Overwhelmed by other people's energy lately?

Feeling overworked because you can't say "no" when other people ask you to do them a favor?

Scared that you're headed for burnout?

You can release yourself from this vicious cycle.

It's time to stop enabling other people's victim behavior, and let them start saving themselves for a change.

Watch the above 8-minute video to let go of managing other people's drama!

"I don't have to play this game anymore."

I'm hearing the Oracle cards calling in the energy right now.

This week, in particular, Source is telling you to be on the lookout for where are you allowing excessive energy for people to stomp all over you.

Or allowing them to bulldoze over your sense of personal calm with their emotions. Or their work - you're taking it and putting on your back from theirs. Transferring it to you.

They have a wonderfully low tolerance for how much work, or how much emotion, or how much silence in themselves they're willing to tolerate.

"Oh, I don't have to carry the work, you'll take it. Great. I don't have to sort through my emotions and my problems, you will. Great. I don't have to hold all of my thoughts within me and analyze them myself. Great you will."

Dump, dump, dump.

The only reason why you're catching the dump is because you're automatically saying, "Okay."

There's an agreement there.

This is not to shame or guilt you, by the way.

Source is saying you have all the power in this situation.

Drama and dramatic situations often can convince you, with all the shiny lights, bells and whistles of dramatic emotions, painful words, or frustrating circumstance, all those shiny shiny lights can distract you and make you think that, "I'm a victim. I am subject to what's happening to me. There's no way out."

That is not true.

You always have all power. This is a free will universe. You can choose to change your situation at any time, any time.

When you realize you're face deep in someone else's junk - face deep in their drama, their emotion, their story, their work - when you're at the office and you're doing way more than what your pay grade says that you're doing, just say this to yourself: "I don't have to play this game anymore," and step out of the drama sandbox they're playing in.

All right, get up. Stand up. Stand up and just say: "I'm not playing this game anymore." Step out.

The chills. You can do it. It really is that easy.

It really is that easy.

When you decide, the entire Universe changes. Why? Because the whole Universe herself was created by a decision.

Know this: You can #change your life; you just need to decide. Claim it: "My life is #drama free!"

This week's oracle card is "Divine Timing." Now is the perfect moment for you to act on your inspirations.

You can change your mind and change your entire situation, your entire life now.

This video is coming to you in perfect timing they're also saying.

The doors are open while you walk through them with us, the Angels, by your side.

Don't delay or procrastinate, as all the ingredients are ripe for your success.

They're saying right now, you have everything you need to shift your state right now. Right now. Literally, right now.

Everything and everyone is on your side supporting your positive outcome.

The energy I'm hearing is saying sometimes we convince ourselves that everyone is against us, that the world doesn't want us to succeed, that others around you are not on your level and it makes it very adversarial.

Granted, not everyone is on your vibration and you can't please everybody, but that doesn't mean you have to get tied up in that.

Let it go. If they're not on your level, let them go. You don't even have to think twice.

It's the same as if you ever worked in a multi-floor building.

If you're working on the 12th floor how often do you think about people on the 11th floor on a day-to-day basis?

Those of you out in New York City or out of Houston Texas, big tall buildings, how often do you think, "Well, I wonder what people on the 3rd and 4th floor are doing right now? Gosh, they're beneath me. Bwah haha har!"

No, you're just on another floor. That floor has nothing to do with you.

Let them be there. They're just living their lives one day at a time and the best the can, the same as you are.

Be kind to yourself. You don't even have to get involved with that drama.

Sending you so much love, confidence and transformative energy.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Declare that today is "Drama-Free Day" -- it's your own national holiday.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Tired of dramatic people draining and hijacking your days?

Have you had it up to here with people dumping their problems on you?

Don't you just wish things could be easy, rather than putting out fires all the time?

This Love Letter is for all my awesome Mr./Ms. Fix-It's out there who are ready to put down their sword and cape.

It's about time we let other people clean up their messes and deal with their own drama on their own time!

Watch the above 8-minute video to start kicking drama out of your life for good!

"I'm tired of all the drama."

This week the phrase that Source is sending for us to talk about is, "I'm tired of all the drama."

Is that you?

Are you just sick and tired of things just being over the top?

Tired of being overwhelmed, tired of dramatic people, tired of everybody dumping their problems on you, and then you having to have to fix everything?

They think you're Mr. or Mrs. Fix-it, and it's exhausting. Is that you?

Everything has to be explosive.

Our relationships, our whirlwind romances, our arguments are explosive. Our exercise routines are maxed out, over the top, extreme.

And then we wonder why we're so tired, or so distracted lately.

Source is saying that distraction is another form of exhaustion.

It's imbalanced.

We're coping with a sense of fatigue and a need for rest and re-centering by avoiding it with distractions on cellphones, distracted, wandering conversations.

Distraction is a lack of centeredness.

