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Love Letters | The DIY Trap – Part 2 of 5

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 09 Sep 2019 05:00:43 +0000

Are you a D.I.Y. junkie?

Do you love being independent and in control of everything?

Yet, are you frustrated that you can’t seem to attract or retain a good support team?

Society endorses is being “strong, independent wo/men” constantly.

However there comes a point where D.I.Y. starts to feel exhausting and small.

Watch this week’s 11-minute Love Letter video, the second in our 5-week series on From Me to We, to free yourself from the “DIY Trap”!

"I'd rather just do it myself."

Last week, we introduced this concept and we talked about how now more than ever you are being called to exponential growth. This week in particular, we're going to talk about the DIY trap.

The DIY trap is do it yourself, for those of you who are not exactly sure like "What do you mean by DIY?" It's do it yourself. Where you get the program for example that's discounted because it's the DIY version. Or, you're going to start your business and you're going to do it yourself.

Or you're being a strong, independent insert thing here, deja vu, no? Being a strong, independent woman. Strong, independent man. You're going to do it yourself.

This is an ego trap that Guides want you to know this week in particular, it's time for you to get off that hamster wheel of DIY. There's an even higher vibration, one that works even better, and it's even more satisfying than DIY. We'll get to that in a minute, but let's clarify a little bit more of what's going on when we're pulled into doing another do it yourself project professionally especially.

Maybe you have to type that email, or maybe you have to do the phone call. There's the impatient controller that comes out of all of us. I know you, I know you. If you have achiever, A for achiever, in your StrengthsFinder like I do, I'm relator, empathy, strategic, achiever, adaptability for those of you taking the StrengthsFinder test.

If you have achiever in your strengths, you're wired for being the controller. You got to go and achieve and implement and achieve with love. This is how we generate safety in a world that has shown herself to be a very scary place. I'm talking going all the way back to say childhood, adolescence, where a negative experience caused you to have a loss of control, or to feel, or perceive loss of control.

It's very painful to go through those experiences, I understand that. In order to bring order back into a chaotic world that seem to be spinning out of control, maybe you had an angry parent, maybe you had an alcoholic, maybe someone attacked you, maybe all of the above. Other things, someone died, someone appeared ... be kind to yourself.

If you took control, you did it yourself in order to create a sense of control and certainty in life. This week in particular, this day in particular The Guides are calling you to a higher vibration because your next level imminent if you would just change your mindset from DIY to DIT, write this down.

No more DIY, from now on it's DIT, do it together. Do it together. If it's the email, if it's the phone call, if it's the sales visit, if it's the interview, if it's the dating, et cetera. Two heads are better than one, especially when they're on good, strong shoulders, not just any head, you know what I'm saying? Two strong, grounded, well-rounded, sensitive, spiritual heads are better than just one.

DIY may make you feel nice, and small, and in control, and everything certain, you know what to expect, but do you see how compressed I look? This is not a relaxed posture. When we go into DIT, doing it together, opening up to receiving input, support, and allowing for communal, cooperative manifestation, we have to open in order to receive that type of energy. Because of that expansiveness, we are able to move and receive more energy, more money, more clients, more love than ever before.

Think of it this way. God gave you two hands, or mother gave you two hands when you popped out of her womb. If you are seeing visions of receiving things that are larger than your two hands can hold, how is that going to happen? You're going to need more than just your own two hands to bring it in. That's where you're feeling like you're hitting that glass ceiling in life, that's why it's time to shift from DIY to DIT.

Know this: No more DIY! From now on, it’s DIT.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy, so let me come a little closer. It's the Life Purpose Oracle Cards deck by Doreen Virtue. One of many Oracle Cards decks that we have here at The Dojo, always open to receiving donations.

Angels, let's hear it. What do we need to know right now about shifting our mindset from me to we and from DIY to DIT? What's coming up here?

Books. You connect to your life purpose through your involvement with books. This is interesting. There are a lot of do it yourself books out there, how to, advice guides. I love the idiot's guides because I don't care if you know how tell me how to do it, I'm interested.

