This is week three of five in our exploration of vulnerability. Vulnerability being having the ability to be vulnerable in a positive and healing way.

Now if this is the first time you're seeing anything about this series, make sure you stop, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com, and start from part one so that you are grounded in your evolutionary process.

Without further ado, for week three of five, my guides have continued us on this journey through vulnerability, specifically looking now at the idea of positive vulnerability. Last week we talked about negative vulnerability and those spaces that gather in our hearts, exploring the negative space that open wounds that we have from past negative experiences. We tend to immediately associate with the word “negative” with “vulnerability”, right?

When we think of vulnerability we associate negative things with it. Webster's dictionary, we talked about that in week one, has that horrible definition of “being open to attack or wound”, rather than just being open and exposing one's self, whether in a good or a bad way.

So this week in particular though, we're advancing this concept of, alright, my vulnerable spaces have been in the past, you know, the first things that come to my mind are negative. But in fact, what about positive vulnerability? Have you ever had the experience of things going really well, but really, really well? Like “oh, my god, what's going to happen if things blow up? Oh no! I don't know what to expect next.” You know, when you start to freak out and say, “okay, he said yes. Oh, what do I do now? Oh no! This person cares about me.” Or “these people are excited to buy in to my program at the number that I told them the price was. What's happening?” Has this ever happened to you?

Have you ever had that positive vulnerable experience, and also clamped shut? Thinking, “oh no, no, no, no. This can't be real. There's something wrong going on here. No, no, no. This is not for me, this is probably for them”, right? Immediately avoiding and dodging and, oh my gosh, repelling all of the good that may be coming through. That’s a moment of positive vulnerability. People wanting to feature you, put you out on stage, share your story. And you wanting to run and hide like, “oh my god, no, no, I don't want to be seen, this is to scary, I'm not ready.” Freaking out when something really big and really good is about to happen.

Be kind to yourself if you've had that experience. That fear of success, or, here it comes, I'm going there:  that fear of arousal or even being in that orgasmic state, letting go. Having a positive, open loss of control. Or that even in just an emotional way, positive openly emotional loss of control. Being held by somebody when something awful has happened, just letting go and crying in their arms.

Recently a family member of mine passed away. And we were there for them through the whole natural death cycle at home. What an amazing honor. And I was challenged to be able, vulner-able enough, that when I went to visit my nephew, and when he wanted to hug me and hold me to console me because he loves me and wants to be supportive, being vulnerAble enough to see “oh, I have permission to let go and cry on his shoulder” rather than hold it all together to be strong aunt Victoria. So I did. And it was beautiful for both of us – haha, he cried too!

Such a healing, bonding, beautiful experience. And I'll put this on me, I've had so many times in my life where someone's telling me it's okay to cry. And I  said “no. I'm happy. I know it's okay to cry.” But I'm going to cry in the bathroom or in the car or late at night after everyone's asleep. I'm going to cry off-camera. Or not when I'm here supporting You. Or while I'm here performing, speaking, etc.

That positive vulnerability is a whopper. Can we be open to it when the opportunity comes? This week, in particular, my guides are saying there are opportunities on the table for you to open up and receive at another level, the level that you have been asking for. That level of emotional support. That level of financial breakthrough.

I'm thinking of one of my clients in particular: she had the financial breakthrough that she had prayed for years for right in front of her: five hundred thousand dollars. A potential investor was sitting right in front of her, ready to give five hundred thousand. She had done everything right, just as we talked about in our sessions, to attract abundance. But she freaked in the moment, thinking “oh it can't be for me, or oh my god I have to fix it, I got to find Someone Else for this person to donate to because it can’t be for me.” Out of fear and limiting beliefs, she clamped shut to and dodged the abundance – and gurl, I’ve done that so many times too. We all have! Being at peace with positive vulnerability is no joke.

Be kind to yourself if you're pushing away the good rather than being open to that next level breakthrough and moving through your upper limit. That is a positive vulnerable experience, and it is just as challenging and, dare I say, traumatic as a negative vulnerable experience.

Be kind to yourself. It's time to engage being open to it, maybe for the first time.

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Now I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. The deck that we've been journeying with all month is Healing With The Angels oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue, her very first oracle cards deck that she ever created. Angels, what do we need to know right now about our fear of success, and our positive vulnerability around getting that next-level manifestation? It's happening, so help us. Angels, what do we need to know right now around allowing positive vulnerability?

Forgiveness. Here we go! My guides are immediately saying this has to do with forgiving yourself for pushing away the good or not trusting that you can handle the good or the breakthrough or the next level of success. My guides are immediately saying this is about self-forgiveness. But you know, let's see what Doreen channeled about it in the book. She has really great writings.

Forgiveness. Let go of anger and resentment, and feel yourself healed. You don't need to forgive the action, just the person, so that you can be at peace. By drawing this card, your angels guide you to release anger and irritation. They realize that you may be perfectly justified in feeling angry. Yet they ask you to look at the high price you pay for being the vessel of anger. Forgiveness does not mean what you did is okay to me. It simply means I am no longer willing to carry around pain in response to your actions. When we hold unforgiveness in our hearts, we only punish ourselves after all. Your angels help you to release unforgiveness if you will just ask for their assistance.

This is beautiful. Beautiful. And this is where we're going to leave off for the week. We're talking about forgiveness for fearing our own positive vulnerability.

We're also engaging that trust that may have been broken before when we let ourselves down before in the past. Where things were going so well, and then, we missed the mark. It's okay to forgive yourself. Stop beating yourself up for missing the boat and being human, before. This vulnerability thing is a skill that takes time to learn, and we are open, if only just for now, to engaging it.

So I'm curious, what do you have to forgive yourself for? Around not being receptive to something, but you wish you would have been, and you regret it. Go ahead, send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com. Or comment below this blog wherever it's posted. We post everywhere!

Thanks to all of our subscribers on all social media and online platforms. Mwah. Big hugs and love. Make sure you, by the way, subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first, every week. Because that is where they are posted first. Tag a friend who needs to hear this message, who's having that positive vulnerable experience, and needs to just be kind to themselves in opening to being more receptive.

My prayer, my wish for you is that you may feel loved and safe. Especially at work, because that is half your waking life!

May you enjoy the journey to your soul's expansion. Mwah.

I'll see you next week. Bye for now.

(Original post 04/15/2019)

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Are you uncomfortable receiving compliments?

Is it weird for you to ask for *and* to receive help from others?

Feeling out of place in your new position at work, like you don't deserve it?

Being seen is always uncomfortable; that's why we tend to hide our gifts, rather than share them openly and often.

But positive discomfort can also be a sign of growth and good changes happening, if you know what to look for.

Watch this week's 10-minute Love Letter, the final installment in our 4-week exploration of the Power of Positive Community, to harness the healing power of Evolutionary Visibility in your life and business!

"Sometimes I feel like I don't belong."

This is our fourth and final week of a deep dive into the power of positive community. So if you haven't seen the previous installments, I highly recommend them. Stop, go back, and watch them on YouTube, or on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com.

This week, for our fourth and final installment, where we're going to land the plane of our journey through the power of positive community is what happens when you actually are in positive community, what you can expect. And it is ... Drum roll please, evolutionary visibility.