When you are centered, being centered is different than being grounded, by the way. When you are centered you are in alignment. You are focused.

Being focused and in alignment is entirely different than being grounded.

For this topic in particular, Source is saying the reason why you're experiencing so much drama, or people are bringing you so much drama, is that this drama is a spiritual symptom manifestation of your lack of centeredness.

We're out of alignment, so in order to feel our center and in order for us to be motivated to respond, things have to shout at us at a certain level. Hence, the shouty drama energy.

For example, the Energy is bringing up a vision right now of some of the members of the tribe who may be watching, but have issues with their throat chakra.

When we have issues with our throat chakra, we cannot speak up for ourselves.

Put that person into a corner, however, or really egg them on and increase the stress level around them, box them in, and then they will lash out.

They will lash out and have no problem bringing out the stinger to defend their energy, but only when severely threatened. They'll blast people and things out of the way, because there's been so much expression held within and recoiled.

When we're holding within, recoiling and winding up, we're out of alignment because it's causing us to be reactionary, the Energy is saying.

But remember to be kind to yourself.

Know this: If you're knee-deep in #drama right now, put down your pride & decide to not solve other people's problems. Say it: "I'm done!"

If the drama is all around you, you're immersed in it.

And when you're knee-deep in drama, the only reason why that is happening is because Source notices that you are a little hard of hearing, so She's turning up the dial on the water that you're soaking in.

Imagine this. You're in a pot of water, and things are getting hotter, because you're on a stove. Now, at a certain temperature, you're cool, you're feeling all right.

But after a while, as She turns up the heat, you begin to notice it's getting warmer and warmer.

Source is waiting for you to jump out of the pot because you're not supposed to be boiled there. You're still alive and still conscious. She's not trying to boil you, but when are you going to decide to get out of the pot?

So, she continues turning up, turning up, turning up the heat and you say, "Okay, it's getting really hot in here. I'm starting to feel a little bit overwhelmed, but I can take it. I can take it."

Pride, ego, conditioning says, "I can take it. I can take it. I can stay and fix the water, and stop it from boiling all around me, and boiling me."

The boiling water and the temperature represent the amount of drama and agitation you're experiencing in life.

Source will turn that up, until you're fed up and screaming "All right! I'm done!" and out of the pot you jump.

So what's your tipping point? What's your boiling point?

We only experience the level of drama in life that we agree to.

In other words, you allow drama.

We are allowing this excessive, annoying, frustrating, overwhelming energy and interactions into our life.

We allow them mainly when we are out of alignment with what matters most. If we are out of alignment with what matters most to us, we cannot access the full clarity, the full focus of our feelings.

We're pinched. Think of a pinched nerve. When the nerve is pinched in your body, the feeling there is numb. It is out of alignment, not blocked because it's just really squished there.

You're not blocked, you're just pinched.

It's not like your energy turned off, per se. There is still some sort of feeling there, but it pales in comparison to say the completely unpinched side.

Let someone adjust you -- or even better, you can adjust yourself -- so the energy, the warmth, the sensation, the feeling returns to that entire area of your body, and that entire area of your life.

Stay tuned for part 2 of this topic, coming next week...

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Decide that today's the day you'll stop participating in other people's problems and drama.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

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Give me a call at +1 (732) 903-8573 or click on the blue BOOK NOW button to start your healing journey, today!

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Are you "stuck in your head" often because you're so stressed out and busy these days?

Feeling frustrated that you're not getting through to people, or that your loved ones, clients or colleagues aren't quite connecting with you in the way you would like them to?

Worried that when you talk no one hears you, or do you even feel that people think you are "ranting" or "rambling" all the time?

Communication issues have to do with the part of your energetic body that's called the Throat Chakra.

The Throat Chakra governs your ability to speak up and be heard with clarity and authenticity in this lifetime.

Watch the above video to explore why you should stop "speaking your mind," and what you should start doing instead, to heal your communication issues!

Clear communication is an energy exchange.

It involves you expressing yourself clearly, as well as the other person experiencing your expression clearly.

A healthy Throat Chakra exchange leaves you feeling heard, connected and well received.

Therefore, the energy exchanged in communication needs to be clear and open on both sides: both for that of the speaker and listener.

It's obvious that having a garbled message can ruin the quality of our communication with others.

However, what may not be so obvious is that having garbled energy can also affect the quality of our communication with others, perhaps even moreso than the message itself.

Why? Because everyone is an empathic listener, to some degree.

And, on top of that, the majority of people have no idea what the heck that means. YAY! 🙂 It's a hot mess, I know, but hey, that's what we are here to solve, right lightworkers?

So what exactly is an empathic listener?

Does that mean everyone is psychic or something? No, not exactly.

An empathic listener is someone who is "listening" to or moreover aware of the energy that someone else is giving off in a given situation. In short, they pick up the person's "vibes."

