Are you, or is someone you know, a workaholic?

Worried that if you say "no" when people who ask for help, that you'll be mean or they won't like you?

Drowning in projects and things to manage, at work AND at home?

It's easier to just give in and say "yes" and be seen as helpful, than to stand your ground and say "no" and be seen as possibly selfish.

But when we do that, we add another project on to our already overwhelmed plate of "helpfulness" - perhaps this is more than just being helpful, perhaps it's now an addiction.

Watch this week's 15-minute love letter for the fifth and final installment in our 5-week deep dive on self care versus self sabotage to send healing to our relationship with (personal and professional) help-a-holism.

"I never feel like I'm doing enough."

We've been on a five-week-long deep dive into the dance that we empaths do between self-care and self-sabotage. All the different ways that we stand in the way of shining our light to our fullest potential. I'm really grateful. I just want to thank you for tuning in for week five.

I want to thank you for all your support over the years, of the love letters, my gosh. What? We're going on four or five years straight of love letters. I just want to thank you for your continued support.

This week in particular, we're going to focus on self-sabotage around workaholism and help-a-holism, fix-a-holism. Helping, and fixing, and putting out all the fires, and working all the limbs all day. Those of us who are highly sensitive individuals who are naturally empathic, who are naturally intuitive. Last week we discovered your call to be a healer, your call to healing leadership. You're sensitive for that reason.

But this week is the dark side of that, where you can be so driven to help, and to fix, and to take care give, and to take responsibility; but you lose yourself. Not only lose yourself, you may even hurt yourself.  Be kind yourself, if this is you. This last one, baby, is for you. This is our swan song, yes?

Workaholism, guides say that the soul craving behind that, or that the hidden feeling driver behind helping everybody, and fixing everything, and working constantly. The addiction to work, and projecting.

Not just projecting stuff, we're projecting people, like in your relationships, yes, yes? Maybe this isn't you, maybe we're talking about somebody else. We can pretend.

But, maybe let that obsession with being everybody's caregiver, taking care of everybody and everything. What's the hidden driver behind that?

And the guides say that it is the feeling of, "I'm not good enough. I'm not doing enough. I am good when I am doing. I am only good when I am doing."

Doing good, doing stuff for other people, pleasing others, when I'm gaining approval. Yes, yes? When I'm gaining recognition, I am worthy based on my output ... which is faulty.

Yes, it is good to do good things and to help others. This is not to say that you shouldn't be helping other people, and that you should be like, "All right, screw you all, I'm going home." Right? Pulling a Cartman. No, that's not what we're talking about here.

As much as that sounds fabulous to one of you ... I just heard someone in the energies saying, "I want to tell everyone, 'Go away.'" If that's you ... Bear with me, we're going to make it through this.

But, what's also coming up behind that, as your working, working, working and saying yes to everything; the flipside is the fear of saying, "no." Our lack of boundaries is fueling this relentless need for approval and affirmation. In the workplace, or in the eyes of someone that you helped, or getting to see their transformation so you feel worthy, because they had an outcome or you had an impact on them.

What happens, however, when there's nothing to do, no one to save, nothing to fix? The big question is, are you still worthy? Are you still lovable? Are you still acceptable? Are you still good? Are you still okay, as a person if you don't have something to do, something to do, something to do? This is a big one. When we have this addiction, this also expresses as a lack of boundaries.

What are boundaries? This is the million-dollar word for every single empath like, ever: boundaries. Boundaries are the invisible lines that separate what is you and what is not you; what is yours and what is not yours.

Now, from a spiritual perspective, yes, there is the universal law of oneness, which says, "All that is, is one." But that doesn't mean you have to do everything all the time, or that everything that's yours belongs to everybody else, or that you don't have any selfness. You don't have a worth because you don't have a self.

No. That's not what that is saying. Instead, that's just to appreciate the interconnectedness and interdependence of all of life, and all that is. However, we're talking about this turning into co dependence. Codependency is when you depend on someone or something outside of you for a sense of emotional security, to give you your emotional security, or even your identity. You're depending on them.

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Workaholism, for example, my dad was a lawyer, I'm a lawyer, my kids are going to be a lawyer. If I ever lose this job, I don't know what I'm gonna do; where your job defines your personality. That's a codependent relationship. That means that you are at risk of losing yourself if that thing shifts at all. You've given all your power over to the thing that you are dependent upon.

