Do you seldom feel truly rested?

Is it hard for you to relax, because you secretly think it’s a waste of time?

Wish you could increase your productivity and your wellness, instead of trading one for the other?

Type-A personalities tend to have a hard time really resting and feeling relaxed because they’re wired to value getting as many things done as possible above their feelings and wellbeing.

This can lead to chronic anxiety and stress, as well as cycles of depression and burnout if left unchecked.

Watch this week’s 10-minute Love Letter video, the third in our 4-week series on Your Daily PRP’s, to put an end to this vicious cycle and instead adopt a practice of restful productivity.

"I feel lazy when I take breaks."

This is week three of four in our four-week series on Your Daily PRPs.

If you don't know what PRP stands for, stop the video now and go back to week one where we explained exactly what PRPs are and why you need them. So, without further ado, if you do know what's going on, this week in particular we're going to cover the second letter in that acronym PRP, the R which stands for "Rest."

The reason why we get our daily PRP nutrition in is so that you have the energy and the stamina to pursue your passion and purpose for the long haul. This, when you implement is as a proactive regularized practice, whether it is on a daily basis or weekly, monthly, quarterly, yearly, right? However you schedule it in for yourself, it will stave off or even put an end to cycles of burnout, being overworked, feeling cranky, overwhelmed, and pushing yourself past your limit.

In particular, this week that we're talking about with rest is having restful productivity. I know that kind of sounds like an oxymoron, if I have any of my type As watching. Yay. All my creepy control enthusiasts, all my perfectionistas, yes, yes, where everything has got to be perfect. Be kind to yourself if that's you.

You might be burning the candle at both ends by adopting the type A, get it done perfectly as fast as possible, as efficiently as possible all the time. There's a way to be restful and productive at the same time.

Now, my guides have given me a four-step process to share with you this week in particular so that you can get to implementing restful productivity, so that you have the stamina to pursue your passion and purpose for the long haul. You ready for it?

Number one, unplug. Write this down, by the way. Get a pen and pad or open up another window, whatever you guys do or ... inscribe it on your brains.

Number one, unplug. In order to rest but also to be fully productive, your ability to focus, not just on a mental level but also a physical level is called for and unplugging is necessary. What does that mean? No TV, phone, tablet, laptop, computer, no plugging into technology. The less technology period you can be around ...

I was just talking about stuff that makes you connected to the worldwide webs-y things and cables and stuff. But if you wanna go completely native and have candlelight and all of that, the campfire, great. But, for those of us who are not able to do that, just unplug. Make it a point to unplug so that you can be focused on being restfully productive.

‪Know this: You can be restful AND productive.

Secondly, and this takes courage, it's time for you to rage. So, how are you going to rage? For some people it's getting at that heavy bag, and pow, pow, pow, pow. Let that bag have what it had coming! But, I also highly recommend that you use a written medium for your rage. So, have a rage journal. I have a rage journal, by the way.

Or, grab a piece of toilet paper and start writing on that, all the things that you hate, that annoy you, that make you angry, and cranky and frustrated. Write it out, write it out, write it out. Or, all those extra brown paper bags, time to write all over them. Write of all the things that you wanna get out of you and rage about. This is cathartic clearing. So, that's really going to help you be restful but it's also productive because you're bringing stuff up and out, getting it out of you.

Thirdly, is to release. The way that you release this practice is you can close the journal and leave it behind for a little bit, if you are okay with that. Or, if you need ultra secrecy take that toilet paper, flush it down the toilet. Let the crap go where it's supposed to, down the toilet pipes, right? Or, with your brown paper bag, rip it up into tiny pieces or even throw it in the fire pit and watch it burn. Bye-Bye! Right? Burn that crusty crap away.

So, release all of that energy that came out of you. Then leave it be. That you could do it for an hour, leave it be for an hour afterward, or even entire day, or week, who knows? What's important is the fourth and final step, and this is what makes it super productive, is to review. What came out of you, what you raged about, what makes you angry is actually what I call a dark gift, meaning a gift that comes in a darker kind of, not very attractive package, right? It's a learning gift.

So, the things that you raged about are signs and hints at where your boundaries are being overstepped. If you have any boundaries with love, right? Where you need more support in your life, in your business, or in your relationships. Where your desires are not being met. There's so much clarity that comes from raging and releasing and the review, that's fourth and final step, is essential for you grounding and receiving all of the gifts that came out of this restful productivity process at the end.

