It’s week three of four of our exploration of conscious loneliness; we are allowing and opening up to that as conscious entrepreneurs so that we can attract joyful, conscious relationships.

If this is the first blog or video in the series that you are seeing, make sure you stop, and go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com so that you can start from part one and be grounded in this process.

Without further ado, for week three of four, we are going to be talking about platonic loneliness. Last week, if you remember, we talked about romantic loneliness and feeling an emptiness and feeling in to our heartbreak around romantic relationships in the past that haven't gone well, and we find ourselves holding on to our heartbreak. For those of you who did tune in, we reframed the heartbreak that we had as something very different. If you didn’t see it, make sure that you catch that last episode.

But for this week in particular, what we are focusing on is platonic loneliness. If you are experiencing platonic loneliness, what that will look like is a lack of friendships: a lack of friendships for us as conscious entrepreneurs. As we continue to grow ourselves and grow our businesses, it becomes harder and harder to connect – depending on how you see the situation – it appears to become harder and harder to find and connect with others who are on that similar path of conscious living, not just personally, but also professionally.

On top of that, when it comes to platonic relationships, we will have a hard time receiving friends as opposed to lovers or sexual partners, or as opposed to clients and business partners. We'll have an abundance of clients, or an abundance of understanding around how to be with our colleagues, to acquire more clients, business partners, joint venture partners, investors. We know how to operate socially within those professional situations. We may even have some professional success and enjoy that sincerely. Or we may have an abundance of success in attracting intimate partners, romantic relationships or sexual partners, people that we are coupling with. We may be very good and very fulfilled co-creating intimate relationship with others in a romantic way.

But for some of us as conscious entrepreneurs, we get hung up on this thing of finding friends in adult life. We grow our career, love our families, but look up and wonder, “where in the world did all my friends go once we've entered our adult lives?” Friends. Like, Real Friends – who we are able to connect with, who we can love and love deeply and have incredibly intimate relationships with - not sexually, and not romantically intimate but emotionally intimate relationships with. Conscious, present, loving people who are simply our Friends.

Be kind to yourself. If this has been your situation, if this is something that you are struggling with, if that's you, I'm sending you so much love. We're sending lots of love and consciousness your way so that we can begin to manifest more friends. With that being said, the first thing that drops in from my spirit guides for you if you want to receive more friends, is to remember the law of attraction, but also remember the law of distraction.

The law of attraction states “that which is like unto itself is attracted.” The way that we would apply the law of attraction when we're attracting more platonic relationships, platonic friendships and even more fulfilling and deeply intimate, soul-filling platonic relationships into our lives as conscious entrepreneurs, begins with being a really profound friend first and foremost.

Now, having the ability to open up and begin relationships with others that do not involve any sexual contact and do not involve any professional transactions can be a tall order for some. It's funny how after we get into “the real world” (as they tell all the college students to call being a member the workforce), where this focus on having space for friendship and just being loving humans together with people who we're not related to and not having sex with and not interested in romantically, our natural ability to make friends tends to die down because we're so focused on productivity – and this is where the law of distraction comes in.

The closer you get to the things that your soul is aligned to, the more distraction is going to waive its ugly head. Distraction also attracts more of itself. Here's how that plays out. As a conscious entrepreneur, perhaps your business has become a distraction. At first it was an attraction and an exciting opportunity for you to attract money, attract clients, attract significance and recognition; it helped you attract more ways to contribute.-

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But then it may have turned into a grand distraction where you're unable to create space for friendship. You're losing yourself to productivity. You're losing that concept of being “just me.” Ok, so let me put this on me – when I can just be myself is the times when I'm just being Victoria. Just Victoria, not Sensei Victoria, not boss Victoria, not teacher Victoria. not sexy Victoria or girlfriend Victoria or lover Victoria, but instead just me. And here’s the kicker: Just Me = Friend Victoria.

It's so funny that as we give of ourselves in a purpose-driven business, as someone who is a heart-centered entrepreneur, we give of ourselves so much to our businesses, that have to remember that we can't sacrifice the space in our hearts around creating friendship. This week in particular – and I'm hearing the oracle cards beginning to call in the energy – it's time to create space for friendship. How you do that is by not working, and not being with your romantic partner. There's a You outside of those two things. I would throw in there not being a parent, child or sibling, too.

Who are you when you are Not full of the responsibilities that you've piled on your plate, and are you still connected to that version of yourself? If not, this is the week in particular where you allow for that space. If it's creating art, if it's exercise – but exercise for the pleasure of it, the enjoyment of it, not for the work of it, say, if you're a personal trainer. Be kind to yourself. It's time to get back to the you that's underneath all of your responsibilities. Because, when you allow for that, when you empty yourself and come to that version of yourself, that's when you're capable of attracting platonic friends.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling out; the deck that we're journeying with all month is the Romance Angels Oracle Cards deck by Doreen Virtue, if you want to go pick that up for yourself. So, Romance Angels, what do we need to know right now about attracting more friendship? Not romantic relationships and not professional relationships. ...Oh yes, this is gorgeous:

Soul Mate. Yes, this is your soulmate. Here's where we're going to leave off for this week. This is so powerful.

