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Love Letters | Professional Loneliness – Part 4 of 4

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 27 May 2019 05:00:52 +0000

This is week four of our deep dive into conscious relationships and unpacking the different forms of loneliness that conscious entrepreneurs face on the path to rapid financial ascension.

We want to make sure we unpack that and explore it together so that you don't lose your ability to glow as you grow your self and your business. Without further ado, for week four what we're going to be covering in particular is professional loneliness.

As conscious entrepreneurs, from time to time we can continue to put the blinders on in order to be productive. We started to talk a little bit about this last week with the law of distraction. By the way, if you haven't tuned in for that, make sure you stop now, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and start from part one so that you are grounded in this process.

We started talking about the law of distraction, where we have these blinders on and we're missing out on the good and blessed people and things that have gathered around us. Also, we were talking about acknowledging and appreciating the platonic relationships that we already have.

But this week in particular, if you are experiencing professional loneliness, what that looks like is feeling like you are deeply alone in your business or deeply alone in your career. Maybe the purpose that you've been driven towards – your calling in life, your professional calling – is one that sets you apart from others. The people in your life, for whatever reason, personally and professionally, aren't fully in alignment with it or can't exactly see the entire vision that you've been blessed with the ability to see just yet.

If that's the case, as always, I'm sending you so much love because it can be such a challenge. It’s a challenge to feel truly grounded and clear when in the past, in order to ground, you've been retreating and pulling away from different relationships. Or maybe you had to leave your corporate position, or a job that you had previously, to really follow your dreams and create a way out of no way for yourself because you woke up. You became conscious, whereas before, you weren't so much. If that's the case, naturally, as you're leaving the comfort zone, you can end up leaving by yourself.

This is especially true for those of us who work from home, or have created our business as a virtual business. Or perhaps you have a home office and you do a lot of the billing, bookkeeping and accounts work from your home while out at your location your employees are doing their work. In this set up, you can feel a bit alone even in the management of your business. Is this sounding familiar?

If this is not for you, no problem. I'm sure you know someone who does feel this, though, because statistics show that 75% of entrepreneurs feel lonely on their journey, and get depressed, as well, on their entrepreneurial ascension path. It's a very real thing. Whether or not you're comfortable bringing this up, we've got to talk about it so that we can ground and clear your blocked energy flow, and get you back to that state of glowing as you grow.

For me, personally, I'm at my eighth year in business and I've had several different locations of the dojo. Where I am writing and filming this blog is the latest iteration of it. At first, I moved in with my mentor. It was wonderful to get to bounce my ideas off of him, and him vice-versa. We could support each other on our ascension paths professionally, every day. Then things changed and he had to manifest a new space to move his business into so that he could take care of his children and run his business in that home.

Once he did, I was with the space by myself. At first, that was so empowering. I was thinking, “oh my goodness, I'm carrying my own office space for the first time in my life!” I was coming to the office, day after day, and there's no one but me. Except for when I was seeing a client.

For those of you who have your own business as a solo entrepreneur – which I was at the time, I didn't have the team that I do now – you know most of your time is spent marketing. That is, if you have any clients. Big hugs and love to you if you're still fighting for your first one. Don't give up. But, most of your time as an entrepreneur is spent marketing. Marketing, marketing, marketing... And not necessarily being with people in your space.

After a while, it can be really quiet and lonely at times. At first, I'm an introvert. I love being by myself. So I lasted a few months. That was pretty good. And then the quiet got too quiet... where I had a harder and harder time focusing. Even though I love doing what I do, it was so difficult to look to my left and look to my right and not have anyone to work around, to work with.

With that being said, what helped me shift – and this is what my guides are suggesting for you right now – was opening up to collaborations and coworking. If you are feeling alone in your business, then maybe it’s time you started opening up to collaborations and coworking, as well as joining an entrepreneur tribe like ours. Meaning, a big group of entrepreneurs that are excited to work together so that they can glow as they grow in life and business, like you. That really started healing it for me. I would invite you to consider that for yourself.

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Wherever you're at in your age and stage in business. Whether you are just at the very beginning, where it's startup and you're launching, or you're an established business, and you're looking to take it to the next level, being around others who are at that similar stage or even in all the different other stages is energizing. It's inspiring to see people launching for the first time, really going for it. It's inspiring to see others who are established and, wow, they're breaking through that glass ceiling, moving into higher levels of your realization of their potential. It's a beautiful thing to witness.

But it begins with allowing that feeling of, “you know what? I am alone. I am feeling alone in my business.” Big difference there. What matters most is how you feel. However, you may not actually be alone. Perhaps as the founder, the visionary founder of the business, you're looking to your right and your left and you may have 50 employees but you're still feeling alone because there's no other visionaries for you to resonate with.

Be kind to yourself if that's been your situation. If that's where you're at in your business's development, it's time for you to receive the nourishment of positive community. Through collaborations, coworking, and joining a tribe like ours.

That is why here at the dojo we provide the Abundant Business Circle and the Visionary Shaman Circle so that no conscious entrepreneur goes unsupported, wherever they are at in their level of development. If you're at the startup phase, just getting used to attracting and receiving clients, that's the Abundant Business Circle. We support each other in that shift with our financial healing circles. You get to see everyone's faces, and network, and connect with others who are there with you, too. Or if you're in an established business looking to ascend through your upper limits in life and business, especially by rooting deeper down into your spiritual health, that's the visionary shaman circle for you. Both are nationwide, worldwide tribes. Thanks to the internet.

It's great to have these love letters, of course. I'm here sending you lots of love in your email inbox, or in your YouTube feed. Wherever you're picking up what I'm putting down, wherever you're finding this. But it's a whole other level of emotional nourishment when you allow yourself to get into the group and join the tribe. I highly recommend you reach out to us at naturalintuition.com, hit that Contact button and let's talk about you becoming part of our community.

With that being said, I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. The Romance Angels is who we've been journeying with all month. This deck is by Doreen Virtue. Let’s pull a card for professional loneliness, being kind to ourselves, allowing that feeling, and drawing a line in the sand, saying, "I don't like how this feels. I'm aware that this doesn't feel good. I want to change it. I want an overabundance of juicy, joyful, professional relationships. And so it is."

Angels, what do we need to know right now about manifesting that? ...Oh, I had a feeling that this was going to come out before I hit record. Codependency. Addictions are affecting your romantic life. What a can of worms to open up, angels! What the heck? LOL! This is where we're going to leave off for the week. If you are experiencing professional loneliness, this is two-fold.

