Do you secretly believe you’re still not good enough yet?

Feeling like you’re always chasing the proverbial “carrot on a stick” in your personal or professional life?

Constantly searching for the next certification or next "thing" that will finally make you accepted by others?

The comparison monster is a nasty opponent, and it can eat sensitive empaths like us alive from the inside, out.

He turns our inner dialogue into a story of struggle and exclusion, but the good news is this: we can change that right here and now!

Watch this week’s 11-minute love letter video, part 4 in our 5-week deep dive on living an unapologetic life, to shift your mindset and activate your instinct of worthiness again!

"People are going to find out I'm a fraud."

Welcome back. This is week four of five, right on our five week deep dive. I'm living life unapologetically. How's this month going for you? We're really going in gangbusters. Last week we talked about the importance of celebrating yourself.

At the end of last week I remember I noticed something was a little bit, felt a little bit deja vu. Turns out we had two of the same oracle cards in a row. Some of you reached out, "Victoria, look." Yeah, so the guides, the angels are making it a point to say, "We are releasing and surrendering to this unapologetic life and it can be easy."

It doesn't have to be a push or a struggle or anything, tough. Instead, we're just opening to living unapologetically. So good, so beautiful, and it's completely in alignment with this week's channel topic, and that's your already worthy.

What would your life look like if you were already worthy, if you believed, deep down in the core of your being, that you are already worthy? That you didn't have to lose a certain amount of weight to be worthy. That you didn't have to have as many degrees on the wall as your thermometer, right, as TD Jakes says.

If you didn't have to make, have this much in the bank and be spending this much in order to be worthy, what would your life look like? What would the internal dialogue in your head look like if you sincerely believed that you were already worthy? We were covering sorry not sorry earlier this month, week two out of five. We're talking about that we're really apologizing to ourselves, right?

This is more of an internal mindset shift. This doesn't have to do with anybody but you baby. What would it look like if you were already worthy? In fact, how would you carry yourself throughout the day, throughout the week, throughout the year if you believed that you were already worthy? My guides say it comes down to permission, especially permission to fail, to take risks, and to try.

Our egos are so powerful in that they're protecting us from taking risks in the first place, or even trying in the first place because ego, he's a good guy. He's trying to protect you from harm and from perceived harm, perceived danger, but he can be firing on overload.

Where we perceive harm and danger in things that are actually possibly growth opportunities for us, but we'll hold back and tell ourselves then, we come in with the story of, "Well, I'm not worthy," or "I'm not good enough," or "People are going to find out I'm a fraud," or "Someone's going to think something of me. I'm going to be critiqued," right, etc., or "What is so and so going to say?"

We come in with the story of unworthiness that stops our growth at our brilliance right in our tracks, but here's the thing. There's no such thing as being blocked. That's an old love letter that you might want to go dig in YouTube for, fabulous topic, but one of the universal laws is that there's no such thing as being blocked. As much as we tell ourselves the story of unworthiness, it is all just a story. It is all just an illusion.

For this week's activity, you are going to give yourself permission to feel already worthy. The same way that a puppy, if you've ever had a brand new puppy or kitten, whatever your animal people flavor is. When they're first learning to howl or meow, they make all kinds of ridiculous sounds, or when they're first getting used to playing and running, they'll fall on their face and have a great time of it. This is just an animal, it's not even a person.

Think of babies, how they try and try, and try, but animals are unique in that they're driven by instinct, and this week in particular I'm calling on you. I'm calling on you to tap into your instinct of worthiness.

‪Know this: You have an instinct of worthiness. Call on it. Decide to turn it in now.

You have an instinctual worthiness that you know that you have within you, that you can just decide is turned on. I'm calling on you and your instinct for worthiness. I want you to feel it, walk in it, feel in it, speak from it, if only just for this week or just for today as we write in the love letters.

My guides are bringing the oracle cards deck back up in the energy. Daily guidance from your angels, Doreen Virtue. I'd be interested to see if maybe we'll have a three in a row. Angels what do we need to know right now about believing and living as if we're already worthy? Life purpose, the purpose of your life is to serve in a way that brings great joy to yourself and others.

Don't worry about finding your purpose. Instead, focus upon serving a purpose and then your purpose will serve you. This is where we'll leave off this week.

I'm sinking deep into my heart for members of our tribe, for you, if you're watching and you would love to argue with me that you are not worthy. You are staunch about, "I am not worthy. I am not ready. I am not good enough." I'm sending you big love, so much love, and healing energy, sending to you.

The angels are bringing this card forward, my guides tell me, especially because for those of us where we believe that we're really not worthy, then the bridge to believing in your own worth is having a purpose that is worthy of your attention, of your energy and of your calling.

If you can't believe in yourself yet, find something to believe in. It could be a cause for animal rights. It could be a cause of helping out people in your community that are disadvantaged. It could be for standing for different issues, of serving a purpose.

What causes you to feel passionate? My mentor, Fabian, says that your passions are not random. They are actually your calling.

Tap into your passions this week, if you are feeling that you are not worthy and you are not good enough. Instead, lean on serving a purpose first until you will realize that even without that purpose you were already worthy.

Come and blow. Send me an email back. Write me back, a letter in the mail. You know I love, love letters. Thank you to all of those of you who've sent them. Oh my gosh, that's just like, that's not even all of them. Feeling so much love, thank you, thank you for that.

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first, every week, and by the way, if you need an extra shot of positivity and you want to learn how to really value yourself and raise your vibration at will, join us at the next Master Manifester Challenge.

There will be a link in the description box or somewhere on this page, or around this video, so that you can join in, and we can interact live. You're just watching these videos. I want to see you too. I will see you soon. Next week is our last,

(Original post 01/22/2018)

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Decide to act and live as if you are already worthy: of love, wealth, health, etc..

