Are you, or is someone you know, a workaholic?

Worried that if you say "no" when people who ask for help, that you'll be mean or they won't like you?

Drowning in projects and things to manage, at work AND at home?

It's easier to just give in and say "yes" and be seen as helpful, than to stand your ground and say "no" and be seen as possibly selfish.

But when we do that, we add another project on to our already overwhelmed plate of "helpfulness" - perhaps this is more than just being helpful, perhaps it's now an addiction.

Watch this week's 15-minute love letter for the fifth and final installment in our 5-week deep dive on self care versus self sabotage to send healing to our relationship with (personal and professional) help-a-holism.

"I never feel like I'm doing enough."

We've been on a five-week-long deep dive into the dance that we empaths do between self-care and self-sabotage. All the different ways that we stand in the way of shining our light to our fullest potential. I'm really grateful. I just want to thank you for tuning in for week five.

I want to thank you for all your support over the years, of the love letters, my gosh. What? We're going on four or five years straight of love letters. I just want to thank you for your continued support.

This week in particular, we're going to focus on self-sabotage around workaholism and help-a-holism, fix-a-holism. Helping, and fixing, and putting out all the fires, and working all the limbs all day. Those of us who are highly sensitive individuals who are naturally empathic, who are naturally intuitive. Last week we discovered your call to be a healer, your call to healing leadership. You're sensitive for that reason.

But this week is the dark side of that, where you can be so driven to help, and to fix, and to take care give, and to take responsibility; but you lose yourself. Not only lose yourself, you may even hurt yourself.  Be kind yourself, if this is you. This last one, baby, is for you. This is our swan song, yes?

Workaholism, guides say that the soul craving behind that, or that the hidden feeling driver behind helping everybody, and fixing everything, and working constantly. The addiction to work, and projecting.

Not just projecting stuff, we're projecting people, like in your relationships, yes, yes? Maybe this isn't you, maybe we're talking about somebody else. We can pretend.

But, maybe let that obsession with being everybody's caregiver, taking care of everybody and everything. What's the hidden driver behind that?

And the guides say that it is the feeling of, "I'm not good enough. I'm not doing enough. I am good when I am doing. I am only good when I am doing."

Doing good, doing stuff for other people, pleasing others, when I'm gaining approval. Yes, yes? When I'm gaining recognition, I am worthy based on my output ... which is faulty.

Yes, it is good to do good things and to help others. This is not to say that you shouldn't be helping other people, and that you should be like, "All right, screw you all, I'm going home." Right? Pulling a Cartman. No, that's not what we're talking about here.

As much as that sounds fabulous to one of you ... I just heard someone in the energies saying, "I want to tell everyone, 'Go away.'" If that's you ... Bear with me, we're going to make it through this.

But, what's also coming up behind that, as your working, working, working and saying yes to everything; the flipside is the fear of saying, "no." Our lack of boundaries is fueling this relentless need for approval and affirmation. In the workplace, or in the eyes of someone that you helped, or getting to see their transformation so you feel worthy, because they had an outcome or you had an impact on them.

What happens, however, when there's nothing to do, no one to save, nothing to fix? The big question is, are you still worthy? Are you still lovable? Are you still acceptable? Are you still good? Are you still okay, as a person if you don't have something to do, something to do, something to do? This is a big one. When we have this addiction, this also expresses as a lack of boundaries.

What are boundaries? This is the million-dollar word for every single empath like, ever: boundaries. Boundaries are the invisible lines that separate what is you and what is not you; what is yours and what is not yours.

Now, from a spiritual perspective, yes, there is the universal law of oneness, which says, "All that is, is one." But that doesn't mean you have to do everything all the time, or that everything that's yours belongs to everybody else, or that you don't have any selfness. You don't have a worth because you don't have a self.

No. That's not what that is saying. Instead, that's just to appreciate the interconnectedness and interdependence of all of life, and all that is. However, we're talking about this turning into co dependence. Codependency is when you depend on someone or something outside of you for a sense of emotional security, to give you your emotional security, or even your identity. You're depending on them.

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Workaholism, for example, my dad was a lawyer, I'm a lawyer, my kids are going to be a lawyer. If I ever lose this job, I don't know what I'm gonna do; where your job defines your personality. That's a codependent relationship. That means that you are at risk of losing yourself if that thing shifts at all. You've given all your power over to the thing that you are dependent upon.

Be kind to yourself if this is speaking to you. I don't know who this message is for, but I'm sharing it anyway, following spirit's guidance. With that, also, where we have the sense of addiction to getting things done and putting out fires, putting out fires putting out fires. Whenever we put out a fire, we get that little bit of, "Yay, I did it." And that, "Yay," is what we're addicted to, of winning and the feedback loop of, "I'm putting out and I'm receiving, putting out and I'm receiving."

That's why so many men end up becoming not present at home, because the job is what gives them recognition and affirmation constantly, and you come home to a wife that is just not paying attention, and not able to give you that feedback. It is, unfortunately, natural to become addicted more to work, where you're recognized, and you feel like you have an impact in the relationship more with your job than your own partner. Scary.