On one hand, your workaholism, your addiction to micromanaging and addiction to perfection, is making the world unbearably small for you. If you're feeling that exhaustion coming from professional loneliness, it's because you've become codependent with workaholism. You're addicted to it and being sucked into that vortex. If that's your situation, if you're a workaholic, you need positive community of other entrepreneurs who are demonstrating what it's like to glow *as* they grow their business rather than to burn out as they grow their business, then apply to join the tribe now.

On the other side, this also affects our romantic life. The professional achievements that we have as entrepreneurs can sometimes give us that hit of dopamine. It is so fulfilling that causes us to focus only on our work instead of the love of our lives. Be careful about that. It's another sign of being a workaholic that your love relationships and your friendships are suffering because the business is eating up all of your time and emotional energy.

Again, if this is happening in your life, then apply to join the tribe now. Collaborate and connect with others who are happily married, have wonderful friends, and are demonstrating a healthy business that is growing by leaps and bounds. Being around others who are demonstrating this lifestyle will teach you how to make that happen for yourself, and how to truly enjoy the journey.

By the way, let me know what comes up for you around this. Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com if you'd like to email me privately and directly; that'll come straight to me through my team. By the way, hit subscribe on YouTube so you get these love letters first every single week.

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I appreciate you so much for tuning in to these love letters every week. Bye for now.

Just for today...

Be honest with yourself about the quality of your mental health and relationships at work; get clear on how you truly feel about your worklife and if it is Your version of healthy and abundant.

Then seek out and join an entrepreneur tribe, like our Visionary Shaman Circle and Strategic Spa Retreats, to feel surrounded by fellow spiritual entrepreneurs who fill your cup.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

-- Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business. Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

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Love Letters | Platonic Loneliness – Part 3 of 4

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 20 May 2019 05:00:04 +0000

It’s week three of four of our exploration of conscious loneliness; we are allowing and opening up to that as conscious entrepreneurs so that we can attract joyful, conscious relationships.

If this is the first blog or video in the series that you are seeing, make sure you stop, and go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com so that you can start from part one and be grounded in this process.

Without further ado, for week three of four, we are going to be talking about platonic loneliness. Last week, if you remember, we talked about romantic loneliness and feeling an emptiness and feeling in to our heartbreak around romantic relationships in the past that haven't gone well, and we find ourselves holding on to our heartbreak. For those of you who did tune in, we reframed the heartbreak that we had as something very different. If you didn’t see it, make sure that you catch that last episode.

But for this week in particular, what we are focusing on is platonic loneliness. If you are experiencing platonic loneliness, what that will look like is a lack of friendships: a lack of friendships for us as conscious entrepreneurs. As we continue to grow ourselves and grow our businesses, it becomes harder and harder to connect – depending on how you see the situation – it appears to become harder and harder to find and connect with others who are on that similar path of conscious living, not just personally, but also professionally.

On top of that, when it comes to platonic relationships, we will have a hard time receiving friends as opposed to lovers or sexual partners, or as opposed to clients and business partners. We'll have an abundance of clients, or an abundance of understanding around how to be with our colleagues, to acquire more clients, business partners, joint venture partners, investors. We know how to operate socially within those professional situations. We may even have some professional success and enjoy that sincerely. Or we may have an abundance of success in attracting intimate partners, romantic relationships or sexual partners, people that we are coupling with. We may be very good and very fulfilled co-creating intimate relationship with others in a romantic way.

But for some of us as conscious entrepreneurs, we get hung up on this thing of finding friends in adult life. We grow our career, love our families, but look up and wonder, “where in the world did all my friends go once we've entered our adult lives?” Friends. Like, Real Friends – who we are able to connect with, who we can love and love deeply and have incredibly intimate relationships with - not sexually, and not romantically intimate but emotionally intimate relationships with. Conscious, present, loving people who are simply our Friends.

Be kind to yourself. If this has been your situation, if this is something that you are struggling with, if that's you, I'm sending you so much love. We're sending lots of love and consciousness your way so that we can begin to manifest more friends. With that being said, the first thing that drops in from my spirit guides for you if you want to receive more friends, is to remember the law of attraction, but also remember the law of distraction.

The law of attraction states “that which is like unto itself is attracted.” The way that we would apply the law of attraction when we're attracting more platonic relationships, platonic friendships and even more fulfilling and deeply intimate, soul-filling platonic relationships into our lives as conscious entrepreneurs, begins with being a really profound friend first and foremost.

Now, having the ability to open up and begin relationships with others that do not involve any sexual contact and do not involve any professional transactions can be a tall order for some. It's funny how after we get into “the real world” (as they tell all the college students to call being a member the workforce), where this focus on having space for friendship and just being loving humans together with people who we're not related to and not having sex with and not interested in romantically, our natural ability to make friends tends to die down because we're so focused on productivity – and this is where the law of distraction comes in.

The closer you get to the things that your soul is aligned to, the more distraction is going to waive its ugly head. Distraction also attracts more of itself. Here's how that plays out. As a conscious entrepreneur, perhaps your business has become a distraction. At first it was an attraction and an exciting opportunity for you to attract money, attract clients, attract significance and recognition; it helped you attract more ways to contribute.-

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But then it may have turned into a grand distraction where you're unable to create space for friendship. You're losing yourself to productivity. You're losing that concept of being “just me.” Ok, so let me put this on me – when I can just be myself is the times when I'm just being Victoria. Just Victoria, not Sensei Victoria, not boss Victoria, not teacher Victoria. not sexy Victoria or girlfriend Victoria or lover Victoria, but instead just me. And here’s the kicker: Just Me = Friend Victoria.

It's so funny that as we give of ourselves in a purpose-driven business, as someone who is a heart-centered entrepreneur, we give of ourselves so much to our businesses, that have to remember that we can't sacrifice the space in our hearts around creating friendship. This week in particular – and I'm hearing the oracle cards beginning to call in the energy – it's time to create space for friendship. How you do that is by not working, and not being with your romantic partner. There's a You outside of those two things. I would throw in there not being a parent, child or sibling, too.