Evolutionary visibility. It is so powerful, and this phrase came straight from my guides. I've tried to read more on it, and I haven't really heard of it. So you heard it here first.

Evolutionary visibility is the true essence and power of being in positive community.

Last week we covered the lions and the kittens, right? Where's your mindset at? And we covered the concept of the lioness who grew up around cats, so that finally when she was come of age and fully-formed, it was a bit of a surprise and a shock feeling completely out of space.

What would happen if she finally got around a pride of lions? This is where we're going this week in particular. Are we ready for it? So evolutionary visibility is the experience of others seeing you as your true self, your higher self, and because of that, they hold you to that standard and call that out of you.

And with all of that support around you, you evolve into your full and highest self.

It takes two parts, however. When we are first the lioness, that grew up around cats and kittens, we have a certain self image of ourself. We are a cat. We are a kitten, yes? And then when we get around lions, there's this fear, a sense of, I don't belong.

Maybe you have experienced this in your business because you've enrolled in group coaching or you joined a networking group or association. Or maybe you moved your business to a more premium area. Or you may have even rebranded at a higher vibration, right?

And there's this kind feeling that you have where "I'm a fraud. I'm a fraud. I am not what that says I am. I am not what you say I am. I am not what the branding and those ... I'll never be enough. I'll never be enough."

That fraud and not enough-ness, our inner-achiever, comes out with a vengeance, especially when we're growing.

This is a sign of growing pains, however. And especially if you're feeling discomfort. It's extra important for you to be surrounded by lions who will champion you and celebrate you in your power and say, "Yeah. Bring out those claws. Yeah, let your mane shake out.

You're brilliant. You're gorgeous. You're fabulous. You're an expert. You're the best of the best." Those type of cheerleaders and champions cause us to evolve. They're like a mirror, a cosmic mirror. All brilliant loving people are cosmic mirrors, and when they stand in front of you, they reflect your greatness back to you.

With that, the power of positive community is allowing yourself to be seen in that light. There's an element of vulnerability that comes being seen as brilliant. If you think of the light, like the lamp back there, when you first turn a light on, there's a bit of an adjustment in your eyes, if you're sensitive to light.

Know this: All brilliant, loving people are Cosmic Mirrors. When they stand in front of you, they reflect your #greatness back to you. Allow yourself to be seen as brilliant by your #positive community.

Or even especially if you've been in the dark for so long. It hurts at first, but then you adjust.

That pain is the opening of your eyes, the relaxing of your ocular muscles to allow for more light to flood in. The same thing happens to us emotionally and mentally when we open up about our life purpose, or we open up around, this is what I really want to focus on, or this is who I really am.

There's a vulnerability in that opening. But when you're around positive community, if and when you open vulnerably, it is powerful. And those cosmic mirrors of those loving people will reflect back to you the brilliance that you are. Your mindset may be a couple light years behind you, but if you stick around that positive community long enough, you will adjust and relax into your greatness.

So this week in particular, the guides are asking you to bring more evolutionary visibility into your life. Being safe and vulnerable and open in your brilliance and in your power, and because others are reflecting that and championing it and celebrating it in you, you can evolve and step fully into it.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. It's the fairies. Healing With the Fairies by Doreen Virtue. Okay. And I'm always accepting donations if you have an oracle card deck that you would love to donate to the dojo, go to my "About Me" page. There's a "Give Back" link, and there's all the information that you'd like for donating. Thank you, by the way, in advance.

Fairies, what do we need to know right now about evolutionary visibility and positive community? Stepping into our greatness and positive community. Don't shuffle anymore, they said. Ooh. New opportunity. This is where we're going to leave off for this week. Really exciting.

So the fairies are bringing forward a card that says, "You have, within one degree of separation of you ... " Moi, right here. "You are directly connected to the opportunity of stepping into positive community and evolutionary visibility being in that community." Are you aware of that? Be on the lookout. There is a new opportunity coming your way to be part of a next level positive community. A next level space and group of people who see you and celebrate you in your power and in your brilliance.

I highly recommend that you go and check out my visionary shaman circle at victoriawhitfield.com/jointhetribe. Go there, read through it. That is the next level tribe that we have here at the dojo of lions and lionesses who are championing you in your high vibrational presence.

But what's your new opportunity that's coming through? What positive community are you going to commit to join? Is it my Visionary Shaman Circle?

Go ahead and send me an email back or comment below what comes up for you around this. Do you want to be held in that brilliant space of evolutionary visibility? Curious to hear it.

So that's it for this week's Love Letter video, and for our four week deep dive on the power of positive community. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letter videos first every week.

And remember, if there's any way that I can help you balance your mind, body, and business, just let me know at victoriawhitfield.com/contact.

We'll see you there. Bye.

(Original post 04/23/2018)

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Second-guessing taking a certain positive action in your business?

Worried that you’ll screw it up, “like you always do”?

Have you just accepted that most of your friends, family or colleagues have a negative or pessimistic outlook on life?

It’s not easy being the creative and energy-sensitive black sheep.

And if you don’t have a positive high-vibe community to encourage and nourish you, you can end up stuck more often than not in your life and business.

Watch this week’s 11-minute Love Letter video, the third in our 4-week exploration of the Power of Positive Community, to leverage the Universal Law of Association!

"What's wrong with me?"

This is week three, it's our third installment of the four week deep dive on the power of positive community. And this week in particular we really want to take some time to clarify the power of the love association.

When I was journeying on the topic for this week's love letter video my guides said that it's time for us to really talk about universal laws and start understanding them on deeper levels. We'll be covering more universal laws as the year goes on together.

But for this week in particular let's talk about the law of association.

I briefly covered it in the first of our four week deep dive so if you haven't seen that yet, go ahead and pause this video and go back on YouTube to re-watch that or go back on the blog at victoriawhitfield.com. But for this week let's talk about the universal law of association.

And this basically states that you are and your reality is the sum total and median, the common denomination between the five people and five realities that you spend the most time with and around. You're the median of the five people that you listen to the most.

Your bank account and your income is the median of the five incomes and bank accounts that you are the most exposed to or the closest related to. The law of association basically means that in groups we find harmony.

The inverse is to say in general, it's harder to stick out and go against the grain. In nature things tend to find harmony.

And so to illustrate this, I wanted to speak to those of you in the tribe and especially you who's watching who feel like the black sheep. We talked about that earlier this month. So if you've been feeling like a black sheep it's important for you to see exactly what's going on here.

It's not that everyone around you is crazy or everyone around you's wrong. Or conversely that there's something wrong with you. What's wrong with me? No, no, no. You're just cut from a different thread. You have different DNA.

To illustrate this my guide sent me a visual to convey what it essentially looks like.

In that you are a lioness. Or you're a lion. However, as a cub you grew up with cats. So rather than out hunting zebra and enjoying all the space, laying out in the sun and going wherever you please proudly like a lion and being ferocious when needed but soft when else. You grew up with cats and so cats hide. They hide to make sure that they stay safe. They pile together to keep warm. They like to fit into small spaces so that they can feel as safe and protected and small and compact as possible. And cats also more often than not are domesticated. So when they see humans they either feel frightened or they want to be pet and touched.

