Feeling isolated by your business or position at work? 

Do your coworkers drain you with negativity and drama?

Wondering why you are secretly lonely, even though you work with a good team and serve or interact with tens or even hundreds of happy clients and customers each week?

Entrepreneurs and business owners are a special, rare breed of professional -- we are naturally wired to be creative and driven leaders.

And sometimes, it gets lonely being at the leading-edge of the business; pulling the business forward can be both exciting and exhausting if you're the only visionary on board.

Watch this week’s 10-minute Love Letter video, the first of a new 4-week series on the Power of Positive Community, to start shifting your workplace from negative to positive!

"I feel lonely since starting my own business."

This week is the first of a four, brand new four-week deep-dive on the power of positive community.

I really love taking time to cover these concepts with you in depth, so rather than just doing one video at a time, right? We're going to give you concepts, bite-sized, all right, to meditate on one week at a time, so that by the end of our four-week journey together, you will feel much more grounded in enjoying, receiving and experiencing the power of positive community.

If you've seen our series of videos before, ye hey, thank you for your support. Thank you. Thank you. Make sure you're subscribed on YouTube though. If you haven't yet, let's get to it.

As usual, our first of the four weeks, right? First of the four weeks is going to cover why. Why on earth this month in particular are the guides calling for us to consider the power of positive community?

Now, I specialize in helping entrepreneurs heal. What happens in our journey of entrepreneurship is that it is a powerful journey of self-actualization, personal development, right, self-worth, yes? Has this happened to you? Send me an e-mail back or comment below.

If your journey owning your own business and working for yourself has really been about personal development, not just making money, all right? So with that, what happens over time is that we can get to be a little bit isolated. Let's take you to a bit of the dark side of entrepreneurship and business ownership.

Not everybody is a business owner, so owning your own business, creating your own schedule, creating your life by design ... Creating your life by design, that can, one, take a lot of energy and a lot of pressure.

Lastly, it can be isolating. You know, entrepreneurs, self-employed, owners are some of the loneliest people on the planet even though we end up seeing and interacting with the most people who, like me, may have hundreds of contacts or thousands of connections and things like that, that you're influencing on a monthly, weekly, maybe even daily basis - or even thousands and millions.

Know this: #Entrepreneurs and #business owners are some of the loneliest people on the planet, though they may serve thousands. Make time for #positive community!

At the same time, for ourselves, we are a unique breed of entrepreneurs and business owners. You can't really go out and talk about the types of issues, emotionally and spiritually, that come up to just anybody when we're talking about owner-level issues, right? Talking about cashflow, how that's affecting your self-image and waking up, as one of my mentors say, with 3:00 a.m. sweats. Right? That's her phrase.

Those types of concepts, not everyone understands. Uniquely has business owners and entrepreneurs do, and we can get so focused in our journey to serving others in our highest purpose that we forget to connect with other loves who are similar to us, right? Black sheep tends to hang out by himself and surrounded by white sheep, but you're not the only black sheep out there. This month in particular, starting this week in particular, the guides want you to invoke, remember and stand in the power of positive community.

Now, let's be even more specific. We want positive community, not negative community. The broader social norm is to relate according to problems, right, and negativity or things that make us angry and frustrated, right? We connect around or struggling, and oh, you struggle about the same thing or will even get attracted to people who, oh, you feel that life is so hard for you. Let's make a baby and be together for a whole bunch of decades, right? Be kind to yourself, and let's see what's this situation right now. I understand. Been there, done that, got the scar.

With that, when you are a spiritually-awakened entrepreneur, it becomes even more important to surround yourself with similar sparkly black sheep just like you so that you can feel safe and empowered on your path to creating your life by design.

The love association states that you become the sum total, the median of the five people that you listen to and hang out the most with. If you have five kids, yes, you're going to be saying the same words and thinking about the similar things and listening to similar music and watching the same movies, reading the same books. It's just what's going to happen, right?