Imagine that you had permission to make a million mistakes right now, and still be “ok” regardless.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

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Scared of sticking out from the crowd?

Do you put yourself down to make other people feel comfortable?

Lacking confidence, especially when introducing yourself others?

Sensitive empaths are often taught to put other people first, and to never brag because it’s rude.

But sometimes being able to celebrate yourself is essential, especially when introducing yourself and your business, to connect deeply and convey confidence to potential clients and partners.

Watch this week’s 11-minute love letter video, part 3 of our 5-week deep dive on living life Unapologetically, to learn exactly how to start celebrating how freakin’ awesome you are, even if you’re not used to it!

"My goes blank when I try to tell people about myself."

It's week three of our five week deep dive.

This is so good. A really juicy topic of living life unapologetically.

Now, I've been getting so much response off of this topic, oh my gosh. To those of you who get the mail, like the real ones, the real love letters, you've been writing me back and saying, "Thank you so much. I love this topic. This is my word for the year, too. Let's do this," or "Here's my word," I'm loving it.

I'm loving it and I'm really curious to hear more from you, so go ahead, email me back.

Write me back. Post me back. Tell me all the things that are coming up for you around living life unapologetically.

Last week, we covered Sorry, Not Sorry, right? Deleting the word "sorry" from our vocabulary.

This week in particular, we're going to cover with the technique of the week is celebrating yourself. Whoa! Isn't it just the most frightening thing that we could possibly talk about? Oh my goodness.

So, maybe you're like me in that when someone asks you, "So tell me about yourself," I especially used to be this way, it was like a blank slate just completely wiped over my mind, and I'm like, "What in the world do I say to this person?" "Tell me about yourself," or "What's new and good," or "Tell me something good," the kind of open-ended questions that a confident person, I'm sure we all know them, who would jump right in with like how great their workout regimen is, or how much money they made, or how in love they are, or how much they love their kids, or this one time when they threw the football all the way across the yard, or something way back in high, or whatever.

Confident people celebrate themselves, but for those of us that are more sensitive naturally, this can be a bit of a dilemma because we think of celebrating ourselves as being egocentric, selfish, self-serving, getting too full of yourself. In Australia we call it tall poppy, right? Cut that poppy down to size so that you look like the rest of the fold.

For us, as empaths, we're also afraid of feeling the uncomfortable emotional sensation, ambient emotional sensation of visibility and judgment, like, "Oh. Well, if I really celebrate myself, I'm going to sense this person judging me and I don't want those cooties in my head. Ew, I can feel their jealousy."

Is this you? Are you afraid of celebrating yourself because of what other people will think? If that's you, sending big love, and that's going to stop this week.

For those of you who work with me privately, you know that I have a group support program called the Visionary Shaman Circle, and in that we practice, I'm going to introduce you to this if you haven't heard of this before, the technique of the week is called a C2R2. In the Shaman Circle, we really work on standing in our brilliance as spiritual entrepreneurs, healers and empaths. We work on standing in our brilliance.

One of the techniques that we use in the Shaman Circle for doing this effectively is called the C2R2. Not the R2D2, to all my Star Wars fans. The C2R2, it's two Cs and two Rs. What are you celebrating, what are you creating? What are you releasing, and what are you requesting?

It's a form to follow in reporting about yourself so that if you get that open-ended question of, "Oh, so tell me what you do," or "Tell me about yourself," say, "Okay. Well, I'm celebrating having come off my first two weeks of personal vacation. I'm really grateful for that. I'm creating more sacred space to be with my loved ones. Lately, I've been releasing fear around taking risks in my business, but what I'm requesting right now more than ever, from a source, from the universe, or maybe even from you is more support on how to make that happen."

Boom! All of a sudden, I just ran right through the format of a C2R2: what are you celebrating, what are you creating, what are you releasing, what are you requesting? There's no fifth thing.

So you run right through that, and when you get the hang of it, you'll be able to celebrate yourself authentically and with a sense of ease, it'll roll right off of you. But it starts with celebrating yourself because guess what? You're really freaking awesome! Has anyone told you that lately? You are really awesome. You do amazing things for everybody: for your boss, for your clients, for your family, for your kids, for so many people.

‪Know this: You are freakin’ awesome! And it’s time you started celebrating YOURSELF. #inspiration #entrepreneur @SenseiWhitfield

If you were to sit down and write all of the things that you are celebrating that you've accomplished let's just say within the last week, you would have a fit. In fact, that is this week's homework.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards calling in the energy as the action step for the week comes forward. Sit down, even if you can't do a complete C2R2, just write a list of at least ten things that you are celebrating you've accomplished within the last week. If you can't come up within the last week, try the last three months or six months, maybe even a year.

Really soak that in, that you are a powerful being. You are a powerful being. Source knows that about you. We're continuing with daily guidance from the Angels. Let's see. Angels, what do you have to tell our tribe? This is one of the many decks here, always open to receiving donations of additional Oracle card decks.

Angels, what do we need to know right now about celebrating ourselves to live an unapologetic life? Oh, hello. Yes! Release and surrender. This is so perfect.

"We shower you with blessings of our radiant love. Open your arms and release the challenges that you've held tightly gripped within your hands. Open your hands, arms and heart to our love and assistance." This is where we're going to leave off for the week. I'm getting de ja vu around this card. This is kind of interesting. Part of celebrating yourself is letting go of being small, letting go, surrendering the idea that the smaller you are the safer you will feel, or the less brilliant you are the better other people will feel. There's so much love inside of you, for you, coming from your source, coming from spirit, but coming from yourself, like a garden hose.