The more that you can connect to your own inner essence, the more you can recognize other people who can do that for you as well. It's the real friends of ours who, regardless of who we're with romantically and regardless of what we're doing professionally, are just so happy to be together with us as we are. Maybe as you're watching this video you’re remembering a friend of yours who you know and love dearly, or maybe you’re thinking of someone who has fallen out with their friend – if so, hit the share button and send this blog to them.

Or maybe you are someone who doesn’t believe can’t yet conceive that this level of intimacy and connection is possible outside of a romantic relationship: to have people who are platonic friends, meaning non-romantic, nonsexual-relationship-based friends but who are your soulmate. I come from a certain area in New Jersey where we call that being a “ride or die” where they are down for you. Meaning, they are a wholly and completely committed to you as you are for who you are. It’s a beautiful thing.

And this comes first from connecting to that within yourself, loving and approving of your own soul, your own essence. Then, being around people who can recognize that essence in you too – once you have, yourself – and showing up for these beautiful, soulful people, deeply. By the way, my guides are adding that there may be people who are like that already around you, but because of law of distraction, you've been so distracted by the business or distracted by your romantic relationship that's going on right now, that these people who absolutely love you no matter what, may have been taken for granted or pushed to the side by you.

If that’s the case, make time this week to show them love and celebrate them. Spend quality time, acknowledge them and recognize them as the soul mates in your life.

What comes up for you hearing all this? Comment below, or send me an email back team@victoriawhitfield.com around what comes up for you in creating more platonic relationships, filling that platonic loneliness that you may be feeling.

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Make time for being “Just Me” again – no work, no family, no lovers, no agenda, no helping, no requirements or “shoulds” – nothing to do other than just being me.

Reconnect with that part of yourself, and when you do, remember the people who have loved you and been your friend in your life when you were being Just Me; friends who loved you just as you are.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Tired of the same old routine?

Heavy news stories got you down?

Find yourself fighting off loneliness and depression?

You have WAY more power than you think, you Unicorn, you!

Negative energy is nothing compared to your secret superpower — FLIRTING!

Watch this week's 9-minute love letter to shine you joyful light in an otherwise dark, cold world!

"I'm tired of my routine."

Have things been feeling a bit grey and boring lately?

Things can get very heavy as we're focused on work, or other people, and our relationships, or as being the anniversary of us having lost someone, etc.

Source is sending some inspiration your way for this week in particular.

It is: flirt with the world! You ready? Let's do this, okay.

Flirting, and this is not necessarily, like, "Okay, we're going to get all in everybody's pants." No, no, no, no.

Flirting is simply having fun and making light. Making light, where there was darkness, making light. Lightening the mood, having a sense of humor, silliness, adventure, cheekiness, right?

Flirt with the world. Perhaps it's that mid-day slump, and you're feeling low on energy. It's time to do something silly. The way that you flirt with the world is not even necessarily with anybody else.

Guess what? It's with you first. How in the world does one flirt with themselves? We could hold up a mirror and we're like, "Oh, my. Look at you."

Whatever makes you want to laugh, or if it's making a silly face, right? Something that makes you want to laugh. Bring the joy to your life. Don't wait for someone else to bring it to you.

Here's the thing that can make relationships, whether they're intimate or platonic go really, dead, boring, whether it's your relationship with another person, or even your business, right.

You wait for the other half of the relationship, right? The business, the person, the child, the animal, et cetera, to always be on, or you'll lean on and depend, the other side, to be flirtatious, fun, silly, adventurous, and spontaneous, right? We'll fall into that kind of a routine.

Come on! Pick the ball up! You can do this. Stacey Martino and Paul Martino who are at relationshipdevelopment.org rock, and they really master on sharing about relationships, and bringing the spark, or as they call, the s-flirt, back to our relationships. Go check them out, by the way. Have so much love and respect for them.

This week in particular, it's about you, however. Bring the flirt in you back. Flirt with your reflection.

Flirt with people at the party. Just make jokes and laugh. Try yourself out. You really can.

Now, I'm getting some kickback in the energy right now, I don't know who is watching this and being like, "Girl, you done gone off the deep end", or, "I don't know how to flirt." If you have a sense of humor, or if you've ever laughed at something, yeah, you can flirt.

It's having a sense or the ability to laugh at yourself, and engage, and be spontaneous, and bring that energy out. Bring the joy. How do you bring joy? If you were to flirt with someone. It's not just like a, "Da da da". No, no, no. This is not seduction flirting. This is just having fun and being silly. Another way that you can find yourself flirting if you're not used to it, is maybe with a baby.

