This is the fifth and final week of our exploration of vulnerability, cultivating our relationship with being vulnerable and improving our ability to engage and open up in a positive way, maybe for the first time.

Now if this is the first video that you're seeing in this series, make sure that you hit pause, go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com and start from part one, so that you are grounded in this process. Without further ado, this week in particular for the fifth and final week of our discussion on vulnerability, my spirit guides have asked us to discuss vulnerable leadership.

Last week, we talked about the power of opening up as an empath to being vulnerable, so that we can better relate to and interact with the people and things that we care about in this lifetime. We talked about respecting our energy as empaths, but also not letting our sensitivity dominate us in this lifetime – claiming that as a power, rather than a disability – or be something that you're constantly afraid of or overly protecting yourself from. This week, however, we're going even farther into vulnerability as a power and applying it to leadership.

A wonderful role model of vulnerable leadership and someone who's a thought leader in this area, two people actually, I would have to say one is Simon Sinek and the other is Brene Brown. If you have not checked out their work, I highly recommend it. They have amazing, inspiring, empowering things to share with you around vulnerable leadership and how healing it is especially in the professional world.

The most painful thing that I've seen is how insensitive leadership destroys powerful teams that have become like family and overcome the most incredible odds together. These things that come from the top-down in corporate – restructuring, or layoffs, or whatever hot word they use to explain being insensitive to the needs and the preciousness of the relationships of the people that are working under them – it's incredible how destructive they can be.

I grew up watching my mother re-enter the workforce after 17 years as a homemaker to work for a certain corporation as a technical writer, and then a web developer, and coder for over 20 years. I remember as a kid going to their picnics and things and seeing all of these people that she worked with like my extended family, and feeling part of something bigger; seeing them laughing, and supporting one another. ...Then I also lived through, as a young woman, watching them be torn apart, seeing the stress, and the pain of those wonderful relationships being just torn apart, torn apart by restructuring or “re-orgs” as the company would say. I'm not going to say what company because I want to respect privacy here.

Maybe you've seen this happen in your family – your work family – or your corporation as well, this being torn apart by insensitive leadership, putting numbers before people, or putting self-protection first, which is something that we hinted at last week. Let's go into it this time for our final discussion: the toxic effects of putting self-protection before serving their community around us.

We can get protection-obsessed especially in the professional world because for some reason we allow money and numbers to make us paranoid and prioritize dollars and quotas, and metrics above people, relationships, health and mutual human respect. Be kind to yourself if this is something that you've witnessed happening and that you don't want to be a part of any longer. If only just for today, commit to being open as a leader. Commit to developing your ability to be vulnerable along with the people who you are leading.

Simon Sinek gives us a wonderful example of how to measure how open-hearted you are as a leader. Leaders, he says, are people who watch out for the people to the right and to the left of them. That is it. It has nothing to do with titles, what's on your business card, or what your website says, or how big your office is, or how big your bank account is, or not. It's who are you being on a moment-to-moment basis. In order to look out for, to take care of, the people to the left and to the right of you, you've got to be open to what's going on with them, rather than just what's going on with “Me” and making sure that I'm getting x, y, z done, and so on.

It is a mental acrobatic that you do at first to decide, “I'm going to be concerned, and open, and curious, and communicative with the people that are to the left and to the right of me. The people that are supporting me, I am going to support them. I'm going to be open to how do they feel right now. I'm going to ask them, ‘how are you feeling? Are you all right?’ and loving and supporting them in that.”

Coming from a space of your own center of love and support and not forgetting that you as a leader have needs and have feelings is also important, which is something that we also discussed last week, opening to the fact that I have feelings, too, as an Empath. As someone who supports others, I have feelings. I have needs, and they have got to be honored and respected by me first and then also the people that I'm sharing this life experience with.

Be kind to yourself if in trying to be a vulnerable leader, meaning someone who is present to and caring for the people who are in your care, you've sacrificed your own self-care. That is negative vulnerable leadership because it leaves you open to health problems, relationship problems, spiritual and emotion oppression, depression. Be kind to yourself. That leaves you negatively vulnerable.

How can we then as leaders, moreover as Healing Leaders (that's my term) on this planet, how can we open up to leading from the heart, leading with courage, and positive vulnerability? I’m curious, what does that look like? Positive, vulnerable leadership, is healing leadership. I would venture that it starts with healing self, first, and staying open to being present to those that are in our care, who are supporting us, who are following us, and share the same beliefs and vision that we have. We're all working together in one direction. At the same time, there's the person out in front who holds the vision, being the Visionary. --

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Are you healing? Are you present to yourself? Okay, if you are, you're doing your self-care, you're doing your spiritual nourishment, your physical nourishment and love. Good. And are you present to the people around you needing the same, just as much love, and approval, and support, and honor as you're showing yourself? Are they also learning how to do that for the people behind them as well?

Be a Healing Leader. It entails being open to being vulnerable, cultivating that ability to be vulnerable, but if only just for today, commit to being a healing leader by opening to being vulnerable in a positive and empowering way.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards like, "Hey, pick us!" It's Healing with the Angels oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue, her very first oracle cards deck that she ever made in her career. Angels, what do we need to know right now about stepping into healing leadership by embodying being positive, vulnerable leaders? ...This is so good, like I could literally do an entire summit on this, “listening.” Listening! This is so perfect. I love that in the picture, she's listening to her angels, and her angels are listening to her. I'm going to read, I don't really have to, but before I read I just want to tell you what I'm hearing from my spirit guides around listening.

The most powerful leaders I've ever followed in my own life have been profound listeners, profound. Having the courage to listen to your people as a leader is essential. God, She gave us two ears and one mouth. We've got to listen twice as much as we give directions and directives. Anyway, let’s start listening. Let me read:

Listening. You are in communication with your angels and the messages that you are receiving are very real indeed. Trust them. This card is a validation from your angels that you really are hearing them. You have been receiving repetitive messages through your feelings, dreams, visions, inner voice, or knowingness. Are you listening and trusting these messages? Are you following them? If you get an inclination to call someone, go somewhere, or read something, it's important to follow this guidance. By drawing this card, your angels ask you to give all your doubts or worries about divine guidance to them. Know that you truly are communicating with heaven and enjoy the conversations.

This is so perfect. Here's where we'll leave off for this entire series: Cultivating your listening sense. Your active listening is also cultivating positive vulnerability. If you are not comfortable listening to others, or you feel impatient, it's just because you haven't cultivated listening as a skill. It's just a skill that you're a little bit deficient in. If you just dedicate time and mental space to it, it gets easier and more pleasurable with time.

If you need to work on your listening skills, I highly recommend my book Natural Intuition Now. I take you step by step exactly through how to listen with presence and also why it is so important. The more that we become intuitive, open, vulnerable, healing and empowered leaders, the better our world becomes, the better the legacy of love becomes that we leave behind us in all the work that we do and all the people, all the lives that we touch.

Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfiled.com. What's coming up for you around this? Make sure you subscribe on YouTube, so that you get Love Letters first every single week. Tag someone who needs to hear this, and I will see you in the next one.

May you feel loved and safe to be your most brilliant self at work.

Please, enjoy the journey. Muah. See you soon. --

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This is week three of five in our exploration of vulnerability. Vulnerability being having the ability to be vulnerable in a positive and healing way.

Now if this is the first time you're seeing anything about this series, make sure you stop, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com, and start from part one so that you are grounded in your evolutionary process.

Without further ado, for week three of five, my guides have continued us on this journey through vulnerability, specifically looking now at the idea of positive vulnerability. Last week we talked about negative vulnerability and those spaces that gather in our hearts, exploring the negative space that open wounds that we have from past negative experiences. We tend to immediately associate with the word “negative” with “vulnerability”, right?

When we think of vulnerability we associate negative things with it. Webster's dictionary, we talked about that in week one, has that horrible definition of “being open to attack or wound”, rather than just being open and exposing one's self, whether in a good or a bad way.

