Scared to stand out and take up space?

Shrinking yourself physically or emotionally to make others comfortable, or even for fear of being seen?

Do you tend to "keep your mouth shut" around others, rather than speaking your mind openly?

Our bodies are mirrors of our emotional health and mindset.

So if you live with chronic tightness, aches and pains, that's actually a physical manifestation of limiting beliefs you have about yourself.

Watch this week's 11-minute love letter video, the final installment of our 5-week series on living life unapologetically, to release all restriction and boldly take up space in life and business!

"I don't trust myself to be able to get my point across."

So this is week five of five in our deep dive into living life unapologetically. Yeah.

This has been a powerful, powerful series of living fully, right? And embracing our brilliance, living as if, as we discussed last week, we're already worthy, right?

There's nothing additional that needs to be done. We're worthy now. If you missed that, go back on YouTube, check it out. Watch that video.

This week, the spirit guides have said our topic is taking up space. Take up space. Do this with me. Spread your arms out. Open your chest. Breathe deep and exhale. Take up space, right?

Are you someone, if you are blessed vertically, if you're tall, do you tend to hunch, or stand with a slouch so that you appear shorter? Are you someone who feels a bit insecure about speaking up, so instead, rather than waste people's time, or be annoying and take up space, you tend to hurry yourself.

Do you hurry yourself when you're speaking, or not even express anything? In your home, by the way, is there no space for you, or is all your stuff crammed into the corner or shoved into a drawer? Are you afraid to really spread out so that you can be creative and expressive?

Right? No, that's not for you. That's for the kids. You're not allowed, right?

If that's you, be kind to yourself. Just because other people take up space doesn't mean that you are not allowed to. There's enough space for all of us. That's a tweetable, as Marie Forleo would say.

Know this, there's enough space for all of us. You are enough. The world is enough. There's enough time for all of us. Be kind to yourself.

‪Know this: There's enough space for all of us. Just because other people take up space, doesn't mean that you're not allowed to. Take up space, #unapologetically!

If you carry shame, right? Do you carry that shame around all ... You know, "I have something to say, but you know, everybody has something to say, and I don't really trust myself to get my point across, so instead of being articulate, and expressing openly, I'll be quiet, and watch everyone else try and fail, but at least, you know, I didn't try, so I didn't fail." I'm giving you a big hug if this is you. I know this is tough. Oh my goodness. Take up space.

But this week in particular, the guides are showing images of you decompressing your body. Stretch. Go ahead. Stand up, like right now. Stand up. Get up, get up, and reach over your head, tickle the ceiling, wherever you are, tickle it and just radiate your light in all directions.

Allow your hips to roll open. Stretch your jaw, right? Your eyes, stretch your eyes. Yeah. Roll your shoulders. Roll them open. Do freestyle, whatever you need to do to open up any tightness in your body. Take up space.

Be kind to yourself.

If you're afraid of taking up space in conversation, or even with your marketing, for example, to all my entrepreneurs and business owners, if you're uncomfortable being visible, and commanding attention, start with your body. Let's be clear. We're going to start internally. The healing starts with you.

You don't have to worry about anybody else, but instead, open your body first. Decompress, right? I can't show you this on camera, but if you were to hang over your knees and let your head be pulled down by gravity, you could even decompress your spine. So important.

So, it's essential for you, in living life unapologetically, to not be so compressed all the time. This is an apology for being in the same space as everyone else, and this is affirming that there's not enough space for you. Trust me, the universe is big enough to handle you. In all your imperfections and all your awesomeness, the universe is big enough.

Come out and play. Make it open, and even if it's a bit messy, whatever, right? Be kind to yourself. You don't have to do it perfectly.

So take up space, and stretch especially. Stretch open your body. Imagine, by the way, as you stretch your body, filling the space with your energy, as if you were shining light and radiating light into the entire room, into the entire building, out into the town, out into the state, around the country, and out into the world, right?

Radiate that permission to take up space. Do it for your brothers and sisters who are in extreme poverty, right? Who are oppressed, and depressed, and repressed. Open your body on behalf of our tribe, on behalf of our tribe. Take up space.

I'm hearing the Oracle Cards calling the energy this week, again is our last with the daily guidance from the Angels, another Oracle Cards deck, one of the many that have been donated here at the dojo, always accepting donations. Okay, Angels. What do we need to know right now, about taking up space? Cupid. Beautiful. Aw, there's so much love in this card, Cupid. Oh, the heart bubble. So sweet.

"We send great waves of love into your heart and mind, awakening your love for life itself. Your clear decision to accept and enjoy romance has triggered this awakening. Allow yourself to spontaneously celebrate love in all of its glorious aspects."

So, my guides are telling me ... This Angel card has come forward in particular, for you to welcome love into your life. Yes, romantic love. Yes, physical love. Yes, emotional love. Yes, love. Opening up to receive more love in your life starts with you being open and decompressed, right? Take up space.

Give yourself permission to say, "Hi. What's your name?" To all of my single people out there, take up space, get yourself a ... like, you know, a seat at the coffee shop and type on your laptop conspicuously. Take up space, and if you are married, or with a partner, your lover, take up space with them. Like, "I desire to be with you," or "I'm going to be in your space because I love you," yeah? Take up emotional space. You can say what you need and you can express yourself. This is your permission.

This week in particular, take up space. How are you going to do it, right? Are you just going to start with the physical stretching more, and making sure that your body physically is open and lubricated, or are you also going to take it the emotional and social level? Are you going to take up space in your relationships and interactions?

Comment below on YouTube, on Facebook, send me an email back, right? I want to hear it. How are you taking up space. I love love and I love love letters, so send me a mail. Send me a love letter in the mail. I just got one. Yay! Thanks, Johanna. Hers is right there, that white piece of paper, pink writing. So beautiful. Thank you, goddess.

And, make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every week, all right? Live life unapologetically.

We'll see you next time. Bye.

(Original post 01/29/2018)

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Scared of sticking out from the crowd?

Do you put yourself down to make other people feel comfortable?

Lacking confidence, especially when introducing yourself others?

Sensitive empaths are often taught to put other people first, and to never brag because it’s rude.

But sometimes being able to celebrate yourself is essential, especially when introducing yourself and your business, to connect deeply and convey confidence to potential clients and partners.

Watch this week’s 11-minute love letter video, part 3 of our 5-week deep dive on living life Unapologetically, to learn exactly how to start celebrating how freakin’ awesome you are, even if you’re not used to it!