You're sort of, "Hey, sweetheart! How are you! Oh, my gosh, look at you." The weird, gooey things that we do to those poor children, and puppies, and kittens, et cetera. Whatever makes you laugh. This week in particular, though, you are being called on by source to make light. I'm not just talking about making light and joking about a situation, even if it's quite heavy, right, but to bring light as a light worker.

Know this: Bring joy to you life; don't wait for it. Have fun and make light where there was darkness. Shine bright!

That is who you are. You're here to bring more joy, more love, more healing, more connection into this planet. It's up to you. Don't wait for somebody else to do it. Calm down, Victoria.

The guides are about to jump through the camera and say, "Wake up!", right? For now, we're going to go to the oracle cards, because they're, "toot, toot", tucking on my shirt. Our angels, angel therapy by Doreen Virtue, one of 19 decks here at the Dojo.

Let's hear it. Let me pull out the cards here.

Angels, what do we need to know about flirting with the world this week? Why in the world is source telling us to do that?

Ooh la la! This is excellent! Ready?

Shield yourself.

This is pretty ninja, I didn't know that they were going to pull that out. We're coming from, like, the fifth dimension now, fifth level conversation right now. Protect yourself from harsh or fear-based energies by envisioning a cocoon of healing light surrounding you.

Here's where we're going to leave off.

Bringing light, making light, flirting with the world, and just deciding to have fun all by yourself, with yourself, is actually an advanced form of energetic protection.

This is psychic self defense, on the sneaky side. My students and I, we have this expression, we call it "the sneaky reiki" that we do in the background. That's actually one of the sneaky reiki, this under the radar techniques for actually shielding your energy from negativity, is actually bringing joy and bringing light.

Raising the vibrations. Start with you first. Flirt with yourself. Enjoy yourself as if you were someone that you were flirting with, who you really liked.

Blessed be if you're someone who is not exactly comfortable with yourself, but pretend that you're hot to trot, and you're the funniest thing on the planet, and you're going to laugh at whatever in the heck you're about to say next. Try it on for size. Do an experiment, right?

Don't commit, fine. Don't commit, just test, see if you like it, and notice how your vibration raises, and you end up actually rising above all the Krusty Krab negativity that could be floating around you. It'll just, "whoop", repel off.

Send me an e-mail back, comment below, what do you think? Have you tried flirting with the world around you, and yourself? What was the result?

Was it an awkward, hot, delicious mess? Was it a delicious everything?

I would love to hear your stories, oh my gosh. Please spread light, because you are a light worker. Subscribe on YouTube, so that you get your love letters first every week, and from one light worker to another, ready for it?

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Decide that you are allowed to share humor and raise the vibration of any situation.

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Feeling alone on your healing journey?

Tired of feeling like you're the only one fighting the good fight lately?

Frustrated that you can't seem to do it all on your own anymore?

Welcome to being human!

It takes stamina to go the distance in realizing your goals and purpose, and the time has come for you to Find Your Tribe.

Watch this week's 7-minute video to learn the power of your Tribe and how to find them!

"How do I find my tribe?"

This week, Source is saying for you to find your tribe.

This is the week you've got to commit to finding your tribe and really interacting with them regularly.

The reason why is actually quite interesting.

I receive visions often when I'm channeling and when I'm asking for guidance, and when I asked "Well, why do you want everyone to find their tribe this week?"

The image that I got in the energy was a flock of geese in V formation.

What in the world? Oh my gosh! What a vision.

I love shamanic work.

I love learning more about what animals mean and I understand from shamanic studies that goose has meaning of tradition, community, creativity, and the sense of strength in numbers.

However, Source said, "No, read a little bit further." So I'm going to share an excerpt with you explaining specifically the power of geese being in a V formation:

"As a bird flaps, a rotating vortex of air rolls off each of its wingtips. These vortices mean that the air immediately behind the bird gets constantly pushed downwards, and the air behind it and off to the sides gets pushed upwards. If another bird flies in either of the upwash zones, it gets free lift. It can save energy by using the air flow created by its flock-mate."

Here's where the channeling comes in for you.

You need to find your tribe because apparently, your Spirit has a vision for you in this lifetime.

A big vision of somewhere that you have got to go in this lifetime.

It's whatever your passion, your purpose, your vision is.

And in order for you to go the distance, it's important that you have your tribe flying with you -- that you have flock-mates, providing that lift.

Know this: Finding your Tribe of #support gives you spiritual stamina to realize your purpose. #team http://bit.ly/1psUg2n @SenseiWhitfield

The "upwash" metaphorically is them going in the same direction as you and is that added benefit of being around people who are casting off an "upwind" or inspirational momentum from their own work.

Every bird that's behind each one of them, every goose that's behind each successive goose in the V formation, is working easier and easier because they are flying together.

The one in front is just a few geese ahead and tearing through more wind resistance and because of that, and all the geese that come behind her are able to go in that same direction with increasing ease.

Now, there's never one right behind each goose. They're all on their own path flying together.

