Getting ready to make a big decision this week?

Unclear on what is the right course to take?

Feeling confused because both choices appear really good on paper?

Sometimes opportunities come that bring us to a crossroads in life, and it can get really stressful.

If you embrace the process properly, it can also be a defining moment in your life.

Watch this weeks 12 minute love letter video to learn how to successfully and lovingly navigate your crossroads and create a life you love!

"Who do I want to be?"

This week, Source is saying that you are going to come to a crossroads in your life.

There's a big event coming up, one where you're going to need to be decisive, clear, and moving in alignment.

You're coming to a crossroads where you'll have a choice between option A, to proceed along that route, and option B, to proceed along that route. Both have plenty of pros and cons stacked against them.

I'm getting this sense from the energy, in particular, this week, in particular, for some reason, that the crossroads that you're going to come to, if you don't do what we're about to talk about in the channeling right now, if you don't do it, it could be a stalemate.

The A and B are equally good and equally bad. It could be people that are A and B. It could be jobs that are A and B. It could be clients that are A and B. It could be schools that are A and B or houses. There's a higher level decision that's coming this week, in particular, that is distinctly going to feel like a crossroads in the energy.

First and foremost, when we're dealing with crossroads energy, it's important to create time. Create time for yourself. If this is an investment, to invest or not to invest or to invest in this program versus that program, create time. Carve it out.

Often times, when we're in the process of decision making we forget that we have the ability to create time. First and foremost, assert to yourself, "Wait a minute. I can create some time for myself to really settle into this decision making process."

The last thing that you want to do when you're at a crossroads is be rushed. No rushing allowed. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it.

First and foremost, create time. If it's someone asking you to do something, there's options A, do it, or option B, don't do it.

Do this other thing, or someone asking you to come to an event. Option A versus going to this other event. The way that you create time, instead of saying, "Yeah, okay," jump into the yes or, "No, no, I don't do anything," jumping, "Let me get back to you on that," and kindly asking them, "When do you need to know by?"

Create, I'm not saying buy yourself some time. Create time because you are a creator. Remember that. Create time first and foremost.

Secondly, when you have that time and space where you're not being interrupted and you've written out, this is the second part, in this time that you've given yourself, you've written out your pros and your cons list.

What are the pros and cons of option A? What are the pros and cons of option B? Maybe the pros are choosing A and the cons are choosing B. To do it or not to do it. It depends on your situation.

Remember, I'm channeling across multi-levels here. We're speaking to multiple people in multiple different situations. Bear with us.

You write out your pros and cons list. You're super clear on what are the reasons that you wouldn't want to go with this, and what are the reasons why you would?

What are the reasons why you would want to go with this option, option B, versus what are the reasons why you wouldn't want to? What are the effects?

You've created time. You've done your pros and cons list. When it comes down to it, the decision comes along. Knowing that you can always change your mind, you can always create a new future whenever you have now.

As long as you know that you have now, you can always create a new future.

Know this: As long as you have Your "now", you can create Your future. Be present. Be decisive. @SenseiWhitfield http://bit.ly/2hCTg9s

As long as you know that you have now, that are in the now, you can always create a new future. If you're not in now, if you don't have your now right now, you can forget about being creative, but once you are clear that you've made time, you've made your pros and cons lists, we now go into the decision making.

The decision will come on the heels of this question. Who do you want to be?

Who do you want to be? If you choose option A, you will write a story of your life. You'll tell the story of your life, of an option A life, whatever that looks like for you, whereas if you choose option B, you will create a story of your life. You'll tell the story of your life where it's an option B life. Who do you want to be?

Which side is really in alignment with who you want to be, the life that you desire to create?

Sometimes the life that we desire to create may feel a little bit more outside or grasp or our ability, but that's where you call in your positive thinking and really deepen your spirituality and connect to guidance so that you can manifest exactly what is necessary to be and create that life.

You can do it. You can create whatever you want, but here's the transformative question. If you don't ask this, you're going to come to a stalemate.

