What are the symptoms of turning into a techno-zombie?

Have you Become One with your Netflix and DVR accounts?

Bit by the Email Timesuck Vampire AGAIN? There goes another three hours!

FOMO or Fear of Missing Out has driven us as empathy and as entrepreneurs to be literally attached at the hip to our cellphones and other tech at all times.

And as technology continues to innovate, it's getting harder and harder to tell the difference between being productive and being distracted by it.

Watch this week's 14-minute love letter video for the third installment of our 5-week deep dive into self-care versus self-sabotage, and start healing your relationship with technology.

"I carry my phone everywhere."

We are on week three of five in our deep dive into the dance that we empaths do, between self-care and self-sabotage, right? Dancing that fine line like a boss, or not.

Kind of like a slave, right? If we're really looking at what are our addictions? How are we soothing ourselves versus actually caring for ourselves, right?

Last week, we talked about food, right? And emotional stuffing, how we use food to stuff our feelings, our empathic overwhelm down, so be kind to yourself if that's you, or if you haven't seen that, go ahead and go back in the playlist on YouTube, or back on the earlier blog post on victoriawhitfield.com. You'll see it there.

This week, this is a bit of like a meta-analysis, right? It's the analysis of the actual thing that's happening right now, is technology.

Social media and technology! It's so good, right?

How are we doing self-care versus self-sabotage, with all this technology stuff all over us, right? How impersonal does this feel, by the way, now that you can see my phone as I'm talking to you? Like, it's changed the whole look.

I'm not acting any differently, but now that I'm looking at or having my phone on camera, that feels different talking to you, versus you having my full attention. Hmm. So this is something that we have got to talk about, because you and I are looking at each other thanks to technology right now, right?

Current research says cell phone users touch their phone - they don't even really use it, they just touch it - between 2,500 and 5,500 times per day, spending an average of two to five hours within the screen, and this is just the phone, right?

I didn't even look at TV, or look at computer, laptop, or billboards, and GPS, and all the technology, and then other people's phones, and TVs, and laptops, and computers, and yada yada yada, the list goes on.

It's total technological immersion that we've got going on right now, and yes, it's connectivity, but there's a difference between connecting and feeling connected, right?

So with our phones, and all of these screens that we have around us, there is an emotional need that we are fulfilling, so this week in particular, my guides are bringing forward the Erickson, who came up with the six human needs?

So everybody has basic, human needs, right? That have got to be fulfilled in order for us to feel safe, happy, and fulfilled in life.

Even just normal, right, filling our needs is necessary for satisfying our baseline as human beings. It's just natural, and the six human needs are certainty, right? To know things that are going to be the same.

You know what the outcome is going to be. You know what to expect, right? Certainty. "I'm certain." Also, then, uncertainty. So, to know things are going to be spicy, and interesting, and we'll have adventures, and spontaneity, and diversity, right? Uncertainty.

Next is connection and love, so those two are kind of grouped together, but this is to feel connected to those around us, feel connected to something outside of ourselves, right? To be involved, to be in relationship of some sort. It doesn't even have to be with a human being, right? I think in Japan, they're marrying robots, some people are. Google it.

Four is significance. So, to know that you matter, or that you've been seen, and recognized, and acknowledged, that you're not just operating in a vacuum, but that, "Oh, I'm significant to something, someone, somehow," or, "I am significant," right? Those are our four universal, basic human needs. Everybody's into this. The last two are more spiritual in nature.

Number five is for growth. So, the need to feel like there's progress being made, that we're moving forward, or that we're getting better with time, things are developing momentum. Then six is for contribution, so to know that you have a legacy, or that you made a difference, that you taught something, or somebody, that there was an impact that was made. Those are our six human needs.

Now, if you just have three of those human needs, it's an addiction. Anything above that, you can forget about it. It'll dominate your life.

Technology, how many of those six human needs, right? Already, yes, we're going in to connect, right? Trying to connect, stay connected, get connected. How many times do you see that online, or on the computer, or wherever you're looking, whatever screen you're sucking on, right?

Click to share the Tweet of the Week:

Know this: There's a difference between connecting and feeling connected.