Who are you when you are Not full of the responsibilities that you've piled on your plate, and are you still connected to that version of yourself? If not, this is the week in particular where you allow for that space. If it's creating art, if it's exercise – but exercise for the pleasure of it, the enjoyment of it, not for the work of it, say, if you're a personal trainer. Be kind to yourself. It's time to get back to the you that's underneath all of your responsibilities. Because, when you allow for that, when you empty yourself and come to that version of yourself, that's when you're capable of attracting platonic friends.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling out; the deck that we're journeying with all month is the Romance Angels Oracle Cards deck by Doreen Virtue, if you want to go pick that up for yourself. So, Romance Angels, what do we need to know right now about attracting more friendship? Not romantic relationships and not professional relationships. ...Oh yes, this is gorgeous:

Soul Mate. Yes, this is your soulmate. Here's where we're going to leave off for this week. This is so powerful.

The more that you can connect to your own inner essence, the more you can recognize other people who can do that for you as well. It's the real friends of ours who, regardless of who we're with romantically and regardless of what we're doing professionally, are just so happy to be together with us as we are. Maybe as you're watching this video you’re remembering a friend of yours who you know and love dearly, or maybe you’re thinking of someone who has fallen out with their friend – if so, hit the share button and send this blog to them.

Or maybe you are someone who doesn’t believe can’t yet conceive that this level of intimacy and connection is possible outside of a romantic relationship: to have people who are platonic friends, meaning non-romantic, nonsexual-relationship-based friends but who are your soulmate. I come from a certain area in New Jersey where we call that being a “ride or die” where they are down for you. Meaning, they are a wholly and completely committed to you as you are for who you are. It’s a beautiful thing.

And this comes first from connecting to that within yourself, loving and approving of your own soul, your own essence. Then, being around people who can recognize that essence in you too – once you have, yourself – and showing up for these beautiful, soulful people, deeply. By the way, my guides are adding that there may be people who are like that already around you, but because of law of distraction, you've been so distracted by the business or distracted by your romantic relationship that's going on right now, that these people who absolutely love you no matter what, may have been taken for granted or pushed to the side by you.

If that’s the case, make time this week to show them love and celebrate them. Spend quality time, acknowledge them and recognize them as the soul mates in your life.

What comes up for you hearing all this? Comment below, or send me an email back team@victoriawhitfield.com around what comes up for you in creating more platonic relationships, filling that platonic loneliness that you may be feeling.

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Just for today...

Make time for being “Just Me” again – no work, no family, no lovers, no agenda, no helping, no requirements or “shoulds” – nothing to do other than just being me.

Reconnect with that part of yourself, and when you do, remember the people who have loved you and been your friend in your life when you were being Just Me; friends who loved you just as you are.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Love Letters | Romantic Loneliness – Part 2 of 4

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 13 May 2019 05:00:34 +0000

This is week two of four of our exploration of healing loneliness.

Last week we really opened up to making room for this as a feeling. More often than not we run from it. If you didn't see that video, you can go ahead and hit pause, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com, so that you are grounded in this process.

Without further ado, this week in particular, as we are healing our relationship with loneliness, we're going to talk about romantic conscious relationships. Have you ever had this experience where you've been with someone, and it didn't work out romantically speaking, and how it didn't work out really left a scar? It affected your ability to perceive possible romantic prospects going forward. Does that sound familiar? What am I talking about? I'm talking about heartbreak.

Yes, yes. Be kind to yourself if you've experienced heartbreak in the past. Today is the day that you are going to honor that as the greatest gift you've ever received, when it comes to how you show up as a conscious human being in your romantic relationships. Yes, really. The heartbreaks that you received in the past, in your experience and your journey of cultivating romantic partnerships, your heartbreaks that you have received are actually your greatest gifts. Because these heartbreaks don't just break us down.

One of the reasons why I cut all my hair off in the first place was because of an incredibly deep emotional rupture, or heartbreak. Now when I first saw it, I thought, "Yeah! I love my hair." It was a breakthrough for me. Where we're anchoring around heartbreak is instead of seeing it as a breakdown, this is a breakthrough. You are breaking open, breaking out of a former paradigm.

Where we could be at right now, as we're sharing this moment together and as you watch this video or read this blog, is that your feelings of loneliness are stemming from a lack of romantic relationship fulfillment. The message from the guides for you this week, is that if you are feeling that sense of emptiness or loneliness because of a previous heartbreak, it's time to find why that was a gift.

Turn it into a gift. It's time to rewrite your story. Because if we tell ourselves a bad story – and by the way I've done this, so I'm not perfect, I'm just as guilty as the next person – if we tell ourselves a story that is of disempowerment, victimization, being left behind, abandonment and betrayal, if we tell ourselves that story, we'll only reinforce coming to that space of loneliness and emptiness. The conclusion could be: “it's safer for me to be alone than to be in relationship. Because look at what happened in the past. Look at that. We don't want that again.”

If that's where you're at right now, harboring grief and anger, I'm sending you so much love, so much love. In order for you to heal your relationship with loneliness around a lack of romantic fulfillment, if only just for today, it’s about finding where are the pieces of heartbreak that are in your energy field – in your mind, and in your heart – and take each one of those pieces and find how that was a gift.--

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What are you no longer tolerating because of that? What did that cause you to embrace instead? What were you breaking out of with that heartbreak? Or what did you break through into?

For now, I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy, it's the Romance Angels oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue. I'm going to ask “Angels, what do we need to know right now about finding gratitude when we're feeling romantically lonely?” Another way that that can manifest is when you're around couples, you have that sense of longing, like or rage, like, "Why are you together?" Or, "Oh, I wish I had someone." That unsettled feeling, that unfulfilled feeling. “Angels, what do we need to know right now?” Here we are. This one is sticky: Unrequited Love.

Unrequited love. There's not enough attraction or chemistry to keep this relationship going. This is where we're going to leave off for the week. You know, when it comes to our romantic relationships, especially as sensitive, soulful people and energetically conscious human beings, we give so much love, and what happens when who we had partnered with in the past – or maybe even right now as you're watching this video or reading this blog – is just not able to meet at that level of giving, too?

Be kind to yourself. What are you being called to break out of? Experiencing unrequited love? The universe is not against you in you having the experience of unrequited love. You're actually having this FOR you. This experience is happening for you. If you were to step back and rewrite the story of what you're experiencing right now, or did in the past, that you may be holding onto, what would that story be? If this was happening for you, to break you out of a former paradigm, so that you can emerge into a new level of conscious relationship, what is that former paradigm that you are breaking out of?

I want to hear it! Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com or comment below, wherever this is posted. I want to hear what are you being called to break out of by feeling that loneliness, by feeling and experiencing unrequited love? This is not something that's happening to you, it's happening for you. Are you ready for it?