Be kind to yourself if this is speaking to you. I don't know who this message is for, but I'm sharing it anyway, following spirit's guidance. With that, also, where we have the sense of addiction to getting things done and putting out fires, putting out fires putting out fires. Whenever we put out a fire, we get that little bit of, "Yay, I did it." And that, "Yay," is what we're addicted to, of winning and the feedback loop of, "I'm putting out and I'm receiving, putting out and I'm receiving."

That's why so many men end up becoming not present at home, because the job is what gives them recognition and affirmation constantly, and you come home to a wife that is just not paying attention, and not able to give you that feedback. It is, unfortunately, natural to become addicted more to work, where you're recognized, and you feel like you have an impact in the relationship more with your job than your own partner. Scary.

That happens to women, too, I'm not just talking about men, okay. I hear my guide saying, "This happens to the ladies, too," where work or the kids become more important than their partner, because there's something to work on. There's always something. The mom-ness becomes the identity rather than yourself being your identity, becoming codependent to the children.

Be kind to yourself if this is you. Now, this week in particular, the guides are saying, "How do we get out of this?" This addiction to working and losing ourself without our boundaries. Well, is to have values. This week in particular, you want to focus on writing out a list of what your core, desired feelings and your most prioritized values are in life. Allow your schedule to be according to what you prioritize most, what you value the most.

First things first, as they say. I believe that's in the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Put first things first. Is family really important to you? If so, where is family in your schedule? This week, we want to put, "What are your core desired feelings?" I want to feel free, I want to feel abundant, I want to feel loved, I want to feel sensual. Where are those feelings in how you spend your time each day? Rather than letting the thing that you are co dependently addicted to, such as the work or the caregiving, et cetera rather than letting only that determine how you spend your time.

This is going to shift your relationship with your workaholism. Your addiction is going shift. If you can just get clear on, "What are your core, desired feelings, and what are your most prioritized values?"

We forget, we're in that tunnel of, "I'm doing stuff, I'm doing stuff, I'm doing stuff. I'm so productive, I'm so busy. I'm doing all this busy stuff." There's a difference between being busy and actually being in business. There's a difference between being busy and actually being focused.

This, our core, desired feelings and our most prioritized values are what are going to help us clarify that. To end, Doreen Virtue, Angel Therapy; yet another one of our Doreen Virtue decks. Angels, what we need to know this week? To round off our five-week deep dive into the dance between self sabotage and self care. "Listen to your intuitive feelings."

Listen to your intuitive feelings. Your body is receiving accurate messages from the divine. This is perfect, given what we're talking about.

One of the main reasons why we can get stuck in, or create stuck-ness in a codependent, workaholic, fixaholic relationship is because we'll drown out the sensations of our body. We're not in touch. We're not in touch with ... "Oh, my neck is starting to hurt because it's 10:00 PM and I'm still at work."

We'll just keep going, going, going. Or, you know what? I actually ... I'm not really hungry for that extra candy bar, as we talked ... The second week was food. I'm not actually hungry for that chocolate candy bar. Actually, I'm craving love and affection.

Instead of shoving a chocolate candy bar down my throat so I can stay working at the computer all the livelong day, instead I'm going to reach out to receive some physical touch, or love and affection from a loved one. Listen to your feelings.

Your sensitivity is your strength here, and it's the gateway to your next level in life. Send me an email back, comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you around this, and how has this series been for you?

Are you liking the multi-week deep dives? Let me know, let me know.

Source has been telling me that you and I have got to develop a deeper relationship, and go deeper into the information, rather than just doing one idea a week. Nah, let's go there. Let's go there together, okay?

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Put first things, first.

Write a list of your core values and core desired feelings, and see if you're spending your time each day accordingly.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

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Scared to ask for help?

Struggling to hold it all together on your own?

Feeling like you're headed for burnout?

Feeling resistant to making a change because it's outside your comfort zone?

Strong, independent go-getters like you and I have learned over time to rely on ourselves to get the job done, and done well.

Yet, there comes a time in life where in order to get what we really want, we have to open up and receive help – so where do you start?