So can you imagine what the mindset of a lion would be if since she was a cub she grew up around cats?

First her cub ages, she's same size as everyone and hiding and keeping safe maybe even suckling on other mama cats because she was small enough to suckle alongside the kittens. And eventually then she's grown into full lioness where she tries to sit and fit into boxes that she can't fit anymore. Or if a zebra or antelope comes she runs and takes off rather than doing her natural duty as a lioness to eat. That's food, it's not a threat. Or even people. Oh snuggling with them rather than seeing them as prey. The mindset of a kitten or a cat is inside of this lion.

Has this happened to you in your business? Or even in your life? Where, although you were born with the DNA of a lion, you've grown up and surrounded yourself with cats. Who play small and stay small to stay as safe and controlled as possible.

Never let out ferociousness or if they do it's in a short burst and only to a few things. Most things aren't prey to cats. Certainly not on the lion's level. Be kind to yourself if you've been playing small because you have a mindset that's coming from the wrong DNA.

Know this: You are cut from a different cloth: you are a lion. 🦁 So stop acting like a scaredy-cat! 😿

This week in particular the guides are asking you to tune into where you are associating yourself. If you are a lion deep within you, you know it, how many lions are you running with? Can you look to your right and look to your left and see other powerhouses? Forces of nature.

Or when you look to your right and look to your left everyone says you're crazy or you're being too much. You're too big. You're too big. Even though you can't help it. It's your DNA.

Be on the lookout for that. And also be on the lookout for where the lions are. If you're ready to come out more and to invoke more of your bigger presence, go where the lions are. This is where I'm hearing the oracle cards calling and the energy around our understanding of the law of association.

Let's get a little bit closer so that you can see the detail of the cards when I pull them.

It's Healing With the Fairies by Doreen Virtue one of the many oracle card decks that we have here at the dojo. So fairies, what do we need to know right now about the law of association?

And having permission to play big and be lions and lionesses? Ooo, hello. Ooo. Beauty. The fairies are bringing the beauty card forward and this is where we're going to leave off for the week.

In self image. How you care for yourself, seeing how she's combing her hair, how you care for yourself creates how you see yourself. And if your self care is on a cat of kitten level even though your DNA is of the lion and lioness, you are going to recreate an image of yourself as small. And to associate with others who are on that same level.

However, if you know that your DNA is at a higher level, on the lioness level taking this illustration, if you know it's on a higher level it's time for you to up level your self care so that you are treating yourself as a lion.

It starts with you. Your self image matters. So that when you come around other lions you recognize huh, we're the same. We have the same DNA rather than thinking, "ooo, you're a little bit too big for me."

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Work on your own perspective so that you can see yourself in your lion presence rather than just as your cat or kitten presence.

Is this resonating for you? What comes up? Go ahead and type in the comments below or send me an email back. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letter first every week and remember, if you need help balancing your mind, body and business just let me know over at victoriawhitfield.com/contact and we'll see you soon. Bye.

(Original post 04/16/2018)

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Is your email inbox overwhelming you?

Does the energy of your social media newsfeed bring you down?

Are negative news and stressful business reports literally making you sick to your stomach?

Be kind to yourself: you're an empath and you need better boundaries to protect your energy.

Not all entrepreneurs are created equal; some of us need to unplug in order to be productive.

Watch this week's 8-minute Love Letter video, the second in our 4-week exploration of the Power of Positive Community, to embrace the healing power of unplugging and unsubscribing!

"I don't know where all of this negativity is coming from."

This is week two of four in our new deep dive on the power of positive community. This week in particular the guides want you to know it's time for you to unsubscribe from negativity.

It's time for you to unsubscribe from negativity.

Info diet, in the words of Tim Ferriss, writer of The 4-Hour Workweek and how he simplified his life by streamlining things brilliantly. My guides this week in particular are asking that you have the courage to hit the unsubscribe button, or the unfollow button. Instead of hitting buttons, in your interpersonal life, remove yourself from negative sources of information and experience.

It's really, really important for you to feel vigilant around your intake. If you're watching this video, chances are that you are an empath, which means you pick up ambient emotional data by default. No one has to clue you in on to what is the emotional status of the room or what's the temperature of the crowd or what's going on from other people. You don't even have to ask. You can feel it.

And in fact, the dark side of being an empath is you absorb. You absorb energy. Sometimes even in your body. If someone else has a stomach ache, then you have a stomach ache, too because it just leaps right into you.

Know this: ‪Being an #empath in #business makes you a great communicator. However, if you lack #healthy boundaries and self-care, your empathic sense can drain your energy or even harm you. Be kind to yourself.

With love, that's a sign that you have a lack of healthy boundaries and self-care. I call that spiritual hygiene. Be kind to yourself if that's the situation for you. In psychology, they call that codependent.

When we're codependent, we have a hard time saying no because we depend on the things that we latch onto for our identity. If that's the case, we're subscribing and subscribing, and maybe as an entrepreneur or business owner you've been networking and to be nice, you allow people to just add you on to their email lists or so-and-so in your family keeps posting on Facebook all of this heavy, heavy, heavy reports and angry stuff. And because this is so-and-so in your family, you haven't unfollowed them.

This week in particular it's time to take a stand for your energetic health, your mental health and well being by unsubscribing and unplugging from sources of negativity.

But first and foremost, you've got to be vigilant on what your intake is. Before you even get to the point of unsubscribing, some of you may already think, "Oh yeah, spring cleaning. Read it. Thank you for permission." And to those of you who are ready, mwah. But to those of you who are like, "I don't know where all of the negativity is coming from," maybe this week in particular, you're just becoming vigilant and aware, becoming mindful of, "Huh whenever I talk to this person or hang out with this group, I feel drained afterward. Whenever I read this newspaper or visit this website and read through or watch the videos, I feel more anxious or even a little bit more heavy, depressed, and tired." Start monitoring your information intake.

In nutrition, they say you are what you eat. The same goes for your mindset.

How can you expect to have an abundant mindset when everyone and everything around you that you're taking in is talking about lack, fear, struggle, and it's hard, etc., etc.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy to completely counteract that. Let me come in a little bit closer. It's the fairies. Healing with the fairies, we're gonna be journeying with all month.

So happy to be with you fairies. And I'm curious, fairies, elementals, guides, what do we need to know right now about unplugging from negativity? Ooh. Yeah, buddy. This is where we're going to leave off for the week.

Raise your standards. Absolutely. Raising your standards. Gorgeous card. The fairies are letting you know that you're not stepping back or shrinking down. Instead this is a statement that you have raised your standard for how you are treating your mind by making sure that you're clear and deliberate around what you put into it. Raise the standard of the type of emails that you desire to read.

Raise the standard of the type of phone calls that you desire to receive. Raise the standard of the type of people that you desire to be around, and raise the standard for the way that people should be treating you, regardless of who they are or where they come from.

That comes from you. The standard is always set by you. And it's time to raise your standards by unplugging from negativity.

So, comment below. Send me an email back. If you've got this on the love letters list. Let me know what's come up for you.

This is meant to be a conversation, a two-way street. And remember, if there is any way I can help in your business balancing mind, body, and business for you, just let me know.

You can go to VictoriaWhitfield.com/contact and reach out there. For now, that's it for this week, and we'll see you next time. Bye.

