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Love Letters | Unplug From Negativity – Part 2 of 4

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Tue, 14 Jul 2020 05:00:00 +0000

Is your email inbox overwhelming you?

Does the energy of your social media newsfeed bring you down?

Are negative news and stressful business reports literally making you sick to your stomach?

Be kind to yourself: you're an empath and you need better boundaries to protect your energy.

Not all entrepreneurs are created equal; some of us need to unplug in order to be productive.

Watch this week's 8-minute Love Letter video, the second in our 4-week exploration of the Power of Positive Community, to embrace the healing power of unplugging and unsubscribing!

"I don't know where all of this negativity is coming from."

This is week two of four in our new deep dive on the power of positive community. This week in particular the guides want you to know it's time for you to unsubscribe from negativity.

It's time for you to unsubscribe from negativity.

Info diet, in the words of Tim Ferriss, writer of The 4-Hour Workweek and how he simplified his life by streamlining things brilliantly. My guides this week in particular are asking that you have the courage to hit the unsubscribe button, or the unfollow button. Instead of hitting buttons, in your interpersonal life, remove yourself from negative sources of information and experience.

It's really, really important for you to feel vigilant around your intake. If you're watching this video, chances are that you are an empath, which means you pick up ambient emotional data by default. No one has to clue you in on to what is the emotional status of the room or what's the temperature of the crowd or what's going on from other people. You don't even have to ask. You can feel it.

And in fact, the dark side of being an empath is you absorb. You absorb energy. Sometimes even in your body. If someone else has a stomach ache, then you have a stomach ache, too because it just leaps right into you.

Know this: ‪Being an #empath in #business makes you a great communicator. However, if you lack #healthy boundaries and self-care, your empathic sense can drain your energy or even harm you. Be kind to yourself.

With love, that's a sign that you have a lack of healthy boundaries and self-care. I call that spiritual hygiene. Be kind to yourself if that's the situation for you. In psychology, they call that codependent.

When we're codependent, we have a hard time saying no because we depend on the things that we latch onto for our identity. If that's the case, we're subscribing and subscribing, and maybe as an entrepreneur or business owner you've been networking and to be nice, you allow people to just add you on to their email lists or so-and-so in your family keeps posting on Facebook all of this heavy, heavy, heavy reports and angry stuff. And because this is so-and-so in your family, you haven't unfollowed them.

This week in particular it's time to take a stand for your energetic health, your mental health and well being by unsubscribing and unplugging from sources of negativity.

But first and foremost, you've got to be vigilant on what your intake is. Before you even get to the point of unsubscribing, some of you may already think, "Oh yeah, spring cleaning. Read it. Thank you for permission." And to those of you who are ready, mwah. But to those of you who are like, "I don't know where all of the negativity is coming from," maybe this week in particular, you're just becoming vigilant and aware, becoming mindful of, "Huh whenever I talk to this person or hang out with this group, I feel drained afterward. Whenever I read this newspaper or visit this website and read through or watch the videos, I feel more anxious or even a little bit more heavy, depressed, and tired." Start monitoring your information intake.

In nutrition, they say you are what you eat. The same goes for your mindset.

How can you expect to have an abundant mindset when everyone and everything around you that you're taking in is talking about lack, fear, struggle, and it's hard, etc., etc.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy to completely counteract that. Let me come in a little bit closer. It's the fairies. Healing with the fairies, we're gonna be journeying with all month.

So happy to be with you fairies. And I'm curious, fairies, elementals, guides, what do we need to know right now about unplugging from negativity? Ooh. Yeah, buddy. This is where we're going to leave off for the week.

Raise your standards. Absolutely. Raising your standards. Gorgeous card. The fairies are letting you know that you're not stepping back or shrinking down. Instead this is a statement that you have raised your standard for how you are treating your mind by making sure that you're clear and deliberate around what you put into it. Raise the standard of the type of emails that you desire to read.

Raise the standard of the type of phone calls that you desire to receive. Raise the standard of the type of people that you desire to be around, and raise the standard for the way that people should be treating you, regardless of who they are or where they come from.

