Scared to stand out and take up space?

Shrinking yourself physically or emotionally to make others comfortable, or even for fear of being seen?

Do you tend to "keep your mouth shut" around others, rather than speaking your mind openly?

Our bodies are mirrors of our emotional health and mindset.

So if you live with chronic tightness, aches and pains, that's actually a physical manifestation of limiting beliefs you have about yourself.

Watch this week's 11-minute love letter video, the final installment of our 5-week series on living life unapologetically, to release all restriction and boldly take up space in life and business!

"I don't trust myself to be able to get my point across."

So this is week five of five in our deep dive into living life unapologetically. Yeah.

This has been a powerful, powerful series of living fully, right? And embracing our brilliance, living as if, as we discussed last week, we're already worthy, right?

There's nothing additional that needs to be done. We're worthy now. If you missed that, go back on YouTube, check it out. Watch that video.

This week, the spirit guides have said our topic is taking up space. Take up space. Do this with me. Spread your arms out. Open your chest. Breathe deep and exhale. Take up space, right?

Are you someone, if you are blessed vertically, if you're tall, do you tend to hunch, or stand with a slouch so that you appear shorter? Are you someone who feels a bit insecure about speaking up, so instead, rather than waste people's time, or be annoying and take up space, you tend to hurry yourself.

Do you hurry yourself when you're speaking, or not even express anything? In your home, by the way, is there no space for you, or is all your stuff crammed into the corner or shoved into a drawer? Are you afraid to really spread out so that you can be creative and expressive?

Right? No, that's not for you. That's for the kids. You're not allowed, right?

If that's you, be kind to yourself. Just because other people take up space doesn't mean that you are not allowed to. There's enough space for all of us. That's a tweetable, as Marie Forleo would say.

Know this, there's enough space for all of us. You are enough. The world is enough. There's enough time for all of us. Be kind to yourself.

‪Know this: There's enough space for all of us. Just because other people take up space, doesn't mean that you're not allowed to. Take up space, #unapologetically!

If you carry shame, right? Do you carry that shame around all ... You know, "I have something to say, but you know, everybody has something to say, and I don't really trust myself to get my point across, so instead of being articulate, and expressing openly, I'll be quiet, and watch everyone else try and fail, but at least, you know, I didn't try, so I didn't fail." I'm giving you a big hug if this is you. I know this is tough. Oh my goodness. Take up space.

But this week in particular, the guides are showing images of you decompressing your body. Stretch. Go ahead. Stand up, like right now. Stand up. Get up, get up, and reach over your head, tickle the ceiling, wherever you are, tickle it and just radiate your light in all directions.

Allow your hips to roll open. Stretch your jaw, right? Your eyes, stretch your eyes. Yeah. Roll your shoulders. Roll them open. Do freestyle, whatever you need to do to open up any tightness in your body. Take up space.

Be kind to yourself.

If you're afraid of taking up space in conversation, or even with your marketing, for example, to all my entrepreneurs and business owners, if you're uncomfortable being visible, and commanding attention, start with your body. Let's be clear. We're going to start internally. The healing starts with you.

You don't have to worry about anybody else, but instead, open your body first. Decompress, right? I can't show you this on camera, but if you were to hang over your knees and let your head be pulled down by gravity, you could even decompress your spine. So important.

So, it's essential for you, in living life unapologetically, to not be so compressed all the time. This is an apology for being in the same space as everyone else, and this is affirming that there's not enough space for you. Trust me, the universe is big enough to handle you. In all your imperfections and all your awesomeness, the universe is big enough.

Come out and play. Make it open, and even if it's a bit messy, whatever, right? Be kind to yourself. You don't have to do it perfectly.

So take up space, and stretch especially. Stretch open your body. Imagine, by the way, as you stretch your body, filling the space with your energy, as if you were shining light and radiating light into the entire room, into the entire building, out into the town, out into the state, around the country, and out into the world, right?

Radiate that permission to take up space. Do it for your brothers and sisters who are in extreme poverty, right? Who are oppressed, and depressed, and repressed. Open your body on behalf of our tribe, on behalf of our tribe. Take up space.

I'm hearing the Oracle Cards calling the energy this week, again is our last with the daily guidance from the Angels, another Oracle Cards deck, one of the many that have been donated here at the dojo, always accepting donations. Okay, Angels. What do we need to know right now, about taking up space? Cupid. Beautiful. Aw, there's so much love in this card, Cupid. Oh, the heart bubble. So sweet.

"We send great waves of love into your heart and mind, awakening your love for life itself. Your clear decision to accept and enjoy romance has triggered this awakening. Allow yourself to spontaneously celebrate love in all of its glorious aspects."

So, my guides are telling me ... This Angel card has come forward in particular, for you to welcome love into your life. Yes, romantic love. Yes, physical love. Yes, emotional love. Yes, love. Opening up to receive more love in your life starts with you being open and decompressed, right? Take up space.

Give yourself permission to say, "Hi. What's your name?" To all of my single people out there, take up space, get yourself a ... like, you know, a seat at the coffee shop and type on your laptop conspicuously. Take up space, and if you are married, or with a partner, your lover, take up space with them. Like, "I desire to be with you," or "I'm going to be in your space because I love you," yeah? Take up emotional space. You can say what you need and you can express yourself. This is your permission.

This week in particular, take up space. How are you going to do it, right? Are you just going to start with the physical stretching more, and making sure that your body physically is open and lubricated, or are you also going to take it the emotional and social level? Are you going to take up space in your relationships and interactions?

Comment below on YouTube, on Facebook, send me an email back, right? I want to hear it. How are you taking up space. I love love and I love love letters, so send me a mail. Send me a love letter in the mail. I just got one. Yay! Thanks, Johanna. Hers is right there, that white piece of paper, pink writing. So beautiful. Thank you, goddess.

And, make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every week, all right? Live life unapologetically.

We'll see you next time. Bye.

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Is your email inbox overwhelming you?

Does the energy of your social media newsfeed bring you down?

Are negative news and stressful business reports literally making you sick to your stomach?

Be kind to yourself: you're an empath and you need better boundaries to protect your energy.

Not all entrepreneurs are created equal; some of us need to unplug in order to be productive.

Watch this week's 8-minute Love Letter video, the second in our 4-week exploration of the Power of Positive Community, to embrace the healing power of unplugging and unsubscribing!

"I don't know where all of this negativity is coming from."

This is week two of four in our new deep dive on the power of positive community. This week in particular the guides want you to know it's time for you to unsubscribe from negativity.

It's time for you to unsubscribe from negativity.

Info diet, in the words of Tim Ferriss, writer of The 4-Hour Workweek and how he simplified his life by streamlining things brilliantly. My guides this week in particular are asking that you have the courage to hit the unsubscribe button, or the unfollow button. Instead of hitting buttons, in your interpersonal life, remove yourself from negative sources of information and experience.

It's really, really important for you to feel vigilant around your intake. If you're watching this video, chances are that you are an empath, which means you pick up ambient emotional data by default. No one has to clue you in on to what is the emotional status of the room or what's the temperature of the crowd or what's going on from other people. You don't even have to ask. You can feel it.