This is such a powerful, powerful multi-layered spiritual image that Source is sending to you.

Apparently, this week particular: you need to find your tribe so that you can go the distance in realizing your purpose.

How do you find your tribe?

You look for other geese -- other people like you -- who are heading in the direction of your dream.

They may have a similar dream. Their "genetics of belief" resemble yours, if I may say it that way.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards calling in the energy this week.

Furthermore, the purpose of finding your tribe is so that you can go the distance because of all of their combined VORTEXES lift you up and make your journey to realizing your purpose is that much easier.

The Oracle card deck that's coming in the energy is "Healing With The Angels" by Doreen Virtue. Her very first deck.

So while I'm shuffling, I'm asking, "Guides, why? Why do we need to find our tribe -- or even how?"

 

 

Your #oracle card for the week is "Nature" and the #message is to make time to spend outdoors or bring more #natural plants, sounds and energy indoors. Full reading on #youtube at https://youtu.be/0Ib4ckchN1Y ???????????? #health #business #angel #inspiration #balance #decor #spring #green

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Nature. 

Wow. This is where we're going to leave off this week.

The guides are saying you're going to recognize your tribe by others who are more natural.

You'll feel natural being around them.

You'll feel natural talking to them about your passions, your vision, your creativity and they will have a similar nature to you. Look to their nature.

Don't so much listen to the words that they're saying. It's about listening emphatically.

I know you're capable of doing it.

Send me an email back, comment below, tell me what's coming up for you.

Are you looking for your tribe?

Could it be The Dojo Tribe here?

I'm so happy and grateful that we have a tribe here; that our combined vortexes of experience are lifting everyone up so that we can go the distance in realizing our communal dreams.

I am sending you so much love and positive energy. I'll see you next week.

Subscribe on YouTube so you could catch your love letter every Sunday in your email box. See you then.

See you next time. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Are you sensitive to others' emotions and energy as an Empath?

Wondering why you keep attracting negative, dramatic, abusive or untrustworthy people?

Frustrated that your friends, family, clients or coworkers are so negative and draining?

The Law of Attraction states that "like attracts like;" therefore if you're surrounded by negative people and situations, then they're attracted to your Shadow's desire for negativity.

It's possible that although you're a positive person who loves helping people, you may be unconsciously feeding on negative energy to create connections and feel significant.

Watch this 9-minute video to learn how to stop your unconscious self-sabotage habit of feeding on negativity now!

"Why do I keep attracting the same kinds of people who are takers?"

So what's really going on, then?

Could it be that we as lightworkers and empathic, sensitive individuals are naturally drawn to -- and end up feeding on, or making deep connections based on -- negativity?

Are we hardwired to focus on negative things and commiserate by sharing being in that vortex of negative appreciation with others?

We create a vortex of negative appreciation, by the way, by appreciating all the things that we mutually hate, or are mutually annoyed by, or mutually want to get rid of.

How can we shift from a negative focus to a positive focus in how we relate to others?

Source keeps asking this question, "do you feed on negative energy?"

In the energy, the Spirits are saying, "We're asking this question as always to open you up to what could possibly be going on."

Source always brings something up for a reason:

Because you might be stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage right now.

This is especially to certain people in the tribe who are wondering: 

"Why do I keep attracting the same kinds of people who are takers?"

"Why do I keep attracting people who dump on me? What did I ever do to deserve this?"

"Did I do something bad in another lifetime that I'm paying for, that all of this crap keeps happening to me?"

Or "Why do I keep attracting this?"

"This" being a situation that is a challenge or feeling stuck or the same pattern happening.

If you're noticing that there are loop cycles in your life, Source is asking this rhetorical question to help you sensitize to what your role is in creating this situation.

You could be feeding on negativity as a way to connect or a way to engage.

We've been taught that focusing on negativity together brings a sense of togetherness, or where a mutual frustration is a strong bond of vulnerability.

Unfortunately though, this sense of togetherness is based in a state of victimhood and fear.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards now calling in the energy to really help us understand what can we do then to shift our state from feeding on negativity -- unconsciously unaware feeding on negativity -- by the way.

So many people are going to watch this video and be like, "That's not me." But keep a separate eyeball out for YOUR message.

I know you have 2 eyes -- I have 3. 😉 If you're watching this you probably have 3, too. But everybody needs to grow another one right now -- LOL!

Specifically, be on the extra eyeball lookout for "Am I feeding on negativity to feel significant and have a meaningful life? Am I relating to people and really forming bonds based on a negative focus vortex of appreciation?"

The Oracle cards deck that came through in the energy this week is the Archangel Oracle Cards. High vibrational beings, archangels are.

It's good that we speak to archangels and really channel their energy, because we need an uplift, we need something to pull us up energetically so that we can best understand how to shift our states around kicking the addiction to feeding on negative energy.

When using oracle cards, shuffling the cards and allowing spirit to come through is essential, and saying "Archangels of communication and guidance, please come to us and let us know how can we shift our states to stop focusing on negativity."