That comes from you. The standard is always set by you. And it's time to raise your standards by unplugging from negativity.

So, comment below. Send me an email back. If you've got this on the love letters list. Let me know what's come up for you.

This is meant to be a conversation, a two-way street. And remember, if there is any way I can help in your business balancing mind, body, and business for you, just let me know.

You can go to VictoriaWhitfield.com/contact and reach out there. For now, that's it for this week, and we'll see you next time. Bye.

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Love Letters | Sales As Healing – Part 4 of 4

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 27 Apr 2020 05:00:00 +0000

This is our final week four of four in our exploration of healing sales, our sales scars and shame around asking for the sale. Healing the bad, crusty experiences that we've had in the past.

If this is the first video that you are seeing in this series, make sure you hit pause, and go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com so that you start from part one and are grounded in this process.

Without further ado, for week four of four, the guides have asked us to continue the conversation that we started last week, and specifically talk about sales as healing. Sales as healing? Holy tomato! For some people, that's about the most opposite possible thing that they could think of when they think of sales. “Are you kidding me? Sales is like you're raiding and pillaging everyone. It's like an attack.”

Sales can be perceived as an attack, and if we've had some negative experiences in the past, in those really powerful transformational moments that come up for us regarding a larger sale such as buying a house or a car, or a coaching program, or a new building, and so on and so forth. If someone's done you wrong in that level sale, that scar runs deep, but in the words of Robert Bly from Iron John- which is amazing if you haven't read it yet – “Every wound is a womb.” Every wound is a womb.

The wounds that we may have received in our past of sales not going very well for ourselves or being done to us - or even witnessing sales happening between others that aren’t ethical - every wound that we receive is actually a womb. And what is a womb? It's a place where new life is created, so that's why we're talking about sales as healing. These wounds that we've received over the course of engaging in commerce are sacred, whether you are an entrepreneur or not. You don't have to own a business to have engaged in the sale. Anything you have, the clothes on your back, glasses, the shoes, underpants on your butt (hopefully, you're not wearing any? No judgment.) you have that because someone sold it to you.

You live in this house because someone sold it. Be kind to yourself. Your education, you have it because someone sold you on having education. But at the same time some of those experiences of being sold, being brought from one paradigm to another through a sale - a sale bridges gaps - that paradigm shift can be a bit traumatic.

But I want to elevate to this vision that the guides are sending for us right now of sales as something entirely different: sales is healing. I really want to drop into my heart and be blunt right now with you, because a lot of my lists of people who are watching these videos, following on YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, Pinterest, or wherever you are, if it's just landed into your inbox or someone forwarded me to you: nine times out of 10 you're some sort of a teacher, coach, healer, or a caregiver of some sort, right? You support people. You offer a healing presence.

If you are watching or reading this right now, whether you're a hairdresser cutting hair, an accountant doing taxes, or a lawyer working through your cases, whether you're working in construction, or you're like a transformational women's divine feminine coach goddess, or some other service-based business in addition to all of the above. If you're watching and still reading this right now, what magnetized you is not just my lovely exciting shirt and sparkly energy, but it's the fact that you see a piece of you in me. By the way, likewise; I see a piece of myself in you, in that we are Healers. We're here to heal the world. We're here to bring healing presence.

If you are having a hard time receiving financial abundance, it's because you have not shifted your point of view yet around sales. You haven't shifted it yet to see sales as healing. Sales is healing. Now, I'm a Reiki Master, an alternative medicine energy healer. I'm a woo-woo person, and proudly wave my rainbow woo-woo flag. I’m down with unicorns and glitter and high vibrational multi-dimensional energy - all of that, 100%. And the only way that I am able to share all that woo-woo goodness juice with the people who are starving and dried out and like desperate for it – they’re spiritually dehydrated. They need the juice. - is if I get out there and share my gift. If I get out, open up and talk about who I am and what I do, and what I can do for you. That's the purpose of sales.