That happens to women, too, I'm not just talking about men, okay. I hear my guide saying, "This happens to the ladies, too," where work or the kids become more important than their partner, because there's something to work on. There's always something. The mom-ness becomes the identity rather than yourself being your identity, becoming codependent to the children.

Be kind to yourself if this is you. Now, this week in particular, the guides are saying, "How do we get out of this?" This addiction to working and losing ourself without our boundaries. Well, is to have values. This week in particular, you want to focus on writing out a list of what your core, desired feelings and your most prioritized values are in life. Allow your schedule to be according to what you prioritize most, what you value the most.

First things first, as they say. I believe that's in the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Put first things first. Is family really important to you? If so, where is family in your schedule? This week, we want to put, "What are your core desired feelings?" I want to feel free, I want to feel abundant, I want to feel loved, I want to feel sensual. Where are those feelings in how you spend your time each day? Rather than letting the thing that you are co dependently addicted to, such as the work or the caregiving, et cetera rather than letting only that determine how you spend your time.

This is going to shift your relationship with your workaholism. Your addiction is going shift. If you can just get clear on, "What are your core, desired feelings, and what are your most prioritized values?"

We forget, we're in that tunnel of, "I'm doing stuff, I'm doing stuff, I'm doing stuff. I'm so productive, I'm so busy. I'm doing all this busy stuff." There's a difference between being busy and actually being in business. There's a difference between being busy and actually being focused.

This, our core, desired feelings and our most prioritized values are what are going to help us clarify that. To end, Doreen Virtue, Angel Therapy; yet another one of our Doreen Virtue decks. Angels, what we need to know this week? To round off our five-week deep dive into the dance between self sabotage and self care. "Listen to your intuitive feelings."

Listen to your intuitive feelings. Your body is receiving accurate messages from the divine. This is perfect, given what we're talking about.

One of the main reasons why we can get stuck in, or create stuck-ness in a codependent, workaholic, fixaholic relationship is because we'll drown out the sensations of our body. We're not in touch. We're not in touch with ... "Oh, my neck is starting to hurt because it's 10:00 PM and I'm still at work."

We'll just keep going, going, going. Or, you know what? I actually ... I'm not really hungry for that extra candy bar, as we talked ... The second week was food. I'm not actually hungry for that chocolate candy bar. Actually, I'm craving love and affection.

Instead of shoving a chocolate candy bar down my throat so I can stay working at the computer all the livelong day, instead I'm going to reach out to receive some physical touch, or love and affection from a loved one. Listen to your feelings.

Your sensitivity is your strength here, and it's the gateway to your next level in life. Send me an email back, comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you around this, and how has this series been for you?

Are you liking the multi-week deep dives? Let me know, let me know.

Source has been telling me that you and I have got to develop a deeper relationship, and go deeper into the information, rather than just doing one idea a week. Nah, let's go there. Let's go there together, okay?

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Put first things, first.

Write a list of your core values and core desired feelings, and see if you're spending your time each day accordingly.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Tired of keeping up with the Joneses?

Wish you could just be yourself with people, but are too scared of what they'll think?

Hiding your pain and exhaustion behind your smile more than you'd like to admit?

Popular culture and educational systems teach us that it's our level of performance that determines our worth.

Unfortunately, living a life of high-performance doesn't lead to self-acceptance and fulfillment; instead, quite the opposite happens.

Watch this week's 10-minute Love Letter video to explore why we overperform so much, and how you can start to break free from this vicious cycle!

"I am so drained. I feel like everything is falling apart."

This week, Source has got two words for you.

Stop performing. Stop it. This is not a performance. You're not putting on a show. Your life is meant to be lived authentically, okay?

Let's get into this. When we are performing, we feel like we're pushing to get others' approval, or pushing to be productive, or pushing to get recognition, or pushing to be accepted, or we're trying to be good, or we're trying to be healthy, or we're trying to make everyone feel comfortable. There's this sense of artifice, and energy that's expounded, and really shoved out of us, this performance. It's go time.

Performance is really meant for spurts. It's not meant to be a lifestyle. 

I'm telling you, who's watching right now, you've created a lifestyle of performing:

• You perform for your kids, as mother.
• You perform for your clients.
• You perform for your boss, as star employee.
• You perform for your parents as the perfect son.
• You perform for your community as the perfect person, or the best, the go-to guy.
• As grandma, you're just always there, filling this role that either you've created for yourself, that you have to live up to, or it's been placed upon you.

Oh, you're really good at this. Let's put you on this pedestal, so that you have to always operate at that level.

I'm vibing very specific with you right now. I feel it very strongly, of how tired you are performing, performing, performing, trying to be someone that at the end of the day, you're just drained, pushing at that level, or really trying to make something work that is falling apart.

Maybe you're trying to make it work, and you're the only one trying to make it work, and putting on a happy face for others, so that no one knows all of the pain that is behind that performance mask, that has become your face.

There's so much more for you. Beaming love and acceptance at you. And this week in particular, we have to accept who we are, is what Source is saying, specifically by stopping the performance.