And in fact, the dark side of being an empath is you absorb. You absorb energy. Sometimes even in your body. If someone else has a stomach ache, then you have a stomach ache, too because it just leaps right into you.

Know this: ‪Being an #empath in #business makes you a great communicator. However, if you lack #healthy boundaries and self-care, your empathic sense can drain your energy or even harm you. Be kind to yourself.

With love, that's a sign that you have a lack of healthy boundaries and self-care. I call that spiritual hygiene. Be kind to yourself if that's the situation for you. In psychology, they call that codependent.

When we're codependent, we have a hard time saying no because we depend on the things that we latch onto for our identity. If that's the case, we're subscribing and subscribing, and maybe as an entrepreneur or business owner you've been networking and to be nice, you allow people to just add you on to their email lists or so-and-so in your family keeps posting on Facebook all of this heavy, heavy, heavy reports and angry stuff. And because this is so-and-so in your family, you haven't unfollowed them.

This week in particular it's time to take a stand for your energetic health, your mental health and well being by unsubscribing and unplugging from sources of negativity.

But first and foremost, you've got to be vigilant on what your intake is. Before you even get to the point of unsubscribing, some of you may already think, "Oh yeah, spring cleaning. Read it. Thank you for permission." And to those of you who are ready, mwah. But to those of you who are like, "I don't know where all of the negativity is coming from," maybe this week in particular, you're just becoming vigilant and aware, becoming mindful of, "Huh whenever I talk to this person or hang out with this group, I feel drained afterward. Whenever I read this newspaper or visit this website and read through or watch the videos, I feel more anxious or even a little bit more heavy, depressed, and tired." Start monitoring your information intake.

In nutrition, they say you are what you eat. The same goes for your mindset.

How can you expect to have an abundant mindset when everyone and everything around you that you're taking in is talking about lack, fear, struggle, and it's hard, etc., etc.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy to completely counteract that. Let me come in a little bit closer. It's the fairies. Healing with the fairies, we're gonna be journeying with all month.

So happy to be with you fairies. And I'm curious, fairies, elementals, guides, what do we need to know right now about unplugging from negativity? Ooh. Yeah, buddy. This is where we're going to leave off for the week.

Raise your standards. Absolutely. Raising your standards. Gorgeous card. The fairies are letting you know that you're not stepping back or shrinking down. Instead this is a statement that you have raised your standard for how you are treating your mind by making sure that you're clear and deliberate around what you put into it. Raise the standard of the type of emails that you desire to read.

Raise the standard of the type of phone calls that you desire to receive. Raise the standard of the type of people that you desire to be around, and raise the standard for the way that people should be treating you, regardless of who they are or where they come from.

That comes from you. The standard is always set by you. And it's time to raise your standards by unplugging from negativity.

So, comment below. Send me an email back. If you've got this on the love letters list. Let me know what's come up for you.

This is meant to be a conversation, a two-way street. And remember, if there is any way I can help in your business balancing mind, body, and business for you, just let me know.

You can go to VictoriaWhitfield.com/contact and reach out there. For now, that's it for this week, and we'll see you next time. Bye.

(Original post 04/09/2018)

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Are you, or is someone you know, a workaholic?

Worried that if you say "no" when people who ask for help, that you'll be mean or they won't like you?

Drowning in projects and things to manage, at work AND at home?

It's easier to just give in and say "yes" and be seen as helpful, than to stand your ground and say "no" and be seen as possibly selfish.

But when we do that, we add another project on to our already overwhelmed plate of "helpfulness" - perhaps this is more than just being helpful, perhaps it's now an addiction.

Watch this week's 15-minute love letter for the fifth and final installment in our 5-week deep dive on self care versus self sabotage to send healing to our relationship with (personal and professional) help-a-holism.

"I never feel like I'm doing enough."

We've been on a five-week-long deep dive into the dance that we empaths do between self-care and self-sabotage. All the different ways that we stand in the way of shining our light to our fullest potential. I'm really grateful. I just want to thank you for tuning in for week five.

I want to thank you for all your support over the years, of the love letters, my gosh. What? We're going on four or five years straight of love letters. I just want to thank you for your continued support.

This week in particular, we're going to focus on self-sabotage around workaholism and help-a-holism, fix-a-holism. Helping, and fixing, and putting out all the fires, and working all the limbs all day. Those of us who are highly sensitive individuals who are naturally empathic, who are naturally intuitive. Last week we discovered your call to be a healer, your call to healing leadership. You're sensitive for that reason.

But this week is the dark side of that, where you can be so driven to help, and to fix, and to take care give, and to take responsibility; but you lose yourself. Not only lose yourself, you may even hurt yourself.  Be kind yourself, if this is you. This last one, baby, is for you. This is our swan song, yes?

Workaholism, guides say that the soul craving behind that, or that the hidden feeling driver behind helping everybody, and fixing everything, and working constantly. The addiction to work, and projecting.

Not just projecting stuff, we're projecting people, like in your relationships, yes, yes? Maybe this isn't you, maybe we're talking about somebody else. We can pretend.

But, maybe let that obsession with being everybody's caregiver, taking care of everybody and everything. What's the hidden driver behind that?

And the guides say that it is the feeling of, "I'm not good enough. I'm not doing enough. I am good when I am doing. I am only good when I am doing."

Doing good, doing stuff for other people, pleasing others, when I'm gaining approval. Yes, yes? When I'm gaining recognition, I am worthy based on my output ... which is faulty.

Yes, it is good to do good things and to help others. This is not to say that you shouldn't be helping other people, and that you should be like, "All right, screw you all, I'm going home." Right? Pulling a Cartman. No, that's not what we're talking about here.

As much as that sounds fabulous to one of you ... I just heard someone in the energies saying, "I want to tell everyone, 'Go away.'" If that's you ... Bear with me, we're going to make it through this.

But, what's also coming up behind that, as your working, working, working and saying yes to everything; the flipside is the fear of saying, "no." Our lack of boundaries is fueling this relentless need for approval and affirmation. In the workplace, or in the eyes of someone that you helped, or getting to see their transformation so you feel worthy, because they had an outcome or you had an impact on them.

What happens, however, when there's nothing to do, no one to save, nothing to fix? The big question is, are you still worthy? Are you still lovable? Are you still acceptable? Are you still good? Are you still okay, as a person if you don't have something to do, something to do, something to do? This is a big one. When we have this addiction, this also expresses as a lack of boundaries.

What are boundaries? This is the million-dollar word for every single empath like, ever: boundaries. Boundaries are the invisible lines that separate what is you and what is not you; what is yours and what is not yours.

Now, from a spiritual perspective, yes, there is the universal law of oneness, which says, "All that is, is one." But that doesn't mean you have to do everything all the time, or that everything that's yours belongs to everybody else, or that you don't have any selfness. You don't have a worth because you don't have a self.

No. That's not what that is saying. Instead, that's just to appreciate the interconnectedness and interdependence of all of life, and all that is. However, we're talking about this turning into co dependence. Codependency is when you depend on someone or something outside of you for a sense of emotional security, to give you your emotional security, or even your identity. You're depending on them.