Watch this week's 12-minute Love Letter video to find out exactly what you need to do to turn your situation around!

"I don't want to be a burden."

As a holistic stress management expert and spiritual teacher, it's a really interesting line of work.

I get all kinds of reactions and all kinds of stories from people, when they encounter who I am and what I do.

I support visionary entrepreneurs like yourself, and creative people just like you, in creating a life that they love by harnessing their natural intuition, so that they feel more centered and grounded as they get out there and share their gifts.

And from time to time, that means speaking to people who don't quite get it, or encountering people who love, and need, and desire support in that realm.

They need the one-on-one, or the group spiritual support sessions that I provide. They'll need it, but then they'll resist it, and then they'll throw their resistance, they'll "hot potato" that on me. Right?

Here's the thing. This week in particular, the guides are telling you what they've told me for many years, and that's take a risk. Risky requests.

This week in particular, your visionary challenge is to take a risk by making a risky request.

Now what does that look like? That basically looks like inviting someone in to support you, to affirm you, or to join you, or to help you out, etc, making a risky request.

If you are watching this, chances are very, very likely that you are a natural healer, supportive caregiver, someone who's highly sensitive, and wants everybody else to feel happy, healthy, loved, supported, etc.

You care so much that you take strong, deep responsibility for making sure that everyone around you is well taken care of, except for you.

Correct me if I'm wrong, maybe I'm off-base. Maybe this one isn't for you. Maybe you're amazing at making requests, and that's wonderful.

But to the rest of us watching this Love Letter video, or reading through it, or listening to the recording, etc, we could all use a little bit more practice asking for what we desire, asking for what we need, and asking for support.

So this week in particular, the guides are challenging you to make a risky request. All right?

What would that look like for you? What could you never ask for? Oh, like:

• • "I could never ask my husband to massage my shoulders, no way. No, no, no, no,"

• • "I could never ask for a little bit more time off from my boss. No, no, no, no,"

• • "I could never ask that beautiful person out on a date. No, no, no, no,"

• • "I could never ask for my own one-on-one session with Victoria. No, no, no, no, no. I'm not worth it."

• • "I don't want to interrupt her,"

• • "I don't want to interrupt him."

• • "I don't want to be a burden."

• "I don't want to take up space."

What? Ooh, look at all of those excuses, and all of that resistance that just comes flying out of us.

Requests that are effective, that are really meant for you to move to your next level, in life and in business, usually feel a little bit risky. There's a flutter of vulnerability, because you're risking rejection.

What's the worst thing that could happen, though? They could say no. And guess what?

There's another seven billion people on the planet. You've got that many more opportunities to find the person, the organization, the venue, the space, the time, etc, who can fulfill what it is that you need and desire.

So what's your risky request? Is it for more time off? Is it for a sick day? Is it for flowers? Is it for a compliment and an affirmation?

I want to hear it. Type in the comments below or send me an email back at senseivictoriawhitfield@gmail.com. I want to hear your risky request, but I dare you to share it publicly.

Know this: Quantum leaps in life and business require you to take a risk.

Mine's coming, but first I hear the Oracle cards calling in the energy.

And talk about risk, Angel Answers, by Doreen Virtue. This is the yes/no deck.

So you ready to play a little bit of Russian roulette? Let's go. This deck is similar to the old Magic 8-Ball thing, where you'd shake it and ask a yes/no, binary type question, and it would say Yes, No, Maybe, Ask Again Later. I always got the Ask Again Later, what about you? Oh my gosh.

Angels, what do we need to know right now? Should we ask a risky question this week? Can we ask a risky question this week?

You know there's nos, there's two nos, actually, and two yeses in this deck in particular.

Can we ask a risky question this week? What do we need to know right now? This is so good. You ready? Compromise.

Compromise, and this is so beautiful. Look at, there's the two hands, the higher self and the lower self. Ooh, they just told me to read. I'll give you the channeling that I'm hearing first, though.

The guides say, "When you ask, remember that it's not your way or the highway. It could be what you ask for, or something even better. Let your risky ask be of mutual benefit. Ask in a way that pleasures you as well as the person that you are requesting for." What would that look like?

Also, asking from a space of pleasure and abundance versus asking from a place of, "Arrgh, you're not going to even answer my request anyway, so I'm just doing this homework because Victoria told me to." Don't do that. Compromise.