(Original post 04/09/2018)

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Think you’re not enough?

Worried that your vision, goal or purpose is just plain too big for you to achieve?

Feeling like you’re in over your head and have way too much on your plate right now?

You’re right.

And it’s time to transform our Devil’s Advocate into our greatest cheerleader!

Watch this week’s 10-minute Love Letter video, the third installment in our 5-week series on transitioning “From Me to We”, to find the love and power in being not enough.

"I just don't feel like I can do it all anymore."

So this week is week three of five of our five week deep dive into transitioning from a me mindset to the we mindset, right?

We are called to exponential growth and impact in the world. And in order to make that happen, we have got to transition from the me mindset to the we mindset. And that's what we're focusing on this series in particular.

So if you have missed the first two weeks, go ahead, stop now. Go back on YouTube. Put in Sensei Victoria Whitfield Love Letters and subscribe there so that you can stay up to date and see them first every single week.

Without further ado, this week's topic is a bit counterintuitive, because you know I love you. And my guides are telling me to speak from the shadow and honor a truth that may sound painful yet strangely familiar to hear. You ready for it? You are not enough. You are not enough.

Now, let's predicate this. I understand that we've been going through a tough time before. I've had bouts of depression in my life. Absolutely. I'm a creative person. We have depression, right? Now just one. We have several, naturally. It's part of that creative process, right?

Phoenix is only phoenix if it can rise from those fired ashes. So I understand that this may be a phrase that you've been ... in the back of your head thousands, perhaps hundreds of thousand or millions of times to yourself. I hope not every day, but certainly over the course of the week, month, year, or your lifespan, telling ourselves "I am not enough," is usually our disempowering story, our self sabotage and self disempowerment story. Usually tends to have the title I Am Not Enough.

However, this week in particular, your guides, our guides, the tribe's guides want us to know that you're right! You are not enough. And why that is correct, this week in particular is because the vision, the desire, that you have received from your higher self is so much bigger than only your two hands can hold, right?

So to give you an example of the fact that I am not enough right now. Let's make this concrete. This is our pen jar here at the dojo, and in it is about 21 pens. Now, I have one of my hands, 21 pens. And I'm like, my hand is like stretched. I have little hands. I can hold 21 pens. Alright! And if I had times two, right, a second handful of 21 pens, that would be 42. Yay math. 42 pens, right?

And so, my limit on how much I can comfortably hold, right, of how many pens, or if you're watching as a business owner, how many clients, or how many employees. Or if you're watching and you don't quite have a business just yet, this is how many things you can juggle in a given day. Alright, 21, 42.

What if my vision is calling me to hold onto 420 pens? Now, I'm creative, right, I'd probably stuff some into my bra, or my like scarf, and like try and balance on my head, but I wouldn't be able to hold 420 pens, which is 10 times my absolute capacity. This shows that I am not enough to be able to realize the holding of 420 pens or the 10x of my current state.

So that means as a person, I am not enough, or I'm not a good person. Nope. That just means in order to receive the 10x of what I have right now or to receive the fullness of my desire, it's time to transition from it just being me holding all the pens, right?

Now this is a very small scale example of something that you may be going through right now, especially if you're a control enthusiast, yes. Mwah if that's you. Be kind to yourself if you like things done the way you like things done. Yeah. I'm right there with you. And we gotta stop that. Hashtag stop that. You're not enough.

My guides also told me that this mindset, the I'm not enough, I'm not enough, I'm not enough, as a disempowering story comes from learning conditional love and approval of ourselves. So this is extremely deep rooted.

If only just for now, decide that your lovability, your worthiness, your approval is without question and unconditional. Let's take you're not enough as a disempowering story off the table, and instead, reframe it as "Yeah. I'm not enough. I have got to bring on more support. I am excited to bring on more support and to link arms with my support tribe."

And now I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy that we've been journeying with all month. Let me come in a wee bit closer. Life Purpose Oracle Cards by Doreen Virtue, one of the I don't know how many, 20 something, I don't know, decks that we have here at the dojo.

Angels, what do we need to know right now about embracing the positive side of I am not enough. Huh. Couldn't get any better. Here we go. Let go. Let go. Walk away from the situation in order to resolve it.

So this is like the delegator's mantra. Let go. Let go. Walk away. Take your hands off of the computer, and let the person who's better qualified to do it, do it. So good. Be kind to yourself if you have trouble letting go. This week, you're being called to walk away from it. Hashtag stop that.

So go ahead, post in the comments below what's coming up for you hearing all of this? Oh my goodness, is this great news or is this I officially cannot stand you news?

And please remember, if there's any way I can be of service, right, or if you need help balancing your mind, body, and spirit of letting go of the things that you've been holding onto, go ahead and reach out. Just let me know at VictoriaWhitfield.com/contact.

Okay, so that's it for this week. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you'll get these love letters first every week, and I'll see you for the next installment of our series.

Bye.

Know this: When you tell yourself you are not enough, you’re right! And I explain why that’s a GOOD thing!

(Original post 05/14/2018)

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Make a list of what you are doing in your life and business that is slowing down your ability to live your divine purpose.

And talk to someone about helping you with that list or even taking it totally off your hands.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Are you really good at doubting yourself?

Always putting yourself down so no one else can, or to make others feel comfortable?

Waiting for the other shoe to drop, so you’re prepared when it does?

Over time we convince ourselves to be careful about not getting to happy or positive, because it leaves us more vulnerable when things don’t work out.

But sometimes this negative mindset takes the ball and runs with it, making sure we are next to never happy, so that we are always feeling “safe.”

Watch this week’s 12-minute love letter video, the third in our four-part Deep Dive on the Power of Loving Yourself, to discover how to start releasing our addiction to negative self talk.

"I'm not smart enough."

This week is week three of our four week deep dive into loving yourself. The power of loving yourself. Knowing how to build self love enables you to love others in a big way, and that's why we're talking about this.

You already want to show up and service, and give big in life. And we're here talking about exactly how to support you doing that for the long haul, by learning how to fill your cup, first and foremost.

So last week we talked about loving your body. And exactly how to take something that you don't like, and use that as inspiration to share love with yourself.

This week, we're talking about loving your mindset. Loving your mindset. Negative self talk ... Negative, fatalistic, perspective is super killer. The reason why it's killer is because negative mindset cuts your dreams off at the conceptual level, before they can even make it out of gestation, and the manifestation, and out in fruition here.

Out in physical reality. Before they can even get that far, at the conceptual level, negative mindset cuts them all off. The vision that I get from my guides is just someone coming and cutting all of the roses off of rosebushes as the buds are trying to come out.

So be kind to yourself, if your mindset is what's holding you back.

What it would look like if that has been happening to you, is that you're surrounded by all the resource that you could possibly need. Right, you have people that want to help. People are capable of supporting you. You're surrounded by all these great groups, where they have ideal clients of yours.

But because, up here you're saying, "I'm too fat. I'm not smart enough. Nobody will pay for that. No one will love me, I'm not lovable. I'm not enough, I'm not worthy. I'm not really supposed to be in business." All my entrepreneurs, I'm talking to you. Because mindset is everything in business.

