Tired of being "stuck" in life, waiting for your time to shine?

Feeling frustrated that you, your partner or your business still haven't realized their potential, after all your hard work?

Having a hard time just accepting what's happening and embracing yourself and your life "as is"?

Sometimes our "great expectations" can get the best of us, blinding our eyes to the opportunities and positive aspects in our present moment.

This is a particularly sticky situation, because we're caught up in reaching for something that doesn't exist, and meanwhile in our current reality, we end up feeling blocked and stagnant.

Watch the above 11-minute video to learn exactly how you can start practicing acceptance and get unstuck!

"How can I accept my life completely?"

Acceptance keeps the momentum moving forward.

When we do not accept what the circumstances are, there's a lack of acceptance of what is.

When we do not accept who we are dating or married to as what they're showing is who they actually are, we usually are continuously looking past them, thinking: "maybe one day he's going to be this, or maybe one day she'll do this, or maybe someday this will happen."

If we're embracing being more in alignment with nature, practicing acceptance only becomes that much more important, because acceptance keeps you in the now.  

A good place to start is accepting disappointment; thinking, for example: "Okay, I see that this is what it is. I'm in a job that I do not like. I'm not comfortable with my body. This person that I'm dating really isn't right for me as they are, or this person that I'm married to is totally out of alignment with me, as they are right now."

The next step though, after acceptance, is taking action once you are clear on what you have now.

Getting to the point of accepting what is, and having a sense of peace with that, will lower your blood pressure, will calm aches in your body. Acceptance can change the way that you sleep, the way that you eat, the way that you spend your money, spend your time, who you spend your time with.

When we are in a state of acceptance, we're letting go of the fight to make things more than what they actually are -- you put your sword down, and just say "okay, I'm here."

Believe it or not, spirit is saying that the effect of this is that it wipes the slate clean in life.

Emotionally, energetically, physically, socially, financially. Clean slate.

Now for some of you, I'm feeling a nervousness in the energy around having a totally clean slate. I hear you thinking "Well, what do I do with that?"

If that's you, here's what you do. Raise the vibration of that image. Think of it like a blank check. The clean slate is meant to be infinite possibilities. It's not meant to intimidate you.

Know this: If you can accept where you're at now, that gives you a strong foundation for actually changing things for the better.  

It's about taking responsibility for all of what is your actual reality. What is the totality of your world? You need to be able to answer that before you can be in charge of your world.

Source is saying it is extremely important that you have peace with what Source has given you now.

That you have consciousness and clarity with what you have now. It's okay. All is well.

All right, so I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. Doreen Virtue's "Indigo Angel Oracle Cards" is the deck that came through that wanted to share about practicing acceptance.

So we're just asking as we shuffle: "Angels of understanding, acceptance and peace, show us what do we need to know right now about practicing acceptance? What's at stake? Why are we being so prideful? Not saying no, this is not acceptable. How can I be more than who I really am right now?"

The Oracle Card that came through is... Acceptance!

LOL! WOWZA! I've been doing this for years, and well, I must say, it never gets old. It never gets old! I think this is pretty self explanatory that we're in the vortex, that your synchronicity is lining up.

Here's the reading:

 

As an indigo, you're built to question everything, as part of your mission for making healthful changes to this planet. However, this characteristic may cause you to reject a part of your life that's necessary, in order for you to get to the next step.

Let me pause for a second and emphasize this: if you want the next level in your life, the next level starts with acceptance. It's good stuff. Let's continue reading:

 

This card is a message for you to search through your life and determine if there is anything, or anyone, you are rejecting.

Accepting your life completely is the best thing you can do for yourself right now. 

While this may not be easy or even seem right, know that you simply cannot change everything you do not like, and certain things must be tolerated in this lifetime.

Why must they be tolerated? I have to pause here, because I'm hearing someone in the Energy ask "why shouldn't I settle for anything?"

Here's the thing: It's not about settling.

You could be rejecting the dark gifts, aka the lessons and stepping stones that Source is sending you in your present total reality in this present moment of existence.

You could be rejecting those gifts that are the launching pads to get you to the next level that you are designed for, if you're not accepting them or tolerating them, working through them, understanding and using them to flow through your life's journey. The reading continues:

 

You could be rejecting something that's really essential to the recipe of "You." Ask the angels to bring you strength and comfort to make letting go and accepting easier.  Acceptance is not easy. However, it is a decision.

All you have to do is decide in the moment I accept that what is, is what is.