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Workaholism, for example, my dad was a lawyer, I'm a lawyer, my kids are going to be a lawyer. If I ever lose this job, I don't know what I'm gonna do; where your job defines your personality. That's a codependent relationship. That means that you are at risk of losing yourself if that thing shifts at all. You've given all your power over to the thing that you are dependent upon.

Be kind to yourself if this is speaking to you. I don't know who this message is for, but I'm sharing it anyway, following spirit's guidance. With that, also, where we have the sense of addiction to getting things done and putting out fires, putting out fires putting out fires. Whenever we put out a fire, we get that little bit of, "Yay, I did it." And that, "Yay," is what we're addicted to, of winning and the feedback loop of, "I'm putting out and I'm receiving, putting out and I'm receiving."

That's why so many men end up becoming not present at home, because the job is what gives them recognition and affirmation constantly, and you come home to a wife that is just not paying attention, and not able to give you that feedback. It is, unfortunately, natural to become addicted more to work, where you're recognized, and you feel like you have an impact in the relationship more with your job than your own partner. Scary.

That happens to women, too, I'm not just talking about men, okay. I hear my guide saying, "This happens to the ladies, too," where work or the kids become more important than their partner, because there's something to work on. There's always something. The mom-ness becomes the identity rather than yourself being your identity, becoming codependent to the children.

Be kind to yourself if this is you. Now, this week in particular, the guides are saying, "How do we get out of this?" This addiction to working and losing ourself without our boundaries. Well, is to have values. This week in particular, you want to focus on writing out a list of what your core, desired feelings and your most prioritized values are in life. Allow your schedule to be according to what you prioritize most, what you value the most.

First things first, as they say. I believe that's in the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Put first things first. Is family really important to you? If so, where is family in your schedule? This week, we want to put, "What are your core desired feelings?" I want to feel free, I want to feel abundant, I want to feel loved, I want to feel sensual. Where are those feelings in how you spend your time each day? Rather than letting the thing that you are co dependently addicted to, such as the work or the caregiving, et cetera rather than letting only that determine how you spend your time.

This is going to shift your relationship with your workaholism. Your addiction is going shift. If you can just get clear on, "What are your core, desired feelings, and what are your most prioritized values?"

We forget, we're in that tunnel of, "I'm doing stuff, I'm doing stuff, I'm doing stuff. I'm so productive, I'm so busy. I'm doing all this busy stuff." There's a difference between being busy and actually being in business. There's a difference between being busy and actually being focused.

This, our core, desired feelings and our most prioritized values are what are going to help us clarify that. To end, Doreen Virtue, Angel Therapy; yet another one of our Doreen Virtue decks. Angels, what we need to know this week? To round off our five-week deep dive into the dance between self sabotage and self care. "Listen to your intuitive feelings."

Listen to your intuitive feelings. Your body is receiving accurate messages from the divine. This is perfect, given what we're talking about.

One of the main reasons why we can get stuck in, or create stuck-ness in a codependent, workaholic, fixaholic relationship is because we'll drown out the sensations of our body. We're not in touch. We're not in touch with ... "Oh, my neck is starting to hurt because it's 10:00 PM and I'm still at work."

We'll just keep going, going, going. Or, you know what? I actually ... I'm not really hungry for that extra candy bar, as we talked ... The second week was food. I'm not actually hungry for that chocolate candy bar. Actually, I'm craving love and affection.

Instead of shoving a chocolate candy bar down my throat so I can stay working at the computer all the livelong day, instead I'm going to reach out to receive some physical touch, or love and affection from a loved one. Listen to your feelings.

Your sensitivity is your strength here, and it's the gateway to your next level in life. Send me an email back, comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you around this, and how has this series been for you?

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Source has been telling me that you and I have got to develop a deeper relationship, and go deeper into the information, rather than just doing one idea a week. Nah, let's go there. Let's go there together, okay?

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The topic that my guides have asked me to cover this time in particular is: losing faith. What to do when you feel like you are losing faith.

Now, I want to be clear, I am not a business coach, I'm not a marketing guru, I'm not your run-of-the-mill reiki master, and I'm not even a massage therapist or any of that. I'm not any of those things. I'm a Business Reiki Master. So what does that mean? That means I help empathic entrepreneurs and their teams, burnt out business owners, uncertain CEO’s, C-Level executives and their teams to get and stay balanced and clear in mind, body and business. So, although I am not the person who's going to tell you how to write a business plan or how to get your first client, I *am* the person that's going to support you with the energy *behind* doing those tasks - making sure that your vibration, emotion, and your energy is balanced and managed well. That's when these people call me in, specifically during times of transition, when they're losing faith.

In the coming posts we're going to be talking more about the experience of losing faith in yourself, losing faith in your business or the economy, and losing faith in your mission and purpose on Earth, and we will be covering what to do in each and every situation.So, if you haven't yet, make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every single week, and also make sure that you take my quiz so that you have an opportunity to self-assess around where are you at, so you can jumpstart your unique healing journey.

Without further ado, let's get a little bit more into this. Why are we talking about losing faith in particular? Here’s why: my guides have magnetized to me so many people who are brilliant experts who are talented, generous, loving givers, givers, givers. We’ve been taught that “givers gain.” If you know what I'm talking about send me an email back, comment below wherever you're seeing this, type it in, givers gain, if that's something that you live by.

But here's the thing: eventually, if you are not giving andreceiving - or if you're not receiving asyou give - you will dry out.Think of it this way - think of yourself as an oil lamp. If you've ever seen an oil lamp, it's this beautiful glass receptacle which has a cotton wick that runs through it, and it's bound at the top so that the wick doesn't fall in, and that receptacle is full of oil, an incendiary flammable substance, but when it's wicked up, or absorbed up the wick, it then becomes fuel for our burning fire. If you light that wick the fire will continue to burn in the oil lamp for as long as there is oil in there.

So for us as empathic entrepreneurs, as spiritual business owners and conscious CEOs, we're giving, giving, giving. We want to take excellent care of our people. Being in charge means taking care of the people who are in our charge. You know this already. And what can happen along the way is that you give to the point where your oil lamp, so-to-speak, is running out, and your light begins to dim.

My guides are asking me to urge you, this week in particular, to ask yourself: “where is my light dimming? Where have I begun to lose faith?”

Are you losing faith in yourself? Are you losing faith in your business or the economy, or your ability to receive and pay out money? Or are you losing faith in your mission, your purpose here on Earth? Those symptoms usually are accompanied by feelings of exhaustion, crankiness, resentment, smiling but behind your smile there's like a sense of “I can't stand this anymore, I don't know how much more I can take,” or feelings of avoidance, procrastination.
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Be kind to yourself if this is what you are going through, this month in particular.I don't know when you'll be watching or reading this. Maybe you're watching and reading it when we first debut these love letters, maybe you'll happen upon this in YouTube or wherever, or someone shared it with you because they love you, but regardless of the time of year you've landed on this video series please know that it's time for you to refill your oil lamp, it's time for you to feed your faith.

