What are the symptoms of turning into a techno-zombie?

Have you Become One with your Netflix and DVR accounts?

Bit by the Email Timesuck Vampire AGAIN? There goes another three hours!

FOMO or Fear of Missing Out has driven us as empathy and as entrepreneurs to be literally attached at the hip to our cellphones and other tech at all times.

And as technology continues to innovate, it's getting harder and harder to tell the difference between being productive and being distracted by it.

Watch this week's 14-minute love letter video for the third installment of our 5-week deep dive into self-care versus self-sabotage, and start healing your relationship with technology.

"I carry my phone everywhere."

We are on week three of five in our deep dive into the dance that we empaths do, between self-care and self-sabotage, right? Dancing that fine line like a boss, or not.

Kind of like a slave, right? If we're really looking at what are our addictions? How are we soothing ourselves versus actually caring for ourselves, right?

Last week, we talked about food, right? And emotional stuffing, how we use food to stuff our feelings, our empathic overwhelm down, so be kind to yourself if that's you, or if you haven't seen that, go ahead and go back in the playlist on YouTube, or back on the earlier blog post on victoriawhitfield.com. You'll see it there.

This week, this is a bit of like a meta-analysis, right? It's the analysis of the actual thing that's happening right now, is technology.

Social media and technology! It's so good, right?

How are we doing self-care versus self-sabotage, with all this technology stuff all over us, right? How impersonal does this feel, by the way, now that you can see my phone as I'm talking to you? Like, it's changed the whole look.

I'm not acting any differently, but now that I'm looking at or having my phone on camera, that feels different talking to you, versus you having my full attention. Hmm. So this is something that we have got to talk about, because you and I are looking at each other thanks to technology right now, right?

Current research says cell phone users touch their phone - they don't even really use it, they just touch it - between 2,500 and 5,500 times per day, spending an average of two to five hours within the screen, and this is just the phone, right?

I didn't even look at TV, or look at computer, laptop, or billboards, and GPS, and all the technology, and then other people's phones, and TVs, and laptops, and computers, and yada yada yada, the list goes on.

It's total technological immersion that we've got going on right now, and yes, it's connectivity, but there's a difference between connecting and feeling connected, right?

So with our phones, and all of these screens that we have around us, there is an emotional need that we are fulfilling, so this week in particular, my guides are bringing forward the Erickson, who came up with the six human needs?

So everybody has basic, human needs, right? That have got to be fulfilled in order for us to feel safe, happy, and fulfilled in life.

Even just normal, right, filling our needs is necessary for satisfying our baseline as human beings. It's just natural, and the six human needs are certainty, right? To know things that are going to be the same.

You know what the outcome is going to be. You know what to expect, right? Certainty. "I'm certain." Also, then, uncertainty. So, to know things are going to be spicy, and interesting, and we'll have adventures, and spontaneity, and diversity, right? Uncertainty.

Next is connection and love, so those two are kind of grouped together, but this is to feel connected to those around us, feel connected to something outside of ourselves, right? To be involved, to be in relationship of some sort. It doesn't even have to be with a human being, right? I think in Japan, they're marrying robots, some people are. Google it.

Four is significance. So, to know that you matter, or that you've been seen, and recognized, and acknowledged, that you're not just operating in a vacuum, but that, "Oh, I'm significant to something, someone, somehow," or, "I am significant," right? Those are our four universal, basic human needs. Everybody's into this. The last two are more spiritual in nature.

Number five is for growth. So, the need to feel like there's progress being made, that we're moving forward, or that we're getting better with time, things are developing momentum. Then six is for contribution, so to know that you have a legacy, or that you made a difference, that you taught something, or somebody, that there was an impact that was made. Those are our six human needs.

Now, if you just have three of those human needs, it's an addiction. Anything above that, you can forget about it. It'll dominate your life.

Technology, how many of those six human needs, right? Already, yes, we're going in to connect, right? Trying to connect, stay connected, get connected. How many times do you see that online, or on the computer, or wherever you're looking, whatever screen you're sucking on, right?

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Then, certainty, to know that everything is the same. I know the weather is the same as it's expected, right? Then uncertainty, "Ooh, look at this different shiny object, or squirrel on a pole, dancing," or something on Facebook.

So we've already got three there. Oh no! Then, well we've got contribution, posts, right? Like, comment, engage, subscribe. Legacy, oh no!

So, I'm sure I missed one, but you fill in the blank. Our human needs are absorbed in these screens, that are following us around all day.

Source wants you to know that the feeling behind that, the spiritual truth behind that, one is you're feeling lonely, bored, under-stimulated, anxious, and impatient. These are all the uncomfortable feelings that we'll have that will cause us to reach, those 2,500 to 5,500 times for our phone, for example, in a given day.

Unbelievable. I'm still flabbergasted by that number, but hey, you know, it's what the research says, as of 2017. So, be kind to yourself if that's you, right? You live with your phone, or you talk with your phone, or your phone is always on your hip, on your boob, on your ... Screens everywhere.

It's those low vibe feelings, though, that we are trying to escape. So this is what we want to honor this week, in particular, with your energy, is how are you escaping life? So this is our form of self-care, right? We're trying to care for these feelings of emptiness, loneliness, feeling bored, or under-stimulated, or even curious.

We're caring for that by escaping, right? Taking off, into the bowels of Google, or into the depths of Netflix, right? Or wherever you're going, in technology. Technology is meant for you to feel connected and have access. It does not put limits on you.

Now, there is an app, one of my awesome clients ... Hi, Elaine! She uses, called Moment, which is tracking you, how many minutes you've been on your phone, and you can start to raise your own self-awareness of, "Oh my gosh, I've been eating my phone for the last few days," right? It tracks your usage. Moment. It looks like a light green and white flower, if you're looking for it in the App Store, to help you, and it'll also give you alerts to put your phone down.

You've met your limit, right? But most technology is built for access, like this infinite connectivity and access, and that is a breeding ground for addiction and escaping away from your natural energy. Very, very, very un-grounding.

So this week in particular, Source is asking us instead, to unplug at the Deep Dive Retreat. Every year, we practice three whole days unplugged, and yes, we go through withdrawal, and yes it's intense, but it's amazing what happens when you go back to being a natural human being. Suddenly you can see flowers, and smell the ocean breeze, or even just, if you're not by the ocean, you're just alive, and aware, "Oh, this part of my body aches. Ooh, I feel like moving more," right? You're so much more in tune to your health, and to your energy, when you start practice unplugging strategically.

So that's your assignment for this week. Here's the Oracle Card deck. Let me pull this right quick, before we run out of time. Indigo Angel Oracle Cards deck. Another Doreen Virtue deck. One of, I believe, 21 now. Angels, what do we need to know this week, about oh God, screen-sucking?