This one really is standing out right now -

Remember who you are.

Archangel Michael is coming through for us. He's pretty reliable.

He is such an incredible, bright presence, the most commonly spoken to and spoken of archangel out of all of the pantheon of archangels.

Archangel Michael is saying:

 

You are a powerful, loving and creative child of God. You are very loved.

What I'm first hearing Archangel Michael saying in the energy is that when you remember who you really are, you decide to see from that point of view.

There is so much more to your energy as well as all of our energies than just focusing on negative vibrations, negative occurrences, drama.

If you remember who you really are as a child of God and as a divine presence yourself, you wouldn't allow anyone to dump on you.

If you really are a sacred being and you step into that truth as being a sacred being, that's out of the question.

Know this: Your #body, your #life and your #mind are hallowed ground. Act like it. #love #tbt @SenseiWhitfield

You don't dump on hallowed ground, no, you wouldn't even think twice of that.

Hallowed ground is a protected, sacred space.

Honoring yourself as a spiritual and sacred being must come first for you to shift your state away from feeding on and attracting negativity.

The reading continues:

 

You are made in the image and likeness of your Creator, so you embody all aspects of your divine nature.

Your inner divine light is pure and bright in truth, and no mistakes can undo God's handiwork of true perfection in you.

Don't be afraid of your power, your magnificence or your wisdom. When you succeed you inspire others.

When you change your life so that it's more aligned with your interests, you inspire others.

Be powerful, be magnificent. This is who you really are.

If you notice that you are feeding on negative energy -- and most energyworkers, empaths and lightworkers, by the way, do -- be kind to yourself.

Whether or not you're aware of it right now, I want you to be sensitive to the fact that you're at a very high probable risk of feeding on negative energy.

When you notice this, realize that this is happening because you're not giving yourself permission to be powerful and magnificent.

Instead, we're playing small. We're afraid of our power.

That's why, rather than stepping into a positive focus -- no matter what is happening in front of you because the universe is rearranging itself in your best interests at any given moment -- you shrink.

Rather than stepping into that greatness, no, we'll fall back on social convention of "Oh yeah, it's a terrible day out" or "Oh yeah, that person is really awful, let me tell you about her..."

You go down a notch energetically -- we all do, because we're afraid to stick out and be bright with a positive focus, and feeding ourselves only positive energy and focusing only on positive energy.

Even if other people come up and try to make heart connections with you based in fear and victimhood, you can do this.

It is absolutely possible.

And no, it's not naieve. There's more to being positive than being dumb or sticking one's head in the sand. Just because you're choosing to focus on the negative DOES NOT mean you're being "realistic."

Be kind to yourself if you're afraid to go this route.

You can do it. Remember who you really are.

Right now I'm sending you a tremendous amount of love. I see you as you are, as a divine and spiritual being, and I'm sending you big hugs and kisses. 

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Act like your time, body and mind are absolutely sacred spaces; treating her with the same level of reverence as you would a church or temple. She is already significant and meaning-filled without the focus on stories of drama and negativity -- no matter how true they are.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Feel like you're surrounded by negativity and don't know why?

Known as "the positive one," do people always go to you for support, telling you their whole life's story -- even as total strangers?

Love helping people in need, giving advice, solving problems and seeing lives change because it gives you a sense of purpose?

This message is for all you awesome Mr. and Ms. Fix-It's out there who are feeling exhausted by all the negative energy they're called to heal.

Spirit is sending you a loving warning: though your purpose is to be a Lightworker who spreads healing light and love on the planet, be careful that you are not feeding on the negativity along the way.

Watch the above 6-minute video to see if YOU feed on negative energy and not even know it!

"Am I drawn to negativity because I need to fix it?"

This week, Source is asking do you feed on negative energy?

It's interesting that we're asking you this in particular, because most of the people in the TRIBE who watch the Love Letters, if not all the people in our TRIBE, are sensitive to negative energy.

We know that the overwhelming answer, initially, is going to be "No! No-no. I am clearing my life of negative energy. The last thing that I want around me is negative vibe people, negative events, negative news, negative food, negative thoughts, feelings, or any kind of negative vibes. Get it away! Cooties!" Right?

This is the equivalent of Source asking you "Oh, do you eat cooties as your primary source of nutrition every day? Do you like cooties?"

No! Nobody likes cooties. No, of course not.

But the Energy is asking this question more as a rhetorical question.

Let's explain. In our culture, and in most cultures, a point of connection between people, a socially acceptable point of connection between people and getting to know others.

Making friends. Bonding with loved ones. Or, understanding each other on similar levels, on philosophical or political vibrations.

A commonly acceptable way to make connections is through negativity.

It could be focusing on something negative that happened in the news recently. Or, sharing something negative - sharing is a powerful connector.

Sharing things like "this really annoying person did this." Or, "this crappy thing happened to me and I'm so frustrated about it I just want to be able to share how crappy things are."