So this week in particular though, we're advancing this concept of, alright, my vulnerable spaces have been in the past, you know, the first things that come to my mind are negative. But in fact, what about positive vulnerability? Have you ever had the experience of things going really well, but really, really well? Like “oh, my god, what's going to happen if things blow up? Oh no! I don't know what to expect next.” You know, when you start to freak out and say, “okay, he said yes. Oh, what do I do now? Oh no! This person cares about me.” Or “these people are excited to buy in to my program at the number that I told them the price was. What's happening?” Has this ever happened to you?

Have you ever had that positive vulnerable experience, and also clamped shut? Thinking, “oh no, no, no, no. This can't be real. There's something wrong going on here. No, no, no. This is not for me, this is probably for them”, right? Immediately avoiding and dodging and, oh my gosh, repelling all of the good that may be coming through. That’s a moment of positive vulnerability. People wanting to feature you, put you out on stage, share your story. And you wanting to run and hide like, “oh my god, no, no, I don't want to be seen, this is to scary, I'm not ready.” Freaking out when something really big and really good is about to happen.

Be kind to yourself if you've had that experience. That fear of success, or, here it comes, I'm going there:  that fear of arousal or even being in that orgasmic state, letting go. Having a positive, open loss of control. Or that even in just an emotional way, positive openly emotional loss of control. Being held by somebody when something awful has happened, just letting go and crying in their arms.

Recently a family member of mine passed away. And we were there for them through the whole natural death cycle at home. What an amazing honor. And I was challenged to be able, vulner-able enough, that when I went to visit my nephew, and when he wanted to hug me and hold me to console me because he loves me and wants to be supportive, being vulnerAble enough to see “oh, I have permission to let go and cry on his shoulder” rather than hold it all together to be strong aunt Victoria. So I did. And it was beautiful for both of us – haha, he cried too!

Such a healing, bonding, beautiful experience. And I'll put this on me, I've had so many times in my life where someone's telling me it's okay to cry. And I  said “no. I'm happy. I know it's okay to cry.” But I'm going to cry in the bathroom or in the car or late at night after everyone's asleep. I'm going to cry off-camera. Or not when I'm here supporting You. Or while I'm here performing, speaking, etc.

That positive vulnerability is a whopper. Can we be open to it when the opportunity comes? This week, in particular, my guides are saying there are opportunities on the table for you to open up and receive at another level, the level that you have been asking for. That level of emotional support. That level of financial breakthrough.

I'm thinking of one of my clients in particular: she had the financial breakthrough that she had prayed for years for right in front of her: five hundred thousand dollars. A potential investor was sitting right in front of her, ready to give five hundred thousand. She had done everything right, just as we talked about in our sessions, to attract abundance. But she freaked in the moment, thinking “oh it can't be for me, or oh my god I have to fix it, I got to find Someone Else for this person to donate to because it can’t be for me.” Out of fear and limiting beliefs, she clamped shut to and dodged the abundance – and gurl, I’ve done that so many times too. We all have! Being at peace with positive vulnerability is no joke.

Be kind to yourself if you're pushing away the good rather than being open to that next level breakthrough and moving through your upper limit. That is a positive vulnerable experience, and it is just as challenging and, dare I say, traumatic as a negative vulnerable experience.

Be kind to yourself. It's time to engage being open to it, maybe for the first time.

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Now I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. The deck that we've been journeying with all month is Healing With The Angels oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue, her very first oracle cards deck that she ever created. Angels, what do we need to know right now about our fear of success, and our positive vulnerability around getting that next-level manifestation? It's happening, so help us. Angels, what do we need to know right now around allowing positive vulnerability?

Forgiveness. Here we go! My guides are immediately saying this has to do with forgiving yourself for pushing away the good or not trusting that you can handle the good or the breakthrough or the next level of success. My guides are immediately saying this is about self-forgiveness. But you know, let's see what Doreen channeled about it in the book. She has really great writings.

Forgiveness. Let go of anger and resentment, and feel yourself healed. You don't need to forgive the action, just the person, so that you can be at peace. By drawing this card, your angels guide you to release anger and irritation. They realize that you may be perfectly justified in feeling angry. Yet they ask you to look at the high price you pay for being the vessel of anger. Forgiveness does not mean what you did is okay to me. It simply means I am no longer willing to carry around pain in response to your actions. When we hold unforgiveness in our hearts, we only punish ourselves after all. Your angels help you to release unforgiveness if you will just ask for their assistance.

This is beautiful. Beautiful. And this is where we're going to leave off for the week. We're talking about forgiveness for fearing our own positive vulnerability.

We're also engaging that trust that may have been broken before when we let ourselves down before in the past. Where things were going so well, and then, we missed the mark. It's okay to forgive yourself. Stop beating yourself up for missing the boat and being human, before. This vulnerability thing is a skill that takes time to learn, and we are open, if only just for now, to engaging it.

So I'm curious, what do you have to forgive yourself for? Around not being receptive to something, but you wish you would have been, and you regret it. Go ahead, send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com. Or comment below this blog wherever it's posted. We post everywhere!

Thanks to all of our subscribers on all social media and online platforms. Mwah. Big hugs and love. Make sure you, by the way, subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first, every week. Because that is where they are posted first. Tag a friend who needs to hear this message, who's having that positive vulnerable experience, and needs to just be kind to themselves in opening to being more receptive.

My prayer, my wish for you is that you may feel loved and safe. Especially at work, because that is half your waking life!

May you enjoy the journey to your soul's expansion. Mwah.

I'll see you next week. Bye for now.

(Original post 04/15/2019)

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Welcome to week two of five of our exploration of vulnerability.

And if, by the way, if this is the first video that you're seeing in the series and you're like, "Holy cow! Two of five?" Hit pause, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and start from part one so that you are grounded in this evolutionary process; you deserve to be grounded and centered in that.

Without further ado, for week two of five, the topic that my Guides have asked us to cover is negative vulnerability. Negative vulnerability, and let's talk about it because when we're opening up, or being willing to be open, which is what we talked about last week, dipping our toe into a sea of vulnerability as a positive in our lives, the first thing that pops up is all the times that we got burned trying to open up and love again, or to trust again, or to lean on somebody else.

I mean, especially if you're a strong one. If you are the leader, or if you are the teacher, the mentor, the healer, the guardian, the provider, the protector, and so on and so forth, or you're the nurturer. If you're Mama Bear and you try to lean on somebody, you’re thinking “it's already hard enough to ask for help, but now I actually need it, let me lean on you,” and then they crack beneath you. We remember that. That one stays in your head, the disappointment, right? And this week in particular is dedicated to invoking and honoring those points of broken trust, those points of grief and rage and disappointment.

My Guides are actually inviting us this week in particular to journal about it. Now, I know some of my clients are very private people and they're like, "You know I can't even write stuff down. I can't have feelings! What if someone sees my journal? My kids are going to crack it open, or they're going to pry it open and read all the things I'm talking about." Okay, if that’s you then go ahead, write it on toilet paper and flush it down the toilet. Or write it on a piece of paper and then throw that in the fireplace. But write it down, because journaling is about therapeutic awareness.

When we're invoking negative vulnerability and beginning to heal our relationship with it, we've got to be aware of what's there in the first place. But, if you really are stuck, thinking, "I can't flush it down the toilet. I can't throw it in the fireplace. I don't even know where to start, Victoria," here's what you need to do. You need to go ahead to victoriawhitfield.com/contact and book in for a call with me, so that we can work together, because what I do in my work every single day is hold space for people just like you to have and explore profound feelings, and I’d be honored to do that for you, too, if we are a right-fit to work together.