Sales is actually healing for the people who are thirsty for the juice that you have created. I'm not talking about selling people stuff that they don't need. That can actually turn more into an addiction. I mean, hey, I have an addictive personality. Let me pull myself out the closet and like flap that in the air for you, okay? So yeah, I can have an addictive personality where, oh my gosh, I just want to go, I want to buy a bunch of stuff to alleviate my frustration right now. I want to buy a bunch of information courses and a bunch of books, and a bunch of crystals, right? Maybe that's been you before, and to some extent the things that I'm drawn to are what I need in the moment.

And those people who are out there selling the crystals, the necklaces, the books, the audio courses, the things that are going to lift me back up, I thank the Goddess for them. But I'm not going to be going out there and buying like, you know, sprockets and light bulbs and tires and things when I'm in my emotional state searching for a certain thing. If I need energy, I'm going to go out there looking for things that are going to give me energy for what I'm looking for.
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That's the key for sales being healing. It's you putting out “what am I going to help people with? And here it is.” I really appreciate Russell Brunson, his concept of having a Bridge to help us get from that state of “Alright already! I'm in frustration and in trouble” to “here, let's talk about the sale.” Having a Bridge is what's going to help you engage more sales as the healing part of your business. It not only heals your bank account when you close successful sales, but it also is healing for the clients and customers who are receiving exactly what they need.

Having a Bridge, and this comes from Russell Brunson, is to have a phrase that helps anchor in the fact that you are here to help them, and you have something that you would like to help them with. So what is that phrase? It could be asking for permission of someone who, you know, if you're out sharing your gifts and you see they could really use what you are providing, say, "Hey, I see that you have this situation going on. Is it okay if I share with you something that I put together to make things easier for you?” Or, “I put something together to serve you, and I was wondering if you would want to hear more about it?"

Ask for permission. Sales is healing when you always ask permission, first.You want to get consent in guiding someone through their paradigm shift, because the worst thing is pushing someone into a paradigm shift who doesn't want it and isn't ready for it. Sales is healing because we raise the buyer’s vibration. We help people into a new, more empowered reality as long as you're doing it ethically. When done unethically, unfortunately it can become like what we've been talking about for the last few weeks: something that is much more of a scarring experience.

Now, you've got to remember to turn on your natural intuition. Tune into your body. Clear your energy. Listen to your heart. If you feel your heart opening towards someone, feeling compassionate and wanting to help them, listen to that desire, that sensation of oh my goodness, I really want to help them. I feel for them. That's a sign from the Universe to actually take out your bridge, bring it over to them and say, "Hey, I see you're going through this situation. I know about something that could help you”, or “I put this thing together that could really make it easier for you. Is it okay if I share it with you?" Get their consent, and then go ahead, honor them by giving them access to the thing that will help them the most. Sales is so incredibly, powerfully healing. Comment below, send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com. Let me know what's coming up for you around this.

For now we're going to jump into the Oracle cards. The deck that we've been journeying with is Angels of Abundance by Doreen Virtue, these Oracle cards of Doreen with her son Grant. “Alright, Angels of Abundance, what do we need to know right now about sales as healing and how to activate our natural intuition now, other than reading Victoria's book?” ...Oh, snap. Throwing down some serious love bombs.

Face your financial fears. When you are honest with yourself about fears of success or failure, honest with yourself, they can no longer control you. Be free of hidden fears by exposing them to the light of awareness, and you'll realize that you in fact have nothing to fear, and that every successful person has struggled with and releases these self-doubts. This is where we're going to leave off for the week. The perfect landing point for this series.

You know, when you release fear around sales, receiving more or delivering more sales conversations, when you release that fear and you have faith that this is actually a healing going on, all of that momentum around blocking abundance lifts. Have faith that what you are sharing is healing. Focus on the healing. Don't focus on your fear or on your self-doubt. That'll sabotage you. You'll end up self-sabotaging.

