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Love Letters | Healing Lost Faith – Part 1 of 4

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 05 Nov 2018 05:00:57 +0000

The topic that my guides have asked me to cover this time in particular is: losing faith. What to do when you feel like you are losing faith.

Now, I want to be clear, I am not a business coach, I'm not a marketing guru, I'm not your run-of-the-mill reiki master, and I'm not even a massage therapist or any of that. I'm not any of those things. I'm a Business Reiki Master. So what does that mean? That means I help empathic entrepreneurs and their teams, burnt out business owners, uncertain CEO’s, C-Level executives and their teams to get and stay balanced and clear in mind, body and business. So, although I am not the person who's going to tell you how to write a business plan or how to get your first client, I *am* the person that's going to support you with the energy *behind* doing those tasks - making sure that your vibration, emotion, and your energy is balanced and managed well. That's when these people call me in, specifically during times of transition, when they're losing faith.

In the coming posts we're going to be talking more about the experience of losing faith in yourself, losing faith in your business or the economy, and losing faith in your mission and purpose on Earth, and we will be covering what to do in each and every situation.So, if you haven't yet, make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every single week, and also make sure that you take my quiz so that you have an opportunity to self-assess around where are you at, so you can jumpstart your unique healing journey.

Without further ado, let's get a little bit more into this. Why are we talking about losing faith in particular? Here’s why: my guides have magnetized to me so many people who are brilliant experts who are talented, generous, loving givers, givers, givers. We’ve been taught that “givers gain.” If you know what I'm talking about send me an email back, comment below wherever you're seeing this, type it in, givers gain, if that's something that you live by.

But here's the thing: eventually, if you are not giving andreceiving - or if you're not receiving asyou give - you will dry out.Think of it this way - think of yourself as an oil lamp. If you've ever seen an oil lamp, it's this beautiful glass receptacle which has a cotton wick that runs through it, and it's bound at the top so that the wick doesn't fall in, and that receptacle is full of oil, an incendiary flammable substance, but when it's wicked up, or absorbed up the wick, it then becomes fuel for our burning fire. If you light that wick the fire will continue to burn in the oil lamp for as long as there is oil in there.

So for us as empathic entrepreneurs, as spiritual business owners and conscious CEOs, we're giving, giving, giving. We want to take excellent care of our people. Being in charge means taking care of the people who are in our charge. You know this already. And what can happen along the way is that you give to the point where your oil lamp, so-to-speak, is running out, and your light begins to dim.

My guides are asking me to urge you, this week in particular, to ask yourself: “where is my light dimming? Where have I begun to lose faith?”

Are you losing faith in yourself? Are you losing faith in your business or the economy, or your ability to receive and pay out money? Or are you losing faith in your mission, your purpose here on Earth? Those symptoms usually are accompanied by feelings of exhaustion, crankiness, resentment, smiling but behind your smile there's like a sense of “I can't stand this anymore, I don't know how much more I can take,” or feelings of avoidance, procrastination.
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Be kind to yourself if this is what you are going through, this month in particular.I don't know when you'll be watching or reading this. Maybe you're watching and reading it when we first debut these love letters, maybe you'll happen upon this in YouTube or wherever, or someone shared it with you because they love you, but regardless of the time of year you've landed on this video series please know that it's time for you to refill your oil lamp, it's time for you to feed your faith.

We want to honor you wherever you're at if you happen to be losing faith. No judgement here; all love. Perhaps you're watching and reading this because someone that you know and love, or who you work with that who you care about and have seen as a powerhouse before - they've been amazing, but their light is starting to dim. If that’s the case, lets begin to send some healing to them, ok? Let's surround you and your loved ones, your dear coworkers and colleagues in healing white light and positivity, this week, this day in particular.

And without further ado let's get to the oracle cards of the week from Healing with the Angels, the very first oracle deck that Doreen Virtue ever made.Okay, Angels, what do we need to know right now about this topic of losing faith? Is it okay? What do we need to know in order to begin to restore it? “Nature.” Gorgeous. I'm going to read to you:

“Spending time alone in nature is important for you, even five minutes in a garden would be healing for you right now. By drawing this card the angels ask you to interact with nature more often, every day if possible. This card also signifies that you may be happier living in a more rural setting. If you have thought about moving away from city life consider this card as additional validation. Also, this card may be encouraging you to choose an occupation involving plants or animals. For instance, you may enjoy gardening, nursery or veterinary work, pet sitting, or delving into the world of animal communication. Your angels and the nature elements are helping you discover and give your gifts to the world. Help them to help you by spending more time in nature.”