In order for you to get to your next level in life and business, whatever that may be, I'm hearing from my Guides to tell you that you have got to open up and release these old toxic wounds around negative vulnerability. These could be in business where you entrusted a big chunk of your marketing to someone who was supposed to help you, and it ended up costing you several times more than you invested in them. Been there, done that. Yeah, that's a wound. That's a loss, and I'll put it on me: every time I go to hire someone new, or ask for support, I have to honor that part of negative vulnerability in me now, that negative space.

Negative space is emptiness, by the way. What is negative space? It is emptiness; there is a hole that is left there in my energy, so that every time I go forward, now I have to honor that hole so that I am making a whole, with a W, a whole decision. I'm using all of my wisdom that I've won from the good times as well as from the times that I've been let down. We honor that. There's wisdom in your negative vulnerable experiences. So that's on the business side.

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Conversely, on the personal side, it’s a wound when you've trusted someone and given them your all, based a part of your identity on them and they take that trust and, whoops! They mishandle it, drop it and it breaks all over the floor, shatters your heart. Been there, done that myself, too. And so again, I'll put it back on me again - of course, this isn't about you or anyone that's watching, of course, no, it's all about me, right? I'll be vulnerable so that you don't have to, okay? ::wink:: By the way, sending so much love to whoever is watching or reading this right now. I'm choosing to be courageous so that I can walk with you through your healing. I hope that's all right. Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com if that speaks to you.

So, putting it on me, as I engage and open to new relationships, again there's that negative space of ooh, you know if I lean on this person, there's that expectation, that vacuum, that hole is there. I will wonder if I trust them, are they going to shatter my identity again? Naturally, that comes up, because it happened in the past. And so I have to honor that, and be conscious and respectful of that part of me, so that I have whole, with a W, relationships instead of relationships with holes, with an H, in them. Where are you at in honoring your vulnerable side? We're invoking that this week in particular.

I'm hearing the Oracle Cards, by the way, calling in the energy to support us in honoring those spaces of negative vulnerability that are within our heart, our body and our mind. All month we're journeying with Healing with the Angels Oracle Cards Deck by Doreen Virtue, the very first Oracle Cards deck that she ever created in her career. All right, Angels, what do we need to know right now about these spaces in our mind and body of negative vulnerability? ...Interesting. Study. Right off the bat I'm hearing that this is a self-study week, like studying yourself, an inward journey. At the same time I'll take a peek and read to you.

Study. Card meaning: You are engaged in learning and study right now. Your Angels guide you to take time to read, listen and grow. This card validates that this is an important time for you to learn new ideas or skills. Perhaps you feel guided to enroll in a class and this card confirms that feeling. If you are currently attending school, the Angels ask you to continue. Sometimes when we are in a learning phase of our life, we become anxious to test our new knowledge. Instead of learning, we want to apply what we've learned. However, timing is everything, and this card guides you not to rush into action. Instead, enjoy the process of learning. The growth that accompanies an educational experience is enjoyable if we remind ourselves to stay focused on the here and now moment.

This is a beautiful place to leave off for the week. You know, when we're engaging negative vulnerability, this is a skill that has got to be cultivated, right? And how beautiful that we are entering into this as a tribe. If you need more support around the study of engaging your emotional intelligence, your empathic empowerment, and healing your relationship with your negative vulnerability please go ahead to victoriawhitfield.com/contact. Hop on my calendar so that we can get you the support that you need.

Coming up in June this year, we have the Empowered Empaths Retreat, and that is all about healing and having that sense of emotional intelligence and mastery. So go ahead and check that out at victoriawhitfield.com/empoweredempathentrepreneurs. Go there to view more information on attending that live retreat, so that we join together as a tribe supporting one another in the study of engaging emotional intelligence, and receiving the learnings and the empowerment from the negative vulnerability experiences that we've had in the past.

I'm curious. What comes up for you hearing all this? Go ahead and send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com if you have questions, or stories that you want to share. And by the way, subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every single week.

May you feel loved and safe, especially at work because it's half your waking life, and please: Enjoy the journey. See you soon!

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Write in your journal about, or each out for help in opening up to, healing your relationship with your past experiences of negative vulnerability in life and business.

Become curious about the insights and wisdom for you in those dark times and feelings of emptiness.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Welcome to a whole new series of the Love Letters, and it's a five-part series, where we will be diving deep into a discussion of vulnerability.

I call it “VulnerAbility.” VulnerAbility is about healing our relationship with vulnerability, and opening up to receiving new levels of connection, intimacy, attraction, magnetism, healing our relationship with receptivity. And this is not just receptivity to wealth, say, if that's what you are manifesting, but moreover being open to receiving new opportunities. Being receptive to receiving love, receiving visibility, and receiving support, and help.

Be kind to yourself if vulnerability is something that you are not too comfortable with. News flash: you're not alone. In this five-part series, we are going to be cultivating our togetherness around being vulnerable in a positive way. It is my intention that by the time we finish our discussion, we will have lifted the vibration around vulnerability just a little bit for you.

With that being said, this week’s topic is just introducing the idea of VulnerAbility. Webster's Dictionary defines vulnerability as “being open to attack or wound.” This an incredibly negative way to see being vulnerable. For those of us who are high achieving entrepreneurs, or those of us who are the strong one in the family, holding down everybody else when they're having vulnerable moments, the last thing that we want is to ever feel open to attack or wound.

The last thing that you want is to feel vulnerable when you're the space holder. You're the one who's leading, nurturing, protecting, guarding, and so on. To all of my empath lightworkers, healers, coaches, and consultants who are watching this right now, if that's you, and to all of my caregivers, my awesome moms, my do-it-all dads who are watching, and supporting, and providing, to my peeps who are the awesome ride-or-die best friend, to you as well, please know that this is to send love and strength to you. Please know, if only just for now, that if you are feeling vulnerable, that there is nothing wrong with you.

I'm going to repeat that. Please know, if only just for now, that if you are feeling vulnerable, open and exposed, there is nothing wrong with you. --

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With love, I want us to begin to re-write our own definition of vulnerability. Meaning the ability to be positively vulnerable, being open and exposing our hearts, our emotions, our authentic feelings, and being open to exposing the stuff that sucks, and is awful, and horrible, that enrages you. That is VulnerAbility, being able to open, being able to be courageous. Meaning coeur, the heart. Have an open heart. Let's just begin engaging and being willing to be vulnerable. VulnerAble.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards calling in the energy right now. The deck that we are going to be journeying with all month, all five weeks, is Healing With The Angels Oracle Cards deck, by Doreen Virtue. It's the very first Oracle cards deck that she ever made. Angels, what do we need to know right now about dipping our toe in to vulnerability as a strength, and as something beautiful, and empowering, and connecting? What do we need to know right now? ...Yep, I'm going to read it. Yes, I will. This is so awesome. Trust. Trust. I mean, get your tissues out. My guides are saying, "Get your tissues ready."

Card meaning: "Believe in yourself and have faith that God and the Angels are with you. Ask them to help you to lose the fears that block you from enjoying full faith. Your Angels know that you've been disappointed in the past. These experiences may have eroded your faith in yourself, other people, or even God. However, the Angels remind you of the importance of holding on to your faith. By drawing this card, the Angels emphasize the value of self-trust. They know that you, like everyone, have made mistakes in the past. However, these mistakes have not eroded your true nature. You still have omnipresent God within you, and God is infallible. The Angels ask you to trust in God, and to trust in them. They will help you trust yourself."

For those of you who are listening, who are not into the whole God thing, it's to trust in Life. Not just some higher power, but to trust that nature and life continues on, that growth continues on. I'm sitting in our sunroom here, watching at the beginning of spring, as the plants are beginning to reinvent themselves. They trust that nature will continue to reinvent and move forward. That same forward movement, that same potential for growth, and constant evolution is something that is my own birthright as well.

I invite you to feel the same. To trust in that as well. As we're engaging vulnerability, when we open up again, when we begin to dip our toe into opening up again, that means we've done it after Wham! we've shut closed like a clam shell. We're going to talk about that next week.