Do the inner work first, though, to get yourself into a space of total faith in the work that you do or in the product that you're talking about. Do the inner work around understanding that when you go into a sales conversation, or when someone's trying to engage you in that, there's a healing going on. Be open to receiving or giving the healing more so than the money, okay? Be more focused on the healing work than the finances, and nine times out of 10 you'll end up closing the sale and the finances will come.

Be kind to yourself if you're afraid of focusing on the healing because you're so afraid of the money. If that's your case, please reach out to me at www.victoriawhitfield.com/contact You can hop on the phone with me and we'll be able to get you sorted and see how we can best support you moving through that fear of receiving.

I'm sending you so much love, blessings and abundance, and I'll see you in the next one.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey.

Bye for now.

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Commit to shifting your mindset around sales as healing instead of sales as an attack.

Face and take ownership of the parts that make you the most uncomfortable about sales, and see them as wounds where healing can grow.

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Love Letters | Money is (Not) Spiritual – Part 1 of 4

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 06 Apr 2020 05:00:00 +0000

We are entering into another series of the Love Letters and I have to tell you, I'm fired up about this, personally.

Now, I've only been in business eight years, and I've only reached six figures, I've only been on two world tours and I've only published one book. I’m no expert and I don’t know everything. But after all of the hundreds of entrepreneurs that I have served, hugged and loved on and encouraged to glow, as they grow their businesses, I’ve noticed that this topic in particular comes up all the time and it's killing me! I'm so excited to get to talk to you about it.

So many people have this idea that money is not spiritual, and because of that assumption, they think X, Y and Z. Therefore, I can't buy this program. Therefore, I can't sell my services. Therefore, I shouldn't have more money than my husband. Therefore, as a healer, I should be struggling, or as I'm an artist, I should be struggling. It should be HARD, things should be HARD. I gotta work HARD in order to be acceptable, successful, respectable. Blah, blah, blah. 😉

I love you and in the next few weeks, we are going to be busting through this limiting belief. We have got to bust through this limiting belief. And it's all starting with: money is not spiritual. Now I am only a Reiki Master Teacher four times over and I'm only the world's first business Reiki master (which means I ground and clear the energy of business owners in particular; their chakras, their energy centers, their flow of wealth and abundance and love and health through them). I don’t know everything. And however, I do know that money is absolutely essential. So much that we have got to talk about it. When you start doing yoga, when you start meditating, you start learning about the mind-body connection. You also start learning about something called Energy and how energy is everything.

“Your vibe attracts your tribe”, does that sound familiar to you? That phrase. Or “raise your vibrations”, “raise your standards”, “get into a peak state” as Tony Robbins would say, or “get into the vortex”, as Abraham Hicks would say, or “love and approve of yourself” as Louise Hay would say? All of these phrases convey that Energy is so important. How we manage our personal energy not only affects our physical health, our emotional health and wellbeing, but it also affects our attractiveness to love, relationships and even opportunities to make money. If you are not in alignment with receiving more wealth and abundance; if you perceive the acquisition of wealth and abundance as evil or not spiritual, and therefore repulsive, you repel it.

"Oh those rich people. They are so sinful. I am so righteous because I work hard and don’t rock the boat,"we are taught to think. If that’s what you’re saying to yourself, then with love and respect, I've gotta break this to you: you are saying that to get YOU off the hook from serving more people. We look down on, as a society, and demonize people who are highly successful, who are producers in the marketplace. We look down on and demonize sales people, to let ourselves off the hook, so that we feel more significant for Not getting in the game and serving more people.

The only reason that, Mark Zuckerberg, or Jeff Bezos, or Oprah, or Marie Forleo, or whoever has more money than you is because they serve more people. That’s it. Of course they make more money! The money is just a reflection of the impact that they are making out there in the world. Thank you, Fabienne Fredrickson, by the way, for making that crystal clear to me years ago - and if you haven't checked her out, I highly recommend her work: visit Boldheart.com for more info. But for all of those of you out there who are afraid to ask for help, to ask for donations for your non-profit, and who are afraid to ask for the sale or afraid to put yourself out there and share the things that you believe in, please know that money is deeply spiritual because money is energy. It is an amplifier.

