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		<title>Love Letters &#124; Restful Productivity &#8211; Part 3 of 4</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Do you seldom feel truly rested? Is it hard for you to relax, because you secretly think it’s a waste of time? Wish you could increase your productivity and your wellness, instead of trading one for the other? Type-A personalities tend to have a hard time really resting and feeling relaxed because they’re wired to [&#8230;]</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #800080;"><em>Do you seldom feel truly rested?</em></span></h2>
<h2>Is it hard for you to relax, because you secretly think it’s a waste of time?</h2>
<h2>Wish you could increase your productivity and your wellness, instead of trading one for the other?</h2>
<p>Type-A personalities tend to have a hard time really resting and feeling relaxed because they’re wired to value getting as many things done as possible above their feelings and wellbeing.</p>
<p>This can lead to chronic anxiety and stress, as well as cycles of depression and burnout if left unchecked.</p>
<p><span style="color: #008080;"><strong>Watch this week’s 10-minute Love Letter video, the third in our 4-week series on Your Daily PRP’s, to put an end to this vicious cycle and instead adopt a practice of restful productivity.<br />
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<p style="text-align: right;"><em><span style="color: #800080;"><b>"I feel lazy when I take breaks."</b></span></em></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">This is week three of four in our four-week series on Your Daily PRPs.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><strong><span class="s1"> If you don't know what PRP stands for, stop the video now and go back to week one where we explained exactly what PRPs are and why you need them. So, without further ado, if you do know what's going on, this week in particular we're going to cover the second letter in that acronym PRP, the R which stands for "Rest."</span></strong></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> The reason why we get our daily PRP nutrition in is so that you have the energy and the stamina to pursue your passion and purpose for the long haul. This, when you implement is as a proactive regularized practice, whether it is on a daily basis or weekly, monthly, quarterly, yearly, right? However you schedule it in for yourself, it will stave off or even put an end to cycles of burnout, being overworked, feeling cranky, overwhelmed, and pushing yourself past your limit.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong> In particular, this week that we're talking about with rest is having restful productivity. I know that kind of sounds like an oxymoron, if I have any of my type As watching. Yay. All my creepy control enthusiasts, all my perfectionistas, yes, yes, where everything has got to be perfect. Be kind to yourself if that's you.</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">You might be burning the candle at both ends by adopting the type A, get it done perfectly as fast as possible, as efficiently as possible all the time. There's a way to be restful and productive at the same time.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><strong><span class="s1"> Now, my guides have given me a four-step process to share with you this week in particular so that you can get to implementing restful productivity, so that you have the stamina to pursue your passion and purpose for the long haul. You ready for it?</span></strong></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> Number one, unplug. Write this down, by the way. Get a pen and pad or open up another window, whatever you guys do or ... inscribe it on your brains. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>Number one, unplug. In order to rest but also to be fully productive, your ability to focus, not just on a mental level but also a physical level is called for and unplugging is necessary. What does that mean? No TV, phone, tablet, laptop, computer, no plugging into technology. The less technology period you can be around ...</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1">I was just talking about stuff that makes you connected to the worldwide webs-y things and cables and stuff. But if you wanna go completely native and have candlelight and all of that, the campfire, great. But, for those of us who are not able to do that, just unplug. Make it a point to unplug so that you can be focused on being restfully productive.</p>
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<h2 class="p1"><a href="https://ctt.ec/ev46r">‪Know this: You can be restful AND productive.</a></h2>
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong> Secondly, and this takes courage, it's time for you to rage. So, how are you going to rage? For some people it's getting at that heavy bag, and pow, pow, pow, pow. Let that bag have what it had coming! But, I also highly recommend that you use a written medium for your rage. So, have a rage journal. I have a rage journal, by the way.</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Or, grab a piece of toilet paper and start writing on that, all the things that you hate, that annoy you, that make you angry, and cranky and frustrated. Write it out, write it out, write it out. Or, all those extra brown paper bags, time to write all over them. Write of all the things that you wanna get out of you and rage about. This is cathartic clearing. So, that's really going to help you be restful but it's also productive because you're bringing stuff up and out, getting it out of you.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span style="color: #800080;"><strong><span class="s1"> Thirdly, is to release. The way that you release this practice is you can close the journal and leave it behind for a little bit, if you are okay with that. Or, if you need ultra secrecy take that toilet paper, flush it down the toilet. Let the crap go where it's supposed to, down the toilet pipes, right? Or, with your brown paper bag, rip it up into tiny pieces or even throw it in the fire pit and watch it burn. Bye-Bye! Right? Burn that crusty crap away.</span></strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> So, release all of that energy that came out of you. Then leave it be. That you could do it for an hour, leave it be for an hour afterward, or even entire day, or week, who knows? What's important is the fourth and final step, and this is what makes it super productive, is to review. What came out of you, what you raged about, what makes you angry is actually what I call a dark gift, meaning a gift that comes in a darker kind of, not very attractive package, right? It's a learning gift. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><strong><span class="s1"> So, the things that you raged about are signs and hints at where your boundaries are being overstepped. If you have any boundaries with love, right? Where you need more support in your life, in your business, or in your relationships. Where your desires are not being met. There's so much clarity that comes from raging and releasing and the review, that's fourth and final step, is essential for you grounding and receiving all of the gifts that came out of this restful productivity process at the end.</span></strong></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> So, this is how to find your way through the resting process. Those of us who are type As, we tend to go on vacation, or enjoy the spa or have downtime and we're being as productive and go, go, go, as possible. We can't seem to turn off, can't seem to let go, because we gotta do everything on the list that we said we were going to do.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong> The reason why that happens is because you have pent up rage that you haven't released yet. So, this is your four steps process to be restful and productive. And you can do this. You can work it in, in many ways on a daily basis, in a little bit bigger ways on a weekly basis, more of a significant time space on the monthly or quarterly basis or once a year. Give yourself a bunch a time to really enjoy the sacred process.</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> So, I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. This month in particular we're journeying all month with the romance angels, another Doreen Virtue oracle cards deck. Thank you for your donations. Always welcome to receiving more. So, angels, what do we need to know right now about restful productivity as our daily PRP? Calling in your soulmate. Calling in your soulmate. Your prayers, affirmations, and visualizations help bring you together. This is where we're going to leave off for the week.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><strong><span class="s1"> The reason why calling in your soulmate is coming up, is because when we clear our energy, when we clear all of that rage and inflammatory thoughts and feelings, when we release our emotions, we create the space to receive our divine partnerships. First with ourselves! Remember, all of this is really about your relationship with you. But, also, for those around us we're more receptive to their love and their support, whether it's in personal or professional relationships.</span></strong></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"> So, calling in a partner who's able to meet those needs that you discovered weren't being met yet, starting with you being that partner for you. Comment below, send me an email back. What comes up for you around that? </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span style="color: #800080;"><strong><span class="s1">Are you going to do some productive rest time? </span></strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Let me know how that goes. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week, and we'll see you next time. Bye!</span></p>
<p style="text-align: right;"><em>(Original post 02/19/2018)</em></p>
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<p><strong><em>Just for Today...</em></strong></p>
<p><strong>Book a minimum 5-hour block of time in your schedule to do the 4-step restful productivity process.</strong></p>
<p><strong>Get a hotel room or book a spa visit by yourself or with a trusted confidant to fully embrace the process.</strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!</em></strong></p>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Welcome back to another installment of your weekly Love Letter for helping you to live a life that is loving yourself, and also loving the business that you're in. I’m Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your Business Reiki Master and it's my joy to help empathic entrepreneurs like you get and stay grounded and clear in mind, [&#8230;]</p>
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<h2><strong>Welcome back to another installment of your weekly Love Letter for helping you to live a life that is loving yourself, and also loving the business that you're in.</strong></h2>
<p>I’m Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your Business Reiki Master and it's my joy to help empathic entrepreneurs like you get and stay grounded and clear in mind, body, and business. I'm here at the gorgeous Washington Rock, here in New Jersey. This is a 20+ mile view, out here in the dead of winter.</p>
<p><strong>The new topic that we're going to be talking about over our next series is really about Being Clear on what we're stepping into.&nbsp;</strong>This is especially important because we're stepping into our divinity this year, and that demands clarity - isn't it true? With that, I wanted to bring you to this space. It's a sacred space of mine because seeing this far out represents having clear perspective.</p>