Or even at work, when we're coming together for a meeting, we may relate to our coworkers by saying and "Oh yeah, the coffee here is always terrible." "Oh I know, right? It's just so bad."

Know this: #Focus on the #negative, & you'll get more of it. Go figure. #Choose to speak #life today! #takecharge2016 #spreadlove

This sense of making connections according to negative energy doesn't just stop there, Source is saying.

On top of that, very positive, loving, open, sensitive and intuitive people who are givers at heart -- called "Lightworkers" -- are givers in response to the tremendous amount of negative energy that they are surrounded by.

However, we Lightworkers tend to have what's called a bit of a "savior complex" or "martyrdom addiction."

What does this look like?

Well, what this looks like in the energy, or in our behavioral patterns moreover, is that when people are in trouble or they're emotionally overwhelmed, or things are difficult for them, or they're dramatic -- we're drawn to that.

We're drawn to that negative vibration to resolve it, as if we are in charge of making everyone and everything happy.

We assume we are responsible, as the positive lightworker beacons of light that we are, to eradicate all negativity and make sure everyone is healthy, happy and comfortable.

Because of that, we're drawn to negativity.

But this assumption is coming from your Shadow side.

Now, Source is saying let's take a look this week in particular at your energy and really ask ourselves "Am I drawn to negativity because I NEED to fix it? Because I think I know better? Or because I think can help?"

Ask yourself, "is this the way that I relate to people, listening to and absorbing their troubles, and really letting them be in a vortex of negative focus with me?" 

A.K.A: "Do I let people dump on me so they feel better? And so I can feel useful, significant and connected to them?"

As if you're some sort of an energetic trashcan.

If you're an energetic trashcan, then you just catch everybody else's problems because you're here to listen, here to love and to heal, but it's because you're drawn to negativity. You're drawn to cooties.

You don't have to do that.

You don't have to be a moth to the flame of negativity in life, because guess what happens when that moth finally meets the flame? We get burned.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Notice when you catch yourself trying to make someone happy by focusing on negativity with them, or letting them dump on you.

When you do, ask yourself: "Wait... Why am I doing this?"

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Overwhelmed by other people's energy lately?

Feeling overworked because you can't say "no" when other people ask you to do them a favor?

Scared that you're headed for burnout?

You can release yourself from this vicious cycle.

It's time to stop enabling other people's victim behavior, and let them start saving themselves for a change.

Watch the above 8-minute video to let go of managing other people's drama!

"I don't have to play this game anymore."

I'm hearing the Oracle cards calling in the energy right now.

This week, in particular, Source is telling you to be on the lookout for where are you allowing excessive energy for people to stomp all over you.

Or allowing them to bulldoze over your sense of personal calm with their emotions. Or their work - you're taking it and putting on your back from theirs. Transferring it to you.

They have a wonderfully low tolerance for how much work, or how much emotion, or how much silence in themselves they're willing to tolerate.

"Oh, I don't have to carry the work, you'll take it. Great. I don't have to sort through my emotions and my problems, you will. Great. I don't have to hold all of my thoughts within me and analyze them myself. Great you will."

Dump, dump, dump.

The only reason why you're catching the dump is because you're automatically saying, "Okay."

There's an agreement there.

This is not to shame or guilt you, by the way.

Source is saying you have all the power in this situation.

Drama and dramatic situations often can convince you, with all the shiny lights, bells and whistles of dramatic emotions, painful words, or frustrating circumstance, all those shiny shiny lights can distract you and make you think that, "I'm a victim. I am subject to what's happening to me. There's no way out."

That is not true.

You always have all power. This is a free will universe. You can choose to change your situation at any time, any time.

When you realize you're face deep in someone else's junk - face deep in their drama, their emotion, their story, their work - when you're at the office and you're doing way more than what your pay grade says that you're doing, just say this to yourself: "I don't have to play this game anymore," and step out of the drama sandbox they're playing in.

All right, get up. Stand up. Stand up and just say: "I'm not playing this game anymore." Step out.

The chills. You can do it. It really is that easy.

It really is that easy.

When you decide, the entire Universe changes. Why? Because the whole Universe herself was created by a decision.

Know this: You can #change your life; you just need to decide. Claim it: "My life is #drama free!"

This week's oracle card is "Divine Timing." Now is the perfect moment for you to act on your inspirations.

You can change your mind and change your entire situation, your entire life now.

This video is coming to you in perfect timing they're also saying.

The doors are open while you walk through them with us, the Angels, by your side.

Don't delay or procrastinate, as all the ingredients are ripe for your success.

They're saying right now, you have everything you need to shift your state right now. Right now. Literally, right now.

Everything and everyone is on your side supporting your positive outcome.

The energy I'm hearing is saying sometimes we convince ourselves that everyone is against us, that the world doesn't want us to succeed, that others around you are not on your level and it makes it very adversarial.