For now, go ahead and comment below, or send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com about what's coming up for you around this? Is this topic right on time? Are you scared? That's all right. I'll be scared with you, and let's walk hand in hand into this mysterious forest of vulnerability. Because being open is always better together.

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May you feel loved and safe, at work especially, because that's half your waking life. And please: enjoy the journey.

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This is week four of four of our exploration of what is at stake being an empath entrepreneur.

If this is the first time you're seeing me, please make sure you stop now and go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com to start from part one so that you're grounded in this process. For week four of four my guides have asked us to discuss the power of minding your tribe. Mind your tribe as an empath entrepreneur, as an empath with professional engagements, as an empath growing and advancing his or her career. Mind your tribe.

You know, last week we discussed what your needs are, and we explored understanding the power of environment. Environment meaning the physical environment within which you work. This is super important because how grounded and clear your environment around you is really dictates how productive, focused and effective you're able to be in business and in your career. Now, we're taking that one step further to mind your tribe as an empath entrepreneur.

This is regarding not only the physical things that you have in your environment, making sure that it's clean, orderly, gentle, loving, reminding you of your highest self, reminding you of your own positive inherent nature, your own inherent clarity and empowerment. It’s not just having lovely things – to some extent, if you're by yourself, okay, that's a great start – but now the guides want us to discuss the power of minding our tribe of people around us.

What is this concept of tribe, by the way? Well, a tribe is similar to a family. It is a group of those of us who are cut from the same cloth, emotionally and spiritually speaking. That's what we mean when we're talking about a tribe. What we’re talking about is not just if you are an indigenous person, like your tribe genetically speaking, but I'm talking about for everyone, for all of us. It’s feeling like we have our posse, our cheerleading squad, our equals, the people who are on that same emotional, energetic, spiritual and even professional level. Mind your tribe.

I want you to think for a moment right now as we invoke this topic. Who are the five people you spend the most time with? Who are the five people who have influenced your outlook the most? Who are the five people that you purchase the most things from? Who are the five people whose books, articles and blogs you read or listen to the most? Who are the five people, if you have five, who when stuff hits the fan, you could call them and lean on them? Mind your tribe. Be kind to yourself. Having those who are strong enough to uphold you as the strong one, having five is uncommon. We're lucky if we even have one, maybe two.

Ensuring that as an empath, you have nourishing people around you is part of building that nourishing environment that keeps your energy clear, productive, bright and uplifting. If there aren’t good people around you, be kind to yourself. If there are people around you who shoot down your creative ideas, who encourage you to be pessimistic, fearful, competitive, insecure or doubtful, be kind to yourself. These may not be nourishing people for your tribe.

How do you know if someone is nourishing for your tribe? Because when you're around them, your energy feels clear, or in other words, when you're around them, emotionally you feel safe, uplifted and inspired in a positive way. So, how many people do you have around you that make you feel safe, uplifted and inspired? They don't have to be physically next to you in order to nourish you. As an empath, we have this gift of being able to absorb others' physical and emotional feelings, but not just in person, like right here physically in the room with you and I. We can feel them at a distance.

In fact, time and space have no dictation, they have no governance over how effective your empathic sense may be. It could be that you spend your time really soaking up your grandmother's wisdom. When you think of what to do or how to make a decision, immediately your mind goes to your grandmother. Who's an excellent example of this? Other than myself, I would have to say Lisa Nichols. She's always talking about all that wonderful, wonderful wisdom she soaked up from her grandmother. Bringing that up in her. Her grandmother, although she may be more than alive at this time is still part of her tribe, and through Lisa, her grandmother inspires millions. Now that’s a high vibe tribe. Positive vibes only!

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So, mind your tribe. Does this mean you need to cut people out of your life and stop being around them? I would say leave that to your own discretion. For someone who's survived abuse, there comes a certain point where you say no more and then you're out, or in my case, there came a point where I said, "I have to leave." I had to cut this person out of my life. It was not healthy, but at the same time, maybe this is a complicated relationship that is not necessarily abusive. It's just an opportunity for you to learn how to communicate better. Maybe it's your life partner or your child, so on and so forth.

In that respect, what you want to do, if the people who are very close to you aren't very nourishing, is to go and seek out those who are nourishing. Add more good rather than subtract the bad. Just keep crowding yourself with more good, nourishing, uplifting, inspiring and safe people. Pile them on. Pile them on. Five to one ratio, some people have recommended, if you're a numbers person, to bring in more of that love to surround you. As an empath, you need nourishing people. You need that high vibe tribe to keep your energy clear and flowing abundantly, organically.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. All month long we have been journeying with Archangel Michael. Again, he’s the patron angel of protection and clearing and he's a wonderful archetype to start with, and to call on, to keep your energy clear. Okay, Archangel Michael, what do we need to know right now about minding our tribe as empathic entrepreneurs? ... This is where we'll leave off for the week, and for the month. My goodness! Innocence.

Innocence. Dear God and angels, thank you for helping me see that all of your qualities of pure love and light are reflected within me and all others. Help me embrace my God given innocence so that I may be at peace.

Okay. So I just heard very clearly in the energy that someone watching this right now has a mindset that says, "I don't deserve any better than what I have right now. I don't deserve to be around people who are safe or I'm not worthy because of X, Y, Z.” Or “I'm not good enough, so that means I cannot bring in people who are high vibe.” Or “I should just be satisfied with the people who are around me, no matter how much they hurt me." If that was you thinking that just now, I want you to know that the angels are assuring you that we are all at essence innocent. We are all at essence worthy, and what I mean by innocent is just as innocent as nature.

Whether or not you believe in the inherent beauty and dignity of nature, you would never assume evil of a wild animal. They're just there. They're just a part of nature. That kind of innocence is what we're talking about. Sure, we may do bad things, like a lion might cut apart another animal and eat it, but is that really bad? It's just the circle of life. I mean, sure, it's perceived bad to the one getting eaten, and for us it may appear violent, but at essence, that lion is still just a part of nature as is that other animal that they're consuming.

Remember your innocence. You are just as worthy as the next person to receive love, to feel safe at work. You are just as worthy whether you've done things that would earn you the Nobel peace prize or if you never got out of bed or even open your eyes. You are just as worthy of love and support. I love that the sun is coming out to affirm that, and on that note, please make sure you comment below or send me an email back at team@VictoriaWhitfield.com. What's coming up for you hearing all of this?

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every single week. If you need more support, by the way, don't forget to go to VictoriaWhitfield.com/contact to set up your call. I would love to talk to you about how you could join our tribe here of high vibe entrepreneurs if you're looking for people who would be happy to be in your corner rooting for you as we altogether glow as we grow. I'll see you next week.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey.

Bye for now!
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Choose to believe that you are worthy, enough and inherently innocent and precious, just like the forests or the ocean.

See yourself as worthy of being surrounded by people who love, honor, respect and cherish you as are, because you are indeed precious.

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This is week two of four in our exploration around being an empath entrepreneur.

What's at stake? What's it like? Let's own it. Let's talk this through. If this is your first exposure to me, I would highly recommend you go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and make sure that you start from week one, part one in this four-part series.

Without further ado, last week, we discussed what are some of the pitfalls and the challenges illuminating that of being an empath entrepreneur, so this week, we're going to talk about why this makes you a freaking superhero. Let's talk about it. Yeah, it's clear that there are things that are extra-challenging about being an empath. You are an emotional sponge, just to summarize. Whether or not you ask for it, you're soaking up what's going on in other people's emotional bodies.

Meaning, if they are feeling angry, or sad, or overwhelmed, or anxious, you're absorbing that without asking. You're just sponging it up into you, and you're also soaking up what's going on in people's physical bodies as well. If they have ache in their head or in their shoulder, or pain in their gut or jaw, so on and so forth, you feel that as well. When you're talking to them, you're thinking, "Ugh, why does my head hurt all of a sudden now that I'm in this space / now that I've walked into this new home?” For all my realtors out there, how many of you have walked into this new space, and thought, "Ugh, why am I getting all this back pain all of a sudden? I'm fine. I never had anything wrong with me before." Right? This is what happens when you're empathic. You soak up the emotional or physical energy of an environment.

