This is week three of four of our deep dive into being catalysts for change. You are a catalyst for change. You are a healer.

We've been doing some really profound work on clearing the gunk on the inside that may be creating that resistance in you to speaking up for yourself, to changing the course of events around you, to arranging your life and purpose around being a healing presence. I know this is a deep work. For those of you where this is your first video, make sure that you pause and go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and start from part one so that you can begin this wonderful healing and uncovering process journey that we've been on over the last couple weeks.

This week in particular, the guides have asked us to talk about A Beautiful No. A Beautiful No is not one that’s screaming, "No, I'm not doing it!" or breaking down to the point where desperately you say, "I give up! No. Okay!? No. I can't...” What is that desperate pattern? From my heart to yours, as empaths, we have to get pushed to a certain breaking point in order to say “No” finally. And that needs to stop.

Also, there's the aspect of saying No from a feminine energy versus saying No from a masculine energy. Now, be kind to yourself. Neither is superior. I believe in supporting magnificent women as well as magnificent men. I believe in the power of the feminine and the power of the masculine. The two come together and are Creation, and we appreciate both.

At the same time, we have a lot more practice as empaths, energy-sensitive and heart-centered entrepreneurs with more of a masculine No, which is cutting to the point of saying No. That's been more exemplified perhaps in our early life experiences as children, or perhaps out in our greater society, our role models were predominantly coming from a No as being harsh, or No can even be perceived as mean. There's the warrior behind No. In the masculine, the warrior is gorgeous. The warrior is absolutely gorgeous. We need powerful warrior protectors who are rooted and generative in their energy. Absolutely, absolutely. The warrior is gorgeous.

However, there are more No’s out there than the No at the edge of an emotional sword or an immature, imbalanced masculine No that is mean, cutting, rude, at-the-end-of-its-rope and harsh or lashing out. That's not the type of masculine that we advocate for. Absolutely not. When we're in our graceful masculine, whether you are male or female, when we're in our graceful masculine, the No is rooted. When we're in our graceful feminine, rather than an immature, or imbalanced feminine saying, "Well, no. I can’t because [insert long story here]," being intentionally whine-y, or manipulative, or hot-potatoing of emotion on to other people to coerce them into different things; coming from an immature feminine is not the type of No that we're talking about.

When we have No coming from the graceful feminine, the No is pleasurable. It is in fact just as pleasurable, if not moreso than, the Yes. The No becomes radiant and inspiring. The No is an openhearted expression when we are in our graceful feminine. When we are in our graceful masculine, the No is rooted, calming, and it serves, it generates the energy of Certainty that that No roots in.

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So, how many beautiful No’s have you witnessed? Or in fact, how many beautiful No’s as a response have you seen? Repeat after me, “No.” Go ahead, say it beautifully out loud right now: “No.” Or even better, let's sink more into that graceful feminine and/or graceful masculine for a moment... Now try it again aloud: “No.” Again: “No.” How many of those beautiful No’s did you say to yourself just now? Go ahead, send me an email back at info@victoriawhitfield.com. How many No’s did you say out loud just now, and how did that feel? How many beautiful No’s have you ever witnessed? Have you seen it happen? What would be an example of the most beautiful No that you have ever witnessed, one that was full of grace, and power, and was inspiring, or when it was said, it felt honored and respectful, or edifying to hear such a No?

When you are embracing being a catalyst for change, it can be a beautiful process. It doesn't have to be messy. This one's for those of you who've been doing the series and thinking, "Oh my gosh. If I have to be a catalyst for change, I'm going to turn everything upside down. It’ll be a disaster. I'm going to embarrass myself or I'm going to out a whole bunch of people and cause trouble." That's not necessarily the only way to be a wonderful catalyst for change. In fact, when you’re cultivating your relationship with A Beautiful No, and coming from that grounded, deep, and centered space, you can still be a profound catalyst for change without having to claw at people and cause some trouble or start a fight along the way.

