Do you think that you're not good enough?

Thought that you'd be further ahead in life than you are right now?

Going through a difficult time of arguments and disagreements?

When the going gets tough, our knee-jerk reaction can often be to think "why me?" or "what's wrong with me?"

Believe it or not, no matter how ugly it gets, Source says you need to remember that it's not about "me", instead it's about "we".

Watch this week's 9-minute Love Letter video to find the courage to be compassionate!

"What is wrong with me?"

This week, you must know that it is not about you.

It's not about you. It never has been, it never will be, so from this point forward in time, you have got to stop taking it so seriously.

They told me, be more specific. You have got to stop taking him so seriously. You've got to stop taking her and what she does in her life and in her business, so personally, because it's not about you. It never has been, and it never will be.

Now perhaps someone has really been getting under your skin lately, or they've been throwing their anger your way, or getting very emotional, and clogging up your joy with all of their crusty crap.

Perhaps they talk stuff about you, or hating. (I don't really believe in hating.) But perhaps you feel like you may be getting hated on, or people writing smear stuff about you.

There's this insidious, internal, pre-programmed response that we have, unfortunately, to these interactions of: 

• "What did I do to deserve this?"
• "What's wrong with me, that I can't get ahead, like so-and-so?"
• "What's wrong with me, that I am not married, yet?"
• "What's wrong with me, that I can't have kids?"
• "What's wrong with me, that I'm not financially stable?"

Our ego turns us in on ourselves, because she's actually trying to protect you from stepping out when you're feeling vulnerable.

The reason why she brings you inward, blaming inward, "What's wrong with me? There's something wrong with me," taking everything outside of us, personally or very seriously, turning it inward, is a way, a shadow way, a dark way of centering you. Let me explain.

It's never been about you. Someone says, "You're doing this and the other thing, and I can't believe that this ..." They're throwing all that drama around and on you. That's actually them and their stuff.

If someone comments on your posts, and craps all over your sunshine parade, that is their problem. It's nothing that you did.

Maybe you did drop the ball. I just heard in the energy, perhaps you might have said something offensive, etc., but everyone chooses how to react, and how to respond to life.

That's their choice. It's on them. You don't have to take responsibility for how they feel.

You do need to own up to who you are and how you show up in this world, absolutely. Clean it up, if you made a mess. That's your mess, but you made that.

Whereas, if someone else makes a mess and starts blabbing about it or spewing all over you about it, that's their stuff.

I really don't know why the guides are having me say this in particular, this week. I know that I'm talking to someone, so I'm going to keep going with it, but this week, it's not about you.

Your business, by the way, if you're an entrepreneur, and you're thinking to yourself:

• "Why aren't I doing any better?"
• "Maybe I need to implement more, work harder."
• "Why don't people like me?"
• "Why isn't so-and-so buying in?"

It's not about you. Come out of the ego cave and cage.

The shadow side of centering is reinforcing an identity, so that you can feel and create a sense of stability in your personal ... no, put it that way. The ego she'll bring you in, and be like, something that I did.

Whereas, this is about me, or what's wrong with me? Come out of that cave. There's more outside.

Instead, to flip that, where we're feeling not good enough, it's time to give more. There's so much more love, so much more value, so much more creativity and insight that you're capable of giving. It's about serving.

Tony Robins, I love his quote. "The secret to living is giving absolutely." That's the way to come out of an ego cave.

Know this: If you're not feeling "good enough," then give more to those less fortunate. Focus on WE, not me.

The guides are telling me to pull an Oracle card now. The deck that came forward in this week, is the crystal Oracle cards, in particular, to really weigh in on the topic of this situation.

It's really not about you. It's not about me. It's we. This week, in particular.

Someone just said, pull this card. Amber.

Look at how gorgeous. I love this deck, because it's all pictures. Juicy, juicy amber shot. They're telling me to read.

The words that they've associated with Amber are transparency, calm, purification, and creativity. Here's the reading: "An issue that is causing tension and friction in your life will soon erupt and come to a head."