But here's the thing: being an empath is not a curse. Absolutely not. It is a freaking advantage when you know how to work it properly. And here's why: Empaths are superior communicators. Superior as in like supercharged, superhuman communicators. So anyone who's watching right now, if you are a manager or a coach of any kind or a teacher of any kind, and you are empathic, that means that the people who you serve, those that are under you feel extra-heard, understood, seen, held, and honored by you. You more often than not happen to be the best boss that they have ever had or the best manager that they have ever had, the best coach that they have ever had because they usually say to you, "You get me like nobody else gets me. I don't know why I end up telling you way more or entrusting you with way more information or things about myself than other people. For some reason, you get me, and I feel so connected to you."

For those of you who are empaths and that serve others, you are super communicators and super connectors because of your empathic sense. You communicate with another person's energy. You pick up on what has been left unsaid. I want to tell you a brief story of when I was working with one of my private clients - she owns a bed and breakfast. She is incredibly brilliant, champions feminism and has had a long history of women’s sexual health advocacy, and she's just a freaking rock star. She's an earth angel. At the same time, she's so frustrated with me on our call because she's saying, "Victoria, I don't ... I can't get over how much I'm absorbing from people. I keep getting the feeling like I'm doing something wrong."

Remember last week when we spoke about that same feeling? How sometimes if you're an empath business owner or an empath professional, you feel like there's something wrong with you to the point that you're in the wrong vocation, no matter how much passion you have for it? She was at that state, and my guides sent me a vision for her because she was just so frustrated with being overwhelmed as an empath.
Sound familiar? Maybe this has been your situation, but the vision that my guides sent to me for her, and now I'm going to share with you, is this: they sent me a vision of, if you would remember, 9/11 where the Twin Towers fell. All of the rubble. So many lives lost, but at the same time, right after the towers fell, after the dust for the most part cleared, there was this whole other level of rescue missions that had to happen because people weren't all dead. They were trapped underneath the rubble.

So, picture this with me: all this concrete... huge piles of broken concrete, and twisted metal, and whatnot. Underneath the rubble, there are people who are praying to God, "Somebody come find me, please," or shouting, but their voices beneath all of that are just completely muffled to human ears. The real heroes - other than the courageous firefighters and our awesome first-responders, police workers, and volunteers, all humans out there searching - the unsung heroes of recovering people and finding them who've been trapped beneath the rubble of the Twin Towers were actually the rescue dogs. My guides are showing me these dogs who are going through all of the rubble, hearing the sounds of the screams from stories down or smelling the sense of bodies of people who are still alive, but don't even have the strength to make a sound and cry out for help. They can hear beneath the rubble. I'm getting the chills as I say this to you right now.
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As an empath, you can hear those who are crying out for help, silently crying out, who are in deep need, and they are trapped beneath the rubble of their lives. Perhaps, they have no voice left, but you can hear them because you have that empathic sense, just like a canine has super smell and super hearing - and animals are also empathic, by the way. Let's throw that in there.

The same way that they're able to hear, and dig, and start clawing through until they get down to that person that they could feel the energy of and bring them, pull them back up from the darkness, out of being trapped, into the light, that is what you have been equipped to do in this lifetime. That is why being empathic is a freaking superpower. Can you feel it? Type it below. Enter it in the comments below, "I embrace my empathic superpower. I can hear people beneath the rubble of their lives." Own it!

For some people, they're buried in so much grief or so much shame that they're not comfortable enough, or don't have enough energy, or just don't give themselves enough time or permission to reach out and to start that healing process, or start that transformational process, but because you as an empath can hear what's going on beneath the surface, you're able to pull them up from the darkness and back into the light like none other. That's why they say, "You get me like none other." That's why they say, "Ah, I can entrust you with so much more," because they know you can hear them.

With that being said, I'm going to take it to the Oracle cards for the week. We're using the Archangel Michael Doreen Virtue Oracle cards deck. We are journeying with this deck all month. Alrighty. Such a powerful message this week. Isn't it good? Tell me, tell me. Is it good? Yeah! All right, angels. What do we need to know right now? Archangel Michael, what do we need to know right now about stepping into and owning our superpower as empath entrepreneurs and empathic professionals? I feel this one. Oh my goddess! I got a little bit of Déjà vu here. Sense of humor.

Sense of humor. "My prayer, thank you for helping me see the humor in this situation so I can lovingly laugh at human nature. I am willing to view my experience in a new light in order to attract love and healing energy." I love it. I love it. I love it! Brought you all the way down deep into your soul with that channeled message, and the angels are like, "Bring it back up. Turn it on!" One of the ways that empaths call people out of the darkness and into the light is actually through having a great sense of humor, being able to find the laughter in that incredibly oppressive and heavy situation.

Laughter is the best medicine. It is said that shamans, true shamans will keep you laughing the whole time while you are working with them and going through the healing process. The best coaches know how to keep their clients or their audiences giggling their way through their transformation, right? Being able to move through our pain with ease and joy. And the best mothers know that when their kids get a boo-boo, it's time to have them laugh their way through it so that they feel better and recover the energy that they think they may have been lost by getting hurt in the first place.

Is this vibrating with you? Are you feeling aligned with calling on your sense of humor about your empathic sense so that you can claim that power, the power that has always been yours by birthright? Comment below or send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com, or if you need help connecting to your sense of humor about it because you've been in a state of overwhelm for too long, YOU might be the one who's beneath the rubble in your life right now. Make sure that you reach out so that we can book a session and talk about how I can best support you and glowing as you grow your business, so I'll see you next time.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey.

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Choose to embrace your empathic sense as your superpower at work.

Activate your superpower and spread positive energy with laughter and deep listening as you work with others.

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This is week three of four in our exploration of sales, the emotional relationship that we have with sales, and healing that relationship.

If you're seeing this just as the first one make sure you pause, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and start from part one so that you are grounded in this process.

Without further ado, for week three of four, we're going to be talking about Soulful Sales. Last week, we talked about the scars and shame that people have thrown on us trying to sell us into doing some things that are not in our best interest, as well as the scars and the shame that we have venturing out sharing and speaking: sharing our gifts, sharing our love, sharing our passion to others for maybe the first time. Or in the past, we've had some really burning experiences. Be kind to yourself if that's you, alright?

What my guides are calling for this week in particular is that we raise the vibration of our relationship with sales, wealth, and abundance. Whether you have a business of your own and you've got to turn up the volume on sales so that you can best serve the people that you're called to, or if you don't own a business but you work for a company and you are promoting their work and selling vendors on buying and supporting the company, or selling their clients and prospects into working with that company and bringing people in, raise your vibration.

Even if you aren't doing sales for professionally per se, but in your own personal life, you're advocating for a cause that you sincerely believe in – such as your nonprofit or charity that you feel called to be a part of and see supported – stepping into sales in a soulful way is absolutely necessary. It's such an important skill in life for every single person to anchor into so that we do this with dignity and with respect for ourselves and our value, as well as respect for the other person and their journey.

Let's start there, by the way. How do we start engaging in soulful sales? Well, I would personally point out that that word “soulful” is key – and I’d say that the point where spirituality and sensuality connect is soulful. What does soulful mean? That is the point that spirituality and sensuality connect.

On the spiritual side, that has to do with our values and vision, our ethics, philosophies, beliefs and faith. Spirituality also has to do with causal reality, the above-the-physical, meaning, not just what's here, but what's creating what's here. That's what I would say is spiritual: the spiritual side of things.