Granted, not everyone is on your vibration and you can't please everybody, but that doesn't mean you have to get tied up in that.

Let it go. If they're not on your level, let them go. You don't even have to think twice.

It's the same as if you ever worked in a multi-floor building.

If you're working on the 12th floor how often do you think about people on the 11th floor on a day-to-day basis?

Those of you out in New York City or out of Houston Texas, big tall buildings, how often do you think, "Well, I wonder what people on the 3rd and 4th floor are doing right now? Gosh, they're beneath me. Bwah haha har!"

No, you're just on another floor. That floor has nothing to do with you.

Let them be there. They're just living their lives one day at a time and the best the can, the same as you are.

Be kind to yourself. You don't even have to get involved with that drama.

Sending you so much love, confidence and transformative energy.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Declare that today is "Drama-Free Day" -- it's your own national holiday.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Tired of dramatic people draining and hijacking your days?

Have you had it up to here with people dumping their problems on you?

Don't you just wish things could be easy, rather than putting out fires all the time?

This Love Letter is for all my awesome Mr./Ms. Fix-It's out there who are ready to put down their sword and cape.

It's about time we let other people clean up their messes and deal with their own drama on their own time!

Watch the above 8-minute video to start kicking drama out of your life for good!

"I'm tired of all the drama."

This week the phrase that Source is sending for us to talk about is, "I'm tired of all the drama."

Is that you?

Are you just sick and tired of things just being over the top?

Tired of being overwhelmed, tired of dramatic people, tired of everybody dumping their problems on you, and then you having to have to fix everything?

They think you're Mr. or Mrs. Fix-it, and it's exhausting. Is that you?

Everything has to be explosive.

Our relationships, our whirlwind romances, our arguments are explosive. Our exercise routines are maxed out, over the top, extreme.

And then we wonder why we're so tired, or so distracted lately.

Source is saying that distraction is another form of exhaustion.

It's imbalanced.

We're coping with a sense of fatigue and a need for rest and re-centering by avoiding it with distractions on cellphones, distracted, wandering conversations.

Distraction is a lack of centeredness.

When you are centered, being centered is different than being grounded, by the way. When you are centered you are in alignment. You are focused.

Being focused and in alignment is entirely different than being grounded.

For this topic in particular, Source is saying the reason why you're experiencing so much drama, or people are bringing you so much drama, is that this drama is a spiritual symptom manifestation of your lack of centeredness.

We're out of alignment, so in order to feel our center and in order for us to be motivated to respond, things have to shout at us at a certain level. Hence, the shouty drama energy.

For example, the Energy is bringing up a vision right now of some of the members of the tribe who may be watching, but have issues with their throat chakra.

When we have issues with our throat chakra, we cannot speak up for ourselves.

Put that person into a corner, however, or really egg them on and increase the stress level around them, box them in, and then they will lash out.

They will lash out and have no problem bringing out the stinger to defend their energy, but only when severely threatened. They'll blast people and things out of the way, because there's been so much expression held within and recoiled.

When we're holding within, recoiling and winding up, we're out of alignment because it's causing us to be reactionary, the Energy is saying.

But remember to be kind to yourself.

Know this: If you're knee-deep in #drama right now, put down your pride & decide to not solve other people's problems. Say it: "I'm done!"

If the drama is all around you, you're immersed in it.

And when you're knee-deep in drama, the only reason why that is happening is because Source notices that you are a little hard of hearing, so She's turning up the dial on the water that you're soaking in.

Imagine this. You're in a pot of water, and things are getting hotter, because you're on a stove. Now, at a certain temperature, you're cool, you're feeling all right.

But after a while, as She turns up the heat, you begin to notice it's getting warmer and warmer.

Source is waiting for you to jump out of the pot because you're not supposed to be boiled there. You're still alive and still conscious. She's not trying to boil you, but when are you going to decide to get out of the pot?

So, she continues turning up, turning up, turning up the heat and you say, "Okay, it's getting really hot in here. I'm starting to feel a little bit overwhelmed, but I can take it. I can take it."

Pride, ego, conditioning says, "I can take it. I can take it. I can stay and fix the water, and stop it from boiling all around me, and boiling me."

The boiling water and the temperature represent the amount of drama and agitation you're experiencing in life.

Source will turn that up, until you're fed up and screaming "All right! I'm done!" and out of the pot you jump.

So what's your tipping point? What's your boiling point?

We only experience the level of drama in life that we agree to.

In other words, you allow drama.

We are allowing this excessive, annoying, frustrating, overwhelming energy and interactions into our life.

We allow them mainly when we are out of alignment with what matters most. If we are out of alignment with what matters most to us, we cannot access the full clarity, the full focus of our feelings.

We're pinched. Think of a pinched nerve. When the nerve is pinched in your body, the feeling there is numb. It is out of alignment, not blocked because it's just really squished there.

You're not blocked, you're just pinched.

It's not like your energy turned off, per se. There is still some sort of feeling there, but it pales in comparison to say the completely unpinched side.