<p>Now it's the dead of winter, so the trees are bare, you can see clean through to the other side of the trees. You can see all the way from here in central New Jersey, clean out to New York, actually. It's really far. This is actually where George Washington was watching to see where the opposing army was marching; it was from this lookout, in particular.</p>
<p><strong>So, here is something to note on Perspective.&nbsp;</strong>Sometimes in order for us to get the right vision that spirit has for us as we are stepping into our calling or stepping into our divinity, we must be able to elevate our perspective and really open up to see things from that 20-mile view. This week in particular, my guides are telling me to challenge you, "How can you step back? How can you clear things so that you are able to see from that further-out perspective?"<br />
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<p>I hear the oracle cards calling in the energy, and it's a little bit cold here, so I'm going to make this quick. The oracle cards that we'll be journeying this month with in particular, are the Isis Oracle Cards Deck by Alana Fairchild. I'm happy to explore this deck with you. The oracle card of the week is <em>Temple Of Lapis Lazuli, Goddess of the Ancient Skies. </em>What do we need to know right now, Temple of Lapis Lazuli, Goddess of the Ancient Skies?</p>
<p><strong>What’s dropping in as a message from this card in particular, is to really open up to your higher knowing.&nbsp;</strong>When you think of lapis lazuli as a healing stone, this has to do with opening your throat chakra, but also connecting to our star origins, as a people. When we're tapping into that higher knowledge and claiming it, the process entails remembering the ancient wisdom that is embedded within us, by seeing how it comes from having a higher, more elevated perspective on life and business. Step back, first, so that you can access this level of awareness.</p>
<p>I'm curious what drops in for you, this week in particular. I just wanted to share the natural beauty of this lookout with you, this beautiful view. I think I'll come back and continue to do this series from Washington Rock. Remember to take in that 20-mile view of your life and business. Wherever you're watching this, whenever you're watching this in the year, it's time for you to take a step back, pretty far back, to get the right perspective so that you can step into your divinity with clarity.</p>
<p><strong>All right, I'm looking forward to hearing what you have to say.&nbsp;</strong>What speaks to you about this 20-mile view: seeing this far out is powerful, what's coming up for you? By the way, make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every week. And I'll see you in our next installment of the Love Letters.</p>
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<h2><strong>Just for today...</strong></h2>
<h3>Imagine that you could see your life and business from high above, taking in the bigger picture.</h3>
<h3>Consider how things that appear Big and significant close up are really small in the grand scheme of things, and how things that appear Small and insignificant close up can have massive impact on your greater goal.</h3>
<h3>Notice how you feel in that moment - <em>you're already healing!</em></h3>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 12 Jun 2017 12:00:08 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Tired of keeping up with the Joneses? Wish you could just be yourself with people, but are too scared of what they'll think? Hiding your pain and exhaustion behind your smile more than you'd like to admit? Popular culture and educational systems teach us that it's our level of performance that determines our worth. Unfortunately, [&#8230;]</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #800080;"><em>Tired of keeping up with the Joneses?</em></span></h2>
<h2><em>Wish you could just be yourself with people, but are too scared of what they'll think?</em></h2>
<h2><em>Hiding your pain and exhaustion behind your smile more than you'd like to admit?<br />
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<p>Popular culture and educational systems teach us that it's our level of performance that determines our worth.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, living a life of high-performance doesn't lead to self-acceptance and fulfillment; instead, quite the opposite happens.</p>
<p><span style="color: #008080;"><strong>Watch this week's 10-minute Love Letter video to explore why we overperform so much, and how you can start to break free from this vicious cycle!<br />
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<p style="text-align: right;"><em><span style="color: #800080;"><b>"I am so drained. I feel like everything is falling apart."</b></span></em></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">This week, Source has got two words for you.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>Stop performing. Stop it. This is not a performance. You're not putting on a show. Your life is meant to be lived authentically, okay?</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Let's get into this. When we are performing, we feel like we're pushing to get others' approval, or pushing to be productive, or pushing to get recognition, or pushing to be accepted, or we're trying to be good, or we're trying to be healthy, or we're trying to make everyone feel comfortable. There's this sense of artifice, and energy that's expounded, and really shoved out of us, this performance. It's go time.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span style="color: #800080;"><strong><span class="s1">Performance is really meant for spurts. It's not meant to be a lifestyle. </span></strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">I'm telling you, who's watching right now, you've created a lifestyle of performing:</span></p>
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<li class="p1"><span class="s1">You perform for your kids, as mother.</span></li>
<li class="p1"><span class="s1">You perform for your clients.</span></li>
<li class="p1"><span class="s1">You perform for your boss, as star employee.</span></li>
<li class="p1"><span class="s1">You perform for your parents as the perfect son.</span></li>
<li class="p1"><span class="s1">You perform for your community as the perfect person, or the best, the go-to guy.</span></li>
<li class="p1"><span class="s1">As grandma, you're just always there, filling this role that either you've created for yourself, that you have to live up to, or it's been placed upon you.</span></li>
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<p><span class="s1">Oh, you're really good at this. </span><span class="s1">Let's put you on this pedestal, so that you have to always operate at that level.</span></p>
<p><strong><span class="s1">I'm vibing very specific with you right now. I feel it very strongly, of how tired you are performing, performing, performing, trying to be someone that at the end of the day, you're just drained, pushing at that level, or really trying to make something work that is falling apart.</span></strong></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Maybe you're trying to make it work, and you're the only one trying to make it work, and putting on a happy face for others, so that no one knows all of the pain that is behind that performance mask, that has become your face.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>There's so much more for you. Beaming love and acceptance at you. And this week in particular, we have to accept who we are, is what Source is saying, specifically by stopping the performance.</strong></span></p>
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<h2 class="p1"><a href="http://ctt.ec/a4BR7"><strong><span class="s1">Know this: Worry will die when you increase your faith. Go for it this week and trust yourself! @SenseiWhitfield</span></strong></a></h2>
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Performance is over. Curtain call. Yay. Everyone's clapping. Okay, you're done. What happens?</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>I'm starting to hear the oracle cards calling in the energy about who are you when you're not performing?</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">This is a journaling. This is a conversation having kind of topic. This is not one specific, one love letter, and you're going to figure this one all out. No.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span style="color: #800080;"><strong><span class="s1">This is a journey in and of itself, finding out, who are you when you're not performing, into the role, or the mask, right, that you've created for yourself, or that you've inherited.</span></strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">The Oracle Cards that want to weigh on this, so who are you when you're not performing is the life purpose oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>Can you even imagine? Angels, help us imagine, who are we when we stop performing, and really start stepping into being authentic?</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Maybe at work, maybe even in our homes, and our private lives, who are we? Hmm.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span style="color: #800080;"><strong><span class="s1">School. The answer that you're seeking involves going to school, and this is where we're going to leave off this week in particular.</span></strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">This is about learning more about yourself, so perhaps you are currently in school right now, or you've been to school in the past, you've studied before, majored in a certain area, or have had certifications in a certain area.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Look to what inspires you the most in your self education. At school, there are certain subjects that you vibrate with the most.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">If you're currently in school, maybe art class is something that really just flows out of you. You don't have to perform when you're drawing. You're just in the moment, or writing, or theater, or perhaps in debate, you're just flowing. You don't even have to perform. It's just part of you. You love that intellectual stimulation, right, of debate, or history.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>If you are not currently in school, what have you been looking at going back to school for recently?</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">What would you study simply for the love of it, where you know that at 3AM, if you had to do a project for that specific field of study, you'd be over the moon.<em> "Oh, my gosh. I would love to be up at 3AM writing about this, or studying and practicing for this."</em></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>The guides are pushing you towards education to really help you see, who are you when you're not performing?</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">It's a bit ironic, because we tend to associate school with performance, right? If you get an A, then you're acceptable. A does not mean acceptable. Wrong, so if that's what's coming up for you, by the way, if you're watching, let that one go.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>Instead, what would you study simply for the love of it, if there was no grade, if you were just in school for the love of it?</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">For me, it's meditation and Reiki, world religions, parapsychology, metaphysics, manifestation, and all of that yummy, juice, vortex-y goodness. Right? That's who I am when I'm not performing, and I happen to have integrated that personally into my work. What is it for you? Look to your education.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>Post below in the comments. Let me know, what do you find out? What would you study for the love of it? What are you doing in your free time, and studying in your free time, Googling constantly about? That might be a clue as to who you are when you're not performing. I'm here for you.</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Contact me if you want to set up a session, so that we can clarify that. I do hour long sessions, as well as half hour sessions on a regular basis, because having regular accountability makes all the difference, okay?</span></p>