In business, you have the same median income of the five people that you are listening to and interacting with the most professionally. Did you catch that?

Here's the thing. If you're hanging around people, to all my business owners, who don't have clients and who are struggling and are talking about the struggle or frustrated, right? All these low-vibrational mindset, it's going to affect your income but also your health. It's not just ... I mean when you're talking to a business owner, if you talk about money, they're going to listen, yes, and we have to understand, life is holistic.

Money's just a symptom of a greater issue, and this month in particular, if you've been having cashflow problems or relationship flow problems or even health flow problems, we're going to look at how's your community doing? How are you surrounding yourself with positive uplifting energy?

I'm hearing the oracle cards sparkling in the energy around that. Let me come in a little bit closer for the reading, tah-dah, the fairies, Healing With The Fairies. One of God-knows-how-many oracle decks that we have here at the dojo. Oh my goddess, but we're going to be journeying with the fairies all month. Fairies, guides and guardians, what do we need to know right now about the power of positive community?

Oh, quiet time, and this is where we're going to leave off this week in particular. How you feel is what matters most. What matters most is how you feel, and you can tell by how you feel when you are in your quiet time. How much quiet time you get and how quality your quiet time is. This week in particular, I want you to look at who? Who are you spending your time with during quiet time? Is it just by yourself?

Are there any groups, books, programs, right, podcasts and things that you consume when it's time for you to receive? Quiet time is receptive time. This month, we're going to learn how to receive on an exponential level, opening up to positive community.

Go ahead. Type in the comments below or send me an e-mail back. What's coming up for you, hearing all of these?

Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every single week, all right? We'll see you next time for week two of four. Ready for it? Mwah. See you then.

(Original post 04/02/2018)

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Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Do you seldom feel truly rested?

Is it hard for you to relax, because you secretly think it’s a waste of time?

Wish you could increase your productivity and your wellness, instead of trading one for the other?

Type-A personalities tend to have a hard time really resting and feeling relaxed because they’re wired to value getting as many things done as possible above their feelings and wellbeing.

This can lead to chronic anxiety and stress, as well as cycles of depression and burnout if left unchecked.

Watch this week’s 10-minute Love Letter video, the third in our 4-week series on Your Daily PRP’s, to put an end to this vicious cycle and instead adopt a practice of restful productivity.

"I feel lazy when I take breaks."

This is week three of four in our four-week series on Your Daily PRPs.

If you don't know what PRP stands for, stop the video now and go back to week one where we explained exactly what PRPs are and why you need them. So, without further ado, if you do know what's going on, this week in particular we're going to cover the second letter in that acronym PRP, the R which stands for "Rest."

The reason why we get our daily PRP nutrition in is so that you have the energy and the stamina to pursue your passion and purpose for the long haul. This, when you implement is as a proactive regularized practice, whether it is on a daily basis or weekly, monthly, quarterly, yearly, right? However you schedule it in for yourself, it will stave off or even put an end to cycles of burnout, being overworked, feeling cranky, overwhelmed, and pushing yourself past your limit.

In particular, this week that we're talking about with rest is having restful productivity. I know that kind of sounds like an oxymoron, if I have any of my type As watching. Yay. All my creepy control enthusiasts, all my perfectionistas, yes, yes, where everything has got to be perfect. Be kind to yourself if that's you.

You might be burning the candle at both ends by adopting the type A, get it done perfectly as fast as possible, as efficiently as possible all the time. There's a way to be restful and productive at the same time.

Now, my guides have given me a four-step process to share with you this week in particular so that you can get to implementing restful productivity, so that you have the stamina to pursue your passion and purpose for the long haul. You ready for it?

Number one, unplug. Write this down, by the way. Get a pen and pad or open up another window, whatever you guys do or ... inscribe it on your brains.

Number one, unplug. In order to rest but also to be fully productive, your ability to focus, not just on a mental level but also a physical level is called for and unplugging is necessary. What does that mean? No TV, phone, tablet, laptop, computer, no plugging into technology. The less technology period you can be around ...

