Are you, or is someone you know, a workaholic?

Worried that if you say "no" when people who ask for help, that you'll be mean or they won't like you?

Drowning in projects and things to manage, at work AND at home?

It's easier to just give in and say "yes" and be seen as helpful, than to stand your ground and say "no" and be seen as possibly selfish.

But when we do that, we add another project on to our already overwhelmed plate of "helpfulness" - perhaps this is more than just being helpful, perhaps it's now an addiction.

Watch this week's 15-minute love letter for the fifth and final installment in our 5-week deep dive on self care versus self sabotage to send healing to our relationship with (personal and professional) help-a-holism.

"I never feel like I'm doing enough."

We've been on a five-week-long deep dive into the dance that we empaths do between self-care and self-sabotage. All the different ways that we stand in the way of shining our light to our fullest potential. I'm really grateful. I just want to thank you for tuning in for week five.

I want to thank you for all your support over the years, of the love letters, my gosh. What? We're going on four or five years straight of love letters. I just want to thank you for your continued support.

This week in particular, we're going to focus on self-sabotage around workaholism and help-a-holism, fix-a-holism. Helping, and fixing, and putting out all the fires, and working all the limbs all day. Those of us who are highly sensitive individuals who are naturally empathic, who are naturally intuitive. Last week we discovered your call to be a healer, your call to healing leadership. You're sensitive for that reason.

But this week is the dark side of that, where you can be so driven to help, and to fix, and to take care give, and to take responsibility; but you lose yourself. Not only lose yourself, you may even hurt yourself.  Be kind yourself, if this is you. This last one, baby, is for you. This is our swan song, yes?

Workaholism, guides say that the soul craving behind that, or that the hidden feeling driver behind helping everybody, and fixing everything, and working constantly. The addiction to work, and projecting.

Not just projecting stuff, we're projecting people, like in your relationships, yes, yes? Maybe this isn't you, maybe we're talking about somebody else. We can pretend.

But, maybe let that obsession with being everybody's caregiver, taking care of everybody and everything. What's the hidden driver behind that?

And the guides say that it is the feeling of, "I'm not good enough. I'm not doing enough. I am good when I am doing. I am only good when I am doing."

Doing good, doing stuff for other people, pleasing others, when I'm gaining approval. Yes, yes? When I'm gaining recognition, I am worthy based on my output ... which is faulty.

Yes, it is good to do good things and to help others. This is not to say that you shouldn't be helping other people, and that you should be like, "All right, screw you all, I'm going home." Right? Pulling a Cartman. No, that's not what we're talking about here.

As much as that sounds fabulous to one of you ... I just heard someone in the energies saying, "I want to tell everyone, 'Go away.'" If that's you ... Bear with me, we're going to make it through this.

But, what's also coming up behind that, as your working, working, working and saying yes to everything; the flipside is the fear of saying, "no." Our lack of boundaries is fueling this relentless need for approval and affirmation. In the workplace, or in the eyes of someone that you helped, or getting to see their transformation so you feel worthy, because they had an outcome or you had an impact on them.

What happens, however, when there's nothing to do, no one to save, nothing to fix? The big question is, are you still worthy? Are you still lovable? Are you still acceptable? Are you still good? Are you still okay, as a person if you don't have something to do, something to do, something to do? This is a big one. When we have this addiction, this also expresses as a lack of boundaries.

What are boundaries? This is the million-dollar word for every single empath like, ever: boundaries. Boundaries are the invisible lines that separate what is you and what is not you; what is yours and what is not yours.

Now, from a spiritual perspective, yes, there is the universal law of oneness, which says, "All that is, is one." But that doesn't mean you have to do everything all the time, or that everything that's yours belongs to everybody else, or that you don't have any selfness. You don't have a worth because you don't have a self.

No. That's not what that is saying. Instead, that's just to appreciate the interconnectedness and interdependence of all of life, and all that is. However, we're talking about this turning into co dependence. Codependency is when you depend on someone or something outside of you for a sense of emotional security, to give you your emotional security, or even your identity. You're depending on them.

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Workaholism, for example, my dad was a lawyer, I'm a lawyer, my kids are going to be a lawyer. If I ever lose this job, I don't know what I'm gonna do; where your job defines your personality. That's a codependent relationship. That means that you are at risk of losing yourself if that thing shifts at all. You've given all your power over to the thing that you are dependent upon.

Be kind to yourself if this is speaking to you. I don't know who this message is for, but I'm sharing it anyway, following spirit's guidance. With that, also, where we have the sense of addiction to getting things done and putting out fires, putting out fires putting out fires. Whenever we put out a fire, we get that little bit of, "Yay, I did it." And that, "Yay," is what we're addicted to, of winning and the feedback loop of, "I'm putting out and I'm receiving, putting out and I'm receiving."

That's why so many men end up becoming not present at home, because the job is what gives them recognition and affirmation constantly, and you come home to a wife that is just not paying attention, and not able to give you that feedback. It is, unfortunately, natural to become addicted more to work, where you're recognized, and you feel like you have an impact in the relationship more with your job than your own partner. Scary.

That happens to women, too, I'm not just talking about men, okay. I hear my guide saying, "This happens to the ladies, too," where work or the kids become more important than their partner, because there's something to work on. There's always something. The mom-ness becomes the identity rather than yourself being your identity, becoming codependent to the children.

Be kind to yourself if this is you. Now, this week in particular, the guides are saying, "How do we get out of this?" This addiction to working and losing ourself without our boundaries. Well, is to have values. This week in particular, you want to focus on writing out a list of what your core, desired feelings and your most prioritized values are in life. Allow your schedule to be according to what you prioritize most, what you value the most.

First things first, as they say. I believe that's in the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Put first things first. Is family really important to you? If so, where is family in your schedule? This week, we want to put, "What are your core desired feelings?" I want to feel free, I want to feel abundant, I want to feel loved, I want to feel sensual. Where are those feelings in how you spend your time each day? Rather than letting the thing that you are co dependently addicted to, such as the work or the caregiving, et cetera rather than letting only that determine how you spend your time.

This is going to shift your relationship with your workaholism. Your addiction is going shift. If you can just get clear on, "What are your core, desired feelings, and what are your most prioritized values?"

We forget, we're in that tunnel of, "I'm doing stuff, I'm doing stuff, I'm doing stuff. I'm so productive, I'm so busy. I'm doing all this busy stuff." There's a difference between being busy and actually being in business. There's a difference between being busy and actually being focused.

This, our core, desired feelings and our most prioritized values are what are going to help us clarify that. To end, Doreen Virtue, Angel Therapy; yet another one of our Doreen Virtue decks. Angels, what we need to know this week? To round off our five-week deep dive into the dance between self sabotage and self care. "Listen to your intuitive feelings."

Listen to your intuitive feelings. Your body is receiving accurate messages from the divine. This is perfect, given what we're talking about.

One of the main reasons why we can get stuck in, or create stuck-ness in a codependent, workaholic, fixaholic relationship is because we'll drown out the sensations of our body. We're not in touch. We're not in touch with ... "Oh, my neck is starting to hurt because it's 10:00 PM and I'm still at work."

We'll just keep going, going, going. Or, you know what? I actually ... I'm not really hungry for that extra candy bar, as we talked ... The second week was food. I'm not actually hungry for that chocolate candy bar. Actually, I'm craving love and affection.

Instead of shoving a chocolate candy bar down my throat so I can stay working at the computer all the livelong day, instead I'm going to reach out to receive some physical touch, or love and affection from a loved one. Listen to your feelings.

