Too scared to say what you mean to say?

Feeling like you can't speak up about what's really weighing on your heart?

Do you keep your mouth shut because you're afraid that you'll be rejected or "look stupid" if you say what you think?

Deep down we all know that things left unsaid can slowly eat away at us. But still, we don't say anything in an effort to "keep the peace."

Are we really keeping the peace though if it's at the expense of our health? Because inner turmoil and repressed feelings certainly aren't healthy!

Watch the above video to learn how to break the silence and speak up for yourself with love and healing!

"Rock the boat! Don't rock the boat, baby. Rock the boat! Don't tip the boat over."

This week’s topic is about giving yourself the silent treatment.

Why do we do that to ourselves? What does that mean?

When we're giving our-self the silent treatment, it means we are blocking out whatever we really want to say.

Perhaps there's a situation that's come up at work or at home with a loved one or your kids or friends that you've been interacting with. You feel like you just can't talk about it or you can't speak up.

You feel like you’re out of bounds, telling yourself “well, if I say that they're going to reject me” or “they're going to criticize me,” or “they're going to get emotional and I don't want to have to deal with all that.”

Think about the situation now, as you read this. Do you feel like you can't speak up about what's really on your heart? Like you can't clear the air there?

Also, perhaps you may feel like if you do say something you're going to be singled out. And that’s the last thing you want is to be singled out as the “troublemaker” who rocked the boat or even tipped it over, right?

We tell ourselves a million and one reasons why we should give ourselves the silent treatment and we cut off expression because we believe it’s for our own good.

"It’s safer to just blend into the wallpaper." "I don't want anybody to feel like I'm making waves or that I'm getting too full of myself."

You know, in Australia my Australian friends have a name for this phenomena of giving yourself the silent treatment: it’s called the “tall poppy syndrome.”

In a beautiful field of poppies, if one grows taller, the gardener chops off her bloom because she stands out. So that means you shouldn't stand out too much, and anyone who does should be chopped down to size, to preserve status quo.

Know This: You may think you're "keeping the peace," but choosing not to speak your truth is actually a choice to do more harm than good to yourself and everyone involved. #speakup #clarity

Although "tall poppy syndrome" is meant to protect the status quo, it's actually harmful, because it's based in fear. It is really just the fear of being seen and heard.

Whenever we actively engage in or operate from fear, this is energetically -- spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically, financially, etc. -- harmful. Yes, it actively does harm.

But, wait! There's more!

Giving yourself the silent treatment is not only the fear of being seen. On the flip side, it’s also the fear of being hurt.

Spirit says that we give ourselves the silent treatment to avoid feeling hurt, and that one way this manifests is always apologizing or back-pedaling for something that we did or said.

At the drop of a hat, we think to ourselves, “oh crap, that fell out of my mouth toward you so let me just try and do damage control.”

And so, as if you have a nervous tick, you immediately say “I didn't really mean that” or are just always saying “I'm sorry, I’m sorry” and apologizing for yourself.

Even if you didn't do anything you want to be the first one to say I'm sorry so that you can shut it down. Shut all of the energy down. Control, control, control.

So it all boils down to this: the real reason why give ourselves the silent treatment is to control our energy. But we are doing this in a dark way; it is not The Master Path for controlling our energy.

When you shut down your expression in the energy the angels are saying that it's like being at the ocean and trying to dam up the entire ocean, along the entire beach.

Can you imagine a dam running all the way down the Jersey Shore, just the entire of the state, just trying to keep it at bay and not let it ebb and flow as she needs to do?

Rather than honoring her power and natural beauty, you intuitively know that the dam is trying to control her so only a certain amount of ocean can be present at the beach. The one that comes out of this teeny little tap right here. Ha!

With this image, the angels are saying you’re making your power – which is like the ocean and infinite – very, very small.  

Painfully small.

Harmfully small.

Unnaturally small.

We need to learn how to respect and honor whatever is coming through us; to respect and honor our power and our energy.

If we don't, then there are repercussions.

The same way that the ocean doesn't just disappear if you try to dam her up, is the same way that your energy doesn't just disappear if you clam yourself up -- it reroutes.