"My goes blank when I try to tell people about myself."

It's week three of our five week deep dive.

This is so good. A really juicy topic of living life unapologetically.

Now, I've been getting so much response off of this topic, oh my gosh. To those of you who get the mail, like the real ones, the real love letters, you've been writing me back and saying, "Thank you so much. I love this topic. This is my word for the year, too. Let's do this," or "Here's my word," I'm loving it.

I'm loving it and I'm really curious to hear more from you, so go ahead, email me back.

Write me back. Post me back. Tell me all the things that are coming up for you around living life unapologetically.

Last week, we covered Sorry, Not Sorry, right? Deleting the word "sorry" from our vocabulary.

This week in particular, we're going to cover with the technique of the week is celebrating yourself. Whoa! Isn't it just the most frightening thing that we could possibly talk about? Oh my goodness.

So, maybe you're like me in that when someone asks you, "So tell me about yourself," I especially used to be this way, it was like a blank slate just completely wiped over my mind, and I'm like, "What in the world do I say to this person?" "Tell me about yourself," or "What's new and good," or "Tell me something good," the kind of open-ended questions that a confident person, I'm sure we all know them, who would jump right in with like how great their workout regimen is, or how much money they made, or how in love they are, or how much they love their kids, or this one time when they threw the football all the way across the yard, or something way back in high, or whatever.

Confident people celebrate themselves, but for those of us that are more sensitive naturally, this can be a bit of a dilemma because we think of celebrating ourselves as being egocentric, selfish, self-serving, getting too full of yourself. In Australia we call it tall poppy, right? Cut that poppy down to size so that you look like the rest of the fold.

For us, as empaths, we're also afraid of feeling the uncomfortable emotional sensation, ambient emotional sensation of visibility and judgment, like, "Oh. Well, if I really celebrate myself, I'm going to sense this person judging me and I don't want those cooties in my head. Ew, I can feel their jealousy."

Is this you? Are you afraid of celebrating yourself because of what other people will think? If that's you, sending big love, and that's going to stop this week.

For those of you who work with me privately, you know that I have a group support program called the Visionary Shaman Circle, and in that we practice, I'm going to introduce you to this if you haven't heard of this before, the technique of the week is called a C2R2. In the Shaman Circle, we really work on standing in our brilliance as spiritual entrepreneurs, healers and empaths. We work on standing in our brilliance.

One of the techniques that we use in the Shaman Circle for doing this effectively is called the C2R2. Not the R2D2, to all my Star Wars fans. The C2R2, it's two Cs and two Rs. What are you celebrating, what are you creating? What are you releasing, and what are you requesting?

It's a form to follow in reporting about yourself so that if you get that open-ended question of, "Oh, so tell me what you do," or "Tell me about yourself," say, "Okay. Well, I'm celebrating having come off my first two weeks of personal vacation. I'm really grateful for that. I'm creating more sacred space to be with my loved ones. Lately, I've been releasing fear around taking risks in my business, but what I'm requesting right now more than ever, from a source, from the universe, or maybe even from you is more support on how to make that happen."

Boom! All of a sudden, I just ran right through the format of a C2R2: what are you celebrating, what are you creating, what are you releasing, what are you requesting? There's no fifth thing.

So you run right through that, and when you get the hang of it, you'll be able to celebrate yourself authentically and with a sense of ease, it'll roll right off of you. But it starts with celebrating yourself because guess what? You're really freaking awesome! Has anyone told you that lately? You are really awesome. You do amazing things for everybody: for your boss, for your clients, for your family, for your kids, for so many people.

‪Know this: You are freakin’ awesome! And it’s time you started celebrating YOURSELF. #inspiration #entrepreneur @SenseiWhitfield

If you were to sit down and write all of the things that you are celebrating that you've accomplished let's just say within the last week, you would have a fit. In fact, that is this week's homework.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards calling in the energy as the action step for the week comes forward. Sit down, even if you can't do a complete C2R2, just write a list of at least ten things that you are celebrating you've accomplished within the last week. If you can't come up within the last week, try the last three months or six months, maybe even a year.

Really soak that in, that you are a powerful being. You are a powerful being. Source knows that about you. We're continuing with daily guidance from the Angels. Let's see. Angels, what do you have to tell our tribe? This is one of the many decks here, always open to receiving donations of additional Oracle card decks.

Angels, what do we need to know right now about celebrating ourselves to live an unapologetic life? Oh, hello. Yes! Release and surrender. This is so perfect.

"We shower you with blessings of our radiant love. Open your arms and release the challenges that you've held tightly gripped within your hands. Open your hands, arms and heart to our love and assistance." This is where we're going to leave off for the week. I'm getting de ja vu around this card. This is kind of interesting. Part of celebrating yourself is letting go of being small, letting go, surrendering the idea that the smaller you are the safer you will feel, or the less brilliant you are the better other people will feel. There's so much love inside of you, for you, coming from your source, coming from spirit, but coming from yourself, like a garden hose.

Up until now, you may have pinched that off, and that'll show up in different areas of your life, being pinched off financially, pinched off neurologically, pinched off romantically, pinched off socially, however you say. But if only just for now, we're going to release and surrender that pinched part of our energy to really open up and celebrate. You can do this. You can do this.

Send me an email back, and comment below what's your list of ten things, the ten things that you're going to celebrate that you've accomplished about yourself.

For all my Visionary Shamans, if you want to do a full-on C2R2, go ahead and post it below, send me an email back. By the way, if this speaks to you, join us in the Master Manifester Challenge. I'll put a link, and that's my five-day Facebook challenge. I know another one is coming up soon, whenever you're watching this.

We do them periodically where we will be doing C2R2s every single day and getting your vibrations super high, training you how to do that so that you can live life unapologetically and abundantly. So I will see you next week for week four of five. See you then. Bye!

(Original post 01/15/2018)

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We're starting off a new series now and it's specifically on rocking your retrograde.

And so starting now and over the next four videos we're going to talk about exactly how to get the most out of being in mercury retrograde. And here's the reason why you should care as an energy sensitive and spiritual entrepreneur or business owner, or you're just someone who is professional and out and working during this time and you can pick up on the energy.

Here's why you need to know about this: For one, oh my goodness, mercury retrograde comes about four times a year and it's for three weeks each and every time. At the filming of this video, mercury retrograde has just begun so you're getting that retrogrady energy as well as you watch it.