Your sensitivity is your strength here, and it's the gateway to your next level in life. Send me an email back, comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you around this, and how has this series been for you?

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Source has been telling me that you and I have got to develop a deeper relationship, and go deeper into the information, rather than just doing one idea a week. Nah, let's go there. Let's go there together, okay?

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Wondering why you’re feeling blocked and stagnant?

Wishing you could manifest more abundance of health, wealth and love?

Spending  most of your work days feeling frustrated, anxious and even bored to death?

Sounds like you have got a Pleasure Emergency!

And the less pleasure you have, the less energy you have - not just physical energy, but also creative energy, too.

Watch this week’s 11-minute Love Letter video, the final of our 4-Part series on Your Daily PRP’s, to reconnect to pleasure and putting it as a top priority in your daily life.

"I eat the same thing for dinner every night."

We have made it to week four of four in our series on your daily PRPs.

These three essential nutrients to having you full of energy and stamina as you pursue your passion and purpose in life. A lot of people are missing out on their PRP nutrients and you are not going to be one of those after this series.

How's it been going thus far? By the way, if you're listening to me say this, you're like, "What the heck is a PRP, I don't understand." Stop this video, go back to week one, right? Go on YouTube, go back to week one where we define all of the terms, and set the stage for why this is important. Go check that out.

Without further ado, this week in particular, we're going to introduce you to the third and final letter in that acronym of PRP. P stands for pleasure. This is your pleasure week.

In particular, the guides want you to understand that your pleasure is abundance. It's not just you enjoying things, or being selfish, or anything like, but no, no, no, no, let's talk about this on a whole nother spiritual energetic level.

Valuing your pleasure, let's talk about it. When we're adulting, when we're adulting, right? We learn that our productivity is way more important than play, right? Being productive, and having high output, and being effective, and responsible, all of that.

You know, we've talked about that before in a previous week about play. We prioritize it higher than our play, and also higher than our pleasure, and higher than our rest. Be kind to yourself if that's what comes to you. Where you're moving from day to day and each day is gray, predictable, monotonous, the rat race, boring.

You spend your time on Facebook, or on your phone, because you're bored, right? Playing Candy Crush because you're bored, right? There's this lack of enjoyment, and the juice, to life.

Be kind to yourself if that's where you're at. This series is for you and this week especially is for shifting that. Especially so that you can value your pleasure. Not just in a Candy Crush pleasure sort of way, but no, let's get specific.

I'm talking about your sensual pleasure. Now notice I said sensual and I did not say sexual, per se. Not knocking sexual pleasure, a essential, that's essential, right?

That's another nutrient, I would say it's a whole nother can of worms that is outside of the bounds of what we're talking about this video in particular, this week in particular.

I'm talking about sensual, as in your Aristotelian senses, sight, sound, taste, touch, and smell. Your sensual enjoyment is powerful because it grounds you. Emotionally and mentally enjoying sight, sound, taste, touch, and smell, throughout the day and really being present to that pleasurable smell, that pleasurable taste, that pleasurable texture, that pleasurable piece of art to look at.

Really enjoying those pleasurable sounds of running water, or birds chirping, or soft music, or jazz, or whatever you vibe with, right? The pleasurable sound even of the way that you talk, speech is a form of self massage, internal self sonic massage, by the way. Your pleasure is essential because it grounds you, first and foremost, into the present moment. Let's take this even farther.

Your pleasure, your sensual, your five sensual pleasure, grounds abundance for you in this present moment, right? Because the only reason why we're looking to manifest more abundance is because we want to feel good, abundance of any kind. It may be abundance of lovers, abundance of affection, abundance of money, abundance of time, whatever.

Whatever your version of abundance is, you're looking to feel good the having of it as Abraham Hicks says. In order for us to get into the vortex, or get into the flow, and get into alignment with that which we are manifesting, or receiving, and asking from source energy, from our creative spirit, the fastest way to do that is actually through your five senses. The enjoyment of the here and now.

If that is true, then your pleasure equals abundance. Abundance now, not later, but abundance here and now. The more abundant you can feel and be, the faster you will manifest the abundance that you have been visualizing.

Some examples of enjoying increased amounts of pleasure, sensual pleasure, throughout the day, so that you are energized and really relaxed, so that you have stamina to pursue your passion and purpose. It could be that you don't eat chicken and rice, chicken and rice every single night, chicken and rice. Chicken and ... Maybe you switch it up a little bit. Increase your sensual pleasure of the food that you are feeding yourself, with variety, or spice, whatever.

‪Know this: Your sensual enjoyment and pleasure is essential because it grounds you.

Perhaps it is in the clothes that you adorn yourself with, whether you are male or female, there's another level of energy that you carry yourself with, guys, when you wear a well tailored shirt that looks clean, you know what I mean. Like clean, you are looking good bro, right?

The way that you feel, that confidence, and strength, and brilliant beauty that radiates out of you when you're feeling put together. It is a whole nother level of energy that you're radiating and greeting the world with, because you feel a sense of pleasure and enjoyment in the wearing of that shirt. Ladies, I don't have to talk to you about shoes, dress, whatever. Whatever brings you pleasure.

Valuing your five sensual pleasure in the way that you conduct meetings at work. What beautiful art is in the room? Are there good smells? Did you wear something that you're enjoying? A scent, that you are enjoying. Not too strong, to respect other people's noses, or are there beautiful flowers? Is there a texture for you to enjoy?

How can you integrate five sensual pleasure into your work life, on to your desk, where you work, on a daily basis? That's your assignment for this week. That's the homework.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. Romance angels, Dorian Virtue Angel Cards deck, final pull for the month. Angels what do we need to know right now about valuing our pleasure as the way to manifest abundance now? Wow, this card has come back, and it's so essential though for what we're going through this month.

Religious Factors, your love life is influenced by your religious upbringing and spiritual path. It's a similar lesson from the last time this card came up earlier in this series. You may have come up in a belief system that told you that your pleasure is bad, right?

Now, be ethically sound in the way that you engage your pleasure. Not trying to push yourself on others. No, no, no, this is more about how you feel, and how you conduct yourself.

At the same time, there's this aspect of denial, being holy, or better, than others, that you can bear the pain better than other people. You can bear the monotony better than other people. Yeah, you're so tough, but that's exhausting energetically is the point that we want to make.

Be kind to yourself. If you've subscribed to the belief, it's become religious of you to say, "Well I'm going to live a bare life, or I'm going to bear it. I can take it. I can take it." Be kind to yourself. You don't have to. Try it this week. Just try out valuing and prioritizing your five sensual pleasure so that you can live abundantly now, and attract more abundance in the process.

Comment below, tell me what's coming up for you around this. What religious factors are coming up for you in relationship to pleasure and abundance. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get this love letters first every week. I will see you next time. Bye. 

(Original post 02/26/2018)

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Do you seldom feel truly rested?

Is it hard for you to relax, because you secretly think it’s a waste of time?

Wish you could increase your productivity and your wellness, instead of trading one for the other?

Type-A personalities tend to have a hard time really resting and feeling relaxed because they’re wired to value getting as many things done as possible above their feelings and wellbeing.

This can lead to chronic anxiety and stress, as well as cycles of depression and burnout if left unchecked.

Watch this week’s 10-minute Love Letter video, the third in our 4-week series on Your Daily PRP’s, to put an end to this vicious cycle and instead adopt a practice of restful productivity.

"I feel lazy when I take breaks."

This is week three of four in our four-week series on Your Daily PRPs.

