This is the fifth and final week of our exploration of vulnerability, cultivating our relationship with being vulnerable and improving our ability to engage and open up in a positive way, maybe for the first time.

Now if this is the first video that you're seeing in this series, make sure that you hit pause, go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com and start from part one, so that you are grounded in this process. Without further ado, this week in particular for the fifth and final week of our discussion on vulnerability, my spirit guides have asked us to discuss vulnerable leadership.

Last week, we talked about the power of opening up as an empath to being vulnerable, so that we can better relate to and interact with the people and things that we care about in this lifetime. We talked about respecting our energy as empaths, but also not letting our sensitivity dominate us in this lifetime – claiming that as a power, rather than a disability – or be something that you're constantly afraid of or overly protecting yourself from. This week, however, we're going even farther into vulnerability as a power and applying it to leadership.

A wonderful role model of vulnerable leadership and someone who's a thought leader in this area, two people actually, I would have to say one is Simon Sinek and the other is Brene Brown. If you have not checked out their work, I highly recommend it. They have amazing, inspiring, empowering things to share with you around vulnerable leadership and how healing it is especially in the professional world.

The most painful thing that I've seen is how insensitive leadership destroys powerful teams that have become like family and overcome the most incredible odds together. These things that come from the top-down in corporate – restructuring, or layoffs, or whatever hot word they use to explain being insensitive to the needs and the preciousness of the relationships of the people that are working under them – it's incredible how destructive they can be.

I grew up watching my mother re-enter the workforce after 17 years as a homemaker to work for a certain corporation as a technical writer, and then a web developer, and coder for over 20 years. I remember as a kid going to their picnics and things and seeing all of these people that she worked with like my extended family, and feeling part of something bigger; seeing them laughing, and supporting one another. ...Then I also lived through, as a young woman, watching them be torn apart, seeing the stress, and the pain of those wonderful relationships being just torn apart, torn apart by restructuring or “re-orgs” as the company would say. I'm not going to say what company because I want to respect privacy here.

Maybe you've seen this happen in your family – your work family – or your corporation as well, this being torn apart by insensitive leadership, putting numbers before people, or putting self-protection first, which is something that we hinted at last week. Let's go into it this time for our final discussion: the toxic effects of putting self-protection before serving their community around us.

We can get protection-obsessed especially in the professional world because for some reason we allow money and numbers to make us paranoid and prioritize dollars and quotas, and metrics above people, relationships, health and mutual human respect. Be kind to yourself if this is something that you've witnessed happening and that you don't want to be a part of any longer. If only just for today, commit to being open as a leader. Commit to developing your ability to be vulnerable along with the people who you are leading.

Simon Sinek gives us a wonderful example of how to measure how open-hearted you are as a leader. Leaders, he says, are people who watch out for the people to the right and to the left of them. That is it. It has nothing to do with titles, what's on your business card, or what your website says, or how big your office is, or how big your bank account is, or not. It's who are you being on a moment-to-moment basis. In order to look out for, to take care of, the people to the left and to the right of you, you've got to be open to what's going on with them, rather than just what's going on with “Me” and making sure that I'm getting x, y, z done, and so on.

It is a mental acrobatic that you do at first to decide, “I'm going to be concerned, and open, and curious, and communicative with the people that are to the left and to the right of me. The people that are supporting me, I am going to support them. I'm going to be open to how do they feel right now. I'm going to ask them, ‘how are you feeling? Are you all right?’ and loving and supporting them in that.”

Coming from a space of your own center of love and support and not forgetting that you as a leader have needs and have feelings is also important, which is something that we also discussed last week, opening to the fact that I have feelings, too, as an Empath. As someone who supports others, I have feelings. I have needs, and they have got to be honored and respected by me first and then also the people that I'm sharing this life experience with.

Be kind to yourself if in trying to be a vulnerable leader, meaning someone who is present to and caring for the people who are in your care, you've sacrificed your own self-care. That is negative vulnerable leadership because it leaves you open to health problems, relationship problems, spiritual and emotion oppression, depression. Be kind to yourself. That leaves you negatively vulnerable.

How can we then as leaders, moreover as Healing Leaders (that's my term) on this planet, how can we open up to leading from the heart, leading with courage, and positive vulnerability? I’m curious, what does that look like? Positive, vulnerable leadership, is healing leadership. I would venture that it starts with healing self, first, and staying open to being present to those that are in our care, who are supporting us, who are following us, and share the same beliefs and vision that we have. We're all working together in one direction. At the same time, there's the person out in front who holds the vision, being the Visionary. --

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Are you healing? Are you present to yourself? Okay, if you are, you're doing your self-care, you're doing your spiritual nourishment, your physical nourishment and love. Good. And are you present to the people around you needing the same, just as much love, and approval, and support, and honor as you're showing yourself? Are they also learning how to do that for the people behind them as well?

Be a Healing Leader. It entails being open to being vulnerable, cultivating that ability to be vulnerable, but if only just for today, commit to being a healing leader by opening to being vulnerable in a positive and empowering way.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards like, "Hey, pick us!" It's Healing with the Angels oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue, her very first oracle cards deck that she ever made in her career. Angels, what do we need to know right now about stepping into healing leadership by embodying being positive, vulnerable leaders? ...This is so good, like I could literally do an entire summit on this, “listening.” Listening! This is so perfect. I love that in the picture, she's listening to her angels, and her angels are listening to her. I'm going to read, I don't really have to, but before I read I just want to tell you what I'm hearing from my spirit guides around listening.

The most powerful leaders I've ever followed in my own life have been profound listeners, profound. Having the courage to listen to your people as a leader is essential. God, She gave us two ears and one mouth. We've got to listen twice as much as we give directions and directives. Anyway, let’s start listening. Let me read:

Listening. You are in communication with your angels and the messages that you are receiving are very real indeed. Trust them. This card is a validation from your angels that you really are hearing them. You have been receiving repetitive messages through your feelings, dreams, visions, inner voice, or knowingness. Are you listening and trusting these messages? Are you following them? If you get an inclination to call someone, go somewhere, or read something, it's important to follow this guidance. By drawing this card, your angels ask you to give all your doubts or worries about divine guidance to them. Know that you truly are communicating with heaven and enjoy the conversations.

This is so perfect. Here's where we'll leave off for this entire series: Cultivating your listening sense. Your active listening is also cultivating positive vulnerability. If you are not comfortable listening to others, or you feel impatient, it's just because you haven't cultivated listening as a skill. It's just a skill that you're a little bit deficient in. If you just dedicate time and mental space to it, it gets easier and more pleasurable with time.

If you need to work on your listening skills, I highly recommend my book Natural Intuition Now. I take you step by step exactly through how to listen with presence and also why it is so important. The more that we become intuitive, open, vulnerable, healing and empowered leaders, the better our world becomes, the better the legacy of love becomes that we leave behind us in all the work that we do and all the people, all the lives that we touch.

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Tired of feeling limited by your circumstances?

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"I need to find a mentor."