And then sensuality. In previous videos, I mentioned that Aristotle tells us we have sight, sound, taste, touch and smell as our five senses, but most experts now agree that we actually have a minimum of 16, and then somewhere around 23 active senses such as magnetoception (that feeling of magnetism when you hold two strong magnets pointing at each other) or thermoception – which causes you to say, "Oh, my god. It's cold in here," because it’s the ability to sense temperature. These senses are just a few beyond sight, sound, taste, touch, and smell.

Sensuality is about making things concrete or physical, and understanding how physical reality connects with our feelings. Where the two – spirituality and sensuality – connect though, is soulfulness. Soulfulness has a feeling. I love how in the book Iron John (and by the way, if you have not read it yet, stop everything and read it now! Or I just might have to read it to you. Ha! Stay on the lookout for that.), Robert Bly says, "Soul is something low and wet." Low and wet. Yes!

When we think of Spirit, it feels like something that is high and crisp and clear, or in the clouds. The Spirit is something uplifted. Feeling spirited is energizing, whereas soul, Baby, is low and wet. This is something that you can feel, something that “sticks to your ribs” as they say in the south, like when we're talking about soul food.

When we're becoming more soulful in the way that we approach sales, we are engaging that vision, that inspiration, that high-level view of Spirit, but then marrying it with being sensual – otherwise known as being grounded. Some of the worst scars that I have received from being sold by someone was from the slimy salesman type: someone who has terrible values, and they're like, "I'm just here to make a dollar. Doesn't matter what you think. This car's kind of broken, but I don't care. You have money. Go buy it." It’s someone who has terrible values (Spirit), and then who's also physically ungrounded (Soul). This can go two ways.

I know that you are thinking of a car salesman with me who has done this to you, and shout-out to my amazing car Angel, who has connected me in the most soulful and respectful way with cars that I love. Hi, Chris, sending lots of love to you and your family. Thank you so much, Chris Campbell for that.

The soulful side is powerful, but in the wrong hands it can be used to manipulate your sensuality. And when someone’s ungrounded and pushy, they're usually not at all allowing you to have an authentic, independent sensual experience of, "Oh, I want a moment to see, take in the color and the feel of this car," for example.

I want to have my own sensual experience: my sight, sound, taste, touch, smell experience of bonding, because buying is a sensual experience. It's for feeling of it. You gotta make people feel a certain way in order for them to buy. You've gotta feel a certain way in order to buy. For me, my core desired feeling when it comes to sales is safe. I always desire to feel safe. My second-high core desired feeling is loved, and it's a distinct sensation I feel.--

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But when someone is ungrounded, they’re impatient with this sacred feeling process: it's either now, or they won't even let you bond with the thing. They're hurried, saying, "No, look, and then we have this, and then this, and then this, and then this." But the “this” is not at all what I'm interested in.

Or, oh, this is even creepier, where they'll go the other end of the spectrum on the sensual side and attack you. For example, you ever been at Lord + Taylor and they spray you with the perfume, and you're like, "Oh my god, no!" And they're like, "Don't you want to buy it? Isn’t it amazing!?” trying to seduce you with sensory overload and persuasion. Or with cars they say, "Come in and get a look at this car. Isn't this car amazing? It's red. It's so you. This is you," while pushing you to touch it – that is the sort of a tactic where they are forcing your sensual bonding.

The sensual aspect of sales is very powerful, and in the wrong hands, it can actually be so scarring and overwhelming. In order for us to come to a space with soulful sales, we want to balance that out, where we can respect the person's sensual experience, their own point of view, while also showing them the vision of what's possible. It's a vision that is going to help them. That's where it becomes soulful: where you tune into your natural intuition, right now, and say, "This thing could really help them if they could just see the vision of how it can."

Soulful sales bridges the gap between someone in need of something, and being connected to the thing that's going to get them where they’re going. Be kind to yourself if this is new or uncomfortable for you to hear. I want us to have this conversation, but it involves turning on your natural intuition now. How do you do that? Well, for one, get my book Natural Intuition Now on Amazon, read it and do the exercises. That's helpful. It's on two-day ship, Prime, and Boom! It'll be right in your mailbox, or you can purchase my Understanding Energy online course, and you'll get the ebook and the audiobook copy, boom, right then and there instantly into your email inbox so you don't even have to wait two days for the physical book to come in the mail.

We're going to continue this conversation next week, but I want to begin invoking this concept of soulful sales so that we can heal our relationship with this wonderful, powerful tool for healing: sales. Sales is a powerful healing tool.

I hear the Oracle Cards calling in the energy. Angels of Abundance oracle cards deck is who we are journeying with all month, by Doreen Virtue and Grant Virtue, her son. Angels of Abundance, what do we need to know right now about opening up to this concept of soulful sales? ...I love it. They always see the different angles. I love this.
Clean-Energy Food. Check this out. "When you fuel your body with a healthful, organic diet, you increase your energy levels and ability to focus. This automatically leads to more efficiency, better ideas, and a higher vibration, which attracts golden opportunities and beneficial relationships." Here's where we're going to leave off for the week.

If you are putting crap, low-vibrational crusty crap non-food items into your body, and calling that nutrition, what that does is that starts to form a film over your natural intuition so it gets harder and harder for you to tune in clearly to sources of alignment within you so that you can see what the right next-step is. When you clear yourself, you clear the way to hearing your inner guidance. On top of that, you start to attract others, other clear people and opportunities, into your life.

The cleaner that you live, the higher you vibrate, and the more you attract that like-vibration. So for the people who do need what you are offering, and who get your life's purpose and who are excited and honored to get to support you as well as participate in the expansion with you professionally, they get naturally attracted into your life. They get naturally attracted into your reality the more that you raise your vibration first.

Soulful sales is not just – and I appreciate the fact that the angels are saying this – soulful sales doesn't start with doing the technique. It actually starts with who you are being right now and where your vibrational level is.

Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com. Let me know what comes up for you around this. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every week. I'll see you in the next one. Muah.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the Journey.

Bye for now!
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Focus on raising your personal vibration so that you are being a clear, clean channel for Spirit to come through.

Observe how your ability to trust and hear intuition and innate emotional intelligence improves the more you detox your physical body, surroundings and even your relationships.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

-- Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business. Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

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This is week two of four in our exploration of money as spiritual, money as good, being open to, loving and healing our relationship to money.

Be kind to yourself, if this is your first video please hit stop, go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com so that you start from the very first part of our series so that you're grounded in this process.

Without further ado, this week in particular my guides are saying that we've got to talk about sales shame and scars. Sales shame, and scars. Now, this comes up all the time with my clients. Doesn't matter if it's someone who I've met while on the road or networking or for the first time or if it's one of my clients who's been with me for the last, gosh, six, seven years straight. We all, myself included, have a sense of sales shame and sales scars.

Now I remember hearing at a speech by Myron Golden where he said that by the time a child turns 18 years old, in the media the child has seen over 10,000 business owners killed on TV, online, and in the news. His point was that in that figure right there we see a systemic epidemic of putting down salespeople, of demonizing business owners, entrepreneurs, and people who are out there making money. There's a strategic demonization of that.

Our minds and our hearts become scarred seeing all of this. That figure really shocked me, but it makes sense because how many times do we – wait, I'll put it on me. I personally have been to so many sales presentations. I've walked in hoping someone would sell me what they're selling, legitimately excited to buy, and I've also walked in having made a commitment to myself, “I swear to God, if this person tries to sell me, I'm walking out.” Sound familiar?

I even have equated bad sales with unwanted touching, like being physically attacked. In my opinion, it is a mental rape when done horribly wrong. By the way, comment below, send me an email back at Team@VictoriaWhitfield.com if that's you, where you're finding yourself bracing when somebody's trying to sell you, as if you're about to get attacked mentally, emotionally, financially, and even spiritually by someone. Here's the thing, we have scars. We have scars because some people in the past, for all intents and purposes, used this powerful tool to, unfortunately, cut into our energy.