Ah, time to create. This is where we'll leave off. You know, the bright side of technology is that it gives us an incredible myriad of platforms for expressing our creativity. I double dare you to get creative when you feel the urge to screen-suck, whether it's TV, laptop, tablet, phone, right? When you get the urge to screen-suck, do something creative. Maybe it's change your clothes, or primp yourself, or start drawing, or make a paper shape, or whatever you can do to get creative.

What's coming up for you? Comment below, send me an email back, what happened when you did that? What are you going to plan to do? Are you going to plan to draw? I love doodling, by the way. I doodle on all receipts, so whenever I'm out eating, or shopping, or whatever, I doodle on every receipt that goes back to the waiter.

So, how are you going to express your creativity this week, instead of jumping on that technology thingy? It's going to suck your energy and your time away, right? Let me know. I'm excited to see it, right? And share your poem, share your images, share your songs. I would love to see them. If you want to post a video back, I can't wait to see you.

All right, are you ready for it? We'll see you next week for week four. Bye.

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Unplug from technology, strategically.

Make time for creative expression with ZERO technology exposure - even try hiding all screens and machines under blankets if you must.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

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Feeling like there's never enough hours in the day?

Overwhelmed by all the stuff that has to get done?

Swimming in to-do lists that just keep getting longer and longer?

Source is sounding the alarm that it's time for you to hand off some of those tasks!

But what happens when you're the go-to person for getting things done?

Watch this week's 10-minute love letter to get ready to let go and delegate!

"I feel like I don't have enough time to create."

This week source says it's time for you to have your reminder. Ready?

Delegate. Yay!

This, apparently the guides are, they're ringing this alarm that goes off every so often of, "Oh, you have to delegate." Did you know that?

It doesn't matter if you have a business or don't, have kids or don't, run a team or don't. No. You, if you're watching, you have to delegate. This is your reminder.

There's parts of us are like "Yes!" Then I feel another part of us is like, "No one can do it like me." Right? Totally love that evil part.

Okay. Apparently you are amazing at getting stuff done. You know how to make it work. You're the go to girl, the go to guy. If someone needs help, you're on it.

Now, this, by the way, is for those of you who are in the process of doing something. You've been doing it for a long time, you're amazing at it, or you're okay at it, or it takes a lot of crust to make it happen. You've been working with it.

This is not for those of you who are like, "Oh yay, I get to delegate the thing that I hate that I've never done and I'm never going to do like call my mother. I'm going to delegate that to my kids." No.

This is different. This is not that, or, "Yay, I don't know how to do math. I've never looked at my numbers before. I'm just going to give it away to the first person who's able to take my money." No. This is not for you.

In those instances you don't need to delegate the task, you need to delegate accountability for that task. You need someone to help you learn how to call your mamma, or you need someone to help you learn how to look at your numbers. The guides are saying this week in particular is about delegation. Back to the get-'er-dones out there. If you're a get-'er-doner, whoop, whoop. Yeah, right there with you.

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The craziest thing for us in particular, for you and me is being able to hand over something you've been doing for so long because no one else does it like you. Right?

Be kind to yourself because you are creating something really, really big. This is what I'm hearing right now.

You're creating something huge. In order for you to have enough space to birth that creation, that manifestation, that intention into existence, you've got to hand off something else.

Why? Whenever we are doing a task or cleaning the house or finding the sock that matches the other sock, that takes up vital energy that you could be directing towards what you are manifesting.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy all ready. The deck, this is the deck that actually, the only one at the dojo that intimidates me.

Angel Answers oracle cards deck. There are yeses and noes as well as maybes or not yet, et cetera. There are very direct answers in this deck. What we're going to do, then, is we're going to ask this deck to play a little bit of Russian roulette. You ready for this?

Is this the week that we need to delegate, angels? Are we delegating this week? You might just get let off the hook with a no. Let's see. Wouldn't that be nice? The cards are kind of intense, here.

There's something better.

Oh, they just said read. Before I read, though, I'll follow guidance, as I always do, but I have to tell you. This is a yes card.

You need to delegate because there's something better. Not only that there's something better for you to be doing with your energy. I'm being real with you.

Let's be honest, there's something better that you could be doing with your energy instead of this activity of washing the dishes over and over or typing out the notes for each and every one of your consulting clients by hand, or transcribing things, et cetera. There's something that you could be doing better. Right?

You're manifesting something big. You've got to open up your bandwidth so that you can be there for the birth.

Also, the guides are saying there's someone who can do it better. Right? If you are typing out the notes on your video or something like that, use Rev.com. I use them. They are fantastic at transcription. That's how you can write books super fast. Wink, there's one coming. Thanks to delegation. Right?

Hand it off, delegate, delegate so that you can birth and bring in what's new and coming in.

I'm going to read this. I know I just ... This is so exciting. I'm so excited I can barely remember what the alphabet is. There's something better.

"Heaven has something wonderful in mind for you, however it's not the same thing that you planned. Ask yourself what you would rather have, the very thing that you're asking for or something that could make you much happier and more fulfilled. Sometimes god has joys in store for us that we could've never imagined on our own. Open your mind and heart to the possibility that you deserve even more than what you're asking for. Trust your angels to guide you in new and exciting directions."

This is where we're going to leave off. You may have planned and put in your schedule or gotten used to the routine of waking the kids up, getting all of the breakfast together, packing everyone's lunch. You may be used to that routine, but guess what?

If you've been asking source, God, et cetera, however you call her by name, right? If you've been asking your creative spirit for solution that is outside your routine, it's out there for you and allow someone else to help you in bringing that into fruition.

Comment below, send me an email back what you're thinking about, what's coming up for you.

What are you going to delegate? What are you going to delegate? Tell me, tell me. I would love to know.

What resources do you have? I talked about Rev.com for helping me birth my new book that's in the series coming through, because I dictate things and then I go through and edit, et cetera.

Who do you use for delegating? Do you have a VA? Do you have a nanny? Do you use oDesk? Who do you know who helps you delegate?

Share the resources. Let's come together as a tribe so that we can all bring in the vision that we're seeing together because this is a year of togetherness. Let's do it. Okay? Subscribe on YouTube so you get your Love Letter first every week and I'll see you soon.

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Identify easy repetitive tasks that you routinely do that take up your time to complete.

Choose one to delegate to someone or something else to get the task done.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Do you think that you're not good enough?

Thought that you'd be further ahead in life than you are right now?

Going through a difficult time of arguments and disagreements?

When the going gets tough, our knee-jerk reaction can often be to think "why me?" or "what's wrong with me?"