I'm sending you so much love and support, and I am surrounding you in the light of clarity, so that you're able to receive what you're breaking out of. Chills! Apparently, you needed to hear that today. Maybe you didn't know until just now that this was happening FOR you. But let me be the one to tell you, yes, it absolutely is.

Now, while you're at it, make sure you hit subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every single week. By the way, tag somebody who needs to hear this message. If they're struggling with unrequited love, or they're imploding, just falling in into themselves with loneliness around their romantic love life, please send this to them. Let them know that you care and that there is something in this experience FOR them.

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Just for today...

Rewrite your story of your heartbreaks in romantic relationships.

Instead of telling a story of being victimized or betrayed, try to tell a story of breaking out of an old paradigm and being set free, seeing the heartbreak as your greatest gift.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Love Letters | Conscious Loneliness – Part 1 of 4

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 06 May 2019 05:00:57 +0000

So, I am so grateful that I get to speak to you and channel to you on this new series of love letters, specifically on loneliness.

Yes, loneliness. Let's open up this can of worms.

If you clicked play on this video or opened up this blog post, chances are you're someone who is a deeply feeling, highly intuitive, naturally sensitive, conscious being. You are aware of the spiritual nature of reality, or you may be awakening to that. In your chosen career, you want to do something that is in alignment with your vision for your life, in alignment with your life's work, your life's purpose, your passions.

You're a very passionate, deeply feeling person and that's absolutely gorgeous and I celebrate that in you. I want to honor that, first and foremost, before we go forward into this topic because, you know, as a conscious entrepreneur, it can get to be a lonely road. As a visionary woman or as a man of vision, as someone who is operating under a calling over their life and has deep passions that they are pursuing, more often than not, this journey, this adventure that we are on, living our life's purpose, can often become quite lonely.

If this is for you, I am sending you so much love. Every single love letter topic comes straight from my spirit guides, so maybe this one is for you and maybe this one isn't. But if it is, I am showering you with so much love and we're gonna be holding space for joyful, conscious relationships. May you feel an over abundance of them, feeling totally engorged by love this month, in particular during all the love letter series. But today we have to open up the problem first, right? We need to start with why. It's so important to be in conscious relationship. The loneliness that we experience is what my guides have brought forward first.

We are living in the age of cell phones and social media, tablets and laptops, smart TVs and personal computers. With all of this personalization that we're experiencing on all levels of society, we can tend towards self-pleasure, self-entertainment, self-containment and away from being open to receiving relationship. Or for those of us who have ventured into that wonderful dark forest of being with others, we are becoming increasingly starved for examples of people who are happily in conscious relationship.

There is mutual benefit to conscious relationship, being open to giving and receiving and feeling a rock solid alignment with whoever we are partnering with. And I'm not just talking about in your intimate, romantic love relationships; we're also talking platonic and professional. We're gonna be talking about loneliness in all of those three relationship types during this love letters series. But for today in particular, please know, that if you are experiencing loneliness, that there's nothing wrong with you.

It is so important for us to create space for feeling that loneliness, because when we have buzz, beeps and boops coming from our cell phones constantly and another thing that we need to do over here for the boss, and another thing that we need to do over here for our business, and another thing is blowing up with my kid, oh my God they dropped this thing over here and oh my gosh I'm going to eat this cookie and oh my gosh I'm going to go have a nice glass of wine – we get crowded out. There's so many things that could take us away from that feeling of emptiness and loneliness, and just for today, I want you to honor it, because your loneliness is sacred.

Your emptiness is sacred. It's only when we are feeling empty that we can begin to be filled. We have to allow that space to gather. It's from the void that all wisdom sprung. The goddess Sige is an archetype of that: the entire universe came from an eternal silence. It woke her up, the goddess named Sige. She represents that. So allowing for the void, the silence, the discomfort, the loneliness, is the beginning of creating something absolutely magnificent. It is the beginning of opening to receiving love on another level.--

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So, I want you to honor your loneliness in some way, shape and form. If only just for today. Maybe it is a poem that you read for loneliness. Maybe it is a song that you listen to that kind of conveys how you feel. Perhaps it is a certain color that you wear, or even just taking stock of, “am I lonely?”

Be kind to yourself. Allow space for that loneliness, especially bringing in art to support you in that feeling and allowing of it. If it's a certain painting that conveys that or an opera, or whatever Art you're listening to or engaging in, bring it into your sphere right now. If only just for today, to make room for allowing loneliness. It is part of who you are. Do not deny anything of who you are, even the darker parts.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. This month we're going to be journeying with The Romance Angels oracles cards deck. Doreen Virtue strikes again, and these cards are from back when she was cool, lol. Sending so much love as we pull oracle cards today. Angels, what do we need to know right now about allowing loneliness instead of running from it? Instead of drinking it, eating it, smoking it, working it? To all my workaholics out there, I’m sending you love and grounding. Angels, what do we need to know right now about loneliness? ...This is so perfect. You're gonna love this:

Love yourself first. Your self-respect makes you more romantically attractive.

Here's where we're going to leave off for the week. The reason why we are allowing feeling our loneliness, if only just for today, is because this is to respect that as your authentic emotion. No more hiding, no more running. We're going to respect this fact. Feeling this is an act of self-respect, and the Angels are telling us it actually makes you more romantically attractive.

Now, I'm not saying you're going to be all lonely all over everyone else, no no no. This is just for you. This is about you loving yourself and loving even your darker emotions. Yes, we are starting the entire series from this space, and can you dig it?

Go ahead and send me an email back, team@victoriawhitfield.com. What comes up for around this topic of loving yourself enough first to be with your loneliness? Just you. Just you. No need to share it with anyone else. I mean, you're welcome to send me an email about what's coming up for you around that. Is this on time? Comment below.

By the way, hit that subscribe button on YouTube so that you get these love letters first and you can participate in the conversation as we journey with loneliness together towards conscious relationship. Let's do it.

May you feel loved and safe, especially at work because that's half your waking life. Please, enjoy the journey, the whole journey, even the dark sides.

The darker parts of the journey on your path to loving and healing the world.

Mwah. Sending you so much love and we'll see you in the next one. --

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Give yourself loving, empowered permission to begin to feel your loneliness, without stuffing or numbing it away.

In your journal, write about the parts of yourself that feel empty or yearn for connection in life and business, and allow yourself to express these feelings unapologetically.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...

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Love Letters | Flirt with The World

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 06 Feb 2017 07:00:26 +0000

Tired of the same old routine?

Heavy news stories got you down?

Find yourself fighting off loneliness and depression?

You have WAY more power than you think, you Unicorn, you!