I'm starting to get the chills. "You are being urged to stay calm during this emotionally-charged event. Express how you feel, but don't be drawn into saying things that you don't mean. This event is, in fact, a blessing. One that is perhaps well overdue."

You can't make this stuff up, people. This is amazing.

"Through it, you will realize where you stand, and how others truly feel. As the air clears, you will uncover a hidden agenda and find creative ways of handling this type of situation in the future. Stay calm, and don't allow yourself to be dragged further into chaos by others. You will emerge from this situation, feeling purified of all the negative emotions and thoughts that have weighted you down recently. Trust and remember it. This event is a blessing."

Here's where we're going to leave off.

Whatever disagreement, argument, or provocative conversation you are about to have this week, remember, it's not about me. This is about we.

Look for the lesson. There's always a dark gift, especially in difficult situations. They always teach us.

Keep your eyes open for the gift. Stay focused on the we. Don't be pulled into that ego cave.

Send me an email back. Comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you around this.

Subscribe on youtube, so that you get your love letters first, and make sure you share this with someone who may be going through something right now, and could really use some positive encouragement.

Sending you so much love. I'll see you next week. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Facebook.com/SenseiVictoriaWhitfield

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See the difference and disagreement from a third party perspective, considering the pros and cons of the opinions of everyone involved.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Do you think that you're not good enough?

Thought that you'd be further ahead in life than you are right now?

Going through a difficult time of arguments and disagreements?

When the going gets tough, our knee-jerk reaction can often be to think "why me?" or "what's wrong with me?"

Believe it or not, no matter how ugly it gets, Source says you need to remember that it's not about "me", instead it's about "we".

Watch this week's 9-minute Love Letter video to find the courage to be compassionate!

"What is wrong with me?"

This week, you must know that it is not about you.

It's not about you. It never has been, it never will be, so from this point forward in time, you have got to stop taking it so seriously.

They told me, be more specific. You have got to stop taking him so seriously. You've got to stop taking her and what she does in her life and in her business, so personally, because it's not about you. It never has been, and it never will be.

Now perhaps someone has really been getting under your skin lately, or they've been throwing their anger your way, or getting very emotional, and clogging up your joy with all of their crusty crap.

Perhaps they talk stuff about you, or hating. (I don't really believe in hating.) But perhaps you feel like you may be getting hated on, or people writing smear stuff about you.

There's this insidious, internal, pre-programmed response that we have, unfortunately, to these interactions of: 

• • "What did I do to deserve this?"

• • "What's wrong with me, that I can't get ahead, like so-and-so?"

• • "What's wrong with me, that I am not married, yet?"

• • "What's wrong with me, that I can't have kids?"

• "What's wrong with me, that I'm not financially stable?"

Our ego turns us in on ourselves, because she's actually trying to protect you from stepping out when you're feeling vulnerable.

The reason why she brings you inward, blaming inward, "What's wrong with me? There's something wrong with me," taking everything outside of us, personally or very seriously, turning it inward, is a way, a shadow way, a dark way of centering you. Let me explain.

It's never been about you. Someone says, "You're doing this and the other thing, and I can't believe that this ..." They're throwing all that drama around and on you. That's actually them and their stuff.

If someone comments on your posts, and craps all over your sunshine parade, that is their problem. It's nothing that you did.

Maybe you did drop the ball. I just heard in the energy, perhaps you might have said something offensive, etc., but everyone chooses how to react, and how to respond to life.

That's their choice. It's on them. You don't have to take responsibility for how they feel.

You do need to own up to who you are and how you show up in this world, absolutely. Clean it up, if you made a mess. That's your mess, but you made that.

Whereas, if someone else makes a mess and starts blabbing about it or spewing all over you about it, that's their stuff.

I really don't know why the guides are having me say this in particular, this week. I know that I'm talking to someone, so I'm going to keep going with it, but this week, it's not about you.

Your business, by the way, if you're an entrepreneur, and you're thinking to yourself:

• • "Why aren't I doing any better?"