Believe it or not, no matter how ugly it gets, Source says you need to remember that it's not about "me", instead it's about "we".

Watch this week's 9-minute Love Letter video to find the courage to be compassionate!

"What is wrong with me?"

This week, you must know that it is not about you.

It's not about you. It never has been, it never will be, so from this point forward in time, you have got to stop taking it so seriously.

They told me, be more specific. You have got to stop taking him so seriously. You've got to stop taking her and what she does in her life and in her business, so personally, because it's not about you. It never has been, and it never will be.

Now perhaps someone has really been getting under your skin lately, or they've been throwing their anger your way, or getting very emotional, and clogging up your joy with all of their crusty crap.

Perhaps they talk stuff about you, or hating. (I don't really believe in hating.) But perhaps you feel like you may be getting hated on, or people writing smear stuff about you.

There's this insidious, internal, pre-programmed response that we have, unfortunately, to these interactions of: 

• "What did I do to deserve this?"
• "What's wrong with me, that I can't get ahead, like so-and-so?"
• "What's wrong with me, that I am not married, yet?"
• "What's wrong with me, that I can't have kids?"
• "What's wrong with me, that I'm not financially stable?"

Our ego turns us in on ourselves, because she's actually trying to protect you from stepping out when you're feeling vulnerable.

The reason why she brings you inward, blaming inward, "What's wrong with me? There's something wrong with me," taking everything outside of us, personally or very seriously, turning it inward, is a way, a shadow way, a dark way of centering you. Let me explain.

It's never been about you. Someone says, "You're doing this and the other thing, and I can't believe that this ..." They're throwing all that drama around and on you. That's actually them and their stuff.

If someone comments on your posts, and craps all over your sunshine parade, that is their problem. It's nothing that you did.

Maybe you did drop the ball. I just heard in the energy, perhaps you might have said something offensive, etc., but everyone chooses how to react, and how to respond to life.

That's their choice. It's on them. You don't have to take responsibility for how they feel.

You do need to own up to who you are and how you show up in this world, absolutely. Clean it up, if you made a mess. That's your mess, but you made that.

Whereas, if someone else makes a mess and starts blabbing about it or spewing all over you about it, that's their stuff.

I really don't know why the guides are having me say this in particular, this week. I know that I'm talking to someone, so I'm going to keep going with it, but this week, it's not about you.

Your business, by the way, if you're an entrepreneur, and you're thinking to yourself:

• "Why aren't I doing any better?"
• "Maybe I need to implement more, work harder."
• "Why don't people like me?"
• "Why isn't so-and-so buying in?"

It's not about you. Come out of the ego cave and cage.

The shadow side of centering is reinforcing an identity, so that you can feel and create a sense of stability in your personal ... no, put it that way. The ego she'll bring you in, and be like, something that I did.

Whereas, this is about me, or what's wrong with me? Come out of that cave. There's more outside.

Instead, to flip that, where we're feeling not good enough, it's time to give more. There's so much more love, so much more value, so much more creativity and insight that you're capable of giving. It's about serving.

Tony Robins, I love his quote. "The secret to living is giving absolutely." That's the way to come out of an ego cave.

Know this: If you're not feeling "good enough," then give more to those less fortunate. Focus on WE, not me.

The guides are telling me to pull an Oracle card now. The deck that came forward in this week, is the crystal Oracle cards, in particular, to really weigh in on the topic of this situation.

It's really not about you. It's not about me. It's we. This week, in particular.

Someone just said, pull this card. Amber.

Look at how gorgeous. I love this deck, because it's all pictures. Juicy, juicy amber shot. They're telling me to read.

The words that they've associated with Amber are transparency, calm, purification, and creativity. Here's the reading: "An issue that is causing tension and friction in your life will soon erupt and come to a head."

I'm starting to get the chills. "You are being urged to stay calm during this emotionally-charged event. Express how you feel, but don't be drawn into saying things that you don't mean. This event is, in fact, a blessing. One that is perhaps well overdue."

You can't make this stuff up, people. This is amazing.

"Through it, you will realize where you stand, and how others truly feel. As the air clears, you will uncover a hidden agenda and find creative ways of handling this type of situation in the future. Stay calm, and don't allow yourself to be dragged further into chaos by others. You will emerge from this situation, feeling purified of all the negative emotions and thoughts that have weighted you down recently. Trust and remember it. This event is a blessing."

Here's where we're going to leave off.

Whatever disagreement, argument, or provocative conversation you are about to have this week, remember, it's not about me. This is about we.

Look for the lesson. There's always a dark gift, especially in difficult situations. They always teach us.

Keep your eyes open for the gift. Stay focused on the we. Don't be pulled into that ego cave.

Send me an email back. Comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you around this.

Subscribe on youtube, so that you get your love letters first, and make sure you share this with someone who may be going through something right now, and could really use some positive encouragement.

Sending you so much love. I'll see you next week. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Look for the love and learning in a difficult conversation or argument.

See the difference and disagreement from a third party perspective, considering the pros and cons of the opinions of everyone involved.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Are you a worry-wart?

Do you believe that when you love someone, you should worry about them to show you care?

Wish your life was less stressful?

Worry has been said to be a negative form of prayer for something you don't want.

So why do we worry so much?

Watch this week's 10-minute Love Letter video to understand what worry really is, and why you can't seem to stop doing it!

"I'm a worry wart."

This week, the question is: Why so worried?

Why are you so worried? It would be really easy for me to just tell you, "Stop worrying! Don't worry anymore. Let it go. Release it. Release the hounds of your worry," but that's not what I've been guided to relay to you this week in particular.

Instead, this is a digging week, a journaling week, a self-reflection, internal, introspection week.

Why so worried? Perhaps you are someone who other people have called, or you self-identify as, "I'm a worry wart. I worry about my kids. I worry about my business. I worry about the economy. I worry about my health. I worry about my boyfriend," or "I worry about my pets. I worry about what I'm going to make for dinner tonight."

Perhaps you self-identify as, "I'm a worry wart," or other people might have said, "Oh she's always worrying all the time."

Maybe your husband or your wife, your significant other has said that about you, you know, your partner. Maybe, in business, the other person is like the visionary, creative risk-taker, and you're the worrier. "How are we going to do this? Let me look at all the metrics and get into the nuts and bolts of things."

Worry is suffering.

I'm sorry to have to be the one to break that to you, but worrying is a form of suffering, so the more that you identify with being a worry wart, or being someone who worries a lot, the more you identify with having a life that is driven by your suffering, by the way you identify that.

It's not something that anybody else puts on you. I know this is a little bit tough to hear, but I want you to know this because I care about you.