But to all those who are leaders and caregivers in your own right, the healers out there. We stop ourselves from sharing our light. Or if we're talking in business terms, we stop ourselves from sharing our gifts, our work.

The wonderful services, or products and visions that we've created to make life easier, brighter, better for others. And we keep cutting those roses off before they can even bloom in our mindset we cut it off at conception. And you want to be kind to yourself.

If that's you, it's time to shine more love into your mindset. And the way that you have a more loving mindset, is to have an abundant mindset.

A mindset and a mental state, a point of view, that has abundance. And the assumption of abundance, as its foundation. Rather than the assumption of lack, or struggle, or competition, etc. holding you down. And that being your assumption of what's behind what's going on around you.

If we can get your mind right, if we can love your mindset. Shine more love, send more healing energy to your mindset. Honestly this week can change your life completely. Because Tony Robbins brilliantly says that, "The biggest resource is resourcefulness."

So if you're able to get your mind right, where you see that you have everything that you need. And you see that you have permission to utilize and mobilize everything that you need, for the greatest good. Not only your greatest good, but the greatest good of all. We all win.

So we want to have an abundance mindset. And abundant mindset is one that is based on faith, and positive expectation. It assumes universal abundance. The lack mindset, which is the opposite, is based on fear. And it assumes that negative things are coming.

That there's going to be more trouble. There's always something to do, there's always another fire to put out. The fear mindset of waiting for the other shoe to drop. And my guide said, the mantra for this week in particular, is going to come from embracing distraction.

Know this: The antidote to rampant negative self-talk is instead the cultivation of an #abundant mindset.

So, a natural part of life in general, is that you're going to get distracted. But there's one way to let distraction rule you from a fear mindset, and another way of looking at distraction as fuel. Fearing, or fueling you. Making you fearful, or making you feel fueled by this distraction.

And here it is ... So this is a reframe. The same way that we reframed last week, loving your body. Seeing the parts that you hate the most and saying to them directly, "Okay, this is my opportunity to love myself. I love you anyway." And challenging that self hatred, and using it instead as an opportunity for love. This week, we're going to use distraction as another opportunity to love yourself.

The next time you're feeling distracted ... And this is probably going to happen when you're avoiding some responsibility. Or maybe when you're just getting overwhelmed, and there's not enough awareness of your own boundaries. The next time you're feeling distracted, the mantra of the week is, breathe into the distraction.

Deep breath in, breathe into the distraction. Breathe into the distraction, breathe into the distraction. Deep breath in. Now this is loving to yourself in a myriad of ways. One, on a physical level it oxygenates your blood, which cleanses all of the physical systems of your body via the circulatory system. So we're building on last week's loving your body. But also, this is loving your mindset by helping you slow down and become present, and embrace the distraction as your training partner.

Now, it's important to see distraction, and things that would challenge your mindset, as a training partner. Because training partners are there to train you up. They're there to make you stronger, through resistance training. You have to push against it. And in the pushing against it, you become stronger in the process.

So the next time you have a client that sends you a text, or an email, or a call ... Throws you a curve ball. Breathe into the distraction. Deep breath in. Versus, "Oh my God, what am I gonna do?" Nourish yourself in that moment, breathe against it.

Assume that this is working out for you. Something good is about to happen. We're breathing into the distraction to prepare for something good that's about to happen. This is a challenge, it's easier said than done.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the week to encourage us on our path. This deck of the week is angels of abundance, oracle cards deck. Thank you Julie Shopa, clarityfinances.com. She donated this lovely deck to the dojo. Thank you goddess. So let's check this out...

Angels, what do we need to know this week in particular, about loving our mindset? Beautiful, this is so juicy: Partnership.

Allow helpful, supportive partnerships into your personal life and career, and both parties benefit as a result. You are receiving help from heaven, and from a person who brings needed skills and resources. So this is super powerful, and this is where we're going to leave off this week.

If you're watching this, chances are you are a leader, manager, caregiver, healer of some sort, you're an entrepreneur and business owner. Partnering. There's this thing where amazing leaders think, "I can do it all by myself. I do things better by myself." No, breathe into the distraction. Something good is about to happen.

When these people are in your life, you've got to become resourceful, and look for the positive aspects.

As I work with teams and help them to heal together, we celebrate the diversity of opinions, and personalities, and viewpoints. We celebrate that, because that means we have diverse ways of problem solving, rather than just doing everything the same way, one way.

If you look at nature, we have biodiversity. And that what makes nature so powerful, and so strong, is that diversity of opinion. Allow others to help you. But breathe into the resistance that you may have this week in particular, to receiving that help, or that partnership.

Send me an email back, comment below. What's coming up for you around having an abundant mindset, and receiving help.

This is like ... I'm hearing bombs going off, and the energy.

Some people are like, "NO, no." So be kind to yourself if that's you. Breathe into the distraction. Something good is about to happen.

So make sure that you subscribe on YouTube, so you get your love letter videos every week. And I'll see you soon. Bye.

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Breathe in to the distraction to open up your mindset.

When you feel scattered, anxious or triggered, PAUSE and take a deep, cleansing breath.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Do you feel like you're called to support others?

Are you a leader or manager in your home or your organization?

Wish you had the energy to serve more people?

This month, we're going to talk about exactly what resource can fuel you for the long-haul continuing to show up in service.

That resource, that essential nutrient is: loving yourself.

Watch this week's 12-minute Love Letter video to find out exactly WHY loving yourself is the key to truly loving others.

"I'm always the one giving advice."

This month I'm so excited to get to share with you the next deep dive topic that we're going to be going through over the next four weeks together.

As you know, my guides have said that it's time that you and I continue to have a deeper relationship and probe deeper into the perks of life together so that we can have more intimate bond and better understand each other as well as ourselves, so that we can lift up our communities and our clients together in the process.

So this month's deep dive topic is loving yourself.

Loving yourself.

Now, I'm sure that you've heard about loving yourself from so many people and different teachers, different books, that you may have gone through.

But loving yourself is a powerful, powerful, powerful nutrient that fuels the greatest healers and leaders, period.

If you are called to serve others, right, to take care of others, to make sure that they're okay and support the community, support your clients, support your family, that means that you are a leader and that you are a healer.

And you know what it's like to love others. You're used to it. You're really accustomed to being that loving presence, that supportive presence to others and that's beautiful.

Also it can get draining. It can get so draining when you're always being the strong one.

You're the one giving the advice, the support, dishing out the transformation, the information, the coordination, all the things, you being the anchor.

What happens sometimes is that in the course of being service-oriented, right? We show up to serve. We show up to give. It's so generous. It's so powerful.

What happens sometimes is that we forget that we need. The one who is serving and supporting the tribe, whatever your tribe looks like, don't forget we also need to fill our cup.

So we're going to take the next four weeks to cover exactly how to begin loving yourself. Now more than ever my guides say you've got to hear this message and the people that you support need you to love yourself.

If you know me very well. You know that my number one muse and mentor is RuPaul, the drag queen. RuPaul, I love him, I love him from the bottom of my heart.

He taught me how to love myself and his phrase, his mantra is, "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love anybody else?"

Can I get an amen? Everyone's like, Amen, yes. Yeah, I love RuPaul. I love you, I love you, I love you. If you ever see this, thank you. You've changed my life.