We want to honor you wherever you're at if you happen to be losing faith. No judgement here; all love. Perhaps you're watching and reading this because someone that you know and love, or who you work with that who you care about and have seen as a powerhouse before - they've been amazing, but their light is starting to dim. If that’s the case, lets begin to send some healing to them, ok? Let's surround you and your loved ones, your dear coworkers and colleagues in healing white light and positivity, this week, this day in particular.

And without further ado let's get to the oracle cards of the week from Healing with the Angels, the very first oracle deck that Doreen Virtue ever made.Okay, Angels, what do we need to know right now about this topic of losing faith? Is it okay? What do we need to know in order to begin to restore it? “Nature.” Gorgeous. I'm going to read to you:

“Spending time alone in nature is important for you, even five minutes in a garden would be healing for you right now. By drawing this card the angels ask you to interact with nature more often, every day if possible. This card also signifies that you may be happier living in a more rural setting. If you have thought about moving away from city life consider this card as additional validation. Also, this card may be encouraging you to choose an occupation involving plants or animals. For instance, you may enjoy gardening, nursery or veterinary work, pet sitting, or delving into the world of animal communication. Your angels and the nature elements are helping you discover and give your gifts to the world. Help them to help you by spending more time in nature.”

And here's where we're going to leave off for this week. As we enter into this more vulnerable topic of losing faith, one way that you can begin to rebuild already before we start talking about more specific ways, is by reconnecting to nature.Reconnecting to nature. Nature is so healing, right? Maybe you lost a loved one, or maybe a major client fell through. But one simple way that you can begin to restore your faith in yourself, in life, or in business is to step back and appreciate nature. The beautiful thing about plants is that they continue growing. And how animals, they have this beautiful wonder and awe for life, they have this essential beauty and innocence to them. Mountainsides, forests, the beach and the water are all so healing - connect to the beauty of nature and allow it to begin to replenish and refill your soul.

So if this topic is on time for you, if it's speaking to you, make sure that you comment below, send me an email back at Info@VictoriaWhitfield.com and subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every single week.

And by the way, if this is really resonating and you're thinking of someone in particular, will you please send them this video?Let them know that they're not alone. And if you are new to the Love Letters because you received this and someone shared it for you, I want you to know you're not alone in what you’re going through. Faith can be restored. Connect to nature this week, go for a walk, soak it up, be gentle with yourself, and I'll see you next week so that we can continue this conversation. Mwah! Sending you so much love.

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Instead of avoiding or glazing over the truth, pause for a moment and acknowledge where you feel drained or dismayed.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...

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Do you lack personal boundaries?

Feeling anxious and worried because you're afraid uncertain times?
Struggling to find clarity or make a decision because you don't know why you do what you do?

If so, chances are you are spiritually ungrounded.

Being spiritually ungrounded is a very complex and complicated issue, because it comes down to re-identifying of your core beliefs, desires and values.

Watch this weeks 13-minute love letter video to clear your spiritual energy and ground yourself.

"I'm not sure of what I'm looking for in a partner."

This week is our fourth and final week. We made it to the top.

On our deep dive into what is grounding and living a more grounded life, last week we discussed emotional and mental grounding and how we can live into being more mentally and emotionally grounded.

Involves time. Our emotional relationship with time.

If you didn't get to see that, please go to my YouTube channel. Search in YouTube for Sensei Victoria Whitfield grounding and it should come up there.

This week we're talking about spiritually grounded, what it means to be spiritually grounded. This is a different vibration than the physical realm and the mental emotional realm.

This has to do with more of your energy, your values, and beliefs. Write this down.

My spirituality has to do with my energy, values, and beliefs.

This is really powerful because when you are not spiritually grounded, there's this overwhelming sense of uncertainty.

Feeling like:

• "I'm not certain if I'm headed in the right direction."
• "I'm not certain of what I believe."
• "I'm unsure of how I feel."
• "I'm unsure of what even kinds of foods I like."
• "I'm not sure of what I'm looking for in a partner."
• "I'm not sure how I'm doing."
• "I'm feeling blocked but I'm not even sure what that means."

These are all symptoms of being spiritually ungrounded.

My guides have told me to read you a little bit more from my book Natural Intuition Now.

If you haven't gotten this yet, please hop on Amazon.com. Prime will have it to you in two days. Maybe this reminder to get the book is not for you this time.

Maybe it's for your friend, your coworker, your family member who's very empathically sensitive but doesn't know where to start.

My guide said to read to you a little bit more from the list in the book of what are other symptoms of being spiritually ungrounded.

See if this describes you or who you're thinking of. If we're talking about people who aren't watching right now.

Let's see. Nightmares, feeling very possessive, feeling selfish, having strong prejudice. Let's see here. Obsession with reliving past experiences or even an obsession with trying to figure out what happened in your past life. Let's see. Putting oneself in destructive situations.

Here's a big one, having a lack of boundaries.

Ouch. Ouch.

Being followed around by drama. Let's see. Having lots and lots of raw, raw faith, but no works to back that up like not being able to get it done. Having lots of works.

Doing, getting, getting, getting it done but absolutely no faith that this is going anywhere. It's not going to do anything.

These are all symptoms of being spiritually ungrounded. Your value system, your priority system, how you connect is off. It's against your nature.

Remember in our very first video in this four video series, what exactly is grounding?

When we defined it, it's being connected to your nature, to your zero, your neutral point. Going with the flow of nature and how empathic energy moves to and through you freely.

When it comes to being off around your beliefs and values of yourself, of the world around you, of the way that you understand energy, this can really affect your health in so many ways.

Especially when it comes from the spiritual perspective.

This week in particular, the technique that we want to look at for clearing and grounding your energy in the spiritual way, spiritual grounding, is actually asking for help.

Asking for help? What in the world? Why would I even care to ask for help? What does that have to do with my spirituality? Is being spiritually ungrounded? What the heck? Believe it or not.

Know this: "Your ability to ask for & receive help determines your #spiritual health"

Your ability to ask for help and receive it can determine your spiritual health.

Hello, this is what I do here all day. Here at the dojo I've been doing it for years. It's getting people to be able to receive help, health, their abundance, their visions, so on and so forth.

It's together we make that happen. Not by ourselves.

How are you going to ask for help and really around an area of your life where you're not sure? You're feeling uncertainty because what also qualifies this for spiritual grounding is that it's asking for help around what you fear.

It could be grounding that financial fear. Maybe for learning how to save for retirement. That is actually doing detriment to your spiritual empathic energy not dealing with an issue that big.

Or maybe it's asking for help maybe on a more energetic level.

Being able to communicate with your deceased pet or loved one. I can't figure it out. I know my puppy has something to tell me. I know that my grandmother has a message for me. I believe that I miss her. I have so much grief. Oh my god. I don't know what to do by myself.

There's so much spiritual turmoil in that. Being ungrounded within yourself.

Within yourself that it's really powerful reaching out and sharing that with another. This week in particular, believe it or not, the technique for grounding yourself spiritually is asking for help. Specifically around something that you fear.

Do you want to know why? I'll give you the secret sauce.

It's because you're going to feel vulnerable.

Yes, actually.

Vulnerability is one of the foundations to deep spiritual healing and grounding.