This is what I've got right now, and I am accepting it, or this is who you are right now, and I am accepting you just as you are. Good, bad, and whoa Nelly. Right?

You'll notice that when you do that, such as admitting to yourself "I accept that I am really angry right now," things will process faster.

I encounter so many people, especially when I meet them for the first time who say, "Oh yeah, I'm blocked," or "this is blocked," or "I'm feeling blocked in life." Declarations like these show acceptance, and this is a serious issue because they don't realize they're fueling those blocks with their acceptance of the idea of being a victim of being blocked.

Another issue is that when you can't accept what's going on, you're going to be at an impasse.

There's a gift there that Source is trying to send you in this frustrating or seemingly "negative" experience. So deciding to open up and allow the experience to be what it is, not knowing what may come on the other side of being in that state of acceptance, you are opening up to moving forward authentically.

If you're curious to know more about this, send me an email at SenseiVictoriaWhitfield@gmail.com or comment below. I'm really intrigued to hear what are you not accepting.

Is there something that's been eating at you, or really pressing on you, and really fueling your stress level that you feel is absolutely not acceptable? Email me about it!

Someone in the energy just said that if something bad happened to you, the way that you can practice acceptance is to accept the fact that that happened. It's not in your current total reality.

It's in your history, yes, but is it right here? Happening right now? No. This step has to come first before you let anything go, or even think about forgiving.

This is a very intense spiritual practice. Simple, but profound. So be kind to yourself; I'm sending you so much love, and I will see you next week.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Observe yourself today to find out what people, places, things or actions your are avoiding, rejecting or running from.

When you find one, ask yourself: "What gift from the Universe could I be refusing to receive by avoiding this situation?"

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Feeling stressed out lately because everything's changing?

Having a hard time forgiving someone who does things different than you?

Can't believe that things are not working out the way you expected?

One of the biggest sources of stress is the inability to practice acceptance of how things are.

More often than not, we unconsciously try to force the world to fit our version of how it "should" be, rather than staying non-judgmental and open.

Watch the above 11-minute video to learn to relax and stop "shoulding" all over yourself!!

"Why can't I look at my life and accept it as it is?"

This week, the topic that's coming through is practicing acceptance.

In the energy, as I was searching for what we were going to deliver for this week's love letter, and the following question came out of our soul: "What are the different sources of stress in our lives that different students of the dojo and I observe, and what does the Energy have to say?"

One of the big sources of stress in our lives is our inability to practice acceptance. The first thing that's coming through to share from the spirit is that, acceptance counteracts, or it goes against, the ego.

Ego and pride are catalysts for stress, obstacles and frustration in life.

The way this happens is that we form a mental identification with A when we are experiencing B.

Even though we believe that we are A and we believe in A, we say we are A or have been raised to be A, the experience however -- the physical sensations, the temporal physical manifestation of whatever spirit is delivering into our lives at this moment -- is B.

We're looking at B and overlaying A, because that's our glasses. We're wearing A glasses and the only thing that we could see through these glasses is A. There's no such thing as B. So we're just going to move B out of the way.

That is what a lack of acceptance looks like, energetically speaking and psychologically as well.

What are the effects of that A-B split, personality wise, perceptually? What are the effects?

• Stress
• Lack of understanding
• Suppressed expression
• Anger
• Feeling ungrounded, out of alignment, depressed, anxious, untrusting, unworthy or invalid.

We're looking at B, which is the actual temporal manifestation, the natural physical spacial manifestation that we're experiencing now is a B experience. But in our minds there's nothing but A in terms of the data that we can interpret of it, cognitively. In other words, there's a mental pattern to rather not a have to interpret the data.

So there's a mental pattern that we follow: all data that comes in must be sifted through the A protocol and fit into an A prototype. This is a bit of robotic description on purpose, the spirits are saying, because it is unnatural.

In fact it is manufactured, this A prototype, this A box; we're trying to fit the circle peg that we're experiencing into a square box. This A prototype or protocol is manufactured. Why?

This is what I'm hearing in the energy: "Well, why would we have it that way, of not being able to look at our lives and just accept them as they are? How did that happen?"

Well of course, there's nature versus nurture.

Humans as an animal that has the gift of critical thinking naturally like to look for patterns, and to duplicate patterns, to create a sense of stability, order, reproductibility, familiarity. It is to create a tribe.

Here’s why this happens: We're searching for ourselves in the patterns in the All That Is that is around us naturally.

We are also nurtured then on top of that: socially, culturally, traditionally through advertising, commercializing, religiously.