Money is am amplifier. Who you were before you had the money is only going to become even bigger, once you do. So that's why there are people who have terrible personalities with tons of attention on them having a terrible personality as they are doing terrible things in the world; it’s because before they had all that energy, all of that resource of money behind them, they were already not so high vibe, they were already terrible (lol).

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But to the people who are good and loving, generous and excited to serve, or who are positive and ready to do awesome and bright things in the world: when they get more money, they just do more of it. They start building schools in the most challenged parts of the world. They start bringing water to the people who have no access to water. They build places where water can be brought to them. I read an article that Akon the singer has privately brought electricity to hundreds of millions of people in Africa using the proceeds from his songs. Good gets greater when you add in money, and is that not a beautiful, spiritualresult?

Allow yourself to anchor in that. Anchor in to WHY you should be making more money, receiving more money. Is it for your non-profit? For your business, or you purpose driven enterprise? Your mission-driven company, if you don’t own it but you work for one? Zero in 100% on your WHY so that you can serve people at a greater scale.

Now this NOT for you if you are doing something that you hate, for people who you hate, and you are completely grinding yourself to the bone, because money is your only way out of abject poverty and you will do anything to get it and you'll stomp on anyone to get it. This message is not for you. We don't wanna see more pain in the world. Remember: money is an amplifier. Let’s not amplify more pain and grinding and inauthenticity. But if you are doing good work, you've got to be more visible. I would love to see you shine bright. Open your heart, open your energy and allow more wealth. Not just money, but wealth of all kinds - and we'll be talking about that over the next few weeks. Allow different kinds of wealth to flow into your experience.

In accordance with that, we're going to be journeying with Angels of Abundance oracle cards deck by Doreen and Grant Virtue (that's her son, Grant). Alrighty, and by the way, this is the oracle cards deck that we pull from every month, during the monthly Abundant Business Circle financial energy healing sessions that we have for entrepreneurs here at the dojo. If you're interested in attending the next one, go ahead and send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com. I'd be happy to tell you more. Angels of Abundance, what do we need to know right now about how our money is spiritual? Okay, let's do this... Here goes:

“Exercise to increase your energy and manifestation abilities. The key to manifesting quickly is to have very high energy levels and the easiest way to increase them is through physical exercise. Choose a fun and meaningful activity so that you'll look forward to exercising and it becomes its own reward.” And this is where we're going to leave off for the week.

My guides are telling me that the angles brought this card forward in particular, because someone who is watching right now is on the bright side, is one of the good women, one of the good guys out there, working for the light. You are doing good work. You are giving to charities. You are uplifting all those who come across your path, but you're frustrated. Frustrated because you don't have enough money in order to pay your bills, in order to pay your team, in order to take care of your family as well as to keep up with all of the commitments that you've made. So here's the thing. If you are a high-vibe person, that – meaning, not enough money – is not the real problem.

A lack of money, is a lack of energy. This card says, “exercise to increase your energy and manifestation abilities.” Here's what the real problem is: your physical energy levels, your emotional energy levels or your relational energy levels - it's one of those three. I'm gonna be talking about that over the next few weeks. Your physical energy levels, your emotional energy levels or your relational energy levels are not at the highest vibration possible. Something in one of those three areas is of a lower vibration. And you have got to find a way to raise it by any means necessary. That’s the real problem.

The fastest way to get through all of that is ecstatic exercise. It covers all three. Especially if you do it with other people. When you’re able to turn on your physical capital, turn on your emotional capital and also your relational capital, abundance is guaranteed.

Comment below or send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com. What's coming up for you around that. Which one of those three areas - physical, emotional or relational (and that means relationships and how you are in the vibration of your relationships) - what one of those three is what's really low vibe and sucking the energy out of your wealth and abundance, and by extension, affecting your finances? I'd love to hear that and support you in raising that vibration, if you’d like help with that.

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May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey to ascension.