Also, the guides turned this upside down and said, "Be careful how much you compromise your boundaries in order to meet others' requests. Remember, you have needs and desires too."

Here it is, "In order to create a happy outcome for this situation, you will find it necessary to compromise. Allow yourself some time to become clear about what is truly important to you."

Some of you may be thinking, "Well Victoria, I don't know what to ask for."

Okay, don't jump to it. Take some time to reflect about what you want, or what you would ask for that feels a little bit, "Ooh, I can't ask that."

"Also take note of matters where you would be open to changing your position. Work toward an agreement where everyone wins." Same as the channeling. Beautiful. "Be open to cooperation that would allow you to get what you need while also assisting others in fulfilling their desires." Is this beautiful or what? "Be objective about finding a balance between respecting everyone else's viewpoints and still being true to your own."

So good, and this is where we're going to leave off.

Your risky ask is actually a blessing. So be kind to yourself. And share what that desire is, because it could very well, and it can very easily, bless the other person. By them getting to serve and support you, it gives them an opportunity to show you love.

Here's my risky ask, by the way. If you could, please send me a comment back or an email below. In what way have I touched you? Maybe it was in this video. Maybe it's been over the years. Maybe in a group experience, or maybe in one of your private sessions.

As someone who's out and sharing, sharing, sharing abundantly, and it's my joy to share, sometimes I wonder, "Have I ever touched anyone, or really helped them?"

I can tell you, this is a risky ask because I feel a bit of emotion flutter, like, "I wonder." Right? Even I wonder, I'm not perfect.

So if you want to return a little bit of the love received, please send me an email back or comment below, and let me know what has been my effect on you, whether right now or in the past, et cetera.

And if you're very new to my work, what do you see me doing in the future? I'd love to hear that. Okay?

I don't know if anyone's going to answer that, but I'm trusting and putting it out there, and I'm open to receiving your love, support, and affirmation. I'm sending you so much love, regardless.

Muah, make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your Love Letters first every week. All right, we'll see you soon. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Make a risky request.

Go out on a limb and ask for something you normally wouldn't or worry would "bothersome" just to see what happens.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Are you sensitive to others' emotions and energy as an Empath?

Wondering why you keep attracting negative, dramatic, abusive or untrustworthy people?

Frustrated that your friends, family, clients or coworkers are so negative and draining?

The Law of Attraction states that "like attracts like;" therefore if you're surrounded by negative people and situations, then they're attracted to your Shadow's desire for negativity.

It's possible that although you're a positive person who loves helping people, you may be unconsciously feeding on negative energy to create connections and feel significant.

Watch this 9-minute video to learn how to stop your unconscious self-sabotage habit of feeding on negativity now!

"Why do I keep attracting the same kinds of people who are takers?"

So what's really going on, then?

Could it be that we as lightworkers and empathic, sensitive individuals are naturally drawn to -- and end up feeding on, or making deep connections based on -- negativity?

Are we hardwired to focus on negative things and commiserate by sharing being in that vortex of negative appreciation with others?

We create a vortex of negative appreciation, by the way, by appreciating all the things that we mutually hate, or are mutually annoyed by, or mutually want to get rid of.

How can we shift from a negative focus to a positive focus in how we relate to others?

Source keeps asking this question, "do you feed on negative energy?"

In the energy, the Spirits are saying, "We're asking this question as always to open you up to what could possibly be going on."

Source always brings something up for a reason:

Because you might be stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage right now.

This is especially to certain people in the tribe who are wondering: 

"Why do I keep attracting the same kinds of people who are takers?"

"Why do I keep attracting people who dump on me? What did I ever do to deserve this?"

"Did I do something bad in another lifetime that I'm paying for, that all of this crap keeps happening to me?"

Or "Why do I keep attracting this?"

"This" being a situation that is a challenge or feeling stuck or the same pattern happening.

If you're noticing that there are loop cycles in your life, Source is asking this rhetorical question to help you sensitize to what your role is in creating this situation.

You could be feeding on negativity as a way to connect or a way to engage.

We've been taught that focusing on negativity together brings a sense of togetherness, or where a mutual frustration is a strong bond of vulnerability.