(Respectfully, I don't want to cast that kind of a spell on you, but this is what I'm hearing to tell you.) If you don't ask that question: "who do I want to be?", you will come to a stalemate because you'll get lost in the gathering research for the pros and cons list.

"I got to read every article about this thing over here. I got to research this person, this coaching program," or "I got to find all about the town where we're moving in and every single nook and cranny." You'll get lost in the minutia of the research process.

Come into your body, into your heart, and answer from your heart or lower if you can answer even from your gut, who do I want to be?

If you can't do that, just organically, think of telling your children, even if you don't have any yet, telling your children the story of your life. Which story, A or B, is the one that resonates more with this is who I want, this is who I want to be, this is the legacy that I want to create, this is the story that I want to write and if I told it to my kids I'd be super proud. Really help yourself anchor into that.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. It's the fairies to send some high vibrational love and fun to what could be a very serious situation, crossroads. This is intense energy, very intense energy.

Fairies, what do we need to know about being at a crossroads and creating our life this week, in particular?

I can't shuffle any further. They're saying it's this card. Eww. This deepens what we just channeled. Family harmony. Definitely use that visualization with speaking to your inner child or telling the story that you would want to be told of your life, but also what's coming up around the crossroads.

They're saying it's not so much going to be in your business, but it's going to have to do with your point of view and your desires mixing with and moving alongside, I'm getting this parallel vision, your family's point of view and their desires, what their needs are. Be kind to yourself.

That question of who do I want to be is going to help resolve the tension between your point of view and your family's point of view. It can be who do I want to be to my family, as well. Ask that question. Really take some time to journal into it.

Someone in the energy I just heard said, "I'm afraid to rock the boat. I really am. I don't know if we can handle me rocking the boat like this again." Again, I'm being encouraged by the guides to ask you, and it's got to come from you this time, who do you want to be?

Sometimes rocking the boat can be a healing experience. Also, sometimes rocking the boat can be a selfish experience.

If you're coming from this space of, "Well, I got to be me and it doesn't matter what anyone else feels. I'm just going to go, and you're all going to come in line with me," that's one thing, but it's another if you choosing the path that may be a leap of faith, that makes the family uncomfortable, this week, in particular, if that means that you're reaching towards healing yourself, healing the family, healing the legacy, you're reaching for expansion, you're believing, you're in that positive vortex, then you know in your gut, you're in alignment, go for it.

Go for it. Do not be small. Do not shrink yourself to maintain family harmony. That's not what this card is about.

There's some things coming up around family coming to a crossroads this week, in particular. Send me an email back. Comment below if this is you. Let me support you. Let us at the dojo support you in this process. We're here for you. That's why these Love Letters are going out. Don't forget it.

Email me at SensaiVictoriaWhitfield@gmail.com so we can send more healing energy to your situation.

And if you do need a session, I'm telling you, you need to get in as soon as possible. I'm very booked up, but I'd be happy to respond to your email and create time for you so that we can send more clarity to your decision making process, get you past that crossroads.

There's so much love and resource here for you, not only here at the dojo, but also online via NaturalIntuition.com.

Let us support you in this process and your family, too. Subscribe on YouTube so that you get your Love Letters first every week. We'll see you next time. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Create time to ground and center yourself before you make that next big decision.

Get out a sheet of paper and list the pros and cons of your options, to see it all in front of you.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Too scared to say what you mean to say?

Feeling like you can't speak up about what's really weighing on your heart?

Do you keep your mouth shut because you're afraid that you'll be rejected or "look stupid" if you say what you think?

Deep down we all know that things left unsaid can slowly eat away at us. But still, we don't say anything in an effort to "keep the peace."

Are we really keeping the peace though if it's at the expense of our health? Because inner turmoil and repressed feelings certainly aren't healthy!

Watch the above video to learn how to break the silence and speak up for yourself with love and healing!

"Rock the boat! Don't rock the boat, baby. Rock the boat! Don't tip the boat over."

This week’s topic is about giving yourself the silent treatment.

Why do we do that to ourselves? What does that mean?

When we're giving our-self the silent treatment, it means we are blocking out whatever we really want to say.