So, this is how to find your way through the resting process. Those of us who are type As, we tend to go on vacation, or enjoy the spa or have downtime and we're being as productive and go, go, go, as possible. We can't seem to turn off, can't seem to let go, because we gotta do everything on the list that we said we were going to do.

The reason why that happens is because you have pent up rage that you haven't released yet. So, this is your four steps process to be restful and productive. And you can do this. You can work it in, in many ways on a daily basis, in a little bit bigger ways on a weekly basis, more of a significant time space on the monthly or quarterly basis or once a year. Give yourself a bunch a time to really enjoy the sacred process.

So, I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. This month in particular we're journeying all month with the romance angels, another Doreen Virtue oracle cards deck. Thank you for your donations. Always welcome to receiving more. So, angels, what do we need to know right now about restful productivity as our daily PRP? Calling in your soulmate. Calling in your soulmate. Your prayers, affirmations, and visualizations help bring you together. This is where we're going to leave off for the week.

The reason why calling in your soulmate is coming up, is because when we clear our energy, when we clear all of that rage and inflammatory thoughts and feelings, when we release our emotions, we create the space to receive our divine partnerships. First with ourselves! Remember, all of this is really about your relationship with you. But, also, for those around us we're more receptive to their love and their support, whether it's in personal or professional relationships.

So, calling in a partner who's able to meet those needs that you discovered weren't being met yet, starting with you being that partner for you. Comment below, send me an email back. What comes up for you around that?

Are you going to do some productive rest time?

Let me know how that goes. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week, and we'll see you next time. Bye!

(Original post 02/19/2018)

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Do you feel like you're called to support others?

Are you a leader or manager in your home or your organization?

Wish you had the energy to serve more people?

This month, we're going to talk about exactly what resource can fuel you for the long-haul continuing to show up in service.

That resource, that essential nutrient is: loving yourself.

Watch this week's 12-minute Love Letter video to find out exactly WHY loving yourself is the key to truly loving others.

"I'm always the one giving advice."

This month I'm so excited to get to share with you the next deep dive topic that we're going to be going through over the next four weeks together.

As you know, my guides have said that it's time that you and I continue to have a deeper relationship and probe deeper into the perks of life together so that we can have more intimate bond and better understand each other as well as ourselves, so that we can lift up our communities and our clients together in the process.

So this month's deep dive topic is loving yourself.

Loving yourself.

Now, I'm sure that you've heard about loving yourself from so many people and different teachers, different books, that you may have gone through.

But loving yourself is a powerful, powerful, powerful nutrient that fuels the greatest healers and leaders, period.

If you are called to serve others, right, to take care of others, to make sure that they're okay and support the community, support your clients, support your family, that means that you are a leader and that you are a healer.

And you know what it's like to love others. You're used to it. You're really accustomed to being that loving presence, that supportive presence to others and that's beautiful.

Also it can get draining. It can get so draining when you're always being the strong one.

You're the one giving the advice, the support, dishing out the transformation, the information, the coordination, all the things, you being the anchor.

What happens sometimes is that in the course of being service-oriented, right? We show up to serve. We show up to give. It's so generous. It's so powerful.

What happens sometimes is that we forget that we need. The one who is serving and supporting the tribe, whatever your tribe looks like, don't forget we also need to fill our cup.

So we're going to take the next four weeks to cover exactly how to begin loving yourself. Now more than ever my guides say you've got to hear this message and the people that you support need you to love yourself.

If you know me very well. You know that my number one muse and mentor is RuPaul, the drag queen. RuPaul, I love him, I love him from the bottom of my heart.

He taught me how to love myself and his phrase, his mantra is, "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love anybody else?"

Can I get an amen? Everyone's like, Amen, yes. Yeah, I love RuPaul. I love you, I love you, I love you. If you ever see this, thank you. You've changed my life.

With that, every single healer and every single leader has got to have a regular practice of self-love and taking care of yourself.

As is the custom here at the Dojo, we start with why so we're going to go through different, exactly how processes. You know that I dish out homework. Here just for today is what you're going to do. That's who I am. I'm a teacher at heart. That's what we do, right?

With that, we want to make sure that you start with why so that you understand exactly what's the fuel behind loving yourself because if you don't understand what's the fuel, what's the inspiration, what's the motivation behind loving yourself, you're not going to do it.