Up until now, you may have pinched that off, and that'll show up in different areas of your life, being pinched off financially, pinched off neurologically, pinched off romantically, pinched off socially, however you say. But if only just for now, we're going to release and surrender that pinched part of our energy to really open up and celebrate. You can do this. You can do this.

Send me an email back, and comment below what's your list of ten things, the ten things that you're going to celebrate that you've accomplished about yourself.

For all my Visionary Shamans, if you want to do a full-on C2R2, go ahead and post it below, send me an email back. By the way, if this speaks to you, join us in the Master Manifester Challenge. I'll put a link, and that's my five-day Facebook challenge. I know another one is coming up soon, whenever you're watching this.

We do them periodically where we will be doing C2R2s every single day and getting your vibrations super high, training you how to do that so that you can live life unapologetically and abundantly. So I will see you next week for week four of five. See you then. Bye!

(Original post 01/15/2018)

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Make it a point to acknowledge and celebrate at least 10 things you’ve accomplished.

Get a pen and pad and write them out: from the last week, quarter or even year.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want spiritual support on your healing journey but don't know where to start? Let's work #together!

Click the pink button below to take your Abundance Energy Jumpstart Assessment with Victoria and jumpstart your healing journey, today!

Are you putting off living life unapologetically?

Do you believe others can pursue their passions and dreams now, but not you?

Feel like you'll have permission to be yourself "later" - like when you get the perfect job, spouse, baby, retirement, body, etc.?

Most sensitive entrepreneurs put off living life fully and openly for fear of criticism, shaming and judgement.

And these low-vibrational feelings distract us empathically from the reasons why we must show up in life and business unapologetically, now.

Watch this week’s 11-minute Love Letter, the first installment in our 5-week series, to remember why you must live your life unapologetically.

"Welcome to a brand new you!"

This is a brand new five-week deep dive series that we're going to be doing on the topic of living an unapologetic life. Every year, I pick a word that is the theme for the year for me personally. Last year, my theme was Supported; how I want to feel. This year in particular, Unapologetic Ease is actually the full intention and sensation that I'm going for this year in particular. My guide said, “Let's start off the year bringing in the entire tribe around what it looks like and what's at stake behind living life unapologetically.”

As you know, by now, when we do these multi-week deep dive series, it's so that you and I can have time to really get into the nuts and bolts of these topics. Also, we always begin with why. We start with why because we're conjuring energy, we're conjuring attention and focus around this new learning topic. If you're looking to start new projects and generate energy, you start with why. There are other reasons for you to start with why, such as: getting clear on what you're passionate about, clarifying focus and reeling in, honing in energy not just of your own but also of your team around you. So starting with why rocks!

This week, let's look at why you should live life unapologetically. Here's the thing: When we live life apologetically, we go throughout our days and go throughout our businesses, our meetings, our relationships, even the thoughts that we think in our heads going round and around thinking, “I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm so sorry,” or, “This is a really sorry circumstance,” or the wah-wah kind of energy is what follows us around when we live life apologetically. Even when we're trying to get to our seat in the movie theater, we say repeatedly:“I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.” Is this you? Is that just your automatic thing to say, "I'm sorry", when someone calls on you or when you have a question or when you call someone up or think … Is that the way that you meet the world, as "I'm sorry?"

If the way that you are meeting the world is leading with I'm sorry, then you are automatically blocking all the love, all the abundance, the support and healing that Source is pouring on you. Write this down: Saying I'm sorry means don't support me, I'm bad. Saying I'm sorry means don't support me because I'm bad.

Know this: Constantly saying I'm sorry blocks #abundance; the universe hears it as "don't support me because I'm wrong." @SenseiWhitfield

You should not be full of shame in the way that you meet the world. The reason why we want to live life unapologetically is so that you have all the energy that you need to meet life confidently and full of joy, full of radiance. We need your light.

Healers, you've got to meet the world unapologetically because you have a powerful, powerful purpose, and we need you now more than ever. Entrepreneurs, you're here to solve problems. You're a problem solver. You've seen an issue and you're like, “Oh, I have a solution.” We need you to come to life unapologetically because there's plenty of problems out there that if it wasn't for you, we wouldn't have the solution for.

It's time for you to come out of your shell and step into life unapologetically. Why? Because we need YOU.

Now, also, be kind to yourself if you think that you should stave off living life unapologetically until retirement or on, “When I get married, I'll be unapologetic about myself. That's when I can let myself go.” By the way, it’s not how that works, or, “Maybe when I get that big client, I can finally book a massage because I don't deserve self-care until I make a certain amount of money.” No. Oh my goodness. Be kind to yourself if you're pushing off living life unapologetically. "I'm not going to travel the world until I’ve retired at 67 or 72 or whenever the years are when I'm too tired to really be going around the world, yeah, that's when I'll live life unapologetically." Or "I’ll wait until I'm older to be taken seriously because I'm a female or I'm a young man or whatever, and that means because I'm young or because I'm female, that means you can't really take me seriously."

Stop apologizing. Why are you living life unapologetically? You have a purpose now. You can live life like you mean it. You can live life like you own it now, and we need you now. We needed you, as they say in New York. We needed you yesterday. Let's make a commitment this week in particular to invoke this concept of living life unapologetically. For the next five weeks, we're going to dive deep into it. Are you ready?

Accompanying us on our journey into living life unapologetically is the oracle cards deck Daily Guidance From Your Angels by Doreen Virtue, one of the many oracle cards decks. You can send in your donation deck to the dojo. Go ahead to naturalintuition.com and look for the Contact page, my mailing address is there. Thank you to all my loves who sent in donation decks. It's amazing. You should see how many people have been benefiting from your generosity. I’ll try to post more pictures. I'm not going to apologize though. Yes, yes. Okay. Angels, what do we need to know this week in particular about why we need to live life unapologetically? Oh, that felt strong.