Know this: Worry will die when you increase your faith. Go for it this week and trust yourself! @SenseiWhitfield

Performance is over. Curtain call. Yay. Everyone's clapping. Okay, you're done. What happens?

I'm starting to hear the oracle cards calling in the energy about who are you when you're not performing?

This is a journaling. This is a conversation having kind of topic. This is not one specific, one love letter, and you're going to figure this one all out. No.

This is a journey in and of itself, finding out, who are you when you're not performing, into the role, or the mask, right, that you've created for yourself, or that you've inherited.

The Oracle Cards that want to weigh on this, so who are you when you're not performing is the life purpose oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue.

Can you even imagine? Angels, help us imagine, who are we when we stop performing, and really start stepping into being authentic?

Maybe at work, maybe even in our homes, and our private lives, who are we? Hmm.

School. The answer that you're seeking involves going to school, and this is where we're going to leave off this week in particular.

This is about learning more about yourself, so perhaps you are currently in school right now, or you've been to school in the past, you've studied before, majored in a certain area, or have had certifications in a certain area.

Look to what inspires you the most in your self education. At school, there are certain subjects that you vibrate with the most.

If you're currently in school, maybe art class is something that really just flows out of you. You don't have to perform when you're drawing. You're just in the moment, or writing, or theater, or perhaps in debate, you're just flowing. You don't even have to perform. It's just part of you. You love that intellectual stimulation, right, of debate, or history.

If you are not currently in school, what have you been looking at going back to school for recently?

What would you study simply for the love of it, where you know that at 3AM, if you had to do a project for that specific field of study, you'd be over the moon. "Oh, my gosh. I would love to be up at 3AM writing about this, or studying and practicing for this."

The guides are pushing you towards education to really help you see, who are you when you're not performing?

It's a bit ironic, because we tend to associate school with performance, right? If you get an A, then you're acceptable. A does not mean acceptable. Wrong, so if that's what's coming up for you, by the way, if you're watching, let that one go.

Instead, what would you study simply for the love of it, if there was no grade, if you were just in school for the love of it?

For me, it's meditation and Reiki, world religions, parapsychology, metaphysics, manifestation, and all of that yummy, juice, vortex-y goodness. Right? That's who I am when I'm not performing, and I happen to have integrated that personally into my work. What is it for you? Look to your education.

Post below in the comments. Let me know, what do you find out? What would you study for the love of it? What are you doing in your free time, and studying in your free time, Googling constantly about? That might be a clue as to who you are when you're not performing. I'm here for you.

Contact me if you want to set up a session, so that we can clarify that. I do hour long sessions, as well as half hour sessions on a regular basis, because having regular accountability makes all the difference, okay?

Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube, so that you get your love letters first every week, and we will see you next time!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Make time to get clarity: journal about what you do simply for the love and pleasure of it, especially listing things that no one knows.

Then write down how it feels when you're doing these things, versus when you feel like you're performing or trying to appease others.

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

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Have you been secretly feeling down and depressed lately?

Feeling like you've lost the joy you once had, or wish you had more?

Think that joy and feelings are irrelevant to your work?

Keeping up with the demands of professional life -- or "adulting" as I call it -- can really drain your joy sometimes.

Watch this week's 7-minute Love Letter video to find out the power of joy and how to rekindle yours!

"Today I want to do something that brings me joy."

Source wants you to know, this week in particular, that your joy is sacred.

Your joy, your happiness, your peace, how you feel, is sacred.

One of the most common things that I say here to all my students at the Dojo, is that "what matters most is how you feel"; but your joy in particular is sacred.

In the energy I'm seeing that in a previous video, we had covered that your joy is actually a way of protecting yourself. It's your vortex, right?

Being in your vortex keeps you energized -- and you're in it when you're feeling good.

When you're feeling joyful, it also keeps you open to new solutions and strategies for solving different issues that come through your life; also it does protect your heart and it protects your energy.

It's especially helpful when you're out in the world interacting with others, because sometimes news and things or issues at work can come up, or your family members or teammates may be having a challenge.

Your joy is sacred for protecting you from absorbing any of the healing journeys that they're on. Did you know that?

Joy is such a powerful thing to connect to, and especially when we are post-school-age.

So to all my students who are "studenting", awesome; but for those who are post being in school and you're now "adulting", as opposed to just "studenting" in your life right now, joy can become smaller and smaller and lesser and lesser.

The more we "adult" the more we get serious or monotonous, the more we curb our enthusiasm for life.

I'm using "adult" as a verb on purpose -- I was an English Major in college, so to all my grammarians out there, I know you're cringing, but I know what I'm doing, here ;).

Let me be direct with you --

What happened to your joy?

What happened to the things that made you come alive and inspired you, and made you want to be "frisky", as Abraham Hicks says, made you want to be mischievous or fun, sexy and silly?

What happened to your joy?

It energized you. It moved mountains in life so many times. When you've been joyful time flew and synchronicities came together, right?

Know this: Your #joy is #sacred. This week start each day by #visualizing things that bring you joy. @SenseiWhitfield

Your joy is sacred.