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<p><strong style="line-height: 1.5;">In Love and Light,</strong></p>
<p><strong>Victoria.</strong></p>
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<p><strong><em>Just for Today...</em></strong></p>
<p><strong>Make time to get clarity: journal about what you do simply for the love and pleasure of it, especially listing things that no one knows.</strong></p>
<p><strong>Then write down how it feels when you're doing these things, versus when you feel like you're performing or trying to appease others.</strong></p>
<div><strong><em>Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!</em></strong></div>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 08 May 2017 12:00:45 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Secretly mad about something? Hiding how pissed off you are to appear "polite" and not rock the boat? Tired of putting on a happy face for everyone? From an early age, most of us are taught that our anger is wrong, bad and should be tamped down. So we hide that fiery energy in our [&#8230;]</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #800080;"><em>Secretly mad about something?</em></span></h2>
<h2><em>Hiding how pissed off you are to appear "polite" and not rock the boat?</em></h2>
<h2><em>Tired of putting on a happy face for everyone?<br />
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<p><span style="line-height: 1.5;">From an early age, most of us are taught that our anger is wrong, bad and should be tamped down.<br />
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<p>So we hide that fiery energy in our minds and bodies and this can lead to dis-eases of many kinds.</p>
<p><span style="color: #008080;"><strong>Watch this week's 11-minute Love Letter video to learn how to honor your anger in a healthy way!</strong></span></p>
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<p style="text-align: right;"><em><span style="color: #800080;"><b>"I feel so blocked. I don't know what the problem is."</b></span></em></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">This week it's important for you to honor your anger. Honor your anger.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>Now you may be watching this and be the most happy and positive person you know. I'm sure you're just like me where you love to spread sunshine and positive energy and because of that there's nothing wrong, right?</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">No one ever makes you angry. In fact, I bet you can't even remember the last time you were actually angry or even showed any anger. 😉</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">How hard do you smile when you do share your smile? Is it like this or are you sharing your joy with ease?</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>Are you pushing that sunshine and positive energy out of you? Or is it naturally flowing out with a sense of ease, abundance and just spilling out of you? Or could we be pushing?</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">If you feel like you're pushing to be positive, keep listening because rather than being the happiest person you know you just might be the angriest person you know.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>Get this. Did you know that most highly sensitive individuals, those who are energy workers, healers, body workers, people who have a servant's heart and are really here for a healing purpose are in fact the angriest persons on the planet? They're the angriest people.</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Yes, really. Zen master that you see doing her yoga Zen thing or his yoga Zen thing actually is pretty darn angry.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">It's interesting because that intense fire energy is what motivates the person to give so much. It motivates us, you, to be that change that you wish to see in the world, to really want to clean up and have the nice house that's all put together and everything where it's supposed to be.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">It's that fire energy that motivates you to get to the gym everyday or to get into your yoga practice everyday. It's that fire energy of anger filling up your empathic sense and you think it's other people's negativity but I'm here to tell you, you actually need to honor your anger.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span style="color: #800080;"><strong><span class="s1">There's nothing wrong with anger. In fact anger is quite beautiful, just like fire.</span></strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Now, you can have in a fireplace the ability to admire the fire safely and have it warm your environment and really bring more of a sense of beauty and sensuality to your space. That fire energy, just oh my god, I love fireplaces, they're so sensual. It's wonderful, right?</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">So grounding or you could have it spread in her own divine feminine way consuming everything in her path destructively such as a forest fire where oh crap&nbsp;or the house is caught on fire because of one little thing, one little trigger and she just starts consuming all of the fuel that confirms her anger energy and just explodes out or perhaps if there's enough fuel.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><strong><span class="s1">Be kind to yourself. It's time to honor your anger and see the beauty in her.</span></strong></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Now as I'm talking to you, you're like this love letter is totally not for me. Hold on a second.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>Anger that is not honored can show up in sneaky ways and we cover these ways in many different love letters but in particular we're talking about anger this week but it's suppressed energy.</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Suppressed energy can affect your sexual libido, can give you achy joints, neck, jaw, head and eye tension, tensed pelvis, let's see, what else? We're just going to go down the list.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>Water retention, excess weight holding, insatiable appetite. We just keep eating and for some reason we're not getting built. Repressed anger energy can also come up as feeling blocked or confused, craving a sense of clarity that we just can't seem to get.</strong></span></p>
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<h2 class="p1"><a href="http://ctt.ec/G9QNJ"><strong><span class="s1">Know this:&nbsp;Anger that is not honored can manifest in sneaky ways, such as inflammation, aches, apathy and confusion.</span></strong></a></h2>
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">I'm just really trying to clarify my message but I can't quite get to it because I'm blocked. No, actually, you have some anger in you to release.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">This week in particular, it's time for you to honor your anger.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>Now the oracle cards are coming in the energy. It's the Indigo Angel Oracle cards deck.</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">This is actually a really great oracle cards deck for working through our anger.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>I just saw the image in the energy of an iceberg and this is how engaging your anger works.</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">You may think you've gotten to it. Like I'm mad about this but there's a whole … like the little iceberg on top, the split image and then the big, big cavernous iceberg underneath the water.&nbsp;</span><span class="s1">There's layers and layers and layers of anger energy that you can release.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Trust. </span>And they're telling me to read.</p>
<p class="p1"><strong>The trust card comes up.</strong></p>
<p class="p1">Oh boy, I could feel someone on the other side of the screen being like, <em>"oh God, what are we going to find out now."</em> Take a deep breath in and exhale.</p>
<p class="p1"><span style="color: #000000;"><em>This card asks you to trust that there's a purpose to life right now. The guy just saying that there's a purpose to your anger.&nbsp;<span class="s1">Keep faith that the chaos you see around you has an underlying meaning and divine design. When times are hard, naturally sensitive people can feel that the world has been orchestrated to work against them and that nothing is fair. The truth is that your viewpoint has not yet expanded enough to put your problems into perspective. As you age, you'll see that what seems overwhelming and unbearable now is only a minor hitch.&nbsp;</span><span class="s1">Trust that there's so much more out there including magical experiences for you available to you right now. You will see how balanced the world has the potential to be when you look for them. Take this card as a reminder to persevere, stay strong and believe in yourself because the world needs you more than you may know.</span></em></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">And here's where we'll end.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>The gift of your anger, just like fire, is that it brings light to the world.</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Do you ever notice that when you really honor your anger and confront it, stand in it, you're so clear about what you're mad about? Magically and your body generates clear sensations and feelings to expel and express that anger. You need to trust that that is actually for your positive gain and that your anger is not something that is inherently bad.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>In the past you've been told that being angry is bad. It's not what good boys do and it's certainly unladylike to be angry. It's natural.</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">You see it out in the wild and animals all the time, they process through that ferocity, ferociousness, right, and allow it to move right through them but do they stay in that or like suck it in? No, they express and they use it to break through whatever is in their way. Some healthy ways to express your anger include exercise or screaming in your car with the windows closed by yourself as you drive, writing it out, drawing, tearing up pieces of newspaper that belong to you.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>Post below what are some examples of ways that you process your angry in a healthy way.</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Do you go to a kickboxing or an MMA class? Do you dance it out? Share how you process that fire energy that you naturally have so that as a tribe we can come together and let it go. Okay?</span></p>
<p class="p1"><strong><span class="s1">I'm sending you so much love, subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week and I'll see you next time. Bye. Happy angering.</span></strong></p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><strong style="line-height: 1.5;">In Love and Light,</strong></p>
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<p><strong>Honor your anger by engaging Her in a healthy way.</strong></p>
<p><strong>Dance, run or scream it off, tear up old papers and magazines, or take a kickboxing class.</strong></p>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Secretly mad about something? Hiding how pissed off you are to appear "polite" and not rock the boat? Tired of putting on a happy face for everyone? From an early age, most of us are taught that our anger is wrong, bad and should be tamped down. So we hide that fiery energy in our [&#8230;]</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #800080;"><em>Secretly mad about something?</em></span></h2>