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Love Letters | No Longer Tolerable – Part 4 of 5

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 20 Jan 2020 05:00:41 +0000

This is week four of five of our deep dive into shifting our perspective, so that we can step into our divinity, finally, in life and business.

If you are just seeing this for the first time and you didn't start from week one, please make sure that you go ahead and stop now, go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com, so that you can be grounded in this process. Start at week one.

For our fourth week, my spirit guides have said that we need to talk about the importance of knowing what is no longer tolerable. Last week, we really sank our teeth into our role, and knowing it clearly. We honored who we are and what our purpose is here on Earth: to be that guide, that light, that only you can shine, or only I can shine, from my own unique story, and yours within yours.

We're here, again, at Washington Rock in the dead of winter. It is a very foggy day, so normally we are able to see between 20 to 30 miles out. You might have seen that in the previous videos. But, this is so good, that the weather has shifted to be even more foggy, because this now brings the perspective inward. Right? That's a message and a representation of our intention right now, is to be very clear, inwardly, of what is no longer acceptable.

At your previous point of perspective of where you were coming from before, perhaps there were certain people, certain behaviors, certain foods, and certain investments that you were engaging in, that were acceptable. They were part of your standard operating procedure. And, when we get to a certain point of development, or achieve a certain level of success, there is this expectation that what's been working is going to continue to work.

Now, if you keep doing the same thing and expecting different results, however, that is unfortunately the definition of insanity. There's real satisfaction, there is real fulfillment in having progress, meaning, when we get to grow from our experiences. So, when we're called for to expansion and ascension, personally or professionally, that involves changing what our definition of what is tolerable.

I'm not exactly sure who this message is for. But, I want you, since you're watching or reading this right now, I want you to consider, “What am I tolerating?”

Ask yourself “what am I tolerating in my personal life?” for example, that is keeping me at this level of weight, or in this type of relationship. “What am I tolerating? Am I tolerating people talking down to me, or telling me how things need to be? Or, am I tolerating the reaction that my body has to certain foods, such as gluten?” for example. What are you tolerating personally, that could be reinforcing the same sick cycle recurring and recurring personally, but also professionally?

What are you tolerating? Are you tolerating receiving a certain level of income, because other people said you should be satisfied with that? Or, if you look to your right and you look to your left, that's what everybody else makes. And that's what everybody else is saying is “acceptable.” Are you tolerating that? Or are you tolerating, also professionally, a mentor or an authority figure that might rub you the wrong way in some key areas, but because other things are really great, you overlook that? You instead, stay, and follow their rules, but murmur about the things that bother you, on your off time or in quiet moments to yourself, or confidants.
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Be kind of yourself if that's your situation: that you're tolerating things. That can be a coping mechanism, to create a sense of stability, and I'm hearing this very loud and very aligned in the energy, to tell you that in order to create stability finally for yourself, you may have remove more tolerations from off your plate.

Be kind to yourself. There's a difference between telling yourself what’s acceptable and actually having clarity. When you're just accepting what you've been handed to you, there's a of lack of innovation there, a lack of agency. You don't have to give away your power. When you are clear that “this is what I want”, or clear that “this is how I feel”, and you voice that, as well as stand true to that, yes, it may trigger some people, or may ruffle some feathers, or make things a little unstable for a time. But, that's temporary, because you're getting back into alignment, putting yourself back at the center at which you deserve to be.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. All month we've been journeying with the Isis Oracle Cards Deck by Alana Fairchild, and I'll make this quick, because my fingers are freezing. Happy winter everyone! Let's see. Oh, gorgeous. Initiation. Spiritual testing of Ra and lady Isis.This is where we are going to leave off for the week.

The reason why you're shifting your perspective this week in particular, by getting clear on what is no longer tolerable and what you're no longer going to be tolerating, is because you're on a path to Initiation. This is your time. This is the time for you to shift. Not later, it's now. It's now.