Source in particular this week wants you to know that you joy is sacred, though, because it is contagious.

Your joy is contagious.

God, Goddess, the Holy Spirit, Source consciousness, the human spirit and human potential that is around us and within us desires for more joy and more happiness to be on the planet -- and it's got to start with you.

Your joy is sacred because you're the only one who can access it for you.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards calling in the energy on this, but it's important that in this week, you prioritize first and foremost that "Today I want to do something that brings me joy."

I want to hear in the comments what brings you joy.

You know me. I love bubbles, I love dancing, I love rainbows, glitter and emojis. Shiny things and playfulness. Those bring me joy.

These things bring me joy and light me up, and it's because of my joy practice that I have so much energy.

What I want to hear from you is how do you generate joy in your life?

What makes you joy-filled?

We're using the Healing with the Fairies oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue.

Let's ask: "Fairies, what do we need to know right now about our joy?"

Visualization.

This is where we'll leave off for the week.

Your joy is sacred, and it's important that you visualize things that bring you joy.

I just heard it loud in the energy, like they yelled it in my ear --

Mindset. There's negative thoughts.

We've been beating ourselves up with the same old crusty self-doubt and worry, etc. patterns that we keep pummeling ourselves with in our minds.

This week in particular, I double-dog-dare you to visualize once a day something that brings you so much joy.

Try it at the beginning of the day because it'll set the tone for the day for more joy.

You will see how it will attract more joy throughout the day.

Comment below, post back, let me know how it goes, what did you find, and make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your weekly love letters first.

I'm sending you so much love. I believe in you, and I'm sending you joyful energy. Bye. See you next week.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Mind your mindset, strategically. 

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Tired of keeping up with the Joneses?

Wish you could just be yourself with people, but are too scared of what they'll think?

Hiding your pain and exhaustion behind your smile more than you'd like to admit?

Popular culture and educational systems teach us that it's our level of performance that determines our worth.

Unfortunately, living a life of high-performance doesn't lead to self-acceptance and fulfillment; instead, quite the opposite happens.

Watch this week's 10-minute Love Letter video to explore why we overperform so much, and how you can start to break free from this vicious cycle!

"I am so drained. I feel like everything is falling apart."

This week, Source has got two words for you.

Stop performing. Stop it. This is not a performance. You're not putting on a show. Your life is meant to be lived authentically, okay?

Let's get into this. When we are performing, we feel like we're pushing to get others' approval, or pushing to be productive, or pushing to get recognition, or pushing to be accepted, or we're trying to be good, or we're trying to be healthy, or we're trying to make everyone feel comfortable. There's this sense of artifice, and energy that's expounded, and really shoved out of us, this performance. It's go time.

Performance is really meant for spurts. It's not meant to be a lifestyle. 

I'm telling you, who's watching right now, you've created a lifestyle of performing:

• • You perform for your kids, as mother.

• • You perform for your clients.

• • You perform for your boss, as star employee.

• • You perform for your parents as the perfect son.

• • You perform for your community as the perfect person, or the best, the go-to guy.

• As grandma, you're just always there, filling this role that either you've created for yourself, that you have to live up to, or it's been placed upon you.

Oh, you're really good at this. Let's put you on this pedestal, so that you have to always operate at that level.

I'm vibing very specific with you right now. I feel it very strongly, of how tired you are performing, performing, performing, trying to be someone that at the end of the day, you're just drained, pushing at that level, or really trying to make something work that is falling apart.

Maybe you're trying to make it work, and you're the only one trying to make it work, and putting on a happy face for others, so that no one knows all of the pain that is behind that performance mask, that has become your face.

There's so much more for you. Beaming love and acceptance at you. And this week in particular, we have to accept who we are, is what Source is saying, specifically by stopping the performance.

Know this: Know this: Self-acceptance starts where performing ends. #loveyourself @SenseiWhitfield http://bit.ly/295Gf4K

Performance is over. Curtain call. Yay. Everyone's clapping. Okay, you're done. What happens?

I'm starting to hear the oracle cards calling in the energy about who are you when you're not performing?

This is a journaling. This is a conversation having kind of topic. This is not one specific, one love letter, and you're going to figure this one all out. No.

This is a journey in and of itself, finding out, who are you when you're not performing, into the role, or the mask, right, that you've created for yourself, or that you've inherited.

The Oracle Cards that want to weigh on this, so who are you when you're not performing is the life purpose oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue.

Can you even imagine? Angels, help us imagine, who are we when we stop performing, and really start stepping into being authentic?

Maybe at work, maybe even in our homes, and our private lives, who are we? Hmm.

School. The answer that you're seeking involves going to school, and this is where we're going to leave off this week in particular.

This is about learning more about yourself, so perhaps you are currently in school right now, or you've been to school in the past, you've studied before, majored in a certain area, or have had certifications in a certain area.

Look to what inspires you the most in your self education. At school, there are certain subjects that you vibrate with the most.

