Are you scared of letting go?

What, or who, do you need to let go?

Feeling strained and drained trying to keep it all together on your own?

Holding on to things, experiences and people indefinitely gets exhausting and can fast-track burnout.

Not only is holding on exhausting, but it actually goes against your Nature.

Watch this week's 8-minute Love Letter to learn why you can't let go, and how to do it!

"I just can't let it go!"

Hi there! Sensei Victoria Whitfield here and this is your Love Letter from The Dojo at Naturalintuition.com, your source for channeled holistic stress management techniques and spiritual guidance for developing your Natural Intuition.

This week Source wants you to have a bit of a meditation on Letting Go.

This is a very, very sensitive topic that the energy wants us to address this week in particular.

Pause for a moment.

When I say, "Let go," or "Let it go," what comes up for you? What do you need to let go in this moment?

Close your eyes just for a moment. Take a deep breath in. Exhale.

Again, inhale and thinking of the word, "Let." Exhale thinking of the word, "Go."

One more. Breathing in “Let” and exhale “Go.”

Be kind to yourself. Letting go is never, ever easy. It is always a learning experience. Letting go of anything is always an opportunity for practice, for training, for experience.

The guides are saying, "For this week in particular, and if only just for now, when you think of letting go replace it with, 'Letting flow.'"

If you find that when someone nonchalantly tells you, "Let it go. Let it go," or something like that and your inner Control Enthusiast comes roaring up inside you, screeching, "I can't let it go! He did me wrong!" or "I can't let her go. She means the world to me. She's not supposed to be gone!" – whether it feels like a crazy control or a "Please don't leave me” control – then that means it’s time to be a little bit more kind to yourself.

Remember #BK2YS? Yeah. 🙂

Showing a little bit more love for ourselves heals us first, so that we can spread love. Let it flow. Let it flow.

Whenever there's something that we need to let go of, it's because there is energetic congestion somewhere in our life. 

By the way, there is no such thing – and I need you to stop saying this if you've been saying it recently – there's no such thing as being blocked.

Know this: You are not "blocked." You're choosing to feel blocked. Choose flow, if only just for #now. #tbt #letgo #bk2ys @SenseiWhitfield

Look at quantum physics and it’s explanation of the makeup of solid structures.

Solids are simply comprised of tiny molecules that are vibrating at the right enough speed to appear solid to us. Solid molecules are not blocked. They are not stationary, stagnant, or stopped, or static in any way, shape, and form.

All of life is in a constant state of motion. Some motion, however, from our vantage point may appear and look like it's being solid or stopped.

The status of being blocked is always, always, always – hear me when we say this – is always an emotional choice.

What? That means I'm responsible for feeling blocked?

Yeah. There's always a choice.

Somewhere within you and even if you have to dig and wait for it to come up, there's a conscious choice you’re making to decide to be blocked and feel blocked.

Your “being” state is simply a choice.

I'm hearing the oracle cards coming in the energy, wanting to weigh in on this topic about instead of letting go, let it flow.

“Earth Magic Oracle Cards” by Steven Farmer is the deck of the week.

When I was asking all the 16 and counting decks here at the Dojo – by the way, we're always accepting donations – who wanted to come forward and who's energy do we need the most for letting go or letting flow to help us understand it, it was the nature energy that stood out from this deck.

 

The #oracle card of the week for you is "Spring Equinox: Rebirth" - Source says this is a time of rebirth and reinvention for you, but you have been resisting the necessary steps you need to take to allow your next level to come through. What are you avoiding? And why? Full reading on #YouTube here: http://youtu.be/FJSolp7px3A #freedom #healing #inspiration #motivation #letgo #relationship #entrepreneur #business #spiritual #positivevibes #reiki

A photo posted by Sensei Victoria Whitfield (@senseiwhitfield) on Feb 29, 2016 at 6:56am PST

Oracle Card of The Week: “Spring Equinox: Rebirth”

Take a look at how she's got the rabbit and the butterfly and all those other incredible awesome things surrounding her abundantly.

This is what Source is saying right now: the reason why Spring is able to present all of that rebirth is that she is flowing with the seasons.

She is allowing the rebirth, the new energy, the new processing to come through all that dead energy.

Here in Jersey we do have four seasons, and during the winter things look really dead. Like, really dead! LOL!

Then, when springtime comes – like in Newark for the cherry blossom festivals – it's absolutely just this incredible explosion of beautiful life, right out of what seemed to be blocked or dead, but what was actually just momentarily, let’s say, “recalibrating.” Put it that way, to use a GPS word. 😉

Be kind to yourself.

In life right now you may feel you are being called to let go of something significant.

But instead let it flow through you, because Source is saying that's a rebirth.

No matter how small that rebirth may appear in your life, allowing the flow of life to flow through you is something that can really help you with letting go.

Now, send me an email back, or comment below here, and answer:

• What's coming up for you that you need to let it go and let it flow?
• Is this something around physical health, or relationship, or financial health?
• Could it be something spiritual relational?
• What's the difference to you between letting it go versus letting it flow? How does the difference between those two expressions feel to you?

