Do you feel like you're called to support others?

Are you a leader or manager in your home or your organization?

Wish you had the energy to serve more people?

This month, we're going to talk about exactly what resource can fuel you for the long-haul continuing to show up in service.

That resource, that essential nutrient is: loving yourself.

Watch this week's 12-minute Love Letter video to find out exactly WHY loving yourself is the key to truly loving others.

"I'm always the one giving advice."

This month I'm so excited to get to share with you the next deep dive topic that we're going to be going through over the next four weeks together.

As you know, my guides have said that it's time that you and I continue to have a deeper relationship and probe deeper into the perks of life together so that we can have more intimate bond and better understand each other as well as ourselves, so that we can lift up our communities and our clients together in the process.

So this month's deep dive topic is loving yourself.

Loving yourself.

Now, I'm sure that you've heard about loving yourself from so many people and different teachers, different books, that you may have gone through.

But loving yourself is a powerful, powerful, powerful nutrient that fuels the greatest healers and leaders, period.

If you are called to serve others, right, to take care of others, to make sure that they're okay and support the community, support your clients, support your family, that means that you are a leader and that you are a healer.

And you know what it's like to love others. You're used to it. You're really accustomed to being that loving presence, that supportive presence to others and that's beautiful.

Also it can get draining. It can get so draining when you're always being the strong one.

You're the one giving the advice, the support, dishing out the transformation, the information, the coordination, all the things, you being the anchor.

What happens sometimes is that in the course of being service-oriented, right? We show up to serve. We show up to give. It's so generous. It's so powerful.

What happens sometimes is that we forget that we need. The one who is serving and supporting the tribe, whatever your tribe looks like, don't forget we also need to fill our cup.

So we're going to take the next four weeks to cover exactly how to begin loving yourself. Now more than ever my guides say you've got to hear this message and the people that you support need you to love yourself.

If you know me very well. You know that my number one muse and mentor is RuPaul, the drag queen. RuPaul, I love him, I love him from the bottom of my heart.

He taught me how to love myself and his phrase, his mantra is, "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love anybody else?"

Can I get an amen? Everyone's like, Amen, yes. Yeah, I love RuPaul. I love you, I love you, I love you. If you ever see this, thank you. You've changed my life.

With that, every single healer and every single leader has got to have a regular practice of self-love and taking care of yourself.

As is the custom here at the Dojo, we start with why so we're going to go through different, exactly how processes. You know that I dish out homework. Here just for today is what you're going to do. That's who I am. I'm a teacher at heart. That's what we do, right?

With that, we want to make sure that you start with why so that you understand exactly what's the fuel behind loving yourself because if you don't understand what's the fuel, what's the inspiration, what's the motivation behind loving yourself, you're not going to do it.

You're not. It's just going to go to the bottom or not even catch the task list. It's not even going to be on the back burner. It's just going to get thrown out the window or in the trash can, your self-love, your self-care.

Now I believe in starting with why and those of you who are watching who love Simon Sinek, I'm sure you're feeling me.

The reason why it's time for you to love yourself is because you're a healer and because you're a leader, because you're the caregiver. The reason why you're going to love yourself and learn how to do it on a whole new level this month in particular is because you're called to support others.

The vision that the guides send to illustrate this why is that you're here quenching others' thirst. There are people who are thirsty for what you have got.

Maybe you have incredible advice. Maybe you're a fantastic cook. Maybe you're a beautiful and profound listener. Perhaps no one delegates and coordinates better than you. You're the best person to organize people, right? You're a people person.

Or perhaps you're a Mom or a Dad, and you're the one taking care of your kids. You've got to lead them and love them and teach them so that they can grow and feel safe as wholly grounded and well-rounded human beings.

So as you are called to be the leader, to show up to give, you're quenching these people's thirst with the energy that you are giving constantly, constantly quenching your thirst.

How much water do you drink each day? There's so much body that our bodies need. We're above 70% made of water. If you're the one quenching the thirst, how do you do that? How do you get water?

Let's do it on a mundane level before we take it to the illustration level. How do you get water to bring it to someone? You get a cup, you know, you get a cup, you go over to a faucet of some sort and you bring the cup to them and say, "Here" or you help them.

So, you see what happened right there? You had a cup, brought it over to the faucet or you had a pitcher and brought it over to the faucet, some sort of source of water, and then you went to offer them the cup or to pour them a drink.

This is the illustration behind why it's time for you to love yourself, the guides are sending to you. It's very simple. We don't do things complex here. The simpler, the better and the faster you can implement, the more you can integrate it.

Know this: The people that you support need you to love yourself.

The self-love comes in having the faucet. If you were to pour someone a cup of water, you wouldn't take your boob and squirt them out like, oh my God, or you wouldn't try and cry into a cup so that they could drink your tears or any other of your fluids or blah.

Unless you're a Mom, you're giving your breast milk to your baby, but typically you don't offer of yourself in order to quench others' thirst. You go to the water source, right?

This is the illustration of what loving yourself is so that you can continue to show up in service. Fill your cup first, fill your pitcher first before you go out and serve others. By the way, once you have your water source, you can serve people more of the time.

You can serve more people more of the time in a sustainable ongoing way. This is why its time for you to learn how to love yourself and find your love resource so that you can continue to fill up and bring more, and fill up and bring more.

So that you're pouring from abundance rather than from lack.

Now, I'm hearing the Oracle Cards calling for the week. It is The Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards, my favoritest, favorite deck. Thank you, Doreen Virtue for making this. And thank you to Success Express that originally Bonnie and Susan, they originally donated it.

Goddesses, what do we need to know right now about loving ourselves? Why? Show us why.

Oh, this is so good. Damara, guiding children. You are good at helping, counseling and healing children. Use your skills to help children now.

So my guides are taking me, so on one level, yes, we're talking to those of you who are parents and teachers.

Loving yourself, you need the strength to be able to hold space for the children that you are taking care of, that demand an extremely high amount of your energy, your investment, your time, your love. And you want to be there for the kids, and take excellent care of them.

But on another level my guides are taking me to those who are entrepreneurs, leaders and managers, where you are guiding the inner child or those who are under your care.

You are good at helping, counseling and healing others, and you want to care for those who are in your charge at the same level that a loving parent would take care of their children. Your employees are your children. Your clients are your children.

You want to protect them and love on them at the same level that you would for your children but in order to do that, in order to get the strength that you need, you've got to have that source of energy.

This month, we're going to show you exactly how to get that.

So go ahead and comment below. Send me an email back.

What's coming up for you seeing this card and this topic? Do you feel that this topic is timely?

Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week and we'll see you next time. Bye. See you soon.