Unfortunately though, this sense of togetherness is based in a state of victimhood and fear.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards now calling in the energy to really help us understand what can we do then to shift our state from feeding on negativity -- unconsciously unaware feeding on negativity -- by the way.

So many people are going to watch this video and be like, "That's not me." But keep a separate eyeball out for YOUR message.

I know you have 2 eyes -- I have 3. 😉 If you're watching this you probably have 3, too. But everybody needs to grow another one right now -- LOL!

Specifically, be on the extra eyeball lookout for "Am I feeding on negativity to feel significant and have a meaningful life? Am I relating to people and really forming bonds based on a negative focus vortex of appreciation?"

The Oracle cards deck that came through in the energy this week is the Archangel Oracle Cards. High vibrational beings, archangels are.

It's good that we speak to archangels and really channel their energy, because we need an uplift, we need something to pull us up energetically so that we can best understand how to shift our states around kicking the addiction to feeding on negative energy.

When using oracle cards, shuffling the cards and allowing spirit to come through is essential, and saying "Archangels of communication and guidance, please come to us and let us know how can we shift our states to stop focusing on negativity."

This one really is standing out right now -

Remember who you are.

Archangel Michael is coming through for us. He's pretty reliable.

He is such an incredible, bright presence, the most commonly spoken to and spoken of archangel out of all of the pantheon of archangels.

Archangel Michael is saying:

 

You are a powerful, loving and creative child of God. You are very loved.

What I'm first hearing Archangel Michael saying in the energy is that when you remember who you really are, you decide to see from that point of view.

There is so much more to your energy as well as all of our energies than just focusing on negative vibrations, negative occurrences, drama.

If you remember who you really are as a child of God and as a divine presence yourself, you wouldn't allow anyone to dump on you.

If you really are a sacred being and you step into that truth as being a sacred being, that's out of the question.

Know this: Your #body, your #life and your #mind are hallowed ground. Act like it. #love #tbt @SenseiWhitfield

You don't dump on hallowed ground, no, you wouldn't even think twice of that.

Hallowed ground is a protected, sacred space.

Honoring yourself as a spiritual and sacred being must come first for you to shift your state away from feeding on and attracting negativity.

The reading continues:

 

You are made in the image and likeness of your Creator, so you embody all aspects of your divine nature.

Your inner divine light is pure and bright in truth, and no mistakes can undo God's handiwork of true perfection in you.

Don't be afraid of your power, your magnificence or your wisdom. When you succeed you inspire others.

When you change your life so that it's more aligned with your interests, you inspire others.

Be powerful, be magnificent. This is who you really are.

If you notice that you are feeding on negative energy -- and most energyworkers, empaths and lightworkers, by the way, do -- be kind to yourself.

Whether or not you're aware of it right now, I want you to be sensitive to the fact that you're at a very high probable risk of feeding on negative energy.

When you notice this, realize that this is happening because you're not giving yourself permission to be powerful and magnificent.

Instead, we're playing small. We're afraid of our power.

That's why, rather than stepping into a positive focus -- no matter what is happening in front of you because the universe is rearranging itself in your best interests at any given moment -- you shrink.

Rather than stepping into that greatness, no, we'll fall back on social convention of "Oh yeah, it's a terrible day out" or "Oh yeah, that person is really awful, let me tell you about her..."

You go down a notch energetically -- we all do, because we're afraid to stick out and be bright with a positive focus, and feeding ourselves only positive energy and focusing only on positive energy.

Even if other people come up and try to make heart connections with you based in fear and victimhood, you can do this.

It is absolutely possible.

And no, it's not naieve. There's more to being positive than being dumb or sticking one's head in the sand. Just because you're choosing to focus on the negative DOES NOT mean you're being "realistic."

Be kind to yourself if you're afraid to go this route.

You can do it. Remember who you really are.

Right now I'm sending you a tremendous amount of love. I see you as you are, as a divine and spiritual being, and I'm sending you big hugs and kisses. 

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Act like your time, body and mind are absolutely sacred spaces; treating her with the same level of reverence as you would a church or temple. She is already significant and meaning-filled without the focus on stories of drama and negativity -- no matter how true they are.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Feel like you're surrounded by negativity and don't know why?