This is week five of five. Five of five, of our deep dive into finding the courage to be yourself, your whole self, stepping into your divinity. Stepping into your purpose as a healer in this lifetime.

We've been journeying for the last couple weeks in particular with the bee animal totem. Honey bee animal totem, and we've been receiving more wisdom and insight into what's been going on along the path of our personal development.

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This week in particular, honey bee has a third and final stage for us to consider as we're finding the courage to be ourselves. These three archetypes that her life cycle gives us as a gift and as a wisdom that we can receive around shaping our own destinies in life the natural way, right?

Following our instinct and our intuitive guidance with the health of bee animal totem. So, remembering, just a quick recap, first stage was larval, right? Where we're going around and around in circles, searching for ourselves, searching for sustenance, for insight, for more nourishment for ourselves because we're in need, right?

Think of the larva. That's what she's all about, is just herself, so that she can grow.

The sustenance that you get at that stage, though, forces you to grow. There's no going back unless something goes wrong. The way that it's designed is to inspire growth, right? Mother's milk causes the babies to grow.

Then at the worker stage where after we've matured as a larva, now we're at the worker stage where instead of searching to receive just for ourselves, now we're searching, searching for problems to solve.

We're searching for ways to contribute to others. This is really powerful because this is where we learn to collaborate and connect and communicate. Remember the dance, the magic communication dance of honey bee, so that they can build the hive as well as cause more reproduction throughout all of the plants around them by spreading their wonderful, wonderful contribution to all of us. Bee is sacred.

Here's the thing though. At both of those levels, there are clear limitations, right? Larva can only move within her small, little world, and the more she eats, the more there's no way she's going back. It's a clear, one way, linear street to being the worker and then worker bee has clear limitations as well.

The purpose of the worker bee is work, and worker bees work themselves to death. In fact, they only live about six to eight weeks, tops. 20 of those days is spent as the larva, so it's a hard life, it's a short life. Sure, they live longer in the winter because they're dormant for about five months, but with that, worker bee serves to work and to give to others.

There's a third archetype that honey bee is gifting us to see past only searching for yourself and only searching for others, and this is where we step outside of limitation and into legacy.

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This is queen bee week. Now, oh my goodness, I could do an entire year, or in fact, by the time you're watching this, I've already done an entire retreat, three days, three whole days down the shore talking about being and stepping into queen presence, but suffice to say, we're going to dedicate a few minutes to harmonizing you with queen bee's energy.

First off, queen bee is different than the other bees in the hive. For one, she lives one to four years instead of six to eight weeks, so talk about legacy and longevity. Secondly, she gives birth to everybody in the hive.

All of their day to day tasks come from her come from protecting her and serving her, right? Following her pheromones, knowing what to do next. She generates purpose. She generates life.

How does one transition into this archetype and also applying it as a metaphor to life and business? This is stepping out of just being the worker into being the creator. How that happens in particular is two things.

One, queen bees come from queen bees. When you are cultivating that creator essence within you, you have got to get a mentor. One who has got it, too, where your central nervous system learns from hers or your business is molded after hers or your point of view reflects and is informed by that elevated point of view that comes from him.

Queen bees make queen bees. They don't come from anybody else. You have got to have a mentor.

So, that's one.

Two, the second thing that differentiates creating a queen bee is the royal jelly. Remember from before, the larva are drinking the mother's milk that worker leaves behind, right? Previous workers have left behind to support the generations coming afterward.

That mother's milk, though, coming from a worker, makes more workers whereas the royal jelly coming for the queen bee, by the queen bee, this initiates organs to be grown in that bee's body that others don't have access to.

There's a mindset within you that can be birthed and grown over time if you get another level of nourishment, one that comes from that higher paradigm, affirming that you are a creating, learning about exactly how to master your intuition, trust it, cultivate it.

Learning how to be the visionary in your life in business rather than just getting by and just being the worker, work, work, working, hard working. Smart working is a whole new paradigm and that is the wonderful archetype of the queen bee.

Now, I'm already hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy, but suffice to say, hold on a second, ladies, suffice to say that as we begin to transition out of worker, into queen, it's only a very few people are capable of doing this because queen bee is responsible, right?

Responsible for keeping the vision alive, keeping the tribe and the hive alive. It takes a lot of energy to birth ideas and to hold the vision. It may look cushy. She only stays in the hive the entire time of her life unless there's a swarm, like unless there's trouble, and if she does leave, half the whole swarm leaves with her. She's never by herself.

So there's not exactly freedom. There is agency, but with that agency comes responsibility as queen, as the visionary, as the healer. When you're fully stepping into your role as not just a healer but as a leader and a healer, there's a whole new level of nourishment that you need in the form of royal jelly as well as a whole new level of guidance that you need coming from mentorship.

So, we want to honor that. If you're called to queen, let's not take this lightly, but that is the third and final stage. So, let's get to it.

Goddesses, what do we need to know? Goddess Guidance from Doreen Virtue oracle cards deck. What do we need to know about having the courage to fully be ourselves, to step into that divinity and really become creators of our lives, not just working, working, working, day in and day out?

Okay. Sulis. Bodies of whatever. Spend time near water such as a lake, river or ocean to recharge your batteries. Here's where we're going to leave off this week. My guides are saying that the goddess Sulis, who watches over all bodies of water on earth specifically is coming forward because this is to help open you up to being limitless.

Think about water. Is there any limit to what water can do on planet earth? It's in the sky, underground, flowing down mountains, right? We've harnessed maybe a fraction, we've harnessed a fraction of the water coming through pipes and things like that, but how vast is the ocean? How incredibly vast is all of the icebergs as well? Limitlessness.

That is why we are considering beyond around water this week in particular. By the way, being by water is very, very healing. Not just the detoxifying and anti-inflammatory properties of being around saltwater in particular ... Not to down play that, but emotionally, right?

Emotionally and spiritually, when you are by lakes, by the ocean, by waterfalls, by a river, there is an activation that happens in the body that is unique to being in the presence of water as well as drinking fresh alkaline, right? Alkalized water. It heals the body and cleans your blood.

So, to prepare moving from your worker into your queen, meditations with water, taking in clean water, being around water is going to help you release that limited mindset and step into your creator, you being a healing leader.

So, what's coming up for you hearing all this really powerful message this week? Send me an email back at info@VictoriaWhitfield.com and, by the way, make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every week.

Ready? Let's step into our queen. Whether you're a male or a female, it's the archetype.

Tell me about it. What comes up for you, all right? I'll see you next week. Bye.

(Original post 07/30/2018)

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Pride yourself in being a problem-solver?

Love building and contributing to something bigger than yourself each day?

Energized by collaborating with other like-minded professionals in moving projects forward?

If so, then first of all let me tell you: thank you, from the bottom of my heart!

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"I don't feel like I've found my tribe yet."

So this is week four of five of our deep dive on the courage, finding the courage to be yourself, your whole self, your true self.