All of these different external systems will create their version of what type of paradigm you should be looking at your world through, even if the world that you're experiencing is totally not in alignment with it, totally not.

Let's put all the technical language aside for a second. I'll tell you a story to give an example of a lack of acceptance, what that looks like and the effects:

Johnny is a good boy. Johnny comes from a good family. Johnny gets good grades. Johnny plays good with other kids. Off the street or in sports, Johnny is a good boy.

Johnny goes to a good school. He takes on a good major. He does good and he graduates in a good place in his class.

Johnny gets a good job and Johnny is dating a good girl. Their relationship is going good, so they get married and he has good marriage and everything is good.

What determines the version of Johnny's "good" is completely relative.

As you were visualizing and thinking and going along with that whole story I just told you, what were your versions of what is "good" that were coming up for you?

"I'm making good money. We're having a good marriage. We're going to a good school, getting good grades." But what are your version of good grades?

For some people, their version of good or acceptable is entirely different, beautifully different, entirely different than your idea of what's good. 

What matters most is how you feel.

Know this: If you're judging what a "good life" is based only on someone else's idea of what's good, you're out of alignment.

The frustration and the symptoms of being out of alignment, of being ungrounded, frustrated or non-expressed are going to come out, naturally, because there's a fundamental lack of clarity around what's your definition of what's acceptable and not acceptable.

In previous videos, we were talking about protecting your joy and how one way to do that is to know "what the heck is my joy?"

It's about a defining process. You can do that to the Nth degree and find yourself more by defining yourself than finding yourself in some workshop, some retreat, some book, some person's arms.

You don't go find yourself, you define yourself.

That's what I'm hearing to tell you in the energy. And one way that is really powerful, but very simple, spiritual practice to start this path is by practicing acceptance.

It's very simple: "whatever it is, is what it is."

At first glance, I'm going to sound profoundly pedestrian, but I would challenge you to look a little bit deeper into that phrase, especially if you are not satisfied with your job, with your relationship or partner, with your body, with your finances, with your studies, with the food that you're eating, the place the you live, et cetera.

If you are feeling not satisfied, you need to look into embracing a sense of acceptance, but not to settle.

That is not acceptance. That's reticence. Huge difference, go to thesaurus.com if you don't know what reticence is. But the only thing I'm going to tell you is that one is active and the other is passive.

Check back next week for part 2 of this love letter!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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When you start feeling frustrated with someone who is not doing a "good" job according to your standards, pause and remember that what is "good" or "acceptable" performance is relative to each person.

Take a moment to lovingly go over YOUR standards with that person, assuming they genuinely didn't know.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Stressed out at work these days?

Can't handle the negativity in your workplace?

Wish you could improve your "work-life balance"?

Feeling comfortable and healthy being a highly sensitive, spiritual and creative individual like yourself can be quite tough when you have to expose yourself to a toxic work environment every day.

Inconsiderate or insensitive bosses, clients and coworkers can really drain your energy if you don't learn to protect and manage it while at work.

Watch the above video to learn how to begin dealing with stress and negativity while at work!

"I have a soul-crushing job."

Ugh. My heart sinks just typing that now.

I cannot tell you how many people I've met over the last few years I've been teaching about and sharing healing energy that have said the above statement to me, especially when I ask what they do for a living.

My heart sinks because, well, that used to be me, too.

So I'm going to be very candid right now. Here goes. xoxo

I remember what it was like dreading Monday morning every week, thinking about just turning the car around at the next jughandle on the way to work during my morning commute.

Worse yet, when it was really bad, I used to fantasize during my morning commute about driving my car into the divider on the highway just to see what would happen...

For the record, if this is you right now, I just want to say I love you, I'm sending you big hugs now, and there's more for you in life than just the same ol' ratrace every day.

Sparing you the expletives (I'm from Jersey, and we have colorful language here lol!), the job I was driving to at the time I would describe as a madhouse. My direct manager was a screamer and a bully, the hours were 10-12 hours a day, Monday - Friday, with a 1-hour commute (without traffic) one way.

Everyone was so anxious and depressed in the office. Lots of sneaking, gossiping and two-facedness.

In fact, I would hide in the bathroom just to pretend I was having a really long pee sometimes. Of course, my manager caught on to that and would run screaming my name into my department and bang on the bathroom door in front of all the 10 people I managed at the time...

So, yeah, I understand a little of what it feels like to work in a toxic work environment.