• • "Maybe I need to implement more, work harder."

• • "Why don't people like me?"

• "Why isn't so-and-so buying in?"

It's not about you. Come out of the ego cave and cage.

The shadow side of centering is reinforcing an identity, so that you can feel and create a sense of stability in your personal ... no, put it that way. The ego she'll bring you in, and be like, something that I did.

Whereas, this is about me, or what's wrong with me? Come out of that cave. There's more outside.

Instead, to flip that, where we're feeling not good enough, it's time to give more. There's so much more love, so much more value, so much more creativity and insight that you're capable of giving. It's about serving.

Tony Robins, I love his quote. "The secret to living is giving absolutely." That's the way to come out of an ego cave.

Know this: If you're not feeling "good enough," then give more to those less fortunate. Focus on WE, not me.

The guides are telling me to pull an Oracle card now. The deck that came forward in this week, is the crystal Oracle cards, in particular, to really weigh in on the topic of this situation.

It's really not about you. It's not about me. It's we. This week, in particular.

Someone just said, pull this card. Amber.

Look at how gorgeous. I love this deck, because it's all pictures. Juicy, juicy amber shot. They're telling me to read.

The words that they've associated with Amber are transparency, calm, purification, and creativity. Here's the reading: "An issue that is causing tension and friction in your life will soon erupt and come to a head."

I'm starting to get the chills. "You are being urged to stay calm during this emotionally-charged event. Express how you feel, but don't be drawn into saying things that you don't mean. This event is, in fact, a blessing. One that is perhaps well overdue."

You can't make this stuff up, people. This is amazing.

"Through it, you will realize where you stand, and how others truly feel. As the air clears, you will uncover a hidden agenda and find creative ways of handling this type of situation in the future. Stay calm, and don't allow yourself to be dragged further into chaos by others. You will emerge from this situation, feeling purified of all the negative emotions and thoughts that have weighted you down recently. Trust and remember it. This event is a blessing."

Here's where we're going to leave off.

Whatever disagreement, argument, or provocative conversation you are about to have this week, remember, it's not about me. This is about we.

Look for the lesson. There's always a dark gift, especially in difficult situations. They always teach us.

Keep your eyes open for the gift. Stay focused on the we. Don't be pulled into that ego cave.

Send me an email back. Comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you around this.

Subscribe on youtube, so that you get your love letters first, and make sure you share this with someone who may be going through something right now, and could really use some positive encouragement.

Sending you so much love. I'll see you next week. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

VictoriaWhitfield.com
Facebook.com/SenseiVictoriaWhitfield

Just for Today...

Look for the love and learning in a difficult conversation or argument.

See the difference and disagreement from a third party perspective, considering the pros and cons of the opinions of everyone involved.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want spiritual support on your healing journey but don't know where to start? Tell me!

Give us a call at +1 (732) 903-8573 or click on the blue BOOK NOW button to start your healing journey, today!

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Having a hard time letting something go?

Still angry about what happened and can't forgive them, or yourself?

Know you "should" stop holding on to the past, but just don't know how?

It seems like every therapist, spiritual teacher, healer and guru tells us to "let go" so we can heal. But it seems like they just don't see how that is WAY easier said than done, right? JEEZ!

One way you can begin to let go and forgive is to understand why you're holding on, and what causes you to hold on in the first place.

Watch the above video to learn how to begin letting go to free yourself from the toxic energy of unforgiveness!

"Ugh. Really? Here we go again! Let's get back on and go for a ride on that old rollercoaster of emotions!"

Isn't it exhausting when the same old stuff just keeps coming up over and over?

You would think that you'd be fine by now, after all you've been through, right? You gave yourself space, said you were moving on, said you were done with the issue - you basically did everything that you were "supposed to" do.

And yet here it is again, the same old feeling is biting you in the butt and getting your emotions all riled up, reviving the whole sick cycle of feelings that you buried.