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Fill your cup first.

Do something loving for yourself that energized you BEFORE you go to serve and support others.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Are you a worry-wart?

Do you believe that when you love someone, you should worry about them to show you care?

Wish your life was less stressful?

Worry has been said to be a negative form of prayer for something you don't want.

So why do we worry so much?

Watch this week's 10-minute Love Letter video to understand what worry really is, and why you can't seem to stop doing it!

"I'm a worry wart."

This week, the question is: Why so worried?

Why are you so worried? It would be really easy for me to just tell you, "Stop worrying! Don't worry anymore. Let it go. Release it. Release the hounds of your worry," but that's not what I've been guided to relay to you this week in particular.

Instead, this is a digging week, a journaling week, a self-reflection, internal, introspection week.

Why so worried? Perhaps you are someone who other people have called, or you self-identify as, "I'm a worry wart. I worry about my kids. I worry about my business. I worry about the economy. I worry about my health. I worry about my boyfriend," or "I worry about my pets. I worry about what I'm going to make for dinner tonight."

Perhaps you self-identify as, "I'm a worry wart," or other people might have said, "Oh she's always worrying all the time."

Maybe your husband or your wife, your significant other has said that about you, you know, your partner. Maybe, in business, the other person is like the visionary, creative risk-taker, and you're the worrier. "How are we going to do this? Let me look at all the metrics and get into the nuts and bolts of things."

Worry is suffering.

I'm sorry to have to be the one to break that to you, but worrying is a form of suffering, so the more that you identify with being a worry wart, or being someone who worries a lot, the more you identify with having a life that is driven by your suffering, by the way you identify that.

It's not something that anybody else puts on you. I know this is a little bit tough to hear, but I want you to know this because I care about you.

The guides are also saying worse yet, you may be someone who associates worry with caring. If worry, under our definition currently, is suffering, that means you associate suffering with caring, or better yet, love with suffering. There's this sense of, "Oh gosh," fear of being in intimate relationships because, "What if I care too much? What if it ends?" And we begin to worry about that.

Suffering before anything has happened, or before there is any proof of something to legitimately take care of and respond to.

Know this: Worry is suffering. The more you identify as a "worry wart," the more you ask for a life driven by suffering. #letitgo

Be kind to yourself. If this is you, I know this is tough to hear if this is you. I'm feeling a lot of tense energy coming through as we're channeling.

When we are worrying, we are actually managing and creating a sense of felt control and influence on an object, or a person, or something, a situation that it's impossible to control or manage.

Take, for example, love. When we worry, we create this connection through the management of how we feel and how we think things are going to go for them.

Like, "Oh what if this happens, and what if this happens, and what if this happens?" Because you've suffered your way through all of the imaginary possible situation and scenarios. Get ready for this.

It gives you a sense of significance, whereas without that, all that suffering and imagining all of that, you wouldn't feel, for some reason, secure or significant to that person that you care about.

Did you know that you are so special that, in fact, you don't have to be responsible for figuring out every future by yourself, especially if you're worrying about somebody else. Include them. Hello? Share what's on your heart.

Why so worried? Why do you associate and root your sense of significance as a human being, or as a mother, or as a lover, or as an owner? Why do you associate your significance with worry, and your ability to envision and create possible negative outcomes?

Don't blame it on anybody. I just heard somebody say, "Well, my mother worried all the time, or my father." Oh my God. "He was always worried about the next thing." What next? Resist the urge to blame it on someone. This is a journaling opportunity. The guides, now, are calling, "Read the oracle cards."

Angel Therapy is the oracle cards deck for this week. I know this is a touchy, kind of squishy subject, but you've got to hear it.

This is what they said. Angels, please tell us. What do we need to know about worrying? Why? Why do we worry so much? What do we need to know? Get ready for this. Heal away addictions.

The guides just said, "This is a big reason why you cannot blame your parents, your society, or your community for your identity as a worrier." That's your addiction.

This is not to blame the victim. Instead I want you to know you have power to shift the story of your life, and the story of who you are. You don't have to be worried all the time. You don't have to be "the worrier." There's more to life than suffering through her.

"It's time to let go of behaviors that are blocking you from your heart's desire. Ask Archangel Raphael to help you with this healing."

I'm just going to do this in behalf of you.

Archangel Raphael, for whoever is watching right now- Whoo, the energy. For whoever is watching right now who is filled with worry, or who identifies as being a worrier, I ask that you surround this person, or people, with your healing green light and infuse their heart with your healing energy. Thank you. I feel your presence so strong right now. Lift the worry out of them. Take it away, and we give all of our worries over to you, over to Source, over to God, knowing that we are never alone in that which concerns us. We ask that you heal the identity around worry, and that we be released to a higher vibration, from being the worrier to being the communicator, the connector. Let us come out of our caves and into the world to shine our light in the way that we have been built to in this lifetime, and so it is.

Comment below or send me an e-mail back. What's coming up for you around worrying? Did you need to hear that? What did you feel during that sequence just now? Perhaps it was a prayer or meditation for you. Let me know.

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By the way, share this with the worrier in your life. If you know who it is, don't let them continue on this path of self-imposed suffering. There's so much more to life than that. Okay?

Sending you so much love and blessings, and I'll see you next week. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Journal about why you worry or why you connect worry with caring or loving.

Make sure to really write out how worrying makes you feel significant and how it gives you an emotional sense of "felt control" as you worry.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

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Are you a worry-wart?

Do you believe that when you love someone, you should worry about them to show you care?

Wish your life was less stressful?

Worry has been said to be a negative form of prayer for something you don't want.

So why do we worry so much?

Watch this week's 10-minute Love Letter video to understand what worry really is, and why you can't seem to stop doing it!

"I'm a worry wart."

This week, the question is: Why so worried?

Why are you so worried? It would be really easy for me to just tell you, "Stop worrying! Don't worry anymore. Let it go. Release it. Release the hounds of your worry," but that's not what I've been guided to relay to you this week in particular.

Instead, this is a digging week, a journaling week, a self-reflection, internal, introspection week.

Why so worried? Perhaps you are someone who other people have called, or you self-identify as, "I'm a worry wart. I worry about my kids. I worry about my business. I worry about the economy. I worry about my health. I worry about my boyfriend," or "I worry about my pets. I worry about what I'm going to make for dinner tonight."

Perhaps you self-identify as, "I'm a worry wart," or other people might have said, "Oh she's always worrying all the time."

Maybe your husband or your wife, your significant other has said that about you, you know, your partner. Maybe, in business, the other person is like the visionary, creative risk-taker, and you're the worrier. "How are we going to do this? Let me look at all the metrics and get into the nuts and bolts of things."