Perhaps there's a situation that's come up at work or at home with a loved one or your kids or friends that you've been interacting with. You feel like you just can't talk about it or you can't speak up.

You feel like you’re out of bounds, telling yourself “well, if I say that they're going to reject me” or “they're going to criticize me,” or “they're going to get emotional and I don't want to have to deal with all that.”

Think about the situation now, as you read this. Do you feel like you can't speak up about what's really on your heart? Like you can't clear the air there?

Also, perhaps you may feel like if you do say something you're going to be singled out. And that’s the last thing you want is to be singled out as the “troublemaker” who rocked the boat or even tipped it over, right?

We tell ourselves a million and one reasons why we should give ourselves the silent treatment and we cut off expression because we believe it’s for our own good.

"It’s safer to just blend into the wallpaper." "I don't want anybody to feel like I'm making waves or that I'm getting too full of myself."

You know, in Australia my Australian friends have a name for this phenomena of giving yourself the silent treatment: it’s called the “tall poppy syndrome.”

In a beautiful field of poppies, if one grows taller, the gardener chops off her bloom because she stands out. So that means you shouldn't stand out too much, and anyone who does should be chopped down to size, to preserve status quo.

Know This: You may think you're "keeping the peace," but choosing not to speak your truth is actually a choice to do more harm than good to yourself and everyone involved. #speakup #clarity

Although "tall poppy syndrome" is meant to protect the status quo, it's actually harmful, because it's based in fear. It is really just the fear of being seen and heard.

Whenever we actively engage in or operate from fear, this is energetically -- spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically, financially, etc. -- harmful. Yes, it actively does harm.

But, wait! There's more!

Giving yourself the silent treatment is not only the fear of being seen. On the flip side, it’s also the fear of being hurt.

Spirit says that we give ourselves the silent treatment to avoid feeling hurt, and that one way this manifests is always apologizing or back-pedaling for something that we did or said.

At the drop of a hat, we think to ourselves, “oh crap, that fell out of my mouth toward you so let me just try and do damage control.”

And so, as if you have a nervous tick, you immediately say “I didn't really mean that” or are just always saying “I'm sorry, I’m sorry” and apologizing for yourself.

Even if you didn't do anything you want to be the first one to say I'm sorry so that you can shut it down. Shut all of the energy down. Control, control, control.

So it all boils down to this: the real reason why give ourselves the silent treatment is to control our energy. But we are doing this in a dark way; it is not The Master Path for controlling our energy.

When you shut down your expression in the energy the angels are saying that it's like being at the ocean and trying to dam up the entire ocean, along the entire beach.

Can you imagine a dam running all the way down the Jersey Shore, just the entire of the state, just trying to keep it at bay and not let it ebb and flow as she needs to do?

Rather than honoring her power and natural beauty, you intuitively know that the dam is trying to control her so only a certain amount of ocean can be present at the beach. The one that comes out of this teeny little tap right here. Ha!

With this image, the angels are saying you’re making your power – which is like the ocean and infinite – very, very small.  

Painfully small.

Harmfully small.

Unnaturally small.

We need to learn how to respect and honor whatever is coming through us; to respect and honor our power and our energy.

If we don't, then there are repercussions.

The same way that the ocean doesn't just disappear if you try to dam her up, is the same way that your energy doesn't just disappear if you clam yourself up -- it reroutes.

Oftentimes when we tend to shut down our own expression it manifests physically with disease and discomfort.

So, for example, do you have chronic neck and shoulder pain? Tightness of the jaw? Do you grind your teeth?

Or when you're stressed out, you crunch it together or do you tend to often want to chew on things? Like chewing on straws, pens and pencils or are you addicted to chewing gum?

Oral fixations and addictions are signs of underlying spiritual issues that have to do with expression being stifled.

If you’re addicted to smoking or drinking, don’t be judgmental, instead just notice yourself from a spiritual and energetic perspective.

Take notice of all of these physical manifestations in and around the throat, such as chronic ear infections, catching a cold every winter or even in the summer, etc. as not random events.