Perfect Timing.

Perfect Timing: Now is the perfect moment for you to act on your inspirations. The doors are open while you walk through them with us by your side. Don't delay or procrastinate as all of the ingredients are ripe for your success. Everything and everyone is on your side supporting your positive outcome.

Where we're going to leave off this week is that why should you live an unapologetic life is because Now is the time. There are opportunities, the angels are saying, that, if you have the confidence and the presence and the energy to step into, your whole life would change, and so will the lives of all those around you, in your community, in your family, on your team. We need you now. Can you see that first word? Now is the perfect moment. Now more than ever.

Go ahead, type in the comments below how is this perfectly on time, this topic of living life unapologetically. We are walking into this as a new year - regardless of when you're watching or reading this, by the way. At the time that this airs, it will be a new year in 2018, but we are walking into this new year as if Now is when we're worthy, Now is when we can live life unapologetically.

What would that mean to you? Go ahead and type in the comments below. I want to hear it. I want to read it. Share, send me videos back, send me an e-mail back at info@victoriawhitfield.com. That comes straight to me. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every week and I will see you next time for part two of five. See you soon. Bye.

(Original post 01/01/2018)

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Just for Today...

Decide to live life unapologetically, right now.

Go about your day assuming you are already worthy and have everything you ever wanted.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want spiritual support on your healing journey but don't know where to start? Let's work #together!

Click the pink button below to take your Abundance Energy Jumpstart Assessment with Victoria and jumpstart your healing journey, today!

This is the fifth and final week of our exploration of vulnerability, cultivating our relationship with being vulnerable and improving our ability to engage and open up in a positive way, maybe for the first time.

Now if this is the first video that you're seeing in this series, make sure that you hit pause, go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com and start from part one, so that you are grounded in this process. Without further ado, this week in particular for the fifth and final week of our discussion on vulnerability, my spirit guides have asked us to discuss vulnerable leadership.

Last week, we talked about the power of opening up as an empath to being vulnerable, so that we can better relate to and interact with the people and things that we care about in this lifetime. We talked about respecting our energy as empaths, but also not letting our sensitivity dominate us in this lifetime – claiming that as a power, rather than a disability – or be something that you're constantly afraid of or overly protecting yourself from. This week, however, we're going even farther into vulnerability as a power and applying it to leadership.

A wonderful role model of vulnerable leadership and someone who's a thought leader in this area, two people actually, I would have to say one is Simon Sinek and the other is Brene Brown. If you have not checked out their work, I highly recommend it. They have amazing, inspiring, empowering things to share with you around vulnerable leadership and how healing it is especially in the professional world.

The most painful thing that I've seen is how insensitive leadership destroys powerful teams that have become like family and overcome the most incredible odds together. These things that come from the top-down in corporate – restructuring, or layoffs, or whatever hot word they use to explain being insensitive to the needs and the preciousness of the relationships of the people that are working under them – it's incredible how destructive they can be.

I grew up watching my mother re-enter the workforce after 17 years as a homemaker to work for a certain corporation as a technical writer, and then a web developer, and coder for over 20 years. I remember as a kid going to their picnics and things and seeing all of these people that she worked with like my extended family, and feeling part of something bigger; seeing them laughing, and supporting one another. ...Then I also lived through, as a young woman, watching them be torn apart, seeing the stress, and the pain of those wonderful relationships being just torn apart, torn apart by restructuring or “re-orgs” as the company would say. I'm not going to say what company because I want to respect privacy here.

Maybe you've seen this happen in your family – your work family – or your corporation as well, this being torn apart by insensitive leadership, putting numbers before people, or putting self-protection first, which is something that we hinted at last week. Let's go into it this time for our final discussion: the toxic effects of putting self-protection before serving their community around us.

We can get protection-obsessed especially in the professional world because for some reason we allow money and numbers to make us paranoid and prioritize dollars and quotas, and metrics above people, relationships, health and mutual human respect. Be kind to yourself if this is something that you've witnessed happening and that you don't want to be a part of any longer. If only just for today, commit to being open as a leader. Commit to developing your ability to be vulnerable along with the people who you are leading.

Simon Sinek gives us a wonderful example of how to measure how open-hearted you are as a leader. Leaders, he says, are people who watch out for the people to the right and to the left of them. That is it. It has nothing to do with titles, what's on your business card, or what your website says, or how big your office is, or how big your bank account is, or not. It's who are you being on a moment-to-moment basis. In order to look out for, to take care of, the people to the left and to the right of you, you've got to be open to what's going on with them, rather than just what's going on with “Me” and making sure that I'm getting x, y, z done, and so on.

It is a mental acrobatic that you do at first to decide, “I'm going to be concerned, and open, and curious, and communicative with the people that are to the left and to the right of me. The people that are supporting me, I am going to support them. I'm going to be open to how do they feel right now. I'm going to ask them, ‘how are you feeling? Are you all right?’ and loving and supporting them in that.”

Coming from a space of your own center of love and support and not forgetting that you as a leader have needs and have feelings is also important, which is something that we also discussed last week, opening to the fact that I have feelings, too, as an Empath. As someone who supports others, I have feelings. I have needs, and they have got to be honored and respected by me first and then also the people that I'm sharing this life experience with.

Be kind to yourself if in trying to be a vulnerable leader, meaning someone who is present to and caring for the people who are in your care, you've sacrificed your own self-care. That is negative vulnerable leadership because it leaves you open to health problems, relationship problems, spiritual and emotion oppression, depression. Be kind to yourself. That leaves you negatively vulnerable.