Let someone adjust you -- or even better, you can adjust yourself -- so the energy, the warmth, the sensation, the feeling returns to that entire area of your body, and that entire area of your life.

Stay tuned for part 2 of this topic, coming next week...

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Decide that today's the day you'll stop participating in other people's problems and drama.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Is it hard for you to take compliments because you doubt people's sincerity?

Resistant to others offering to help you, thinking you'll appear weak or that you "should" do it all yourself?

Avoiding calling back that great contact you just met or even that friend you miss, and don't know why?

Though we often ask Spirit for abundance--not just of money, but also of friendship, love and health, etc.--we can be resistant to receiving what we asked for when the opportunity finally comes our way.

Believe it or not, it's because we're actually afraid of getting what we want. Yikes!

Watch the above video to start learning to receive abundance without fear!

"Be careful what you wish for--you just might get it."

We've all heard that phrase before.

It sums up the inherent fear we all have about receiving abundantly.

With that popular phrase, we learn to avoid abundance because we learn that 1) our own judgement is not trustworthy, and 2) life will be harder when we get more of x, y or z. So don't bother.

Let's continue to look at this limiting, negative mindset for a bit--the syndrome of "why ask for more?" or "why bother?"

Isn't it just "safer" to live on crumbs of love, ghosts of friendship, and paycheck to paycheck?

Rich people are mean anyway, people who have lots of friends or who claim they are "happily married" are fake, and being healthy is impossible because our genetics and the food and pharmaceutical companies are stacked against us because of a grand conspiracyzzzzzzzzzz...

YIKES! Fear is a slippery slope of sludge and slimey energy. Yum.

Didn't you enjoy that sludge slide? Bet you were ready for more, right? LOL!

We all have patterns in our energy to create excuses to justify not asking for more, dreaming bigger, taking risks and imperfect action, being vulnerable and making mistakes--basically all the good stuff that makes life, well, REAL.

These patterns of thought and belief aren't there because they're reality, they're there for your protection.

Feeling resistant and fearful in the face of growth is just your Ego letting you know your out of bounds; She is trying to protect you from Her enemy: the Unknown.

You can always find Love in fear. You just have to look with intention.

To see the Love in your over-flagellant Ego, Spirit is saying to picture it this way:

Imagine you are driving a top-of-the-line luxury car on a very long road trip. The car has all the bells and whistles, including something called "Lane Assist" -- that new technology that keeps your car from drifting out of the lane on a highway, to prevent collisions.

Now, you've been using Lane Assist with the Cruise Control on a particularly long stretch of highway that you had to go. But the GPS says your exit is up next, so you begin to switch lanes. Since you forgot to shut off the Lane Assist, all the alarms go off saying "warning! you're drifting out of the lane!" because the computer doesn't know why you're turning.

The warning alarm was to protect you, but it no longer applies now.

And the same applies here with your Ego flaring up.

The Ego sends resistance and fear up to warn you that you're departing from who you WERE, because She isn't "programmed" to notice who you ARE right now or who you are about to BECOME.

Your Ego is designed to preserve you (as you WERE) and protect you through sending warnings in the form of emotional avoidance and resistance.

Giving in to this resistance and avoidance though reinforces your status quo; if you are happy with that, great! But if not, then we need to allow things to change.

The key is to recognize when you are resisting or avoiding something, especially if it's a good thing.

Your Ego doesn't resist just the new or possible bad stuff, She resists the new or possible good stuff too, because She's defending you against the Unknown because She believes (read: you harbor a limiting belief) that all Unknown is Unsafe.

Know this: Affirmation: I am open to receiving more love, truth and support. It is safe for me to be abundantly happy. #gratitude #success #love

Notice when you are resisting receiving a new good thing or taking a new good action; once you notice your resistance, you become conscious of your Ego overreacting, and that gives you the ability to choose how you feel and what's your next move.

The more you consciously choose how to feel and what to do, the more abundance you'll receive.

In truth, the Universe is ready and willing to deliver what you want to manifest--more love, friendship, money, health, free time, etc.--but She needs to see that you're conscious enough to choose to receive it.

The key, however, is to start small: notice resistance to small good things, like compliments, for example.

If you reject, repel, avoid or refuse to accept compliments, it's two things: 1) your Ego is overprotecting because she's repelling positive feedback, and 2) you're not conscious enough to choose to receive positive energy, even on a small scale.

Source will never send more than you can bear. So if you can't bear to receive positive, abundant energy on a small scale, she won't send it for bigger things--like love, money, cars, etc.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows one fun and easy action you can take to fast-track your ability to receive abundance without fear, now!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Start small with receiving abundance.

When someone pays you a compliment or offers to help you, pause, smile, and simply say "Thank You."

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want to let go and receive but don't know where to start? Tell me!

Give me a call at 732-903-8573 or click on the blue BOOK NOW button to start your healing journey, today!

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