In a safe place, in the right hands. Who you ask matters. We ask people that are positive champions that make you feel grounded.

If you don't know what it's like to feel emotionally grounded or even physically grounded around another person, I can't stress this enough, there's lists. I like lists. I was like, just tell me what to select from. That's how I'm wired. Get the book.

My guides just said it's time to pull the oracle card for the week around spiritually grounding.

Let's take a look here. We got a few decks left. Angels of abundance. Another donated deck. Thanks Julie, by the way. Julie Shopa, clarityfinances.com. Another Doreen virtue. We've got 20 and counting here so far. Let's see.

Angels of abundance.

Interesting that financial energy is coming up around spiritual groundedness. What do we need to know this week around spiritual grounding? Detox your friendships.

Your abundance flow is being effected by the people with whom you're spending time. Be discerning about your associations and relationships.

Choose to be with people who are inspiring, generous, and supportive. This is awesome.

This is totally in alignment with what we were just channeling for you.

How can I? Maybe one of you or maybe you watching are thinking, who do I ask for help when I'm surrounded with so many crusty crabs? Time for a detoxing of friendships.

If you want to ask, how do I go about that? I'm right here. Click that respond button. Send me an email back. Reach out for help. I'm happy to support you in a private support session. I offer packages of that for that matter.

In particular, my guides are circling be discerning about your associations and relationships. In order to be discerning, that's a learned skill. You want to ask for help from one who is more discerning than you at first.

You need mentorship around discernment and cultivating that. Spiritual discernment is also contagious. If you are around by osmosis ... this is a rubbing an elbow. I'm not starting a lawn mower.

If you're rubbing elbows with other highly intuitive positive grounded empathic people like here at the dojo, not just me but we're a co op, by the way. We have amazing reiki practitioners, channels, counselors, consultants, coaches. We have a big tribe here to support you if you are looking for different forms of discernment. That you can absorb by osmosis. It's contagious off of others.

You got to detox your friendships this week so that you can ask for help and receive it in a safe way.

Comment below. Send me an email back what's coming up for you around this.

Have you been practicing being grounded? Are you being accountable? Are you actually doing the things that we're talking about here?

Or are you like, oh look. Moving pictures and now I'm off to the next thing. Bye Victoria. No. If that's you, I accept you anyway. I'll keep showing up and reminding you.

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube or at VictoriaWhitfield.com/freegift so that you can get your free meditation MP3 that's going to ground and clear your energy so you can get started grounding right now rather than waiting.

Reach out for help this week. There's so much love and positive energy around you. Once you get back connected to your nature.

Let's keep this conversation going. I look forward to hearing from you soon. See you next time. Bye.

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Ask for help, especially with something that stresses or intimidates you.

And allow yourself to receive help that's offered, even if it makes you uncomfortable because you are not the Giver (read: Controller).

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Is helping others hurting you?

Worried that if you say "no" to others' requests that people won't like you?

Struggling to keep up with your overcommitted schedule, because you "have to" do it all?

As natural givers, we love to help others and jump at opportunities to serve.

But what happens when we actually don't know how to say "no" with ease and grace?

Watch this weeks 8-minute love letter video to start standing in the truth that you don't know anybody anything.

"I have to do this."

This week's source wants you to know you don't owe anybody anything.

You do not owe any one any thing. You are free.

"Why would this be coming up, Victoria? What? Guides, what are you trying to say?"

In the energy I'm hearing to tell you that this week, in particular, you are going to feel pulled or obligated to reciprocate, to agree, and to commit to someone or something out of a sense of an impulse, or like a, "I have to. I have to."

All right. Maybe you've been going through this recently, where you've been pulled by your have-tos, pulled by your obligations. Pulled apart, not just pulled towards. Right?

Compulsion, and trying to keep up with everything, but you're being pulled apart at the seams where you're over-committed. Right? Or overbooked, or overwhelmed, overextended, et cetera.

What's underneath all of that, the Guides want you to know, is that you don't owe any one anything, but for now, you believe that you do.

So if someone has paid you a compliment or supported your business, or loved you in the past, or asked you a question, there's this compulsion within you, and I'm talking to you. I'm talking to you directly. Just you, to say, "Yes," or "Oh, I want to support you," or "Oh, I'm here for you no matter what. No matter how crazy they get. No matter how difficult things are."

No matter what's going on with you, right? There's the sense of I have to help other people. Right?

Because that's my purpose. That's all that I am is helping other people, but guess what? If all that you are is helping other people respectfully, who are you without other people?

Know this: If all you are is helping other people, then who are you without other people's problems? @SenseiWhitfield

That's a big question and I'm asking that with big love for you. I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with you, but there's a pattern of give, give, give, giving, and what happened to receiving? What happened to it? Is it uncomfortable, right, for you to receive?

Do you feel like you owe it to them? If the guy says, "Oh, you look really good today." Do you have to pay attention to him as he tells you the rest of his life story? If he offers you a drink, do you have to drink it?

Even if it's not in like that kind of dating situation. If you're at the party, right, maybe it's someone's birthday or a holiday, or something is going on right now as you're watching. Do you have to drink that alcohol? Do you owe it to them? To look like you're having a good time, right, but drinking.

Underneath, especially, our addictive parts of our personality, there's a sense of, "I owe it. I owe it to them."

Now this is not all addictive personality, but quite a few. If this has to do with some sort of a social situation, there is a sense of, "I have to fit in. I have to. I have to. I must," and that, is not the case. You always, always, always have a choice.

The phrase that you say to release yourself from this is, "Thank you and I choose not to."

Like if someone asks, "Hey, can you come move the furniture, and my kids, and my foot, and my house?" "Thank you. Thanks for thinking of me. I choose not to," or "Thank you. No. No, I can't." It stops there.

Don't give excuses. You don't owe anybody any excuse. You don't owe anybody any explanations. No is sufficient, because it's a choice.

There's a difference between, okay, reciprocity, and being tied energetically and karmically into transactional relationships. There's a difference between that and choosing when and where you desire to participate.

You desire to contribute consciously, and this is where I'm hearing the oracle cards coming through in the energy.

This week is Archangel Michael Oracle Cards Deck. Brand new, are now 19 decks and counting, here at the dojo.

If you ever want to donate, send it on over. You can send me an email at senseivictoriawhitfield@gmail.com to find out exactly how you can donate your decks or just bring them in the next time you come and visit.

Okay, so Archangel Michael, what do we need to know right now?

I'm already hearing things in the energy. He's very, very, very vocal. Archangel Michael, what do we need to know right now about not owing anybody? What do we need to know?

You are on the right path.

You're on the right path, and each card in this deck comes with a prayer, so it says, and let's all close our eyes for a moment.

"Archangel Michael, I call upon you now. Thank you for giving me loud and clear guidance that I easily understand. Thank you for motivating me and filling me with the courage and confidence to make healthful life changes."

This is where we'll leave off.

It takes courage and confidence to be conscious. You can decide to participate or not. You're free to come and go as you please. Know that you're on the right path, and know you're alignment.