Negative energy is nothing compared to your secret superpower — FLIRTING!

Watch this week's 9-minute love letter to shine you joyful light in an otherwise dark, cold world!

"I'm tired of my routine."

Have things been feeling a bit grey and boring lately?

Things can get very heavy as we're focused on work, or other people, and our relationships, or as being the anniversary of us having lost someone, etc.

Source is sending some inspiration your way for this week in particular.

It is: flirt with the world! You ready? Let's do this, okay.

Flirting, and this is not necessarily, like, "Okay, we're going to get all in everybody's pants." No, no, no, no.

Flirting is simply having fun and making light. Making light, where there was darkness, making light. Lightening the mood, having a sense of humor, silliness, adventure, cheekiness, right?

Flirt with the world. Perhaps it's that mid-day slump, and you're feeling low on energy. It's time to do something silly. The way that you flirt with the world is not even necessarily with anybody else.

Guess what? It's with you first. How in the world does one flirt with themselves? We could hold up a mirror and we're like, "Oh, my. Look at you."

Whatever makes you want to laugh, or if it's making a silly face, right? Something that makes you want to laugh. Bring the joy to your life. Don't wait for someone else to bring it to you.

Here's the thing that can make relationships, whether they're intimate or platonic go really, dead, boring, whether it's your relationship with another person, or even your business, right.

You wait for the other half of the relationship, right? The business, the person, the child, the animal, et cetera, to always be on, or you'll lean on and depend, the other side, to be flirtatious, fun, silly, adventurous, and spontaneous, right? We'll fall into that kind of a routine.

Come on! Pick the ball up! You can do this. Stacey Martino and Paul Martino who are at relationshipdevelopment.org rock, and they really master on sharing about relationships, and bringing the spark, or as they call, the s-flirt, back to our relationships. Go check them out, by the way. Have so much love and respect for them.

This week in particular, it's about you, however. Bring the flirt in you back. Flirt with your reflection.

Flirt with people at the party. Just make jokes and laugh. Try yourself out. You really can.

Now, I'm getting some kickback in the energy right now, I don't know who is watching this and being like, "Girl, you done gone off the deep end", or, "I don't know how to flirt." If you have a sense of humor, or if you've ever laughed at something, yeah, you can flirt.

It's having a sense or the ability to laugh at yourself, and engage, and be spontaneous, and bring that energy out. Bring the joy. How do you bring joy? If you were to flirt with someone. It's not just like a, "Da da da". No, no, no. This is not seduction flirting. This is just having fun and being silly. Another way that you can find yourself flirting if you're not used to it, is maybe with a baby.

You're sort of, "Hey, sweetheart! How are you! Oh, my gosh, look at you." The weird, gooey things that we do to those poor children, and puppies, and kittens, et cetera. Whatever makes you laugh. This week in particular, though, you are being called on by source to make light. I'm not just talking about making light and joking about a situation, even if it's quite heavy, right, but to bring light as a light worker.

Know this: Bring joy to you life; don't wait for it. Have fun and make light where there was darkness. Shine bright!

That is who you are. You're here to bring more joy, more love, more healing, more connection into this planet. It's up to you. Don't wait for somebody else to do it. Calm down, Victoria.

The guides are about to jump through the camera and say, "Wake up!", right? For now, we're going to go to the oracle cards, because they're, "toot, toot", tucking on my shirt. Our angels, angel therapy by Doreen Virtue, one of 19 decks here at the Dojo.

Let's hear it. Let me pull out the cards here.

Angels, what do we need to know about flirting with the world this week? Why in the world is source telling us to do that?

Ooh la la! This is excellent! Ready?

Shield yourself.

This is pretty ninja, I didn't know that they were going to pull that out. We're coming from, like, the fifth dimension now, fifth level conversation right now. Protect yourself from harsh or fear-based energies by envisioning a cocoon of healing light surrounding you.

Here's where we're going to leave off.

Bringing light, making light, flirting with the world, and just deciding to have fun all by yourself, with yourself, is actually an advanced form of energetic protection.

This is psychic self defense, on the sneaky side. My students and I, we have this expression, we call it "the sneaky reiki" that we do in the background. That's actually one of the sneaky reiki, this under the radar techniques for actually shielding your energy from negativity, is actually bringing joy and bringing light.

Raising the vibrations. Start with you first. Flirt with yourself. Enjoy yourself as if you were someone that you were flirting with, who you really liked.

Blessed be if you're someone who is not exactly comfortable with yourself, but pretend that you're hot to trot, and you're the funniest thing on the planet, and you're going to laugh at whatever in the heck you're about to say next. Try it on for size. Do an experiment, right?

Don't commit, fine. Don't commit, just test, see if you like it, and notice how your vibration raises, and you end up actually rising above all the Krusty Krab negativity that could be floating around you. It'll just, "whoop", repel off.

Send me an e-mail back, comment below, what do you think? Have you tried flirting with the world around you, and yourself? What was the result?

Was it an awkward, hot, delicious mess? Was it a delicious everything?

I would love to hear your stories, oh my gosh. Please spread light, because you are a light worker. Subscribe on YouTube, so that you get your love letters first every week, and from one light worker to another, ready for it?

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Decide that you are allowed to share humor and raise the vibration of any situation.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Love Letters | Stuck on Self Help

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Sun, 03 Apr 2016 12:39:49 +0000

Stuck at a personal development plateau?

Hit a road block on your healing journey?

Annoyed that things aren't progressing further along, no matter how hard you try?

When we decide to take charge of our lives and make time to make a change initially it yields fast and exciting results, and because the changes are brand new, they excite us and give us an ego boost.

Inevitably though, there comes a point in everyone's healing journey where we reach a developmental plateau in helping ourselves -- and this can be particularly frustrating.

Watch this week's 7-minute Love Letter to learn what to do when you're feeling stuck in your self-help journey.

"I have this under control. I can really help myself."

This week Source wanted to talk to you about feeling stuck in your self help, specifically cycles of self help.

We've got books, we've got sprays, we've got candles, we've got classes and workshops and certifications, oh my!

At some point it appears that we've hit a bit of a roadblock, where we're just preparing and preparing and helping ourselves and helping ourselves and helping ourselves, and nothing's really moving farther along.

Your strategy for this week is to practice asking. Asking for help, in particular.

Immediately I'm feeling some kind of prickly things in the energy from some of the Tribe who's watching right now.

Prickly thoughts like, "Oh, I have this under control. I can really help myself. I have a book," or, "I have a certificate, I should be able with all the knowledge that I have right now, I should be able to shift my situation on my own."