The guides are also saying worse yet, you may be someone who associates worry with caring. If worry, under our definition currently, is suffering, that means you associate suffering with caring, or better yet, love with suffering. There's this sense of, "Oh gosh," fear of being in intimate relationships because, "What if I care too much? What if it ends?" And we begin to worry about that.

Suffering before anything has happened, or before there is any proof of something to legitimately take care of and respond to.

Know this: Worry is suffering. The more you identify as a "worry wart," the more you ask for a life driven by suffering. #letitgo

Be kind to yourself. If this is you, I know this is tough to hear if this is you. I'm feeling a lot of tense energy coming through as we're channeling.

When we are worrying, we are actually managing and creating a sense of felt control and influence on an object, or a person, or something, a situation that it's impossible to control or manage.

Take, for example, love. When we worry, we create this connection through the management of how we feel and how we think things are going to go for them.

Like, "Oh what if this happens, and what if this happens, and what if this happens?" Because you've suffered your way through all of the imaginary possible situation and scenarios. Get ready for this.

It gives you a sense of significance, whereas without that, all that suffering and imagining all of that, you wouldn't feel, for some reason, secure or significant to that person that you care about.

Did you know that you are so special that, in fact, you don't have to be responsible for figuring out every future by yourself, especially if you're worrying about somebody else. Include them. Hello? Share what's on your heart.

Why so worried? Why do you associate and root your sense of significance as a human being, or as a mother, or as a lover, or as an owner? Why do you associate your significance with worry, and your ability to envision and create possible negative outcomes?

Don't blame it on anybody. I just heard somebody say, "Well, my mother worried all the time, or my father." Oh my God. "He was always worried about the next thing." What next? Resist the urge to blame it on someone. This is a journaling opportunity. The guides, now, are calling, "Read the oracle cards."

Angel Therapy is the oracle cards deck for this week. I know this is a touchy, kind of squishy subject, but you've got to hear it.

This is what they said. Angels, please tell us. What do we need to know about worrying? Why? Why do we worry so much? What do we need to know? Get ready for this. Heal away addictions.

The guides just said, "This is a big reason why you cannot blame your parents, your society, or your community for your identity as a worrier." That's your addiction.

This is not to blame the victim. Instead I want you to know you have power to shift the story of your life, and the story of who you are. You don't have to be worried all the time. You don't have to be "the worrier." There's more to life than suffering through her.

"It's time to let go of behaviors that are blocking you from your heart's desire. Ask Archangel Raphael to help you with this healing."

I'm just going to do this in behalf of you.

Archangel Raphael, for whoever is watching right now- Whoo, the energy. For whoever is watching right now who is filled with worry, or who identifies as being a worrier, I ask that you surround this person, or people, with your healing green light and infuse their heart with your healing energy. Thank you. I feel your presence so strong right now. Lift the worry out of them. Take it away, and we give all of our worries over to you, over to Source, over to God, knowing that we are never alone in that which concerns us. We ask that you heal the identity around worry, and that we be released to a higher vibration, from being the worrier to being the communicator, the connector. Let us come out of our caves and into the world to shine our light in the way that we have been built to in this lifetime, and so it is.

Comment below or send me an e-mail back. What's coming up for you around worrying? Did you need to hear that? What did you feel during that sequence just now? Perhaps it was a prayer or meditation for you. Let me know.

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By the way, share this with the worrier in your life. If you know who it is, don't let them continue on this path of self-imposed suffering. There's so much more to life than that. Okay?

Sending you so much love and blessings, and I'll see you next week. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Journal about why you worry or why you connect worry with caring or loving.

Make sure to really write out how worrying makes you feel significant and how it gives you an emotional sense of "felt control" as you worry.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Feel like there's not enough You to go around? 

Stressed about a big upcoming event or project?

Worried that you're about to burn out?

You're a busy bee, high achiever and get-it-done task master -- awesome!

But what if you're better at working hard than playing hard?

Watch this week's 9-minute Love Letter video to start adding strategic self care into your busy schedule to increase productivity!

"I might look bored, but I don't feel that way!"

You have got something big brewing, I had to say maybe it's a launch date or maybe it's a date with somebody cute coming up, or maybe your kids have their first day of school or their awards ceremony, something big is coming.

Maybe it's the sale meeting on your house or on your business, something big, there's a big event coming up, right?

Source wants you to know the best way to prepare and to surround that experience in positive energy is through strategic self-care.

This is what it's about this week is specifically prioritizing your self-care strategically. Getting that ready for what's coming up for you.

Be kind to yourself, this is something new to you if you're feeling clearings as I'm talking about this because you, you my dear don't prioritize your self-care.

Maybe you have in spurts, maybe you've been working on it but you and I both, we have this conditioning around other people's care comes first, right?

Caring for others is priority versus our care being a priority.

But if you're looking to manifest something big or you're getting ready for an event maybe it's your wedding, or your big birthday coming up, it's important to strategically pad and plan for your self-care before, during, and after like strategize it because if you don't strategize it it's not going to happen. Right?

We'll have all of this frustration afterward of, "Oh my gosh, I worked so hard and now I have to go right on to the next thing. I don't have any transition coming out of that experience." 

Focusing strategic self-care, what does this look like?

How do we do it? For me and my business, every month I have SSD as my AB calls it, baileyfruman.com by the way, go check her out.

I have an SSD which is a strategic spa day every month at least to make sure that I'm creating space for clearing my personal energy as the mother goddess of the business, the owner of the dojo and the space, I have to clear my energy.

Then also, I give myself time at the spa and it's a spa day, it's like five, eight hours at the spa. We're putting in work there, right?

It's enough space to sit down in creative vision, reevaluate different things that are going on, making sure that I'm staying in tune to the heartbeat of my business and also where she's going in the future.

Every month I know my SSD is coming, right? Strategic self-care because I create space for working on the business versus in the business to make sure she continues growing but that's from a business owner's perspective.

Maybe it's your wedding coming up, how have you created space for relaxation and rest leading up to your big day?

Is it all go, go, go, got to get everybody's cards and the flower and the bubbles, like the dress color, is it all just go instead of rest and production, rest and production?

Know this: Prioritize your self care before, during and after your next big event.

I'm starting to hear the oracle card deck calling the energy.

One sec, it will get to you in a minute but the point for strategic self-care is to not only focus on output but look at your energy as more cyclical similar to nature, how there is the high times of production in spring and summer and then the quiet and restful times of fall and winter.

She goes in her cycles to perpetuate all of life.

You can do this on a month cycle because women's bodies do this one month cycle so we do this anyway. By the way, if you're a woman you should make time to honor your body during her cycle, just saying.

Men menstruate as well so periodically guys make sure that you give yourself time to release, go through the things that are bothering you and then just do something about it to release it out of your energy if it's run, workout, right?