Oftentimes when we tend to shut down our own expression it manifests physically with disease and discomfort.

So, for example, do you have chronic neck and shoulder pain? Tightness of the jaw? Do you grind your teeth?

Or when you're stressed out, you crunch it together or do you tend to often want to chew on things? Like chewing on straws, pens and pencils or are you addicted to chewing gum?

Oral fixations and addictions are signs of underlying spiritual issues that have to do with expression being stifled.

If you’re addicted to smoking or drinking, don’t be judgmental, instead just notice yourself from a spiritual and energetic perspective.

Take notice of all of these physical manifestations in and around the throat, such as chronic ear infections, catching a cold every winter or even in the summer, etc. as not random events.

Put them in a spiritual context as guidance and warning signs from Spirit that something you are doing is out of alignment with Source.

And what is out of alignment is your relationship with expression: you’re afraid of your truth and allowing it to flow through you.

We're afraid to really put it out there, really allow truth -- which is Source energy -- to move through us. It's raw, it is beautiful. It's always healing, even if it is painful.

But how the heck do we start to turn this situation around then? Are there any techniques and strategies to stop giving yourself the silent treatment? YES!

You’ll have to watch the rest of this week’s video strategy to find out the exactly how!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Call yourself out when you're clamming up or too afraid to speak up, by announcing it out loud. Yes, really! You can just announce that you're scared.

When you feel yourself shutting down, holding or pulling back, you can literally say "I have something to say but I'm afraid to speak up right now." 

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Are you "stuck in your head" often because you're so stressed out and busy these days?

Feeling frustrated that you're not getting through to people, or that your loved ones, clients or colleagues aren't quite connecting with you in the way you would like them to?

Worried that when you talk no one hears you, or do you even feel that people think you are "ranting" or "rambling" all the time?

Communication issues have to do with the part of your energetic body that's called the Throat Chakra.

The Throat Chakra governs your ability to speak up and be heard with clarity and authenticity in this lifetime.

Watch the above video to explore why you should stop "speaking your mind," and what you should start doing instead, to heal your communication issues!

Clear communication is an energy exchange.

It involves you expressing yourself clearly, as well as the other person experiencing your expression clearly.

A healthy Throat Chakra exchange leaves you feeling heard, connected and well received.

Therefore, the energy exchanged in communication needs to be clear and open on both sides: both for that of the speaker and listener.

It's obvious that having a garbled message can ruin the quality of our communication with others.

However, what may not be so obvious is that having garbled energy can also affect the quality of our communication with others, perhaps even moreso than the message itself.

Why? Because everyone is an empathic listener, to some degree.

And, on top of that, the majority of people have no idea what the heck that means. YAY! 🙂 It's a hot mess, I know, but hey, that's what we are here to solve, right lightworkers?

So what exactly is an empathic listener?

Does that mean everyone is psychic or something? No, not exactly.

An empathic listener is someone who is "listening" to or moreover aware of the energy that someone else is giving off in a given situation. In short, they pick up the person's "vibes."

For example, have you ever had the experience of watching someone read a really well-written speech, but you could tell they were faking it or being disingenuous?

What gave them away? They had correct body language, they varied their voice tone elegantly, and said all the right words. Heck, they even had a great outfit on and smelled good!

But how you could tell that they didn't really feel what they were saying to you, even though all of your 5 senses were being "correctly" tickled by the book?

Here's how: your 6th Empathic Sense felt the imbalanced energy that they were sending out, and you in turn concluded they were being disingenuous.

This is therefore a more extreme example of someone speaking their mind, and not speaking their heart.

The meaning, the resonance, gets lost in translation when we are personally out of alignment when communicating.

And that's a big reason why people can and will misunderstand what we are trying to say, or even write off what we are talking about: it's not coming from the right place.

Know this: Don't speak your mind. Speak your heart. #communication #leadership

When we try to do a "perfect" job in talking, sometimes the heart of the matter can get lost in translation.

Maybe you've been preparing your presentation at work for a very long time, or maybe you've been trying to figure out "just the right way" to tell your loved one something that's a sensitive subject.

Just get out of your head, and into your heart.