And, when you decide that a certain thing is no longer acceptable, that activates your inner power. I can tell that to you from my own story, when I personally decided that being in an abusive relationship - which was most emotionally and, at times, financially, and even physically abusive - when I decided that was no longer acceptable, I was not going to tolerate this anymore, my whole life changed. I had behaviors, such as leaving that person and investing more in my own self-worth, and raising my confidence level, I had behaviors that followed through with that, because it was unequivocal.

I decided I'm not tolerating this anymore. Similarly, my behaviors shifted when I personally decided that smoking was no longer something I was going to tolerate as a behavior of mine, and being around people who smoke regularly was not acceptable either. I had asthma, and it would exacerbate my asthma. Since I quit my breathing has been so much better, and the quality of relationships that I have around me have been so much better, too.

So, what are you no longer tolerating? Comment below, or send me an email back, at VictoriaWhitfield.com/Contact, or Team@VictoriaWhitfield.com. Let me know, what are you no longer tolerating. What is no longer acceptable in your life and in your business? Make sure you subscribe on YouTube, so that you get these Love Letters first, every week, and I'll see you next time.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please, enjoy the journey. Bye for now!

Just for today...

Take an inventory of what you are tolerating in life and business.

First, write out a list of Tolerations, and then secondly, go back through the list and for each line write out the real, honest reason why you are still (or are no longer) tolerating it.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...

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Love Letters | Why You Need to Love Yourself

Sensei Victoria Whitfield — Mon, 06 Nov 2017 07:00:53 +0000

Do you feel like you're called to support others?

Are you a leader or manager in your home or your organization?

Wish you had the energy to serve more people?

This month, we're going to talk about exactly what resource can fuel you for the long-haul continuing to show up in service.

That resource, that essential nutrient is: loving yourself.

Watch this week's 12-minute Love Letter video to find out exactly WHY loving yourself is the key to truly loving others.

"I'm always the one giving advice."

This month I'm so excited to get to share with you the next deep dive topic that we're going to be going through over the next four weeks together.

As you know, my guides have said that it's time that you and I continue to have a deeper relationship and probe deeper into the perks of life together so that we can have more intimate bond and better understand each other as well as ourselves, so that we can lift up our communities and our clients together in the process.

So this month's deep dive topic is loving yourself.

Loving yourself.

Now, I'm sure that you've heard about loving yourself from so many people and different teachers, different books, that you may have gone through.

But loving yourself is a powerful, powerful, powerful nutrient that fuels the greatest healers and leaders, period.

If you are called to serve others, right, to take care of others, to make sure that they're okay and support the community, support your clients, support your family, that means that you are a leader and that you are a healer.

And you know what it's like to love others. You're used to it. You're really accustomed to being that loving presence, that supportive presence to others and that's beautiful.

Also it can get draining. It can get so draining when you're always being the strong one.

You're the one giving the advice, the support, dishing out the transformation, the information, the coordination, all the things, you being the anchor.

What happens sometimes is that in the course of being service-oriented, right? We show up to serve. We show up to give. It's so generous. It's so powerful.

What happens sometimes is that we forget that we need. The one who is serving and supporting the tribe, whatever your tribe looks like, don't forget we also need to fill our cup.

So we're going to take the next four weeks to cover exactly how to begin loving yourself. Now more than ever my guides say you've got to hear this message and the people that you support need you to love yourself.

If you know me very well. You know that my number one muse and mentor is RuPaul, the drag queen. RuPaul, I love him, I love him from the bottom of my heart.

He taught me how to love myself and his phrase, his mantra is, "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love anybody else?"

Can I get an amen? Everyone's like, Amen, yes. Yeah, I love RuPaul. I love you, I love you, I love you. If you ever see this, thank you. You've changed my life.

With that, every single healer and every single leader has got to have a regular practice of self-love and taking care of yourself.

As is the custom here at the Dojo, we start with why so we're going to go through different, exactly how processes. You know that I dish out homework. Here just for today is what you're going to do. That's who I am. I'm a teacher at heart. That's what we do, right?

With that, we want to make sure that you start with why so that you understand exactly what's the fuel behind loving yourself because if you don't understand what's the fuel, what's the inspiration, what's the motivation behind loving yourself, you're not going to do it.