Now to some extent, absolutely, yes you can shift your situation on your own. On your own you can make great strides.

On your own you can learn the importance of taking personal responsibility and taking your own power back, and really identifying that, "Yes, this is my life and I'm going to write my own story. I'm going to reinvent myself."

In fact that's a powerful strategy in and of herself: tell yourself, "I am reinventing myself, I am rewriting my life story right now."

However you may have been at that for a while now if you're watching this video in particular because the books like we're reading the Chopra-Oprah-Tolle-Hicks-Hay-Virtue etc. -- we've got everybody feeding us spiritually, which is incredible.

We're taking in and we're taking in from incredible masters... and then we notice nothing's happening.

Privately, we think to ourselves in exasperation: "I've taken this financial abundance love attraction course and I haven't manifested enough money to really do that thing I wanted to -- pay the bills or pay off my debt. I wrote it on my goal card and it didn't happen."

What do you do, when we're hitting obstacles and roadblocks or feeling a sense of stagnation or being blocked?

Here's what you do: get yourself emotionally ready to being willing to ask for assistance, because self help can only take you so far when you are by yourself.

Know this: #SelfHelp can only get you so far. Plateaued? Then it's time to reach out and ASK for help. #nextlevel #success @SenseiWhitfield

It's time to find support and talk to your tribe.

Bring your problem up and out of you and into the hands of at least one other being who is open, caring, a champion for you naturally, someone who just celebrates you and who is curious about issues and helping, who loves being there to listen.

Bring it up and out of you.

For whatever reason this week in particular Source is saying it's time for you to ask for help.

Perhaps someone, maybe even me, has been on your mind lately.

You've been thinking: "I know that I need to really reach out, but I'm going to try maybe just this one more thing," or, "I'm going to try and figure this out on my own. I know I can do it, I've done it before."

At this level of your development, you need to accept that a new level is a new level.

We just need to accept that sometimes reaching out is the way to go to make it past our plateau.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy, now. It's the Healing with the Angels oracle cards deck -- Doreen Virtue's very first oracle cards deck.

This deck in particular came forward intuitively when I asked all the decks here at the dojo who wants to help with feeling stuck on self help.

(I'm always receiving donations, by the way, if you wanted to donate an extra deck that you had. Email me about it at senseivictoriawhitfield@gmail.com)

Angels what do we need to know right now to get out of our decision to be stuck in our self help journey?

This week's oracle card is "Abundance" -- focus your efforts this week on improving your #abundance #mindset because everything you need is actually right under your nose, you just can't see it yet because of your #perspective. Full reading on #youtube at https://youtu.be/5d6me-nOXGY ???????????????? #positivevibes #healing #oraclecards #abundance #money #wealth #success #motivation #selflove #personaldevelopment #openyoureyes #letsgo

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Oh, Abundance!

There is infinite abundance around you of assistance, support, love, encouragement, championing.

But you cannot unlock and receive this abundance until you go out of your comfort zone and pursue it by asking.

That's a very open, vulnerable way of pursuing your next level, asking for the abundance which you seek.

That's challenging, because it takes courage to ask for help, but we assure you that there, right underneath your nose is so much abundance of exactly what you need right now, down to the T.

You are within on degree of separation.

This week, in fact this day in particular, you're within one degree of separation of the help that you need to move to your next level, but you have to step out of your comfort zone and ask for assistance now.

Comment below, send me an email back, what's coming up for you?

Ask me what your question is about your plateau.

You know I'd be overjoyed to support you and answer any questions that you have!

But reach out, don't try and self help, do the do-it-yourself kinds of thing because Source says we're moving passed that paradigm.

You're at a new level now and this new level includes working with your group, your community and leveraging. Okay? I'm sending so much love.

That's this week's message. By all means, please go to victoriawhitfield.com/freegift and make sure that you subscribe so that you're getting your weekly Love Letters if you haven’t already.

And on YouTube hit that Subscribe button, wherever she is on your screen, so that you get your weekly Love Letters as soon as their uploaded.

Sending you so much love 🙂

See you next time. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Be honest. Notice where you have plateaued in your personal development or in your life because you've been going it alone.

Then journal. Write out what it would be like if you had someone who was already past that plateau helping you now. What would be different about your life?

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Love Letters | Are You Afraid of Abundance?

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Tue, 07 Jul 2015 13:49:44 +0000

Is it hard for you to take compliments because you doubt people's sincerity?

Resistant to others offering to help you, thinking you'll appear weak or that you "should" do it all yourself?

Avoiding calling back that great contact you just met or even that friend you miss, and don't know why?

Though we often ask Spirit for abundance--not just of money, but also of friendship, love and health, etc.--we can be resistant to receiving what we asked for when the opportunity finally comes our way.

Believe it or not, it's because we're actually afraid of getting what we want. Yikes!

Watch the above video to start learning to receive abundance without fear!

"Be careful what you wish for--you just might get it."

We've all heard that phrase before.

It sums up the inherent fear we all have about receiving abundantly.

With that popular phrase, we learn to avoid abundance because we learn that 1) our own judgement is not trustworthy, and 2) life will be harder when we get more of x, y or z. So don't bother.

Let's continue to look at this limiting, negative mindset for a bit--the syndrome of "why ask for more?" or "why bother?"

Isn't it just "safer" to live on crumbs of love, ghosts of friendship, and paycheck to paycheck?

Rich people are mean anyway, people who have lots of friends or who claim they are "happily married" are fake, and being healthy is impossible because our genetics and the food and pharmaceutical companies are stacked against us because of a grand conspiracyzzzzzzzzzz...

YIKES! Fear is a slippery slope of sludge and slimey energy. Yum.

Didn't you enjoy that sludge slide? Bet you were ready for more, right? LOL!

We all have patterns in our energy to create excuses to justify not asking for more, dreaming bigger, taking risks and imperfect action, being vulnerable and making mistakes--basically all the good stuff that makes life, well, REAL.

These patterns of thought and belief aren't there because they're reality, they're there for your protection.

Feeling resistant and fearful in the face of growth is just your Ego letting you know your out of bounds; She is trying to protect you from Her enemy: the Unknown.

You can always find Love in fear. You just have to look with intention.

To see the Love in your over-flagellant Ego, Spirit is saying to picture it this way:

Imagine you are driving a top-of-the-line luxury car on a very long road trip. The car has all the bells and whistles, including something called "Lane Assist" -- that new technology that keeps your car from drifting out of the lane on a highway, to prevent collisions.