And here's where we're going to leave off for this week. As we enter into this more vulnerable topic of losing faith, one way that you can begin to rebuild already before we start talking about more specific ways, is by reconnecting to nature.Reconnecting to nature. Nature is so healing, right? Maybe you lost a loved one, or maybe a major client fell through. But one simple way that you can begin to restore your faith in yourself, in life, or in business is to step back and appreciate nature. The beautiful thing about plants is that they continue growing. And how animals, they have this beautiful wonder and awe for life, they have this essential beauty and innocence to them. Mountainsides, forests, the beach and the water are all so healing - connect to the beauty of nature and allow it to begin to replenish and refill your soul.

So if this topic is on time for you, if it's speaking to you, make sure that you comment below, send me an email back at Info@VictoriaWhitfield.com and subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every single week.

And by the way, if this is really resonating and you're thinking of someone in particular, will you please send them this video?Let them know that they're not alone. And if you are new to the Love Letters because you received this and someone shared it for you, I want you to know you're not alone in what you’re going through. Faith can be restored. Connect to nature this week, go for a walk, soak it up, be gentle with yourself, and I'll see you next week so that we can continue this conversation. Mwah! Sending you so much love.

Just for today...

Be kind to yourself and notice where the inner light of your faith and drive may be dimming.

Instead of avoiding or glazing over the truth, pause for a moment and acknowledge where you feel drained or dismayed.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

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Love Letters | Dealing with Disappointment Part 2 of 2

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 02 Nov 2015 12:00:41 +0000

Disappointment got you down?

Having a hard time forgiving yourself for messing up?

Wish you could just feel better already, instead of feeling like a failure all the time?

If this is you, believe it or not, you're on the verge of a breakthrough.

Every disappointment and seeming "failure" holds healing knowledge sent from Spirit to clean up your energy and move you to your next level.

Watch the above 10-minute video to learn how to shift your energy immediately to receiving healing and clearing spiritual knowledge!

"I feel like a failure."

To help you find the Dark Gift in disappointment is like finding a needle in a haystack.

When we're really low-vibration in guilt and all those yucky, gooey sensations of resentment and self-unforgiveness, it's hard to see the light.

We're just keep saying to ourselves: "No! Everything's doom and gloom and I'm a piece of doody-pants."

One thing that helps shift your vibration fast -- and if you come to The Dojo you'll always see me do this -- is to celebrate when things don't work out.

I know you're watching, all of my students that this has happened to; when they come back out of meditation, they say: "Sensei, I didn't go anywhere. I didn't see anything, I was right here the whole time."

What do I do every time? My students know that every time they say this, I say: "Yay! Yes! Going nowhere, doing nothing! WOOHOO!!"

Why? Not because I'm a crazy-pants... well, maybe, but I'm a crazy-pants with good reason. 🙂 Everyone is crazy for a reason, just ask them!

The reason why we celebrate is not only because "Well, you tried," which is always positive, but also whenever you celebrate your brain re-orients herself to say "What am I celebrating?"

She is immediately looking to see what are the positives in this situation; she automatically reframes the situation to support positive outcomes. This is called Neuro-linguistic Programming, by the way.

When we're in celebration mode, our brain must support that with data. The new-aged version of this exact same phenomena is the Universal Law of Attraction.

What you need to know most right now is that the more you celebrate in the face of disappointment, the more you will immediately align with what there to celebrate.

You'll know. Seriously, it works like magic. It's like fairy dust.

Try it, you will see just how effective it is.

Know this: You can shift your state right now: celebrate in the face of disappointment & you'll discover why your failure is healing.

By all means clap and scream and celebrate over your perceived failure until you're able to find out what is celebratory in this.

Gratitude, admiration, adoration, joy and high vibrations are constantly present. They just don't show up out of nowhere and then disappear. Why?

Because everything is Now.

All that is, is right now.

The lowest vibrations you could possibly emanate are just as present as the highest vortexy, juicy, yummy woo thing you could possibly experience.