Known as "the positive one," do people always go to you for support, telling you their whole life's story -- even as total strangers?

Love helping people in need, giving advice, solving problems and seeing lives change because it gives you a sense of purpose?

This message is for all you awesome Mr. and Ms. Fix-It's out there who are feeling exhausted by all the negative energy they're called to heal.

Spirit is sending you a loving warning: though your purpose is to be a Lightworker who spreads healing light and love on the planet, be careful that you are not feeding on the negativity along the way.

Watch the above 6-minute video to see if YOU feed on negative energy and not even know it!

"Am I drawn to negativity because I need to fix it?"

This week, Source is asking do you feed on negative energy?

It's interesting that we're asking you this in particular, because most of the people in the TRIBE who watch the Love Letters, if not all the people in our TRIBE, are sensitive to negative energy.

We know that the overwhelming answer, initially, is going to be "No! No-no. I am clearing my life of negative energy. The last thing that I want around me is negative vibe people, negative events, negative news, negative food, negative thoughts, feelings, or any kind of negative vibes. Get it away! Cooties!" Right?

This is the equivalent of Source asking you "Oh, do you eat cooties as your primary source of nutrition every day? Do you like cooties?"

No! Nobody likes cooties. No, of course not.

But the Energy is asking this question more as a rhetorical question.

Let's explain. In our culture, and in most cultures, a point of connection between people, a socially acceptable point of connection between people and getting to know others.

Making friends. Bonding with loved ones. Or, understanding each other on similar levels, on philosophical or political vibrations.

A commonly acceptable way to make connections is through negativity.

It could be focusing on something negative that happened in the news recently. Or, sharing something negative - sharing is a powerful connector.

Sharing things like "this really annoying person did this." Or, "this crappy thing happened to me and I'm so frustrated about it I just want to be able to share how crappy things are."

Or even at work, when we're coming together for a meeting, we may relate to our coworkers by saying and "Oh yeah, the coffee here is always terrible." "Oh I know, right? It's just so bad."

Know this: #Focus on the #negative, & you'll get more of it. Go figure. #Choose to speak #life today! #takecharge2016 #spreadlove

This sense of making connections according to negative energy doesn't just stop there, Source is saying.

On top of that, very positive, loving, open, sensitive and intuitive people who are givers at heart -- called "Lightworkers" -- are givers in response to the tremendous amount of negative energy that they are surrounded by.

However, we Lightworkers tend to have what's called a bit of a "savior complex" or "martyrdom addiction."

What does this look like?

Well, what this looks like in the energy, or in our behavioral patterns moreover, is that when people are in trouble or they're emotionally overwhelmed, or things are difficult for them, or they're dramatic -- we're drawn to that.

We're drawn to that negative vibration to resolve it, as if we are in charge of making everyone and everything happy.

We assume we are responsible, as the positive lightworker beacons of light that we are, to eradicate all negativity and make sure everyone is healthy, happy and comfortable.

Because of that, we're drawn to negativity.

But this assumption is coming from your Shadow side.

Now, Source is saying let's take a look this week in particular at your energy and really ask ourselves "Am I drawn to negativity because I NEED to fix it? Because I think I know better? Or because I think can help?"

Ask yourself, "is this the way that I relate to people, listening to and absorbing their troubles, and really letting them be in a vortex of negative focus with me?" 

A.K.A: "Do I let people dump on me so they feel better? And so I can feel useful, significant and connected to them?"

As if you're some sort of an energetic trashcan.

If you're an energetic trashcan, then you just catch everybody else's problems because you're here to listen, here to love and to heal, but it's because you're drawn to negativity. You're drawn to cooties.

You don't have to do that.

You don't have to be a moth to the flame of negativity in life, because guess what happens when that moth finally meets the flame? We get burned.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Do you give good advice & enjoy mentoring people?

Love helping others solve their problems?

Have you always had a knack for finding that one thing others miss or lose right under their nose?

If so, then you're a teacher.

Not only are you a teacher, but you are also a healer at heart - teaching is a healing profession that heals the world with knowledge!

Your creative mind is your strongest healing tool because you see what others overlook, and can help them live better lives by tieing up loose ends.

This week's Love Letter video has tips and techniques to notice how your knack for teaching and helping is actually an opportunity for YOU to heal!

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