Speaking of being grounded and centered, let's get to our crystals for this week. All right? So, we are exploring the Beautiful No and I'm curious: Crystals, angels, spirit guides, what do we need to know right now about A Beautiful No? ...Yay! Tiger's eye. Look at how pretty it is. You can barely see the color of it on camera. Oh, my goodness! Let's read: “Tiger's eye represents calm, clarity, balanced emotions.” Can't make this stuff up. I'm reading. I'm literally just reading what it says:

“Communication and intuition. If you have been plagued with negative thoughts lately, then tiger's eye crystal will help you rid yourself of unwanted thoughts and help you regain a positive and more inspiring attitude. You will soon begin to see things clearly and realize that there was really nothing to fear in the first place. Calm your thoughts and start to listen to your intuition. Know that all is well, and that only love surrounds you. This card also has to do with communication. You may avoid unnecessary turmoil and problems by communicating clearly with others. Don't be afraid to express your views honestly, and make sure there's no misunderstanding. You will gain respect and admiration for doing so.”

Gosh! I just so happened to have a tiger's eye here at the office. I pulled these stone completely at random – but there’s no such thing as coincidence; Spirit is surely guiding the way. By the way, thank you, Christoph for your gift of the tiger's eye stones I have here. This stone is a feldspar: it means flashes of insight. That's what feldspar is, that where the light travels, like in flashes across the stone.

This is all about mindset and having powerful communication. When you are really embracing A Beautiful No, you exemplify what it means to be a healing presence as a catalyst for change. It doesn't have to be painful, and it doesn't have to be crazy or messy. Instead, it’s about being clear that “No” is a full sentence.

Go ahead. Schedule a chat with me at http://www.victoriawhitfield.com/contact/ and tell me what comes up for you. Do you need help in connecting with your Beautiful No? Go ahead. Tell me. Type it in the comments below or subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every week. I'm excited to see what you say and how you're Beautiful No comes to pass. I'm sending you big hugs, and muah, lots of love. I'll see you next week for our last video!

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Practice saying “no” in a beautiful way, with authenticity and out loud.

There’s power in your words, and in hearing yourself speak, so drop into your heart and straighten up your spine as you open up to say “no” with grace and clarity.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

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Who is more trustworthy: you, others or neither?

Are you tired of paddling upstream every day in your business, yet?

Still can't seem to grasp what it would be like for others to help you with certain tasks?

It's ok if you're still struggling to transition from a "Me Mindset" to "We Mindset" in life and business: it ain't easy, bay-bay!

So, to help you along, the guides want to share a very familiar and very large example of what a We Mindset looks like in action: NATURE! 🙂

Watch this week's 13-minute Love Letter video, the final installment in our 5-week series on transitioning from "Me Mindset" to a "We Mindset" in your business, to start going with the flow of Nature in your business.

 

"I tend to have trouble going with the flow."

This is week five of five, we made it through our deep dive into transitioning from a me mindset to a we mindset in life and business.

I've been talking to so many of you over the course of these weeks, this month, and then in the emails, in the posts, this has really touched a nerve because as an entrepreneur it's usually where the bootstrappers, right, doing it on our own and really drawing significance and empowerment from that. But if you remember, one of the previous weeks, we talked about that as an ego trap, right, the do it yourself ego trap.

Now by the way, if this is the first time you are seeing me or any of the series, stop now, go back on YouTube, and make sure that you start from the beginning of our five part series, and also hit the subscribe button on YouTube so that you get these love letters first, every week. Let's get to it.

The topic of this week in particular comes from our guides, right? And our guides are specifically asking us to consider going with the flow, you gotta go with the flow in nature in order to harness the momentum from me to we, right?

So we have over the last few weeks covered transitioning from the competitive to the creative mind, right, releasing egoic attachment, knowing that we're ready for exponential impact, and so much more, right? We've covered so many amazing topics, but the final push in transitioning from me to we, if you haven't yet, if you're still holding on to the me-centric mindset, is nature. We've gotta come back to our foundation.

Nature source herself, the entire universe, is cooperative. That's what it means, going with the flow, this week in particular.

You know, if you look at a forest, a forest is not just trees living and growing in isolation. No, it's an intricate ecosystem that is interdependent upon each other, right?

The leaves from the trees fertilize the soil, and you know the droppings from the animals fertilize the soil and then the soil feeds the trees and the ferns and all the different, the air, sunlight, the rain, so many things, even forest fires, contribute to the ecosystem in essential, essential ways.

So being open to going with the flow of life, of nature in general, means being open to cooperation. It is natural for you to cooperate by nature, you are cooperative. That is the quotable, the Tweetable, of the week. Tweet of the week. By nature, you are cooperative. It's time for you to transition from the me mindset to the we mindset.