If you don't know what PRP stands for, stop the video now and go back to week one where we explained exactly what PRPs are and why you need them. So, without further ado, if you do know what's going on, this week in particular we're going to cover the second letter in that acronym PRP, the R which stands for "Rest."

The reason why we get our daily PRP nutrition in is so that you have the energy and the stamina to pursue your passion and purpose for the long haul. This, when you implement is as a proactive regularized practice, whether it is on a daily basis or weekly, monthly, quarterly, yearly, right? However you schedule it in for yourself, it will stave off or even put an end to cycles of burnout, being overworked, feeling cranky, overwhelmed, and pushing yourself past your limit.

In particular, this week that we're talking about with rest is having restful productivity. I know that kind of sounds like an oxymoron, if I have any of my type As watching. Yay. All my creepy control enthusiasts, all my perfectionistas, yes, yes, where everything has got to be perfect. Be kind to yourself if that's you.

You might be burning the candle at both ends by adopting the type A, get it done perfectly as fast as possible, as efficiently as possible all the time. There's a way to be restful and productive at the same time.

Now, my guides have given me a four-step process to share with you this week in particular so that you can get to implementing restful productivity, so that you have the stamina to pursue your passion and purpose for the long haul. You ready for it?

Number one, unplug. Write this down, by the way. Get a pen and pad or open up another window, whatever you guys do or ... inscribe it on your brains.

Number one, unplug. In order to rest but also to be fully productive, your ability to focus, not just on a mental level but also a physical level is called for and unplugging is necessary. What does that mean? No TV, phone, tablet, laptop, computer, no plugging into technology. The less technology period you can be around ...

I was just talking about stuff that makes you connected to the worldwide webs-y things and cables and stuff. But if you wanna go completely native and have candlelight and all of that, the campfire, great. But, for those of us who are not able to do that, just unplug. Make it a point to unplug so that you can be focused on being restfully productive.

‪Know this: You can be restful AND productive.

Secondly, and this takes courage, it's time for you to rage. So, how are you going to rage? For some people it's getting at that heavy bag, and pow, pow, pow, pow. Let that bag have what it had coming! But, I also highly recommend that you use a written medium for your rage. So, have a rage journal. I have a rage journal, by the way.

Or, grab a piece of toilet paper and start writing on that, all the things that you hate, that annoy you, that make you angry, and cranky and frustrated. Write it out, write it out, write it out. Or, all those extra brown paper bags, time to write all over them. Write of all the things that you wanna get out of you and rage about. This is cathartic clearing. So, that's really going to help you be restful but it's also productive because you're bringing stuff up and out, getting it out of you.

Thirdly, is to release. The way that you release this practice is you can close the journal and leave it behind for a little bit, if you are okay with that. Or, if you need ultra secrecy take that toilet paper, flush it down the toilet. Let the crap go where it's supposed to, down the toilet pipes, right? Or, with your brown paper bag, rip it up into tiny pieces or even throw it in the fire pit and watch it burn. Bye-Bye! Right? Burn that crusty crap away.

So, release all of that energy that came out of you. Then leave it be. That you could do it for an hour, leave it be for an hour afterward, or even entire day, or week, who knows? What's important is the fourth and final step, and this is what makes it super productive, is to review. What came out of you, what you raged about, what makes you angry is actually what I call a dark gift, meaning a gift that comes in a darker kind of, not very attractive package, right? It's a learning gift.

So, the things that you raged about are signs and hints at where your boundaries are being overstepped. If you have any boundaries with love, right? Where you need more support in your life, in your business, or in your relationships. Where your desires are not being met. There's so much clarity that comes from raging and releasing and the review, that's fourth and final step, is essential for you grounding and receiving all of the gifts that came out of this restful productivity process at the end.

So, this is how to find your way through the resting process. Those of us who are type As, we tend to go on vacation, or enjoy the spa or have downtime and we're being as productive and go, go, go, as possible. We can't seem to turn off, can't seem to let go, because we gotta do everything on the list that we said we were going to do.

The reason why that happens is because you have pent up rage that you haven't released yet. So, this is your four steps process to be restful and productive. And you can do this. You can work it in, in many ways on a daily basis, in a little bit bigger ways on a weekly basis, more of a significant time space on the monthly or quarterly basis or once a year. Give yourself a bunch a time to really enjoy the sacred process.

So, I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. This month in particular we're journeying all month with the romance angels, another Doreen Virtue oracle cards deck. Thank you for your donations. Always welcome to receiving more. So, angels, what do we need to know right now about restful productivity as our daily PRP? Calling in your soulmate. Calling in your soulmate. Your prayers, affirmations, and visualizations help bring you together. This is where we're going to leave off for the week.

The reason why calling in your soulmate is coming up, is because when we clear our energy, when we clear all of that rage and inflammatory thoughts and feelings, when we release our emotions, we create the space to receive our divine partnerships. First with ourselves! Remember, all of this is really about your relationship with you. But, also, for those around us we're more receptive to their love and their support, whether it's in personal or professional relationships.

So, calling in a partner who's able to meet those needs that you discovered weren't being met yet, starting with you being that partner for you. Comment below, send me an email back. What comes up for you around that?

Are you going to do some productive rest time?

Let me know how that goes. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week, and we'll see you next time. Bye!

(Original post 02/19/2018)

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Do you work hard and play hard?

And when you do, do you tend to overdo both?

Feeling annoyed that you work hard all the time and find yourself having less and less fun in life?

It seems that the minute we become adults that play loses its status as top-priority in day-to-day life.

We are told that play is silly, irresponsible and a waste of time, and somehow we believe it.

Watch this week’s 10-minute Love Letter video, the second in our 4-week series on your daily PRP’s, to shift your mindset to be play-positive and bring back the joy and fun in your life!

"I've lost my sense of adventure."

This is week two of four of our deep dive into PRPs, your daily PRPs.

Last week we defined exactly what is a PRP and why do you need it. We always start with why. If you have no idea what happened, stop now and go back. Go back and watch the previous video.

You can find it on YouTube or on my blog. The link should be somewhere, wherever you clicked. With that being said, this week let's talk about the first of that acronym, PRP.

So the first word in that is play. What the guides want you to know this week is that you've got to shift your mindset around play. It's time for you to shift your mindset around play. Often we are taught to work hard, play hard, work hard, play hard, work hard, play hard. Right?

That's even a chant sometimes, or even in a Nike video, or something like that, some other marketing, work hard, play hard. It's seen as strong and outgoing and fitnessy to work hard and play hard.

What does that end up looking like in our lives? So we're working, playing, working, playing, working, playing.

Where we're going, going, going in one direction, and then going, going, going in another. So that, in both directions, whether we're working or we're playing, we're going hard and we're over doing it.

That is not natural, first and foremost, you gotta hear this. And also that is not compassionate. Lastly, it's not sustainable.

So, it's time for you to shift your mindset around how you play, instead of working hard and playing hard, this week in particular, and forever more going forward, let's commit to working smart and playing smart. You may have heard before, "Don't work hard, work smart." But, have you also heard, "Don't play hard, play smart," right?

The two go together. In nature you never see a plant or an animal or any type of weather pattern, et cetera producing everything it could possibly do, and then dive. Right? Or completely crashing and burning. There is balance.

‪Know this: ‪‪“Work hard, play hard” is not natural, compassionate or sustainable. Shift your #mindset to work smart AND play smart, every day.

Think of ocean waves, there is a constant ebb and flow, and because of that there is perpetual motion of the waves washing on the shore. There are seasons, cycles of energy, cycles of temperature, and weather, et cetera that allows for life to perpetuate. There are life cycles where it's a constant.