If you're currently in school, maybe art class is something that really just flows out of you. You don't have to perform when you're drawing. You're just in the moment, or writing, or theater, or perhaps in debate, you're just flowing. You don't even have to perform. It's just part of you. You love that intellectual stimulation, right, of debate, or history.

If you are not currently in school, what have you been looking at going back to school for recently?

What would you study simply for the love of it, where you know that at 3AM, if you had to do a project for that specific field of study, you'd be over the moon. "Oh, my gosh. I would love to be up at 3AM writing about this, or studying and practicing for this."

The guides are pushing you towards education to really help you see, who are you when you're not performing?

It's a bit ironic, because we tend to associate school with performance, right? If you get an A, then you're acceptable. A does not mean acceptable. Wrong, so if that's what's coming up for you, by the way, if you're watching, let that one go.

Instead, what would you study simply for the love of it, if there was no grade, if you were just in school for the love of it?

For me, it's meditation and Reiki, world religions, parapsychology, metaphysics, manifestation, and all of that yummy, juice, vortex-y goodness. Right? That's who I am when I'm not performing, and I happen to have integrated that personally into my work. What is it for you? Look to your education.

Post below in the comments. Let me know, what do you find out? What would you study for the love of it? What are you doing in your free time, and studying in your free time, Googling constantly about? That might be a clue as to who you are when you're not performing. I'm here for you.

Contact me if you want to set up a session, so that we can clarify that. I do hour long sessions, as well as half hour sessions on a regular basis, because having regular accountability makes all the difference, okay?

Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube, so that you get your love letters first every week, and we will see you next time!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

VictoriaWhitfield.com
Facebook.com/SenseiVictoriaWhitfield

Just for Today...

Make time to get clarity: journal about what you do simply for the love and pleasure of it, especially listing things that no one knows.

Then write down how it feels when you're doing these things, versus when you feel like you're performing or trying to appease others.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want spiritual support on your healing journey but don't know where to start? Tell me!

Give us a call at +1 (732) 903-8573 or click on the blue BOOK NOW button to start your healing journey, today!

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Have you been secretly feeling down and depressed lately?

Feeling like you've lost the joy you once had, or wish you had more?

Think that joy and feelings are irrelevant to your work?

Keeping up with the demands of professional life -- or "adulting" as I call it -- can really drain your joy sometimes.

Watch this week's 7-minute Love Letter video to find out the power of joy and how to rekindle yours!

"Today I want to do something that brings me joy."

Source wants you to know, this week in particular, that your joy is sacred.

Your joy, your happiness, your peace, how you feel, is sacred.

One of the most common things that I say here to all my students at the Dojo, is that "what matters most is how you feel"; but your joy in particular is sacred.

In the energy I'm seeing that in a previous video, we had covered that your joy is actually a way of protecting yourself. It's your vortex, right?

Being in your vortex keeps you energized -- and you're in it when you're feeling good.

When you're feeling joyful, it also keeps you open to new solutions and strategies for solving different issues that come through your life; also it does protect your heart and it protects your energy.

It's especially helpful when you're out in the world interacting with others, because sometimes news and things or issues at work can come up, or your family members or teammates may be having a challenge.

Your joy is sacred for protecting you from absorbing any of the healing journeys that they're on. Did you know that?

Joy is such a powerful thing to connect to, and especially when we are post-school-age.

So to all my students who are "studenting", awesome; but for those who are post being in school and you're now "adulting", as opposed to just "studenting" in your life right now, joy can become smaller and smaller and lesser and lesser.

The more we "adult" the more we get serious or monotonous, the more we curb our enthusiasm for life.

I'm using "adult" as a verb on purpose -- I was an English Major in college, so to all my grammarians out there, I know you're cringing, but I know what I'm doing, here ;).

Let me be direct with you --

What happened to your joy?

What happened to the things that made you come alive and inspired you, and made you want to be "frisky", as Abraham Hicks says, made you want to be mischievous or fun, sexy and silly?

What happened to your joy?

It energized you. It moved mountains in life so many times. When you've been joyful time flew and synchronicities came together, right?

Know this: Your #joy is #sacred. This week start each day by #visualizing things that bring you joy @SenseiWhitfield

Your joy is sacred.

Source in particular this week wants you to know that you joy is sacred, though, because it is contagious.

Your joy is contagious.

God, Goddess, the Holy Spirit, Source consciousness, the human spirit and human potential that is around us and within us desires for more joy and more happiness to be on the planet -- and it's got to start with you.

Your joy is sacred because you're the only one who can access it for you.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards calling in the energy on this, but it's important that in this week, you prioritize first and foremost that "Today I want to do something that brings me joy."

I want to hear in the comments what brings you joy.

You know me. I love bubbles, I love dancing, I love rainbows, glitter and emojis. Shiny things and playfulness. Those bring me joy.

These things bring me joy and light me up, and it's because of my joy practice that I have so much energy.

What I want to hear from you is how do you generate joy in your life?

What makes you joy-filled?

We're using the Healing with the Fairies oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue.

Let's ask: "Fairies, what do we need to know right now about our joy?"