How can we then as leaders, moreover as Healing Leaders (that's my term) on this planet, how can we open up to leading from the heart, leading with courage, and positive vulnerability? I’m curious, what does that look like? Positive, vulnerable leadership, is healing leadership. I would venture that it starts with healing self, first, and staying open to being present to those that are in our care, who are supporting us, who are following us, and share the same beliefs and vision that we have. We're all working together in one direction. At the same time, there's the person out in front who holds the vision, being the Visionary. --

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Are you healing? Are you present to yourself? Okay, if you are, you're doing your self-care, you're doing your spiritual nourishment, your physical nourishment and love. Good. And are you present to the people around you needing the same, just as much love, and approval, and support, and honor as you're showing yourself? Are they also learning how to do that for the people behind them as well?

Be a Healing Leader. It entails being open to being vulnerable, cultivating that ability to be vulnerable, but if only just for today, commit to being a healing leader by opening to being vulnerable in a positive and empowering way.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards like, "Hey, pick us!" It's Healing with the Angels oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue, her very first oracle cards deck that she ever made in her career. Angels, what do we need to know right now about stepping into healing leadership by embodying being positive, vulnerable leaders? ...This is so good, like I could literally do an entire summit on this, “listening.” Listening! This is so perfect. I love that in the picture, she's listening to her angels, and her angels are listening to her. I'm going to read, I don't really have to, but before I read I just want to tell you what I'm hearing from my spirit guides around listening.

The most powerful leaders I've ever followed in my own life have been profound listeners, profound. Having the courage to listen to your people as a leader is essential. God, She gave us two ears and one mouth. We've got to listen twice as much as we give directions and directives. Anyway, let’s start listening. Let me read:

Listening. You are in communication with your angels and the messages that you are receiving are very real indeed. Trust them. This card is a validation from your angels that you really are hearing them. You have been receiving repetitive messages through your feelings, dreams, visions, inner voice, or knowingness. Are you listening and trusting these messages? Are you following them? If you get an inclination to call someone, go somewhere, or read something, it's important to follow this guidance. By drawing this card, your angels ask you to give all your doubts or worries about divine guidance to them. Know that you truly are communicating with heaven and enjoy the conversations.

This is so perfect. Here's where we'll leave off for this entire series: Cultivating your listening sense. Your active listening is also cultivating positive vulnerability. If you are not comfortable listening to others, or you feel impatient, it's just because you haven't cultivated listening as a skill. It's just a skill that you're a little bit deficient in. If you just dedicate time and mental space to it, it gets easier and more pleasurable with time.

If you need to work on your listening skills, I highly recommend my book Natural Intuition Now. I take you step by step exactly through how to listen with presence and also why it is so important. The more that we become intuitive, open, vulnerable, healing and empowered leaders, the better our world becomes, the better the legacy of love becomes that we leave behind us in all the work that we do and all the people, all the lives that we touch.

Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfiled.com. What's coming up for you around this? Make sure you subscribe on YouTube, so that you get Love Letters first every single week. Tag someone who needs to hear this, and I will see you in the next one.

May you feel loved and safe to be your most brilliant self at work.

Please, enjoy the journey. Muah. See you soon. --

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Challenge yourself to actively listen twice as much as you speak, when in conversations and meetings.

Listen to your body, your feelings, others’ bodies and feelings, and shine the light of your attention on the things left unsaid by all involved in the conversation (yourself included).

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

-- Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business. Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

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Are you uncomfortable receiving compliments?

Is it weird for you to ask for *and* to receive help from others?

Feeling out of place in your new position at work, like you don't deserve it?

Being seen is always uncomfortable; that's why we tend to hide our gifts, rather than share them openly and often.

But positive discomfort can also be a sign of growth and good changes happening, if you know what to look for.

Watch this week's 10-minute Love Letter, the final installment in our 4-week exploration of the Power of Positive Community, to harness the healing power of Evolutionary Visibility in your life and business!

"Sometimes I feel like I don't belong."

This is our fourth and final week of a deep dive into the power of positive community. So if you haven't seen the previous installments, I highly recommend them. Stop, go back, and watch them on YouTube, or on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com.

This week, for our fourth and final installment, where we're going to land the plane of our journey through the power of positive community is what happens when you actually are in positive community, what you can expect. And it is ... Drum roll please, evolutionary visibility.

Evolutionary visibility. It is so powerful, and this phrase came straight from my guides. I've tried to read more on it, and I haven't really heard of it. So you heard it here first.

Evolutionary visibility is the true essence and power of being in positive community.

Last week we covered the lions and the kittens, right? Where's your mindset at? And we covered the concept of the lioness who grew up around cats, so that finally when she was come of age and fully-formed, it was a bit of a surprise and a shock feeling completely out of space.

What would happen if she finally got around a pride of lions? This is where we're going this week in particular. Are we ready for it? So evolutionary visibility is the experience of others seeing you as your true self, your higher self, and because of that, they hold you to that standard and call that out of you.

And with all of that support around you, you evolve into your full and highest self.

It takes two parts, however. When we are first the lioness, that grew up around cats and kittens, we have a certain self image of ourself. We are a cat. We are a kitten, yes? And then when we get around lions, there's this fear, a sense of, I don't belong.

Maybe you have experienced this in your business because you've enrolled in group coaching or you joined a networking group or association. Or maybe you moved your business to a more premium area. Or you may have even rebranded at a higher vibration, right?

And there's this kind feeling that you have where "I'm a fraud. I'm a fraud. I am not what that says I am. I am not what you say I am. I am not what the branding and those ... I'll never be enough. I'll never be enough."

That fraud and not enough-ness, our inner-achiever, comes out with a vengeance, especially when we're growing.