Your breath is going in and going out, if you only exhaled, what happens? That's what happens. Right?

That is not natural. And that is not compassionate, and that is not sustainable. So we want you to shift your mindset around how you play. So, working smart, you're a smart cookie, I'm sure you're already working smarter.

Right? You've got life hacks going, you may have hired people or are in the process of looking for people to help you out with texts.

You've got your kids, they cook and they wash clothes. You're working smart, great. Let's turn it up another notch and get you playing smart. So what would that look like? This is a two way conversation, I'm not just teaching at you. Right? This is for your inspiration. Some examples, and I want you to post below, how do you play smart?

For this week in particular, I would highly recommend that you intersperse play throughout your day. How can you make your morning and evening commute more playful? How can you add more playful elements to your work space, or even to your meetings?

How can you add more playful elements to your home life and your personal spaces, or your interactions with your friends? How can you bring play in?

For some people that's enjoying toys. Just bringing in something silly, like a slinky and leaving it on your desk at work for people to play with while their talking to you. Right? Or it could be a funny game that you play with your family. It could be enjoying exercise and movement in the middle of the day. Have recess when you go for lunch. Right? Or, listening to comedy as you drive to and from work.

Here's the thing. Remember what we said the first week, reason why we're doing this is so that you have stamina for the marathon of life, stamina for the marathon of pursuing and living your passion and purpose. So, the more play that you integrate throughout the day, the lower your crankiness and resentfulness about going and doing your day to day work will be, because you're having fun.

That's your challenge for this week. How can you integrate more play? I don't care how old you are or how crusty, crunchy, crotchety, crumply, you are, all the crunchy sounds. I don't care, figure it out. You deserve to play and enjoy every day, rather than once in a blue moon, have some fun.

Know every single day there can be play. How can you integrate more playfulness into your wardrobe, into your marketing materials? To all my entrepreneurs. How can you integrate more playfulness into your day to day life as an essential vitamin, an essential mineral in your daily diet?

The oracle cards for the week? The romance angels oracle cards deck. Angels, what do we need to know right now about playing? Positive playfulness. Playing smart.

Oh la la. Oh la la. Passion. Something's throbbing, oh my. Allow your heart and soul to sing with joy. Passion, this is where we're going to leave off for the week.

If your relationship with yourself, yourself first, has lost the fire and the flame and the sparkle, the sense of fun and adventure that you used to have, that creative inspiration or sparkle, if you lost your passion or your mojo, or your juice, however you say it, if you've lost your passion, here's how you start. Here's how you start. Allow your heart and soul to sing with joy. Allow yourself to insert more joy into your day to day.

How are you going to do it? Comment below. Send me an email back. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first, every week. I'm so excited to see how you play. All right we'll see you next week. Bye.

(Original post 02/12/2018)

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Intersperse more play and playfulness throughout your day at work, at home and in your commutes.

Make it a point to do activities and listen to things that are fun and make you laugh.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Feeling cranky lately?

Frustrated that you’re always on the go and never seem to feel “rested”?

Find yourself daydreaming about sleeping in, quitting your job or even running away?

Sounds like you’re exhausted from working too hard!

And not just at work, but also at home, too...

Watch this week’s 9-minute Love Letter video, the first of our 4-week series, on why it’s time for you to start valuing you “PRP’s” on a daily basis so you can get out of your rut.

"It would be lazy for me to take time for play and rest every day."

This is the first of a four-week installment, a brand-new four-week installment on your PRPs. You down with PRP? Yeah you know me. So good. So, this month and for the next four weeks, whenever you are watching this, we're going to be talking about getting you in-tune with your PRPs.

And this week we're going to talk about why you need to make time for your daily PRPs. And what does PRP stand for? Play, rest, and pleasure. These are three essential minerals in every healthy entrepreneurial little, in every healthy person's life, on a day-to-day basis.

You have gotta get play, rest, and pleasure in your daily life. Now, strategically of course we're going to expand that out on a weekly, monthly, quarterly, and yearly basis, right? In increasing doses. But on a daily basis we want to make sure that we create space for your holistic health, with play, rest, and pleasure.

Why is this important to have daily space for play, rest, and pleasure? Isn't that irresponsible? Isn't that lazy? Isn't that .... What are the? You send me an email back, or a comment below. Tell me what are your inner monkeys saying as to why you can't have your daily PRP time.

Now, this is not to say that your entire day, every single day is going to be devoted to getting your three essential nutrients, but most certainly on a daily basis we are going to strategically create time and space. Starting now, and for the next four weeks, shall we? Okay.

So, the reason why your daily PRPs become so important, is because this is your fuel. This fuels you emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. We're going to be covering that over the next four weeks, but this why. Your PRPs as essential nutrients to your holistic health power you. You know life is a marathon. Living your purpose and pursuing your passions is a marathon experience.

Now, for most creative types we may think, "All right I'm going to ... at the last minute put everything together." Right? You push the clock, or procrastinate, put things off, and until after the fact or until the 11th hour then maybe I might rest. There's the phrase, "I'll sleep when I'm dead." Well, you know what? If you live that way, you will be getting to sleep faster than you think. Right?

Burn-out is very real, and it doesn't ever have to be an experience of yours, but if it has, this month in particular, and starting this week in particular. We are going to shut that down.

This is a writer downer. "Burn out may have happened in my past, but it will not happen in my future." #PRP

‪Know this: ‪“#Burnout May have happened in my past, but I will NOT have one in the future.”

Let's do this. So, that's why it's to pro-actively fill your cup on a mental, emotional, and spiritual level. Progressively over time, so that you have creative juices, so that you have the energy to pursue your passions, so that you feel healthy and have a sense of fulfillment in life. You don't have to wait until you're old and retired and can't enjoy life, in order to engage and prioritize your PRPs.

With that being said, the oracle cards for the month are calling. And that is the romance angels oracle cards deck. Oh how romantic. So, we're going to be journeying with this deck all month, over the next four weeks, whenever you're watching this. One of many decks.

You can always hit the contact page on victoriawhitfield.com to find my mailing address. Always receiving donations if you want, or gifts if you'd love to gift me a deck. Yeah. Okay.

Angels what do we need to know right now about why it's so important to work PRPs into our regular diet? This is so powerful. Religious factors. Let's get to it. Your love life is influenced by your religious upbringing and spiritual past.

Now, by the way this deck talks a lot about relationships and love of course, it's the romance deck. So, for those of you who are single and looking, or single and not looking, remember this is a relationship with yourself, right your inner being. And for those who are in a relationship, remember that this is about your relationship with yourself, and your inner being, as well as your partners or those we are working with.

Religious factors, your love life is influenced by your religious upbringing and spiritual path. This is where we're going to bring it to at close for the week.

You know, you may have been brought up in a religious, or philosophical, or social system that told you to put others first, to essentially give up your needs, right, to the service of others, right. To give up the pleasures in life, that living in denial of your own sense of play, rest, and pleasure, is holy, or honorable, or like, "Oh you sacrificed for us." Just like this person or these people sacrificed in these stories, according to that religious, or philosophical, or social system that you've been brought up, or psychological system that you've been brought up in, or adopted over time.

With love, I am not saying that you need to like throw that out of the window, that is at your discretion, that's your relationship between you and God, or you and source, or you and your higher self, your inner self. Right? And I would strongly advise you this week in particular to evaluate how your beliefs about your PRPs on a daily basis, play, rest, and pleasure are effecting your health. Is it serving you or hindering you?