I was just talking about stuff that makes you connected to the worldwide webs-y things and cables and stuff. But if you wanna go completely native and have candlelight and all of that, the campfire, great. But, for those of us who are not able to do that, just unplug. Make it a point to unplug so that you can be focused on being restfully productive.

‪Know this: You can be restful AND productive.

Secondly, and this takes courage, it's time for you to rage. So, how are you going to rage? For some people it's getting at that heavy bag, and pow, pow, pow, pow. Let that bag have what it had coming! But, I also highly recommend that you use a written medium for your rage. So, have a rage journal. I have a rage journal, by the way.

Or, grab a piece of toilet paper and start writing on that, all the things that you hate, that annoy you, that make you angry, and cranky and frustrated. Write it out, write it out, write it out. Or, all those extra brown paper bags, time to write all over them. Write of all the things that you wanna get out of you and rage about. This is cathartic clearing. So, that's really going to help you be restful but it's also productive because you're bringing stuff up and out, getting it out of you.

Thirdly, is to release. The way that you release this practice is you can close the journal and leave it behind for a little bit, if you are okay with that. Or, if you need ultra secrecy take that toilet paper, flush it down the toilet. Let the crap go where it's supposed to, down the toilet pipes, right? Or, with your brown paper bag, rip it up into tiny pieces or even throw it in the fire pit and watch it burn. Bye-Bye! Right? Burn that crusty crap away.

So, release all of that energy that came out of you. Then leave it be. That you could do it for an hour, leave it be for an hour afterward, or even entire day, or week, who knows? What's important is the fourth and final step, and this is what makes it super productive, is to review. What came out of you, what you raged about, what makes you angry is actually what I call a dark gift, meaning a gift that comes in a darker kind of, not very attractive package, right? It's a learning gift.

So, the things that you raged about are signs and hints at where your boundaries are being overstepped. If you have any boundaries with love, right? Where you need more support in your life, in your business, or in your relationships. Where your desires are not being met. There's so much clarity that comes from raging and releasing and the review, that's fourth and final step, is essential for you grounding and receiving all of the gifts that came out of this restful productivity process at the end.

So, this is how to find your way through the resting process. Those of us who are type As, we tend to go on vacation, or enjoy the spa or have downtime and we're being as productive and go, go, go, as possible. We can't seem to turn off, can't seem to let go, because we gotta do everything on the list that we said we were going to do.

The reason why that happens is because you have pent up rage that you haven't released yet. So, this is your four steps process to be restful and productive. And you can do this. You can work it in, in many ways on a daily basis, in a little bit bigger ways on a weekly basis, more of a significant time space on the monthly or quarterly basis or once a year. Give yourself a bunch a time to really enjoy the sacred process.

So, I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. This month in particular we're journeying all month with the romance angels, another Doreen Virtue oracle cards deck. Thank you for your donations. Always welcome to receiving more. So, angels, what do we need to know right now about restful productivity as our daily PRP? Calling in your soulmate. Calling in your soulmate. Your prayers, affirmations, and visualizations help bring you together. This is where we're going to leave off for the week.

The reason why calling in your soulmate is coming up, is because when we clear our energy, when we clear all of that rage and inflammatory thoughts and feelings, when we release our emotions, we create the space to receive our divine partnerships. First with ourselves! Remember, all of this is really about your relationship with you. But, also, for those around us we're more receptive to their love and their support, whether it's in personal or professional relationships.

So, calling in a partner who's able to meet those needs that you discovered weren't being met yet, starting with you being that partner for you. Comment below, send me an email back. What comes up for you around that?

Are you going to do some productive rest time?

Let me know how that goes. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week, and we'll see you next time. Bye!

(Original post 02/19/2018)

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Feeling cranky lately?

Frustrated that you’re always on the go and never seem to feel “rested”?

Find yourself daydreaming about sleeping in, quitting your job or even running away?