So be kind to yourself if you're starting to feel a little bit off. And so if you're used to being on your game, expecting all the technology and the travel to work, expecting you to be completely dead on with all of your speaking and presentations, expecting others to understand exactly what you're communicating. If you're used to things swimming along and being super productive without interruption, mercury retrograde is a lovely kick in the patoodie.

Because we're being invited to come outside of that normal productivity cycle. And let's talk about why that happens. Before we get to that, I just want to make it clear, if you're like, "Oh my God Victoria, I have no idea what mercury retrograde is," what's happening? I don't understand. Wonderful. 101 as far as mercury retrograde is, it's when astrologically there's an optical illusion in the night sky of the planet mercury going in the opposite direction instead of heading in it's typical orbit through the night sky. And the reason why is because from our vantage point, mercury is going on the edge, the very thin dip. It doesn't revolve in a perfect circle in it's transit through space. It's a very long oval. And when it gets to that long oval point, right there at the point, it starts looking, from our vantage point, our own perspective, that things are going backwards. And astrologically speaking, mercury governs communication, commerce, business, technology and travel.

From our perspective, from our vantage point, all of these areas look like they're going backwards. It looks like there's problems cropping up. And it happens for three weeks four times a year. Sometimes three times a year but it's usually around four times a year. This is a quarterly, semi-quarterly occurrence. Be kind to yourself if you're susceptible to natural energy, forces of nature. We're going to be talking over the next four videos how you can, instead of feeling like everything's going backward and hitting the fan for you, you can actually catch this wave of deep clearing and healing energy that the universe is sending us. And you can use it specifically to deepen your own healing as well as improve all of the systems and standard operations within your travel, your technology, commerce and communications.
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So this is a time for up leveling, right? So we've got to rock our retrogrades because you have been asking for more. You're in your manifesting process, you're open to being all that you can be. And in nature, the way that she copes with becoming more than what she was before is by molting, right? We have seasons. Whether you're looking at bird, right, or a deer's antlers or a bird shedding her feathers, molting, or the deer molting his antlers or the snake shedding skin, it's because there's growth happening.

Or here in New Jersey we have four seasons. So we're going into fall in a little bit, otherwise known as autumn. And the leaves fall, right? The trees themselves are molting because this is a process of sustainable productivity. You're witnessing one of the steps in the process of sustainable productivity. The next time you see something go a bit awry or is not working the way that you used to expect it to in your communication, travel, technology or commerce, in those areas of your life, for this week in particular, be on the lookout for that. Because you have to acknowledge that there is progress. This is one step in the right direction of letting go.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. I'm going to pop up a wee bit closer so you can see them. Back with you, Indigo Angel Oracle cards deck. This is for those of us who are energy sensitive. Thank you, Doreen Virtue for creating this deck to keep us inspired when the energy gets a bit thick and a bit tough to move through. So Angels, what do we need to know right now about rocking our retrograde? And allowing the molt?

Oh yeah. Self reflection. So good. Kind of the perfect segue to what we're going to be speaking about for the next few videos. Self reflection. The angels are bringing this card forward, in particular, to help you slow down and take a good look at who you think you are and who you really are. Right? The reason why we're "molting" is because you have been so filled, so productive and so ready, you've taken in so much brilliance that it's time to let go of who you think you are, the mini you and make room for who you really are. The next iteration of your brilliance. The next level of your business, the next program that you are being called to launch or the next book that you're being pulled to write.

There's a shedding process of your self that has got to take place naturally in order to allow that to happen. So send me an email back, comment below, what comes up for you around this topic? Are you feeling the molt? Right? Be kind to yourself, we're slowing down in our productivity cycle seasons. So let me know what comes up for you around taking time for ore self reflection, journaling, just being aware. You're going to be okay, we're in it together. And if you have more questions and you do want more support, especially during this time, go ahead to victoriawhitfield.com/contact. Get on my calendar and let's connect, you  and me one on one to talk about your unique situation.

I'll see you next week, make sure you subscribe on YouTube so you get these love letters first every weekend. Bye.

(Original post date 08/06/2018)

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See your fatigue, frustration or lack of focus as a sign of you shedding what no longer serves you in life and business.

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This is the fifth and final week of our exploration of vulnerability, cultivating our relationship with being vulnerable and improving our ability to engage and open up in a positive way, maybe for the first time.

Now if this is the first video that you're seeing in this series, make sure that you hit pause, go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com and start from part one, so that you are grounded in this process. Without further ado, this week in particular for the fifth and final week of our discussion on vulnerability, my spirit guides have asked us to discuss vulnerable leadership.

Last week, we talked about the power of opening up as an empath to being vulnerable, so that we can better relate to and interact with the people and things that we care about in this lifetime. We talked about respecting our energy as empaths, but also not letting our sensitivity dominate us in this lifetime – claiming that as a power, rather than a disability – or be something that you're constantly afraid of or overly protecting yourself from. This week, however, we're going even farther into vulnerability as a power and applying it to leadership.

A wonderful role model of vulnerable leadership and someone who's a thought leader in this area, two people actually, I would have to say one is Simon Sinek and the other is Brene Brown. If you have not checked out their work, I highly recommend it. They have amazing, inspiring, empowering things to share with you around vulnerable leadership and how healing it is especially in the professional world.

The most painful thing that I've seen is how insensitive leadership destroys powerful teams that have become like family and overcome the most incredible odds together. These things that come from the top-down in corporate – restructuring, or layoffs, or whatever hot word they use to explain being insensitive to the needs and the preciousness of the relationships of the people that are working under them – it's incredible how destructive they can be.

I grew up watching my mother re-enter the workforce after 17 years as a homemaker to work for a certain corporation as a technical writer, and then a web developer, and coder for over 20 years. I remember as a kid going to their picnics and things and seeing all of these people that she worked with like my extended family, and feeling part of something bigger; seeing them laughing, and supporting one another. ...Then I also lived through, as a young woman, watching them be torn apart, seeing the stress, and the pain of those wonderful relationships being just torn apart, torn apart by restructuring or “re-orgs” as the company would say. I'm not going to say what company because I want to respect privacy here.

Maybe you've seen this happen in your family – your work family – or your corporation as well, this being torn apart by insensitive leadership, putting numbers before people, or putting self-protection first, which is something that we hinted at last week. Let's go into it this time for our final discussion: the toxic effects of putting self-protection before serving their community around us.

We can get protection-obsessed especially in the professional world because for some reason we allow money and numbers to make us paranoid and prioritize dollars and quotas, and metrics above people, relationships, health and mutual human respect. Be kind to yourself if this is something that you've witnessed happening and that you don't want to be a part of any longer. If only just for today, commit to being open as a leader. Commit to developing your ability to be vulnerable along with the people who you are leading.