Are you loving The Love Letters? If so, please support our healing work with a love donation:

--

Then, certainty, to know that everything is the same. I know the weather is the same as it's expected, right? Then uncertainty, "Ooh, look at this different shiny object, or squirrel on a pole, dancing," or something on Facebook.

So we've already got three there. Oh no! Then, well we've got contribution, posts, right? Like, comment, engage, subscribe. Legacy, oh no!

So, I'm sure I missed one, but you fill in the blank. Our human needs are absorbed in these screens, that are following us around all day.

Source wants you to know that the feeling behind that, the spiritual truth behind that, one is you're feeling lonely, bored, under-stimulated, anxious, and impatient. These are all the uncomfortable feelings that we'll have that will cause us to reach, those 2,500 to 5,500 times for our phone, for example, in a given day.

Unbelievable. I'm still flabbergasted by that number, but hey, you know, it's what the research says, as of 2017. So, be kind to yourself if that's you, right? You live with your phone, or you talk with your phone, or your phone is always on your hip, on your boob, on your ... Screens everywhere.

It's those low vibe feelings, though, that we are trying to escape. So this is what we want to honor this week, in particular, with your energy, is how are you escaping life? So this is our form of self-care, right? We're trying to care for these feelings of emptiness, loneliness, feeling bored, or under-stimulated, or even curious.

We're caring for that by escaping, right? Taking off, into the bowels of Google, or into the depths of Netflix, right? Or wherever you're going, in technology. Technology is meant for you to feel connected and have access. It does not put limits on you.

Now, there is an app, one of my awesome clients ... Hi, Elaine! She uses, called Moment, which is tracking you, how many minutes you've been on your phone, and you can start to raise your own self-awareness of, "Oh my gosh, I've been eating my phone for the last few days," right? It tracks your usage. Moment. It looks like a light green and white flower, if you're looking for it in the App Store, to help you, and it'll also give you alerts to put your phone down.

You've met your limit, right? But most technology is built for access, like this infinite connectivity and access, and that is a breeding ground for addiction and escaping away from your natural energy. Very, very, very un-grounding.

So this week in particular, Source is asking us instead, to unplug at the Deep Dive Retreat. Every year, we practice three whole days unplugged, and yes, we go through withdrawal, and yes it's intense, but it's amazing what happens when you go back to being a natural human being. Suddenly you can see flowers, and smell the ocean breeze, or even just, if you're not by the ocean, you're just alive, and aware, "Oh, this part of my body aches. Ooh, I feel like moving more," right? You're so much more in tune to your health, and to your energy, when you start practice unplugging strategically.

So that's your assignment for this week. Here's the Oracle Card deck. Let me pull this right quick, before we run out of time. Indigo Angel Oracle Cards deck. Another Doreen Virtue deck. One of, I believe, 21 now. Angels, what do we need to know this week, about oh God, screen-sucking?

Ah, time to create. This is where we'll leave off. You know, the bright side of technology is that it gives us an incredible myriad of platforms for expressing our creativity. I double dare you to get creative when you feel the urge to screen-suck, whether it's TV, laptop, tablet, phone, right? When you get the urge to screen-suck, do something creative. Maybe it's change your clothes, or primp yourself, or start drawing, or make a paper shape, or whatever you can do to get creative.

What's coming up for you? Comment below, send me an email back, what happened when you did that? What are you going to plan to do? Are you going to plan to draw? I love doodling, by the way. I doodle on all receipts, so whenever I'm out eating, or shopping, or whatever, I doodle on every receipt that goes back to the waiter.

So, how are you going to express your creativity this week, instead of jumping on that technology thingy? It's going to suck your energy and your time away, right? Let me know. I'm excited to see it, right? And share your poem, share your images, share your songs. I would love to see them. If you want to post a video back, I can't wait to see you.

All right, are you ready for it? We'll see you next week for week four. Bye.

VictoriaWhitfield.com
Facebook.com/SenseiVictoriaWhitfield

Just for Today...

Unplug from technology, strategically.

Make time for creative expression with ZERO technology exposure - even try hiding all screens and machines under blankets if you must.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

-

Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...