So if you haven't seen the previous few, hit pause, go back on YouTube or on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and make sure that you catch up. For week four, this week we're going to continue discussing the different stages that we go through on the path to being ourselves fully.

We're calling upon Honey Bee spirit animal, our totem for guidance so that we can understand what's going on and what's needed for each transition.

Last week we talked about the larva stage. Where we're going around and around in circles and the way that we're able to transition, fully honor and receive, being in that larva stage, it's necessary, right? We're receiving mother's milk going round and around, seeking those nourishing positive mindsets, positive beliefs, positive ideas and concepts and experiences.

The way that we do that is go and consume it, go read the book, stop avoiding it, stop avoiding and consume fully those resources that you're looking for and all of those that are around you so that you can complete that discovery process.

What naturally comes as the baby continues to drink mother's milk is, all of these wonderful hormonal changes and growth. Growth, growth, growth, and learnings come at an accelerated rate.

So when we're talking about honey bee in particular, after a larva we turn into the worker, the worker bee and this as a honey bee, are those lovely people that you see floating from flower to flower, if you have gardens, who are responsible for ensuring all creatures have food to eat going forward.

It's their movement on a day to day basis in a coordinated way, a cooperative way that enables the rest of creation to be fertilized and continue forward.

Honey bee is sacred by the way and if this speaks to you, by all means please do support your local beekeepers, your people who are honey makers as well as preserving the lives and researching the lives of honey bee.

So go ahead, I'm not going to recommend a charity, it's up to your energy and your research to find one that you find breath with, but please do support our bees for the future.

So when we're in worker, when we've moved past that going round and around and around seeking for ourselves. Seeking answers, seeking answers constantly, when we're in the larval stage of our life in business, remember because we're looking at this as a metaphor, right and the parallel to what we're going through in our personal and business development.

It's similar, now as a worker, instead of going round and around searching for answers for ourselves, now as a worker bee you're going in a larger sphere round and around looking for problems.

Does that sound familiar? So, everyday, worker bee wakes up to go out and search and find pollen to go and then bring it back. Go out and search for that nectar and bring it back because worker bee is building something. Worker bee also is the master communicator by the dance, the amazing worker bee dance.

That's communicating the story, the worker bees story is why they dance, so that others can then go and help them too, or help themselves too, to nectar and bring it back to the hive. The purpose of the worker bee is to build, build, build. Communicate, communicate, communicate. Now maybe you've been at the worker bee level for quite some time, where it's your joy to give and give generously because there is nothing more fulfilling than contributing to something that is bigger than just you.

Right, at the larva stage, you know it's comfortable, to a certain extent and familiar, searching only for ourselves answers for ourselves, healing for ourselves, right? We were in pain or we came through a challenge such as maybe getting laid off, or someone passing away, or there's an accident, et cetera, which forces us back into the larval stage where I've got to receive for me.

Honoring that, there's nothing wrong with you if that's what you're going through.

There's a point where we feel more fully formed and satiated, more stable and with a sense of agency. Which by the way are wings, that's the symbol of power in many different spiritual traditions. It's an elevated mindset when we finally grow our wings.

As a worker bee we're spreading our wings to make sure that others that come behind us, remember from last week the nurse bees that are worker bees, leaving that trail of mother's milk so that the others can grow up abundantly in our wake. So as the worker bees we're going, spreading our wings to share. That is so gorgeous and beautiful and amazing.

Know this: Sharing what helped us overcome our past problems with others changes our old wounds into wisdom.

If that's where you're at, honor that, make sure that as you're in your worker bee that you feel like you are contributing to a purpose that is greater than you. Now remember, I mentioned last week, there's a third and final stage that's even past that. We're going to get into it next week but for, just for today, right just for this moment in particular, you want to focus on giving and giving in an organized, systematic, and highly communicable, communicating openly, cooperating openly, just like honey bee. That's the level of giving that you want to focus that if you are worker bee. It's not good to be giving on a small scale or to be disorganized.

One thing about honey bee, she's incredibly organized. She's one of nature's engineers. The way that she does it is through communication and teamwork. So if you're a worker bee, what you need are other worker bees to dance with, who get it to and to contribute to a cause that is bigger than you.

The reason why and I'll hint at what's coming next week, is because it's going to give you purpose. The greater your purpose as a worker bee, or as someone who is fully being herself, being himself, the greater your purpose, the closer you're coming to the third and final stage of being yourself. Being the healer as we talked about in week two. I'm hearing the oracle cards like, ah, we need to talk.

Here we go, Goddess Guidance deck, we're journeying with all month, let's see. What are you ladies shouting about? Goddesses what do we need to know about honoring the worker bee and this level of our development?

Oh beautiful. Mary Magdalene, unconditional love. Love yourself, other, and every situation, no matter what the outward appearances may be.

Here's where we're going to leave off this week, you know I often speak to bee achiever in all of us and sometimes we're coming to the activity of giving and contributing thinking that, I'm not enough so if I give more than maybe I'll be something. Or maybe that'll make me worthy because I've given more than anyone could ever ask of me or expect of me and that's not the case.

It's hard to give abundantly, systematically, in an organized way, in one that is highly communicated if you don't love yourself first. One of my most favorite people on the planet, Ru Paul says, "If you can't love yourself, how the hell are you going to expect to love somebody else?"

Be kind to yourself, love yourself, others and every situation, no matter what the outward appearances may be, because that, love, that is what carries through all. That's what makes this sustainable.

So go ahead, send me an email back, what comes up for you. Did you need to hear this, this week? Or is someone coming to mind who's supposed to hear it? If so, hit that share button, let your tribe know that it's okay to honor the worker and this is how you do it. This is how we do it.

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(Original post 07/23/2018)

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This is week three of four in our exploration of stopping faking it. It's time; #StopThat.

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The topic of this week's Love Letter is self-acceptance. Self-acceptance. If we are going to stop faking it ‘til we make it, and if we are going to let go of being perfect - or let go fighting because we think we're not good enough - if we're going to let go of that fight and put our weapons down to surrender in that fight - I get the chills as I say that for you, sending you so much love around having the courage to put down your weapons and stop fighting to be good enough - if we're going to do that, that means we've got to learn how to practice self-acceptance. Self-acceptance!? What the heck does that mean, Victoria? Does it even exist?

Self-acceptance is, for one - my guides are telling me to tell you this - for one, it is not a single event. Self-acceptance is not like a, “ta-da, I accept myself and then I'm done” sort of single event. No, no, no. Self-acceptance is an ongoing series of choices, observations, and celebrations over and over and over again. And it’s celebrations not only of the good stuff, but also celebrating, “you know what? This about me kind of sucks. Yay. I don't have to have it all figured out.” I'm going to be kind to myself because I accept that I have limitations. There are things that I don't know. There are, in fact, things that I don't know that I don't know. There are things that I don't like.