<h2><em>Hiding how pissed off you are to appear "polite" and not rock the boat?</em></h2>
<h2><em>Tired of putting on a happy face for everyone?<br />
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<p><span style="line-height: 1.5;">From an early age, most of us are taught that our anger is wrong, bad and should be tamped down.<br />
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<p>So we hide that fiery energy in our minds and bodies and this can lead to dis-eases of many kinds.</p>
<p><span style="color: #008080;"><strong>Watch this week's 11-minute Love Letter video to learn how to honor your anger in a healthy way!<br />
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<p style="text-align: right;"><em><span style="color: #800080;"><b>"<em>I feel so blocked. I don't know what the problem is.</em>"</b></span></em></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">This week it's important for you to honor your anger. Honor your anger. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>Now you may be watching this and be the most happy and positive person you know. I'm sure you're just like me where you love to spread sunshine and positive energy and because of that there's nothing wrong, right?</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">No one ever makes you angry. In fact, I bet you can't even remember the last time you were actually angry or even showed any anger. 😉</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">How hard do you smile when you do share your smile? Is it like this or are you sharing your joy with ease? </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>Are you pushing that sunshine and positive energy out of you? Or is it naturally flowing out with a sense of ease, abundance and just spilling out of you? Or could we be pushing?</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">If you feel like you're pushing to be positive, keep listening because rather than being the happiest person you know you just might be the angriest person you know.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>Get this. Did you know that most highly sensitive individuals, those who are energy workers, healers, body workers, people who have a servant's heart and are really here for a healing purpose are in fact the angriest persons on the planet? They're the angriest people.</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Yes, really. Zen master that you see doing her yoga Zen thing or his yoga Zen thing actually is pretty darn angry.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">It's interesting because that intense fire energy is what motivates the person to give so much. It motivates us, you, to be that change that you wish to see in the world, to really want to clean up and have the nice house that's all put together and everything where it's supposed to be. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">It's that fire energy that motivates you to get to the gym everyday or to get into your yoga practice everyday. It's that fire energy of anger filling up your empathic sense and you think it's other people's negativity but I'm here to tell you, you actually need to honor your anger. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span style="color: #800080;"><strong><span class="s1">There's nothing wrong with anger. In fact anger is quite beautiful, just like fire.</span></strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Now, you can have in a fireplace the ability to admire the fire safely and have it warm your environment and really bring more of a sense of beauty and sensuality to your space. That fire energy, just oh my god, I love fireplaces, they're so sensual. It's wonderful, right? </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">So grounding or you could have it spread in her own divine feminine way consuming everything in her path destructively such as a forest fire where oh crap&nbsp;or the house is caught on fire because of one little thing, one little trigger and she just starts consuming all of the fuel that confirms her anger energy and just explodes out or perhaps if there's enough fuel. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><strong><span class="s1">Be kind to yourself. It's time to honor your anger and see the beauty in her.</span></strong></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Now as I'm talking to you, you're like this love letter is totally not for me. Hold on a second. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>Anger that is not honored can show up in sneaky ways and we cover these ways in many different love letters but in particular we're talking about anger this week but it's suppressed energy. When you want to stop watching porn for example, stop supressing and use systems from <a style="color: #800080; text-decoration: none;" href="http://pornaddiction.co.uk">pornaddiction.co.uk</a>.</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Suppressed energy can affect your sexual libido, can give you achy joints, neck, jaw, head and eye tension, tensed pelvis, let's see, what else? We're just going to go down the list. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>Water retention, excess weight holding, insatiable appetite. We just keep eating and for some reason we're not getting built. Repressed anger energy can also come up as feeling blocked or confused, craving a sense of clarity that we just can't seem to get.</strong> </span></p>
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<h2 class="p1"><a href="http://ctt.ec/S2s86"><strong><span class="s1">Know this:&nbsp;Anger that is not honored can manifest in sneaky ways, such as inflammation, aches, apathy and confusion.</span></strong></a></h2>
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">I'm just really trying to clarify my message but I can't quite get to it because I'm blocked. No, actually, you have some anger in you to release.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">This week in particular, it's time for you to honor your anger. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>Now the oracle cards are coming in the energy. It's the Indigo Angel Oracle cards deck.</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">This is actually a really great oracle cards deck for working through our anger. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>I just saw the image in the energy of an iceberg and this is how engaging your anger works.</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">You may think you've gotten to it. Like I'm mad about this but there's a whole … like the little iceberg on top, the split image and then the big, big cavernous iceberg underneath the water.&nbsp;</span><span class="s1">There's layers and layers and layers of anger energy that you can release. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Trust. </span>And they're telling me to read.</p>
<p class="p1"><strong>The trust card comes up.</strong></p>
<p class="p1">Oh boy, I could feel someone on the other side of the screen being like, <em>"oh God, what are we going to find out now."</em> Take a deep breath in and exhale.</p>
<p class="p1"><span style="color: #000000;"><em>This card asks you to trust that there's a purpose to life right now. The guy just saying that there's a purpose to your anger.&nbsp;<span class="s1">Keep faith that the chaos you see around you has an underlying meaning and divine design. When times are hard, naturally sensitive people can feel that the world has been orchestrated to work against them and that nothing is fair. The truth is that your viewpoint has not yet expanded enough to put your problems into perspective. As you age, you'll see that what seems overwhelming and unbearable now is only a minor hitch.&nbsp;</span><span class="s1">Trust that there's so much more out there including magical experiences for you available to you right now. You will see how balanced the world has the potential to be when you look for them. Take this card as a reminder to persevere, stay strong and believe in yourself because the world needs you more than you may know.</span></em></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">And here's where we'll end.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>The gift of your anger, just like fire, is that it brings light to the world.</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Do you ever notice that when you really honor your anger and confront it, stand in it, you're so clear about what you're mad about? Magically and your body generates clear sensations and feelings to expel and express that anger. You need to trust that that is actually for your positive gain and that your anger is not something that is inherently bad.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>In the past you've been told that being angry is bad. It's not what good boys do and it's certainly unladylike to be angry. It's natural.</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">You see it out in the wild and animals all the time, they process through that ferocity, ferociousness, right, and allow it to move right through them but do they stay in that or like suck it in? No, they express and they use it to break through whatever is in their way. Some healthy ways to express your anger include exercise or screaming in your car with the windows closed by yourself as you drive, writing it out, drawing, tearing up pieces of newspaper that belong to you.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>Post below what are some examples of ways that you process your angry in a healthy way.</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Do you go to a kickboxing or an MMA class? Do you dance it out? Share how you process that fire energy that you naturally have so that as a tribe we can come together and let it go. Okay? </span></p>
<p class="p1"><strong><span class="s1">I'm sending you so much love, subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week and I'll see you next time. Bye. Happy angering.</span></strong></p>
<p class="p1"><strong style="line-height: 1.5;">In Love and Light,</strong></p>
<p><strong>Victoria.</strong></p>
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<p><strong><em>Just for Today...</em></strong></p>
<p><strong>Honor your anger by engaging Her in a healthy way. </strong></p>
<p><strong>Dance, run or scream it off, tear up old papers and magazines, or take a kickboxing class.</strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!</em></strong></p>
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<h2><span style="color: #800080;"><em>Tired of keeping up with the Joneses?<br />
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<h2><em>Wish you could just be yourself with people, but are too scared of what they'll think?</em></h2>
<h2><em>Hiding your pain and exhaustion behind your smile more than you'd like to admit?</em></h2>
<p><span style="line-height: 1.5;">Popular culture and educational systems teach us that it's our level of performance that determines our worth.<br />
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<p>Unfortunately, living a life of high-performance doesn't lead to self-acceptance and fulfillment; instead, quite the opposite happens.</p>
<p><span style="color: #008080;"><strong>Watch this week's 10-minute Love Letter video to explore why we overperform so much, and how you can start to break free from this vicious cycle!<br />