This is a sign of growing pains, however. And especially if you're feeling discomfort. It's extra important for you to be surrounded by lions who will champion you and celebrate you in your power and say, "Yeah. Bring out those claws. Yeah, let your mane shake out.

You're brilliant. You're gorgeous. You're fabulous. You're an expert. You're the best of the best." Those type of cheerleaders and champions cause us to evolve. They're like a mirror, a cosmic mirror. All brilliant loving people are cosmic mirrors, and when they stand in front of you, they reflect your greatness back to you.

With that, the power of positive community is allowing yourself to be seen in that light. There's an element of vulnerability that comes being seen as brilliant. If you think of the light, like the lamp back there, when you first turn a light on, there's a bit of an adjustment in your eyes, if you're sensitive to light.

Know this: All brilliant, loving people are Cosmic Mirrors. When they stand in front of you, they reflect your #greatness back to you. Allow yourself to be seen as brilliant by your #positive community.

Or even especially if you've been in the dark for so long. It hurts at first, but then you adjust.

That pain is the opening of your eyes, the relaxing of your ocular muscles to allow for more light to flood in. The same thing happens to us emotionally and mentally when we open up about our life purpose, or we open up around, this is what I really want to focus on, or this is who I really am.

There's a vulnerability in that opening. But when you're around positive community, if and when you open vulnerably, it is powerful. And those cosmic mirrors of those loving people will reflect back to you the brilliance that you are. Your mindset may be a couple light years behind you, but if you stick around that positive community long enough, you will adjust and relax into your greatness.

So this week in particular, the guides are asking you to bring more evolutionary visibility into your life. Being safe and vulnerable and open in your brilliance and in your power, and because others are reflecting that and championing it and celebrating it in you, you can evolve and step fully into it.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. It's the fairies. Healing With the Fairies by Doreen Virtue. Okay. And I'm always accepting donations if you have an oracle card deck that you would love to donate to the dojo, go to my "About Me" page. There's a "Give Back" link, and there's all the information that you'd like for donating. Thank you, by the way, in advance.

Fairies, what do we need to know right now about evolutionary visibility and positive community? Stepping into our greatness and positive community. Don't shuffle anymore, they said. Ooh. New opportunity. This is where we're going to leave off for this week. Really exciting.

So the fairies are bringing forward a card that says, "You have, within one degree of separation of you ... " Moi, right here. "You are directly connected to the opportunity of stepping into positive community and evolutionary visibility being in that community." Are you aware of that? Be on the lookout. There is a new opportunity coming your way to be part of a next level positive community. A next level space and group of people who see you and celebrate you in your power and in your brilliance.

I highly recommend that you go and check out my visionary shaman circle at victoriawhitfield.com/jointhetribe. Go there, read through it. That is the next level tribe that we have here at the dojo of lions and lionesses who are championing you in your high vibrational presence.

But what's your new opportunity that's coming through? What positive community are you going to commit to join? Is it my Visionary Shaman Circle?

Go ahead and send me an email back or comment below what comes up for you around this. Do you want to be held in that brilliant space of evolutionary visibility? Curious to hear it.

So that's it for this week's Love Letter video, and for our four week deep dive on the power of positive community. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letter videos first every week.

And remember, if there's any way that I can help you balance your mind, body, and business, just let me know at victoriawhitfield.com/contact.

We'll see you there. Bye.

(Original post 04/23/2018)

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Share your life purpose with someone positive, who delights in celebrating and encouraging others.

Open your heart and reveal your passion for what you're excited to create in your life and business, and allow them to celebrate you and lift you up.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Feeling isolated by your business or position at work? 

Do your coworkers drain you with negativity and drama?

Wondering why you are secretly lonely, even though you work with a good team and serve or interact with tens or even hundreds of happy clients and customers each week?

Entrepreneurs and business owners are a special, rare breed of professional -- we are naturally wired to be creative and driven leaders.

And sometimes, it gets lonely being at the leading-edge of the business; pulling the business forward can be both exciting and exhausting if you're the only visionary on board.

Watch this week’s 10-minute Love Letter video, the first of a new 4-week series on the Power of Positive Community, to start shifting your workplace from negative to positive!

"I feel lonely since starting my own business."

This week is the first of a four, brand new four-week deep-dive on the power of positive community.

I really love taking time to cover these concepts with you in depth, so rather than just doing one video at a time, right? We're going to give you concepts, bite-sized, all right, to meditate on one week at a time, so that by the end of our four-week journey together, you will feel much more grounded in enjoying, receiving and experiencing the power of positive community.

If you've seen our series of videos before, ye hey, thank you for your support. Thank you. Thank you. Make sure you're subscribed on YouTube though. If you haven't yet, let's get to it.

As usual, our first of the four weeks, right? First of the four weeks is going to cover why. Why on earth this month in particular are the guides calling for us to consider the power of positive community?

Now, I specialize in helping entrepreneurs heal. What happens in our journey of entrepreneurship is that it is a powerful journey of self-actualization, personal development, right, self-worth, yes? Has this happened to you? Send me an e-mail back or comment below.

If your journey owning your own business and working for yourself has really been about personal development, not just making money, all right? So with that, what happens over time is that we can get to be a little bit isolated. Let's take you to a bit of the dark side of entrepreneurship and business ownership.

Not everybody is a business owner, so owning your own business, creating your own schedule, creating your life by design ... Creating your life by design, that can, one, take a lot of energy and a lot of pressure.

Lastly, it can be isolating. You know, entrepreneurs, self-employed, owners are some of the loneliest people on the planet even though we end up seeing and interacting with the most people who, like me, may have hundreds of contacts or thousands of connections and things like that, that you're influencing on a monthly, weekly, maybe even daily basis - or even thousands and millions.

Know this: #Entrepreneurs and #business owners are some of the loneliest people on the planet, though they may serve thousands. Make time for #positive community!