With that, every single healer and every single leader has got to have a regular practice of self-love and taking care of yourself.

As is the custom here at the Dojo, we start with why so we're going to go through different, exactly how processes. You know that I dish out homework. Here just for today is what you're going to do. That's who I am. I'm a teacher at heart. That's what we do, right?

With that, we want to make sure that you start with why so that you understand exactly what's the fuel behind loving yourself because if you don't understand what's the fuel, what's the inspiration, what's the motivation behind loving yourself, you're not going to do it.

You're not. It's just going to go to the bottom or not even catch the task list. It's not even going to be on the back burner. It's just going to get thrown out the window or in the trash can, your self-love, your self-care.

Now I believe in starting with why and those of you who are watching who love Simon Sinek, I'm sure you're feeling me.

The reason why it's time for you to love yourself is because you're a healer and because you're a leader, because you're the caregiver. The reason why you're going to love yourself and learn how to do it on a whole new level this month in particular is because you're called to support others.

The vision that the guides send to illustrate this why is that you're here quenching others' thirst. There are people who are thirsty for what you have got.

Maybe you have incredible advice. Maybe you're a fantastic cook. Maybe you're a beautiful and profound listener. Perhaps no one delegates and coordinates better than you. You're the best person to organize people, right? You're a people person.

Or perhaps you're a Mom or a Dad, and you're the one taking care of your kids. You've got to lead them and love them and teach them so that they can grow and feel safe as wholly grounded and well-rounded human beings.

So as you are called to be the leader, to show up to give, you're quenching these people's thirst with the energy that you are giving constantly, constantly quenching your thirst.

How much water do you drink each day? There's so much body that our bodies need. We're above 70% made of water. If you're the one quenching the thirst, how do you do that? How do you get water?

Let's do it on a mundane level before we take it to the illustration level. How do you get water to bring it to someone? You get a cup, you know, you get a cup, you go over to a faucet of some sort and you bring the cup to them and say, "Here" or you help them.

So, you see what happened right there? You had a cup, brought it over to the faucet or you had a pitcher and brought it over to the faucet, some sort of source of water, and then you went to offer them the cup or to pour them a drink.

This is the illustration behind why it's time for you to love yourself, the guides are sending to you. It's very simple. We don't do things complex here. The simpler, the better and the faster you can implement, the more you can integrate it.

Know this: The people that you support need you to love yourself.

The self-love comes in having the faucet. If you were to pour someone a cup of water, you wouldn't take your boob and squirt them out like, oh my God, or you wouldn't try and cry into a cup so that they could drink your tears or any other of your fluids or blah.

Unless you're a Mom, you're giving your breast milk to your baby, but typically you don't offer of yourself in order to quench others' thirst. You go to the water source, right?

This is the illustration of what loving yourself is so that you can continue to show up in service. Fill your cup first, fill your pitcher first before you go out and serve others. By the way, once you have your water source, you can serve people more of the time.

You can serve more people more of the time in a sustainable ongoing way. This is why its time for you to learn how to love yourself and find your love resource so that you can continue to fill up and bring more, and fill up and bring more.

So that you're pouring from abundance rather than from lack.

Now, I'm hearing the Oracle Cards calling for the week. It is The Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards, my favoritest, favorite deck. Thank you, Doreen Virtue for making this. And thank you to Success Express that originally Bonnie and Susan, they originally donated it.

Goddesses, what do we need to know right now about loving ourselves? Why? Show us why.

Oh, this is so good. Damara, guiding children. You are good at helping, counseling and healing children. Use your skills to help children now.

So my guides are taking me, so on one level, yes, we're talking to those of you who are parents and teachers.

Loving yourself, you need the strength to be able to hold space for the children that you are taking care of, that demand an extremely high amount of your energy, your investment, your time, your love. And you want to be there for the kids, and take excellent care of them.

But on another level my guides are taking me to those who are entrepreneurs, leaders and managers, where you are guiding the inner child or those who are under your care.

You are good at helping, counseling and healing others, and you want to care for those who are in your charge at the same level that a loving parent would take care of their children. Your employees are your children. Your clients are your children.

You want to protect them and love on them at the same level that you would for your children but in order to do that, in order to get the strength that you need, you've got to have that source of energy.

This month, we're going to show you exactly how to get that.

So go ahead and comment below. Send me an email back.

What's coming up for you seeing this card and this topic? Do you feel that this topic is timely?

Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week and we'll see you next time. Bye. See you soon.

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Fill your cup first.

Do something loving for yourself that energized you BEFORE you go to serve and support others.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Are you having a hard time recognizing, respecting and communicating your own personal boundaries to others?

Wondering why you always end up being the only one giving or trying to make things work in relationships?

Disappointed that your partner or coworkers never pick up the slack when you need them to?

Spirit wants you to know that there has to be a clear line in the sand for you between what you're willing to put up with in life and what you want.

The energy this week wants to discuss why we let ourselves -- as well as the people in our lives -- get away with highway robbery overstepping boundaries.

Watch the above 16-minute video to make sure the something that’s got to give isn’t your sense of personal wellbeing!

"But if I don't do anything, nothing gets done..."

Why do we allow ourselves to feel day after day drained, exhausted, unfulfilled, sad, frustrated, anxious, and holding repressed anger?

Source is saying that something's got to give if we keep this up because the universe is in a constant state of motion.

What does that mean? The way that nature works is that she's in constant growth and decomposition.

There's this constant cycle of expansion through shedding the old layers; just watch how a tree grows if you want to see it. NASA even reported that they recently confirmed that the universe is expanding—just like you. Why? Because that is nature. How does that apply?

Here it is: In any given situation in life, if you don't give in, something else will or if something else won't give in, you have to. Something has got to give, always.

This applies specifically to boundaries: how you lay out your boundaries, or standards rather, in life. Not only how you lay them out, but also whether or not you truly honor them in the way that you interact with people.

Be kind to yourself if you're the someone that's usually giving, rather than allowing the circumstance or the other players involved to be the someone or something that has got to give to you.

What does that look like? Well let me gender this for a moment, and talk to the ladies.

Oftentimes women will give wonderful, colorful excuses.

Excuse after excuse about why they shouldn't express what they're really thinking because they’ll say to themselves “oh I'm going to get in trouble,” “oh someone is going to get angry,” “oh I'm going to get fired” or “oh they're going to leave me,” right?

There's millions of excuses to maintain this status of silence.

But, the truth is excuses are an avoidant protective measure designed to create an artificial sense of control over where we're at, emotionally and energetically speaking. 

Rather than staying open and expressing whatever needs to be expressed for whatever reason, we tell ourselves it doesn't matter.

However, what really matters most is how you're feeling in that moment.

Here’s why: if you're maintaining the silence for fear, the effects of this show up elsewhere, because something’s got to resolve or give in to confirming your sense of fear.

If we're holding that (false) sense of “safe silence,” the thing that's going to give is usually your sense of emotional support, bodily health, personal safety, relational health, financial health, right?

If we're not able to stay open, there will be things in your environment that will reflect your lack of openness.

Something has got to give. If you won't allow that authentic energy you’re feeling to flow through you, which is Source energy and the energy of honesty and truth, it's going to come out in a different way.