Know your healing journey, so that when someone comes in and invites you to participate in their stream, right, in their journey, you can tell the difference between yours and theirs.

If you need help seeing the difference, send me an email back, or a comment below. I'm happy to help you to get more clarity on that, or if we need to go for a deeper dive in a private session.

Know that you're on your right path. Find your inner alignment, and remember, you don't owe anybody any thing, so I'm sending you so much love.

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters every week first, and ready, muah! See you next week.   

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Remember that you don't have to explain yourself — "no" is sufficient.

The next time you decide to decline, try leaving the excuses, apologies and explanations out.

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

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Stuck in a rut? 

Tired of feeling drained when you go out?

Wishing peace, ease and joy were your normal?

Being highly sensitive makes you more susceptible to the emotions and energies in your environment.

But is there a way to shift out of absorbing others' energetic "cooties" all the time?

Watch this week's 9-minute Love Letter to take your power back by moving your zero!

"I might look bored, but I don't feel that way!"

This week, Source is calling for you to move your zero.

Raise it. It's time for you to raise your zero. This week in particular.

Now, the guides say that whenever you're watching this, doesn't matter what time or day that you are watching this, but this week that you are experiencing is going to be rather emotionally charged for you. You're going to be around a lot of people who have a lot of emotional energy for some reason.

You're going to be feeling a lot of emotional energy yourself this week in particular. Whenever you're watching this video, doesn't matter when, right, but this is a time of high emotional energy.

How you show up during these times of high emotional energy determines how you experience these times.

Now it doesn't mean that life is always intense and it's hard. Maybe you did your protect yourself. No, no, no, no. This is more about raising your awareness of how you show up to your life during high emotional times in your life.

The guides say you clicked play on this video in particular because it's going to be one of those weeks.

Whether it's high emotion like on the joyful end of the spectrum, or a high emotion on the crusty crabby side of the spectrum.

What matters most is how you feel. What matters most is how you feel. That doesn't mean being selfish but instead we want to emphasize and capitalize the word how. What matters most is how you feel so how you show up is determined by how or the generation behind, the techniques behind your feelings.

Know this: What matters most is HOW you feel. How you show up determines your quality of life.

With that everybody has a set point, a zero, that they show up naturally to life with. Maybe your zero facial expression is bored, flat, relaxed. You may feel inwardly that yeah I feel relaxed.

As I relax all the muscles of my face yes, but what that also projects however, is a I'm not trying. I'm not trying. I'm not on. I'm not generating right now and that's perfectly fine.

What matters most is how you are feeling in that relaxed face or zero point mindset. Are you in that moment resting yourself and being at ease at your zero because you feel peaceful or because you don't care?

Or are you resting all the muscles of your face because you feel pleasured in different parts of your body and you're focusing on those pleasurable spaces? Or are you in pain and you just want to numb yourself, right?

What matters most is how you feel. Find your zero wherever your vibrational set point is, your normal and raise it. Move your zero up the scale so that zero would be where maybe a two is instead.

Maybe a two is the sense of there's a slight smile and a lifted eyebrow if you saw the difference, right? Zero before. Zero now. Right? There's a slight difference there.

When we move our zero physiologically that also has psychological effect on how we show up.

This is going to come in really handy this week in particular because you're going to be surrounded by people who their normal and their vibrational set point is low, worried, angry, walls up or it could be intense or controlling or needy.

Just high emotion, like strong emotionally charged or pleasing. Pleasing is their normal. Whoa.

For you, you've got to move your zero to a space of power no matter where you're at.

This is actually an advanced form of self-protection so my guides are saying, "Pull a card Victoria." Pull a card.

You may recognize all of these techniques from a former love letter but guides say it's important for you to be reminded do it again. Do it more. Turn up the volume on where your zero point is this week in particular.

The oracle cards for the week are the Archangel Michael. Oracle cards deck.

What do we need to know Archangel Michael about moving our zero?

Your children are watched over by the angels.

I'm getting this feeling of deja vu. It's interesting. The prayer on the card is, "Dear Guardian Angels of my children born and unborn. Thank you for watching over my children and ensuring their happiness and safety. Please guide me so that I know the best ways to be a good parent and role model for my own and other people's children."

This is where we're going to leave off this week.

If you are a parent, yes it's important for you to know that your children are safe and it's for you to move your normal of your zero set point around your children and what you think about them from being worried, concern and following to trusting at ease.

Moving from worried, concern, controlling to trust and at ease. Try to move your zero. See if you can. Just experiment. Just this week in particular.

If you don't have children, this is more about either your inner child or your projects, right? Your business projects. Your social projects.

Things that you're working on and have created out in life. Know that you don't have to be on worry, control, concern with your inner child and feeling safe personally or worry, control, concern on your business or the projects that you're working on professionally or socially but instead move to trust, belief and at ease.

See how this week in particular what it feels like to move your zero. What is your expectation? How do you rest this week? Move it.

Just see if you can move it because when you shift the foundation of all your feelings and your emotions, right, you lift the foundation of the entire house, right? The entire structure of who you are shifts if you start from your zero set point.

Send me an email back. Comment below. Tell me what's coming up for you around this.

Is this right on time?

Do you have more questions? Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your Love Letters first every week and I'll see you next time. Bye. 

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Move your zero up a notch or two.

Try out changing how you feel when you're at rest from neutral-bored to neutral-humorous or neutral-observational.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Is helping others hurting you?

Worried that if you say "no" to others' requests that people won't like you?

Struggling to keep up with your overcommitted schedule, because you "have to" do it all?

As natural givers, we love to help others and jump at opportunities to serve.

But what happens when we actually don't know how to say "no" with ease and grace?

Watch this weeks 8-minute love letter video to start standing in the truth that you don't know anybody anything.

"I have to do this."

This week's source wants you to know you don't owe anybody anything.

You do not owe any one any thing. You are free.

"Why would this be coming up, Victoria? What? Guides, what are you trying to say?"

In the energy I'm hearing to tell you that this week, in particular, you are going to feel pulled or obligated to reciprocate, to agree, and to commit to someone or something out of a sense of an impulse, or like a, "I have to. I have to."

All right. Maybe you've been going through this recently, where you've been pulled by your have-tos, pulled by your obligations. Pulled apart, not just pulled towards. Right?

Compulsion, and trying to keep up with everything, but you're being pulled apart at the seams where you're over-committed. Right? Or overbooked, or overwhelmed, overextended, et cetera.

What's underneath all of that, the Guides want you to know, is that you don't owe any one anything, but for now, you believe that you do.

So if someone has paid you a compliment or supported your business, or loved you in the past, or asked you a question, there's this compulsion within you, and I'm talking to you. I'm talking to you directly. Just you, to say, "Yes," or "Oh, I want to support you," or "Oh, I'm here for you no matter what. No matter how crazy they get. No matter how difficult things are."

No matter what's going on with you, right? There's the sense of I have to help other people. Right?

Because that's my purpose. That's all that I am is helping other people, but guess what? If all that you are is helping other people respectfully, who are you without other people?