The post Love Letters | Technology Self Sabotage – Part 3 of 5 appeared first on Sensei Victoria Whitfield.

Worried you'll never really have enough money?

Are you surrounded by "well meaning" cynics and skeptics who encourage you to play small to be safe?

Starting to think the idea of "financial freedom" is actually a pipe dream, or only meant for a lucky few?

Playing small to play it safe does not display an inherent belief in Abundance as the universal norm.

And activating your Abundance Mindset is the key to allowing and experiencing profound Financial Healing, now.

Watch this week’s 14-minute Love Letter, the third in our 4-week series, to find out how you can activate your Abundance Mindset ASAP!

"I'm sick of people asking me for money around the holidays."

This week is week three on our deep dive, our four week deep dive into financial healing.

If you missed weeks two and one, you want to go back. Go back on the website, go back on the YouTube, you can subscribe so you get these every week, go back and review it. This is powerful stuff.

This week in particular, we're going to be covering having an abundance mindset. You want to have an abundant mindset, rather than having a lack mindset. This is essential for your financial healing.

By the way, how you like my haircut? Yeah yeah yeah, so good.

This is essential for your financial healing, because as a man thinketh, so is he. As you think, so you become.

Your thoughts drive your behaviors, drive your actions, drive your results, so having an abundant mindset really begins to tip the scales and shift your life to have increasing financial health.

For the last two weeks, we really covered some heavy duty stuff.

We're talking about going into shame and the shadow, the fears around financial energy, honoring that, and in the week before that, we talked about why you need financial healing now now now, because the cat's out of the bag, you're a healer! You're a healer.

We need you abundant. We need you out there, sharing your gifts, or as my teacher says, "your brownies," as much as possible. Don't hoard them.

We need your light to shine in our dark world, but you've got to get financially healthy so that you can share abundantly.

Now, let's talk about this abundance mindset thing. I've done multiple day retreats on this before. By the way, that's coming up. Stay tuned. If you're not on the list, by the way, go to victoriawhitfield.com/freegift, so you can get a free gift from me and get weekly updates on when the next retreat is.

But I've done retreats on this, I've written about it, I've taught on this for years, and there's so much that goes into building a truly abundant mindset, but what it all boils down to is knowing that there is abundant supply, knowing that there is abundant supply.

If you sincerely believe that there is not enough to go around, chances are you also believe that, mmmmm, someone already took it, or already got married to them, or already came up with the idea.

Chances are you also believe that you're not original, you're not special. Chances are you'll also believe tons and tons of other things of lack lack lack mindset, so be kind to yourself. This is a hug I'm sending your way if that's you.

This week in particular, we've got to choose to believe that there is abundant supply. There's infinite supply. I believe Louise Hay, she gives the illustration of going to the ocean to get some water, an ocean of energy, and coming with a thimble.

If you need water to irrigate your land, if you need water to put out a house that's on fire, are you gonna come with a thimble, or are you gonna back that truck up and haul it in?

Be kind to yourself if you've been coming to life with a thimble in hand. It's time to upgrade your mindset in order to have deep financial healing, you've got to believe it for you as well as for your community, for your family, for your business, for your country, for your world. It starts up here. Mindset shapes reality.

There's another whole can of worms on quantum physics that we could open up, where your perspective actually alters reality, and if you want to check into more of that, that's outside the bounds of today love letter, but go ahead and Google "observer effect in quantum physics."

There is an effect that your observation has, and if you are gazing at something, reality will shift to accommodate your gaze. Isn't that interesting?

What happens if you come with a perspective that expects lack, expects that there is not enough, expects that it's hard out there, expecting that you're never going to make enough money, or no one's going to pay for that, or how could I charge that, that's ridiculous. "I can't do it like she does it."

You may be looking at me thinking that ... And by the way, mwah, there is no difference than you and I, by the way. I'm just taking action. There's no difference between you and I. I'm not better than you, I'm not smarter than you, I'm not anything other than right there with you. The only difference in my results is that I'm taking action. Let me get a whoop whoop for those of us who are about implementation. The results show it.