Believe it or not, there are emotions that I have where I can be mad from time to time, or sad, and I celebrate the dark side to me: the preferences, and the point of view that I have as a unique human being. I do not have to be the way that someone may have told me that I have to be. Repeat: I do not have to be the way that someone told me that I have to be. Instead, I accept myself as I am. Over and over and over again - especially when it's hard to, especially when I don't like myself - this is when I need to celebrate my shortcomings even more.

Now, for those of you who've been following my work or who've known me for quite some time now, you know that my automatic setting right now is Auto Clap, lol, it’s like I'm just on Auto Celebrate. And this behavior is something that I didn't used to have as a person. I used to be pretty gloomy, I had a really, really dark personality earlier in life, but I trained myself over time to look for things to celebrate in all situations.

What that did is it made me emotionally stronger and stronger with time. It helped open my eyes to the good. There's so much good. Even in the darkest things that have ever happened in my life, there has been so much good because I'm set to celebrate, and that setting is an act of self-acceptance that I have been engaging in - that I've been deciding to engage in - over and over and over and over again.

On the other hand, what is also a learned behavior is self-rejection. Be kind to yourself if you are the Queen of self-rejection or the King of denying yourself. Be kind to yourself if you're really, really good at booing yourself before anybody else can, making sure that you put yourself down before anybody else can. Sometimes we learn that as a coping mechanism for growing up and coming up in an abusive environment, so that you can, in a twisted way, empower yourself by hurting yourself first to cut people off at the pass. That behavior, you don't need it anymore. I give you permission, if only just for now to let that go once and for all.

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Hey, hey, hold on a sec - you're watching or reading this on a device, right? I'm inside some screen somewhere as you're watching or reading this, so that means we are having a very, very private moment, you and I. No one else can hear or see me like you can right now. So, I want you to know in the bottom of your soul: you don't have to do that twisted stuff anymore to yourself. Today's the day. I know you wouldn’t admit that openly. That’s fine. But if you're watching or reading this, in this very moment, Spirit brought you here, so right now please know you have permission to just let that go completely. You have no more need to beat yourself up at all.

Self-acceptance is what you're called to, and it takes just as much energy as self-rejection. If you were to count how many times a day you put yourself down, sooner or later you'd realize there's a pattern behind that, and that pattern is a learned skill. The opposite is true, right? How many times you celebrate yourself in a day, that's a pattern, too. That is a learned skill, too. That's something that you can build, a muscle that you can grow over time.

So, if only just for today, please know that the name of the game is self-acceptance: to find something at all times - whether it is good or bad - about yourself, as you are, to celebrate, to accept, and to just observe. Doesn't mean you necessarily right out the gate approve of everything. Hey, I’m right there with you. We are human. And at the same time, we are human beings: being willing to celebrate it, being willing to observe it, being willing to see it rather than just stuffing, stuffing, stuffing, stuffing down.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy around that. Healing with the Angels by Doreen Virtue is the deck that we're journeying with all month. Let me ask the fairies. Wait... I said Healing with the Angels? ... autopilot. Oops! It’s Healing with the Fairies oracle cards deck! LOL! I bet you didn't know the difference, though, did you? Ha ha. Maybe you did. I’m so leaving that perfectly imperfect mess up in! I love it... Okay, fairies, what do we need to know about self-acceptance right now? Oh my goddess. Yay, I love this card! Breaking Free. And that's you. Breaking Free - and the fairy on the card is out in the outer realms, arms spread wide, wings all the way up and just flying high, breaking free from everything.

Here's the message from the fairies: you are breaking free in to a new level of self-acceptance, maybe for the first time. Your ability to, as you can, find something to celebrate, find something about yourself to observe and to accept and just see – this is breaking you free. You don't even have to do anything about it. Just observe it. This is you breaking free from the chains that have been holding you down - maybe in life, maybe in your business. One chain at a time, you’re breaking free, breaking free, breaking free. You can do it! You’re doing it!

This is an affirmation from source that you're on the right path. Keep going. And know you’re not alone - I'm your traveling partner, Sensei Victoria Whitfield – on your ascension path in life and business. Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every week. Let’s keep journeying together.

Hit that share button, by the way, if there's someone that you love and care about who you believe it's time for them to break free, too, send this letter their way. Maybe this might just bless and change their day. And remember to please enjoy the journey. Make sure that you do not lose your glow as you grow in life and business.

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Just for today...

Celebrate the good and the bad about yourself today, in an act of radical self-acceptance and healing.

Honor and appreciate your strengths as well as your weaknesses, acknowledge and announce what you know that you know, as well as what you genuinely don’t know, shame-free.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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This is week two of four in our exploration of releasing faking it.

This is your time, finally, or maybe for the first time, to release this pattern of “faking it ‘til you make it” so that you can have authentic momentum, authentic growth, and authentic success. Whether it's in your personal or professional life. If you didn't see part one, hit pause, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com. Click on part one and start from there so that you are grounded in this clearing process that we're going through over these four weeks.

The topic that my guides have asked us to cover this week in particular is the two types of people that you're going to encounter in all of life, but especially when you decide to stop faking it. There are two types of people in life. Now, be kind to yourself. We've all been either type at any given point in time in our lives, but especially when you decide to live a life where you’re going to fake it anymore, where you’re not going to be little Miss or Mr. Perfect, not going to hold back, but are going to be all in, your type shifts. Two types. You ready to write it down? Get your notepad.

The two types are: people who value Clarity, and people who value Comfort. There are two types of people in life. There are those who are valuing and seeking Clarity, and those who are valuing and seeking Comfort. In all things. Now this is super important because as you make the decision to stop faking it, you are moving from one paradigm, where you are valuing and seeking comfort in all the decisions and actions that you make, and you are stepping over into a whole other paradigm, where you are valuing and seeking clarity in all the decisions and actions that you make and take throughout your life and in your business.

Now, this is a tall order. Last week we were already talking about deciding to stop faking it, and how it's time, let's go, let's go, but now on top of that, your orientation, your alignment shifts. If you've been wondering why you're having such a hard time living authentically or stopping faking it, or stopping putting on the show, it's because this is an alignment issue. Are you aligned with comfort and seeking that? Or are you aligned with clarity and seeking that?

If you don't know where you are aligned, look at the decisions that you already have made. Hindsight is 20/20, as they say, so as you look back at the decisions that you made, maybe it could be a mixed bag. I'll be honest, I have a bit of a mixed bag of decisions as I look over my shoulder, too. I'm certainly not perfect. There are some choices that are, especially when it comes to food, that sometimes I'm deciding I would like to seek comfort right now, and I'm going to pay for it by going to the gym. Or making sure that I'm shifting my eating back or, well, there's going to be digestive issues as a consequence if I'm basing my decision on comfort to eat something very fatty or full of dairy or wheat and all of that.