Perhaps you see that person that betrayed you years ago. Perhaps you watch a movie that triggers a memory. Or perhaps you happen to smell something that reminds you of how things used to be.

Then comes the anger, the sadness, the drama. They all fall on your head fresh like a ton of bricks. Wham!

You say to yourself: "They hurt me. How could this happen? This shouldn't have happened. Why does this always happen to me? It's not fair! It's wrong! It's wrong, damnit! I don't deserve this!" and so on...

Suddenly you find yourself angrily rejecting what happened or what "they" did all over again as if it's happening now, and it makes you feel clear, strong, and "in the right" - justifying how far you've come and what you've learned, how good of a person it made you, etc.

But at the same time, you feel grief and ache, having lost your innocence to that experience.

Pumping yourself up every so often like this always feels artificial as the underlying grief of having lost part of your innocence to what happened continues to weigh on your spirit... Sound familiar?

This is the cycle of unforgiveness.

And it's maddening.

Time is just an emotion; it's made up. And the feeling of unforgiveness is actually proof that time doesn't exist, because it can cause "old" experiences to be brand new in the moment because they are so full of emotion.

In fact, your brain knows that time doesn't exist, and so once you start reliving the emotions of the "past" your brain can and will send signals to your body to trigger your fight or flight response - your heart rate increases, your palms and armpits sweat, your jaw tightens, your digestion stops and your stress hormones release more and more.

All this from thoughts you keep thinking, or get triggered to think of again.

Being re-triggered and reliving these issues like this creates a fertile breeding ground for disease in your body and dis-ease in your life, by the way.

Chronic pain and illness are often caused by habitual holding on or an addiction to unforgiveness. It is the body screaming against these toxic emotions being in your system.

You see, your body knows that those emotions and feelings are bad for you, so s/he will do whatever it takes to grab your attention to tell you that something mentally, emotionally or spiritually is seriously out of alignment - and you can gauge how out of alignment you are by how severe your body's disease is manifesting.

But how the heck do you kick an addiction to unforgiveness?

Well, the same way you would kick any addiction: start with WHY. It all starts with understanding WHY you would be addicted to unforgiveness in the first place.

Know this: Letting go starts with finding out why you're holding on in the first place. And it usually boils down to CONTROL. #forgiveness #freeyourmind

Here's the thing: no matter what happened that rubbed you the wrong way, it happened, and it made you feel powerless and not in control of your life and feelings in that moment.

Because of that, your identity - or "ego" - was compromised, and in the moment it (identity/ego) basically flipped the "freak out switch" to defend itself by getting angry, rebelling and infusing the situation with all kinds of inflammatory emotions.

These inflammatory emotions are meant to protect you, so you could survive the experience and continue living; they are part of your psyche's evolutionary, primal protective mechanism.

Think of the inflammatory emotions as inflating a big bubble suit around your body/essence to serve as a buffer that allows you to keep going, just like an airbag deploys in a car crash to save your life.

But what if you continued to live inside that mangled car after the car crash, holding on to the airbags for dear life?

Think of it. It's years later, and the wrecked car is overgrown with weeds and wildflowers, perhaps birds and squirrels have made their nests in the rubble, and people are driving past you on the highway in brand new cars totally oblivious to the fact that you're still living inside this car wreck just because the airbag deployed and made you feel safe ONCE.

That's what holding on looks like, and it's time to be willing to set yourself free from a self-imposed imprisonment.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows us how to let go and forgive for good!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

VictoriaWhitfield.com
Facebook.com/SenseiVictoriaWhitfield

Just for Today...

Take an inventory of past experiences that still trigger negative emotions for you by writing it down in your journal.

Then ask yourself and journal about these two questions: "1) How does feeling these emotions now make me feel justified, powerful or in control of what happened to me in the past? and 2) Can I just decide to feel powerful now without thinking about or basing my feeling upon what happened?"

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want to finally let go and forgive but don't know where to start? Tell me!

Give me a call at 732-903-8573 or click on the blue BOOK NOW button to start your healing journey, today!

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