Worry is suffering.

I'm sorry to have to be the one to break that to you, but worrying is a form of suffering, so the more that you identify with being a worry wart, or being someone who worries a lot, the more you identify with having a life that is driven by your suffering, by the way you identify that.

It's not something that anybody else puts on you. I know this is a little bit tough to hear, but I want you to know this because I care about you.

The guides are also saying worse yet, you may be someone who associates worry with caring. If worry, under our definition currently, is suffering, that means you associate suffering with caring, or better yet, love with suffering. There's this sense of, "Oh gosh," fear of being in intimate relationships because, "What if I care too much? What if it ends?" And we begin to worry about that.

Suffering before anything has happened, or before there is any proof of something to legitimately take care of and respond to.

Know this: Worry is suffering. The more you identify as a "worry wart," the more you ask for a life driven by suffering. #letitgo

Be kind to yourself. If this is you, I know this is tough to hear if this is you. I'm feeling a lot of tense energy coming through as we're channeling.

When we are worrying, we are actually managing and creating a sense of felt control and influence on an object, or a person, or something, a situation that it's impossible to control or manage.

Take, for example, love. When we worry, we create this connection through the management of how we feel and how we think things are going to go for them.

Like, "Oh what if this happens, and what if this happens, and what if this happens?" Because you've suffered your way through all of the imaginary possible situation and scenarios. Get ready for this.

It gives you a sense of significance, whereas without that, all that suffering and imagining all of that, you wouldn't feel, for some reason, secure or significant to that person that you care about.

Did you know that you are so special that, in fact, you don't have to be responsible for figuring out every future by yourself, especially if you're worrying about somebody else. Include them. Hello? Share what's on your heart.

Why so worried? Why do you associate and root your sense of significance as a human being, or as a mother, or as a lover, or as an owner? Why do you associate your significance with worry, and your ability to envision and create possible negative outcomes?

Don't blame it on anybody. I just heard somebody say, "Well, my mother worried all the time, or my father." Oh my God. "He was always worried about the next thing." What next? Resist the urge to blame it on someone. This is a journaling opportunity. The guides, now, are calling, "Read the oracle cards."

Angel Therapy is the oracle cards deck for this week. I know this is a touchy, kind of squishy subject, but you've got to hear it.

This is what they said. Angels, please tell us. What do we need to know about worrying? Why? Why do we worry so much? What do we need to know? Get ready for this. Heal away addictions.

The guides just said, "This is a big reason why you cannot blame your parents, your society, or your community for your identity as a worrier." That's your addiction.

This is not to blame the victim. Instead I want you to know you have power to shift the story of your life, and the story of who you are. You don't have to be worried all the time. You don't have to be "the worrier." There's more to life than suffering through her.

"It's time to let go of behaviors that are blocking you from your heart's desire. Ask Archangel Raphael to help you with this healing."

I'm just going to do this in behalf of you.

Archangel Raphael, for whoever is watching right now- Whoo, the energy. For whoever is watching right now who is filled with worry, or who identifies as being a worrier, I ask that you surround this person, or people, with your healing green light and infuse their heart with your healing energy. Thank you. I feel your presence so strong right now. Lift the worry out of them. Take it away, and we give all of our worries over to you, over to Source, over to God, knowing that we are never alone in that which concerns us. We ask that you heal the identity around worry, and that we be released to a higher vibration, from being the worrier to being the communicator, the connector. Let us come out of our caves and into the world to shine our light in the way that we have been built to in this lifetime, and so it is.

Comment below or send me an e-mail back. What's coming up for you around worrying? Did you need to hear that? What did you feel during that sequence just now? Perhaps it was a prayer or meditation for you. Let me know.

Subscribe on Youtube so that you get your love letters every week first.

By the way, share this with the worrier in your life. If you know who it is, don't let them continue on this path of self-imposed suffering. There's so much more to life than that. Okay?

Sending you so much love and blessings, and I'll see you next week. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Journal about why you worry or why you connect worry with caring or loving.

Make sure to really write out how worrying makes you feel significant and how it gives you an emotional sense of "felt control" as you worry.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want spiritual support on your healing journey but don't know where to start? Tell me!

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Curious about crystal healing?

Love trying new holistic therapies?

Trouble focusing during meditation?

Crystal therapy is a powerful tool for keeping you focused and disciplined, believe it or not!

Our gem friends are natural tools for rebalancing your health on a vibrational, energetic level.

Watch this week's 9-minute Love Letter video to learn how to start doing crystal meditation for yourself!

"How do I meditate with a crystal?"

This week, in particular, Source is asking that you get started meditating with crystals.

What do I mean by crystals?

There are, of course, lead crystals like the Swarovski crystals and things that are shiny, and pretty. Wonderful to look at.

But the crystals that I'm talking about, and the crystals Source is talking about, are minerals. Mineral specimens that could be tumbled, or ruff cut, or even particularly shaped.

We have few different crystal specimens here at the dojo, so I want to explain to you why crystals are awesome.

First off, they are libraries of healing information.

Picture this.

There's a philosophy called stone tape theory, which basically states that all stones are record keepers. They are constantly keeping record of all the energy that they have been exposed to.

Stone tape theory, therefore, explains paranormal experiences, like if you've ever been in a house where at a certain time of the day you start smelling a certain perfume, or cigar smoke, or footsteps start happening repeatedly.

It's because the natural energy of the house has recorded the emotional and physical life energy that has occurred there.

All stones, in particular, are capable of doing this, but they also have healing knowledge.

They're basically the natural computers of the earth.

If you have a crystal skull, for example, they are the natural internet. (I mean, if you want to take a deep dive on Google go ahead. Crystal skulls, meditation, enjoy.)

Two in particular here at the dojo, two of our crystal friends here wanted to come forward to talk to you.

This is rose quartz. His name is Pepe. He was a gift, and he's been charging for quite sometime here. Rose quartz. This is a wonderful example of a ruff cut barrel that you could meditate with.

Or down here is Jeff. Now how do my crystals have names? I just ask them and they tell me.

Pepe and Jeff here wanted to illustrate to you with me how to meditate with a crystal.

You can simply have one in your purse, or display one on your table, or your desk at work, or your bed side table, etc., to bring more healing energy.

Every stone has meaning.

By the way, this is rose quartz, which is good for the heart. In healing your heart, your inner child, feeling safe.

Jeff here, is fluorite in particular. What he works with is clarity, mental clarity, being organized, disciplined, focused, systems, creating systems, and really staying on your game on a regular basis. He's all about consistency.

I'm going to hold Jeff in particular. Peppy is down here sending you lots of love.