You're not. It's just going to go to the bottom or not even catch the task list. It's not even going to be on the back burner. It's just going to get thrown out the window or in the trash can, your self-love, your self-care.

Now I believe in starting with why and those of you who are watching who love Simon Sinek, I'm sure you're feeling me.

The reason why it's time for you to love yourself is because you're a healer and because you're a leader, because you're the caregiver. The reason why you're going to love yourself and learn how to do it on a whole new level this month in particular is because you're called to support others.

The vision that the guides send to illustrate this why is that you're here quenching others' thirst. There are people who are thirsty for what you have got.

Maybe you have incredible advice. Maybe you're a fantastic cook. Maybe you're a beautiful and profound listener. Perhaps no one delegates and coordinates better than you. You're the best person to organize people, right? You're a people person.

Or perhaps you're a Mom or a Dad, and you're the one taking care of your kids. You've got to lead them and love them and teach them so that they can grow and feel safe as wholly grounded and well-rounded human beings.

So as you are called to be the leader, to show up to give, you're quenching these people's thirst with the energy that you are giving constantly, constantly quenching your thirst.

How much water do you drink each day? There's so much body that our bodies need. We're above 70% made of water. If you're the one quenching the thirst, how do you do that? How do you get water?

Let's do it on a mundane level before we take it to the illustration level. How do you get water to bring it to someone? You get a cup, you know, you get a cup, you go over to a faucet of some sort and you bring the cup to them and say, "Here" or you help them.

So, you see what happened right there? You had a cup, brought it over to the faucet or you had a pitcher and brought it over to the faucet, some sort of source of water, and then you went to offer them the cup or to pour them a drink.

This is the illustration behind why it's time for you to love yourself, the guides are sending to you. It's very simple. We don't do things complex here. The simpler, the better and the faster you can implement, the more you can integrate it.

Know this: The people that you support need you to love yourself.

The self-love comes in having the faucet. If you were to pour someone a cup of water, you wouldn't take your boob and squirt them out like, oh my God, or you wouldn't try and cry into a cup so that they could drink your tears or any other of your fluids or blah.

Unless you're a Mom, you're giving your breast milk to your baby, but typically you don't offer of yourself in order to quench others' thirst. You go to the water source, right?

This is the illustration of what loving yourself is so that you can continue to show up in service. Fill your cup first, fill your pitcher first before you go out and serve others. By the way, once you have your water source, you can serve people more of the time.

You can serve more people more of the time in a sustainable ongoing way. This is why its time for you to learn how to love yourself and find your love resource so that you can continue to fill up and bring more, and fill up and bring more.

So that you're pouring from abundance rather than from lack.

Now, I'm hearing the Oracle Cards calling for the week. It is The Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards, my favoritest, favorite deck. Thank you, Doreen Virtue for making this. And thank you to Success Express that originally Bonnie and Susan, they originally donated it.

Goddesses, what do we need to know right now about loving ourselves? Why? Show us why.

Oh, this is so good. Damara, guiding children. You are good at helping, counseling and healing children. Use your skills to help children now.

So my guides are taking me, so on one level, yes, we're talking to those of you who are parents and teachers.

Loving yourself, you need the strength to be able to hold space for the children that you are taking care of, that demand an extremely high amount of your energy, your investment, your time, your love. And you want to be there for the kids, and take excellent care of them.

But on another level my guides are taking me to those who are entrepreneurs, leaders and managers, where you are guiding the inner child or those who are under your care.

You are good at helping, counseling and healing others, and you want to care for those who are in your charge at the same level that a loving parent would take care of their children. Your employees are your children. Your clients are your children.

You want to protect them and love on them at the same level that you would for your children but in order to do that, in order to get the strength that you need, you've got to have that source of energy.

This month, we're going to show you exactly how to get that.

So go ahead and comment below. Send me an email back.

What's coming up for you seeing this card and this topic? Do you feel that this topic is timely?

Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week and we'll see you next time. Bye. See you soon.

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Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Struggling to keep up with your never-ending to-do list?

Jam-packed days at the office zapping your energy?

Feeling like you're headed for burnout?

More often than not we identify success as "getting things done."

But what happens to our idea of success when there's too much to do and not enough "you" to go around?

Watch this weeks 8-minute Love Letter video to redefine success to include rest as well as productivity!

"I just need to finish one last thing."