The ego is very powerful at wanting to wrap himself around everything you experience. However, it can in it's wrapping end up choking the flow of expression with too much censorship and analysis paralysis.

So, when you feel like your loved ones, clients or colleagues aren't quite getting it, make time to stop what you're saying and check in with them. You can ask "did that make sense or have I lost you?" for example.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which explains exactly how to speak from your heart and who you're really doing it for!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Pause, and drop into your heart.

Watch the video and do the simple heart-centering exercise before you go to speak.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Stressed out at work?

Feel like you are constantly putting out fires left and right?

Wish there was a way to be productive AND have more peace and calm while you're working?

Believe it or not, you are 100% responsible (and in control of) how you feel at work.

When you're stressed out, it's easy to blame your coworkers, customers or managers for how you feel, but how you feel actually is up to you, regardless of how crazypants dramatic or annoying they get.

Watch the above video to learn 3 ways to relax while at work that can be done while working -- no meditation break needed!

RELAX!! RELAX ALREADY! 🙂

Ever encounter someone just so stressed out at work that they look like an angry high-speed hamster, running from task to task furiously, as if that hamster wheel is really going to get them somewhere faster if they put the pedal to the metal?

Seeing them struggle with over-analyzing the simplest tasks is exhausting, right? How the they load up everything with unnecessary excuses, emotion and explosions...

Yeah. That someone is YOU right now.

Use your imagination for a minute or two as you read this.

Imagine that you could clone yourself, where the Clone You can observe the Regular You -- same intellect, age and everything, except the Clone You has no responsibilities and is independently wealthy (like an abundant bystander). Now, step into the Clone's point of view, and watch yourself. Really stand back and observe Regular You stressing at work.

Don't you just want to shake yourself and say "RELAX! Calm down! You're fine!" when you're on the outside looking in?

Granted, we are not all independently wealthy and responsibility-free, but the point of that visualization is to activate the part of your energy that is Free and Open, always.

It's this part of your intellect that kicks in when there is an emergency at home (someone's water broke or the house is on fire, for example) and you magically are able to detach from all the drama and drudgery at work and leap into action.

And it is this mindset, a creative and responsive mindset, you will need to embrace the simple techniques in this week's Love Letter.

Because, you can't relax at work if you don't admit that 1) you're stressed out, and 2) something needs to be done about it in the moment.

You see, the danger in being stressed out at work -- or, occupational stress, as it is officially called -- is that we both ignore it as par for the course, and accept it as if there's nothing we can do.

In spiritual truth, however, you are 100% in control of how you feel at any given moment. The same way that there's a part of your intellect (Clone You) that knows you should detach and relax, there's also the capability within you to control how you feel while at work, regardless of what's going on around you.

It comes down to a choice: will you focus on Your Health or focus on Your Job?

Now, I'm not saying you should quit your job because it stresses you out. If that's where your head went, then LOL you missed the point! 🙂

The point is this: where your awareness goes, energy flows.

So if you focus on meeting that deadline, people-pleasing, and other externally-driven things at work, then the energy will go to increasing the intensity of deadlines, people-pleasing activities and everything else.

Know this: The key that unlocks peace at work is self-awareness; not being self-conscious. Know yourself, and respond accordingly. #love #selfcare

You see, when you know yourself, you can respond to a triggering (or stress-inducing) situation strategically, because you know what you need to feel safe, centered and clear.

Yet, if you are self-conscious instead of self-aware, you will leap to please others without regard to your needs and values, as they are less important than whoever or whatever you are comparing yourself to -- comparison is the basis of negative self-consciousness, by the way.

Once you are clear on who and what triggers your stress response, then it's easier for you to regularly employ stress-reduction techniques. It's all about your mindset.

You are the only one who is really in charge of how you feel, so act like you know this, and take charge!

Most people are unconscious and unaware of this at work, so occupational stress runs their life, dictating the quality of day they have, rather than it being the other way around

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows you how to activate your creative mind to de-stress at work!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Watch yourself.

Try the "Clone You" visualization described in the above article, and really observe if you are responding with self-awareness to your stressors, or reacting because you are self-conscious.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

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