When you are meditating with a crystal, what you want to do is:

• • You hold your crystal in your hands 

• • You imagine that the energy of that crystal is flowing up your arms. Cycling through with your breath.

• Feeling that energy go through you, and exhaling going back into the stone creating a circuit of energy is one way to meditate with your crystal.

Another way, and I'm going to use Peppy for this illustration, is to look at all of the facets in great detail.

Really allowing your eye to go into all of the different quarks, nooks, and crannies. Perhaps rubbing your finger as well. Your thumb over the ridges activates more of the healing information.

Now all of this is to say that spending time with your crystals helps their healing information attune to your aura.

Your aura and their energy begin to talk to each other and harmonize. We are all, all living beings are harmonic.

The same way if you're singing in a choir, it's best to be in tune. Nature does that naturally. She creates harmony. Bring some crystals into your life. Crystal people such as Jeff and Pepe.

I'm hearing the oracle cards for the week.

It's the Crystal Oracle. Another gift deck. Thank you for your support. 

What do we need to know right now? I'm hearing this card.

Jeff is right here, and look what card came out. Fluorite.

You can't make this stuff up. Wow. Thanks Jeff. I think you really want to get through to people. How crazy. You know that's normal here. Get out.

All right. They're telling me to read, in particular:

Concentration, psychic protection, and emotional stability. Fluorite emanates a highly spiritual vibration that can shield you from a negative influence, or a negative person that is causing you to be emotionally imbalanced. Knowing that you are being surrounded by love and light and trust in the protection you are now receiving. Let go of your fears and concerns, and allow this wondrous healing to occur. Start to focus on the things that bring joy to your life. Focus on all you would love to be doing rather than worrying about what others think. You are safe and eternally loved. Nothing can harm you except for your own fears. Trust!

Here's where we'll leave off. It's time to bring in some crystal energy to really help anchor your aura, and make you feel more safe and grounded as you continue forward.

Know this: #Crystal energy will help #anchor your #aura and make you feel more #safe and #grounded. @SenseiWhitfield

They come from the earth, so bringing more earth energy can really help you.

Send me an email back. Comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you. If you're curious about crystals.

By the way, size does not matter. Relax. Pepe is just as awesome as Jeff. Don't feel like I got to get a gigantic one.

What matters most is how you feel when you're with your crystal.

Bring more earth energy so that you can feel more grounded and protected this week in particular.

Send me pictures. I want to see your crystals, okay?

Sending you so much love. We all are, and get ready.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Overwhelmed by other people's energy lately?

Feeling overworked because you can't say "no" when other people ask you to do them a favor?

Scared that you're headed for burnout?

You can release yourself from this vicious cycle.

It's time to stop enabling other people's victim behavior, and let them start saving themselves for a change.

Watch the above 8-minute video to let go of managing other people's drama!

"I don't have to play this game anymore."

I'm hearing the Oracle cards calling in the energy right now.

This week, in particular, Source is telling you to be on the lookout for where are you allowing excessive energy for people to stomp all over you.

Or allowing them to bulldoze over your sense of personal calm with their emotions. Or their work - you're taking it and putting on your back from theirs. Transferring it to you.

They have a wonderfully low tolerance for how much work, or how much emotion, or how much silence in themselves they're willing to tolerate.

"Oh, I don't have to carry the work, you'll take it. Great. I don't have to sort through my emotions and my problems, you will. Great. I don't have to hold all of my thoughts within me and analyze them myself. Great you will."

Dump, dump, dump.

The only reason why you're catching the dump is because you're automatically saying, "Okay."

There's an agreement there.

This is not to shame or guilt you, by the way.

Source is saying you have all the power in this situation.

Drama and dramatic situations often can convince you, with all the shiny lights, bells and whistles of dramatic emotions, painful words, or frustrating circumstance, all those shiny shiny lights can distract you and make you think that, "I'm a victim. I am subject to what's happening to me. There's no way out."

That is not true.

You always have all power. This is a free will universe. You can choose to change your situation at any time, any time.

When you realize you're face deep in someone else's junk - face deep in their drama, their emotion, their story, their work - when you're at the office and you're doing way more than what your pay grade says that you're doing, just say this to yourself: "I don't have to play this game anymore," and step out of the drama sandbox they're playing in.

All right, get up. Stand up. Stand up and just say: "I'm not playing this game anymore." Step out.

The chills. You can do it. It really is that easy.

It really is that easy.

When you decide, the entire Universe changes. Why? Because the whole Universe herself was created by a decision.

Know this: You can #change your life; you just need to decide. Claim it: "My life is #drama free!"

This week's oracle card is "Divine Timing." Now is the perfect moment for you to act on your inspirations.

You can change your mind and change your entire situation, your entire life now.

This video is coming to you in perfect timing they're also saying.

The doors are open while you walk through them with us, the Angels, by your side.

Don't delay or procrastinate, as all the ingredients are ripe for your success.

They're saying right now, you have everything you need to shift your state right now. Right now. Literally, right now.

Everything and everyone is on your side supporting your positive outcome.

The energy I'm hearing is saying sometimes we convince ourselves that everyone is against us, that the world doesn't want us to succeed, that others around you are not on your level and it makes it very adversarial.

Granted, not everyone is on your vibration and you can't please everybody, but that doesn't mean you have to get tied up in that.

Let it go. If they're not on your level, let them go. You don't even have to think twice.

It's the same as if you ever worked in a multi-floor building.

If you're working on the 12th floor how often do you think about people on the 11th floor on a day-to-day basis?

Those of you out in New York City or out of Houston Texas, big tall buildings, how often do you think, "Well, I wonder what people on the 3rd and 4th floor are doing right now? Gosh, they're beneath me. Bwah haha har!"

No, you're just on another floor. That floor has nothing to do with you.

Let them be there. They're just living their lives one day at a time and the best the can, the same as you are.

Be kind to yourself. You don't even have to get involved with that drama.

Sending you so much love, confidence and transformative energy.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Declare that today is "Drama-Free Day" -- it's your own national holiday.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Tired of dramatic people draining and hijacking your days?

Have you had it up to here with people dumping their problems on you?

Don't you just wish things could be easy, rather than putting out fires all the time?

This Love Letter is for all my awesome Mr./Ms. Fix-It's out there who are ready to put down their sword and cape.

It's about time we let other people clean up their messes and deal with their own drama on their own time!

Watch the above 8-minute video to start kicking drama out of your life for good!

"I'm tired of all the drama."

This week the phrase that Source is sending for us to talk about is, "I'm tired of all the drama."

Is that you?

Are you just sick and tired of things just being over the top?