Simon Sinek gives us a wonderful example of how to measure how open-hearted you are as a leader. Leaders, he says, are people who watch out for the people to the right and to the left of them. That is it. It has nothing to do with titles, what's on your business card, or what your website says, or how big your office is, or how big your bank account is, or not. It's who are you being on a moment-to-moment basis. In order to look out for, to take care of, the people to the left and to the right of you, you've got to be open to what's going on with them, rather than just what's going on with “Me” and making sure that I'm getting x, y, z done, and so on.

It is a mental acrobatic that you do at first to decide, “I'm going to be concerned, and open, and curious, and communicative with the people that are to the left and to the right of me. The people that are supporting me, I am going to support them. I'm going to be open to how do they feel right now. I'm going to ask them, ‘how are you feeling? Are you all right?’ and loving and supporting them in that.”

Coming from a space of your own center of love and support and not forgetting that you as a leader have needs and have feelings is also important, which is something that we also discussed last week, opening to the fact that I have feelings, too, as an Empath. As someone who supports others, I have feelings. I have needs, and they have got to be honored and respected by me first and then also the people that I'm sharing this life experience with.

Be kind to yourself if in trying to be a vulnerable leader, meaning someone who is present to and caring for the people who are in your care, you've sacrificed your own self-care. That is negative vulnerable leadership because it leaves you open to health problems, relationship problems, spiritual and emotion oppression, depression. Be kind to yourself. That leaves you negatively vulnerable.

How can we then as leaders, moreover as Healing Leaders (that's my term) on this planet, how can we open up to leading from the heart, leading with courage, and positive vulnerability? I’m curious, what does that look like? Positive, vulnerable leadership, is healing leadership. I would venture that it starts with healing self, first, and staying open to being present to those that are in our care, who are supporting us, who are following us, and share the same beliefs and vision that we have. We're all working together in one direction. At the same time, there's the person out in front who holds the vision, being the Visionary. --

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Are you healing? Are you present to yourself? Okay, if you are, you're doing your self-care, you're doing your spiritual nourishment, your physical nourishment and love. Good. And are you present to the people around you needing the same, just as much love, and approval, and support, and honor as you're showing yourself? Are they also learning how to do that for the people behind them as well?

Be a Healing Leader. It entails being open to being vulnerable, cultivating that ability to be vulnerable, but if only just for today, commit to being a healing leader by opening to being vulnerable in a positive and empowering way.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards like, "Hey, pick us!" It's Healing with the Angels oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue, her very first oracle cards deck that she ever made in her career. Angels, what do we need to know right now about stepping into healing leadership by embodying being positive, vulnerable leaders? ...This is so good, like I could literally do an entire summit on this, “listening.” Listening! This is so perfect. I love that in the picture, she's listening to her angels, and her angels are listening to her. I'm going to read, I don't really have to, but before I read I just want to tell you what I'm hearing from my spirit guides around listening.

The most powerful leaders I've ever followed in my own life have been profound listeners, profound. Having the courage to listen to your people as a leader is essential. God, She gave us two ears and one mouth. We've got to listen twice as much as we give directions and directives. Anyway, let’s start listening. Let me read:

Listening. You are in communication with your angels and the messages that you are receiving are very real indeed. Trust them. This card is a validation from your angels that you really are hearing them. You have been receiving repetitive messages through your feelings, dreams, visions, inner voice, or knowingness. Are you listening and trusting these messages? Are you following them? If you get an inclination to call someone, go somewhere, or read something, it's important to follow this guidance. By drawing this card, your angels ask you to give all your doubts or worries about divine guidance to them. Know that you truly are communicating with heaven and enjoy the conversations.

This is so perfect. Here's where we'll leave off for this entire series: Cultivating your listening sense. Your active listening is also cultivating positive vulnerability. If you are not comfortable listening to others, or you feel impatient, it's just because you haven't cultivated listening as a skill. It's just a skill that you're a little bit deficient in. If you just dedicate time and mental space to it, it gets easier and more pleasurable with time.

If you need to work on your listening skills, I highly recommend my book Natural Intuition Now. I take you step by step exactly through how to listen with presence and also why it is so important. The more that we become intuitive, open, vulnerable, healing and empowered leaders, the better our world becomes, the better the legacy of love becomes that we leave behind us in all the work that we do and all the people, all the lives that we touch.

Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfiled.com. What's coming up for you around this? Make sure you subscribe on YouTube, so that you get Love Letters first every single week. Tag someone who needs to hear this, and I will see you in the next one.

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Challenge yourself to actively listen twice as much as you speak, when in conversations and meetings.

Listen to your body, your feelings, others’ bodies and feelings, and shine the light of your attention on the things left unsaid by all involved in the conversation (yourself included).

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

-- Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business. Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

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What are the symptoms of turning into a techno-zombie?

Have you Become One with your Netflix and DVR accounts?

Bit by the Email Timesuck Vampire AGAIN? There goes another three hours!

FOMO or Fear of Missing Out has driven us as empathy and as entrepreneurs to be literally attached at the hip to our cellphones and other tech at all times.

And as technology continues to innovate, it's getting harder and harder to tell the difference between being productive and being distracted by it.

Watch this week's 14-minute love letter video for the third installment of our 5-week deep dive into self-care versus self-sabotage, and start healing your relationship with technology.

"I carry my phone everywhere."

We are on week three of five in our deep dive into the dance that we empaths do, between self-care and self-sabotage, right? Dancing that fine line like a boss, or not.

Kind of like a slave, right? If we're really looking at what are our addictions? How are we soothing ourselves versus actually caring for ourselves, right?

Last week, we talked about food, right? And emotional stuffing, how we use food to stuff our feelings, our empathic overwhelm down, so be kind to yourself if that's you, or if you haven't seen that, go ahead and go back in the playlist on YouTube, or back on the earlier blog post on victoriawhitfield.com. You'll see it there.

This week, this is a bit of like a meta-analysis, right? It's the analysis of the actual thing that's happening right now, is technology.

Social media and technology! It's so good, right?

How are we doing self-care versus self-sabotage, with all this technology stuff all over us, right? How impersonal does this feel, by the way, now that you can see my phone as I'm talking to you? Like, it's changed the whole look.

I'm not acting any differently, but now that I'm looking at or having my phone on camera, that feels different talking to you, versus you having my full attention. Hmm. So this is something that we have got to talk about, because you and I are looking at each other thanks to technology right now, right?