To cope (aka. NUMB myself), I would binge eat chocolate candies and cheeseburgers, drink Captain Morgan Private Stock rum and coke that I hid in my bedroom at home, and smoke black clove cigarettes or even e-cigars several times a day (especially while driving, Cuvana is the best). I also distracted myself even more with falling in "love" an emotionally and at times physically abusive boyfriend then...

Oh yes I went there. You can judge me if you want. I don't mind not being perfect. And no, I do not have it all figured out even as I type this Love Letter to you.

"Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future," or so the saying goes. And you wonder why I say "you don't have to be perfect in life; all you ever have to be is honest." Well, now you have an idea why...

I'm just saying all this to let you know that I've experienced firsthand the powerful negative effects of what a toxic work (and life) environment can have on your self-esteem and health. So this week's topic is bigger than just making life more comfortable.

Having the gift of being sensitive can be a curse if you don't manage it well.

You see, highly sensitive individuals like us need environments that support and protect our energy. But WE have to create these environments; they don't just appear.

Now, when you work at a job that has a lot of negative energy, you can do one of two things: you can just go there and get victimized, or you can go there and take charge.

Either way, you'll absorb the dominant energy of your work environment by default.

You already do; and you can see what that energy does to you by observing how you feel when you're there compared to how you feel outside of the workplace.

Know this: You are still a divine, creative, and spiritual being even when you're at work. Act like it. #selfcare #business #wakeup

It all starts with your mindset about the workplace.

The common mindset is that if you're describing your work as "soul-crushing" then that's a big red flapping in your face that you need to improve your "work-life balance."

True, that is a big red flag that needs to be addressed.

But, there's no such thing as "work-life balance" -- there is only LIFE BALANCE.

We don't stop living our own lives just because we're working for someone else (as an employee or an owner / entrepreneur).

You deserve to feel just as happy and healthy at work as you do at home. And in the video I give you some practical suggestions for things that can raise the vibration of a negative work environment.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows you how to shift your mindset about your work right now, even if you hate your job!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Take charge of your work environment.

Look around your office and desk space and ask yourself "what could I bring and display here for myself that reminds me that I am a spiritual and divine being worthy of self-care and happiness right now?"

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want to release negative energy but don't know where to start? Tell me!

Give me a call at 732-903-8573 or click on the blue BOOK NOW button to start your healing journey, today!

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Are you "stuck in your head" often because you're so stressed out and busy these days?

Feeling frustrated that you're not getting through to people, or that your loved ones, clients or colleagues aren't quite connecting with you in the way you would like them to?

Worried that when you talk no one hears you, or do you even feel that people think you are "ranting" or "rambling" all the time?

Communication issues have to do with the part of your energetic body that's called the Throat Chakra.

The Throat Chakra governs your ability to speak up and be heard with clarity and authenticity in this lifetime.

Watch the above video to explore why you should stop "speaking your mind," and what you should start doing instead, to heal your communication issues!

Clear communication is an energy exchange.

It involves you expressing yourself clearly, as well as the other person experiencing your expression clearly.

A healthy Throat Chakra exchange leaves you feeling heard, connected and well received.

Therefore, the energy exchanged in communication needs to be clear and open on both sides: both for that of the speaker and listener.

It's obvious that having a garbled message can ruin the quality of our communication with others.

However, what may not be so obvious is that having garbled energy can also affect the quality of our communication with others, perhaps even moreso than the message itself.

Why? Because everyone is an empathic listener, to some degree.

And, on top of that, the majority of people have no idea what the heck that means. YAY! 🙂 It's a hot mess, I know, but hey, that's what we are here to solve, right lightworkers?

So what exactly is an empathic listener?

Does that mean everyone is psychic or something? No, not exactly.

An empathic listener is someone who is "listening" to or moreover aware of the energy that someone else is giving off in a given situation. In short, they pick up the person's "vibes."

For example, have you ever had the experience of watching someone read a really well-written speech, but you could tell they were faking it or being disingenuous?

What gave them away? They had correct body language, they varied their voice tone elegantly, and said all the right words. Heck, they even had a great outfit on and smelled good!

But how you could tell that they didn't really feel what they were saying to you, even though all of your 5 senses were being "correctly" tickled by the book?

Here's how: your 6th Empathic Sense felt the imbalanced energy that they were sending out, and you in turn concluded they were being disingenuous.

This is therefore a more extreme example of someone speaking their mind, and not speaking their heart.

The meaning, the resonance, gets lost in translation when we are personally out of alignment when communicating.

And that's a big reason why people can and will misunderstand what we are trying to say, or even write off what we are talking about: it's not coming from the right place.