For example, have you ever had the experience of watching someone read a really well-written speech, but you could tell they were faking it or being disingenuous?

What gave them away? They had correct body language, they varied their voice tone elegantly, and said all the right words. Heck, they even had a great outfit on and smelled good!

But how you could tell that they didn't really feel what they were saying to you, even though all of your 5 senses were being "correctly" tickled by the book?

Here's how: your 6th Empathic Sense felt the imbalanced energy that they were sending out, and you in turn concluded they were being disingenuous.

This is therefore a more extreme example of someone speaking their mind, and not speaking their heart.

The meaning, the resonance, gets lost in translation when we are personally out of alignment when communicating.

And that's a big reason why people can and will misunderstand what we are trying to say, or even write off what we are talking about: it's not coming from the right place.

Know this: Don't speak your mind. Speak your heart. #communication #leadership

When we try to do a "perfect" job in talking, sometimes the heart of the matter can get lost in translation.

Maybe you've been preparing your presentation at work for a very long time, or maybe you've been trying to figure out "just the right way" to tell your loved one something that's a sensitive subject.

Just get out of your head, and into your heart.

The ego is very powerful at wanting to wrap himself around everything you experience. However, it can in it's wrapping end up choking the flow of expression with too much censorship and analysis paralysis.

So, when you feel like your loved ones, clients or colleagues aren't quite getting it, make time to stop what you're saying and check in with them. You can ask "did that make sense or have I lost you?" for example.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which explains exactly how to speak from your heart and who you're really doing it for!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Pause, and drop into your heart.

Watch the video and do the simple heart-centering exercise before you go to speak.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Are you too afraid to move on because you feel like you're betraying or losing someone?

Holding on to a relationship, business or idea that is gone or doesn't serve you anymore because it's all you've ever known?

Allowing yourself to be emotionally and spiritually drained by someone you love just so you can keep the peace?

If you said "Yes! That's me!" then Spirit is sending you an opportunity to shift your mindset in a BIG way this year.

In fact, if you can uplevel your mindset around moving on in honesty and in love, you can and will attract More Love and More Money into your life.

Watch the above video to find out what's been holding you back from moving on once and for all!

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"Out with the old, in with the new" sounds deceptively simple.

In practice, it is much more complicated. Especially when it comes to relationships.

We keep investing and investing, hoping the person will catch up and realize how much we mean to them... And then...

You eventually stumble upon a moment of clarity where you catch yourself still giving your love, time, energy and space to what is actually a stagnant relationship that's draining you. And you think to yourself "how did this happen?"

This draining usually happens when we've outgrown the circumstances of the relationship, but haven't yet admitted that to ourselves.

It's an odd and sometimes lonely feeling to have, evolving and making positive changes our lives.

Things that once worked no longer do, ideas and ways of seeing the world that once made sense don't anymore. If you're not conscious that you're evolving and that your vibration is raising, you may even begin to think there's something wrong with you.

Don't be afraid that you'll stick out like a sore thumb. Embrace shining bright even if it's uncomfortable (at first) because Spirit has more for good things on the way to you!

Look, I'm right there with you. Moving on and raising your vibration can be scary, but this is a time that rocks the boat, by design.

Here's where it really gets confusing, though: we stop ourselves from moving on by conflating our value of loyalty (to others, to our routine) and our fear of change (avoiding the unknown, unfamiliar and new).

So rather than letting go of a relationship or business practice that's not working - or worse yet, is outright harming us - we hold on to what's familiar, no matter how bad it gets, because we're conflating "holding on" with trying to appear "loyal" no matter what.

If your loyalty is draining you, if you are dying to be appreciated, then maybe it's time to accept the situation as is and move on. We need to unplug from trying to "fix it" all the time, and just accept reality.

Otherwise, if you just move on without accepting the situation as is, then you're being irresponsible and avoiding the lesson Spirit is trying to send you through this experience.

So, why can't you accept the person or situation as is?

Know this: Accept it. If you can't move on, that means you don't Trust yourself or Spirit to take care of what's next. #MLMM #BK2YS

Ouch! That was harsh, right? Well, here's the bright side.

Once you realize and accept you lack Trust, you can rebuild it!

And it starts with your relationship with Spirit. It's okay if you don't trust yourself 100% - focus on rebuilding your Trust in the Earth, in the Angels and in Source.

Trust issues can be a big block to receiving not only More Love but also More Money. And you deserve to receive all that you desire that is in alignment with your highest good.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows us one area in particular that Trust Issues come up as you pursue living your life's purpose!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Pause and choose to see your situation as is, rather than trying to "fix it" all the time.

If things were to remain as they are for the rest of your life, would you be satisfied or would you want to move on?

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want to learn to move on and let go of the past so you can attract more abundance?

Give me a call at 732-903-8573 or click on the blue BOOK NOW button to start your healing journey, today!

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