Type in the comments below. Send me an email back what's coming up for you. Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first, ever week.

I'm looking forward to your responses. Are you read for a deep dive into play, rest, and pleasure? Let's do it. Okay. I'll see you next time. Bye.

(Original post 02/05/2018)

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Take stock of what you believe about your daily PRPs, and write it down in your journal.

Then ask yourself: “do these beliefs help me or hinder me in the long run?”

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Feeling indecisive, like you’re life lacks direction?

Struggling to “find yourself” and feel like you belong?

Wondering if you’ll ever get the clarity you seek?

Indecision is a symptom of much deeper issues regarding your relationship with your own Spirit, aka your “spirituality.”

And everyone has a sense of spirituality, especially skeptics and realists.

Watch this week’s 12-minute love letter video, the final part in our four-part Deep Dive series on the Power of Loving Yourself, to redefine spirituality and use it to love yourself at work today.

"What is my value?"

This week is week four of four in our deep dive into loving yourself.

The power of loving yourself and this week, the guides are going to have us talk about loving your spirit. Let's define terms a little bit, right out the gate.

What is a spirit? What in the world are we talking about? The spirit for the bounds of this conversation, we're going to understand as the resource behind your decision making processes in life.

It is the force that determines the path that your life takes, right? It is that resource behind how you make decisions.

That's what your spirit is, so for those of us you are religious, we understand to be the holy spirit. For those of us that aren't creative or consider ourselves scientific, same thing, that you can understand to be your creative spirit, your spirit of innovation, growth and progress, that sort of a spirit.

This is the fuel behind your decision making processes and when you're learning how to love yourself on another level, so that you can better love others, right?

We're filling our cup at the faucet, the resource that we need, so that we can then hand that cup or pour from a full pitcher to others to love on them, as well. Showing up in service and loving others, abundantly.

With that, this week in particular, when we're learning how to love our spirit, it's important to then understand what your core values are, especially when you're at work. Now, there's a very professionalism and all those kinds of corporate sort of language. Mission, vision, values that comes up for us when we think of, what do we value? But instead, I want you to think of when it comes to loving yourself, what do you value?

When it comes to your life, what do you value? When it comes to being loving, what do you value? Remembering that your spirit is the force behind your decision making process.

With that, this week in particular, we want to pick one value in particular that is loving to you. One that nourishes you. If we could choose a more concrete word, whether than just loving can sometimes be a morphosis for those of us who are not used to being loving to oneself, right?

We're used to being loving to others, so think of a value that would be nourishing to you, even if you want to pick nourishment. My nourishment is something that I value.

Me personally, my top values are, number one, love. Obviously. Number two is safety and number three is honor. Honesty for me falls underneath honor, so when I have something more vulnerable that I need to share to a team member or someone that I'm in an intimate relationship with, maybe family or my partner and so on, I think of my value of honor and that, for me, is loving toward myself first and that gives me the courage to then speak from the heart about topics that might be a little bit more vulnerable making or feel uncomfortable to bring up.

That value gives me the courage to make a decision with my spirit to allow the spirit of honor to come through me and create more honorable experiences. Are you getting the picture here?

That's loving towards me because I'm bringing that spirit into my awareness in my decision making, which then effects my behavior and how I show up to others, how I serve others.

If I come with a spirit of honor or spirit of love or spirit of safety and honoring my safety, others safety and so on and so forth. What would be your value? How can you, but we want to make this very specific, this week in particular to work. How can you honor your spirit or how can you bring your spirit into your work experience?

Perhaps it is honoring your religion. I'm putting a lot of my value of honor. Perhaps it is bring your spirit's desire to be religious or to glorify God in all that you do and bring that to your work experience.

How would you work? How would you show up? How would you speak to others if the force behind your decisions and your behaviors is, I want to glorify God in whatever I do?

Know this: Your Spirit is the force behind how you make decisions in life and #business. And spirituality is your relationship with it.

On the flip side, what if your value was, I value my health. My health comes first. How would you show up at work today if your value is, my health comes first? This is the one value that I'm going to embody today.

How can you allow that to come forward in your work day? How would you speak to people? How would you sit at your desk? What food would you choose to put in your body if that was your value that you were going to honor today, this week?

Whether you're going all week or just for today, what would be different about the way that you conduct your behavior and the decisions that you make if you made value based decisions?

The power and the self-loving, self-nourishing aspect of making value based decisions is that you become responsive rather than reactive to life around you. When we're reactive, things happen and all right, I got to put out the fire over here and oh, so and so needs me.

Okay, I'll do this and oh my gosh, what about this and da da da da and you're working yourself up spiritually because there's no anchor, there's no value anchoring you down on a spiritual level. Your decisions are flying off at the handle, they're reacting to all of the circumstances that are around you versus making value based decisions.

You're able to ground and then respond with wisdom to the experiences that are coming toward you so that your life, you're building by design in a wise and spiritually grounded way.

Value based decisions, that's the challenge for this week, in particular. The mantra of the week is, what's my value? Remember it's one. I know some of you do core desired feelings and stuff like that and you pick several and all of this. What one? Just one. Simplify it. I value simplicity. Let's all value simplicity right now.

Bring the spirit of simplicity so that you can be kind to yourself and one, what's my value?

The next time someone asks you something, the next time you begin your work day, the next time you sit down to eat, what's my value? That is your mantra. Today, in particular, or for this week, in particular. Whatever you're ready to commit to.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling and energy. Talk about spirit. Fairies. Ding, ding, ding. Yay. Healing with the fairies, another Doreen Virtue deck. Thank you so much for donating.

This is one of over 20 decks that we have here at the dojo that our clients and students play with as well as my co-op members. Between seeing their clients, they're reading their own oracle card readings. I love it. You're welcome to play. My cards are very social.

Fairies, what do we need to know, this week in particular about loving our spirit? What value? Oh, this loud is coming forward. New opportunity, This is so powerful. Check it out. Gorgeous.

What I'm hearing in the energy to tell you about new opportunity for this week, in particular, is that you've been loving yourself and opening up to honoring and heeling and loving, nourishing and nurturing those parts of yourself that have been under loved for the last few weeks.

We've been at that together and because of that, sources taken notice. There's a new opportunity coming your way that you want to use your value. You're going to need to have a set of values or one guiding light that gives you enough anchoring to receive that opportunity.

If you don't have it, you're going to miss this opportunity and it's because you're got to anchor first in order to receive the level of opportunity that's coming to you this week, in particular. Maybe even today. We want to make wise decisions, ones that are responding to life with elegance , with wisdom, with grounding, allowing spirit to come through and wash through our lives, blessing rather than rushing through and feeling unloved, especially by ourselves. Slow down, ground, make value-based decisions so that you can receive the next level opportunity that's coming to you.

Comment below. Send me an email back.

What's coming up for you hearing all of this? What opportunity, have you recognized it yet? I'd love to hear about it and how did you ground and make a value-based decision in order to receive that.

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters every single week and ready for it? We did it. We made it through the four weeks. See you soon. Bye.

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Pick one Value to focus on that is loving and nourishing to YOU.

At work, choose to embody the spirit of that value in your communications, your time at your desk, your self-care, etc.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

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Are you really good at doubting yourself?

Always putting yourself down so no one else can, or to make others feel comfortable?

Waiting for the other shoe to drop, so you’re prepared when it does?

Over time we convince ourselves to be careful about not getting to happy or positive, because it leaves us more vulnerable when things don’t work out.

But sometimes this negative mindset takes the ball and runs with it, making sure we are next to never happy, so that we are always feeling “safe.”