Current research says cell phone users touch their phone - they don't even really use it, they just touch it - between 2,500 and 5,500 times per day, spending an average of two to five hours within the screen, and this is just the phone, right?

I didn't even look at TV, or look at computer, laptop, or billboards, and GPS, and all the technology, and then other people's phones, and TVs, and laptops, and computers, and yada yada yada, the list goes on.

It's total technological immersion that we've got going on right now, and yes, it's connectivity, but there's a difference between connecting and feeling connected, right?

So with our phones, and all of these screens that we have around us, there is an emotional need that we are fulfilling, so this week in particular, my guides are bringing forward the Erickson, who came up with the six human needs?

So everybody has basic, human needs, right? That have got to be fulfilled in order for us to feel safe, happy, and fulfilled in life.

Even just normal, right, filling our needs is necessary for satisfying our baseline as human beings. It's just natural, and the six human needs are certainty, right? To know things that are going to be the same.

You know what the outcome is going to be. You know what to expect, right? Certainty. "I'm certain." Also, then, uncertainty. So, to know things are going to be spicy, and interesting, and we'll have adventures, and spontaneity, and diversity, right? Uncertainty.

Next is connection and love, so those two are kind of grouped together, but this is to feel connected to those around us, feel connected to something outside of ourselves, right? To be involved, to be in relationship of some sort. It doesn't even have to be with a human being, right? I think in Japan, they're marrying robots, some people are. Google it.

Four is significance. So, to know that you matter, or that you've been seen, and recognized, and acknowledged, that you're not just operating in a vacuum, but that, "Oh, I'm significant to something, someone, somehow," or, "I am significant," right? Those are our four universal, basic human needs. Everybody's into this. The last two are more spiritual in nature.

Number five is for growth. So, the need to feel like there's progress being made, that we're moving forward, or that we're getting better with time, things are developing momentum. Then six is for contribution, so to know that you have a legacy, or that you made a difference, that you taught something, or somebody, that there was an impact that was made. Those are our six human needs.

Now, if you just have three of those human needs, it's an addiction. Anything above that, you can forget about it. It'll dominate your life.

Technology, how many of those six human needs, right? Already, yes, we're going in to connect, right? Trying to connect, stay connected, get connected. How many times do you see that online, or on the computer, or wherever you're looking, whatever screen you're sucking on, right?

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Then, certainty, to know that everything is the same. I know the weather is the same as it's expected, right? Then uncertainty, "Ooh, look at this different shiny object, or squirrel on a pole, dancing," or something on Facebook.

So we've already got three there. Oh no! Then, well we've got contribution, posts, right? Like, comment, engage, subscribe. Legacy, oh no!

So, I'm sure I missed one, but you fill in the blank. Our human needs are absorbed in these screens, that are following us around all day.

Source wants you to know that the feeling behind that, the spiritual truth behind that, one is you're feeling lonely, bored, under-stimulated, anxious, and impatient. These are all the uncomfortable feelings that we'll have that will cause us to reach, those 2,500 to 5,500 times for our phone, for example, in a given day.

Unbelievable. I'm still flabbergasted by that number, but hey, you know, it's what the research says, as of 2017. So, be kind to yourself if that's you, right? You live with your phone, or you talk with your phone, or your phone is always on your hip, on your boob, on your ... Screens everywhere.

It's those low vibe feelings, though, that we are trying to escape. So this is what we want to honor this week, in particular, with your energy, is how are you escaping life? So this is our form of self-care, right? We're trying to care for these feelings of emptiness, loneliness, feeling bored, or under-stimulated, or even curious.

We're caring for that by escaping, right? Taking off, into the bowels of Google, or into the depths of Netflix, right? Or wherever you're going, in technology. Technology is meant for you to feel connected and have access. It does not put limits on you.

Now, there is an app, one of my awesome clients ... Hi, Elaine! She uses, called Moment, which is tracking you, how many minutes you've been on your phone, and you can start to raise your own self-awareness of, "Oh my gosh, I've been eating my phone for the last few days," right? It tracks your usage. Moment. It looks like a light green and white flower, if you're looking for it in the App Store, to help you, and it'll also give you alerts to put your phone down.

You've met your limit, right? But most technology is built for access, like this infinite connectivity and access, and that is a breeding ground for addiction and escaping away from your natural energy. Very, very, very un-grounding.

So this week in particular, Source is asking us instead, to unplug at the Deep Dive Retreat. Every year, we practice three whole days unplugged, and yes, we go through withdrawal, and yes it's intense, but it's amazing what happens when you go back to being a natural human being. Suddenly you can see flowers, and smell the ocean breeze, or even just, if you're not by the ocean, you're just alive, and aware, "Oh, this part of my body aches. Ooh, I feel like moving more," right? You're so much more in tune to your health, and to your energy, when you start practice unplugging strategically.

So that's your assignment for this week. Here's the Oracle Card deck. Let me pull this right quick, before we run out of time. Indigo Angel Oracle Cards deck. Another Doreen Virtue deck. One of, I believe, 21 now. Angels, what do we need to know this week, about oh God, screen-sucking?

Ah, time to create. This is where we'll leave off. You know, the bright side of technology is that it gives us an incredible myriad of platforms for expressing our creativity. I double dare you to get creative when you feel the urge to screen-suck, whether it's TV, laptop, tablet, phone, right? When you get the urge to screen-suck, do something creative. Maybe it's change your clothes, or primp yourself, or start drawing, or make a paper shape, or whatever you can do to get creative.

What's coming up for you? Comment below, send me an email back, what happened when you did that? What are you going to plan to do? Are you going to plan to draw? I love doodling, by the way. I doodle on all receipts, so whenever I'm out eating, or shopping, or whatever, I doodle on every receipt that goes back to the waiter.

So, how are you going to express your creativity this week, instead of jumping on that technology thingy? It's going to suck your energy and your time away, right? Let me know. I'm excited to see it, right? And share your poem, share your images, share your songs. I would love to see them. If you want to post a video back, I can't wait to see you.

All right, are you ready for it? We'll see you next week for week four. Bye.

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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...

Are you stuck at an indecision impasse? 

Can’t see the way forward out of a certain persistent issue in your business?

Struggling to stay positive while seeing little to no results no matter how hard you try?

Believe it or not, you’re actually stuck because you’ve been only using your own two eyes to look at the situation.

It’s time you learned to use your other eyes!