Put them in a spiritual context as guidance and warning signs from Spirit that something you are doing is out of alignment with Source.

And what is out of alignment is your relationship with expression: you’re afraid of your truth and allowing it to flow through you.

We're afraid to really put it out there, really allow truth -- which is Source energy -- to move through us. It's raw, it is beautiful. It's always healing, even if it is painful.

But how the heck do we start to turn this situation around then? Are there any techniques and strategies to stop giving yourself the silent treatment? YES!

You’ll have to watch the rest of this week’s video strategy to find out the exactly how!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Call yourself out when you're clamming up or too afraid to speak up, by announcing it out loud. Yes, really! You can just announce that you're scared.

When you feel yourself shutting down, holding or pulling back, you can literally say "I have something to say but I'm afraid to speak up right now." 

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want to learn how to speak up but don't know where to start? Tell me!

Give me a call at +1 (732) 903-8573 or click on the blue BOOK NOW button to start your healing journey, today!

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Do you feel "blocked" emotionally and spiritually, or even suffer from "writer's block"?

Feeling scattered and having a hard time focusing and getting things done these days?

Need to have a difficult conversation with someone, but you're avoiding it because you don't know where to start or what to say?

It's time for you to engage in the sacred healing practice of Journaling.

Journaling is essential for opening and balancing your Throat Chakra; it sends healing energy to improving your communication with yourself and others.

Watch the above video to explore how you can overcome any emotional block or writer's block easily right now, with journaling!

"What do I do? Help! I don't know what to say!"

Is this what's been going through your head lately?

Sometimes, we need to express ourselves but have this fear of rejection, criticism or judgement that holds us back.

Or what's worse, we're so used to not speaking up that we form a mental-spiritual "block" to prevent expression.

Why does this happen? Maybe we've learned in the past that speaking our mind isn't safe or acceptable.

Or maybe over our lives we've become so accustomed to listening to and serving others that we've lost our sense of self, our needs and desires.

It's like we just can't speak up. This happens often with highly sensitive empaths and lightworkers like us.

In fact, just about every day I meet someone who says they feel "blocked" and like they can't speak up, as if something or someone is holding them back or stopping them.

And these blocks are accompanied by very real sensations in the body: feeling of lump in the throat, neck pain, tight jaw, upper back tension, etc.

Some even feel that they have a curse on them or someone is actively trying to sabotage their life.

Here's the thing: we create our own "blocks" spiritually, and reinforce them mentally.

Unconsciously, we may choose to shut down as a protective measure against uncomfortable feelings and situations, or even trauma.

But there is hope. The first step in getting "unblocked" (I keep putting quotations because I do not believe in blocks) is to take ownership of the block, actively affirming you created it.

Now why would you want to say or believe that you blocked yourself? Because if you made the "block", you can remove it.

One way to do this is through the sacred practice of journaling.

Journaling is a simple, yet very effective form of centering and grounding meditation.

In fact, journaling is a great healing practice for those who have trouble visualizing, as well as those who do not believe in god/angels/energies etc.

The reason why journaling is a sacred practice that can heal without spiritual "faith" or intuitive power is because it inspires self-reflection and self-awareness.

Know this: Write it down. Any honest thing you write down about yourself can heal you. #selfawareness #selfcare

And the magic is this: you do not have to be perfect. All you have to be is honest.

If you are mad, write it down. If you are tired, write it down. If you are impatient, write it down. Choose not to censure yourself when journaling.

This goes for writer's block, too.

One of the ways you can break through writer's block is by simply writing about how you can't write. No, really! LOL!

You see, when we have writer's block, a big part of the block we reinforce is by avoiding writing altogether as if it's useless to try in the first place. Action breeds growth.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which has an interesting twist as to WHY you have the block and who it's really about!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Dedicate (or re-dedicate) a book as your journal today.

Write on the top of a page in your journal "here's how I really feel about my life right now:" and write at least 3 sentences or points about whatever comes up for you.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want to remove blocks from your throat chakra and start journaling regularly?

Give me a call at 732-903-8573 or click on the blue BOOK NOW button to start your healing journey, today!

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