Sounds like you’re exhausted from working too hard!

And not just at work, but also at home, too...

Watch this week’s 9-minute Love Letter video, the first of our 4-week series, on why it’s time for you to start valuing you “PRP’s” on a daily basis so you can get out of your rut.

"It would be lazy for me to take time for play and rest every day."

This is the first of a four-week installment, a brand-new four-week installment on your PRPs. You down with PRP? Yeah you know me. So good. So, this month and for the next four weeks, whenever you are watching this, we're going to be talking about getting you in-tune with your PRPs.

And this week we're going to talk about why you need to make time for your daily PRPs. And what does PRP stand for? Play, rest, and pleasure. These are three essential minerals in every healthy entrepreneurial little, in every healthy person's life, on a day-to-day basis.

You have gotta get play, rest, and pleasure in your daily life. Now, strategically of course we're going to expand that out on a weekly, monthly, quarterly, and yearly basis, right? In increasing doses. But on a daily basis we want to make sure that we create space for your holistic health, with play, rest, and pleasure.

Why is this important to have daily space for play, rest, and pleasure? Isn't that irresponsible? Isn't that lazy? Isn't that .... What are the? You send me an email back, or a comment below. Tell me what are your inner monkeys saying as to why you can't have your daily PRP time.

Now, this is not to say that your entire day, every single day is going to be devoted to getting your three essential nutrients, but most certainly on a daily basis we are going to strategically create time and space. Starting now, and for the next four weeks, shall we? Okay.

So, the reason why your daily PRPs become so important, is because this is your fuel. This fuels you emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. We're going to be covering that over the next four weeks, but this why. Your PRPs as essential nutrients to your holistic health power you. You know life is a marathon. Living your purpose and pursuing your passions is a marathon experience.

Now, for most creative types we may think, "All right I'm going to ... at the last minute put everything together." Right? You push the clock, or procrastinate, put things off, and until after the fact or until the 11th hour then maybe I might rest. There's the phrase, "I'll sleep when I'm dead." Well, you know what? If you live that way, you will be getting to sleep faster than you think. Right?

Burn-out is very real, and it doesn't ever have to be an experience of yours, but if it has, this month in particular, and starting this week in particular. We are going to shut that down.

This is a writer downer. "Burn out may have happened in my past, but it will not happen in my future." #PRP

‪Know this: ‪“#Burnout May have happened in my past, but I will NOT have one in the future.”

Let's do this. So, that's why it's to pro-actively fill your cup on a mental, emotional, and spiritual level. Progressively over time, so that you have creative juices, so that you have the energy to pursue your passions, so that you feel healthy and have a sense of fulfillment in life. You don't have to wait until you're old and retired and can't enjoy life, in order to engage and prioritize your PRPs.

With that being said, the oracle cards for the month are calling. And that is the romance angels oracle cards deck. Oh how romantic. So, we're going to be journeying with this deck all month, over the next four weeks, whenever you're watching this. One of many decks.

You can always hit the contact page on victoriawhitfield.com to find my mailing address. Always receiving donations if you want, or gifts if you'd love to gift me a deck. Yeah. Okay.

Angels what do we need to know right now about why it's so important to work PRPs into our regular diet? This is so powerful. Religious factors. Let's get to it. Your love life is influenced by your religious upbringing and spiritual past.

Now, by the way this deck talks a lot about relationships and love of course, it's the romance deck. So, for those of you who are single and looking, or single and not looking, remember this is a relationship with yourself, right your inner being. And for those who are in a relationship, remember that this is about your relationship with yourself, and your inner being, as well as your partners or those we are working with.

Religious factors, your love life is influenced by your religious upbringing and spiritual path. This is where we're going to bring it to at close for the week.