Tired of being overwhelmed, tired of dramatic people, tired of everybody dumping their problems on you, and then you having to have to fix everything?

They think you're Mr. or Mrs. Fix-it, and it's exhausting. Is that you?

Everything has to be explosive.

Our relationships, our whirlwind romances, our arguments are explosive. Our exercise routines are maxed out, over the top, extreme.

And then we wonder why we're so tired, or so distracted lately.

Source is saying that distraction is another form of exhaustion.

It's imbalanced.

We're coping with a sense of fatigue and a need for rest and re-centering by avoiding it with distractions on cellphones, distracted, wandering conversations.

Distraction is a lack of centeredness.

When you are centered, being centered is different than being grounded, by the way. When you are centered you are in alignment. You are focused.

Being focused and in alignment is entirely different than being grounded.

For this topic in particular, Source is saying the reason why you're experiencing so much drama, or people are bringing you so much drama, is that this drama is a spiritual symptom manifestation of your lack of centeredness.

We're out of alignment, so in order to feel our center and in order for us to be motivated to respond, things have to shout at us at a certain level. Hence, the shouty drama energy.

For example, the Energy is bringing up a vision right now of some of the members of the tribe who may be watching, but have issues with their throat chakra.

When we have issues with our throat chakra, we cannot speak up for ourselves.

Put that person into a corner, however, or really egg them on and increase the stress level around them, box them in, and then they will lash out.

They will lash out and have no problem bringing out the stinger to defend their energy, but only when severely threatened. They'll blast people and things out of the way, because there's been so much expression held within and recoiled.

When we're holding within, recoiling and winding up, we're out of alignment because it's causing us to be reactionary, the Energy is saying.

But remember to be kind to yourself.

Know this: If you're knee-deep in #drama right now, put down your pride & decide to not solve other people's problems. Say it: "I'm done!"

If the drama is all around you, you're immersed in it.

And when you're knee-deep in drama, the only reason why that is happening is because Source notices that you are a little hard of hearing, so She's turning up the dial on the water that you're soaking in.

Imagine this. You're in a pot of water, and things are getting hotter, because you're on a stove. Now, at a certain temperature, you're cool, you're feeling all right.

But after a while, as She turns up the heat, you begin to notice it's getting warmer and warmer.

Source is waiting for you to jump out of the pot because you're not supposed to be boiled there. You're still alive and still conscious. She's not trying to boil you, but when are you going to decide to get out of the pot?

So, she continues turning up, turning up, turning up the heat and you say, "Okay, it's getting really hot in here. I'm starting to feel a little bit overwhelmed, but I can take it. I can take it."

Pride, ego, conditioning says, "I can take it. I can take it. I can stay and fix the water, and stop it from boiling all around me, and boiling me."

The boiling water and the temperature represent the amount of drama and agitation you're experiencing in life.

Source will turn that up, until you're fed up and screaming "All right! I'm done!" and out of the pot you jump.

So what's your tipping point? What's your boiling point?

We only experience the level of drama in life that we agree to.

In other words, you allow drama.

We are allowing this excessive, annoying, frustrating, overwhelming energy and interactions into our life.

We allow them mainly when we are out of alignment with what matters most. If we are out of alignment with what matters most to us, we cannot access the full clarity, the full focus of our feelings.

We're pinched. Think of a pinched nerve. When the nerve is pinched in your body, the feeling there is numb. It is out of alignment, not blocked because it's just really squished there.

You're not blocked, you're just pinched.

It's not like your energy turned off, per se. There is still some sort of feeling there, but it pales in comparison to say the completely unpinched side.

Let someone adjust you -- or even better, you can adjust yourself -- so the energy, the warmth, the sensation, the feeling returns to that entire area of your body, and that entire area of your life.

Stay tuned for part 2 of this topic, coming next week...

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Decide that today's the day you'll stop participating in other people's problems and drama.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Disappointment got you down?

Having a hard time forgiving yourself for messing up?

Wish you could just feel better already, instead of feeling like a failure all the time?

If this is you, believe it or not, you're on the verge of a breakthrough.

Every disappointment and seeming "failure" holds healing knowledge sent from Spirit to clean up your energy and move you to your next level.

Watch the above 10-minute video to learn how to shift your energy immediately to receiving healing and clearing spiritual knowledge! 

"I feel like a failure."

To help you find the Dark Gift in disappointment is like finding a needle in a haystack.

When we're really low-vibration in guilt and all those yucky, gooey sensations of resentment and self-unforgiveness, it's hard to see the light.

We're just keep saying to ourselves: "No! Everything's doom and gloom and I'm a piece of doody-pants."

One thing that helps shift your vibration fast -- and if you come to The Dojo you'll always see me do this -- is to celebrate when things don't work out.

I know you're watching, all of my students that this has happened to; when they come back out of meditation, they say: "Sensei, I didn't go anywhere. I didn't see anything, I was right here the whole time."

What do I do every time? My students know that every time they say this, I say: "Yay! Yes! Going nowhere, doing nothing! WOOHOO!!"

Why? Not because I'm a crazy-pants... well, maybe, but I'm a crazy-pants with good reason. 🙂 Everyone is crazy for a reason, just ask them!

The reason why we celebrate is not only because "Well, you tried," which is always positive, but also whenever you celebrate your brain re-orients herself to say "What am I celebrating?"

She is immediately looking to see what are the positives in this situation; she automatically reframes the situation to support positive outcomes. This is called Neuro-linguistic Programming, by the way.

When we're in celebration mode, our brain must support that with data. The new-aged version of this exact same phenomena is the Universal Law of Attraction.

What you need to know most right now is that the more you celebrate in the face of disappointment, the more you will immediately align with what there to celebrate.

You'll know. Seriously, it works like magic. It's like fairy dust.

Try it, you will see just how effective it is.

Know this: You can shift your state right now: celebrate in the face of disappointment & you'll discover why your failure is healing.

By all means clap and scream and celebrate over your perceived failure until you're able to find out what is celebratory in this.

Gratitude, admiration, adoration, joy and high vibrations are constantly present. They just don't show up out of nowhere and then disappear. Why?

Because everything is Now.

All that is, is right now.

The lowest vibrations you could possibly emanate are just as present as the highest vortexy, juicy, yummy woo thing you could possibly experience.

All vibrations are present now.

By being in celebration, choosing to celebrate disappointment, you will activate your ability to perceive and receive any Dark Gifts that are coming out of your experience.

It doesn't matter how dark or how painful the situation is, trust me, this always works.

And with that I'm hearing the Oracle cards loud and clear. The Healing with the Fairies oracle card deck is the one that said "We want to talk about disappointment and failure!" Yay!