Watch this week’s 12-minute love letter video, the third in our four-part Deep Dive on the Power of Loving Yourself, to discover how to start releasing our addiction to negative self talk.

"I'm not smart enough."

This week is week three of our four week deep dive into loving yourself. The power of loving yourself. Knowing how to build self love enables you to love others in a big way, and that's why we're talking about this.

You already want to show up and service, and give big in life. And we're here talking about exactly how to support you doing that for the long haul, by learning how to fill your cup, first and foremost.

So last week we talked about loving your body. And exactly how to take something that you don't like, and use that as inspiration to share love with yourself.

This week, we're talking about loving your mindset. Loving your mindset. Negative self talk ... Negative, fatalistic, perspective is super killer. The reason why it's killer is because negative mindset cuts your dreams off at the conceptual level, before they can even make it out of gestation, and the manifestation, and out in fruition here.

Out in physical reality. Before they can even get that far, at the conceptual level, negative mindset cuts them all off. The vision that I get from my guides is just someone coming and cutting all of the roses off of rosebushes as the buds are trying to come out.

So be kind to yourself, if your mindset is what's holding you back.

What it would look like if that has been happening to you, is that you're surrounded by all the resource that you could possibly need. Right, you have people that want to help. People are capable of supporting you. You're surrounded by all these great groups, where they have ideal clients of yours.

But because, up here you're saying, "I'm too fat. I'm not smart enough. Nobody will pay for that. No one will love me, I'm not lovable. I'm not enough, I'm not worthy. I'm not really supposed to be in business." All my entrepreneurs, I'm talking to you. Because mindset is everything in business.

But to all those who are leaders and caregivers in your own right, the healers out there. We stop ourselves from sharing our light. Or if we're talking in business terms, we stop ourselves from sharing our gifts, our work.

The wonderful services, or products and visions that we've created to make life easier, brighter, better for others. And we keep cutting those roses off before they can even bloom in our mindset we cut it off at conception. And you want to be kind to yourself.

If that's you, it's time to shine more love into your mindset. And the way that you have a more loving mindset, is to have an abundant mindset.

A mindset and a mental state, a point of view, that has abundance. And the assumption of abundance, as its foundation. Rather than the assumption of lack, or struggle, or competition, etc. holding you down. And that being your assumption of what's behind what's going on around you.

If we can get your mind right, if we can love your mindset. Shine more love, send more healing energy to your mindset. Honestly this week can change your life completely. Because Tony Robbins brilliantly says that, "The biggest resource is resourcefulness."

So if you're able to get your mind right, where you see that you have everything that you need. And you see that you have permission to utilize and mobilize everything that you need, for the greatest good. Not only your greatest good, but the greatest good of all. We all win.

So we want to have an abundance mindset. And abundant mindset is one that is based on faith, and positive expectation. It assumes universal abundance. The lack mindset, which is the opposite, is based on fear. And it assumes that negative things are coming.

That there's going to be more trouble. There's always something to do, there's always another fire to put out. The fear mindset of waiting for the other shoe to drop. And my guide said, the mantra for this week in particular, is going to come from embracing distraction.

Know this: The antidote to rampant negative self-talk is instead the cultivation of an #abundant mindset.

So, a natural part of life in general, is that you're going to get distracted. But there's one way to let distraction rule you from a fear mindset, and another way of looking at distraction as fuel. Fearing, or fueling you. Making you fearful, or making you feel fueled by this distraction.

And here it is ... So this is a reframe. The same way that we reframed last week, loving your body. Seeing the parts that you hate the most and saying to them directly, "Okay, this is my opportunity to love myself. I love you anyway." And challenging that self hatred, and using it instead as an opportunity for love. This week, we're going to use distraction as another opportunity to love yourself.

The next time you're feeling distracted ... And this is probably going to happen when you're avoiding some responsibility. Or maybe when you're just getting overwhelmed, and there's not enough awareness of your own boundaries. The next time you're feeling distracted, the mantra of the week is, breathe into the distraction.

Deep breath in, breathe into the distraction. Breathe into the distraction, breathe into the distraction. Deep breath in. Now this is loving to yourself in a myriad of ways. One, on a physical level it oxygenates your blood, which cleanses all of the physical systems of your body via the circulatory system. So we're building on last week's loving your body. But also, this is loving your mindset by helping you slow down and become present, and embrace the distraction as your training partner.

Now, it's important to see distraction, and things that would challenge your mindset, as a training partner. Because training partners are there to train you up. They're there to make you stronger, through resistance training. You have to push against it. And in the pushing against it, you become stronger in the process.

So the next time you have a client that sends you a text, or an email, or a call ... Throws you a curve ball. Breathe into the distraction. Deep breath in. Versus, "Oh my God, what am I gonna do?" Nourish yourself in that moment, breathe against it.

Assume that this is working out for you. Something good is about to happen. We're breathing into the distraction to prepare for something good that's about to happen. This is a challenge, it's easier said than done.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the week to encourage us on our path. This deck of the week is angels of abundance, oracle cards deck. Thank you Julie Shopa, clarityfinances.com. She donated this lovely deck to the dojo. Thank you goddess. So let's check this out...

Angels, what do we need to know this week in particular, about loving our mindset? Beautiful, this is so juicy: Partnership.

Allow helpful, supportive partnerships into your personal life and career, and both parties benefit as a result. You are receiving help from heaven, and from a person who brings needed skills and resources. So this is super powerful, and this is where we're going to leave off this week.

If you're watching this, chances are you are a leader, manager, caregiver, healer of some sort, you're an entrepreneur and business owner. Partnering. There's this thing where amazing leaders think, "I can do it all by myself. I do things better by myself." No, breathe into the distraction. Something good is about to happen.

When these people are in your life, you've got to become resourceful, and look for the positive aspects.

As I work with teams and help them to heal together, we celebrate the diversity of opinions, and personalities, and viewpoints. We celebrate that, because that means we have diverse ways of problem solving, rather than just doing everything the same way, one way.

If you look at nature, we have biodiversity. And that what makes nature so powerful, and so strong, is that diversity of opinion. Allow others to help you. But breathe into the resistance that you may have this week in particular, to receiving that help, or that partnership.

Send me an email back, comment below. What's coming up for you around having an abundant mindset, and receiving help.

This is like ... I'm hearing bombs going off, and the energy.

Some people are like, "NO, no." So be kind to yourself if that's you. Breathe into the distraction. Something good is about to happen.

So make sure that you subscribe on YouTube, so you get your love letter videos every week. And I'll see you soon. Bye.

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Breathe in to the distraction to open up your mindset.

When you feel scattered, anxious or triggered, PAUSE and take a deep, cleansing breath.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Are your joints stiff and achey from sitting all day at the computer?

Been so busy taking care of business that you completely forgot to eat breakfast and/or lunch?

Feeling tired all the time?

These are signs that you are physically ungrounded.

It's time to clear out that stagnant energy and get you back in flow!

Watch this week's 11-minute love letter video, which is the second of a four part series on grounding.

"I lay awake at night thinking about what I need to do next."

Last week, we discussed why we ground and what's at stake in that.

The reason why, just as a quick recap, is because we're empathic beings.

We all have a natural empathic sense, which picks up ambient, intuitive data, and sometimes, that sense can get overwhelmed, and grounding flushes that and manages the health of our empathic system.

Today, we're going to be talking about what is physical grounding?

Have you ever had this experience where, let's say you're at work, you're in the zone, and you're really typing up this really great thing, maybe email, or report, or whatever, and you're on the phone, man, you're really jamming out with whoever you're serving.