 

 

This week's oracle card is "Visualization" and the message is for you to get clarity and focus by envisioning your goals realized and envisioning things that make you happy and grateful on a daily basis. Full reading on YouTube at https://youtu.be/jscWye27Fyk ????????✨ #meditation #motivation #motivationmonday #instagood #instadaily #inspiration #focus #entrepreneur #spiritual #happy #healthy #joy #grateful

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Visualization.

This is where we'll leave off for the week.

Your joy is sacred, and it's important that you visualize things that bring you joy.

I just heard it loud in the energy, like they yelled it in my ear --

Mindset. There's negative thoughts.

We've been beating ourselves up with the same old crusty self-doubt and worry, etc. patterns that we keep pummeling ourselves with in our minds.

This week in particular, I double-dog-dare you to visualize once a day something that brings you so much joy.

Try it at the beginning of the day because it'll set the tone for the day for more joy.

You will see how it will attract more joy throughout the day.

Comment below, post back, let me know how it goes, what did you find, and make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your weekly love letters first.

I'm sending you so much love. I believe in you, and I'm sending you joyful energy. Bye. See you next week.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Do you believe you're here for a purpose?

Have a burning desire to help and heal more people?

Are you called to take your life to the next level?

Well, you're in the right place, at the right time.

Right now it's Mercury Retrograde, which has to do with reviewing, re-visiting, and reinvention -- the Energy is on your side!

All this month, May 9-20th, happiness life coach and author Stacey Curnow is sharing the wisdom of 10 powerful women of purpose on the topic of the "Heroine's Journey."

You may be familiar with Joseph Campbell's description of the Hero's Journey, which basically outlines exactly how his greatest challenges in life can become his greatest lessons and gifts to the world around him:

But, what about the Lady Heros?? 😉

In this inspiring series, Stacey interviews leading women gamechangers to educate the masses about The Heroine's Journey -- her distinct challenges, issues and her distinct advantages!

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Are you scared of letting go?

What, or who, do you need to let go?

Feeling strained and drained trying to keep it all together on your own?

Holding on to things, experiences and people indefinitely gets exhausting and can fast-track burnout.

Not only is holding on exhausting, but it actually goes against your Nature.

Watch this week's 8-minute Love Letter to learn why you can't let go, and how to do it!

"I just can't let it go!"

Hi there! Sensei Victoria Whitfield here and this is your Love Letter from The Dojo at Naturalintuition.com, your source for channeled holistic stress management techniques and spiritual guidance for developing your Natural Intuition.

This week Source wants you to have a bit of a meditation on Letting Go.

This is a very, very sensitive topic that the energy wants us to address this week in particular.

Pause for a moment.

When I say, "Let go," or "Let it go," what comes up for you? What do you need to let go in this moment?

Close your eyes just for a moment. Take a deep breath in. Exhale.

Again, inhale and thinking of the word, "Let." Exhale thinking of the word, "Go."

One more. Breathing in “Let” and exhale “Go.”

Be kind to yourself. Letting go is never, ever easy. It is always a learning experience. Letting go of anything is always an opportunity for practice, for training, for experience.

The guides are saying, "For this week in particular, and if only just for now, when you think of letting go replace it with, 'Letting flow.'"

If you find that when someone nonchalantly tells you, "Let it go. Let it go," or something like that and your inner Control Enthusiast comes roaring up inside you, screeching, "I can't let it go! He did me wrong!" or "I can't let her go. She means the world to me. She's not supposed to be gone!" – whether it feels like a crazy control or a "Please don't leave me” control – then that means it’s time to be a little bit more kind to yourself.

Remember #BK2YS? Yeah. 🙂

Showing a little bit more love for ourselves heals us first, so that we can spread love. Let it flow. Let it flow.

Whenever there's something that we need to let go of, it's because there is energetic congestion somewhere in our life. 

By the way, there is no such thing – and I need you to stop saying this if you've been saying it recently – there's no such thing as being blocked.

Know this: You are not "blocked." You're choosing to feel blocked. Choose flow, if only just for #now. #tbt #letgo #bk2ys @SenseiWhitfield

Look at quantum physics and it’s explanation of the makeup of solid structures.

Solids are simply comprised of tiny molecules that are vibrating at the right enough speed to appear solid to us. Solid molecules are not blocked. They are not stationary, stagnant, or stopped, or static in any way, shape, and form.

All of life is in a constant state of motion. Some motion, however, from our vantage point may appear and look like it's being solid or stopped.

The status of being blocked is always, always, always – hear me when we say this – is always an emotional choice.

What? That means I'm responsible for feeling blocked?

Yeah. There's always a choice.

Somewhere within you and even if you have to dig and wait for it to come up, there's a conscious choice you’re making to decide to be blocked and feel blocked.

Your “being” state is simply a choice.

I'm hearing the oracle cards coming in the energy, wanting to weigh in on this topic about instead of letting go, let it flow.

“Earth Magic Oracle Cards” by Steven Farmer is the deck of the week.