Now, you've been using Lane Assist with the Cruise Control on a particularly long stretch of highway that you had to go. But the GPS says your exit is up next, so you begin to switch lanes. Since you forgot to shut off the Lane Assist, all the alarms go off saying "warning! you're drifting out of the lane!" because the computer doesn't know why you're turning.

The warning alarm was to protect you, but it no longer applies now.

And the same applies here with your Ego flaring up.

The Ego sends resistance and fear up to warn you that you're departing from who you WERE, because She isn't "programmed" to notice who you ARE right now or who you are about to BECOME.

Your Ego is designed to preserve you (as you WERE) and protect you through sending warnings in the form of emotional avoidance and resistance.

Giving in to this resistance and avoidance though reinforces your status quo; if you are happy with that, great! But if not, then we need to allow things to change.

The key is to recognize when you are resisting or avoiding something, especially if it's a good thing.

Your Ego doesn't resist just the new or possible bad stuff, She resists the new or possible good stuff too, because She's defending you against the Unknown because She believes (read: you harbor a limiting belief) that all Unknown is Unsafe.

Know this: Affirmation: I am open to receiving more love, truth and support. It is safe for me to be abundantly happy. #gratitude #success #love

Notice when you are resisting receiving a new good thing or taking a new good action; once you notice your resistance, you become conscious of your Ego overreacting, and that gives you the ability to choose how you feel and what's your next move.

The more you consciously choose how to feel and what to do, the more abundance you'll receive.

In truth, the Universe is ready and willing to deliver what you want to manifest--more love, friendship, money, health, free time, etc.--but She needs to see that you're conscious enough to choose to receive it.

The key, however, is to start small: notice resistance to small good things, like compliments, for example.

If you reject, repel, avoid or refuse to accept compliments, it's two things: 1) your Ego is overprotecting because she's repelling positive feedback, and 2) you're not conscious enough to choose to receive positive energy, even on a small scale.

Source will never send more than you can bear. So if you can't bear to receive positive, abundant energy on a small scale, she won't send it for bigger things--like love, money, cars, etc.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows one fun and easy action you can take to fast-track your ability to receive abundance without fear, now!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Start small with receiving abundance.

When someone pays you a compliment or offers to help you, pause, smile, and simply say "Thank You."

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

Want to let go and receive but don't know where to start? Tell me!

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Love Letters | Finding The Love in Your Loneliness

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Sun, 07 Jun 2015 13:11:20 +0000

Feeling lonely lately?

Frustrated because you feel alone in your problems?

Longing for more love and companionship?

Loneliness can actually be a Dark Gift from Spirit. A "Dark Gift" means the gift of learning and mindset shifts that come only through trials and experiencing difficulty.

The feelings you have are in your heart for a reason, and loneliness--once you understand it--is meant to heal your life.

Watch the above video to learn how to find greater love in your loneliness!

"Negative emotions like loneliness, envy and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they're big, flashing signs that something needs to change." - Gretchen Rubin, The Happiness Project

Pause for a moment.

Close your eyes, and feel into any loneliness you may be feeling or still holding in your spirit right now. Notice what it feels like...

Perhaps you feel an ache or gaping dark hole in your throat, chest or belly?

That's because loneliness affects the middle chakras: the throat, heart, solar plexus and sacral. And these are all chakras that govern our relationships and social connections in this lifetime.

Close your eyes and re-experience that feeling again, paying attention to your body.

Where it is can tell you which chakra's issues and lessons are involved in healing your loneliness.

Why are we feeling into our loneliness? Because everything happens for a reason.

Spirit is sending you this deep ache on purpose, to guide you where in your life you can heal your relationships and take your energy and personal power to another dimension of health and expression.

Be kind to yourself though, if you can't feel where it is. All issues in loneliness have one origin though...

Your Inner Child.

When we are feeling lonely, the sacred energy of innocence, vulnerability and infinite possibility called our Inner Child is battling feelings of abandonment and neglect.

Intimately tied to your Subconscious Mind, the Inner Child in her infinite, wild and irrational power remembers everything.

She remembers learning to be independent, and she remembers how she interpreted that as being abandoned and neglected. Worse yet, if she was abandoned and neglected in this lifetime, the expectation of that abuse and deep emotional ache is even stronger.

Take a deep breath in. Be kind to her.

Because it's just an interpretation; loneliness is a subjective interpretation of reality in which you have decided to see yourself as alone.

Maybe you've been profoundly disappointed, disenfranchised, disempowered. Maybe you've been forgotten by someone you expected to acknowledge you, or your efforts and feelings have gone chronically unrecognized.

Yes, this is all painful, and all can justify the choice to see yourself as alone, ostracized, set apart or not included.

But, in spiritual truth, it is actually impossible for you to be alone.

There is so much love and support around you in the energy--the ancestors flowing through your bloodline, fairies and nature spirits surrounding you on Earth, the gift of air and breath, and that constant, still and small voice that speaks love to you when the mean girl in your head screams and kicks against your greater good.

Know this: Tell your Inner Child: "You are not alone. You are loved right now." #BK2YS #TRIBE

The angels are with you. Your loved ones--human, animal, plant, stone, etc.--are with you. Your spirit guides and power animals are with you. Source is with you. Nature is you.

But all of the above don't mean anything if you choose to believe you are alone.

You see, to find love in your loneliness, the first step is being willing to believe that you are not alone.

The father of positive thought, Napoleon Hill once said that "whatever you can conceive and believe you can achieve." What matters most is that you change your mind to believe that it's impossible to be alone because Spirit is always with you.

What comes next then is the purpose of feeling of loneliness: when you feel it, it means you are being called to greater love ASAP.

The deep ache that we feel in loneliness is a warning sign that we are choosing to feel disconnected from Spirit. It's meant to be uncomfortable, because it's a motivator.

But what are we supposed to do to heed the guidance and heal this feeling? Get out and share more love ASAP with as many people as you can; one way to lose the ache of loneliness is to be of greater service, and volunteering is powerful medicine for that!

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows us how to create peace and serenity through our loneliness!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Take your loneliness as a cue from Spirit to GIVE more Love.

Push yourself to get up, get out of the house and volunteer. Open up VolunteerMatch.org and register for an opportunity that speaks to your heart.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

Want to shift your loneliness to greater love? Tell me!

Give me a call at 732-903-8573 or click on the blue BOOK NOW button to start your healing journey, today!