You know, you may have been brought up in a religious, or philosophical, or social system that told you to put others first, to essentially give up your needs, right, to the service of others, right. To give up the pleasures in life, that living in denial of your own sense of play, rest, and pleasure, is holy, or honorable, or like, "Oh you sacrificed for us." Just like this person or these people sacrificed in these stories, according to that religious, or philosophical, or social system that you've been brought up, or psychological system that you've been brought up in, or adopted over time.

With love, I am not saying that you need to like throw that out of the window, that is at your discretion, that's your relationship between you and God, or you and source, or you and your higher self, your inner self. Right? And I would strongly advise you this week in particular to evaluate how your beliefs about your PRPs on a daily basis, play, rest, and pleasure are effecting your health. Is it serving you or hindering you?

Type in the comments below. Send me an email back what's coming up for you. Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first, ever week.

I'm looking forward to your responses. Are you read for a deep dive into play, rest, and pleasure? Let's do it. Okay. I'll see you next time. Bye.

(Original post 02/05/2018)

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Feeling the urge to get away?

Ready for a change of scenery?

Still putting off that vacation you've been meaning to take?

Here's your periodic reminder -- it's time to go on a Retreat!

You give and give, and it's time to rest and refresh yourself.

Watch this week's 9-minute Love Letter to see if it's time for YOU to "re-treat yourself" ASAP!

"I'm feeling stir crazy lately."

I feel like I can see you through the camera right now. You look tired. No offense, but you look so tired.

Have you been feeling exhausted lately? Something about the energy lately just might have been feeling a bit heavy or sluggish.

Maybe you're just ready for a change of pace. Maybe it's been winter for a while and you're done. Maybe you've been working on this one project and you're just kind of done. Maybe someone's been staying longer than you expected them to. I don't know who I'm speaking to. I'm talking to you.

Something is ready to shift and release out of you.

You're ready for a fresh start, because we're just kind of tired of how things have been going lately.

You feel it. Your body feels sluggish and achy. You're having a hard time coming up with creative ideas, maybe where to go out to eat next, or maybe what is another fun thing to do with your partner. What's a better way to communicate with your team, et cetera, your kids?

Source says, "It's time for you to have your periodic reminder."

The alarm clock is going off. It's time for you to retreat yourself. Retreat yourself. This isn't like turn into a turtle and retreat from everybody. No, not exactly.

You're not retreating into your shell, but instead you're having a change of scenery.

Source says, "It's time for you to refresh the routine, refresh the status quo, and do a little creative shift of your environment by retreating yourself."

Now, what does that look like? What does that look like? Does it mean flying across the country, or picking up and leaving everybody and going across the world?

What matters most is how you feel.

If that inspires you and you're like, "Yeah. I can do that. I have all the systems in place to do it," go for it. Absolutely.

However, if picking up and flying out to London for a week, or picking up and flying out to Morocco for two weeks or something is not exactly something you can just do at the drop of a hat, you can retreat yourself right here by having a staycation. 

It's important for you to be a good steward of your natural energy. Your intuition has been calling out recently.

Your intuition, that inner part of you, your inner child's been saying, "I'm bored. I feel stir crazy. I'm feeling a little bit cooped up lately."

It's time for us to have a change of scenery.

Where will you go? Will you have a wonderful staycation where you make your home and space beautiful for yourself and you have no requirements, no responsibilities for let's say, three, four, seven days?

Is it a local bed and breakfast where you just shack up and enjoy yourself, enjoy not having to have to make the bed, not having to have to cook the breakfast, or enjoy the trees and the squirrels shouting at you through the window, whatever makes you feel joyful and free?

It's time for you to have a change of scenery and retreat yourself. You work so hard. You give so much. You're a natural giver. It's time to receive now.

Speaking of receiving, I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. The romance angels, yes. This is the love and romance deck. It's not just for partnerships, but it's for love and romance in all of life.

Yes, there are angels that are specifically dedicated to love and romance. Did you know that?

Angels cards, what do we need to know this week about retreating ourselves?

How can we retreat ourselves? Felt that. This is so good.

Healing family issues.

That hit the nail on the head.