I'm going to have consequences of that decision. Whereas if I make the decision - continuing to put this all on me - if I make the decision to choose food that is clarifying, or that gives me clarity that when I eat it so I don't feel tired afterwards, but instead I feel energized afterwards - not because it's artificial but because it's alive, and living food brings your body alive, I know it does for me - then there's also going to be consequences to that.--

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There's consequences on both sides. So, if only just for today, you've got to choose - you and I both - we have got to choose, where are we aligning ourselves? Am I or are you being the type of person who seeks and cultivates clarity and values clarity all the time, or one who seeks and cultivates and values comfort? By the way, and we're going to get a little more into this in the coming weeks, but as I hear the oracle cards - I hear you, I hear you - calling in the energy, be kind to yourself if there are people around you who really value comfort.

Yet while there are people who genuinely value comfort, sometimes you can find yourself, for whatever reason, as a conscious person and a conscious entrepreneur, in really valuing clarity, you’ll end up lording over them, expecting them to be a clarity-oriented person. This is suffering: expecting something else from people who just aren't aligned with that same value. This is going to cause you a lot of suffering, is going to drain a lot of energy from you.

This week in particular, I just want you to be a little bit more vigilant. First of yourself: checking in and asking, “am I being someone, with this decisions or this action that I'm taking, valuing comfort or clarity?” Or you could even, in my case - because this is my journey right now, around food – ask: “am I eating this because I'm seeking comfort or I'm seeking clarity? What am I creating with this decision?” For you it might be something else, such as “with this business decision” or “this investment that I'm making right now.” Ask yourself “am I going for comfort, as I'm investing right now or considering investing, is this something that's going to increase my comfort or my clarity?” It's up to you.

Okay. Let's get to the oracle cards. The oracle cards all month are “Healing With the Fairies” by Doreen Virtue. Let's ask them: “Fairies, what do we need to know right now about the two types of people that are out there? About these value alignments and such.” ... Problem resolved. Check it out, the fairy on the card, she's got a snake of wisdom right there wrapped around her, speaking in her ear. Shedding skin, one of my spirit guides just said. Shedding layers of what you used to be, the smaller you. We're shedding layers of what we used to be.

This is so powerful, and where we'll leave off for the week. This alignment issue is what's going to accelerate your progress. The more that you become aware of clarity versus comfort in the decisions that you are making. This will put you on the path to resolving the problems, the challenges that you've been facing. Choosing that clarity, if you dare, over comfort. Sending you so much love around that.

I'm your traveling partner on this journey so, send me an email back, comment below, let me know what's coming up for you around this. And if you need more support around choosing clarity and aligning with clarity and releasing that addiction to comfort, go ahead on over to naturalintuition.com, click the contact button. Hop on my calendar and let's see about getting you supported and working together.

With that, that's it for this week's episode. Thank you so much for tuning in and watching the Love Letters. It's been eight years. Eight years! Thank you so much for all of your support.

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Just for today...

Make time to evaluate what you are valuing and creating in the decisions you make.

See the difference between choosing to create more clarity or more comfort, as you weigh your options.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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This is week four of our deep dive into conscious relationships and unpacking the different forms of loneliness that conscious entrepreneurs face on the path to rapid financial ascension.

We want to make sure we unpack that and explore it together so that you don't lose your ability to glow as you grow your self and your business. Without further ado, for week four what we're going to be covering in particular is professional loneliness.

As conscious entrepreneurs, from time to time we can continue to put the blinders on in order to be productive. We started to talk a little bit about this last week with the law of distraction. By the way, if you haven't tuned in for that, make sure you stop now, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and start from part one so that you are grounded in this process.

We started talking about the law of distraction, where we have these blinders on and we're missing out on the good and blessed people and things that have gathered around us. Also, we were talking about acknowledging and appreciating the platonic relationships that we already have.

But this week in particular, if you are experiencing professional loneliness, what that looks like is feeling like you are deeply alone in your business or deeply alone in your career. Maybe the purpose that you've been driven towards – your calling in life, your professional calling – is one that sets you apart from others. The people in your life, for whatever reason, personally and professionally, aren't fully in alignment with it or can't exactly see the entire vision that you've been blessed with the ability to see just yet.

If that's the case, as always, I'm sending you so much love because it can be such a challenge. It’s a challenge to feel truly grounded and clear when in the past, in order to ground, you've been retreating and pulling away from different relationships. Or maybe you had to leave your corporate position, or a job that you had previously, to really follow your dreams and create a way out of no way for yourself because you woke up. You became conscious, whereas before, you weren't so much. If that's the case, naturally, as you're leaving the comfort zone, you can end up leaving by yourself.

This is especially true for those of us who work from home, or have created our business as a virtual business. Or perhaps you have a home office and you do a lot of the billing, bookkeeping and accounts work from your home while out at your location your employees are doing their work. In this set up, you can feel a bit alone even in the management of your business. Is this sounding familiar?

If this is not for you, no problem. I'm sure you know someone who does feel this, though, because statistics show that 75% of entrepreneurs feel lonely on their journey, and get depressed, as well, on their entrepreneurial ascension path. It's a very real thing. Whether or not you're comfortable bringing this up, we've got to talk about it so that we can ground and clear your blocked energy flow, and get you back to that state of glowing as you grow.

For me, personally, I'm at my eighth year in business and I've had several different locations of the dojo. Where I am writing and filming this blog is the latest iteration of it. At first, I moved in with my mentor. It was wonderful to get to bounce my ideas off of him, and him vice-versa. We could support each other on our ascension paths professionally, every day. Then things changed and he had to manifest a new space to move his business into so that he could take care of his children and run his business in that home.

Once he did, I was with the space by myself. At first, that was so empowering. I was thinking, “oh my goodness, I'm carrying my own office space for the first time in my life!” I was coming to the office, day after day, and there's no one but me. Except for when I was seeing a client.

For those of you who have your own business as a solo entrepreneur – which I was at the time, I didn't have the team that I do now – you know most of your time is spent marketing. That is, if you have any clients. Big hugs and love to you if you're still fighting for your first one. Don't give up. But, most of your time as an entrepreneur is spent marketing. Marketing, marketing, marketing... And not necessarily being with people in your space.

After a while, it can be really quiet and lonely at times. At first, I'm an introvert. I love being by myself. So I lasted a few months. That was pretty good. And then the quiet got too quiet... where I had a harder and harder time focusing. Even though I love doing what I do, it was so difficult to look to my left and look to my right and not have anyone to work around, to work with.

With that being said, what helped me shift – and this is what my guides are suggesting for you right now – was opening up to collaborations and coworking. If you are feeling alone in your business, then maybe it’s time you started opening up to collaborations and coworking, as well as joining an entrepreneur tribe like ours. Meaning, a big group of entrepreneurs that are excited to work together so that they can glow as they grow in life and business, like you. That really started healing it for me. I would invite you to consider that for yourself.

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Wherever you're at in your age and stage in business. Whether you are just at the very beginning, where it's startup and you're launching, or you're an established business, and you're looking to take it to the next level, being around others who are at that similar stage or even in all the different other stages is energizing. It's inspiring to see people launching for the first time, really going for it. It's inspiring to see others who are established and, wow, they're breaking through that glass ceiling, moving into higher levels of your realization of their potential. It's a beautiful thing to witness.