This week in particular, the guides have a message for you. One word. Rest.

Rest.

There's a few questions that I kept hearing as I was preparing to shoot this letter for you, and here were the questions:

• • What do you look like when you are at rest?

• When you are at rest, what do you look like?

Perhaps, you want to close your eyes if you can or imagine if you can't at the moment while you're listening to me.

What do you look like when you are at rest? When you're not responsible for doing anything, when you're not actively performing or producing or sharing etc, when you're not taking action. What do you look like when you are just at rest?

Then from there, seeing that image, the guides shifted the question. I love how they did this.

What do you look like when you are rested?

It's a whole another kind of worms there, right? What do you look like when you are rested?

• • How does your face look?

• • How do you hold your shoulders?

• • How do your hips, knees, and feet feel when you are rested?

• How does your head feel? What are your thoughts like when you are rested?

It's important for you to tune in this right now, tune into this as you are reading or as you are listening to this love letter right now.

When you pay attention, how do you rest in your attention paying?

• • Are your eyes strained?

• • Are your brows furrowed?

• • Is your jaw tighter?

• • Are your shoulders hunched?

• • Are your heaps crunched?

• • Is there a tension in pushing that you sustain because you are giving attention?

• Or are you restful in the way that you give your attention?

Then, lastly, what do you look like when you are rested? Do you even have an idea of what you would be like if you were rested?

If you came back from a lovely five-day vacation just for the sake of literally sleeping in a beautiful location, you didn't have to do anything. Just sleeping or just walking outdoors, or running outdoors enjoying scenery. No responsibility.

What would you look like? What would that look like for you?

The guides are telling me that now is the time for you to journal about think and feel envision into these questions because you're really exhausted.

It's okay for you to admit that some things just make you tired, being tired doesn't mean that you're wrong, being tired means you need rest.

Know this: You can be successful and well rested. It is not a trade-off.

Here come the Oracle cards calling in the energy this week.

It's the Archangel Raphael Oracle Cards Deck another Doreen Virtue Deck. One of 19 and counting as of just tuning of this video but it's always shifting.

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Okay, so Archangel Raphael, what do we need to know right now? What do we need to know right now about rest? Have faith. Have faith.

"Dear, Jesus and Archangel Raphael, thank you for boosting my faith so that I made trust in miracles."

To whoever you vibrate with, having faith is risky business.

It takes a certain level of trust, openness, vulnerability and uncertainty to have faith.

Right now, I'm hearing the guides say, "You may think that image of you being rested what you look, would take a miracle, like seriously?" What you see like, "are you kidding me Victoria? Rested?" "All of these people depend on me and blah, blah, blah, blah."

All right. All the excuses start flying out of us and why we're not allowed to rest? Or, let me just do this one last thing.

The "just", just want us come flying out.. Let this be your periodic reminder that you're going to have faith in yourself. You can do this and you're worth it.

All right, so send me an email back, comment below.

What do you envision yourself as being rested? Type that out. It's so powerful to even at least express it.

Come on over to the Facebook as well to share your idea of being rested, I'd love to see a video share of you because that's always the highest vibration. Don't let it just be me sending you videos, I want to see your lovely face. Muah.

I'll see you next week make sure you subscribe on YouTube so you get your love letters first each time.

All right? See you next time. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Visualize yourself looking well rested: your posture, facial expression, how you hold yourself, walk, etc.

Now, act as if you were that version of yourself, even if you have to pretend.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Having a hard time finding time for yourself lately because you're at work all the time?

Do you define yourself by going above and beyond the call of duty, even if it drains you?

Worried that you're spending more time at work than with your friends and family?

"Doing a good job" at work can be both a positive motivation in life and an addictive distraction from life.

The way we tell the difference is by how we feel on a day to day basis: fulfilled and balanced or frustrated and drained.

Watch the above 6-minute video to learn why we get addicted to work!

"I've been working here for years. I've never taken a vacation."

Are you a workaholic?

Source this week is sending healing energy to all the members of the TRIBE out there who are workaholics.

Your work ethic is at 110%, maybe around 200%.

Perhaps you define yourself by how you arrive before others and leave afterward, or as the provider of the service perhaps you define yourself for going above and beyond what your clients ask for.

You give them extra time. You spend time for free trying to help as many people as possible.

Don't worry, we're speaking to you with love, not to out you in a scary sense. Instead, let's take a look at this:

Could you perhaps be a workaholic?