Watch this week’s 9-minute Love Letter video, the final installment in our 4-week series on Awakening Your Shaman Within in Business, to open your mind to receive your “other” eyes’ insight!

"I can't seem to make progress on that project."

This week, without further ado, the guides want you to know, it's time for you to use your other eyes. Use your other eyes. Did you know that you have more than just one set of eyes to look at your situation with?

At your life, at your business and the issues that come up on a day-to-day basis? Did you know you have more than just two eyes?

I don't mean like you're a potato. In the shamanic journey meditation practice there's a technique in particular called The Mind Meld where we merge our mindset with that of our power animal or our spirit guide.

In doing that we literally see and feel our experience and our lives through a totally different perspective. For example, one of my power animals is a white falcon, and when I merge with her I'm able to see things from a much more expanded perspective because she can fly and I feel weightless. With that, that's what we're talking about using your other eyes.

Now, this is a shamanic philosophy and concept like for you this week in particular to apply, using your other eyes, to your business, to your work.

If you don't have a business just yet, maybe you're in a startup, maybe you're moonlighting, etc., just watching this for the love. Mwah! Happy to give it to you, of course. We want you to use your other eyes.

Maybe there's a problem or a situation that's been coming up and really confounding you, frustrating you, you're feeling stuck, right? Not really able to get a headway on this one project in particular, or what to do about your client and customers, or for decisions in general.

And I'm specifically saying in your work like, and of course everything we talk about you can apply naturally to your personal life. But we want to focus on raising the vibration of your experience at work applying shamanic philosophy.

If you were to use your other eyes, how would you see the situation? If you were your dog, for example. Would your dog be really this stressed out about the thing that's been on your mind and crazy? Or how would the tree watching you through the window of your office perceive this if the tree had eyes? So that's the nature-based way of approaching it.

But also, if you don't have as creative an imagination, or as in tune of an intuition, you can borrow other people's eyes. Yes, yes? Especially that's a really great practice for writing, for emails, applications, proposals and presentations, etc. having a personal policy that nothing goes out unless another two sets of eyes look at this and really see what's going on in the situation so that you have backup.

How will you, this week in particular, implement what the guides are suggesting from shamanic philosophy using your other eyes? How are you going to implement that in your business, or in your workplace?

Know this: You always have more than two eyes to see you through any obstacle.

I'm curious to hear that. I'm hearing the oracle guides. Oracle cards. There's guidance everywhere. Whoops! That was last week's topic. Yeah. Oracle cards this week. Earth magic. Let me come in closer so that you can see. Yes, yes? Don't you just love how I'm using dimension? So good! Switching it up.

Earth Magic by Steven D. Farmer. One of the 20+ decks that we have here at the dojo. I would have to say around 90% of the decks that I have are by donation, and I'm always open to receiving more.

Thank you for those of you who sent them in. Okay, guides, what do we need to know in particular this week about using our other eyes? Wind: Activation. Check it out, this is a gorgeous card. Wind: Activation.

What I'm hearing from my guides in particular with this card around using our other eyes is two bring fresh energy and movement to a situation that you thought, or feel even right now, is absolutely immovable or completely stagnant. Wind is movement and activation.

Also, as a side note: If you've been feeling depressed lately, or something has got you feeling grief stricken or low vibration, get out. Go outside and let the wind hit you. Wind is very clearing and it helps emotional clearing as well.

That's just a side note for a health and wellness tip for those of you who needed that. At work in particular the reason why you need to use your other eyes is so that you can activate and bring fresh energy and movement to a project, a problem, and issue, a situation that you feel completely stuck on. It's time to use your other eyes.

Whether you're doing it in a meditative state, right? For those of you who want to use spiritual practice, or if you're using it in a relational state, and bringing in physical people here in this physical plane to help you see the way forward. I'd love for you to comment below or send me an email back at info@victoriawhitfield.com.

Let me know what comes up for you around using your other eyes. I'm curious to hear how did you do it? What happened? What came up for you this week in particular?

And make sure that you subscribe on YouTube or on victoriawhitfield.com. There you'll get a free gift of not one, but two deep guided meditations from moi, mwah, for you. Go ahead, make sure that you subscribe so that you get your love letters first every single week, that you don't miss any single one of them. I look forward to seeing you again next week for our new series, but I can't tell you what it is yet. Just focus on using your other eyes this week in particular. Mwah, I'll see you then. Bye-bye.

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Raise your standards at work and implement always having 2 extra sets of eyes review your work, so you always have backup.

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Do you have a hard time connecting and communicating with your clients?

Is your marketing message or mission statement unclear or ‘not quite there’ yet?

Have you been feeling ungrounded in your business, like something foundational is missing?

Be kind to yourself: you have yet to awaken your true potential.

Inside every spiritual entrepreneur is a Visionary, an inner intuitive shaman who can see the way forward.

Watch this week’s 10-minute Love Letter video, the first of a 4-week series, to Awaken your Shaman Within and take your business to the next level!

"I think my communication with my clients is going well."

Whether you are looking to improve the quality of your personal or professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

This next four week series is going to be really powerful because the guides want you to awaken your shaman within. We're going to take the next four videos to cover this as a topic integrating shamanism and the shamanic perspective into your business and into your professional life for better grounding, creativity, innovation and communication.

As always, in these series we begin with a mediation around why. Why is it time for you to awaken your shaman within? Let me come a little closer. I know, you're like, "Oh my God, you're far away," right? It's time for you to awaken your shaman within, and the reason why is that source is calling you to better connect to your employees and your clients.

This is about communication, communication, communication, baby. I'm sure you've taken so many communications courses, gone to the events, gone and done all of the workshops and gotten your certifications and things, sensitivity training and so on and so forth. Be kind to yourself, it's not that you're not good enough, as to why communication is coming back up again, but it's actually because you are being called to go higher.

There's a huge difference. This is the tweetable of the week, there's a huge difference between feeling not good enough versus being called to go higher. And that's where this concept of bringing shamanism and awakening your inner-shaman in your business and in your professional life, that's why this is coming forward.

‪Know this: There’s a huge difference between being not good enough, and being called to go higher in your #business 💕

Let's talk about this a little bit more. The word shaman, in western culture we tend to think of shaman as some dude, first of all, I'm female. Some dude up on the mountain top or in the jungle with his junk hanging out and paint on his face, looking regal and natural and fabulous and super spiritual and hits you with the oak leaves and clears your energy.