At the same time, for ourselves, we are a unique breed of entrepreneurs and business owners. You can't really go out and talk about the types of issues, emotionally and spiritually, that come up to just anybody when we're talking about owner-level issues, right? Talking about cashflow, how that's affecting your self-image and waking up, as one of my mentors say, with 3:00 a.m. sweats. Right? That's her phrase.

Those types of concepts, not everyone understands. Uniquely has business owners and entrepreneurs do, and we can get so focused in our journey to serving others in our highest purpose that we forget to connect with other loves who are similar to us, right? Black sheep tends to hang out by himself and surrounded by white sheep, but you're not the only black sheep out there. This month in particular, starting this week in particular, the guides want you to invoke, remember and stand in the power of positive community.

Now, let's be even more specific. We want positive community, not negative community. The broader social norm is to relate according to problems, right, and negativity or things that make us angry and frustrated, right? We connect around or struggling, and oh, you struggle about the same thing or will even get attracted to people who, oh, you feel that life is so hard for you. Let's make a baby and be together for a whole bunch of decades, right? Be kind to yourself, and let's see what's this situation right now. I understand. Been there, done that, got the scar.

With that, when you are a spiritually-awakened entrepreneur, it becomes even more important to surround yourself with similar sparkly black sheep just like you so that you can feel safe and empowered on your path to creating your life by design.

The love association states that you become the sum total, the median of the five people that you listen to and hang out the most with. If you have five kids, yes, you're going to be saying the same words and thinking about the similar things and listening to similar music and watching the same movies, reading the same books. It's just what's going to happen, right?

In business, you have the same median income of the five people that you are listening to and interacting with the most professionally. Did you catch that?

Here's the thing. If you're hanging around people, to all my business owners, who don't have clients and who are struggling and are talking about the struggle or frustrated, right? All these low-vibrational mindset, it's going to affect your income but also your health. It's not just ... I mean when you're talking to a business owner, if you talk about money, they're going to listen, yes, and we have to understand, life is holistic.

Money's just a symptom of a greater issue, and this month in particular, if you've been having cashflow problems or relationship flow problems or even health flow problems, we're going to look at how's your community doing? How are you surrounding yourself with positive uplifting energy?

I'm hearing the oracle cards sparkling in the energy around that. Let me come in a little bit closer for the reading, tah-dah, the fairies, Healing With The Fairies. One of God-knows-how-many oracle decks that we have here at the dojo. Oh my goddess, but we're going to be journeying with the fairies all month. Fairies, guides and guardians, what do we need to know right now about the power of positive community?

Oh, quiet time, and this is where we're going to leave off this week in particular. How you feel is what matters most. What matters most is how you feel, and you can tell by how you feel when you are in your quiet time. How much quiet time you get and how quality your quiet time is. This week in particular, I want you to look at who? Who are you spending your time with during quiet time? Is it just by yourself?

Are there any groups, books, programs, right, podcasts and things that you consume when it's time for you to receive? Quiet time is receptive time. This month, we're going to learn how to receive on an exponential level, opening up to positive community.

Go ahead. Type in the comments below or send me an e-mail back. What's coming up for you, hearing all of these?

Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every single week, all right? We'll see you next time for week two of four. Ready for it? Mwah. See you then.

(Original post 04/02/2018)

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Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Are you, or is someone you know, a workaholic?

Worried that if you say "no" when people who ask for help, that you'll be mean or they won't like you?

Drowning in projects and things to manage, at work AND at home?

It's easier to just give in and say "yes" and be seen as helpful, than to stand your ground and say "no" and be seen as possibly selfish.

But when we do that, we add another project on to our already overwhelmed plate of "helpfulness" - perhaps this is more than just being helpful, perhaps it's now an addiction.

Watch this week's 15-minute love letter for the fifth and final installment in our 5-week deep dive on self care versus self sabotage to send healing to our relationship with (personal and professional) help-a-holism.

"I never feel like I'm doing enough."

We've been on a five-week-long deep dive into the dance that we empaths do between self-care and self-sabotage. All the different ways that we stand in the way of shining our light to our fullest potential. I'm really grateful. I just want to thank you for tuning in for week five.

I want to thank you for all your support over the years, of the love letters, my gosh. What? We're going on four or five years straight of love letters. I just want to thank you for your continued support.

This week in particular, we're going to focus on self-sabotage around workaholism and help-a-holism, fix-a-holism. Helping, and fixing, and putting out all the fires, and working all the limbs all day. Those of us who are highly sensitive individuals who are naturally empathic, who are naturally intuitive. Last week we discovered your call to be a healer, your call to healing leadership. You're sensitive for that reason.

But this week is the dark side of that, where you can be so driven to help, and to fix, and to take care give, and to take responsibility; but you lose yourself. Not only lose yourself, you may even hurt yourself.  Be kind yourself, if this is you. This last one, baby, is for you. This is our swan song, yes?

Workaholism, guides say that the soul craving behind that, or that the hidden feeling driver behind helping everybody, and fixing everything, and working constantly. The addiction to work, and projecting.

Not just projecting stuff, we're projecting people, like in your relationships, yes, yes? Maybe this isn't you, maybe we're talking about somebody else. We can pretend.

But, maybe let that obsession with being everybody's caregiver, taking care of everybody and everything. What's the hidden driver behind that?

And the guides say that it is the feeling of, "I'm not good enough. I'm not doing enough. I am good when I am doing. I am only good when I am doing."

Doing good, doing stuff for other people, pleasing others, when I'm gaining approval. Yes, yes? When I'm gaining recognition, I am worthy based on my output ... which is faulty.