I'm really curious to see your responses.

Sending you big hugs and love!

That's this week's message. By all means, please go to victoriawhitfield.com/freegift and make sure that you subscribe so that you're getting your weekly Love Letters if you haven’t already.

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Sending you so much love 🙂

See you next time. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

VictoriaWhitfield.com
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Just for Today...

Make time to journal about letting go of that person, task, experience or thing you know you need to let go of.

 

 

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Do you have a hard time saying "no" to people?

Always end up kicking yourself afterward, because you're too quick to say "yes" when others ask you if you can do something for them?

Wondering why you have trouble knowing and respecting your own boundaries?

Chronic people-pleasing behavior comes from our core human desires for significance and approval.

It's natural to want to feel significant and approved of, but it's a whole other can of wormy worms when you're dependent on others to feel emotionally secure.

Watch the above video to embrace the fact that your yes actually means no sometimes, and what to do about it!

"Can you do this for me? -- YEAH SURE!"

It's like a knee-jerk reaction.

The YES! comes flying out before you can check your schedule, before you have considered your current workload and commitments, and before you can even blink.

And we wonder why we feel so overwhelmed lately...

All of a sudden your workday is jampacked, you're wearing 5 hats in the office, and then when you get home you're putting out fires, going to parties with people you're not really interested in to keep up appearances of being "social" and "normal," the dishes and laundry are piling up, your socks have holes in them and your shoes and underpants are falling apart....

Meanwhile, everyone around you says you're a "good friend," a "good mom" and you "work hard" and that they love you for "always being there." In fact, whenever they hear that someone needs something done, they'll send them to you to do it for them, too!

That's quite beautiful on one hand to be so connected, involved and loved, however sometimes being so over-committed can catch up with you.

Your health and self-care are the first to go. Suddenly you've found that you're exhausted all the time, and you're not sleeping at night because you just can't turn off your mind.

Thoughts are racing through your head late at night when you should be sound asleep about the next thing that you "have to do" or "has to get done" around the house, at the office, or for so-in-so up the street, etc.

To stay organized and create some sense of order, you write up lists on sticky notes and pieces of paper and revel in the juiceyfulness of CROSSING OUT tasks when you finish them. YES!

And sometimes, when no one's looking... you'll even add a few tasks on to your existing lists just so you can cross them out immediately and feel EVEN MORE accomplished...

Is this sounding familiar yet? Maybe I'm the only one. 😉

Believe it or not, being addicted to solving other people's problems is actually a form of controlling and avoidant behavior.

Here's how it goes: if you can crowd your life with other people's issues and opinions, you can

1) "have a hand in" (read: "control") part of their lives, and that will make you feel personally significant--even if that significance is temporary and externally determined or artificial, and

2) you can also avoid confronting and healing your own internal insecurities and deep-seated emotional wounds, because you're too busy dealing with other people's stuff.

Having a Savior Complex therefore is an emotional Get-Out-Of-Jail-FREE Card! YAY!

Now, I'm not saying you should never help people and turn into a selfish, angry hermit crab. No.

However you should learn to honor YOURSELF and YOUR NEEDS when making a decision to lend a hand or get involved with others' projects.

You see, you don't have to save everybody who comes across your path.

Read any comic book or watch any movie about superheros, and that's one of the biggest lessons they have to learn too--you can't save everybody. It's about teamwork AND facing your own inner demons in the process, too.

One way you can combat overwhelm or caregiver's fatigue is by studying and practicing using a magickal two-letter word: "No."

You actually already say No now, while you're saying Yes--internally, that is.

Know this: Saying NO to you is saying YES to me. #selfcare #boundaries #love

Ever had the experience of your boss or a client or someone asking you to do something, and you said "Yes" out loud, but you felt uncomfortable in your body while doing it?

THAT is an example of when your Yes really means NO.

You see, your body never lies. And your emotions express themselves constantly to you through the sensations of your body through what is called your "gut feelings" or "listening to your heart"--notice the bodily organs: heart, gut.

Where we get lost is when we tune to and value other people's feelings moreso than our own--our own point of view gets lost in the sauce.

The "sauce" of empathic overwhelm, that is. And that's when our mind-body sponge becomes saturated by other's thoughts and feelings so much that we can't hear our own anymore.

Most people describe empathic overwhelm as "I need to get rid of all this negativity" or "I need clarity" or "I'm just so stressed out, I can't think straight" -- it's all the same.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows us what's the spiritual reason for WHY you're saying "yes" when you really mean "NO!"

 

 

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

VictoriaWhitfield.com
Facebook.com/SenseiVictoriaWhitfield

 

Just for Today...

Notice if you are aware of your needs and how you feel the next time someone asks you to do something today. You are nobody's servant and nobody's slave.

When someone asks you to do something today (that isn't about a life-threatening situation), buy yourself some time to check in with yourself and say "Let me see. I'll get back to you on that." And set a time later on, after you've tuned in to YOUR schedule, needs and feelings, to update them...

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

 

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

 

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