If so, you may often wonder "When am I going to get to just hang out with my kids next?", "When am I going to get to just enjoy a vacation sometime?"

Or maybe it's one of those things that you brag about: "Ha ha. I've been working here for years. I've never taken a vacation."

Whoa! Heavy, right? If that's you, we're sending you love and this one is for you.

There's this sense of workaholism in our culture now. We have addictive personalities, especially if we are highly-sensitive, creative type individuals.

We want to completely and fully experience and immerse ourselves in the creative process, in the contribution and production process.

It is addictive to feel production and the birth of new ideas and projects happening, right? But that's where workaholism is most rampant.

We have a NEED to "do" something: "I have something to do. Give me something to do. The more I do, the better I am."

"The more I do, the more worthy I am as a human being; the more financial worth I get, the more that makes me worthy as a human being."

"The more social worth I get, and that makes me worthy as a human being."

"The more affection and attention I get, and that makes me worthy as a human being."

Or, "the more I make my parents proud or my family proud, the more that 'pride rush' I get, and that rush makes me worthy as a human being."

I'm hearing the angels saying workaholism is an expression of a soul scar that comes from being neglected.

At this age and stage in your life, if you're feeling workaholism consuming your self in your work, it may be happening because either you feel neglected by somebody or you have been neglecting something or somebody -- ahem, somebody like yourself -- in a big way.

It's a filler for the scar; it's a filler energy.

Whenever we have one of those addictive behavioral patterns it's to fill the soul scar, the hole.

A soul scar looks like a maelstrom; the energy is this sucking vortex.

In the Universe there's positive vortexes, but then there's the draining vortexes.

We're filling ourselves with work to make up for a sense of loneliness, frustration, a lack of self-worth or a lack of being seen, especially by those that we love.

Not being acknowledged by your mother or father, or not feeling intimately connected to your lover, or not feeling you have quality time or physical contemporaneous space with your children.

There's just this sense of isolation, and so we fill it with work in order to feel better about ourselves, right?

To create the sense of self-worth, we work hard.

Know this: If you're a workaholic, you're addicted to work because your self-worth depends on it. 

In fact, working hard doesn't even necessarily mean the money is coming in, right?

It's very easy to make money. Money is everywhere. It's just energy.

But it's not about money, being a workaholic.

I'll have people say, "Oh, yeah, I'm on my grind. That's why I'm grinding every day. That's why I'm a workaholic, because I want money and I need money and I need to get more of it."

Sure it takes money to live in a developed country and take part in civilization. But you don't have to grind to get money, especially at a higher vibration.

In fact, the less you work hard, and the more you work smart, the more the money comes in abundance! 🙂

Stay tuned for part 2 of 2 next week!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Make sure that these time commitments are non-negotiable; meaning, you can't negotiate with YOURSELF about it when the time comes.

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Are you having a hard time recognizing, respecting and communicating your own personal boundaries to others?

Wondering why you always end up being the only one giving or trying to make things work in relationships?

Disappointed that your partner or coworkers never pick up the slack when you need them to?

Spirit wants you to know that there has to be a clear line in the sand for you between what you're willing to put up with in life and what you want.

The energy this week wants to discuss why we let ourselves -- as well as the people in our lives -- get away with highway robbery overstepping boundaries.

Watch the above 16-minute video to make sure the something that’s got to give isn’t your sense of personal wellbeing!

"But if I don't do anything, nothing gets done..."

Why do we allow ourselves to feel day after day drained, exhausted, unfulfilled, sad, frustrated, anxious, and holding repressed anger?

Source is saying that something's got to give if we keep this up because the universe is in a constant state of motion.

What does that mean? The way that nature works is that she's in constant growth and decomposition.

There's this constant cycle of expansion through shedding the old layers; just watch how a tree grows if you want to see it. NASA even reported that they recently confirmed that the universe is expanding—just like you. Why? Because that is nature. How does that apply?

Here it is: In any given situation in life, if you don't give in, something else will or if something else won't give in, you have to. Something has got to give, always.

This applies specifically to boundaries: how you lay out your boundaries, or standards rather, in life. Not only how you lay them out, but also whether or not you truly honor them in the way that you interact with people.

Be kind to yourself if you're the someone that's usually giving, rather than allowing the circumstance or the other players involved to be the someone or something that has got to give to you.