Know this: Source says it's time for a change of scenery for you; time to go on a retreat!

"Your love life benefits as you forgive your parents." The angels just took this to a whole other level. "It's important for you to create sacred space for yourself to process some of your emotions," the guides say.

With the angels mentioning this specifically about forgiveness of your parents, periodically we need to go within, go on retreat, and clean up any residual early childhood issues that may be coming up in our current life.

They do. It's cyclical. Life is cyclical. All the time, my students come to me and say, "I already did that workshop. I already read that book. I already did that meditation where I forgave, and I cut the cord, and I let the bird fly out of my chest and all of that because of my parents and my childhood."

Yeah, do it again times daily for the rest of your life. How's that? It never stops. Learning never stops.

I know I'm being blunt, but I'm being honest with you. I don't want to sugar coat this, because it's actually the truth. The learning really does never stop.

It's important for you to create space for healing your family issues, whether it's "I'm just overwhelmed", "I feel like I've lost myself being mom." "I don't even have a name anymore." "I'm just mom this, mom that, mom this." "My husband doesn't even call me by my name anymore. I miss hearing my name."

It's important for you to retreat yourself to come to terms with that thought feeling sensation, to process that, and so that you can then open up and develop new strategies for how you can show up claiming back your identity, and arriving and being part of the family unit.

It's the healing process, but you need space for it.

Send me an email back or comment below. What's coming up for you?

What are you going to heal when you retreat yourself? Where are you going on your retreat? Is it to the beach, or is it to the woods? Is it to the lake, or is to the desert? Where are you going to retreat yourself? Is it going to be in the comfort of your own home? Are you going to couch surf on somebody who you love, who is great at giving you space, or house sitting for them?

Let me know. I'm excited to hear how you retreat yourself this week, ASAP. You got it?

All right, I'm watching you, remember? I'm sending you so much love.

All right, I'll see you next week in the next love letter. Subscribe on YouTube so that you get it first. Ready? Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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You only get

One.

#BK2YS

Are You A Wounded Soldier of Love?

THIRST, AND THE MARTYR, was a 2011 poignant street performance by J.J. McCracken. In the performance statement (read here), McCracken explains: "The Martyr is at once a hoarder and a provider. (S)he may be viewed as opposing sides of the same character, at war with each other, or as two individuals at odds, refusing compromise and unable to work together. [...] Hope is challenged but not fully extinguished as the struggle drones on."

Do you struggle with a constant need to people-please?

Find yourself resenting the people you support or work for, day in and day out?

Or perhaps you are compelled by a pressing desire to feel needed, and be the hero, because that's what you're known for, and you feel it gives life meaning?

It's one thing to be kind, considerate, or even courageous for others. It becomes an Addiction, however, when you develop a "thirst" for others' approval.

The picture above spoke to me and reminded me of the beautiful but broken Giver in us all - blindfolded by Love and driven by the thirst, the Giver searches for more and more to Give, while carrying the ever-increasing weight of resentment like those gourds in the picture.

You can tell if you're addicted if you are making these two mistakes, over and over:

1. You just can't say no, and
2. You feel a rush as you say yes, but drained after you give (your time, money, attention), because secretly, you fell as if you are giving it all away...

Why do you feel drained? This is happening because you don't honor your boundaries.

The little voice inside always says "No, I can't" or "No, I don't wanna this time" or "I really just need to rest / finish what I was doing" and you've trained yourself to stop listening to it, to keep up appearances.

Know this: The right people will respect your boundaries, if you respect them first. #BK2YS

The first step in healing your martyrdom addiction is that you have to admit this to yourself first: You don't always have to save the day. It's OK to say "No" or "I can't this time."

If you learn to protect and honor your own energy cycles - knowing clearly when you can give, and when you can't and need rest or focus time - then you can give support and love in a sustainable, healthy way.
As a bonus, this builds a space in your heart to receive the same level of Love and care you give - first from yourself, and then from others.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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