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27 Non-Food Love and Bliss Raising Activities for Holiday Gatherings

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Tue, 25 Nov 2014 23:21:57 +0000

27 Non-Food Love and Bliss Raising Activities for Holiday Gatherings

GROUP HUGS!

Awww... The holidays are the times when we come together as friends and family and do two things:

Stuff ourselves sick with sugary, fatty and greasy food.
Whine and get into fights because now's our chance!

Right? EW! I wish I could be warm and fuzzy, but for some of us the holidays and celebration gatherings of any kind are a hot mess.

Let's face the problem head on, rather than just dreading and building up our anxiety and blood pressure leading up to the event - or even using drinking more wine or stuffing with more food or watching a TV or whatever to distract us during the party.

Gatherings are powerful energywork, and when used correctly, you can exponentially increase your vibration and even increase your manifestation techniques. But that has to be on the agenda in order for that to happen!

In the previous post, I gave 7 Strategies for Not Getting Stuffed at Holiday Gatherings. This post will continue the healing process by showing you other awesome things you can do that do NOT involve stuffing yourself, but DO involve experiencing more love and more connection. Group hug!

And that's what we really want during the holidays, right?

So here goes:

Looking through photo albums and telling the stories of each picture. (Can also be showing cellphone pictures, but only if you know how to put the phone down and pay attention to people!)
Writing "Thank You" or "Happy Holidays" cards to your list of people that you are grateful for as a group and having a "card party."
Taking pictures as a family (professional ones are nice, but also doing disposable ones too are fun because it's a surprise! and the candids are much more emotionally satisfying to look at)
Writing "Happy Holidays" or "Thank You" or "Wish You Well" notes to your neighbors AND walking them to their mailboxes to put in. BONUS: knocking on their door and saying to their face that you wish them and their family health and happiness in person
Starting your own dance party. BONUS: having a dance battle or Soul Train Line
Having a sing along or jam session
Playing silly old games like Telephone, Mad Libs, Charades, Taboo, Jenga, Simon Says, Red Light Green Light or Marry Kiss Kill
Calling people and telling them you love them or that you were just thinking of them and wish them well as a group
Planning your next vacation as a group
Watch an old home movie
Watch your favorite comedy movie (skip the food or alcohol or sugary drinks and have Tea instead. pretend you're british!)
Pick a charity to donate to like Heifer International or The Unstoppable Foundation
Rather than going around the table and saying what you are thankful for, go around the table and have Rampages of Appreciation for each other (and loved ones who are more than alive) where you say what you love about each person there
Have everyone tell stories about your ancestors' accomplishments and the stories of your family's heritage
Do a group verbal vision board and brainstorm, going around the room saying "wouldn't it be cool if we did..." and then the next person builds on that saying "yeah and wouldn't it be even better if we did..."
Go around the group and say what's your New Year's Resolution or a big goal you're working toward
Increase you Law of Attraction energy by everyone saying what they want more of (affection, appreciation, health, a new job, etc) Ask and ye shall receive!
Also go around the group and say what you may need help with or are working on to make it a group mastermind
Raise your vibration by going around the group and each person recounting all the accomplishments you've made in the last week, month, quarter and/or year, and then make sure everyone in the group claps loudly and celebrates. What you celebrate, you attract more of!
Have a car trunk treasure hunt where you have a list of items that everyone needs to find in their trunk, and whoever finds the most items on the list, wins
Have a clothing donation competition where you fill garbage bags of clothes you want to donate and whoever has the most clothes, wins
Go for a group walk around the block or in a local park to appreciate nature if the weather permits, or even plant a tree as a group to commemorate the day
Visit and clean a family gravesite as a group and remember the love that family member brought into your lives
Call or visit people who are in the hospital, in jail or are abroad and let them know you care and are thinking of them as a group
Do a group doodle mural where everyone draws and writes on a big piece of paper to commemorate the day
Go around the group and say where you want to be in 5 years and where you want to see the family / your friends / your company in 5 years
Go around the group and have everyone say their birthdate, astrological sign, favorite color, favorite food, and what was the most fun they ever had or the craziest/funniest thing they ever did/heard/saw

There you have it! 27 ways to celebrate and enjoy the love and communal energy of group gatherings.

Did you come up with more ways that aren't listed here? Leave a comment below and share the ideas so we can all learn to live more love-filled and quality lives with the people we care about!

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Frustration Is A Gift?

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 04 Aug 2014 21:08:49 +0000

Frustration Is A Gift?

Here and there, do you feel that you life just not what you envisioned it would be at this point?

Is there someone who keeps draining you emotionally - such as your child or partner - and you feel like you can't do anything?

Finding it difficult to feel heard at home, work or elsewhere when you try to speak up for yourself - or perhaps you're even afraid to open up at all?

If so, then my guess is that you could easily admit that you are feeling "Frustrated" with how things are going for you.

You may even grit your teeth when people say "Hi! How are you?" - saying "Fine, thank you." even though that is a lie...

What I want to introduce you to this week is the idea of a Dark Gift being sent on purpose to you from the Energy / Spirit / Universe in your life.

Spirit is always sends us gifts, but often people forget that spiritual health is not just about "love and light" and woo and froo-froo things.

You are a balanced being, and Spirit knows that, so sometimes to help you learn a specific lesson, Spirit will send what I call a "Dark Gift" into your life to help you understand and move on.

Feeling frustration is a good example of a Dark Gift.

Why, you ask? Because this feeling is a signal to a deeper issue, and you feel "frustration" only during times when the Energy is trying to show you where to heal yourself.

When you are frustrated, you are, deep down, Angry. Did you know that you are actually Angry? Are you even allowed to be Angry?

Anger - when misdirected and unacknowledged - is destructive and inflammatory. But when harnessed and honored, can be quite productive and even, beautiful.

Know this: Frustration is your training partner and a doorway for spiritual practice. #BK2YS

There is always light to be found in the darkness, but you have to be ready to reframe negative situations by looking for the "Dark Gift" and assess what are you learning.

Perhaps in being angry at your child, you still harbor anger toward your parents from your own childhood. #BK2YS
Perhaps in being angry with your partner, you are still harboring hurt and abuse from a previous relationship. #BK2YS
Or perhaps in being angry at work, you are stuffing down your heart's desire to do more than just this 9-5 grind in life. Your spirit remembers your dream. #BK2YS

Have a hit a vein, yet? There will be more coming up in the next few weeks about "Dark Gifts" from the Energy.

Comment below, and let me know if something has come up for you in reading this particular topic.

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