I know you don't think that but I've got to get to the lowest common denominator, so we can all find ground. So not to knock anybody who believes that but some people, that's the first emotional, kind of guttural reaction that they get when they hear shaman. "Why the ... I own a plumbing company, why would I want to be a shaman in my ... that's ridiculous. You're a weirdo." Right?

So be kind to yourself if that comes up or be kind to yourself if others have said that to you. We'll be weird together for the next four weeks, or if you've been following my love letters for a while, baby, we've been weird together for years. So good, right?

The word shaman actually comes from the Siberian Tungus tribe and it means one who sees in the dark. One who sees in the dark. My guides are telling me to actually shut the lights for a little bit. When things start getting darker in life or a bit more uncertain, it can cause your ability to see detail to decrease, right? So if I were to go and cut the corner light out here, it's even hard to see me. The uncertainty is increasing because it's getting darker.

Now I'm not going to go completely dark but this is just to make the point, what if when I turned that light off you were still able to see me and you were still able to see how many fingers am I holding up? If you have the ability to see in the dark when others can't, you are, according to the Tungus tribe you're a shaman, but my more contemporary terms you are a leader.

It gives you the ability to, I'm just going to cut the light back on. It gives you the ability to better communication with your environment because you have access to more energy and wisdom, and that is why this month we are awakening your shaman within.

By the way, go ahead and click the link below this video if you want to join us live in the Berkshires, so that you can come to the retreat, the Awakening the Shaman Within Retreat, so you can learn these practices in depth, me and you and our tight-knit tribe of visionary entrepreneurs and business owners. So, links below.

But let's continue on this topic of being the visionary, because that's what it means to be the shaman. You are one who sees in the dark. You're the leader, and that is where we're going higher in your ability to communicate in your business, access to information, innovation, creativity, certainty and confidence, so that you can best lead your teams or best lead your clients and customers to all go higher together in the process.

Now I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. All month we're going to be journeying with earth magic, our shamanic deck by  Steven D Farmer, an amazing, amazing author. Just go check out his stuff. One of many beautiful oracle card decks that we have here at the dojo. Guides, what do we need to know right now about why it really is the time now to awaken our shaman within in business?

I just cut that. Bam, lightning, power. Here's where we're going to leave off for this week. Lightning is re-polarizing the electrical charge of an environment. Perhaps now more than even you need another level of resource, another level of perspective in order to deal with the charged environment that you are moving through. Just like a bolt of lightning is powerful and it is a burst of insights that brings neutrality between that thunder cloud and the earth below her.

So maybe it's the tense environment of restructuring at your corporation, your organization. Or maybe it is that charge of discomfort that is going on between team members. They're just not communicating very well because of limited perspective. Or, I'm going to do a pun on charge is what I'm hearing to say, that even this is your discomfort with receiving more money or raising your rates. You need a higher vibrational perspective and higher mindset to help you make it there, and your shaman within can see the way forward.

Comment below, tell me what comes up for you and throw your tomatoes at me by the way if you have any tomatoes on this. Like, "You can't bring shamanism into business." Bring it.

I'd love to hear both the light and the dark. You know I love you just the way you are. So get ready for the rest of this month, we're going to be continuing down this line of discussion on awakening your shaman within. I look forward to seeing you at the retreat.

Click below for more info on the retreat or to join the next info session. See you next week. Bye.

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Decide to be the Visionary of your group or organization.

Call upon your inner Shaman to intuitively reveal the way forward.

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I wanted to share with you this special message at this wonderful beach environment, to support you for our next Mercury Retrograde.

My guides to told me to “pull back on the arrow,” so that I could go forward full force with renewed energy. For me, that means being unplugged, so I'm going to teach you a little bit more about that before I share with you a special initiative that's going on here at the dojo. 

With that being said, if you haven't yet gone back on my blog and subscribed to the Love Letters or found where the blog is, hit pause, go back to victoriawhitfield.com/freegift, and make sure that you start there so that you're grounded in this process.

At the filming of this video, it's July in 2019, and we are getting ready for yet another Mercury Retrograde, starting July 7 and ending July 31. The real power, the wonderful healing power of Mercury Retrograde is actually that it helps us to see all of the drains in our energy. It reveals that bit by bit. For some of us, the drains have to be revealed in uncomfortable circumstances in order to get our attention, so if that’s you, I'm sending you so much love and support so that you're able to get through it, but the point is for you to pull back on the arrow this month, too.

In our ascension path as entrepreneurs and as professional people, we tend to get addicted to and base our worth on how much momentum we can generate: the more that we're able to move forward, the more that we're able to get things done - and get things done well - and cross things off of the task list. But, just the other day when I was speaking locally - and I've been out speaking a lot more recently, by the way, and I’m finding it's a lot of fun. I'm making a lot of really deep impact and making greeter, more intimate connections with the local tribe...

The other day when I was speaking, something that we went over was the power of working ON your business rather than just IN it. When you can set aside time and space to work On your business and not just In your business, that's when the quantum leaps happen. That's where the real progress that gets you back into alignment in a massive way, with your vision and your life purpose, tends to take off. With that being said, the gift of Mercury Retrograde is it causes us to step back, to pull back on the arrow and refocus what we're aiming at, and how we are aiming. And the more that we can improve our alignment, the more effective we become overall. So, if you have not prepared yourself for Mercury Retrograde, or if you have not had a good one before, I want to support you in doing that. 

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Over the next few weeks, we as a team, we're going to be re-releasing the “Rock Your Retrograde” Love Letters Mercury Retrograde video series, for two reasons. One, I did a really good job of explaining exactly what to do while Mercury Retrograde is happening, and for those of you who aren't familiar with it, I break it down in those videos, so stay tuned for that. And Two, the other purpose is for me myself to pull back on the arrow. I want to better serve you. After eight years of doing new content constantly, and you following my evolution over time, I want you to be able to be better served at this current level of vibration. We have the podcast out now. We're going on 50 episodes, and I want to be able to share that with you effectively.

Also we have the quarterly Strategic Spa Retreats to support you, such as the next one that we're about to have this month in Bay Head, New Jersey, on the beach, for grounding and clearing your energy as a conscious entrepreneur and helping you to get back on your path as the visionary that you've been called to be, not just someone who's tasking away and putting out fires left and right. There's so much more to your purpose than that, so with love, I want to be even more effective in maintaining our relationship and guiding you, and in order to do this, I'm going to take some space to pull back on my arrow as well, refocusing and retooling. Also I’ll take some time to be out in nature more, because I know I need that for my energy, especially as an empath.