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<p style="text-align: right;"><em><span style="color: #800080;"><b>"<em>I am so drained. I feel like everything is falling apart.</em>"</b></span></em></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">This week, Source has&nbsp;got two words for you. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>Stop performing. Stop it. This is not a performance. You're not putting on a show. Your life is meant to be lived authentically, okay?</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Let's get into this. When we are performing, we feel like we're pushing to get others' approval, or pushing to be productive, or pushing to get recognition, or pushing to be accepted, or we're trying to be good, or we're trying to be healthy, or we're trying to make everyone feel comfortable. There's this sense of artifice, and energy that's expounded, and really shoved out of us, this performance. It's go time.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span style="color: #800080;"><strong><span class="s1">Performance is really meant for spurts. It's not meant to be a lifestyle.&nbsp;</span></strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">I'm telling you, who's watching right now, you've created a lifestyle of performing:</span></p>
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<li class="p1"><span class="s1">You perform for your kids, as mother. </span></li>
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<li class="p1"><span class="s1">You perform for your clients. </span></li>
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<li class="p1"><span class="s1">You perform for your boss, as star employee.</span></li>
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<li class="p1"><span class="s1">You perform for your parents as the perfect son.</span></li>
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<li class="p1"><span class="s1">You perform for your community as the perfect person, or the best, the go-to guy. </span></li>
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<li class="p1"><span class="s1">As grandma, you're just always there, filling this role that either you've created for yourself, that you have to live up to, or it's been placed upon you. </span></li>
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<p><span class="s1">Oh, you're really good at this. </span><span class="s1">Let's put you on this pedestal, so that you have to always operate at that level. </span></p>
<p><strong><span class="s1">I'm vibing very specific with you right now. I feel it very strongly, of how tired you are performing, performing, performing, trying to be someone that at the end of the day, you're just drained, pushing at that level, or really trying to make something work that is falling apart.</span></strong></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Maybe you're trying to make it work, and you're the only one trying to make it work, and putting on a happy face for others, so that no one knows all of the pain that is behind that performance mask, that has become your face. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>There's so much more for you. Beaming love and acceptance at you. And this week in particular, we have to accept who we are, is what Source is&nbsp;saying, specifically by stopping the performance.</strong> </span></p>
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<h2 class="p1"><strong><span class="s1">Know this: <a href="http://ctt.ec/Tpt4I">Know this: Self-acceptance starts where performing ends. #loveyourself @SenseiWhitfield http://bit.ly/295Gf4K</a></span></strong></h2>
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Performance is over. Curtain call. Yay. Everyone's clapping. Okay, you're done. What happens? </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>I'm starting to hear the oracle cards calling in the energy about who are you when you're not performing?</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">This is a journaling. This is a conversation having kind of topic. This is not one specific,&nbsp;one love letter, and you're going to figure this one all out. No. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span style="color: #800080;"><strong><span class="s1">This is a journey in and of itself, finding out, who are you when you're not performing, into the role, or the mask, right, that you've created for yourself, or that you've inherited.</span></strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">The Oracle Cards that want to weigh on this, so who are you when you're not performing is the life purpose oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>Can you even imagine? Angels, help us imagine, who are we when we stop performing, and really start stepping into being authentic?</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Maybe at work, maybe even in our homes, and our private lives, who are we? Hmm. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span style="color: #800080;"><strong><span class="s1">School. The answer that you're seeking involves going to school, and this is where we're going to leave off this week in particular. </span></strong></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">This is about learning more about yourself, so perhaps you are currently in school right now, or you've been to school in the past, you've studied before, majored in a certain area, or have had certifications in a certain area.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Look to what inspires you the most in your self education. At school, there are certain subjects that you vibrate with the most. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">If you're currently in school, maybe art class is something that really just flows out of you. You don't have to perform when you're drawing. You're just in the moment, or writing, or theater, or perhaps in debate, you're just flowing. You don't even have to perform. It's just part of you. You love that intellectual stimulation, right, of debate, or history. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>If you are not currently in school, what have you been looking at going back to school for recently?</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">What would you study simply for the love of it, where you know that at 3AM, if you had to do a project for that specific field of study, you'd be over the moon.<em> "Oh, my gosh. I would love to be up at 3AM writing about this, or studying and practicing for this."</em></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>The guides are pushing you towards education to really help you see, who are you when you're not performing?</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">It's a bit ironic, because we tend to associate school with performance, right? If you get an A, then you're acceptable. A does not mean acceptable. Wrong, so if that's what's coming up for you, by the way, if you're watching, let that one go. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>Instead, what would you study simply for the love of it, if there was no grade, if you were just in school for the love of it?</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">For me, it's meditation and Reiki, world religions, parapsychology, metaphysics, manifestation, and all of that yummy, juice, vortex-y goodness. Right? That's who I am when I'm not performing, and I happen to have integrated that personally into my work. What is it for you? Look to your education.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1" style="color: #800080;"><strong>Post below in the comments. Let me know, what do you find out? What would you study for the love of it? What are you doing in your free time, and studying in your free time, Googling constantly about? That might be a clue as to who you are when you're not performing. I'm here for you.</strong> </span></p>
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<p><strong>Make time to get clarity: journal about what you do simply for the love and pleasure of it, especially listing things that no one knows.</strong></p>
<p><strong>Then write down how it feels when you're doing these things, versus when you feel like you're performing or trying to appease others.</strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!</em></strong></p>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Tired of being "stuck" in life, waiting for your time to shine? Feeling frustrated that you, your partner or your business still haven't realized their potential, after all your hard work? Having a hard time just accepting what's happening and embracing yourself and your life "as is"? Sometimes our "great expectations" can get the best [&#8230;]</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #800080;"><em>Tired of being "stuck" in life, waiting for your time to shine?</em></span></h2>
<h2><em>Feeling frustrated that you, your partner or your business still haven't realized their potential, after all your hard work?</em></h2>
<h2><em>Having a hard time just accepting what's happening and embracing yourself and your life "as is"?</em></h2>
<p><em>Sometimes our "great expectations" can get the best of us, blinding our eyes to the opportunities and positive aspects in our present moment.</em></p>
<p><em>This is a particularly sticky situation, because we're caught up in reaching for something that doesn't exist, and meanwhile in our current reality, we end up feeling blocked and stagnant.</em></p>
<p><span style="color: #008080;"><strong>Watch the above 11-minute video to learn exactly how you can start practicing acceptance and get unstuck!<br />
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<p style="text-align: right;"><em><span style="color: #800080;"><b>"How can I accept my life completely?"</b></span></em></p>
<p class="p1"><strong><span class="s1">Acceptance keeps the momentum moving forward.</span></strong></p>
<p><span class="s1">When we do not accept what the circumstances are, there's a lack of acceptance of what is. </span></p>
<p><span class="s1">When we do not accept who we are dating or married to as what they're showing is who they actually are, we usually are continuously looking past them, thinking: <em>"maybe one day he's going to be this, or maybe one day she'll do this, or maybe someday this will happen."</em></span></p>
<p><strong style="line-height: 1.5;"><span style="color: #800080;">If we're embracing being&nbsp;more in alignment with nature, practicing acceptance only becomes that much more important, because acceptance keeps you in the now. &nbsp;</span></strong></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">A good place to start is accepting disappointment; thinking, for example: <em>"Okay,</em></span><em><span class="s1"> I see that this is what it is. I'm in a job that I do not like. I'm not comfortable with my body. This person that I'm dating really isn't right for me as they are, or this person that I'm married to is totally out of alignment with me, as they are right now."</span></em></p>
<p class="p1"><strong>The next step though, after acceptance, is taking action once you are clear on what you have now.</strong></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Getting to the point of accepting what is, and having a sense of peace with that, will lower your blood pressure, will calm aches in your body. Acceptance can change the way that you sleep, the way that you eat, the way that you spend your money, spend your time, who you spend your time with. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">When we are in&nbsp;a state of acceptance, we're letting go of the fight to make things more than what they actually are -- you put your sword down, and just say <em>"okay, I'm here."</em></span></p>
<p class="p1"><strong><span class="s1"> Believe it or not, spirit is saying that the effect of this is that it wipes the slate clean in life. </span></strong></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Emotionally, energetically, physically, socially, financially. Clean slate. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Now for some of you, I'm feeling a nervousness in the energy around having a totally&nbsp;clean slate. I hear you thinking <em>"Well, what do I do with that?" </em></span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">If that's you, here's what you do. Raise the vibration of that image. Think of it like a blank check. The clean slate is meant to be infinite possibilities. It's not meant to intimidate you.</span></p>