You know, there is a transition ... A transmission, rather, of energy between us as individuals, right, me as a me, there's a transmission of energy between me and you. You are a separate me outside of you, and when the two of us have an interaction, there is a transmission of energy, and how you deal with that, how you respond or react, how you digest and transmute, that energy transmission really dictates how successful you can be at cooperating.

In essence, what we're talking about is relationship mastery. We can't even begin to approach relating to others before we begin clearing our own and learning our own energy, and that's what we've been focusing on for the past few weeks.

But how things work in nature is that the transmission of energy between different entities is integrated and seamless. The masculine works with the feminine and together they create, right? They form creation. And it is a seamless, natural movement through all of nature, right?

The water cycle transmits water through so many different vehicles and venues, moving that resource, right, from one paradigm to another, seamlessly, in an integrated way. There's cooperation at every point along the line of the water cycle, right? So be kind to yourself.

If you are afraid of the transmission, this is an energy aware entrepreneur, right, as an empath, for short, we can get a bit traumatized because we've had negative transmission or we have not had sufficient education around how to receive as well as send, interpret, and transform the energy that was coming through us.

Energy in the form of money, energy in the form of emotions, energy in the form of other peoples' personalities, et cetera. This is relationship mastery, not just between me and you as your own me, but also between me and the others who are supporting me, me and my environment, right, and all of the different energy sources that I'm interacting with.

Suffice to say, you've got to learn how to cooperate. Go with the flow of nature. Nature is cooperative. You know, Tony Robbins once said that our greatest resource is resourcefulness. The feminine way of saying that is receptivity. If you are not receptive to all of the sources of support around you, it is the equivalent of dying of thirst while sitting in the middle of a freshwater lake because you just won't open your mouth to drink, right?

That mouth opening and allowing yourself to drink and digest the water is the act of cooperation.

Now I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy to weigh in on this subject, all month we've been journeying with Life Purpose Oracle Cards Deck, so I'm gonna step where we can see a bit closer. Let's hear it, okay angels. Another Dorian Virtue deck, what else is new?

So many here at the dojo, thank you for your donations, always open to receiving. So angels, what do we need to know this week in particular about healing our fear of cooperation, right? Because we have this fear of that energy transmission, not knowing how to deal with that energy transmission, right, to receive it and not knowing how to send correctly. Angels, what do you have to say on that topic? Curious.

Well this is a bit redundant. Oracle cards! I'm like pulling an oracle card, that says oracle cards which I love. "You are able to discern answers and guidance for yourself and others," and this is where we're going to leave off for this week. This is pretty ninja, that the angels are bringing this up.

Cultivating your intuition, especially through researching divination, psychic self defense techniques, right, and energy transmutation can really help you to discern, right? Discerning answers and guidance for yourself and others, what the angels are talking about on this card, but discernment is what really gives us the courage to show up in relationship to others. Gives us the energy to cooperate with others, right, and really helps us with that transmission. Right?

I'm speaking to someone in particular, I know especially the empaths and energy-sensitives who are watching, this is the main thing. The last frontier between you transitioning from a me mindset to a we mindset, and lo and behold its your intuition that's going to help you bridge the gap, right, and having tools like oracle cards to help you discern how to communicate your desire, how to receive guidance as well as give guidance to others, what's the right direction to go in.

So I'm curious what's coming up for you hearing all of this? Go ahead, type in the comments below on YouTube or on my blog, wherever you're watching, right, this is meant to be a conversation, not just you sitting back and watching. I wanna hear, what's coming up for you hearing all of this, right?

And if you have any further questions about how you can transition from your me mindset to your we mindset in life or business, go ahead, reach out, grab a call with me at victoriawhitfield.com/contact. I'm here to support you.

And by the way, if this video, you're seeing, hm, this person that I love really needs to hear this, go ahead, hit the share button! Hit it, hit it, hit it! Let them know that you were thinking of them and that where the final frontier is between them transitioning from the me mindset to a we mindset is. I'd be happy to support them, and clear the energy so they can move forward for yourself too.

I'll see you next week for our next series of love letters, I can't wait to see what you have to say. Email me back, right? Lookin' forward to it. Bye!

Know this: By nature you are #cooperative. Go with the flow of nature and let others help you in life and #business.

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