Go for a good scream in your car with the windows closed by yourself. I have so many stories, you have no idea.

Anyway, back to the point, strategic self-care, whether it's on a monthly cycle, weekly, or even parts of the day as well.

Where is your strategic rest time? Do you give yourself meditation time at the beginning and in the middle as well as the end of your day? Are you just from the minute you hop out the bed you're going until you smash into the pillow at the end of the day?

Now, the oracle cards are screaming at me. I'm happy to bring them in. It's the earth magic oracle cards deck, it's our Shamanic deck here at the dojo. One of I think 19 counting so far book guides.

What do we need to know in particular about strategic self-care? What do you have to tell us?

This is good. This is good. This is good. This is good. Island, solitude.

Solitude.

Look at the reflection and that's what it's about, it's giving yourself space rather than being above ground and interacting and social and putting out but it's also to be below ground. Reflective, restorative, restful, reviewing, all the res, recycling, renewing, all the res, it's the output as well as the input. Time, right? Honoring that.

How can you schedule and I mean in the calendar, how can you schedule more strategic self-care so that you know it's in there?

By the way, it's so powerful. If you see in your calendar there are blocked out like black periods that say rest. Trust me, I know.

From somebody who's very super productive and a control enthusiast, right? I'm a get it done girl, absolutely.

It's so powerful to see that there's rest in my schedule.

Yeah, I can give, give, give, and I can rest as hardcore as I give. Is that you? Maybe it's not you. I don't know who I'm speaking to.

Maybe you need to share this video with someone else who really needs to hear this message because it's obviously not you.

Oh my gosh, send me an email back, comment below, let me know if this resonates with you. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your Love Letter first every week and I will see you next time. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Create a strategic plan for your self care.

Especially turn it up for big events, meetings, launches or life transitions.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Tired of keeping up with the Joneses?

Wish you could just be yourself with people, but are too scared of what they'll think?

Hiding your pain and exhaustion behind your smile more than you'd like to admit?

Popular culture and educational systems teach us that it's our level of performance that determines our worth.

Unfortunately, living a life of high-performance doesn't lead to self-acceptance and fulfillment; instead, quite the opposite happens.

Watch this week's 10-minute Love Letter video to explore why we overperform so much, and how you can start to break free from this vicious cycle!

"I am so drained. I feel like everything is falling apart."

This week, Source has got two words for you.

Stop performing. Stop it. This is not a performance. You're not putting on a show. Your life is meant to be lived authentically, okay?

Let's get into this. When we are performing, we feel like we're pushing to get others' approval, or pushing to be productive, or pushing to get recognition, or pushing to be accepted, or we're trying to be good, or we're trying to be healthy, or we're trying to make everyone feel comfortable. There's this sense of artifice, and energy that's expounded, and really shoved out of us, this performance. It's go time.

Performance is really meant for spurts. It's not meant to be a lifestyle. 

I'm telling you, who's watching right now, you've created a lifestyle of performing:

• You perform for your kids, as mother.
• You perform for your clients.
• You perform for your boss, as star employee.
• You perform for your parents as the perfect son.
• You perform for your community as the perfect person, or the best, the go-to guy.
• As grandma, you're just always there, filling this role that either you've created for yourself, that you have to live up to, or it's been placed upon you.

Oh, you're really good at this. Let's put you on this pedestal, so that you have to always operate at that level.

I'm vibing very specific with you right now. I feel it very strongly, of how tired you are performing, performing, performing, trying to be someone that at the end of the day, you're just drained, pushing at that level, or really trying to make something work that is falling apart.

Maybe you're trying to make it work, and you're the only one trying to make it work, and putting on a happy face for others, so that no one knows all of the pain that is behind that performance mask, that has become your face.

There's so much more for you. Beaming love and acceptance at you. And this week in particular, we have to accept who we are, is what Source is saying, specifically by stopping the performance.

Know this: Worry will die when you increase your faith. Go for it this week and trust yourself! @SenseiWhitfield

Performance is over. Curtain call. Yay. Everyone's clapping. Okay, you're done. What happens?

I'm starting to hear the oracle cards calling in the energy about who are you when you're not performing?

This is a journaling. This is a conversation having kind of topic. This is not one specific, one love letter, and you're going to figure this one all out. No.

This is a journey in and of itself, finding out, who are you when you're not performing, into the role, or the mask, right, that you've created for yourself, or that you've inherited.

The Oracle Cards that want to weigh on this, so who are you when you're not performing is the life purpose oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue.

Can you even imagine? Angels, help us imagine, who are we when we stop performing, and really start stepping into being authentic?

Maybe at work, maybe even in our homes, and our private lives, who are we? Hmm.

School. The answer that you're seeking involves going to school, and this is where we're going to leave off this week in particular.

This is about learning more about yourself, so perhaps you are currently in school right now, or you've been to school in the past, you've studied before, majored in a certain area, or have had certifications in a certain area.

Look to what inspires you the most in your self education. At school, there are certain subjects that you vibrate with the most.

If you're currently in school, maybe art class is something that really just flows out of you. You don't have to perform when you're drawing. You're just in the moment, or writing, or theater, or perhaps in debate, you're just flowing. You don't even have to perform. It's just part of you. You love that intellectual stimulation, right, of debate, or history.

If you are not currently in school, what have you been looking at going back to school for recently?

What would you study simply for the love of it, where you know that at 3AM, if you had to do a project for that specific field of study, you'd be over the moon. "Oh, my gosh. I would love to be up at 3AM writing about this, or studying and practicing for this."

The guides are pushing you towards education to really help you see, who are you when you're not performing?

It's a bit ironic, because we tend to associate school with performance, right? If you get an A, then you're acceptable. A does not mean acceptable. Wrong, so if that's what's coming up for you, by the way, if you're watching, let that one go.

Instead, what would you study simply for the love of it, if there was no grade, if you were just in school for the love of it?

For me, it's meditation and Reiki, world religions, parapsychology, metaphysics, manifestation, and all of that yummy, juice, vortex-y goodness. Right? That's who I am when I'm not performing, and I happen to have integrated that personally into my work. What is it for you? Look to your education.

Post below in the comments. Let me know, what do you find out? What would you study for the love of it? What are you doing in your free time, and studying in your free time, Googling constantly about? That might be a clue as to who you are when you're not performing. I'm here for you.

Contact me if you want to set up a session, so that we can clarify that. I do hour long sessions, as well as half hour sessions on a regular basis, because having regular accountability makes all the difference, okay?

Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube, so that you get your love letters first every week, and we will see you next time!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Make time to get clarity: journal about what you do simply for the love and pleasure of it, especially listing things that no one knows.