Know this: If all you are is helping other people, then who are you without other people's problems? #bk2ys @SenseiWhitfield

That's a big question and I'm asking that with big love for you. I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with you, but there's a pattern of give, give, give, giving, and what happened to receiving? What happened to it? Is it uncomfortable, right, for you to receive?

Do you feel like you owe it to them? If the guy says, "Oh, you look really good today." Do you have to pay attention to him as he tells you the rest of his life story? If he offers you a drink, do you have to drink it?

Even if it's not in like that kind of dating situation. If you're at the party, right, maybe it's someone's birthday or a holiday, or something is going on right now as you're watching. Do you have to drink that alcohol? Do you owe it to them? To look like you're having a good time, right, but drinking.

Underneath, especially, our addictive parts of our personality, there's a sense of, "I owe it. I owe it to them."

Now this is not all addictive personality, but quite a few. If this has to do with some sort of a social situation, there is a sense of, "I have to fit in. I have to. I have to. I must," and that, is not the case. You always, always, always have a choice.

The phrase that you say to release yourself from this is, "Thank you and I choose not to."

Like if someone asks, "Hey, can you come move the furniture, and my kids, and my foot, and my house?" "Thank you. Thanks for thinking of me. I choose not to," or "Thank you. No. No, I can't." It stops there.

Don't give excuses. You don't owe anybody any excuse. You don't owe anybody any explanations. No is sufficient, because it's a choice.

There's a difference between, okay, reciprocity, and being tied energetically and karmically into transactional relationships. There's a difference between that and choosing when and where you desire to participate.

You desire to contribute consciously, and this is where I'm hearing the oracle cards coming through in the energy.

This week is Archangel Michael Oracle Cards Deck. Brand new, are now 19 decks and counting, here at the dojo.

If you ever want to donate, send it on over. You can send me an email at senseivictoriawhitfield@gmail.com to find out exactly how you can donate your decks or just bring them in the next time you come and visit.

Okay, so Archangel Michael, what do we need to know right now?

I'm already hearing things in the energy. He's very, very, very vocal. Archangel Michael, what do we need to know right now about not owing anybody? What do we need to know?

You are on the right path.

You're on the right path, and each card in this deck comes with a prayer, so it says, and let's all close our eyes for a moment.

"Archangel Michael, I call upon you now. Thank you for giving me loud and clear guidance that I easily understand. Thank you for motivating me and filling me with the courage and confidence to make healthful life changes."

This is where we'll leave off.

It takes courage and confidence to be conscious. You can decide to participate or not. You're free to come and go as you please. Know that you're on the right path, and know you're alignment.

Know your healing journey, so that when someone comes in and invites you to participate in their stream, right, in their journey, you can tell the difference between yours and theirs.

If you need help seeing the difference, send me an email back, or a comment below. I'm happy to help you to get more clarity on that, or if we need to go for a deeper dive in a private session.

Know that you're on your right path. Find your inner alignment, and remember, you don't owe anybody any thing, so I'm sending you so much love.

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters every week first, and ready, muah! See you next week.   

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

VictoriaWhitfield.com
Facebook.com/SenseiVictoriaWhitfield

Just for Today...

Remember that you don't have to explain yourself — "no" is sufficient.

The next time you decide to decline, try leaving the excuses, apologies and explanations out.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want spiritual support on your healing journey but don't know where to start? Tell me!

Click the grey button below to book your complimentary 30-minute Share Your Story Call  to start your healing journey, today!

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Know what others want but can't figure out what you want?

Are you a highly sensitive and/or empathic individual that keeps getting hijacked by negative energy?

Want to improve your communication skills to win friends and influence people?

Mirroring is the rapport-building act of mimicking what others around you are doing.

When you do this intentionally it can be powerful and effective in a positive way, but when you do this unconsciously and all the time, it can really muddy up your mind and energy.

Watch this week's 10-minute Love Letter video to discover and harness the power of mirroring!

"I don't know what I'm good at."

This week, Source wants you to take notice of how and when you are mirroring. Let me explain.

Mirroring is something that we do to establish rapport and a connection to communicate and understand others with, right.

An example of mirroring is when someone is using their hands and nodding to speak with you rather than just sitting, which would not be mirroring.

You, as you listen, you nod and smile at them, or when you respond, you'll use your hands too.

This is a form of connections-making, rapport-building and communication, mirroring. There is a huge difference though that the guides want you to understand between intentional mirroring and unintentional mirroring.

Intentional mirroring is when we are very clearly using that technique to decide, "Okay. I am going to mirror this person to make them feel more comfortable, feel more connected" or "So that this other person understands me more, I'm going to really go along at their pace, slow down my speech or I'll speed it up so I can connect better to them," right.

This is the sign of a strong communicator, is that they're conscious about and strategic, the guides say in particular, about how and when they mirror others in the way that they communicate.

Now, naturally sensitive and intuitive, empathic people such as you and I, we do this on autopilot. There's good and not so good aspects to it.

Let's go to unintentional mirroring. Unintentional mirroring is when, if someone is coming into the situation with frustration or they're activated and intense and you are relaxed, you get swept away by their emotions.

Or if the ... Oh God. This is the worst one. When the hungry children commercial comes on or the animal abuse commercial comes on, ugh, and there's crying and the mirroring then is, "Oh my God. I feel emotional too."

Then because we're natural empaths, it's compounded. Not only are you establishing connection on autopilot, unintentionally, autopilot mirroring, but then on top of that then all of that energy and all of their emotions begins to flow through you and it can really hijack your energy and your mood for the day.

So this can be really serious, especially on the far end of the spectrum. I can't even be on camera.

There's intentional, unintentional and over here. The far end of the spectrum for mirroring, and this is something that you've really got to pay attention to this week, is categorized by feelings of "I don't know what I want" or if someone asks you, "Oh, what do you want to eat tonight?" "I don't know what, whatever you want," immediate mirroring.

It's beyond unintentional. It's a loss of center, a loss of grounding, a loss of self. If you're wondering, "What's my life purpose?" or "I don't know what I'm good at" or "I'm good at everything" or "I'm not good with making decisions. I change my mind all of the time, left and right."

If you don't feel centered or a sense of clarity, it may be, and I'm hearing the gods say, underlining and seeing them underlining this in the energy, it may be that you're off spectrum. You are so far mirroring that you've lost your own center.

Know this: Unintentional mirroring is a sign that you're not centered. #checkyourself @SenseiWhitfield

What happens when you're all the way over there is that, this is the shadow side. Be kind to yourself. You have to hear this. You can become an unconscious energy vampire.

When we're so far off and we're just mirroring everyone at the drop of a hat, that begins to drain all those around us because we're sucking in inspiration and energy from all those that are around us.

Just an example. If you're talking to people and they just start getting tired and tired and you're like, "Oh, why don't they just tell me to stop talking?" No, no, no. It's important for you this week in particular, the guides are saying, to notice when you're on the far end of the spectrum, right. Find your center.

Specifically this week, it's by watching for when you are over-mirroring. I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy to weigh in on this topic.

Healing with the angels oracle cards deck in particular came forward to send some healing energy to us. What if I don't know if I'm mirroring and you know what? I want to be able to be intentional and strategic about it. I want to get out of being unintentional and right out of balance.