When I was asking all the 16 and counting decks here at the Dojo – by the way, we're always accepting donations – who wanted to come forward and who's energy do we need the most for letting go or letting flow to help us understand it, it was the nature energy that stood out from this deck.

 

The #oracle card of the week for you is "Spring Equinox: Rebirth" - Source says this is a time of rebirth and reinvention for you, but you have been resisting the necessary steps you need to take to allow your next level to come through. What are you avoiding? And why? Full reading on #YouTube here: http://youtu.be/FJSolp7px3A #freedom #healing #inspiration #motivation #letgo #relationship #entrepreneur #business #spiritual #positivevibes #reiki

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Oracle Card of The Week: “Spring Equinox: Rebirth”

Take a look at how she's got the rabbit and the butterfly and all those other incredible awesome things surrounding her abundantly.

This is what Source is saying right now: the reason why Spring is able to present all of that rebirth is that she is flowing with the seasons.

She is allowing the rebirth, the new energy, the new processing to come through all that dead energy.

Here in Jersey we do have four seasons, and during the winter things look really dead. Like, really dead! LOL!

Then, when springtime comes – like in Newark for the cherry blossom festivals – it's absolutely just this incredible explosion of beautiful life, right out of what seemed to be blocked or dead, but what was actually just momentarily, let’s say, “recalibrating.” Put it that way, to use a GPS word. 😉

Be kind to yourself.

In life right now you may feel you are being called to let go of something significant.

But instead let it flow through you, because Source is saying that's a rebirth.

No matter how small that rebirth may appear in your life, allowing the flow of life to flow through you is something that can really help you with letting go.

Now, send me an email back, or comment below here, and answer:

• What's coming up for you that you need to let it go and let it flow?
• Is this something around physical health, or relationship, or financial health?
• Could it be something spiritual relational?
• What's the difference to you between letting it go versus letting it flow? How does the difference between those two expressions feel to you?

I'm really curious to see your responses.

Sending you big hugs and love!

That's this week's message. By all means, please go to victoriawhitfield.com/freegift and make sure that you subscribe so that you're getting your weekly Love Letters if you haven’t already.

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Sending you so much love 🙂

See you next time. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Frustrated by your love life?

Wish you could attract your soulmate?

Having a hard time receiving love from people close to you?

One of the oldest pursuits in the human experience is the pursuit of love.

Oddly enough however, when asked most people tend to have no idea what love actually is.

Watch this week's 8-minute Love Letter to begin exploring what love actually is, so you can get more of it!

"I just really want to be loved."

Source has called you to a higher vibration of love and relationships in your lifetime.

It's time we talk about what exactly is love. 

How would you define being and feeling loved in this lifetime?

Have you ever heard of the 5 love languages? That's one way of interpreting love. They are:

• Words of Affirmation
• Acts of Service
• Gifts
• Touch, and
• Quality Time

There's 5 ways of expressing love, certainly.

But love can go unfelt, unseen and unexperienced because we don't have a clear definition of what healthy love is for us ourselves.

Perhaps we witnessed our parents have one version of what love is for them, and how they would define it in their lives.

But what would Love in Her fullest expression be for you?

Going to Source right now, She is saying that love is oneness.

Oneness in all of her expressions: oneness in the sense of being connected, oneness in the sense of seeing yourself in another, oneness in circulating the energy healthfully throughout the entire system as one, oneness in the absence of separation.

During this time of the year or maybe oftentimes, you may be thinking in your mind, "I just really want to be loved. I want to experience feeling loved in a deeper way, or having access to more love in my life."

The way to that, Source is saying, is through yourself first because love is oneness. Start at square one.

How then do you express love for yourself? How do you encounter love within you:

• • Is it in the way that you take care of your body?

• • Is it in the way that you tell yourself stories about yourself?

• • Is it in the way that you put yourself together or express yourself in the art that you create or surround yourself?

• • Is it in the way that you share yourself professionally?

• Is that how you love yourself, or is it in the way that you express yourself personally, with your family?

This week's topic in particular is more of an internal journey -- that's why we're asking so many more questions: because Source really wants to bring you back to you.

What really matters most this week is that you sit down and journal your answers to all of the questions that Source is asking through us.

Now I'm hearing the Oracle Cards calling in the energy.

The Romance Angels Oracle Card Deck is really wanting to send you a lot of extra love this week.

So let's ask them, "How can we raise the vibration of love and romance, not only with another person but also with ourselves?"

 

 

This week's oracle card is "Let Go of Control Issues"???????? Source is sending you this card to let you know that in order to receive the level of love you desire in life, you'll need to open up to defining and experiencing your center, your core, your #nature around what love is. #reiki #healing #love #joy #doreenvirtue #happy #valentines #relationship ???????? Watch this week's reading on #YouTube at: http://youtu.be/Nvhhv1uqcPQ

 

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This is a doozy: "Let go of control issues. Allow this situation to unfold naturally."

Now in the energy, what Source is saying is -- especially for developing your natural intuition around love, feeling love, receiving love, being love -- it's about embracing your natural impulses around love.