Have an abundant mindset, and the way that you can begin shifting your abundance mindset, this week in particular, the guides say, is to give. Now, I just got a pushback in the energy. For those of you who are like, "What? I'm listening for financial healing so that I can receive, child! I'm not here to give anything. I'm over giving. I'm overstretched..." 

Here's the thing: adjust how you give. Respect, love always for you, but adjust how you're giving. If you're giving with anger, or if you are giving begrudgingly, like, "I'm so sick and tired of all these people asking me for money around this time of the year. Fine! Take your check," or "I hate my bills! I hate opening them up. Ugh, fine, I'm gonna pay ..." Whoa!

What goes around comes around. If you're sending out that kind of crusty heavy compressed energy, notice it is all I'm saying.

That's not very healthy financially. Money likes to move and circulate, just like water. Think of money like water, and this week in particular, soften your perspective on giving. I do give to charities regularly. I do give to my community regularly.

Am I going to tell you where to give? No. However, here's how you begin giving more joyfully. Look in your community, even in your own household. Start near. You don't have to go far. You don't have to give to Africa or all these other places and stuff like that. You can start right here in your community.

Know this: Adjust how you're giving. If you're giving with anger, you're attracting negative energy. If you're giving with joy, you're attracting positive energy.

Look to find someone or something that inspires you, and then go ahead and give to them. Did I say money? No! Part of your financial healing is having an abundance mindset. What could you give other than money to causes that feed your heart, that are in alignment with your purpose?

It could be time. It could be positive energy. It could be sending cards and writing letters. It could be giving attention or bringing attention to things that matter to you. Financial energy has more to do than money. There are some things that are worth even more than money.

And by the way, let me give you a hint: people and your humanness, your humanity, your love, your presence is worth way more than money, and you're looking at me like, "What are you talking about? We're talking about financial healing, Victoria." Yes!

Your abundance mindset though, as soon as you turn that on by having a giving heart, a joyful giving heart, money loves that.

Your money loves that. It will stay with you. It will come to you. It will go where you need it to go, and it will grow as it's needed to grow. It will be in the hands that need it the most if you have a giving heart from a joyful space. I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy.

We're still journeying with Angels of Abundance. Giving with a joyful heart is what we're being called to, and it's not just about the money. These cards are, again, another one of your more ... I know it's over.

I've lost count, but we're always receiving donations here, so if you'd like to send your cards, go ahead and send it to the dojo. Check us out at naturalintuition.com for the mailing address.

Angels, what do I need to know about giving joyfully?

Hmmm, "Exercise to increase your energy and manifestation abilities. The key to manifesting quickly is to have very high energy levels, and the easiest way to increase them is through physical exercise. Choose a fun and meaningful activity so that you'll look forward to exercising, and it becomes its own reward."

This is where we're going to leave off this week, in particular. This is get up, get out, and contribute.

Even if it's writing "Thank you" with a smiley face on every bill and receipt that you pay, that's a wonderful place to start, but for giving and contributing in your community, this is get up and get out of your office, get up and get out of your house, and get physically involved with places that inspire and love on you, and that, you being in that abundant-hearted mindset, that will increase your financial healing in speed.

There's nothing more fulfilling than giving abundantly. Try it! I know you're like "ugh" listening to it, some of you. I can feel the ... coming back in the energy, but this is gonna raise your manifestation level, getting up and giving.

Send me an email back. Comment below. What comes up for you around this topic in particular?

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every week, and I'll see you next week for our fourth and final installment of financial healing.

Ready for it? Mwah! See you then. Bye!

VictoriaWhitfield.com
Facebook.com/SenseiVictoriaWhitfield

Just for Today...

Get out and GIVE to someone or something that inspires you, joyfully.

When you give abundantly - of your time, attention, positivity - you raise your Abundance Mindset and deepen your financial healing.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want spiritual support on your healing journey but don't know where to start? Let's work #together!

Click the pink button below to book your Private Support Sessions with Victoria and jumpstart your healing journey, today!

The post Love Letters | Your Abundance Mindset – Financial Healing Part 3 of 4 appeared first on Sensei Victoria Whitfield.