With women oftentimes our weight will reflect the inability to express our emotions, depending on the woman.

Whether it is not being able to hold on weight, so having eating disorders, or having excessive weight that just won't go away. If you don't give in, something else will.

Coping mechanisms are meant to psychologically block against that feeling of not being open, better known as a feeling of vulnerability, but blocking this feeling can have detrimental effects.

In fact, there's a universal law that applies here. The Universal Law of Causation: for every cause, there is an effect. Something always has to give; things don’t happen in a vacuum, all energy is responsive.

On the other side of the fence, I've seen men who are holding on to a past disappointment of guilt of failure and it will reflect in their bodies.

Hip tightness or a consistent tightness around the shoulders—this sense of restriction is the manifestation of guilt and disappointment that they're not able to let go of.

Why do men hold on? Often for pride, for honor... which is just pride. Telling ourselves “I was wrong and I should be punished,” so there is a series of punishments that come down to resolve this in life, indefinitely.

Unforgiveness and not being able to let go of the past can also have financial repercussions, believe it or not.

Know this: Not being able to let go of the past is a desire to not confront raw feelings within ourselves; & this can affect your #finances!

That avoidant behavior can show up in your finances in the form of other self-sabotaging behaviors: ignorance, impulsivity, mismanagement and lack mentality.

Think of it this way. If I can't confront that painful issue in the past, then I darn well can't look at what's going on my bank account or have a sense of personal mastery about that now! Be kind to yourself if that's you.

Something always has to give. You don't have to be the one that's incurring the repercussions of that fear, though.

You can give yourself permission to be free of always being The Giver, or the one who has to shrink, or bear the brunt of the pain, frustration, the effects.

Yes, you can choose to allow others to assume the responsibility for their actions.

So many times the most spiritual, sensitive people absorb the effects of others, because we want to protect them, love them, or because we’re so empathic that we can’t help ourselves.

You know, the psychological term for that is “enabling,” right?

We'll absorb the effects of others' behaviors because we think we're being responsible, doing our best.

We're trying here at Share Prices Australia to make sure everybody else feels comfortable, at the expense of our own physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health. Financial as well.

We'll just take it in because be think proudly “I can take it. You don't have to. You don't have to.”

It's a mistake to think that this is courageous. Instead you're just being a martyr.

We're not respecting the fact that we all have thresholds, telling ourselves over and over “I'm going to ignore this, I'm going to ignore my feelings. I'm going to ignore my dreams. I'm going to ignore my own energy for as long as I possibly can so I can push through to look...normal.”

You're doing a lot more harm than you think because it's going against Nature. In terms of our Nature, she is never static, she’s always flowing—something's got to give.

It may appear that you're holding back negativity from others but in actuality you’re inviting it in to your energy, and then only hiding from yourself.

Watch the video for this week’s oracle card, which shows you how to stop sabotaging your natural flow of wellbeing and abundance, by stopping this behavior pattern before you burnout!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Notice how you're enabling someone’s negative behavior or treatment of you by staying silent.

When you notice your silence as YOUR PART in enabling the situation, ask yourself “What could I have done to stop feeding that situation?”

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Wondering exactly how you can create a happy, healthy life, sooner rather than later?

Feeling anxious and unsafe, as if you're constantly worried that other people or circumstances are going to steal your joy?

Do you know that you need to have stronger boundaries to better protect your positive energy, but don’t know where to start?

When we as spiritual seekers, sensitives and empaths start exploring psychic self-defense, it’s usually because we’ve experienced being overwhelmed or drained energetically, and we want to protect ourselves from that happening again.

But protecting yourself is very different than shutting down or shutting everyone out; mastering your energy entails more than taking the “all or nothing” approach to spiritual and emotional energy management.

Watch the above 11-minute video to learn how balance protecting your energy WHILE staying open!

"My precious! My PRECIOUSSSS!” – Gollum"

Hi! Sensei Victoria with you here from victoriawhitfield.com for your weekly love letter. It's my last day in Negril, Jamaica at Jackie's on the Reef and this week we are picking up on last week’s discussion of protecting your joy.

It's very powerful to be in your joyful space, but you have to protect your joy.

What does that mean? The first image in the energy that I get from off of the Tribe is, "Well, you know, I'm not going to pay attention anybody else but me!" Whoa there!

We have an impulse to block out others, or to avoid all negative stuff. We go overboard, thinking: "I can't talk to that person, because they're crazy," or, "I can't go outside, because everyone's going to steal my joy."

Let's be clear. Protecting your joy doesn't mean isolating yourself.

To do so, as we said last week, the first step is to learn about what exactly is your joy and what it looks and feels like, second is to engage it actively throughout each day, and third is to apply your joy to counteract low-vibe situations and experiences.

Those three steps, Source is saying, are how you protect your joy, just by having an active engaging relationship with her.

You don't have to put her in a box and hide it in the corner, obsessing like Gollum "I'm protecting my joy! My precious, my precious is safe!" No, no, no, no, no.

The way that you protect your joy is by being with her, or being with him – however you gender your joy. (By the way, I prefer using gendered pronouns over the use of “it” because it person-alizes your relationship with each noun. Send me an email at SenseiVictoriaWhitfield@gmail.com if you want to know more.)

Now I'm hearing the Oracle cards for this week calling in the energy.

Whenever I travel I always have at least one oracle cards deck with me, and this one is Wisdom of The Hidden Realms by Colette Baron-Reid. It's a wonderful deck, very direct guidance, beautiful illustrations; I highly recommend it. This is a personal deck of mine, so I'm so happy to get to share this with you.

As always, to use oracle cards we first pray over the cards and ask Source, Spirit, and Nature to tell us what do we need to know, knowing that we are open to receiving guidance, and then we shuffle the cards.

I enjoy the fact that I am not the best shuffler ever; it doesn't have to be blackjack style and all that. It's a natural intuitive practice that is meant to be imperfect, and not a performance, lol!

The card that is coming through for this topic is “The Metal King.”

This is so appropriate, because he has to do with having and cultivating discipline, armor, and boundaries. Here’s the accompanying reading from the book:

The Metal King is strong and arrives to lend you his impenetrable shield of protection.

Protect your joy! Well, I wonder why the Energy has drawn out this card? What a "coincidence." 😉 By now, you should know there's no such thing as coincidence!

So let's read more:

No matter who sends you criticism or jealousy, you will not be hurt. This ally --

Oh, someone in the Energy just stopped me there. Those are another two things that tend to steal our joy: being preoccupied with other people's criticism and other people's jealousy.

Here’s the thing: if someone is critical of you, or jealous of you, that means that they notice you.

Let's just turn that around for a second. It's OK if someone is trying to be critical of you – we're not condoning their criticism if it is harmful – however, we have to notice something in this that could increase your joy.

Criticism and jealousy received means that you are doing something big and noteworthy.

Use this idea as your take-away from the criticism, instead of taking on their crap, and it can cultivate and increase your joy.

Think instead to yourself: "No, that's OK. I see that you see me, I see that you have an opinion. Go ahead over there with that. That has nothing to do with me, but I appreciate the fact that you are validating that I'm doing something big right now, or doing something noteworthy, whereas maybe you're not."