Then you're going over to do this task and then this task, and then so and so needs your help, and so you're helping them, and then you're ... Before you know it, the end of the day comes. You haven't peed. You haven't eaten. You haven't even been outside. Before you know it, I'm looking at the window over here. Beautiful, beautiful, sunny day outside.

Before you know it, the day is gone. The whole season, maybe, even is gone. This is a sign that you are physically ungrounded.

Another one.

Maybe you work at home at your computer, or maybe as a student, you're going to class all day and studying.

Do you ever have these feelings of tightness in your shoulders? Tightness in your neck and your upper back?

Tightness, I know you can feel it as I'm doing this, in your hips, right, and your pelvis, tightness in your knees. Tightness in your jaw. Tightness, do you feel tightness?

That is a sign that you are physically ungrounded.

‪Know this: Tightness and forgetting to eat (because you're "too busy") are signs of being physically ungrounded.

Be kind to yourself, if this is speaking to you. Here's the thing.

Physical grounding is managing our empathic system as it manifests physically.

Another form, another sign that you are physically ungrounded, is that your space is disorderly. Maybe there's stuff on the floor and stuff like that.

Right now, I have all these lovely resources to share with you for whichever want to come, speaks to me, but this is clutter.

Clutter is a sign of ungrounding.

I'm in my crown chakra shocker right now.

That's why I have this on the treatment table. I will ground after I do this video, of course, but if there's clutter, that's another physical sign that you're physically ungrounded.

I'm standing to speak to you to make sure that I keep regrounding, regrounding, regrounding my physical body so that I'm able to present to you.

Here's the thing. If you find that tension in your body, or if you find that you have not peed, you are not eating, like you're forgetting to take care of the body, you're not even sleeping because you're just laying awake at night thinking, "Oh, I gotta do this thing for so and so. I gotta go get Ben to go ... I gotta go get Stacy, and I gotta go get Jennifer and blah, and so and so, and ... "

You may love everybody. I do, too, hey, and there are some people that are stinky. I understand, I know some stinky winkies too, like the crusty crabs.

Laying awake at night, trying to problem solve all up in here does nothing for all this.

This week in particular, the guides are asking for you to focus on taking care of your physical health, and clearing all that mental, emotional energy from your body, by connecting to your body naturally.

Now by the way, one way that you can do that is allowing nature to call.

Anyone knows that when they come to meetings here, whether they're on a team healing journey here at the dojo, where we're doing healing journeys for entire offices, and teams, together. Which is awesome. Or if you're here for the retreats at the dojo. I'm loving how I'm phrasing things right now. Send me some love.

Whether you're here on retreats here at the dojo, and you're here for five hours, or more, everyone knows, about every hour I say, "Ready? Run and pee for your life. Let's take a pee break." This is physically grounding.

This is to honor the fact that your body has functions.

Believe it or not, not allowing your body to eliminate, whether it's poo, or pee, or the blood that comes out for ladies, or for the rest of us when we have an orgasm and releasing that energy, that can hold in empathic data.

Yes, really. Allow yourself to go to the bathroom. I know some of you are watching this and being like, "Come on Victoria, are you serious?" Yes.

For those who are highly empathic you can get so absorbed in the nonphysical aspects of being highly empathic that you forget to take care of your body.

When you're cultivating your natural intuition, your physical channel has got to be clear and grounded, grounded meaning connected to your zero, right?

Connected to neutral to nature, so that it can easily receive and release empathic data.

No my guides are telling me to pull a card. Let's see which deck? Which deck am I going to choose? I'll bring you with me.

Archangel Michael is coming through right now. We'll close this week out with Archangel Michael, another Doreen Virtue deck, one of 20, and counting.

By the way you can always, always, always, send gift of oracle cards here to the dojo. We're happy to receive that.

Okay, some of the cards are forward pointing, so we're going to put them back to normal. Whenever people come for meditation class here at the dojo, everyone plays with the oracle cards, pulls their own reading.

It's one of the lovely perks of coming to meditation class. It's Monday and Thursday night at 7 pm here in Westfield, New Jersey. If you're out of state, we could get you on Skype, but I can't really pull cards for you because you're far away, or maybe I could.

All right Archangel Michael, what do we need to know this week about physical grounding? New beginnings and a fresh start.

That's beautiful.

"Thank you for bringing new opportunities and offering support, and for help me release, and heal, my past. Fill me with trust as I experience these life changes."

Releasing and healing my past, my guides are saying, really circling that, in the energy for physical grounding.

This week in particular, it's time to poop. Go on a cleanse.

As you cleanse your intestinal system, you are actually releasing the past.

All of those emotions, tensions, experiences, worries, can get backed up in your system. It's not just poo cleanse, but I can also be a blood cleanse, a liver cleanse.

This week my guides are talking cleanse, to help you ground and clear your personal energy, specifically for maintaining your empathic system.

What kind of cleanse are you going to do? Is it going to be more fiber? Are you going to go on a juice cleanse?

Maybe you're going to take alfalfa sprout pills, or whatever works for you, comment below. Whether you're on YouTube or on VictoriaWhitfield.com, I'd love to hear it.

You can send me an email back, just respond to this email that you received to your inbox of your love letter.

By the way, if you're not getting these every week, what are you doing? Go ahead to VictoriaWhitfield.com/freegift, to make sure that you get your love letter every week, and I'll send you a free meditation for signing up, so that you could start clearing your energy right now. Okay?

Let me know how this goes and we'll see you next week for week three of four in our deep dive around grounding. See you then.

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Prioritize connecting to your physical body while at work.

Schedule time during the day to use the restroom, stretch and eat healthy foods, rather than only prioritizing "getting as much stuff done as you possibly can as quickly as you can."

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Tired of the same old routine?

Heavy news stories got you down?

Find yourself fighting off loneliness and depression?

You have WAY more power than you think, you Unicorn, you!

Negative energy is nothing compared to your secret superpower — FLIRTING!

Watch this week's 9-minute love letter to shine you joyful light in an otherwise dark, cold world!

"I'm tired of my routine."

Have things been feeling a bit grey and boring lately?

Things can get very heavy as we're focused on work, or other people, and our relationships, or as being the anniversary of us having lost someone, etc.

Source is sending some inspiration your way for this week in particular.

It is: flirt with the world! You ready? Let's do this, okay.

Flirting, and this is not necessarily, like, "Okay, we're going to get all in everybody's pants." No, no, no, no.

Flirting is simply having fun and making light. Making light, where there was darkness, making light. Lightening the mood, having a sense of humor, silliness, adventure, cheekiness, right?

Flirt with the world. Perhaps it's that mid-day slump, and you're feeling low on energy. It's time to do something silly. The way that you flirt with the world is not even necessarily with anybody else.

Guess what? It's with you first. How in the world does one flirt with themselves? We could hold up a mirror and we're like, "Oh, my. Look at you."

Whatever makes you want to laugh, or if it's making a silly face, right? Something that makes you want to laugh. Bring the joy to your life. Don't wait for someone else to bring it to you.

Here's the thing that can make relationships, whether they're intimate or platonic go really, dead, boring, whether it's your relationship with another person, or even your business, right.

You wait for the other half of the relationship, right? The business, the person, the child, the animal, et cetera, to always be on, or you'll lean on and depend, the other side, to be flirtatious, fun, silly, adventurous, and spontaneous, right? We'll fall into that kind of a routine.