My guides are bringing me to being part of a book. Not just writing your own book, I wrote my book, Natural Intuition Now, it's on Amazon. The way that I wrote it was actually by channeling. Channeling is a bit of a DIY, DIT kind of spliced interaction, where the wisdom was just flowing through me.

But, also my guides are bringing being part of a group that is writing a book. I want you, this week in particular, if you've been called to write, or you have a story to tell, go and seek out who else is talking about it, and see how you can get involved.

Also, this is for those of you, if you have that pile of books on your nightstand that you're not reading, it's because you've been DIY'ing that. Let's try DIT'ing your approach to reading these visionary books that you've accrued creating a book reading group, being the leader of it, yes, you. Not waiting for anyone else. Going to see who else would be interested in reading this book with you. That's what I do, by the way, on my Facebook page is I want to re-read Ask and It Is Given, so I'm doing it together with all the 1500 something people that are on Facebook with me. That way we're all going higher.

Go ahead and comment below, send me an email back what comes up for you around DIY to DIT transition this week.

Remember, if you could think of any way that I could help you in balancing your mind, body and business, just let me know over at victoriawhitfield.com/contact. I'll see you there. See you next week.

(Original post 05/07/2018)

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Love Letters | Self-Sabotage #MLMM

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Tue, 27 Jan 2015 23:23:27 +0000

Self-Sabotage

Ready to change your life for the better, but keep running into roadblocks?

Feel like you are you're own worst enemy?

Wondering why you keep avoiding and dancing around taking that one big step in life that would be really good for you?

Your Spirit is bringing you opportunities to experience More Love in your life, but in order to receive it you need to understand exactly why you self-sabotage.

This time is raising your Abundance Vibration.

Watch the above video to learn how to heal self-sabotaging behaviors so you can actually use them to shift to an attractive, abundant mindset!

More Love and More Money - Video Series on Increasing Authentic Abundance

Self-sabotage is the #1 thing that stands between you and what you want.

It's this "I am my own worst enemy" syndrome in us that kicks up when we are about to make clear and significant progress.

In fact, it's usually when we know exactly what the next step is that we tend to give into self-sabotaging behaviors the most - such as going on social media, watching TV or pleasure-seeking in general to procrastinate taking that next step.

But why?

Change is always difficult because we are shifting from one identity and paradigm to a whole new one, and your Ego doesn't like that!

This is not because your Ego is bad or out to ruin your life. In fact, too many wellness and new-age thinkers demonize the Ego as the sum of all evil - and that is just not true!

You Ego is your first response system that serves to protect you and your identity from danger or being compromised. It came in especially handy when you are living out in the wild and needed to have that instinctual response to avoiding dangers like predatory animals and dangerous weather.

But now that we're no longer in need of this instinctual alert system as much, the Ego has become over-reactive, and tends to kick on when we are about to do (or are "in danger" of doing) something that involves a higher output of personal energy than we have grown accustomed to generating.

Therefore, self-sabotaging behaviors are caused by an instinctual, over-reactive Ego - and this means that they present us with the Dark Gift of an opportunity to experience More Love in our lives. And of course, your Ego right now is saying:

Healing self-sabotaging behaviors starts with honoring your Ego; when you start to self-sabotage or procrastinate, just acknowledge that the purpose of your Ego is to protect you and that that's why you have the compulsion to avoid taking action.

Know this: Self-sabotage is an opportunity for Love. See it as a Dark Gift from your Ego bringing up fears that are false so they can heal. #MLMM

When you feel like you're afraid or reluctant to start that project or take that leap of faith, pause and take stock of what you're actually afraid of - and then ask yourself "is that true?"

Nine times out of ten, the things we fear the most are not even real!

As creative and sensitive people, we tend to catastrophize situations, winding ourselves into a panic-filled analysis of imagined worst-case scenarios, rather than just walking right into the situation and ALLOWING it to unfold naturally itself.

And that's actually the spiritual lesson behind self-sabotage - an unwillingness to Allow. This is big, because being able to Allow is crucial to increasing your abundance vibration.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which explains exactly what part of your spiritual anatomy is tied to healing self-sabotaging behaviors!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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