These are soul scars that we carry along the way and it's doubly bad for those of us who are entrepreneurs and business owners because part of the way that ... actually the only way that we're able to share our gifts at the level that we've been called to by God, by Source, is to sell - which means to serve. We've got to make the offer to invite people to work with us. If you sincerely are doing something that's going to help somebody, it's your divine duty to invite them to work with you. You shouldn't be ashamed of it.

But here we go with carrying our soul scars around sales. The feeling of having been - and I'm going to go there, and I'm going to repeat it just as I said without limiting myself - mentally and emotionally and even spiritually, financially raped. Mentally “raped” or attacked or scarred by someone whose done sales on us; this unwanted touching, mentally and energetically. Be kind to yourself if that has been your experience before, and you got totally taken advantage of. If that happened to you, from my heart to yours, I am so sorry. It's terrifying. You work so hard for your money, and then someone turns on your emotions and then leads you down a path that is unfortunately destructive to you.

It's heartbreaking when that happens, and because of our soul scars around sales, then we carry the shame, the shame, the shame – which hides the secret rage. This is especially prevalent in the holistic healing community, amongst life coaches, business coaches, marketing coaches, amongst reiki masters, massage therapists, naturopathic doctors, osteopaths. I'm just going through all the different clients that I've had in my head who’ve had this sales shame: my goodness, bookkeepers, everyone who's loving and kind and really sincerely wanting to help people.

There's this haunting shame that comes for all of us when it’s time to share our gifts... Where you start thinking, “what if they're going to tell me they can't afford it? What do I do? I don't want to make people spend money, I feel bad.” Or, “who's going to pay for that? Maybe I shouldn't be charging so much. I should really even be doing this for free. Who gets paid to listen to their intuition and who gets paid to listen to people?” By the way - you're looking at and reading a blog someone who does, and I get paid well because I do tremendous work. I give massive, massive value, and I am grateful that my life’s purpose fully supports me.

Gosh, it is such a gift. And I pay good money for this spiritual and personal development stuff as well, for people to do energy work on me and to help me hear my intuition better and also to hear myself better. Absolutely. I pay five figures a year and I've paid out in total six figures now over the last few years to ensure that I am fully self-actualized. You absolutely should be charging for that, whatever you're healing gift is, but there's this haunting, persistent shame that we are carrying around charging. I'm hearing the word “why”, and the reason why we carry that shame is because we have the mistaken thought that we are protecting other people by not sharing our services with them.

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Maybe you don't have your own business yet, but you're working at a company or working for a nonprofit that you sincerely believe in, that you absolutely love, and you're rooting for. You see the good that they do in the world, and then you see someone who could really benefit from the service or from donating to this gorgeous, fabulous, charitable cause.

Then here comes the shame of: “but I can't tell them because they're going to have to spend money,” or “I can't ask for the donation, I should be ashamed of myself, asking for this person’s money.” No, you shouldn't! No, you shouldn't! Don't should on yourself, please, if you have something powerful and healing to share with the world, if you have more love that you can pour into this world by sharing your product or service, please, please DO.

If I'm the only person who gets to tell you this, please believe in yourself, please believe that sales is service. Don't let your shame or your mistaken thinking that you are protecting people from spending money keep you from shining bright. We're in a dark world and we need your light, but in order for some of us to turn on, we have got to learn how to invest in ourselves.

I know for me, my life changed when I started to invest in myself. Personally, I am completely unrecognizable - go ahead on my Facebook and ask some of my friends who first became my friends when Facebook first came out, "Do you recognize Victoria now? Is she like she was 15, 20, 25 years ago?" They're like, "Nope, she's completely different” and some may even add “but she's more of herself than she's ever been." It's because I learned how to invest in myself by being open to receiving sales.

Now, this also has to do with discernment, and the more you cultivate your emotional capital - meaning your ability to value how you feel, and accrue good feeling, generate good feeling - the more you will cultivate your discernment, so that you don't have to be afraid of people selling you, and you don't have to be afraid of sharing your service with people who are desperately seeking it.

The only reason why you're carrying around that sales shame is actually because you haven't cultivated enough of your emotional capital. Pour into your positive feeling emotions, pour into that on a daily basis, that's the first thing I do every single day, and I've been doing it for 11 years straight, is to pour positive feeling, good feeling, raise my vibration, get into the vortex, shift my state, change my mind, raise my standards, put my mindset at the same level of the Universe to make sure that I am seeing with clear eyes. I’ve cultivated my discernment, my emotional capital, ceaselessly.

I'm hearing the oracle cards screaming in the air, "Oh my God, Victoria, hurry up and pull us." Okay, lol! Let me just stuff them back in this box because I was just sifting through them... This is the Angels of Abundance oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue and her son, Grant Virtue, if you want to pick it up yourself. Okay. Angels of Abundance, what do we need to know right now? About, gosh, our sales shame, our sales scars. - I love this: Bountiful Nature. This is where we're going to leave off for the week.

Bountiful Nature. Spending time in nature helps shift you to a higher vibration and reminds you of God’s infinite abundance. Go outside and enjoy a walk or hike with your pet, meditate beneath a tree, garden, sit under the stars, or do some other activity to connect with the limitless vastness.

This is so beautiful, this is a perfect ending point.

A lot of our fear and shame around selling, as well as being sold, is that there's not enough to go around. There's not enough even if you're selling something amazing or you're being sold on exactly what you need. That fear comes up that there's not enough to go around. Please let nature affirm you in that there is no limit to the amount of wealth, and abundance, and resource supporting you now, right now, in this moment.

Nature is a gorgeous example of interconnection and agreement, of constant inflow and outflow, inhale and exhale. Let that remind you of what true wealth and abundance looks like. Allow it to soothe your emotions so that you can raise your emotional vibration and increase your emotional capital.

All right, this is it, Bountiful Nature. Go outside, breath it in and receive. Okay. Send me an email back at Team@VictoriaWhitfield.com or comment below. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every week, and I'll see on the next one.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey!

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Just for today...

Believe in yourself and believe that sales is service.

Take a deep breath in, and connect to your divine purpose, and then open your heart and mouth and share your healing work for the good of all involved.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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This is week five of five in our deep dive into shifting our perspective, and we’ve been discussing the exact mechanics of how to shift our perspective so that we can step into our divinity fully in life and business.

For week five, my guides have asked me to speak to you on a pivot topic as we prepare for our next series of love letter videos. But before I get to the topic, if this is the first of the series that you are seeing, make sure you pause, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and start from week one so that you are grounded in this process.

This week, my guides have shown me that we need to talk about the empath trap. Don't fall for the empath trap. And I see this is shockingly prevalent, the more I've been going live on Facebook, actually. If you haven't seen my Facebook page, where I'm dropping what I call #lovebombs for you, then youre missing out on some real activating inspiration. Go ahead to Facebook.com\senseivictoriawhitfield to catch some of those. They really, really add a pep to your step and wake you up if you've been kind of asleep at the wheel in life and business.

What I found is that the more that I've been going live, the more I find people from all over the world falling into the empath trap. And here's what it is: where you expect somebody else to make you feel better. Now, that's it in a nutshell, but I'd like to just clarify a little bit more of that. First of all, if you don't know what an empath is, let's start there because that's jargon, right?

An empath is someone who is an emotional sponge. It's different than empathy. With empathy, you choose to see a situation through somebody else's eyes. You use your mind, your mental acrobatics abilities to construct the idea of what it would be like to walk in somebody else's shoes. You choose to do that, and that's compassionate, that's awesome, and develops rapport.

But someone who's an empath has the ability to really feel what others are going through, emotionally and physically, and it happens against their will. So that means, if someone's coming in in a grumpy mood, all the sudden, the person in the room who's an empath will start feeling grumpy, and they were fine before. Or if somebody has a headache, the person who's an empath will start feeling like their head hurts, or another part of their body is suddenly hurting too, not because they're mentally unstable or something like that, but because the way that their body is wired is that they're a sponge. They soak in the physical and emotional feelings of others in their environments.