Then write down how it feels when you're doing these things, versus when you feel like you're performing or trying to appease others.

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Have you been secretly feeling down and depressed lately?

Feeling like you've lost the joy you once had, or wish you had more?

Think that joy and feelings are irrelevant to your work?

Keeping up with the demands of professional life -- or "adulting" as I call it -- can really drain your joy sometimes.

Watch this week's 7-minute Love Letter video to find out the power of joy and how to rekindle yours!

"Today I want to do something that brings me joy."

Source wants you to know, this week in particular, that your joy is sacred.

Your joy, your happiness, your peace, how you feel, is sacred.

One of the most common things that I say here to all my students at the Dojo, is that "what matters most is how you feel"; but your joy in particular is sacred.

In the energy I'm seeing that in a previous video, we had covered that your joy is actually a way of protecting yourself. It's your vortex, right?

Being in your vortex keeps you energized -- and you're in it when you're feeling good.

When you're feeling joyful, it also keeps you open to new solutions and strategies for solving different issues that come through your life; also it does protect your heart and it protects your energy.

It's especially helpful when you're out in the world interacting with others, because sometimes news and things or issues at work can come up, or your family members or teammates may be having a challenge.

Your joy is sacred for protecting you from absorbing any of the healing journeys that they're on. Did you know that?

Joy is such a powerful thing to connect to, and especially when we are post-school-age.

So to all my students who are "studenting", awesome; but for those who are post being in school and you're now "adulting", as opposed to just "studenting" in your life right now, joy can become smaller and smaller and lesser and lesser.

The more we "adult" the more we get serious or monotonous, the more we curb our enthusiasm for life.

I'm using "adult" as a verb on purpose -- I was an English Major in college, so to all my grammarians out there, I know you're cringing, but I know what I'm doing, here ;).

Let me be direct with you --

What happened to your joy?

What happened to the things that made you come alive and inspired you, and made you want to be "frisky", as Abraham Hicks says, made you want to be mischievous or fun, sexy and silly?

What happened to your joy?

It energized you. It moved mountains in life so many times. When you've been joyful time flew and synchronicities came together, right?

Know this: Your #joy is #sacred. This week start each day by #visualizing things that bring you joy. @SenseiWhitfield

Your joy is sacred.

Source in particular this week wants you to know that you joy is sacred, though, because it is contagious.

Your joy is contagious.

God, Goddess, the Holy Spirit, Source consciousness, the human spirit and human potential that is around us and within us desires for more joy and more happiness to be on the planet -- and it's got to start with you.

Your joy is sacred because you're the only one who can access it for you.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards calling in the energy on this, but it's important that in this week, you prioritize first and foremost that "Today I want to do something that brings me joy."

I want to hear in the comments what brings you joy.

You know me. I love bubbles, I love dancing, I love rainbows, glitter and emojis. Shiny things and playfulness. Those bring me joy.

These things bring me joy and light me up, and it's because of my joy practice that I have so much energy.

What I want to hear from you is how do you generate joy in your life?

What makes you joy-filled?

We're using the Healing with the Fairies oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue.

Let's ask: "Fairies, what do we need to know right now about our joy?"

Visualization.

This is where we'll leave off for the week.

Your joy is sacred, and it's important that you visualize things that bring you joy.

I just heard it loud in the energy, like they yelled it in my ear --

Mindset. There's negative thoughts.

We've been beating ourselves up with the same old crusty self-doubt and worry, etc. patterns that we keep pummeling ourselves with in our minds.

This week in particular, I double-dog-dare you to visualize once a day something that brings you so much joy.

Try it at the beginning of the day because it'll set the tone for the day for more joy.

You will see how it will attract more joy throughout the day.

Comment below, post back, let me know how it goes, what did you find, and make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your weekly love letters first.

I'm sending you so much love. I believe in you, and I'm sending you joyful energy. Bye. See you next week.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Mind your mindset, strategically. 

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Feeling "blocked" or spiritually disconnected?

Is your work-life cycle monotonous, uninspiring or even draining?

Having a hard time feeling energized and enthused during the day?

When you were a child, you had an endless supply of exuberant energy.

But what do we do when it feels like that bright energy is gone with the wind of adulthood, responsibilities and the daily "grind?"

Watch this week's 12-minute love letter video to send your inner child some love this week and reclaim your lost energy!

"I'm too loud in public."

This week this is a really loving, nurturing message. Last week was a little bit tough, so that's perfectly fine sometimes.

We need that, but this week is all about nourishing yourself specifically by loving your inner child.

This is not going to be more of a talk about so tell me about your childhood, all the trauma that went on back then.

No actually, the guides in particular are talking about your relationships with your inner child now, not what happened but actually what's going on right now, so let's get to it.

Adulting is the word that they sent to me in my writing, in my meditation time before I began recording this love letter for you.

Know this: Side effects from disconnect with your inner child are feeling blocked, depressed & anxious.

The guides describe adulting from a spiritual perspective as a process of self-silencing, of polite self-censorship and even at times a form of energetic or spiritual castration, where the part of us that has the juice, our essence, is just cut off maybe to protect others.

We'll cut off that exuberance that's actually within us.

• • "Don't be so loud out in public."

• • "Don't shimmy."

• • "Don't be all excited because we want to be a good girl"

• • "I got to be a nice boy."

• "Don't get so frustrated or angry about things that bother you."

No, no, no, stamp it down, stuff it down.

But it's your inner child that actually retains all of these essence essential feelings, vibrations and sensations that are coming from your spirit.

In order to open to your natural intuition and hear and feel and follow, right, perceive and follow the guidance that you're being sent, you've got to be open to allowing things that you really love to come through you and things that you really dislike to come through you, not putting yourself in an emotional cage.

This is the relationship that we can develop with our inner child as we get into adulting.

I prefer the guides' word of adulting as a verb rather than adulthood, like it's a hood that you put over your body and there's no getting out of adulthood. That's not necessarily the case.

It doesn't have to be that way, right? So be kind to yourself.

If adulthood has felt like this veil that you've dropped over your head where we're in a state of perpetual boredom, perpetual monotony, perpetual pushing, perpetual busyness, because there's a state of perpetual responsibility, be kind to yourself.

We're castrating our connection to our inner child in this hooding of our relationship between ourselves and her. The effect of such a disconnect can be depression, anxiety, fatigue, even a sense of confusion or directionlessness where you feel blocked. There's no such thing as being blocked. This is a thing that we are doing.

We are adulting, we are blocking ourselves, the guides say so it's just a different action, it's a different state of being that can actually shift your state.

It usually has to do with a word that says "un" before it. The prefix "un" can start to liberate us. Unleashed, unbridled, uncensored, is usually when the inner child and all of our inner essential passionate raw energy starts to come through now.

