I tolerating the reaction that my body has to certain foods, such as gluten?” for example. What are you tolerating personally, that could be reinforcing the same sick cycle recurring and recurring personally, but also professionally?

What are you tolerating? Are you tolerating receiving a certain level of income, because other people said you should be satisfied with that? Or, if you look to your right and you look to your left, that's what everybody else makes. And that's what everybody else is saying is “acceptable.” Are you tolerating that? Or are you tolerating, also professionally, a mentor or an authority figure that might rub you the wrong way in some key areas, but because other things are really great, you overlook that? You instead, stay, and follow their rules, but murmur about the things that bother you, on your off time or in quiet moments to yourself, or confidants.
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Be kind of yourself if that's your situation: that you're tolerating things. That can be a coping mechanism, to create a sense of stability, and I'm hearing this very loud and very aligned in the energy, to tell you that in order to create stability finally for yourself, you may have remove more tolerations from off your plate.

Be kind to yourself. There's a difference between telling yourself what’s acceptable and actually having clarity. When you're just accepting what you've been handed to you, there's a of lack of innovation there, a lack of agency. You don't have to give away your power. When you are clear that “this is what I want”, or clear that “this is how I feel”, and you voice that, as well as stand true to that, yes, it may trigger some people, or may ruffle some feathers, or make things a little unstable for a time. But, that's temporary, because you're getting back into alignment, putting yourself back at the center at which you deserve to be.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. All month we've been journeying with the Isis Oracle Cards Deck by Alana Fairchild, and I'll make this quick, because my fingers are freezing. Happy winter everyone! Let's see. Oh, gorgeous. Initiation. Spiritual testing of Ra and lady Isis.This is where we are going to leave off for the week.

The reason why you're shifting your perspective this week in particular, by getting clear on what is no longer tolerable and what you're no longer going to be tolerating, is because you're on a path to Initiation. This is your time. This is the time for you to shift. Not later, it's now. It's now.

And, when you decide that a certain thing is no longer acceptable, that activates your inner power. I can tell that to you from my own story, when I personally decided that being in an abusive relationship - which was most emotionally and, at times, financially, and even physically abusive - when I decided that was no longer acceptable, I was not going to tolerate this anymore, my whole life changed. I had behaviors, such as leaving that person and investing more in my own self-worth, and raising my confidence level, I had behaviors that followed through with that, because it was unequivocal.

I decided I'm not tolerating this anymore. Similarly, my behaviors shifted when I personally decided that smoking was no longer something I was going to tolerate as a behavior of mine, and being around people who smoke regularly was not acceptable either. I had asthma, and it would exacerbate my asthma. Since I quit my breathing has been so much better, and the quality of relationships that I have around me have been so much better, too.

So, what are you no longer tolerating? Comment below, or send me an email back, at VictoriaWhitfield.com/Contact, or Team@VictoriaWhitfield.com. Let me know, what are you no longer tolerating. What is no longer acceptable in your life and in your business? Make sure you subscribe on YouTube, so that you get these Love Letters first, every week, and I'll see you next time.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please, enjoy the journey. Bye for now!

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Take an inventory of what you are tolerating in life and business.

First, write out a list of Tolerations, and then secondly, go back through the list and for each line write out the real, honest reason why you are still (or are no longer) tolerating it.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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