We see this in the animal kingdom as well, not just amongst people. Think of dogs and cats. If you have a dog or a cat, it's not that they can speak English, necessarily, but have you ever noticed that they feel sad when you feel sad? Or they can sense in their bodies if something's not quite right with you? It's amazing because animals are highly empathic. It's our birthright as beings here on earth, being empathic. It's another sense that we have, to be able to sense the emotional and physical feelings of others around us, because it's another form of communication.

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Now, in more recent years, in the New Age, Metaphysical, spiritual-but-not-religious sort of soul-seeking communities online or the self-help or Angel Healing, energy healing and etc. groups online, there's this whole philosophy and subculture around being an empath that says, "Oh, you're special and you need special help. And we got to band together and got to protect and got to read all these books" and similar stuff like that. What I found is, when I'm going live on Facebook, I'll attract more empaths as viewers because I am one, and I understand that. But those who have fallen into the empath trap think that other people are going to solve their problem for them, or ease their symptoms, or give them the answers that they're seeking.

And when we're committed to shifting our perspective so that we can finally step into, meaning claim, the power of our divinity in life and business, we're not waiting for somebody else to come to the rescue. In the words of the fabulous Lisa Nichols, the mantra is, “I am my rescue." It's so important, as an empath, to honor the fact that you have power.

So if someone's sharing, like myself, intuitive readings or channelings or insights or talking about psychic development and so on and so forth, and you feel like, "Okay, this person has answers. Hey, you tell me blah blah blah about my parent who's passed on" or "Hey, you look at my aura and see if there's any blockages in it," then be kind to yourself: that's actually disempowering for you. That doesn't enable you to step into your divinity. Instead, that puts the onus on the other person and gives your power away.

I want you to know that you have power and that this is the week that you are going to get out of that empath trap. Because when it comes down to it, an imbalanced or dysfunctional empath feels good when others feel good or feels bad when others feel bad. That always puts you at a disadvantage. Please take your power back!

We're going to go more into this in the next series, but for now, we’re here at beautiful Washington Rock in the dead of winter to really open up and get that nature energy to help us process and reclaim our expansive power. I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. It's the Isis Oracle by Alana Fairchild. The last one of the series is ... Ooh, this couldn't have been better. The Eye of Horus. Awakening divine perception.

Here's where we're going to leave off for the week: Claim your ability to take control of your life. Claim your ability to create your life by design, to tune into Source, to plug in to Spirit. You can do this. Awaken your divine perception. You have it by birthright. You don't have to get it from somebody else secondhand. It's yours. You can cut out the middleman.

If this message was for you, go ahead, send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com or comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every week, and I'll see you next time for the next series.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey. Bye for now.

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Decide to take back your power by claiming your birthright as an empowered, empathic and intuitive being, and to stop giving your power away.

Declare "I am my rescue. I claim my birthright to create my own life and to connect to Spirit myself!"

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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This is week four of five of our deep dive into shifting our perspective, so that we can step into our divinity, finally, in life and business.

If you are just seeing this for the first time and you didn't start from week one, please make sure that you go ahead and stop now, go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com, so that you can be grounded in this process. Start at week one.

For our fourth week, my spirit guides have said that we need to talk about the importance of knowing what is no longer tolerable. Last week, we really sank our teeth into our role, and knowing it clearly. We honored who we are and what our purpose is here on Earth: to be that guide, that light, that only you can shine, or only I can shine, from my own unique story, and yours within yours.

We're here, again, at Washington Rock in the dead of winter. It is a very foggy day, so normally we are able to see between 20 to 30 miles out. You might have seen that in the previous videos. But, this is so good, that the weather has shifted to be even more foggy, because this now brings the perspective inward. Right? That's a message and a representation of our intention right now, is to be very clear, inwardly, of what is no longer acceptable.

At your previous point of perspective of where you were coming from before, perhaps there were certain people, certain behaviors, certain foods, and certain investments that you were engaging in, that were acceptable. They were part of your standard operating procedure. And, when we get to a certain point of development, or achieve a certain level of success, there is this expectation that what's been working is going to continue to work.

Now, if you keep doing the same thing and expecting different results, however, that is unfortunately the definition of insanity. There's real satisfaction, there is real fulfillment in having progress, meaning, when we get to grow from our experiences. So, when we're called for to expansion and ascension, personally or professionally, that involves changing what our definition of what is tolerable.

I'm not exactly sure who this message is for. But, I want you, since you're watching or reading this right now, I want you to consider, “What am I tolerating?”

Ask yourself “what am I tolerating in my personal life?” for example, that is keeping me at this level of weight, or in this type of relationship. “What am I tolerating? Am I tolerating people talking down to me, or telling me how things need to be? Or, am I tolerating the reaction that my body has to certain foods, such as gluten?” for example. What are you tolerating personally, that could be reinforcing the same sick cycle recurring and recurring personally, but also professionally?

What are you tolerating? Are you tolerating receiving a certain level of income, because other people said you should be satisfied with that? Or, if you look to your right and you look to your left, that's what everybody else makes. And that's what everybody else is saying is “acceptable.” Are you tolerating that? Or are you tolerating, also professionally, a mentor or an authority figure that might rub you the wrong way in some key areas, but because other things are really great, you overlook that? You instead, stay, and follow their rules, but murmur about the things that bother you, on your off time or in quiet moments to yourself, or confidants.
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Be kind of yourself if that's your situation: that you're tolerating things. That can be a coping mechanism, to create a sense of stability, and I'm hearing this very loud and very aligned in the energy, to tell you that in order to create stability finally for yourself, you may have remove more tolerations from off your plate.

Be kind to yourself. There's a difference between telling yourself what’s acceptable and actually having clarity. When you're just accepting what you've been handed to you, there's a of lack of innovation there, a lack of agency. You don't have to give away your power. When you are clear that “this is what I want”, or clear that “this is how I feel”, and you voice that, as well as stand true to that, yes, it may trigger some people, or may ruffle some feathers, or make things a little unstable for a time. But, that's temporary, because you're getting back into alignment, putting yourself back at the center at which you deserve to be.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. All month we've been journeying with the Isis Oracle Cards Deck by Alana Fairchild, and I'll make this quick, because my fingers are freezing. Happy winter everyone! Let's see. Oh, gorgeous. Initiation. Spiritual testing of Ra and lady Isis.This is where we are going to leave off for the week.

The reason why you're shifting your perspective this week in particular, by getting clear on what is no longer tolerable and what you're no longer going to be tolerating, is because you're on a path to Initiation. This is your time. This is the time for you to shift. Not later, it's now. It's now.

And, when you decide that a certain thing is no longer acceptable, that activates your inner power. I can tell that to you from my own story, when I personally decided that being in an abusive relationship - which was most emotionally and, at times, financially, and even physically abusive - when I decided that was no longer acceptable, I was not going to tolerate this anymore, my whole life changed. I had behaviors, such as leaving that person and investing more in my own self-worth, and raising my confidence level, I had behaviors that followed through with that, because it was unequivocal.

I decided I'm not tolerating this anymore. Similarly, my behaviors shifted when I personally decided that smoking was no longer something I was going to tolerate as a behavior of mine, and being around people who smoke regularly was not acceptable either. I had asthma, and it would exacerbate my asthma. Since I quit my breathing has been so much better, and the quality of relationships that I have around me have been so much better, too.

So, what are you no longer tolerating? Comment below, or send me an email back, at VictoriaWhitfield.com/Contact, or Team@VictoriaWhitfield.com. Let me know, what are you no longer tolerating. What is no longer acceptable in your life and in your business? Make sure you subscribe on YouTube, so that you get these Love Letters first, every week, and I'll see you next time.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please, enjoy the journey. Bye for now!

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Just for today...

Take an inventory of what you are tolerating in life and business.

First, write out a list of Tolerations, and then secondly, go back through the list and for each line write out the real, honest reason why you are still (or are no longer) tolerating it.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...

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