<h2><strong>Know this:&nbsp;<span style="color: #008080;"><span style="color: #008080;"><a href="http://ctt.ec/97c9v">If you can accept where you're at now, that gives you a strong foundation for actually changing things for the better.&nbsp;</a>&nbsp;</span></span></strong></h2>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">It's about taking responsibility for all of what is your actual reality. What is the totality of your world? You need to be able to answer that before you can be in charge of your world.</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>Source is saying it is extremely important that you have peace with what Source has given you now.</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">That you have consciousness and clarity with what you have now. It's okay. All is well. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">All right, so I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. Doreen Virtue's "Indigo Angel Oracle Cards" is the deck that came through that wanted to share about practicing acceptance. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">So we're just asking as we shuffle: <em>"Angels of understanding, acceptance and peace, show us what do we need to know right now about practicing acceptance? What's at stake? Why are we being so prideful? Not saying no, this is not acceptable. How can I be more than who I really am right now?"</em></span></p>
<p class="p1"><strong style="line-height: 1.5;"><span style="color: #800080;">The Oracle Card that came through is... Acceptance!</span></strong></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">LOL! WOWZA! I've been doing this for years, and well, I must say, it never gets old. It never gets old! I think this is pretty self explanatory that we're in the vortex, that your synchronicity is lining up. </span></p>
<p class="p1">Here's the reading:</p>
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<p class="p1"><em>As an indigo, you're built to question everything, as part of your mission for making healthful changes to this planet. However, this characteristic may cause you to reject a part of your life that's necessary, in order for you to get to the next step.</em></p>
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<p class="p1"><strong><span class="s1">Let me pause for a second and emphasize this: if you want the next level in your life, the next level starts with acceptance. </span></strong><span class="s1">It's good stuff. Let's continue reading:</span></p>
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<p class="p1"><em><span class="s1">This card is a message for you to search through your life and determine if there is anything, or anyone, you are rejecting. </span></em></p>
<p class="p1"><em><span class="s1"><strong style="line-height: 1.5;"><span style="color: #800080;">Accepting your life completely is the best thing you can do for yourself right now.&nbsp;</span></strong></span></em></p>
<p class="p1"><em><span class="s1">While this may not be easy or even seem right, know that you simply cannot change everything you do not like, and certain things must be tolerated in this lifetime.</span></em></p>
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Why must they be tolerated? I have to pause here, because I'm hearing someone in the Energy ask "why shouldn't I&nbsp;settle for anything?"</span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1"><strong>Here's the thing: It's not about settling.</strong> </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">You could be rejecting the dark gifts, aka the lessons and stepping stones that Source is sending you in your present total reality i</span><span class="s1">n this present moment of existence. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">You could be rejecting those gifts that are the launching pads to get you to the next level that you are designed for, if you're not accepting them or tolerating them, working through them, understanding and using them to flow through your life's journey. The reading continues:</span></p>
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<p class="p1"><em><strong><span class="s1">You could be rejecting something that's really essential to the recipe of "You."&nbsp;</span></strong><span class="s1">Ask the angels to bring you strength and comfort to make letting go and accepting easier. &nbsp;</span><span class="s1">Acceptance is not easy.&nbsp;</span><span class="s1">However, it is a decision.</span></em></p>
<p class="p1"><em><strong style="line-height: 1.5;"><span style="color: #800080;">All you have to do is decide in the moment I accept that what is, is what is.</span></strong></em></p>
<p class="p1"><em><span class="s1">This is what I've got right now, and I am accepting it, or this is who you are right now, and I am accepting you just as you are. Good, bad, and whoa Nelly. Right?</span></em></p>
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<p class="p1"><span class="s1">You'll notice that when you do that, such as admitting to yourself <em>"I accept that I am really angry right now,"</em>&nbsp;things will process faster. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">I encounter so many people, especially when I meet them for the first time&nbsp;who say, "O<em>h yeah, I'm blocked," </em>or<em>&nbsp;"this is blocked</em></span><span class="s1"><em>,"</em>&nbsp;or<em>&nbsp;"I'm feeling blocked in life."&nbsp;</em>Declarations like these show</span><span class="s1">&nbsp;acceptance, and this is a serious issue because they don't realize they're&nbsp;fueling&nbsp;those blocks&nbsp;with their acceptance of the idea of being a victim of being blocked. </span></p>
<p class="p1"><strong><span class="s1">Another issue is that when&nbsp;you can't accept what's going on, you're going to be at an impasse. </span></strong></p>
<p class="p1"><span class="s1">There's a gift there that Source is trying to send you in this frustrating or seemingly "negative" experience. So deciding to&nbsp;open up and allow the experience to be what it is, not knowing what may come on the other side of being in that state of acceptance, you are opening up to moving forward authentically.</span></p>
<p class="p1">If you're curious to know more about this, send me an email at SenseiVictoriaWhitfield@gmail.com or comment below. I'm really intrigued to hear what are you not accepting.</p>
<p class="p1">Is there something that's been eating at you, or really pressing on you, and really fueling your stress level that you feel is absolutely not acceptable? Email me about it!</p>
<p class="p1"><span style="color: #800080;"><strong>Someone in the energy just said that if something bad happened to you, the way that you can practice acceptance is to accept the fact that that happened. It's not in your current total reality.</strong></span></p>
<p class="p1">It's in your history, yes, but is it right here? Happening right now? No. This step has to come first before you let anything go, or even think about forgiving.</p>
<p class="p1"><span style="color: #333333;">This is a very intense spiritual practice. Simple, but profound.&nbsp;So be kind to yourself; I'm sending you so much love, and I will see you next week.</span></p>
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<p><strong style="line-height: 1.5;">In Love and Light,</strong></p>
<p><strong>Victoria.</strong></p>
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<p><strong><em>Just for Today...</em></strong></p>
<p><strong style="line-height: 1.5;"><strong>Observe yourself today to find out what people, places, things or actions your are avoiding, rejecting or running from.</strong></strong></p>
<p><strong>When you find one, ask yourself: "What gift from the Universe could I be refusing to receive by avoiding this situation?"</strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!</em></strong></p>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Feeling stressed out lately because everything's changing? Having a hard time forgiving someone who does things different than you? Can't believe that things are not working out the way you expected? One of the biggest sources of stress is the inability to practice acceptance of how things are. More often than not, we unconsciously try [&#8230;]</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #800080;"><em>Feeling stressed out lately because everything's changing?</em></span></h2>
<h2><em>Having a hard time forgiving someone who does things different than you?</em></h2>
<h2><em>Can't believe that things are not working out the way you expected?</em></h2>
<p><em>One of the biggest sources of stress is the inability to practice acceptance of how things are.</em></p>
<p><em>More often than not, we unconsciously try to force the world to fit our version of how it "should" be, rather than staying non-judgmental and open.</em></p>
<p><span style="color: #008080;"><strong>Watch the above 11-minute video to learn to relax and stop "shoulding" all over yourself!!</strong></span></p>
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<p style="text-align: right;"><em><span style="color: #800080;"><b>"Why can't I look at my life and accept it as it is?"</b></span></em></p>
<p><b>This week, the topic that's coming through is practicing acceptance.</b></p>
<p>In the energy, as I was searching for what we were going to deliver for this week's love letter, and the following question came out of our soul: <em>"What are the different sources of stress in our lives that different students of the dojo and I observe, and what does the Energy have to say?"</em></p>
<p>One of the big sources of stress in our lives is our inability to practice acceptance. The first thing that's coming through to share from the spirit is that, acceptance counteracts, or it goes against, the ego.</p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #800080;">Ego and pride are catalysts for stress, obstacles and frustration in life.</span></strong></p>
<p>The way this happens is&nbsp;that we form a mental&nbsp;identification with A when we are experiencing B.</p>
<p>Even though we believe that we are A and we believe in A, we say we are A or have been raised to be A, the experience however -- the physical sensations, the temporal physical manifestation of whatever spirit is delivering into our lives at this moment -- is B.</p>
<p>We're looking at B and overlaying A, because that's our glasses. We're wearing&nbsp;A glasses and the only thing that we could see through these glasses is A. There's no such thing as B. So we're just going to move B out of the way.</p>
<p>That is what a lack of acceptance looks like, energetically speaking and psychologically as well.</p>
<p><strong>What are the effects of that A-B split, personality wise, perceptually? What are the effects?</strong></p>
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<li>Stress</li>
<li>Lack of understanding</li>
<li>Suppressed expression</li>
<li>Anger</li>
<li>Feeling ungrounded, out of alignment, depressed, anxious,&nbsp;untrusting,&nbsp;unworthy or invalid.</li>
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<p>We're looking at B, which is the actual temporal manifestation, the natural physical spacial manifestation that we're experiencing now is a B experience. But in our minds there's nothing but A in terms of the data that we can interpret of it, cognitively. In other words, there's a mental pattern to rather not a have to interpret the data.</p>
<p><strong>So there's a mental pattern that we follow: all data that comes in must be sifted through the A protocol and fit into an A prototype.&nbsp;This is a bit of robotic description on purpose, the spirits are saying, because it is unnatural. </strong></p>