Angels, what do we need to know? How can we send more healing to this situation?

Don't shuffle the top card. Woo. Okay. Freedom. This is the freedom card the guides are telling me to read to you specifically out of the book, all right. Freedom.

"The angels guide you to freely express your true thoughts and feelings with love. You may feel trapped right now by life conditions. By drawing this card, the angels ask you to realize that you are the only jail-keeper that ever surfaces in your own life."

You are the only jail-keeper.

"Whenever you realize that you have the power to be free, freedom follows. Everything that you do in your life is by choice, and you are free to choose again always. Even prisoners are free to choose their thoughts so that they feel peace and happiness under any conditions. The next time you begin a sentence with the words, 'I have to,' please stop yourself. Ask God and the angels to show you some alternatives. They will either help you complete the task from a loving mindset so that you don't feel trapped or they will guide you to do something else that you will love."

Here's where the freedom card comes into play specifically with mirroring. Becoming conscious is becoming aware of yourself.

It's important for you, in order to embrace your freedom as a person and as a sentient being, to become more self-aware. It starts this week or it continues this week with noticing when you are mirroring. Just watch.

Maybe write it down in a journal every time you notice, "Oh, I mirrored that person. I mirrored that person" or "That emotion wasn't mine. I was mirroring them" versus you're not mirroring someone and you're just empathically picking it up.

This is the road to developing empathic mastery, by the way, for all those of you who know about being an empath.

Working with your mirroring and increasing your self-awareness and consciousness level can help you master it as a powerful tool for psychic self-defense.

If you want to know more about that or exactly how to go about that, send me an email back, comment below and say, "Victoria, I want to know more about that" or "I'd like a session around that in particular because this is something I feel that's near and dear to my heart."

Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week and I will see you next time. Sending you so much love and healing energy. Mwah. See you.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Are you too quick to say yes when others ask you for anything?

Finding yourself overscheduled, overwhelmed and overbooked lately?

Scared to say "No" because you don't want to hurt their feelings?

It's natural to love helping people and being involved -- heck, you're known for being the helper, healer and leader!

But what happens when you feel like you can't say "No" because you're afraid they'll think you're selfish for taking time for yourself?

Watch this week's 9-minute Love Letter video to stop over-committing yourself to others.

"But I'm the helper. That's what I do."

This week, Source says, "Don't commit. In fact, stop it. Don't commit. Don't do it."

Now, for all those of you out there who are thinking, "Yes! I don't have to put in work" — this message is not what you would expect, so hold your horses.

Instead, Source is saying don't commit because you need to stop over-committing.

This is for all of us out there in the tribe who love to say, "Yes, sure I will. Oh! I'll help you. Yeah, no problem. I can clear my schedule to do this random thingy for you at the drop of a hat, sure." Or, "Oh! I didn't have plans this weekend, even though I wanted to spend time with myself. Sure, I'll go out to your party and help you with all the blah blah..."

Don't! Stop! Don't commit. If only just for now, if only just for this week, give yourself some space.

I know you want to rescue everybody, and you feel like that's your role, telling yourself: "Oh, I'm the helper, I'm the healer. I heal people, I help people. That's what I do."

Slow your roll. This week in particular, Source is resounding very strongly with this message, and don't commit.

Practice saying this: "I can't." or this one ... ready for it? "No."

Did you know that you're capable of still beaming love, healing, compassion, acceptance, support, kindness and generosity while saying no, and not committing.

Amazing, right? Who would've thought? 🙂

If only just for now, Source wants you to know that your time is valuable, just as much as those who are coming to you for your time, or for your advice, or for your hands as an extra set of hands in helping.

I don't know who I'm speaking to, but I feel like I'm speaking to someone very specific right now.

This is who you are. You're the helper, you're nurturer, you're the backbone, you're the go-to girl, the go-to guy.

This week you've got to flex that muscle of, "No." Or, "I can't." Or try saying, "Thank you. I'm going to take some time for myself instead."

Never say, "Thank you, but ..." everyone only hears the "but" so say "and".

Be kind to yourself if this is really shaking you to the core.

This week you've got to flex that "No" muscle. This happens when you say, "No, I would like to do this instead. Thank you, though."

Always be generous; always be loving.

Now the guides are saying, it's time for the oracle card of the week—in particular we're going to be using the, "Talking to Heaven" oracle cards deck that was donated to the dojo.

This is specifically about receiving guidance from our loved ones who have passed away, or ancestors who are on the other side, and hearing intuitive wisdom that they have and that they would like to share with us.

There are a lot of people out there who would love to send us a message or two.

Asking: What do you guys have to share with us around, "Don't commit"? Is there anything that you could offer?

"We are so connected." 

It's a beautiful quantum image there of bubbles within bubbles just going off into infinity in this card.

There's this inter-dimensional depiction of what being connected and what all our lives look like as plurality in the energy.

The guides are telling me to read this entry in particular to you. 

Now these readings are channeled by a medium, so it's as if the person on the other person is speaking:

"I've been able to review my life here in heaven and I've seen how perfectly everything we do is woven together. There are no accidents or wrong turns, everything makes sense now. I wanted to give you the exciting news that in my life review I saw that you and I have a strong soul connection through many lifetimes.

We've been each other's teachers, sometimes in unpleasant ways,  several times. In this lifetime we were magnetically drawn together because we had mutual work to do for ourselves personally and for others, and now that I'm here our connection remains strong, just like when I was living in my body, our thoughts are in sync with one another. We often think of each other simultaneously, so think of me and know that I'm doing the same always with love."

Grandma. Thank you.

Our loved ones on the other side want us to know that we are intimately, intimately connected no matter what.

Not even death could separate our bond.

On this scale then, be kind to yourself if you are afraid that disagreement or declining will sever ties.

Not even death can sever ties between you and those that Source has put you together with in this lifetime.

Give yourself permission to not commit.

The people that are there for you will respect your choice to say "no". They will respect your decision. Don't be afraid of severing ties or hurting anyone's feelings.

Here's a ninja trick: if you're afraid of hurting someone's feelings, just say so: "I want you to know I'm afraid I'm going to hurt your feelings, but I can't." Or, "Thank you for telling me this. I feel uncomfortable, but I have to be honest, I don't want to."

Be genuine, be open; it's all right.

This is a bit of a sticky situation.

It's tough for us who are highly sensitive intuitive individuals to really speak up and decline, right? It takes a bit of courage and some extra energy.

Send me an email back or a comment below to share what's coming up for you? What do you feel hearing this? Is this resonating?

Okay, make sure that you share this video for someone that you know who really needs to tone the over-commitment down, and subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week.

By the way, this Saturday I will see you in New York City for the Love Tour, right? Saturday June 18th from 2 to 5pm, send me an email back at senseivictoriawhitfield@gmail.com if you'd like to join us, it's free.

Hopefully I'll see you there.

If not, see you next week here. Bye!

Know this: You can be generous and loving while declining someone's offer. Your time matters, too. @SenseiWhitfield

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Prepare and practice saying your own loving decline phrase, such as: "No, I won't able to do that; thanks for thinking of me, though."

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