All vibrations are present now.

By being in celebration, choosing to celebrate disappointment, you will activate your ability to perceive and receive any Dark Gifts that are coming out of your experience.

It doesn't matter how dark or how painful the situation is, trust me, this always works.

And with that I'm hearing the Oracle cards loud and clear. The Healing with the Fairies oracle card deck is the one that said "We want to talk about disappointment and failure!" Yay!

Interesting. So the card that is coming up is "Vacation." Thank you, fairies!

So what I just heard in the energy is the reason why this card is coming up: a change of scenery.

If you've really been feeling like "I feel guilty," or "I feel like a failure," say you lost your job or the business tanked or the marriage is ending and going down divorce, then the fairies are sending you this message:

A change of environment can really help raise your vibration.

Once you're in that shifted environment, then look back with celebratory energy.

Sometimes things are so heavy, disappointing and immersive that the environment around us can really re-emanate that super low vibration, and your mind follows along with that.

The most stressful part of dealing with disappointment and failure is that we just keep turning it over and over.

But you have to understand that the room, the house, the building, the space that you are in reflects your mind and all of your mental, emotional vibrations.

She will continue to re-vibrate and replay all of what's been on your mind and on your heart, all that energy.

Energy of low-vibration emotions and thought, all of that that you've been putting out, she will continue to replay that and reverberate that back to you.

Changing your environment is really important if you've suffered a pretty serious failure or a big disappointment.

Go on a vacation. If you can't afford a vacation that's fine, go outside or go over to someone else's house, change the scenery and allow your space at home or at the office, to clear out.

It's cathartic always when we go through this clearing process after the business failed and we have to clear out the energy.

Clearing and rebooting is really good because it's clearing your mind.

Environment always effects and reflects the mind, and therefore shifting your environment from one space to another is really essential for dealing with disappointment.

The fairies want you to know that it's okay to give yourself permission to do that.

In the divorce, go over to your friends' or parents' house and spend some time with them. Allow someone to be nurturing to you who you know loves you no matter what.

If the term paper didn't go well and you have the wherewithal to do it, go down the shore (to the beach) and let the ocean wash away your pain.

Be in the mountains, get yourself in nature, or even go to the arcade and whack the mole. Delicious! I love playing Whack-a-mole when I'm pissed about something! LOL! 🙂

It's all about a change of scenery because that'll help you to shift out of that crappy, crusty vibration.

Don't wallow in the mud of the past, because it will just slow you down.

I am sending you so much love, I'm surrounding you in the energy with white light and I will see you next week.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Just for Today...

Celebrate your disappointments and failures! Shout and be silly: "YAY! I DID IT!" And then wait for it.... ????

As you clap and rejoice the fact that you tried, stay open to Spirit showing you any lessons you can learn about yourself and your life.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Love Letters | Dealing with Disappointment – Part 1 of 2

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 26 Oct 2015 12:00:50 +0000

Have you ever had a project not work out the way you expected it to, and that threw you for a loop?

Beating yourself up over a failed business or relationship?

Annoyed that you have to start at square one, AGAIN?

Periodically life lets us down or we ourselves drop the ball; we all know that disappointment is just a part of life.

But sometimes when this happens, we can get caught in a toxic never-ending cycle of self-loathing and self-punishment.

Watch the above 10-minute video to begin breaking out of this toxic cycle of self-sabotage!

"What do I need to know right now? What am I supposed to learn in this moment?"

Have you ever had a project not work out the way you expect it to?

Maybe the business failed, the relationship failed. Or you asked someone to do something, where you delegated something to another person and it didn't work out, and they didn't do it the way that you wanted it to be done.

You put so much work and effort into this project or paper or exam, and it comes back or goes through and you see that it nope, totally doesn't look like what you were hoping the outcome to be at all.

You sent out your college essay and nope, you got a rejection. Working out, eating clean, as best as you can, get on the scale, nope! No weight lost.

Disappointment, oh yeah. Failure... delicious! Lol!

If you're feeling, "I'm struggling with that right now, Victoria" this is not to make fun of you. I'm laughing because I'm in the mud with you, feeling you strongly so my heart is so open to you right now.

We're going to dive right into this, and laugh our way through the crap of life, together. 🙂

Source says that we have a tendency to ruminate and really draw out the failure event with our guilt and disappointment, chewing on it like a cow chewing on cud.