Know this: Don't speak your mind. Speak your heart. #communication #leadership

When we try to do a "perfect" job in talking, sometimes the heart of the matter can get lost in translation.

Maybe you've been preparing your presentation at work for a very long time, or maybe you've been trying to figure out "just the right way" to tell your loved one something that's a sensitive subject.

Just get out of your head, and into your heart.

The ego is very powerful at wanting to wrap himself around everything you experience. However, it can in it's wrapping end up choking the flow of expression with too much censorship and analysis paralysis.

So, when you feel like your loved ones, clients or colleagues aren't quite getting it, make time to stop what you're saying and check in with them. You can ask "did that make sense or have I lost you?" for example.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which explains exactly how to speak from your heart and who you're really doing it for!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Pause, and drop into your heart.

Watch the video and do the simple heart-centering exercise before you go to speak.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Stressed out at work?

Feel like you are constantly putting out fires left and right?

Wish there was a way to be productive AND have more peace and calm while you're working?

Believe it or not, you are 100% responsible (and in control of) how you feel at work.

When you're stressed out, it's easy to blame your coworkers, customers or managers for how you feel, but how you feel actually is up to you, regardless of how crazypants dramatic or annoying they get.

Watch the above video to learn 3 ways to relax while at work that can be done while working -- no meditation break needed!

RELAX!! RELAX ALREADY! 🙂

Ever encounter someone just so stressed out at work that they look like an angry high-speed hamster, running from task to task furiously, as if that hamster wheel is really going to get them somewhere faster if they put the pedal to the metal?

Seeing them struggle with over-analyzing the simplest tasks is exhausting, right? How the they load up everything with unnecessary excuses, emotion and explosions...

Yeah. That someone is YOU right now.

Use your imagination for a minute or two as you read this.

Imagine that you could clone yourself, where the Clone You can observe the Regular You -- same intellect, age and everything, except the Clone You has no responsibilities and is independently wealthy (like an abundant bystander). Now, step into the Clone's point of view, and watch yourself. Really stand back and observe Regular You stressing at work.

Don't you just want to shake yourself and say "RELAX! Calm down! You're fine!" when you're on the outside looking in?

Granted, we are not all independently wealthy and responsibility-free, but the point of that visualization is to activate the part of your energy that is Free and Open, always.

It's this part of your intellect that kicks in when there is an emergency at home (someone's water broke or the house is on fire, for example) and you magically are able to detach from all the drama and drudgery at work and leap into action.

And it is this mindset, a creative and responsive mindset, you will need to embrace the simple techniques in this week's Love Letter.

Because, you can't relax at work if you don't admit that 1) you're stressed out, and 2) something needs to be done about it in the moment.

You see, the danger in being stressed out at work -- or, occupational stress, as it is officially called -- is that we both ignore it as par for the course, and accept it as if there's nothing we can do.

In spiritual truth, however, you are 100% in control of how you feel at any given moment. The same way that there's a part of your intellect (Clone You) that knows you should detach and relax, there's also the capability within you to control how you feel while at work, regardless of what's going on around you.

It comes down to a choice: will you focus on Your Health or focus on Your Job?

Now, I'm not saying you should quit your job because it stresses you out. If that's where your head went, then LOL you missed the point! 🙂

The point is this: where your awareness goes, energy flows.

So if you focus on meeting that deadline, people-pleasing, and other externally-driven things at work, then the energy will go to increasing the intensity of deadlines, people-pleasing activities and everything else.

Know this: The key that unlocks peace at work is self-awareness; not being self-conscious. Know yourself, and respond accordingly. #love #selfcare

You see, when you know yourself, you can respond to a triggering (or stress-inducing) situation strategically, because you know what you need to feel safe, centered and clear.

Yet, if you are self-conscious instead of self-aware, you will leap to please others without regard to your needs and values, as they are less important than whoever or whatever you are comparing yourself to -- comparison is the basis of negative self-consciousness, by the way.

Once you are clear on who and what triggers your stress response, then it's easier for you to regularly employ stress-reduction techniques. It's all about your mindset.

You are the only one who is really in charge of how you feel, so act like you know this, and take charge!

Most people are unconscious and unaware of this at work, so occupational stress runs their life, dictating the quality of day they have, rather than it being the other way around

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows you how to activate your creative mind to de-stress at work!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Watch yourself.

Try the "Clone You" visualization described in the above article, and really observe if you are responding with self-awareness to your stressors, or reacting because you are self-conscious.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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