Interesting. So the card that is coming up is "Vacation." Thank you, fairies!

So what I just heard in the energy is the reason why this card is coming up: a change of scenery.

If you've really been feeling like "I feel guilty," or "I feel like a failure," say you lost your job or the business tanked or the marriage is ending and going down divorce, then the fairies are sending you this message:

A change of environment can really help raise your vibration.

Once you're in that shifted environment, then look back with celebratory energy.

Sometimes things are so heavy, disappointing and immersive that the environment around us can really re-emanate that super low vibration, and your mind follows along with that.

The most stressful part of dealing with disappointment and failure is that we just keep turning it over and over.

But you have to understand that the room, the house, the building, the space that you are in reflects your mind and all of your mental, emotional vibrations.

She will continue to re-vibrate and replay all of what's been on your mind and on your heart, all that energy.

Energy of low-vibration emotions and thought, all of that that you've been putting out, she will continue to replay that and reverberate that back to you.

Changing your environment is really important if you've suffered a pretty serious failure or a big disappointment.

Go on a vacation. If you can't afford a vacation that's fine, go outside or go over to someone else's house, change the scenery and allow your space at home or at the office, to clear out.

It's cathartic always when we go through this clearing process after the business failed and we have to clear out the energy.

Clearing and rebooting is really good because it's clearing your mind.

Environment always effects and reflects the mind, and therefore shifting your environment from one space to another is really essential for dealing with disappointment.

The fairies want you to know that it's okay to give yourself permission to do that.

In the divorce, go over to your friends' or parents' house and spend some time with them. Allow someone to be nurturing to you who you know loves you no matter what.

If the term paper didn't go well and you have the wherewithal to do it, go down the shore (to the beach) and let the ocean wash away your pain.

Be in the mountains, get yourself in nature, or even go to the arcade and whack the mole. Delicious! I love playing Whack-a-mole when I'm pissed about something! LOL! 🙂

It's all about a change of scenery because that'll help you to shift out of that crappy, crusty vibration.

Don't wallow in the mud of the past, because it will just slow you down. 

I am sending you so much love, I'm surrounding you in the energy with white light and I will see you next week.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Just for Today...

Celebrate your disappointments and failures! Shout and be silly: "YAY! I DID IT!" And then wait for it.... ????

As you clap and rejoice the fact that you tried, stay open to Spirit showing you any lessons you can learn about yourself and your life.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Have you ever had a project not work out the way you expected it to, and that threw you for a loop?

Beating yourself up over a failed business or relationship?

Annoyed that you have to start at square one, AGAIN?

Periodically life lets us down or we ourselves drop the ball; we all know that disappointment is just a part of life.

But sometimes when this happens, we can get caught in a toxic never-ending cycle of self-loathing and self-punishment.

Watch the above 10-minute video to begin breaking out of this toxic cycle of self-sabotage! 

"What do I need to know right now? What am I supposed to learn in this moment?"

Have you ever had a project not work out the way you expect it to?

Maybe the business failed, the relationship failed. Or you asked someone to do something, where you delegated something to another person and it didn't work out, and they didn't do it the way that you wanted it to be done.

You put so much work and effort into this project or paper or exam, and it comes back or goes through and you see that it nope, totally doesn't look like what you were hoping the outcome to be at all.

You sent out your college essay and nope, you got a rejection. Working out, eating clean, as best as you can, get on the scale, nope! No weight lost.

Disappointment, oh yeah. Failure... delicious! Lol!

If you're feeling, "I'm struggling with that right now, Victoria" this is not to make fun of you. I'm laughing because I'm in the mud with you, feeling you strongly so my heart is so open to you right now.

We're going to dive right into this, and laugh our way through the crap of life, together. 🙂

Source says that we have a tendency to ruminate and really draw out the failure event with our guilt and disappointment, chewing on it like a cow chewing on cud.

Cud is the stuff that comes out of all of her stomachs--what is it like 8 of them or something like that?

She chews so that she can continue the experience of getting through all of the nutrients in that grass for hours and hours and hours on end.

You don't need to be in that slow, drawn-out process, is what the Spirit is saying.

It's one way to approach failure and disappointment: to draw it out and say "This is exactly why I suck."

Or waxing poetic: "How many ways can I be horrible? Let me count the ways," or "Let's get creative! How can I express how much failure I am in 60 seconds? Go!"

My love, let me count the ways. No Shakespeare, stop it! Just stop. STOP!

The way that we want to deal with disappointment is to embrace her.

Failure must be embraced. To cast her away or pull her out and torture yourself is to drag yourself thought the mud excessively.

It's when we go into that process of self-deprecating behavior and masochism, the "I'm guilty, I feel so bad. Oh my god you washed the dishes for me, I feel so bad, I'm a failure at being helpful..." etc.

Interesting, one of the Spirits just said "be kind to yourself, if that's what you're going through." Again, this is not to make fun of you, but to help you see yourself.

Know this: Guilt and negative self-talk are low-vibrational forms of centering meditation. Be kind to yourself; there are better ways.

The energy says that whenever we experience failure or that strong sensation of being out of alignment, we come out of our bodies.

This happens because all of the energy that we have put out into that project or relationship, or into whatever, didn't work out. We funneled ourselves into that identity that we formed, we put so much of our energy into that and when it doesn't go through, we find ourselves outside of our bodies and our truth.

Guilt, disappointment and all of that negative rumination is a mistaken and low vibrational way of centering: you're coming back to a sense of self through masochism.

We see that you're trying to come back to center and recreate your identity after failure through guilt, like "Oh I know who I am because of what I am not." Ok.

That's a fallacy though, because that's going to take you farther away from who you really are as a divine being; this is what I'm seeing in the energy right now.

Be kind to yourself if that's where you're at.

You're just mistaken.

You see, in the moment that you are trying to re-center and find your authentic energy, you're striving to get to the point where you're thinking positively: "Okay, this is me, this is me. Phew! I'm all solid again, I'm not pushed out into all of this stuff around me that's failing and being disappointing. That person didn't do it the way I would. That doesn't mean I'm horrible." Or, "That relationship didn't work out, but that doesn't mean I'm a failure."

You're identity, Source says, is spread out too thin so that act of guilt and the act of drawn out disappointment and holding onto that sense of self-unforgiveness (which is guilt and dragging ourselves through the mud and resentment) is just an inverse way of trying to re-center.

We tell you this for a reason: See the light, even in the darkness.

The way that we best deal with disappointment is for searching for The Dark Gift in it.

I don't mean dark gift, like Dracula spookypants boogadeyboo, etc dark gift, lol.