But it begins with allowing that feeling of, “you know what? I am alone. I am feeling alone in my business.” Big difference there. What matters most is how you feel. However, you may not actually be alone. Perhaps as the founder, the visionary founder of the business, you're looking to your right and your left and you may have 50 employees but you're still feeling alone because there's no other visionaries for you to resonate with.

Be kind to yourself if that's been your situation. If that's where you're at in your business's development, it's time for you to receive the nourishment of positive community. Through collaborations, coworking, and joining a tribe like ours.

That is why here at the dojo we provide the Abundant Business Circle and the Visionary Shaman Circle so that no conscious entrepreneur goes unsupported, wherever they are at in their level of development. If you're at the startup phase, just getting used to attracting and receiving clients, that's the Abundant Business Circle. We support each other in that shift with our financial healing circles. You get to see everyone's faces, and network, and connect with others who are there with you, too. Or if you're in an established business looking to ascend through your upper limits in life and business, especially by rooting deeper down into your spiritual health, that's the visionary shaman circle for you. Both are nationwide, worldwide tribes. Thanks to the internet.

It's great to have these love letters, of course. I'm here sending you lots of love in your email inbox, or in your YouTube feed. Wherever you're picking up what I'm putting down, wherever you're finding this. But it's a whole other level of emotional nourishment when you allow yourself to get into the group and join the tribe. I highly recommend you reach out to us at naturalintuition.com, hit that Contact button and let's talk about you becoming part of our community.

With that being said, I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. The Romance Angels is who we've been journeying with all month. This deck is by Doreen Virtue. Let’s pull a card for professional loneliness, being kind to ourselves, allowing that feeling, and drawing a line in the sand, saying, "I don't like how this feels. I'm aware that this doesn't feel good. I want to change it. I want an overabundance of juicy, joyful, professional relationships. And so it is."

Angels, what do we need to know right now about manifesting that? ...Oh, I had a feeling that this was going to come out before I hit record. Codependency. Addictions are affecting your romantic life. What a can of worms to open up, angels! What the heck? LOL! This is where we're going to leave off for the week. If you are experiencing professional loneliness, this is two-fold.

On one hand, your workaholism, your addiction to micromanaging and addiction to perfection, is making the world unbearably small for you. If you're feeling that exhaustion coming from professional loneliness, it's because you've become codependent with workaholism. You're addicted to it and being sucked into that vortex. If that's your situation, if you're a workaholic, you need positive community of other entrepreneurs who are demonstrating what it's like to glow *as* they grow their business rather than to burn out as they grow their business, then apply to join the tribe now.

On the other side, this also affects our romantic life. The professional achievements that we have as entrepreneurs can sometimes give us that hit of dopamine. It is so fulfilling that causes us to focus only on our work instead of the love of our lives. Be careful about that. It's another sign of being a workaholic that your love relationships and your friendships are suffering because the business is eating up all of your time and emotional energy.

Again, if this is happening in your life, then apply to join the tribe now. Collaborate and connect with others who are happily married, have wonderful friends, and are demonstrating a healthy business that is growing by leaps and bounds. Being around others who are demonstrating this lifestyle will teach you how to make that happen for yourself, and how to truly enjoy the journey.

By the way, let me know what comes up for you around this. Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com if you'd like to email me privately and directly; that'll come straight to me through my team. By the way, hit subscribe on YouTube so you get these love letters first every single week.

Hit the SHARE button, and make sure someone who has a business knows to not overwork themselves. We will see you in the next one. Thank you so much.

I appreciate you so much for tuning in to these love letters every week. Bye for now.

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Be honest with yourself about the quality of your mental health and relationships at work; get clear on how you truly feel about your worklife and if it is Your version of healthy and abundant.

Then seek out and join an entrepreneur tribe, like our Visionary Shaman Circle and Strategic Spa Retreats, to feel surrounded by fellow spiritual entrepreneurs who fill your cup.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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It’s week three of four of our exploration of conscious loneliness; we are allowing and opening up to that as conscious entrepreneurs so that we can attract joyful, conscious relationships.

If this is the first blog or video in the series that you are seeing, make sure you stop, and go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com so that you can start from part one and be grounded in this process.

Without further ado, for week three of four, we are going to be talking about platonic loneliness. Last week, if you remember, we talked about romantic loneliness and feeling an emptiness and feeling in to our heartbreak around romantic relationships in the past that haven't gone well, and we find ourselves holding on to our heartbreak. For those of you who did tune in, we reframed the heartbreak that we had as something very different. If you didn’t see it, make sure that you catch that last episode.

But for this week in particular, what we are focusing on is platonic loneliness. If you are experiencing platonic loneliness, what that will look like is a lack of friendships: a lack of friendships for us as conscious entrepreneurs. As we continue to grow ourselves and grow our businesses, it becomes harder and harder to connect – depending on how you see the situation – it appears to become harder and harder to find and connect with others who are on that similar path of conscious living, not just personally, but also professionally.

On top of that, when it comes to platonic relationships, we will have a hard time receiving friends as opposed to lovers or sexual partners, or as opposed to clients and business partners. We'll have an abundance of clients, or an abundance of understanding around how to be with our colleagues, to acquire more clients, business partners, joint venture partners, investors. We know how to operate socially within those professional situations. We may even have some professional success and enjoy that sincerely. Or we may have an abundance of success in attracting intimate partners, romantic relationships or sexual partners, people that we are coupling with. We may be very good and very fulfilled co-creating intimate relationship with others in a romantic way.

But for some of us as conscious entrepreneurs, we get hung up on this thing of finding friends in adult life. We grow our career, love our families, but look up and wonder, “where in the world did all my friends go once we've entered our adult lives?” Friends. Like, Real Friends – who we are able to connect with, who we can love and love deeply and have incredibly intimate relationships with - not sexually, and not romantically intimate but emotionally intimate relationships with. Conscious, present, loving people who are simply our Friends.

Be kind to yourself. If this has been your situation, if this is something that you are struggling with, if that's you, I'm sending you so much love. We're sending lots of love and consciousness your way so that we can begin to manifest more friends. With that being said, the first thing that drops in from my spirit guides for you if you want to receive more friends, is to remember the law of attraction, but also remember the law of distraction.

The law of attraction states “that which is like unto itself is attracted.” The way that we would apply the law of attraction when we're attracting more platonic relationships, platonic friendships and even more fulfilling and deeply intimate, soul-filling platonic relationships into our lives as conscious entrepreneurs, begins with being a really profound friend first and foremost.

Now, having the ability to open up and begin relationships with others that do not involve any sexual contact and do not involve any professional transactions can be a tall order for some. It's funny how after we get into “the real world” (as they tell all the college students to call being a member the workforce), where this focus on having space for friendship and just being loving humans together with people who we're not related to and not having sex with and not interested in romantically, our natural ability to make friends tends to die down because we're so focused on productivity – and this is where the law of distraction comes in.