What does that look like? Well let me gender this for a moment, and talk to the ladies.

Oftentimes women will give wonderful, colorful excuses.

Excuse after excuse about why they shouldn't express what they're really thinking because they’ll say to themselves “oh I'm going to get in trouble,” “oh someone is going to get angry,” “oh I'm going to get fired” or “oh they're going to leave me,” right?

There's millions of excuses to maintain this status of silence.

But, the truth is excuses are an avoidant protective measure designed to create an artificial sense of control over where we're at, emotionally and energetically speaking. 

Rather than staying open and expressing whatever needs to be expressed for whatever reason, we tell ourselves it doesn't matter.

However, what really matters most is how you're feeling in that moment.

Here’s why: if you're maintaining the silence for fear, the effects of this show up elsewhere, because something’s got to resolve or give in to confirming your sense of fear.

If we're holding that (false) sense of “safe silence,” the thing that's going to give is usually your sense of emotional support, bodily health, personal safety, relational health, financial health, right?

If we're not able to stay open, there will be things in your environment that will reflect your lack of openness.

Something has got to give. If you won't allow that authentic energy you’re feeling to flow through you, which is Source energy and the energy of honesty and truth, it's going to come out in a different way.

With women oftentimes our weight will reflect the inability to express our emotions, depending on the woman.

Whether it is not being able to hold on weight, so having eating disorders, or having excessive weight that just won't go away. If you don't give in, something else will.

Coping mechanisms are meant to psychologically block against that feeling of not being open, better known as a feeling of vulnerability, but blocking this feeling can have detrimental effects.

In fact, there's a universal law that applies here. The Universal Law of Causation: for every cause, there is an effect. Something always has to give; things don’t happen in a vacuum, all energy is responsive.

On the other side of the fence, I've seen men who are holding on to a past disappointment of guilt of failure and it will reflect in their bodies.

Hip tightness or a consistent tightness around the shoulders—this sense of restriction is the manifestation of guilt and disappointment that they're not able to let go of.

Why do men hold on? Often for pride, for honor... which is just pride. Telling ourselves “I was wrong and I should be punished,” so there is a series of punishments that come down to resolve this in life, indefinitely.

Unforgiveness and not being able to let go of the past can also have financial repercussions, believe it or not.

Know this: Not being able to let go of the past is a desire to not confront raw feelings within ourselves; & this can affect your #finances!

That avoidant behavior can show up in your finances in the form of other self-sabotaging behaviors: ignorance, impulsivity, mismanagement and lack mentality.

Think of it this way. If I can't confront that painful issue in the past, then I darn well can't look at what's going on my bank account or have a sense of personal mastery about that now! Be kind to yourself if that's you.

Something always has to give. You don't have to be the one that's incurring the repercussions of that fear, though.

You can give yourself permission to be free of always being The Giver, or the one who has to shrink, or bear the brunt of the pain, frustration, the effects.

Yes, you can choose to allow others to assume the responsibility for their actions.

So many times the most spiritual, sensitive people absorb the effects of others, because we want to protect them, love them, or because we’re so empathic that we can’t help ourselves.

You know, the psychological term for that is “enabling,” right?

We'll absorb the effects of others' behaviors because we think we're being responsible, doing our best.

We're trying here at Share Prices Australia to make sure everybody else feels comfortable, at the expense of our own physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health. Financial as well.

We'll just take it in because be think proudly “I can take it. You don't have to. You don't have to.”

It's a mistake to think that this is courageous. Instead you're just being a martyr.

We're not respecting the fact that we all have thresholds, telling ourselves over and over “I'm going to ignore this, I'm going to ignore my feelings. I'm going to ignore my dreams. I'm going to ignore my own energy for as long as I possibly can so I can push through to look...normal.”

You're doing a lot more harm than you think because it's going against Nature. In terms of our Nature, she is never static, she’s always flowing—something's got to give.

It may appear that you're holding back negativity from others but in actuality you’re inviting it in to your energy, and then only hiding from yourself.

Watch the video for this week’s oracle card, which shows you how to stop sabotaging your natural flow of wellbeing and abundance, by stopping this behavior pattern before you burnout!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Notice how you're enabling someone’s negative behavior or treatment of you by staying silent.

When you notice your silence as YOUR PART in enabling the situation, ask yourself “What could I have done to stop feeding that situation?”

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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