What I mean by dark gift is gifts that we find in our shadow, gifts that the spirit sends through experiences.

And by the way, the spirit is constantly sending gifts, infinite amount of gifts you are receiving now.

Not in the past, you got them. Not in the future, that didn't happen. Now.

There is an infinite amount of gifts that are present to you and latent in the dark side of what's happening, like disappointments.

Those gifts in the darkness or in uncertainty or in your shadow are what we mean by dark -- not like boogedy evil, we don't mean that.

Dark Gifts are learning gifts.

They're there to help you embrace the disappointment, embrace the distraction, embrace the failure. You embrace by saying "I screwed up and I GET to LEARN from it."

One of my students awakened me to a wonderful quote years ago.

A quote by John C. Maxwell, "We always fail forward. Why? Because you tried."

Failing forward is the ability to get back up after you've been knocked down and to learn from your mistakes.

It really embodies this concept of embracing the dark gifts that disappointment is trying to send us.

In the previous video we talked about acceptance and how that can kind of be lubricant to life if you're feeling blocked or static.

Being in a state of Acceptance can help you figure out where's the stepping stone for you to take in this experience you're having now.

That absolutely applies here because in our disappointments, when things don't work out, there's always a way to look back at the process and see how could that have gone better and if it couldn't have gone better, reflect on "What do I need to know right now? What am I supposed to learn in this moment?"

Check back next week for part 2 of this love letter!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Just for Today...

Pay attention to how you talk about and describe yourself today, listening for negative and guilt-laden language that's focused on past failures, shortcomings and disappointments.

When you catch yourself doing this, finish the following sentence to yourself: "I accept that I can't change what happened and I know I can only change myself and how I feel; so what I am learning right now is..."

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Tired of being "stuck" in life, waiting for your time to shine?

Feeling frustrated that you, your partner or your business still haven't realized their potential, after all your hard work?

Having a hard time just accepting what's happening and embracing yourself and your life "as is"?

Sometimes our "great expectations" can get the best of us, blinding our eyes to the opportunities and positive aspects in our present moment.

This is a particularly sticky situation, because we're caught up in reaching for something that doesn't exist, and meanwhile in our current reality, we end up feeling blocked and stagnant.

Watch the above 11-minute video to learn exactly how you can start practicing acceptance and get unstuck!

"How can I accept my life completely?"

Acceptance keeps the momentum moving forward.

When we do not accept what the circumstances are, there's a lack of acceptance of what is.

When we do not accept who we are dating or married to as what they're showing is who they actually are, we usually are continuously looking past them, thinking: "maybe one day he's going to be this, or maybe one day she'll do this, or maybe someday this will happen."

If we're embracing being more in alignment with nature, practicing acceptance only becomes that much more important, because acceptance keeps you in the now.  

A good place to start is accepting disappointment; thinking, for example: "Okay, I see that this is what it is. I'm in a job that I do not like. I'm not comfortable with my body. This person that I'm dating really isn't right for me as they are, or this person that I'm married to is totally out of alignment with me, as they are right now."

The next step though, after acceptance, is taking action once you are clear on what you have now.

Getting to the point of accepting what is, and having a sense of peace with that, will lower your blood pressure, will calm aches in your body. Acceptance can change the way that you sleep, the way that you eat, the way that you spend your money, spend your time, who you spend your time with.

When we are in a state of acceptance, we're letting go of the fight to make things more than what they actually are -- you put your sword down, and just say "okay, I'm here."

Believe it or not, spirit is saying that the effect of this is that it wipes the slate clean in life.

Emotionally, energetically, physically, socially, financially. Clean slate.

Now for some of you, I'm feeling a nervousness in the energy around having a totally clean slate. I hear you thinking "Well, what do I do with that?"

If that's you, here's what you do. Raise the vibration of that image. Think of it like a blank check. The clean slate is meant to be infinite possibilities. It's not meant to intimidate you.

Know this: If you can accept where you're at now, that gives you a strong foundation for actually changing things for the better.  

It's about taking responsibility for all of what is your actual reality. What is the totality of your world? You need to be able to answer that before you can be in charge of your world.

Source is saying it is extremely important that you have peace with what Source has given you now.

That you have consciousness and clarity with what you have now. It's okay. All is well.

All right, so I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. Doreen Virtue's "Indigo Angel Oracle Cards" is the deck that came through that wanted to share about practicing acceptance.

So we're just asking as we shuffle: "Angels of understanding, acceptance and peace, show us what do we need to know right now about practicing acceptance? What's at stake? Why are we being so prideful? Not saying no, this is not acceptable. How can I be more than who I really am right now?"

The Oracle Card that came through is... Acceptance!

LOL! WOWZA! I've been doing this for years, and well, I must say, it never gets old. It never gets old! I think this is pretty self explanatory that we're in the vortex, that your synchronicity is lining up.

Here's the reading:

 

As an indigo, you're built to question everything, as part of your mission for making healthful changes to this planet. However, this characteristic may cause you to reject a part of your life that's necessary, in order for you to get to the next step.

Let me pause for a second and emphasize this: if you want the next level in your life, the next level starts with acceptance. It's good stuff. Let's continue reading:

 

This card is a message for you to search through your life and determine if there is anything, or anyone, you are rejecting.

Accepting your life completely is the best thing you can do for yourself right now. 

While this may not be easy or even seem right, know that you simply cannot change everything you do not like, and certain things must be tolerated in this lifetime.

Why must they be tolerated? I have to pause here, because I'm hearing someone in the Energy ask "why shouldn't I settle for anything?"

Here's the thing: It's not about settling.

You could be rejecting the dark gifts, aka the lessons and stepping stones that Source is sending you in your present total reality in this present moment of existence.

You could be rejecting those gifts that are the launching pads to get you to the next level that you are designed for, if you're not accepting them or tolerating them, working through them, understanding and using them to flow through your life's journey. The reading continues:

 

You could be rejecting something that's really essential to the recipe of "You." Ask the angels to bring you strength and comfort to make letting go and accepting easier.  Acceptance is not easy. However, it is a decision.

All you have to do is decide in the moment I accept that what is, is what is.

This is what I've got right now, and I am accepting it, or this is who you are right now, and I am accepting you just as you are. Good, bad, and whoa Nelly. Right?

You'll notice that when you do that, such as admitting to yourself "I accept that I am really angry right now," things will process faster.

I encounter so many people, especially when I meet them for the first time who say, "Oh yeah, I'm blocked," or "this is blocked," or "I'm feeling blocked in life." Declarations like these show acceptance, and this is a serious issue because they don't realize they're fueling those blocks with their acceptance of the idea of being a victim of being blocked.