The closer you get to the things that your soul is aligned to, the more distraction is going to waive its ugly head. Distraction also attracts more of itself. Here's how that plays out. As a conscious entrepreneur, perhaps your business has become a distraction. At first it was an attraction and an exciting opportunity for you to attract money, attract clients, attract significance and recognition; it helped you attract more ways to contribute.-

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But then it may have turned into a grand distraction where you're unable to create space for friendship. You're losing yourself to productivity. You're losing that concept of being “just me.” Ok, so let me put this on me – when I can just be myself is the times when I'm just being Victoria. Just Victoria, not Sensei Victoria, not boss Victoria, not teacher Victoria. not sexy Victoria or girlfriend Victoria or lover Victoria, but instead just me. And here’s the kicker: Just Me = Friend Victoria.

It's so funny that as we give of ourselves in a purpose-driven business, as someone who is a heart-centered entrepreneur, we give of ourselves so much to our businesses, that have to remember that we can't sacrifice the space in our hearts around creating friendship. This week in particular – and I'm hearing the oracle cards beginning to call in the energy – it's time to create space for friendship. How you do that is by not working, and not being with your romantic partner. There's a You outside of those two things. I would throw in there not being a parent, child or sibling, too.

Who are you when you are Not full of the responsibilities that you've piled on your plate, and are you still connected to that version of yourself? If not, this is the week in particular where you allow for that space. If it's creating art, if it's exercise – but exercise for the pleasure of it, the enjoyment of it, not for the work of it, say, if you're a personal trainer. Be kind to yourself. It's time to get back to the you that's underneath all of your responsibilities. Because, when you allow for that, when you empty yourself and come to that version of yourself, that's when you're capable of attracting platonic friends.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling out; the deck that we're journeying with all month is the Romance Angels Oracle Cards deck by Doreen Virtue, if you want to go pick that up for yourself. So, Romance Angels, what do we need to know right now about attracting more friendship? Not romantic relationships and not professional relationships. ...Oh yes, this is gorgeous:

Soul Mate. Yes, this is your soulmate. Here's where we're going to leave off for this week. This is so powerful.

The more that you can connect to your own inner essence, the more you can recognize other people who can do that for you as well. It's the real friends of ours who, regardless of who we're with romantically and regardless of what we're doing professionally, are just so happy to be together with us as we are. Maybe as you're watching this video you’re remembering a friend of yours who you know and love dearly, or maybe you’re thinking of someone who has fallen out with their friend – if so, hit the share button and send this blog to them.

Or maybe you are someone who doesn’t believe can’t yet conceive that this level of intimacy and connection is possible outside of a romantic relationship: to have people who are platonic friends, meaning non-romantic, nonsexual-relationship-based friends but who are your soulmate. I come from a certain area in New Jersey where we call that being a “ride or die” where they are down for you. Meaning, they are a wholly and completely committed to you as you are for who you are. It’s a beautiful thing.

And this comes first from connecting to that within yourself, loving and approving of your own soul, your own essence. Then, being around people who can recognize that essence in you too – once you have, yourself – and showing up for these beautiful, soulful people, deeply. By the way, my guides are adding that there may be people who are like that already around you, but because of law of distraction, you've been so distracted by the business or distracted by your romantic relationship that's going on right now, that these people who absolutely love you no matter what, may have been taken for granted or pushed to the side by you.

If that’s the case, make time this week to show them love and celebrate them. Spend quality time, acknowledge them and recognize them as the soul mates in your life.

What comes up for you hearing all this? Comment below, or send me an email back team@victoriawhitfield.com around what comes up for you in creating more platonic relationships, filling that platonic loneliness that you may be feeling.

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Make time for being “Just Me” again – no work, no family, no lovers, no agenda, no helping, no requirements or “shoulds” – nothing to do other than just being me.

Reconnect with that part of yourself, and when you do, remember the people who have loved you and been your friend in your life when you were being Just Me; friends who loved you just as you are.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...

 

This is week two of four of our exploration of healing loneliness.

Last week we really opened up to making room for this as a feeling. More often than not we run from it. If you didn't see that video, you can go ahead and hit pause, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com, so that you are grounded in this process.

Without further ado, this week in particular, as we are healing our relationship with loneliness, we're going to talk about romantic conscious relationships. Have you ever had this experience where you've been with someone, and it didn't work out romantically speaking, and how it didn't work out really left a scar? It affected your ability to perceive possible romantic prospects going forward. Does that sound familiar? What am I talking about? I'm talking about heartbreak.

Yes, yes. Be kind to yourself if you've experienced heartbreak in the past. Today is the day that you are going to honor that as the greatest gift you've ever received, when it comes to how you show up as a conscious human being in your romantic relationships. Yes, really. The heartbreaks that you received in the past, in your experience and your journey of cultivating romantic partnerships, your heartbreaks that you have received are actually your greatest gifts. Because these heartbreaks don't just break us down.

One of the reasons why I cut all my hair off in the first place was because of an incredibly deep emotional rupture, or heartbreak. Now when I first saw it, I thought, "Yeah! I love my hair." It was a breakthrough for me. Where we're anchoring around heartbreak is instead of seeing it as a breakdown, this is a breakthrough. You are breaking open, breaking out of a former paradigm.

Where we could be at right now, as we're sharing this moment together and as you watch this video or read this blog, is that your feelings of loneliness are stemming from a lack of romantic relationship fulfillment. The message from the guides for you this week, is that if you are feeling that sense of emptiness or loneliness because of a previous heartbreak, it's time to find why that was a gift.

Turn it into a gift. It's time to rewrite your story. Because if we tell ourselves a bad story – and by the way I've done this, so I'm not perfect, I'm just as guilty as the next person – if we tell ourselves a story that is of disempowerment, victimization, being left behind, abandonment and betrayal, if we tell ourselves that story, we'll only reinforce coming to that space of loneliness and emptiness. The conclusion could be: “it's safer for me to be alone than to be in relationship. Because look at what happened in the past. Look at that. We don't want that again.”

If that's where you're at right now, harboring grief and anger, I'm sending you so much love, so much love. In order for you to heal your relationship with loneliness around a lack of romantic fulfillment, if only just for today, it’s about finding where are the pieces of heartbreak that are in your energy field – in your mind, and in your heart – and take each one of those pieces and find how that was a gift.--

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What are you no longer tolerating because of that? What did that cause you to embrace instead? What were you breaking out of with that heartbreak? Or what did you break through into?

For now, I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy, it's the Romance Angels oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue. I'm going to ask “Angels, what do we need to know right now about finding gratitude when we're feeling romantically lonely?” Another way that that can manifest is when you're around couples, you have that sense of longing, like or rage, like, "Why are you together?" Or, "Oh, I wish I had someone." That unsettled feeling, that unfulfilled feeling. “Angels, what do we need to know right now?” Here we are. This one is sticky: Unrequited Love.