The container is necessary. Having the right container for unbridled passion or unbridled humor and unbridled expression, uninhibited expression, what container would that look like in your adulting part of life? Would that be an unbridled, uncensored journal entry where you just really let it rip.

"I hate fill-in-the-blank." You're just going to: 

• • "I hate this, this stinks."

• • "This annoys me."

• • "I want to go to bed."

• • "I want to go home."

• • "I want my toys."

• "I want to fly around the country in my own helicopter and I want to parachute out of it and then make love on the sand of the beach and then go run a marathon."

Like unbridled, unleashed, where you're not censoring yourself. Where does your inner child get to run free in life? Where do you have uncensored laughter?

Instead of a small laugh it's more like a big laugh, where you're really from the depths of your belly cracking up, do you give yourself permission?

I'm hearing the Oracle cards coming in the energy along that word in particular. Where can you give yourself more the "un-ness" in the relationship that you have with your inner child?

This week in particular it's about loving her by unleashing that cap, that adulting cap, that action of capping that we put on top of her.

Life Purpose Oracle Cards deck is actually the deck here at the Dojo that came forward this week in particular, one of 19 decks and counting as of the shooting of this video. Always receiving donations and gifts, love gifts. I get gifts all the time, thank you, for those of you who sent your love letters and sent gifts.

So, angels, what do we need to know right now about loving our inner child?

They said don't shuffle any further. I'm trying to say the rest of the question about loving our inner child. This one, woo, you're going to love this.

Body Work, this is so powerful for inner child healing. So powerful. This is actually how I in my own healing journey how I began to heal my relationship with my inner child, was actually through receiving regular body work.

By the way, if I could plug who helped me through that, Patrick Lerouge over at livepainfreeprocess.com is magnificent. I mean, his inner child is like running free and crazy, but as a body worker he is bar none the best. The best. I love you Patrick.

"Your life purpose, you who's watching, involves body work such as massage therapy, energy healing, physical therapy, or exercise training."

Your relationship with your body, the guides say, is what's going to help you unleash your inner child's energy and really love on her. Perhaps if you're a woman if it's ecstatic dance, orgasmic meditation, really allowing yourself to feel safe to open up.

If you're a man, maybe it's going for MMA, getting back in the ring of playing basketball like you used to as a kid and just enjoying it, feeling exuberant and having fun. Getting your hands dirty, right? Maybe if it's digging in the dirt, gardening or landscaping, whatever, or craftsmanship. I love building furniture. It just feels so good.

Or even art, art therapy, getting in there and allowing your body to express and move energy through you is the way that this week in particular you can get in touch with loving your inner child or even receiving delicious body work and energy work sessions.

Just to receive that sense of flow and safety and expression in a sacred space such as the Dojo or your local Reiki or energy work practitioner or your body worker by you.

Send me an email back if you're curious about private sessions with me for doing energy work.

I'd be happy to support you, but comment below what comes up for you around Body Work and loving your inner child. I want to hear it.

Are you adulting too much where you feel like you have no time for this? Excuse alert. Be kind to yourself if that's you. I feel you.

It's one step at a time, okay? I'm sending you so much love.

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week and I'll see you next time. Bye.

 In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Give yourself permission to be uncensored.

Go for an energywork session or do an energy healing meditation and allow your emotions to flow and your mind to wander freely.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Feel like there's not enough You to go around? 

Stressed about a big upcoming event or project?

Worried that your about to burn out?

You're a busy bee, high achiever and get-it-done task master -- awesome!

But what if you're better at working hard than playing hard?

Watch this week's 9-minute Love Letter video to start adding strategic self care into your busy schedule to increase productivity!

"I might look bored, but I don't feel that way!"

You have got something big brewing, I had to say maybe it's a launch date or maybe it's a date with somebody cute coming up, or maybe your kids have their first day of school or their awards ceremony, something big is coming.

Maybe it's the sale meeting on your house or on your business, something big, there's a big event coming up, right?

Source wants you to know the best way to prepare and to surround that experience in positive energy is through strategic self-care.

This is what it's about this week is specifically prioritizing your self-care strategically. Getting that ready for what's coming up for you.

Be kind to yourself, this is something new to you if you're feeling clearings as I'm talking about this because you, you my dear don't prioritize your self-care.

Maybe you have in spurts, maybe you've been working on it but you and I both, we have this conditioning around other people's care comes first, right?

Caring for others is priority versus our care being a priority.

But if you're looking to manifest something big or you're getting ready for an event maybe it's your wedding, or your big birthday coming up, it's important to strategically pad and plan for your self-care before, during, and after like strategize it because if you don't strategize it it's not going to happen. Right?

We'll have all of this frustration afterward of, "Oh my gosh, I worked so hard and now I have to go right on to the next thing. I don't have any transition coming out of that experience." 

Focusing strategic self-care, what does this look like?

How do we do it? For me and my business, every month I have SSD as my AB calls it, baileyfruman.com by the way, go check her out.

I have an SSD which is a strategic spa day every month at least to make sure that I'm creating space for clearing my personal energy as the mother goddess of the business, the owner of the dojo and the space, I have to clear my energy.

Then also, I give myself time at the spa and it's a spa day, it's like five, eight hours at the spa. We're putting in work there, right?

It's enough space to sit down in creative vision, reevaluate different things that are going on, making sure that I'm staying in tune to the heartbeat of my business and also where she's going in the future.

Every month I know my SSD is coming, right? Strategic self-care because I create space for working on the business versus in the business to make sure she continues growing but that's from a business owner's perspective.

Maybe it's your wedding coming up, how have you created space for relaxation and rest leading up to your big day?

Is it all go, go, go, got to get everybody's cards and the flower and the bubbles, like the dress color, is it all just go instead of rest and production, rest and production?

Know this: Prioritize your self care before, during and after your next big event.

I'm starting to hear the oracle card deck calling the energy.

One sec, it will get to you in a minute but the point for strategic self-care is to not only focus on output but look at your energy as more cyclical similar to nature, how there is the high times of production in spring and summer and then the quiet and restful times of fall and winter.

She goes in her cycles to perpetuate all of life.

You can do this on a month cycle because women's bodies do this one month cycle so we do this anyway. By the way, if you're a woman you should make time to honor your body during her cycle, just saying.

Men menstruate as well so periodically guys make sure that you give yourself time to release, go through the things that are bothering you and then just do something about it to release it out of your energy if it's run, workout, right?

Go for a good scream in your car with the windows closed by yourself. I have so many stories, you have no idea.

Anyway, back to the point, strategic self-care, whether it's on a monthly cycle, weekly, or even parts of the day as well.