This really brings it full circle back to being about our parents' influence and what you may have witnessed, or maybe the influence of TV or other people around you.

Perhaps other people are getting married or divorced or having children. All these external factors are causing you to judge your own status on love, be kind to yourself. Call upon your own nature.

What I'm hearing in the energy, this week in particular, is to challenge you to find your own natural stance. Centering.

Know this: YOU define what love is, based on the feelings that confirm you're showing or experiencing love. 

This week is all about centering, finding where is your square one -- your feeling of oneness -- around love.

And you can find your center by asking yourself in the journaling you're doing this week: "why do I want love? what is love to me?"

It's important to always start with why. (Great book, by the way, by Simon Sinek if you haven't checked it out yet.)

Start with why to find your center.

If you're not exactly sure what your definition is, start with why.

Why do you desire love?

Really unpack that story, and don't be afraid of exploring the dark forest of your heart.

There's so much love there.

As you go for it, let go of whatever stories you may have inherited or created around love.

There's so much within you.

Love is something that can come through you naturally, the same way that air in the form of oxygen for us to breathe naturally comes out of a plant.

She is able to allow the processes to express it naturally.

Perhaps in order for you to receive more love in this lifetime or in this year or in this day, maybe you have to let go.

Comment below, tell me what's coming up for you.

You can even journal your answers if you'd like or send them to me.

I'd love to share and talk to you about that. 

That's this week's message. By all means, please go to victoriawhitfield.com/freegift and make sure that you subscribe so that you're getting your weekly Love Letters if you haven’t already.

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Sending you so much love 🙂

See you next time. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Overwhelmed by other people's energy lately?

Feeling overworked because you can't say "no" when other people ask you to do them a favor?

Scared that you're headed for burnout?

You can release yourself from this vicious cycle.

It's time to stop enabling other people's victim behavior, and let them start saving themselves for a change.

Watch the above 8-minute video to let go of managing other people's drama!

"I don't have to play this game anymore."

I'm hearing the Oracle cards calling in the energy right now.

This week, in particular, Source is telling you to be on the lookout for where are you allowing excessive energy for people to stomp all over you.

Or allowing them to bulldoze over your sense of personal calm with their emotions. Or their work - you're taking it and putting on your back from theirs. Transferring it to you.

They have a wonderfully low tolerance for how much work, or how much emotion, or how much silence in themselves they're willing to tolerate.

"Oh, I don't have to carry the work, you'll take it. Great. I don't have to sort through my emotions and my problems, you will. Great. I don't have to hold all of my thoughts within me and analyze them myself. Great you will."

Dump, dump, dump.

The only reason why you're catching the dump is because you're automatically saying, "Okay."

There's an agreement there.

This is not to shame or guilt you, by the way.

Source is saying you have all the power in this situation.

Drama and dramatic situations often can convince you, with all the shiny lights, bells and whistles of dramatic emotions, painful words, or frustrating circumstance, all those shiny shiny lights can distract you and make you think that, "I'm a victim. I am subject to what's happening to me. There's no way out."

That is not true.

You always have all power. This is a free will universe. You can choose to change your situation at any time, any time.

When you realize you're face deep in someone else's junk - face deep in their drama, their emotion, their story, their work - when you're at the office and you're doing way more than what your pay grade says that you're doing, just say this to yourself: "I don't have to play this game anymore," and step out of the drama sandbox they're playing in.

All right, get up. Stand up. Stand up and just say: "I'm not playing this game anymore." Step out.

The chills. You can do it. It really is that easy.

It really is that easy.

When you decide, the entire Universe changes. Why? Because the whole Universe herself was created by a decision.

Know this: You can #change your life; you just need to decide. Claim it: "My life is #drama free!"

This week's oracle card is "Divine Timing." Now is the perfect moment for you to act on your inspirations.

You can change your mind and change your entire situation, your entire life now.

This video is coming to you in perfect timing they're also saying.

The doors are open while you walk through them with us, the Angels, by your side.

Don't delay or procrastinate, as all the ingredients are ripe for your success.

They're saying right now, you have everything you need to shift your state right now. Right now. Literally, right now.

Everything and everyone is on your side supporting your positive outcome.

The energy I'm hearing is saying sometimes we convince ourselves that everyone is against us, that the world doesn't want us to succeed, that others around you are not on your level and it makes it very adversarial.

Granted, not everyone is on your vibration and you can't please everybody, but that doesn't mean you have to get tied up in that.

Let it go. If they're not on your level, let them go. You don't even have to think twice.

It's the same as if you ever worked in a multi-floor building.

If you're working on the 12th floor how often do you think about people on the 11th floor on a day-to-day basis?

Those of you out in New York City or out of Houston Texas, big tall buildings, how often do you think, "Well, I wonder what people on the 3rd and 4th floor are doing right now? Gosh, they're beneath me. Bwah haha har!"

No, you're just on another floor. That floor has nothing to do with you.

Let them be there. They're just living their lives one day at a time and the best the can, the same as you are.

Be kind to yourself. You don't even have to get involved with that drama.

Sending you so much love, confidence and transformative energy.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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