Unrequited love. There's not enough attraction or chemistry to keep this relationship going. This is where we're going to leave off for the week. You know, when it comes to our romantic relationships, especially as sensitive, soulful people and energetically conscious human beings, we give so much love, and what happens when who we had partnered with in the past – or maybe even right now as you're watching this video or reading this blog – is just not able to meet at that level of giving, too?

Be kind to yourself. What are you being called to break out of? Experiencing unrequited love? The universe is not against you in you having the experience of unrequited love. You're actually having this FOR you. This experience is happening for you. If you were to step back and rewrite the story of what you're experiencing right now, or did in the past, that you may be holding onto, what would that story be? If this was happening for you, to break you out of a former paradigm, so that you can emerge into a new level of conscious relationship, what is that former paradigm that you are breaking out of?

I want to hear it! Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com or comment below, wherever this is posted. I want to hear what are you being called to break out of by feeling that loneliness, by feeling and experiencing unrequited love? This is not something that's happening to you, it's happening for you. Are you ready for it?

I'm sending you so much love and support, and I am surrounding you in the light of clarity, so that you're able to receive what you're breaking out of. Chills! Apparently, you needed to hear that today. Maybe you didn't know until just now that this was happening FOR you. But let me be the one to tell you, yes, it absolutely is.

Now, while you're at it, make sure you hit subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every single week. By the way, tag somebody who needs to hear this message. If they're struggling with unrequited love, or they're imploding, just falling in into themselves with loneliness around their romantic love life, please send this to them. Let them know that you care and that there is something in this experience FOR them.

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Just for today...

Rewrite your story of your heartbreaks in romantic relationships.

Instead of telling a story of being victimized or betrayed, try to tell a story of breaking out of an old paradigm and being set free, seeing the heartbreak as your greatest gift.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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So, I am so grateful that I get to speak to you and channel to you on this new series of love letters, specifically on loneliness.

Yes, loneliness. Let's open up this can of worms.

If you clicked play on this video or opened up this blog post, chances are you're someone who is a deeply feeling, highly intuitive, naturally sensitive, conscious being. You are aware of the spiritual nature of reality, or you may be awakening to that. In your chosen career, you want to do something that is in alignment with your vision for your life, in alignment with your life's work, your life's purpose, your passions.

You're a very passionate, deeply feeling person and that's absolutely gorgeous and I celebrate that in you. I want to honor that, first and foremost, before we go forward into this topic because, you know, as a conscious entrepreneur, it can get to be a lonely road. As a visionary woman or as a man of vision, as someone who is operating under a calling over their life and has deep passions that they are pursuing, more often than not, this journey, this adventure that we are on, living our life's purpose, can often become quite lonely.

If this is for you, I am sending you so much love. Every single love letter topic comes straight from my spirit guides, so maybe this one is for you and maybe this one isn't. But if it is, I am showering you with so much love and we're gonna be holding space for joyful, conscious relationships. May you feel an over abundance of them, feeling totally engorged by love this month, in particular during all the love letter series. But today we have to open up the problem first, right? We need to start with why. It's so important to be in conscious relationship. The loneliness that we experience is what my guides have brought forward first.

We are living in the age of cell phones and social media, tablets and laptops, smart TVs and personal computers. With all of this personalization that we're experiencing on all levels of society, we can tend towards self-pleasure, self-entertainment, self-containment and away from being open to receiving relationship. Or for those of us who have ventured into that wonderful dark forest of being with others, we are becoming increasingly starved for examples of people who are happily in conscious relationship.

There is mutual benefit to conscious relationship, being open to giving and receiving and feeling a rock solid alignment with whoever we are partnering with. And I'm not just talking about in your intimate, romantic love relationships; we're also talking platonic and professional. We're gonna be talking about loneliness in all of those three relationship types during this love letters series. But for today in particular, please know, that if you are experiencing loneliness, that there's nothing wrong with you.

It is so important for us to create space for feeling that loneliness, because when we have buzz, beeps and boops coming from our cell phones constantly and another thing that we need to do over here for the boss, and another thing that we need to do over here for our business, and another thing is blowing up with my kid, oh my God they dropped this thing over here and oh my gosh I'm going to eat this cookie and oh my gosh I'm going to go have a nice glass of wine – we get crowded out. There's so many things that could take us away from that feeling of emptiness and loneliness, and just for today, I want you to honor it, because your loneliness is sacred.

Your emptiness is sacred. It's only when we are feeling empty that we can begin to be filled. We have to allow that space to gather. It's from the void that all wisdom sprung. The goddess Sige is an archetype of that: the entire universe came from an eternal silence. It woke her up, the goddess named Sige. She represents that. So allowing for the void, the silence, the discomfort, the loneliness, is the beginning of creating something absolutely magnificent. It is the beginning of opening to receiving love on another level.--

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So, I want you to honor your loneliness in some way, shape and form. If only just for today. Maybe it is a poem that you read for loneliness. Maybe it is a song that you listen to that kind of conveys how you feel. Perhaps it is a certain color that you wear, or even just taking stock of, “am I lonely?”

Be kind to yourself. Allow space for that loneliness, especially bringing in art to support you in that feeling and allowing of it. If it's a certain painting that conveys that or an opera, or whatever Art you're listening to or engaging in, bring it into your sphere right now. If only just for today, to make room for allowing loneliness. It is part of who you are. Do not deny anything of who you are, even the darker parts.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. This month we're going to be journeying with The Romance Angels oracles cards deck. Doreen Virtue strikes again, and these cards are from back when she was cool, lol. Sending so much love as we pull oracle cards today. Angels, what do we need to know right now about allowing loneliness instead of running from it? Instead of drinking it, eating it, smoking it, working it? To all my workaholics out there, I’m sending you love and grounding. Angels, what do we need to know right now about loneliness? ...This is so perfect. You're gonna love this:

Love yourself first. Your self-respect makes you more romantically attractive.

Here's where we're going to leave off for the week. The reason why we are allowing feeling our loneliness, if only just for today, is because this is to respect that as your authentic emotion. No more hiding, no more running. We're going to respect this fact. Feeling this is an act of self-respect, and the Angels are telling us it actually makes you more romantically attractive.

Now, I'm not saying you're going to be all lonely all over everyone else, no no no. This is just for you. This is about you loving yourself and loving even your darker emotions. Yes, we are starting the entire series from this space, and can you dig it?

Go ahead and send me an email back, team@victoriawhitfield.com. What comes up for around this topic of loving yourself enough first to be with your loneliness? Just you. Just you. No need to share it with anyone else. I mean, you're welcome to send me an email about what's coming up for you around that. Is this on time? Comment below.

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May you feel loved and safe, especially at work because that's half your waking life. Please, enjoy the journey, the whole journey, even the dark sides.

The darker parts of the journey on your path to loving and healing the world.

Mwah. Sending you so much love and we'll see you in the next one. --

Just for today...

Give yourself loving, empowered permission to begin to feel your loneliness, without stuffing or numbing it away.

In your journal, write about the parts of yourself that feel empty or yearn for connection in life and business, and allow yourself to express these feelings unapologetically.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

-- Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business. Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...