Come on! Pick the ball up! You can do this. Stacey Martino and Paul Martino who are at relationshipdevelopment.org rock, and they really master on sharing about relationships, and bringing the spark, or as they call, the s-flirt, back to our relationships. Go check them out, by the way. Have so much love and respect for them.

This week in particular, it's about you, however. Bring the flirt in you back. Flirt with your reflection.

Flirt with people at the party. Just make jokes and laugh. Try yourself out. You really can.

Now, I'm getting some kickback in the energy right now, I don't know who is watching this and being like, "Girl, you done gone off the deep end", or, "I don't know how to flirt." If you have a sense of humor, or if you've ever laughed at something, yeah, you can flirt.

It's having a sense or the ability to laugh at yourself, and engage, and be spontaneous, and bring that energy out. Bring the joy. How do you bring joy? If you were to flirt with someone. It's not just like a, "Da da da". No, no, no. This is not seduction flirting. This is just having fun and being silly. Another way that you can find yourself flirting if you're not used to it, is maybe with a baby.

You're sort of, "Hey, sweetheart! How are you! Oh, my gosh, look at you." The weird, gooey things that we do to those poor children, and puppies, and kittens, et cetera. Whatever makes you laugh. This week in particular, though, you are being called on by source to make light. I'm not just talking about making light and joking about a situation, even if it's quite heavy, right, but to bring light as a light worker.

Know this: Bring joy to you life; don't wait for it. Have fun and make light where there was darkness. Shine bright!

That is who you are. You're here to bring more joy, more love, more healing, more connection into this planet. It's up to you. Don't wait for somebody else to do it. Calm down, Victoria.

The guides are about to jump through the camera and say, "Wake up!", right? For now, we're going to go to the oracle cards, because they're, "toot, toot", tucking on my shirt. Our angels, angel therapy by Doreen Virtue, one of 19 decks here at the Dojo.

Let's hear it. Let me pull out the cards here.

Angels, what do we need to know about flirting with the world this week? Why in the world is source telling us to do that?

Ooh la la! This is excellent! Ready?

Shield yourself.

This is pretty ninja, I didn't know that they were going to pull that out. We're coming from, like, the fifth dimension now, fifth level conversation right now. Protect yourself from harsh or fear-based energies by envisioning a cocoon of healing light surrounding you.

Here's where we're going to leave off.

Bringing light, making light, flirting with the world, and just deciding to have fun all by yourself, with yourself, is actually an advanced form of energetic protection.

This is psychic self defense, on the sneaky side. My students and I, we have this expression, we call it "the sneaky reiki" that we do in the background. That's actually one of the sneaky reiki, this under the radar techniques for actually shielding your energy from negativity, is actually bringing joy and bringing light.

Raising the vibrations. Start with you first. Flirt with yourself. Enjoy yourself as if you were someone that you were flirting with, who you really liked.

Blessed be if you're someone who is not exactly comfortable with yourself, but pretend that you're hot to trot, and you're the funniest thing on the planet, and you're going to laugh at whatever in the heck you're about to say next. Try it on for size. Do an experiment, right?

Don't commit, fine. Don't commit, just test, see if you like it, and notice how your vibration raises, and you end up actually rising above all the Krusty Krab negativity that could be floating around you. It'll just, "whoop", repel off.

Send me an e-mail back, comment below, what do you think? Have you tried flirting with the world around you, and yourself? What was the result?

Was it an awkward, hot, delicious mess? Was it a delicious everything?

I would love to hear your stories, oh my gosh. Please spread light, because you are a light worker. Subscribe on YouTube, so that you get your love letters first every week, and from one light worker to another, ready for it?

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Decide that you are allowed to share humor and raise the vibration of any situation.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Are you scared to go to work?

Secretly angry that everyone doesn't take care of you like you take care of everyone around you?

Do you hide the fact that deep down you actually expect others to *not* have your back behind always preparing for the "worst case scenario"?

Feeling emotionally safe in life is foundational to experiencing grounded health and wellness.

However, most of us have been taught from a very young age to be circumspect by harboring mistrust in others: we expect the worst, and not the best.

Watch this weeks 8-minute love letter video to explore Source's high-vibrational version of "safety first" and upgrade your mindset!

"I don't trust people."

This week, the guidance from Source is safety first. Safety first.

Did you know that one of the most important things that you can have as your emotional set point is an internal center of safety?

Let me explain.

When we don't have an internal set point of safety, we look to our external world to feel safe.

If we do not create our own safety by having an internal set point of safety, the external world, if she is unsafe, which unfortunately, more often than not she is, the external world is unsafe, we will then identify as being unsafe.

Example, going to work in an environment that you do not feel supported in or comfortable in. Because of that, that will create in you an identity, a self identity of, "I don't trust people" or "I'm not trustworthy" or "My life is hard" because the external environment creates the sense of unsafety, and then because you don't have your center, it's outside of you. You, therefore, identify with your environment instead of with your center.

This week is all about centering, finding your alignment, in particular, strategically generating your version of feeling safe. It starts with you first.

If you've ever meditated here at the dojo with me or on one of the conference lines, etc., one of the mantras, we have many mantras that come through the dojo, but one of the main mantras, especially during meditation time is, "I am safe here. I am safe here."

Telling that to your inner child. "I am safe here."

The reason why we assert that as our mantra is to bring that feeling, that strategic feeling of safety, into you and assert that that is up to you. It's not dependent on the environment, regardless of your space.

You are safe right here. Take a deep breath in and exhale.

Know this:Don't blame your circumstances. You can create your own sense of emotional safety in the world.

Can you imagine if only just for now what your life would be like if you felt safe, and I mean this emotionally, if you felt safe wherever you went?

Rather than looking and searching and searching in other places and other people and other groups and organizations and food and wine and cigarettes and technology, rather than searching externally for an assertion of, "I feel safe. I feel connected. I feel centered."

What if, no matter where you went, you felt safe? Here, in healing journeys with my students, that's what we really practice is bringing that and learning that, bringing that into us, that feeling of safety and then learning strategically how to generate feelings of safety no matter what because in spiritual truth you are safe, even if you decide to transition.

You're still safe right here no matter where you are.

This week in particular, Source wants you to know that, that before you go out into your day, remember safety first.

What that's going to mean for you, and I'm hearing the oracle cards right now coming in the energy, what that specifically means is that safety is something I generate. Safety first. I create my sense of safety, and then from there, I enter the world.

Wouldn't it be amazing to be with people who felt and generated safety no matter where you were?

The oracle cards for this week are the archangel oracle cards deck, another Doreen Virtue deck, one of 19 and counting as we enter the new year. I'm so excited. If you ever want to donate, by all means, send me an email back or comment below. I'd be happy to receive.

Angels, what do we need to know about safety first? 

They just said, "Don't shuffle any further." This is powerful. Courage. Isn't this gorgeous?

Courage. Archangel Ariel says, "Be courageous and stand up for your beliefs."

This is where we'll leave off this week.

The guides say that safety is actually a belief, and you can choose to believe.

Stand up for believing that safety is within you and something that you can choose to create and generate for yourself. It takes courage to decide that this is your center rather than going with the tides and going with convention and saying, "It's outside of you."

I don't know who this message is for, but I'm sharing it because the guides have said so.

If this is for you, send me an email back and comment below. Let me know. Is this speaking to you? What's been coming up?

Have you been putting the responsibility of your safety on others or on your job or on the government or on organizations outside of you? How do you feel safe? Let's take this apart and talk about it.

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your Love Letter first every week, and I'll see you next time. Muah. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Then act as if you believed that were true.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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