Where is your strategic rest time? Do you give yourself meditation time at the beginning and in the middle as well as the end of your day? Are you just from the minute you hop out the bed you're going until you smash into the pillow at the end of the day?

Now, the oracle cards are screaming at me. I'm happy to bring them in. It's the earth magic oracle cards deck, it's our Shamanic deck here at the dojo. One of I think 19 counting so far book guides.

What do we need to know in particular about strategic self-care? What do you have to tell us?

This is good. This is good. This is good. This is good. Island, solitude.

Solitude.

Look at the reflection and that's what it's about, it's giving yourself space rather than being above ground and interacting and social and putting out but it's also to be below ground. Reflective, restorative, restful, reviewing, all the res, recycling, renewing, all the res, it's the output as well as the input. Time, right? Honoring that.

How can you schedule and I mean in the calendar, how can you schedule more strategic self-care so that you know it's in there?

By the way, it's so powerful. If you see in your calendar there are blocked out like black periods that say rest. Trust me, I know.

From somebody who's very super productive and a control enthusiast, right? I'm a get it done girl, absolutely.

It's so powerful to see that there's rest in my schedule.

Yeah, I can give, give, give, and I can rest as hardcore as I give. Is that you? Maybe it's not you. I don't know who I'm speaking to.

Maybe you need to share this video with someone else who really needs to hear this message because it's obviously not you.

Oh my gosh, send me an email back, comment below, let me know if this resonates with you. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your Love Letter first every week and I will see you next time. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Especially turn it up for big events, meetings, launches or life transitions.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Feeling the urge to get away?

Ready for a change of scenery?

Still putting off that vacation you've been meaning to take?

Here's your periodic reminder -- it's time to go on a Retreat!

You give and give, and it's time to rest and refresh yourself.

Watch this week's 9-minute Love Letter to see if it's time for YOU to "re-treat yourself" ASAP!

"I'm feeling stir crazy lately."

I feel like I can see you through the camera right now. You look tired. No offense, but you look so tired.

Have you been feeling exhausted lately? Something about the energy lately just might have been feeling a bit heavy or sluggish.

Maybe you're just ready for a change of pace. Maybe it's been winter for a while and you're done. Maybe you've been working on this one project and you're just kind of done. Maybe someone's been staying longer than you expected them to. I don't know who I'm speaking to. I'm talking to you.

Something is ready to shift and release out of you.

You're ready for a fresh start, because we're just kind of tired of how things have been going lately.

You feel it. Your body feels sluggish and achy. You're having a hard time coming up with creative ideas, maybe where to go out to eat next, or maybe what is another fun thing to do with your partner. What's a better way to communicate with your team, et cetera, your kids?

Source says, "It's time for you to have your periodic reminder."

The alarm clock is going off. It's time for you to retreat yourself. Retreat yourself. This isn't like turn into a turtle and retreat from everybody. No, not exactly.

You're not retreating into your shell, but instead you're having a change of scenery.

Source says, "It's time for you to refresh the routine, refresh the status quo, and do a little creative shift of your environment by retreating yourself."

Now, what does that look like? What does that look like? Does it mean flying across the country, or picking up and leaving everybody and going across the world?

What matters most is how you feel.

If that inspires you and you're like, "Yeah. I can do that. I have all the systems in place to do it," go for it. Absolutely.

However, if picking up and flying out to London for a week, or picking up and flying out to Morocco for two weeks or something is not exactly something you can just do at the drop of a hat, you can retreat yourself right here by having a staycation. 

It's important for you to be a good steward of your natural energy. Your intuition has been calling out recently.

Your intuition, that inner part of you, your inner child's been saying, "I'm bored. I feel stir crazy. I'm feeling a little bit cooped up lately."

It's time for us to have a change of scenery.

Where will you go? Will you have a wonderful staycation where you make your home and space beautiful for yourself and you have no requirements, no responsibilities for let's say, three, four, seven days?

Is it a local bed and breakfast where you just shack up and enjoy yourself, enjoy not having to have to make the bed, not having to have to cook the breakfast, or enjoy the trees and the squirrels shouting at you through the window, whatever makes you feel joyful and free?

It's time for you to have a change of scenery and retreat yourself. You work so hard. You give so much. You're a natural giver. It's time to receive now.

Speaking of receiving, I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. The romance angels, yes. This is the love and romance deck. It's not just for partnerships, but it's for love and romance in all of life.

Yes, there are angels that are specifically dedicated to love and romance. Did you know that?

Angels cards, what do we need to know this week about retreating ourselves?

How can we retreat ourselves? Felt that. This is so good.

Healing family issues.

That hit the nail on the head.

Know this: Source says it's time for a change of scenery for you; time to go on a retreat!

"Your love life benefits as you forgive your parents." The angels just took this to a whole other level. "It's important for you to create sacred space for yourself to process some of your emotions," the guides say.

With the angels mentioning this specifically about forgiveness of your parents, periodically we need to go within, go on retreat, and clean up any residual early childhood issues that may be coming up in our current life.

They do. It's cyclical. Life is cyclical. All the time, my students come to me and say, "I already did that workshop. I already read that book. I already did that meditation where I forgave, and I cut the cord, and I let the bird fly out of my chest and all of that because of my parents and my childhood."

Yeah, do it again times daily for the rest of your life. How's that? It never stops. Learning never stops.

I know I'm being blunt, but I'm being honest with you. I don't want to sugar coat this, because it's actually the truth. The learning really does never stop.

It's important for you to create space for healing your family issues, whether it's "I'm just overwhelmed", "I feel like I've lost myself being mom." "I don't even have a name anymore." "I'm just mom this, mom that, mom this." "My husband doesn't even call me by my name anymore. I miss hearing my name."

It's important for you to retreat yourself to come to terms with that thought feeling sensation, to process that, and so that you can then open up and develop new strategies for how you can show up claiming back your identity, and arriving and being part of the family unit.

It's the healing process, but you need space for it.

Send me an email back or comment below. What's coming up for you?

What are you going to heal when you retreat yourself? Where are you going on your retreat? Is it to the beach, or is it to the woods? Is it to the lake, or is to the desert? Where are you going to retreat yourself? Is it going to be in the comfort of your own home? Are you going to couch surf on somebody who you love, who is great at giving you space, or house sitting for them?

Let me know. I'm excited to hear how you retreat yourself this week, ASAP. You got it?

All right, I'm watching you, remember? I'm sending you so much love.

All right, I'll see you next week in the next love letter. Subscribe on YouTube so that you get it first. Ready? Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Make time in your schedule to refresh and renew yourself.

Find a sacred space where you can regroup, rest and feel rejuvenated and book it ASAP.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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