<p>In fact it is manufactured, this A prototype, this A box; we're trying to fit the circle&nbsp;peg that we're experiencing into a square&nbsp;box. This A prototype or protocol is manufactured. Why?</p>
<p>This is what I'm hearing in the energy: <em>"Well, why would we have it that way, of not being able to look at our lives and just accept them as they are? How did that happen?"</em></p>
<p><strong>Well of course, there's nature versus nurture.</strong></p>
<p>Humans as an animal that has the gift of critical thinking naturally like to look for patterns, and to duplicate patterns, to create a sense of stability, order, reproductibility, familiarity. It is to create a tribe.</p>
<p><span style="color: #800080;"><strong>Here’s why this happens: We're searching for ourselves in the patterns in the All That Is that is around us naturally. </strong></span></p>
<p>We are also nurtured then on top of that: socially, culturally, traditionally through advertising, commercializing, religiously.</p>
<p>All of these different external systems will create <em>their</em> version of what type of paradigm you should be looking at your world through, even if the world that you're experiencing is totally not in alignment with it, totally not.</p>
<p><strong>Let's put all the technical language aside for a second. I'll tell you a story to give an example of a lack of acceptance, what that looks like and the effects:</strong></p>
<p>Johnny is a good boy. Johnny comes from a good family. Johnny gets good grades. Johnny plays good with other kids. Off the street or in sports, Johnny is a good boy.</p>
<p>Johnny goes to a good school. He takes on a good major. He does good and he graduates in a good place in his class.</p>
<p>Johnny gets a good job and Johnny is dating a good girl. Their relationship is going good, so they get married and he has good marriage and everything is good.</p>
<p><strong>What determines the version of Johnny's "good" is completely relative.</strong></p>
<p>As you were visualizing and thinking and going along with that whole story I just told you, what were your versions of what is "good" that were coming up for you?</p>
<p><em>"I'm making good money. We're having a good marriage. We're going to a good school, getting good grades."</em>&nbsp;But what are your version of good grades?</p>
<p><span style="color: #800080;"><strong>For some people, their <span style="color: #800080;">version</span> of good or acceptable is entirely different, beautifully different, entirely different than your idea of what's good.&nbsp;</strong></span></p>
<p>What matters most is how you feel.</p>
<h2><strong>Know this:&nbsp;<span style="color: #008080;"><span style="color: #008080;"><a href="http://ctt.ec/FS1kL">If you're judging what a "good life" is based only on someone else's idea of what's good, you're out of alignment.</a></span></span></strong></h2>
<p>The frustration and the symptoms of being out of alignment, of being ungrounded, frustrated or non-expressed are going to come out, naturally, because there's a fundamental lack of clarity around what's your definition of what's acceptable and not acceptable.</p>
<p>In previous videos, we were talking about protecting your joy and how one way to do that is to know "what the heck is my joy?"</p>
<p>It's about a defining process. You can do that to the Nth degree and find yourself more by defining yourself than finding yourself in some workshop, some retreat, some book, some person's arms.</p>
<p><strong>You don't go find yourself, you define yourself.</strong></p>
<p>That's what I'm hearing to tell you in the energy. And one way that is really powerful, but very simple, spiritual practice to start this path is by practicing acceptance.</p>
<p>It's very simple: "whatever it is, is what it is."</p>
<p>At first glance, I'm going to sound profoundly pedestrian, but I would challenge you to look a little bit deeper into that phrase, especially if you are not satisfied with your job, with your relationship or partner, with your body, with your finances, with your studies, with the food that you're eating, the place the you live, et cetera.</p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #800080;">If you are feeling not satisfied, you need to look into embracing a sense of acceptance, but not to settle.</span></strong></p>
<p>That is not acceptance. That's reticence. Huge difference, go to&nbsp;thesaurus.com&nbsp;if you don't know what reticence is. But the only thing I'm going to tell you is that one is active and the other is passive.</p>
<p>Check back next week for part 2 of this love letter!</p>
<p><strong style="line-height: 1.5;">In Love and Light,</strong></p>
<p><strong>Victoria.</strong></p>
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<p><strong><em>Just for Today...</em></strong></p>
<p><strong>When you start feeling frustrated with someone who is not doing a "good" job according to your standards, pause and remember that what is "good" or "acceptable" performance is relative to each person.</strong></p>
<p><strong>Take a moment to lovingly go over YOUR standards with that person, assuming they genuinely didn't know.</strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!</em></strong></p>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Feeling depressed because of a recent breakup or loss of your job? Do negative news reports, commercials or traffic jams always have a way of ruining your day? Wish you could just be plain happy already, without all the setbacks knocking you off your unicorn? I feel you! It seems like every time you relax [&#8230;]</p>
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<h2><span style="color: #800080;"><em>Feeling depressed because of a recent breakup or loss of your job?</em></span></h2>
<h2><em>Do negative news reports, commercials or traffic jams always have a way of ruining your day?</em></h2>
<h2><em>Wish you could just be plain happy already, without all the setbacks knocking you off your unicorn?</em></h2>
<p><em>I feel you! It seems like every time you relax or start to make it a beautiful day, something has to come along and “test” you, right?</em></p>
<p><em>But what if you’re tired of being tested by Spirit?</em></p>
<p><span style="color: #008080;"><strong>Watch the above 10-minute video to begin exploring how you can create and protect your joy, rather than feeling like everyone’s stealing it all the time!<br />
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<p style="text-align: right;"><em><span style="color: #800080;"><b>"Things were going so well! Why does this always happen to me?"</b></span></em></p>
<p>Hi! Sensei Victoria with you here from victoriawhitfield.com for your weekly love letter. It's my last day in Negril, Jamaica at <a href="http://www.jackiesonthereef.com/">Jackie's on the Reef</a> and I wanted to share with you one last vision of the ocean for your Weekly Love Letter.</p>
<p><strong>This week Source is really adamant about you understanding that your number one focus should be protecting your joy.</strong></p>
<p>Just like a bird singing, your joy is your song on this planet. It is your vibration that is unique to you.</p>
<p>Joy is the most powerful vibration other than gratitude that we're capable of emanating as living beings, so you really want to protect the integrity of your joy. That's what Spirit wants you to know right now.</p>
<p><strong>What does it look like when we're not protecting our joy? Basically, it looks and feels like we are driven by whatever happens to us. </strong></p>
<p>If someone has some snide remark to say, immediately you latch onto that and identify with what that person said. Or if there's traffic, all of a sudden the traffic has ruined your day, as if something outside of you can determine the quality and energy of the day that you're having.</p>
<p><strong>Other ways that our joy can be affected or not protected is that we're also dependent on others for our own sense of happiness or self-awareness.</strong></p>
<p>For example, let's say you're in a relationship and your partner decides that it's time for them to leave or time for you to leave, and as you’re parting ways, your identity becomes shaken because you've given them so much power over your life.</p>
<p>Similarly, this can happen in the event of loss of a job. If your position at a certain company dissolves or you're let go, fired, et cetera, or you decide to leave, suddenly your identity shifts and then the depression comes, the anxiety comes, stress comes.</p>
<p>Depression, anxiety, and stress are all forms of dis-ease, by the way, not just disease but dis-ease, or the disturbing of one's sense of ease, peace and calm in any and all areas of life and self.</p>
<h2><span style="color: #333333;"><strong>Know this: <span style="color: #008080;">Disease becomes present when we are not protecting our joy. #stress #health</span></strong></span></h2>
<p>Now, in the energy I just heard from someone, <em>"I don't even know what makes me joyful, though, Victoria!"</em> That issue, this week in particular, you want to investigate.</p>
<p>Some examples of things that make me joyful is being outside in nature, and bubbles bring me joy. As most of you know, I have bubbles tattooed on the side of my body because they represent innocent joy.&nbsp;Although it may be fleeting, it's beautiful, full of color, and immediate, so that's what bubbles are to me as my symbol of joy.</p>
<p><strong>Having a symbol anchors an idea or energy in you emotionally, physically and spiritually. It's powerful energywork you can do on yourself and on your life.</strong></p>
<p>Also, speaking to people and learning more about other people's viewpoint bring me joy because I love diversity. I'm a very curious person, so finding out more and learning new things increases my joy. These are all examples for me personally of what brings me joy. Hanging out with family and friends, laughter, being silly, again, are more things that bring me joy.</p>
<p><strong>Here’s the thing though: I actually sat down and took the time to recognize and write out a list of all the things that brings me joy as just Victoria.</strong></p>
<p>It all started when I discovered I like white roses, for example, and how their energy increases my joy.</p>
<h2><strong>What brings you joy?</strong></h2>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>Is there a certain kind of music that you just can't help dancing to?</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>Is there a certain place that you love to visit that brings you joy?</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>Or someone that whenever you talk to them or whenever you see them, you just can't help yourself, you're just so happy?</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em> Maybe your children or your animal children bring you so much joy?</em></p>
<p><strong>Make a list. Source is very clear in the energy right now. Make a list of all the things that bring you joy.</strong></p>
<p><span style="color: #800080;"><strong>And by the way, joy is also defined by a sense of play.</strong></span></p>
<p>Oh! I just felt a kickback in the energy from someone in the energy saying, <em>"My life is not playful. This is very serious! I have a very serious life right now. I have a lot to do. I don't know what you're talking about play. I haven't played since I was a kid. Adults don't play."</em></p>
<p>That's a load of crap. With all due love and respect...CRAP! 🙂</p>
<p>You're playfulness gives you energy, and playfulness protects, cultivates and increases your joy. And joy is the energy of vitality; it is the natural expression of a fulfilled life.</p>
<p>Now, I just heard in the energy,<em> “So why do we care about protecting our joy other than the fact that it is the highest vibration you can possibly emanate as a living being?”</em></p>