So, I just wanted to do a really quick Love Letter this week. Focus this month in particular on pulling back on the arrow for your self so that you can refocus and retool, too. Just because it may look like you're going backwards, pulling back on the arrow doesn't mean that you are. We're refocusing and retooling, and that's the magic of Mercury Retrograde, the really deep magic of it. By the way, a Retrograde is an optical illusion. It looks like things are going backwards in the night sky, but that's actually not true. Things are still moving forward, but they appear to be going backwards. It's an optical illusion, so be kind to yourself. Keep calm and carry on.

If you're secretly feeling afraid of taking the time to step back, reevaluate, retool, refocus, then this is your chance to do it, and we're here to support you as a tribe. If you have not joined the Deep Dive Retreat yet, I think I have one last space available. Go ahead to http://www.victoriawhitfield.com/deepdiveretreat to reserve the last spot for yourself. We would love to see you there, this year or next. 

I'm sending you so much love. Have a happy Retrograde and enjoy the journey. Bye for now.

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Focus on Pulling Back on The Arrow.

Make time to refocus, retool and review How you work, rather than just going through the motions.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

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This is week two of four in our exploration of releasing faking it.

This is your time, finally, or maybe for the first time, to release this pattern of “faking it ‘til you make it” so that you can have authentic momentum, authentic growth, and authentic success. Whether it's in your personal or professional life. If you didn't see part one, hit pause, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com. Click on part one and start from there so that you are grounded in this clearing process that we're going through over these four weeks.

The topic that my guides have asked us to cover this week in particular is the two types of people that you're going to encounter in all of life, but especially when you decide to stop faking it. There are two types of people in life. Now, be kind to yourself. We've all been either type at any given point in time in our lives, but especially when you decide to live a life where you’re going to fake it anymore, where you’re not going to be little Miss or Mr. Perfect, not going to hold back, but are going to be all in, your type shifts. Two types. You ready to write it down? Get your notepad.

The two types are: people who value Clarity, and people who value Comfort. There are two types of people in life. There are those who are valuing and seeking Clarity, and those who are valuing and seeking Comfort. In all things. Now this is super important because as you make the decision to stop faking it, you are moving from one paradigm, where you are valuing and seeking comfort in all the decisions and actions that you make, and you are stepping over into a whole other paradigm, where you are valuing and seeking clarity in all the decisions and actions that you make and take throughout your life and in your business.

Now, this is a tall order. Last week we were already talking about deciding to stop faking it, and how it's time, let's go, let's go, but now on top of that, your orientation, your alignment shifts. If you've been wondering why you're having such a hard time living authentically or stopping faking it, or stopping putting on the show, it's because this is an alignment issue. Are you aligned with comfort and seeking that? Or are you aligned with clarity and seeking that?

If you don't know where you are aligned, look at the decisions that you already have made. Hindsight is 20/20, as they say, so as you look back at the decisions that you made, maybe it could be a mixed bag. I'll be honest, I have a bit of a mixed bag of decisions as I look over my shoulder, too. I'm certainly not perfect. There are some choices that are, especially when it comes to food, that sometimes I'm deciding I would like to seek comfort right now, and I'm going to pay for it by going to the gym. Or making sure that I'm shifting my eating back or, well, there's going to be digestive issues as a consequence if I'm basing my decision on comfort to eat something very fatty or full of dairy or wheat and all of that.

I'm going to have consequences of that decision. Whereas if I make the decision - continuing to put this all on me - if I make the decision to choose food that is clarifying, or that gives me clarity that when I eat it so I don't feel tired afterwards, but instead I feel energized afterwards - not because it's artificial but because it's alive, and living food brings your body alive, I know it does for me - then there's also going to be consequences to that.--

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There's consequences on both sides. So, if only just for today, you've got to choose - you and I both - we have got to choose, where are we aligning ourselves? Am I or are you being the type of person who seeks and cultivates clarity and values clarity all the time, or one who seeks and cultivates and values comfort? By the way, and we're going to get a little more into this in the coming weeks, but as I hear the oracle cards - I hear you, I hear you - calling in the energy, be kind to yourself if there are people around you who really value comfort.

Yet while there are people who genuinely value comfort, sometimes you can find yourself, for whatever reason, as a conscious person and a conscious entrepreneur, in really valuing clarity, you’ll end up lording over them, expecting them to be a clarity-oriented person. This is suffering: expecting something else from people who just aren't aligned with that same value. This is going to cause you a lot of suffering, is going to drain a lot of energy from you.

This week in particular, I just want you to be a little bit more vigilant. First of yourself: checking in and asking, “am I being someone, with this decisions or this action that I'm taking, valuing comfort or clarity?” Or you could even, in my case - because this is my journey right now, around food – ask: “am I eating this because I'm seeking comfort or I'm seeking clarity? What am I creating with this decision?” For you it might be something else, such as “with this business decision” or “this investment that I'm making right now.” Ask yourself “am I going for comfort, as I'm investing right now or considering investing, is this something that's going to increase my comfort or my clarity?” It's up to you.

Okay. Let's get to the oracle cards. The oracle cards all month are “Healing With the Fairies” by Doreen Virtue. Let's ask them: “Fairies, what do we need to know right now about the two types of people that are out there? About these value alignments and such.” ... Problem resolved. Check it out, the fairy on the card, she's got a snake of wisdom right there wrapped around her, speaking in her ear. Shedding skin, one of my spirit guides just said. Shedding layers of what you used to be, the smaller you. We're shedding layers of what we used to be.

This is so powerful, and where we'll leave off for the week. This alignment issue is what's going to accelerate your progress. The more that you become aware of clarity versus comfort in the decisions that you are making. This will put you on the path to resolving the problems, the challenges that you've been facing. Choosing that clarity, if you dare, over comfort. Sending you so much love around that.

I'm your traveling partner on this journey so, send me an email back, comment below, let me know what's coming up for you around this. And if you need more support around choosing clarity and aligning with clarity and releasing that addiction to comfort, go ahead on over to naturalintuition.com, click the contact button. Hop on my calendar and let's see about getting you supported and working together.

With that, that's it for this week's episode. Thank you so much for tuning in and watching the Love Letters. It's been eight years. Eight years! Thank you so much for all of your support.

Looking forward to hearing from you soon, and I will see you in the next one. Bye for now. --

Just for today...

Make time to evaluate what you are valuing and creating in the decisions you make.

See the difference between choosing to create more clarity or more comfort, as you weigh your options.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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