Cud is the stuff that comes out of all of her stomachs--what is it like 8 of them or something like that?

She chews so that she can continue the experience of getting through all of the nutrients in that grass for hours and hours and hours on end.

You don't need to be in that slow, drawn-out process, is what the Spirit is saying.

It's one way to approach failure and disappointment: to draw it out and say "This is exactly why I suck."

Or waxing poetic: "How many ways can I be horrible? Let me count the ways," or "Let's get creative! How can I express how much failure I am in 60 seconds? Go!"

My love, let me count the ways. No Shakespeare, stop it! Just stop. STOP!

The way that we want to deal with disappointment is to embrace her.

Failure must be embraced. To cast her away or pull her out and torture yourself is to drag yourself thought the mud excessively.

It's when we go into that process of self-deprecating behavior and masochism, the "I'm guilty, I feel so bad. Oh my god you washed the dishes for me, I feel so bad, I'm a failure at being helpful..." etc.

Interesting, one of the Spirits just said "be kind to yourself, if that's what you're going through." Again, this is not to make fun of you, but to help you see yourself.

Know this: Guilt and negative self-talk are low-vibrational forms of centering meditation. Be kind to yourself; there are better ways.

The energy says that whenever we experience failure or that strong sensation of being out of alignment, we come out of our bodies.

This happens because all of the energy that we have put out into that project or relationship, or into whatever, didn't work out. We funneled ourselves into that identity that we formed, we put so much of our energy into that and when it doesn't go through, we find ourselves outside of our bodies and our truth.

Guilt, disappointment and all of that negative rumination is a mistaken and low vibrational way of centering: you're coming back to a sense of self through masochism.

We see that you're trying to come back to center and recreate your identity after failure through guilt, like "Oh I know who I am because of what I am not." Ok.

That's a fallacy though, because that's going to take you farther away from who you really are as a divine being; this is what I'm seeing in the energy right now.

Be kind to yourself if that's where you're at.

You're just mistaken.

You see, in the moment that you are trying to re-center and find your authentic energy, you're striving to get to the point where you're thinking positively: "Okay, this is me, this is me. Phew! I'm all solid again, I'm not pushed out into all of this stuff around me that's failing and being disappointing. That person didn't do it the way I would. That doesn't mean I'm horrible." Or, "That relationship didn't work out, but that doesn't mean I'm a failure."

You're identity, Source says, is spread out too thin so that act of guilt and the act of drawn out disappointment and holding onto that sense of self-unforgiveness (which is guilt and dragging ourselves through the mud and resentment) is just an inverse way of trying to re-center.

We tell you this for a reason: See the light, even in the darkness.

The way that we best deal with disappointment is for searching for The Dark Gift in it.

I don't mean dark gift, like Dracula spookypants boogadeyboo, etc dark gift, lol.

What I mean by dark gift is gifts that we find in our shadow, gifts that the spirit sends through experiences.

And by the way, the spirit is constantly sending gifts, infinite amount of gifts you are receiving now.

Not in the past, you got them. Not in the future, that didn't happen. Now.

There is an infinite amount of gifts that are present to you and latent in the dark side of what's happening, like disappointments.

Those gifts in the darkness or in uncertainty or in your shadow are what we mean by dark -- not like boogedy evil, we don't mean that.

Dark Gifts are learning gifts.

They're there to help you embrace the disappointment, embrace the distraction, embrace the failure. You embrace by saying "I screwed up and I GET to LEARN from it."

One of my students awakened me to a wonderful quote years ago.

A quote by John C. Maxwell, "We always fail forward. Why? Because you tried."

Failing forward is the ability to get back up after you've been knocked down and to learn from your mistakes.

It really embodies this concept of embracing the dark gifts that disappointment is trying to send us.

In the previous video we talked about acceptance and how that can kind of be lubricant to life if you're feeling blocked or static.

Being in a state of Acceptance can help you figure out where's the stepping stone for you to take in this experience you're having now.

That absolutely applies here because in our disappointments, when things don't work out, there's always a way to look back at the process and see how could that have gone better and if it couldn't have gone better, reflect on "What do I need to know right now? What am I supposed to learn in this moment?"

Check back next week for part 2 of this love letter!