You're not. It's just going to go to the bottom or not even catch the task list. It's not even going to be on the back burner. It's just going to get thrown out the window or in the trash can, your self-love, your self-care.

Now I believe in starting with why and those of you who are watching who love Simon Sinek, I'm sure you're feeling me.

The reason why it's time for you to love yourself is because you're a healer and because you're a leader, because you're the caregiver. The reason why you're going to love yourself and learn how to do it on a whole new level this month in particular is because you're called to support others.

The vision that the guides send to illustrate this why is that you're here quenching others' thirst. There are people who are thirsty for what you have got.

Maybe you have incredible advice. Maybe you're a fantastic cook. Maybe you're a beautiful and profound listener. Perhaps no one delegates and coordinates better than you. You're the best person to organize people, right? You're a people person.

Or perhaps you're a Mom or a Dad, and you're the one taking care of your kids. You've got to lead them and love them and teach them so that they can grow and feel safe as wholly grounded and well-rounded human beings.

So as you are called to be the leader, to show up to give, you're quenching these people's thirst with the energy that you are giving constantly, constantly quenching your thirst.

How much water do you drink each day? There's so much body that our bodies need. We're above 70% made of water. If you're the one quenching the thirst, how do you do that? How do you get water?

Let's do it on a mundane level before we take it to the illustration level. How do you get water to bring it to someone? You get a cup, you know, you get a cup, you go over to a faucet of some sort and you bring the cup to them and say, "Here" or you help them.

So, you see what happened right there? You had a cup, brought it over to the faucet or you had a pitcher and brought it over to the faucet, some sort of source of water, and then you went to offer them the cup or to pour them a drink.

This is the illustration behind why it's time for you to love yourself, the guides are sending to you. It's very simple. We don't do things complex here. The simpler, the better and the faster you can implement, the more you can integrate it.

Know this: The people that you support need you to love yourself.

The self-love comes in having the faucet. If you were to pour someone a cup of water, you wouldn't take your boob and squirt them out like, oh my God, or you wouldn't try and cry into a cup so that they could drink your tears or any other of your fluids or blah.

Unless you're a Mom, you're giving your breast milk to your baby, but typically you don't offer of yourself in order to quench others' thirst. You go to the water source, right?

This is the illustration of what loving yourself is so that you can continue to show up in service. Fill your cup first, fill your pitcher first before you go out and serve others. By the way, once you have your water source, you can serve people more of the time.

You can serve more people more of the time in a sustainable ongoing way. This is why its time for you to learn how to love yourself and find your love resource so that you can continue to fill up and bring more, and fill up and bring more.

So that you're pouring from abundance rather than from lack.

Now, I'm hearing the Oracle Cards calling for the week. It is The Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards, my favoritest, favorite deck. Thank you, Doreen Virtue for making this. And thank you to Success Express that originally Bonnie and Susan, they originally donated it.

Goddesses, what do we need to know right now about loving ourselves? Why? Show us why.

Oh, this is so good. Damara, guiding children. You are good at helping, counseling and healing children. Use your skills to help children now.

So my guides are taking me, so on one level, yes, we're talking to those of you who are parents and teachers.

Loving yourself, you need the strength to be able to hold space for the children that you are taking care of, that demand an extremely high amount of your energy, your investment, your time, your love. And you want to be there for the kids, and take excellent care of them.

But on another level my guides are taking me to those who are entrepreneurs, leaders and managers, where you are guiding the inner child or those who are under your care.

You are good at helping, counseling and healing others, and you want to care for those who are in your charge at the same level that a loving parent would take care of their children. Your employees are your children. Your clients are your children.

You want to protect them and love on them at the same level that you would for your children but in order to do that, in order to get the strength that you need, you've got to have that source of energy.

This month, we're going to show you exactly how to get that.

So go ahead and comment below. Send me an email back.

What's coming up for you seeing this card and this topic? Do you feel that this topic is timely?

Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week and we'll see you next time. Bye. See you soon.

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