<p><strong>It also has biochemical effects on your body.</strong> When you are feeling positive, when you are feeling creative, glowing, playful, in a feeling of humor or positive expectation, all of that that just comes naturally as by-products of being in joy.</p>
<p>Your body regenerates itself, not only in terms of physical healing, but it also creates emotional energy, too, where a day was boring and long and slow-moving, it can speed up and sparkle!</p>
<p><span style="color: #800080;"><em><strong>How can you find a way to create joy for yourself?</strong></em></span> Well, the first resource I'm hearing in the energy is studying the teachings of <a href="http://www.abraham-hicks.com/lawofattractionsource/index.php" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Abraham Hicks</a>.</p>
<p>Have you've ever checked them out on <a href="https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=abraham+hicks" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">YouTube</a>? Our energy vibrates strong with Abraham, and their advice is that your first focus is “<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1-4TqHp2BnE" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">getting into the vortex</a>,” which is another way of saying being and feeling joyful.</p>
<p>If there's any time that in the middle of your day you're feeling slow or low vibration or exhausted, and you do something that creates joy in you... whoa, nelly!</p>
<p>That shift is better than coffee, even better than wheat grass, to all my hard-core health nuts out there. LOL! It's an injection of vitality, a main-line of energy that comes from nowhere but your own spirit.</p>
<p><strong>Other than the energetic and the biochemical reactions that we have to joy, there are the powerful health effects.</strong></p>
<p>When we are sick in the hospital, the most import thing is to generate joy by any means necessary because that'll get you out of the hospital and out of the sick bed way faster.</p>
<p>The vibration of joy accelerates your recovery process.</p>
<p><strong>Also, one of the spirits is pointing to the emotional effect.</strong> It brings you back to center. Joy is a feeling space of being in alignment with your most creative energy within you.</p>
<p>When you are in alignment with your most creative energy, the opportunities, the solutions, are endless. What does endlessness look like?</p>
<p>Think of the ocean – in fact, you can look at her in this week’s video. There is no end, as the ocean goes all the way out to meet the sky and then it continues farther than your eye can see.</p>
<p><span style="line-height: 1.5;"><strong>When you're in a joy-feeling state, the problems that seem impossible to have solutions naturally just click in.</strong>&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="line-height: 1.5; color: #800080;"><strong>Joy accesses and activates more of your brain, and that's why this happens.</strong> </span></p>
<p><span style="line-height: 1.5;">Synchronicities and understandings or connections that couldn't have been made otherwise click in because you're activated. </span></p>
<p><span style="line-height: 1.5;">That's the magic of being in joy...</span></p>
<p><em>Tune in next week, for the second half of our discussion of protecting your joy, where we go through a few specific techniques for protecting your energy!</em></p>
<p><em><span style="line-height: 1.5;">&nbsp;</span></em></p>
<p><strong>In Love and Light,</strong></p>
<p><strong>Victoria.</strong></p>
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<p><strong><em>Just for Today...</em></strong></p>
<p><strong>Write a list of activities, people, places, things, memories, symbols and stories that make you feel joyful.<br />
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<p><strong>Try to have at least 10 things on this list, and really feel into the emotional energy of each one as you write.<br />
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<p><strong><em>Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!</em></strong></p>
<p><span style="color: #008000;"><strong>SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!</strong></span></p>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 14 Jun 2015 08:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
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<h2><span style="color: #800080;"><em>Having a hard time letting something go?</em></span></h2>
<h2><em>Still angry about what happened and can't forgive them, or yourself?</em></h2>
<h2><em>Know you "should" stop&nbsp;holding on to the past, but just don't know how?</em></h2>
<p>It seems like every therapist, spiritual teacher, healer and guru tells us to "let go" so we can heal. But it seems like they just don't see how that is WAY easier said than done, right? JEEZ!</p>
<p>One way you can begin to let go and forgive is to understand why you're holding on, and what causes you to hold on in the first place.</p>
<p><span style="color: #008080;"><strong>Watch the above video to learn how to begin&nbsp;letting go to free yourself from the toxic energy of unforgiveness!<br />
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<p style="text-align: right;"><span style="color: #800080;"><b>"Ugh. Really? Here we go again! Let's get back on and go for a ride on that old rollercoaster of emotions!"</b></span></p>
<p>Isn't it exhausting when the same old stuff just keeps coming up over and over?</p>
<p>You would think that you'd be&nbsp;fine by now, after all you've been through, right? You gave yourself space, said you were moving on, said you were done with the issue - you basically did everything that you were "supposed to" do.</p>
<p><strong>And yet here it is again, the same old feeling is biting you in the butt and getting your emotions all riled up, reviving the whole sick cycle of feelings that you buried.</strong></p>
<p>Perhaps you see that person that betrayed you years ago. Perhaps you watch a movie that triggers a memory. Or perhaps you happen to smell something that reminds you of how things used to be.</p>
<p>Then comes the anger, the sadness, the drama. They all fall on your head fresh like a ton of bricks. Wham!</p>
<p><b>You say to yourself: "They hurt me. How could this happen? This shouldn't have happened. Why does this always happen to me? It's not fair! It's wrong! It's wrong, damnit! I don't deserve this!" and so on...</b></p>
<p>Suddenly you find yourself angrily rejecting what happened&nbsp;or what "they" did all over again <em>as if it's happening now</em>, and it makes you feel clear, strong, and "in the right" - justifying how far you've come and what you've learned, how good of a person it made you, etc.</p>
<p>But&nbsp;at the same time, you feel grief and ache, having lost your innocence to that experience.</p>
<p>Pumping yourself up every so often like this always feels artificial as the underlying grief of having lost part of your innocence to what happened continues to weigh on your spirit... Sound familiar?</p>
<p><strong>This is the cycle of unforgiveness.</strong></p>
<p>And it's maddening.</p>
<p>Time is just an emotion; it's made up. And the feeling of unforgiveness is actually proof that time doesn't exist, because it can cause "old" experiences to be brand new in the moment because they are so full of emotion.</p>
<p>In fact, your brain knows that time doesn't exist, and so once you start reliving the emotions of the "past" your brain can and will send signals to your body to trigger your fight or flight response - your heart rate increases, your palms and armpits sweat, your jaw tightens, your digestion stops and your stress hormones release more and more.</p>
<p>All this from thoughts you keep thinking, or get triggered to think of again.</p>
<p><span style="color: #800080;"><strong>Being re-triggered and reliving these issues like this creates a fertile breeding ground for disease in your body and dis-ease in your life, by the way.<br />
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<p>Chronic pain and illness are often caused by <em>habitual</em> holding on or an <em>addiction&nbsp;</em>to unforgiveness. It is the body screaming against these toxic emotions being in your system.</p>
<p>You see, your body knows that those emotions and feelings are bad for you, so s/he will do whatever it takes to grab your attention to tell you that something mentally, emotionally or spiritually is seriously out of alignment - and you can gauge how out of alignment you are by how severe your body's disease is manifesting.</p>
<p><strong>But how the heck do you kick an addiction to unforgiveness?</strong></p>
<p>Well, the same way you would kick any addiction: start with WHY. It all starts with understanding WHY you would be addicted to unforgiveness in the first place.</p>
<h3>Know this: <span style="color: #008080;">Letting go starts with finding out why you're holding on in the first place. And it usually boils down to CONTROL. #forgiveness #freeyourmind<br />
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<p>Here's the thing: no matter what happened that rubbed you the wrong way, it happened, and it made you feel powerless and not in control of your life and feelings in that moment.</p>
<p>Because of that, your identity - or "ego" - was compromised, and in the moment it (identity/ego) basically flipped the "freak out switch" to defend itself by getting angry, rebelling and infusing the situation with all kinds of inflammatory emotions.</p>
<p>These inflammatory emotions are&nbsp;meant to protect you, so you could&nbsp;<em>survive</em> the experience and continue living; they are part of your psyche's evolutionary, primal protective mechanism.</p>
<p>Think of the inflammatory emotions as inflating a big bubble suit around your body/essence to serve as a buffer that allows you to keep going, just like an airbag deploys in a car crash to save your life.</p>
<p><span style="color: #800080;"><strong>But what if you continued to live inside that mangled car after the car crash, holding on to the airbags for dear life?<br />
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<p>Think of it. It's years later, and the wrecked car is overgrown with weeds and wildflowers, perhaps birds and squirrels have made their nests in the rubble, and people are driving past you on the highway in brand new cars totally oblivious to the fact that you're still living inside this car wreck just because the airbag deployed and made you feel safe ONCE.</p>
<p>That's what holding on looks like, and it's time to be willing to set yourself free from a self-imposed imprisonment.</p>
<p><em><strong>Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows us how to let go and forgive for good!</strong></em></p>
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<p><strong>In Love and Light,</strong></p>
<p><strong>Victoria.</strong></p>
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<p><strong><em>Just for Today...</em></strong></p>
<p><strong>Take an inventory of past experiences that still trigger negative emotions for you by writing it down in your journal.<br />
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<p><strong>Then ask yourself and journal about these two questions: "1) How does feeling these emotions <em>now</em> make me feel justified, powerful or in control of what <em>happened</em> to me in the <em>past</em>? and 2)<em>&nbsp;</em>Can I just <span style="text-decoration: underline;">decide</span> to feel powerful <em>now</em> without thinking about or basing my feeling upon what <em>happened</em>?"<br />
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<p><strong><em>Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!</em></strong></p>
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<p><span style="color: #008000;"><strong>SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!</strong></span></p>
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<h2><span style="color: #008080;"><strong>Want to finally let go and forgive but don't know where to start? Tell me!</strong></span></h2>
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