Another issue is that when you can't accept what's going on, you're going to be at an impasse.

There's a gift there that Source is trying to send you in this frustrating or seemingly "negative" experience. So deciding to open up and allow the experience to be what it is, not knowing what may come on the other side of being in that state of acceptance, you are opening up to moving forward authentically.

If you're curious to know more about this, send me an email at SenseiVictoriaWhitfield@gmail.com or comment below. I'm really intrigued to hear what are you not accepting.

Is there something that's been eating at you, or really pressing on you, and really fueling your stress level that you feel is absolutely not acceptable? Email me about it!

Someone in the energy just said that if something bad happened to you, the way that you can practice acceptance is to accept the fact that that happened. It's not in your current total reality.

It's in your history, yes, but is it right here? Happening right now? No. This step has to come first before you let anything go, or even think about forgiving.

This is a very intense spiritual practice. Simple, but profound. So be kind to yourself; I'm sending you so much love, and I will see you next week.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Just for Today...

Observe yourself today to find out what people, places, things or actions your are avoiding, rejecting or running from.

When you find one, ask yourself: "What gift from the Universe could I be refusing to receive by avoiding this situation?"

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Feeling stressed out lately because everything's changing?

Having a hard time forgiving someone who does things different than you?

Can't believe that things are not working out the way you expected?

One of the biggest sources of stress is the inability to practice acceptance of how things are.

More often than not, we unconsciously try to force the world to fit our version of how it "should" be, rather than staying non-judgmental and open.

Watch the above 11-minute video to learn to relax and stop "shoulding" all over yourself!!

"Why can't I look at my life and accept it as it is?"

This week, the topic that's coming through is practicing acceptance.

In the energy, as I was searching for what we were going to deliver for this week's love letter, and the following question came out of our soul: "What are the different sources of stress in our lives that different students of the dojo and I observe, and what does the Energy have to say?"

One of the big sources of stress in our lives is our inability to practice acceptance. The first thing that's coming through to share from the spirit is that, acceptance counteracts, or it goes against, the ego.

Ego and pride are catalysts for stress, obstacles and frustration in life.

The way this happens is that we form a mental identification with A when we are experiencing B.

Even though we believe that we are A and we believe in A, we say we are A or have been raised to be A, the experience however -- the physical sensations, the temporal physical manifestation of whatever spirit is delivering into our lives at this moment -- is B.

We're looking at B and overlaying A, because that's our glasses. We're wearing A glasses and the only thing that we could see through these glasses is A. There's no such thing as B. So we're just going to move B out of the way.

That is what a lack of acceptance looks like, energetically speaking and psychologically as well.

What are the effects of that A-B split, personality wise, perceptually? What are the effects?

• Stress
• Lack of understanding
• Suppressed expression
• Anger
• Feeling ungrounded, out of alignment, depressed, anxious, untrusting, unworthy or invalid.

We're looking at B, which is the actual temporal manifestation, the natural physical spacial manifestation that we're experiencing now is a B experience. But in our minds there's nothing but A in terms of the data that we can interpret of it, cognitively. In other words, there's a mental pattern to rather not a have to interpret the data.

So there's a mental pattern that we follow: all data that comes in must be sifted through the A protocol and fit into an A prototype. This is a bit of robotic description on purpose, the spirits are saying, because it is unnatural.

In fact it is manufactured, this A prototype, this A box; we're trying to fit the circle peg that we're experiencing into a square box. This A prototype or protocol is manufactured. Why?

This is what I'm hearing in the energy: "Well, why would we have it that way, of not being able to look at our lives and just accept them as they are? How did that happen?"

Well of course, there's nature versus nurture.

Humans as an animal that has the gift of critical thinking naturally like to look for patterns, and to duplicate patterns, to create a sense of stability, order, reproductibility, familiarity. It is to create a tribe.

Here’s why this happens: We're searching for ourselves in the patterns in the All That Is that is around us naturally.

We are also nurtured then on top of that: socially, culturally, traditionally through advertising, commercializing, religiously.

All of these different external systems will create their version of what type of paradigm you should be looking at your world through, even if the world that you're experiencing is totally not in alignment with it, totally not.

Let's put all the technical language aside for a second. I'll tell you a story to give an example of a lack of acceptance, what that looks like and the effects:

Johnny is a good boy. Johnny comes from a good family. Johnny gets good grades. Johnny plays good with other kids. Off the street or in sports, Johnny is a good boy.

Johnny goes to a good school. He takes on a good major. He does good and he graduates in a good place in his class.

Johnny gets a good job and Johnny is dating a good girl. Their relationship is going good, so they get married and he has good marriage and everything is good.

What determines the version of Johnny's "good" is completely relative.

As you were visualizing and thinking and going along with that whole story I just told you, what were your versions of what is "good" that were coming up for you?

"I'm making good money. We're having a good marriage. We're going to a good school, getting good grades." But what are your version of good grades?

For some people, their version of good or acceptable is entirely different, beautifully different, entirely different than your idea of what's good. 

What matters most is how you feel.

Know this: If you're judging what a "good life" is based only on someone else's idea of what's good, you're out of alignment.

The frustration and the symptoms of being out of alignment, of being ungrounded, frustrated or non-expressed are going to come out, naturally, because there's a fundamental lack of clarity around what's your definition of what's acceptable and not acceptable.

In previous videos, we were talking about protecting your joy and how one way to do that is to know "what the heck is my joy?"

It's about a defining process. You can do that to the Nth degree and find yourself more by defining yourself than finding yourself in some workshop, some retreat, some book, some person's arms.

You don't go find yourself, you define yourself.

That's what I'm hearing to tell you in the energy. And one way that is really powerful, but very simple, spiritual practice to start this path is by practicing acceptance.

It's very simple: "whatever it is, is what it is."

At first glance, I'm going to sound profoundly pedestrian, but I would challenge you to look a little bit deeper into that phrase, especially if you are not satisfied with your job, with your relationship or partner, with your body, with your finances, with your studies, with the food that you're eating, the place the you live, et cetera.

If you are feeling not satisfied, you need to look into embracing a sense of acceptance, but not to settle.

That is not acceptance. That's reticence. Huge difference, go to thesaurus.com if you don't know what reticence is. But the only thing I'm going to tell you is that one is active and the other is passive.

Check back next week for part 2 of this love letter!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Just for Today...

When you start feeling frustrated with someone who is not doing a "good" job according to your standards, pause and remember that what is "good" or "acceptable" performance is relative to each person.

Take a moment to lovingly go over YOUR standards with that person, assuming they genuinely didn't know.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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