Yes, it is good to do good things and to help others. This is not to say that you shouldn't be helping other people, and that you should be like, "All right, screw you all, I'm going home." Right? Pulling a Cartman. No, that's not what we're talking about here.

As much as that sounds fabulous to one of you ... I just heard someone in the energies saying, "I want to tell everyone, 'Go away.'" If that's you ... Bear with me, we're going to make it through this.

But, what's also coming up behind that, as your working, working, working and saying yes to everything; the flipside is the fear of saying, "no." Our lack of boundaries is fueling this relentless need for approval and affirmation. In the workplace, or in the eyes of someone that you helped, or getting to see their transformation so you feel worthy, because they had an outcome or you had an impact on them.

What happens, however, when there's nothing to do, no one to save, nothing to fix? The big question is, are you still worthy? Are you still lovable? Are you still acceptable? Are you still good? Are you still okay, as a person if you don't have something to do, something to do, something to do? This is a big one. When we have this addiction, this also expresses as a lack of boundaries.

What are boundaries? This is the million-dollar word for every single empath like, ever: boundaries. Boundaries are the invisible lines that separate what is you and what is not you; what is yours and what is not yours.

Now, from a spiritual perspective, yes, there is the universal law of oneness, which says, "All that is, is one." But that doesn't mean you have to do everything all the time, or that everything that's yours belongs to everybody else, or that you don't have any selfness. You don't have a worth because you don't have a self.

No. That's not what that is saying. Instead, that's just to appreciate the interconnectedness and interdependence of all of life, and all that is. However, we're talking about this turning into co dependence. Codependency is when you depend on someone or something outside of you for a sense of emotional security, to give you your emotional security, or even your identity. You're depending on them.

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Workaholism, for example, my dad was a lawyer, I'm a lawyer, my kids are going to be a lawyer. If I ever lose this job, I don't know what I'm gonna do; where your job defines your personality. That's a codependent relationship. That means that you are at risk of losing yourself if that thing shifts at all. You've given all your power over to the thing that you are dependent upon.

Be kind to yourself if this is speaking to you. I don't know who this message is for, but I'm sharing it anyway, following spirit's guidance. With that, also, where we have the sense of addiction to getting things done and putting out fires, putting out fires putting out fires. Whenever we put out a fire, we get that little bit of, "Yay, I did it." And that, "Yay," is what we're addicted to, of winning and the feedback loop of, "I'm putting out and I'm receiving, putting out and I'm receiving."

That's why so many men end up becoming not present at home, because the job is what gives them recognition and affirmation constantly, and you come home to a wife that is just not paying attention, and not able to give you that feedback. It is, unfortunately, natural to become addicted more to work, where you're recognized, and you feel like you have an impact in the relationship more with your job than your own partner. Scary.

That happens to women, too, I'm not just talking about men, okay. I hear my guide saying, "This happens to the ladies, too," where work or the kids become more important than their partner, because there's something to work on. There's always something. The mom-ness becomes the identity rather than yourself being your identity, becoming codependent to the children.

Be kind to yourself if this is you. Now, this week in particular, the guides are saying, "How do we get out of this?" This addiction to working and losing ourself without our boundaries. Well, is to have values. This week in particular, you want to focus on writing out a list of what your core, desired feelings and your most prioritized values are in life. Allow your schedule to be according to what you prioritize most, what you value the most.

First things first, as they say. I believe that's in the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Put first things first. Is family really important to you? If so, where is family in your schedule? This week, we want to put, "What are your core desired feelings?" I want to feel free, I want to feel abundant, I want to feel loved, I want to feel sensual. Where are those feelings in how you spend your time each day? Rather than letting the thing that you are co dependently addicted to, such as the work or the caregiving, et cetera rather than letting only that determine how you spend your time.

This is going to shift your relationship with your workaholism. Your addiction is going shift. If you can just get clear on, "What are your core, desired feelings, and what are your most prioritized values?"

We forget, we're in that tunnel of, "I'm doing stuff, I'm doing stuff, I'm doing stuff. I'm so productive, I'm so busy. I'm doing all this busy stuff." There's a difference between being busy and actually being in business. There's a difference between being busy and actually being focused.

This, our core, desired feelings and our most prioritized values are what are going to help us clarify that. To end, Doreen Virtue, Angel Therapy; yet another one of our Doreen Virtue decks. Angels, what we need to know this week? To round off our five-week deep dive into the dance between self sabotage and self care. "Listen to your intuitive feelings."

Listen to your intuitive feelings. Your body is receiving accurate messages from the divine. This is perfect, given what we're talking about.

One of the main reasons why we can get stuck in, or create stuck-ness in a codependent, workaholic, fixaholic relationship is because we'll drown out the sensations of our body. We're not in touch. We're not in touch with ... "Oh, my neck is starting to hurt because it's 10:00 PM and I'm still at work."

We'll just keep going, going, going. Or, you know what? I actually ... I'm not really hungry for that extra candy bar, as we talked ... The second week was food. I'm not actually hungry for that chocolate candy bar. Actually, I'm craving love and affection.

Instead of shoving a chocolate candy bar down my throat so I can stay working at the computer all the livelong day, instead I'm going to reach out to receive some physical touch, or love and affection from a loved one. Listen to your feelings.

Your sensitivity is your strength here, and it's the gateway to your next level in life. Send me an email back, comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you around this, and how has this series been for you?

Are you liking the multi-week deep dives? Let me know, let me know.

Source has been telling me that you and I have got to develop a deeper relationship, and go deeper into the information, rather than just doing one idea a week. Nah, let's go there. Let's go there together, okay?

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters every week, and I'll see you next time. Muah, bye

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Put first things, first.

Write a list of your core values and core desired feelings, and see if you're spending your time each day accordingly.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...