Oftentimes people criticize or feel jealous of us because they don't have the drive or the confidence enough to do what you're doing, and it speaks to the insecurity within them and tugs at it.

You're out shining brightly, whereas they're still hiding. Criticism and jealousy says more about the criticizer or the jealous person than you. So laugh, and let it go.

Let me continue the oracle card reading, then:

This ally also prompts you to think about setting healthy boundaries. When you do, no matter how uncomfortable that task may be, everyone benefits. He asks you to make sure you know where you end and others begin. Other's emotions are NOT yours.

By the way, that's a message straight to all of my empaths who are watching and reading right now: Other's emotions are not yours.

If you’re an empath, you may go out to places or speak to someone and then leave from them and still carry all of the energy and the emotion of that space. Let it go.

When you hold on to and analyze their energy in you, that's a waste of your time and energy, because our focus is on other people's problems that we're taking responsibility for emotionally and mentally.

Find a way to clear yourself, whether it's being outdoors, or taking a shower, or doing a mediation, writing in your journal, whatever your clearing ceremony is. If you need to know more techniques, then maybe email back or comment below, I'm happy to share.

The oracle card reading continues:

Other's emotions are not yours, no matter how empathetic you may be. Another of The Metal King's messages is to remind you how important it is to have a healthy sense of self-esteem. It is a good time to shine and be proud of what you have accomplished.

In the energy, Spirit is asking you to be clear about what self-esteem is for you.

That's a bit of an overused term, I'm hearing, so let's reword that as self-awareness: a loving self-awareness, not a self-consciousness with the negative connotation.

You do want to be conscious, but not shrinking, putting yourself down or hiding yourself with your self-awareness.

Instead, draw your eye inwardly and do what we said last week: write that list out of what makes you joyful and begin interacting actively with that list.

The act of writing that list is going to create clear boundaries organically for you, through self-knowledge. 

And self-knowledge is always empowering.

Know this: You don't have to shut people out in order to have healthy #boundaries.  On the contrary, being who you really are creates clear boundaries!

So many of us sensitive, loving, spiritual individuals have terrible boundary issues. I've been working on mine, so I'm included in this bunch – I am right there with you!

We want to help, we want to fix everybody, or we're so afraid of being overwhelmed by other's energy that we want to avoid everybody to the point where we just scream "I hate people!" and go lock ourselves away for a while, lol! You know?

Hey, I’ve been there, done that, got the t-shirt. But that's not the master path. Instead, that's letting your sensitivity, which is a gift from Spirit, run your life rather than embracing it and becoming more a partner in the experience of that energy.

Rather than being a slave to or a victim of your sensitivity, engage your joy, know your joy, and by doing so, you will protect your joy. And the earth needs ways more joy, way more.

I can feel the trees and the ocean and the coral reef down here at Jackie’s On The Reef in Negril, Jamaica agreeing, saying: "Send more joy! We're doing our best, but you're joy generators; it's very unique amongst humans.”

So, I'm curious to hear: what's your list of things that make you joyful? What are going to be the things that are non-negotiable that you feel are a daily prescription of things that make you happy?

Share them with your TRIBE here, so we can encourage each other. Share it on the Facebook group, Facebook.com/SenseiVictoriaWhitfield, or you can tweet me at Twitter.com/SenseiWhitfield, and I'm open to hearing what you would like to share.

Sending you a big hug and kiss, and I will see you next week, back in the States. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Just for Today...

Re-evaluate how you go about protecting your energy.

Ask yourself: "Am I just shutting people out and avoiding the energy off and on, or am I creating a consistent sense of emotional and energetic safety, balance and flow for myself?"

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want to protect your energy but don't know where to start? Tell me!

Give me a call at +1 (732) 903-8573 or click on the blue BOOK NOW button to start your healing journey, today!

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Struggling to stay positive?

Do you cover up feeling angry or depressed because you're known as "The Happy Person" or "The Strong One" and don't want to look like a fraud?

Feel like being positive is being fake, delusional or lying to yourself?

Everybody and their mother in the personal development, self-help and health and  wellness industries tell us to think positive as much as we can.

But what do we do when we feel fake and ungrounded in doing so? Or what happens if only looking at the positive causes communication problems?

Watch the above video to explore the three problems with positive thinking and how you can start living a more authentic life!

Fake it 'til you make it.

Many well-known authors and speakers, when trying to convey the power of positive thinking to readers and audiences for the first time, tend to suggest just pretending to be positive, if you can't quite feel it in the moment, to practice raising your mindset.

However, Spirit spoke this week about problems that arise with this kind of forced positive thinking over time, because it can create an unfortunate connection between being and feeling inauthentic with being and feeling positive.

Make no mistake: inauthenticity always puts a cap on your vibration and destabilizes your energy.

Why is this important to know right now? Because you're not stupid. 🙂 You can tell when the feeling is real and you can tell when it's fake.

The problem comes in when we maintain this practice of "faking it 'til you make it" as part of our routine, rather than using it as a quick, temporary stepping stone. What was meant to be an exercise to kick-start your mindset becomes part of your identity, and the effects of that are detrimental to your energy.

One of the effects of "faking it 'til you make it" is: it creates emotional limitations, instead of expansion.

Being super-positive and "blissed out" -- as the yoga tribe calls it -- all the time feels great and is addictive because of the emotional high it can give.

However, becoming addicted to this feeling can have an ungrounding effect on your emotions and your life, because other parts of reality (such as small but serious things that need to get done like, oh say, your taxes) tend to get silenced by the sheer force of your high vibes and high emotions.

Sometimes it's appropriate and even downright essential that you be able to tune into the darker side of life. Being open to engaging -- but not getting sucked into -- depression, anger, grief and other uncomfortable feelings is a necessary ingredient in being vulnerable in a healthy way (aka. emotionally accessible and available).

Another problem, therefore, with imbalanced positive thinking is that it can emotionally numb you.

Now, we are talking in an extreme sense, here; as in someone who refuses to see the negative or acknowledge that there are things that just aren't going right, because they are too scared to confront the truth head-on.

Many sensitive, spiritual and caring empathic people like us get into this head-space where we avoid (aka. refuse) acknowledging that there's a serious issue at hand that really "should" be addressed, because it doesn't fit within our positive, feel-good outlook.

Numbing yourself by stubbornly focusing on only the positive can, in some situations, numb you to receiving the spiritual guidance and development you need to move forward.

Be kind to yourself, because this isn't something that is not commonly talked about in the wellness and personal development industry. And by the way, this isn't an invitation to turn into a serial pessimist or steaming poo-flinging monkey. LOL!

What we are really honing in on here is being honest. Being honest with yourself, first, that is.

Honesty, experiencing and expressing it, is a throat and solar plexus chakra issue. It's about living your truth (solar plexus chakra) and being able to express it freely and appropriately (throat chakra).

Know this: Honesty is the key to living a balanced, healthy life for the long haul. #thinkpositive

It's about learning to ground your positive outlook, so you can develop the ability to Respond authentically, rather than React spontaneously, to your experiences.

Having an ungrounded or "airy-fairy" fake positive outlook is only the product of people-pleasing behavior.

Wanting to look relaxed and positive to others, and being and feeling positive yourself are two entirely different things.

The main difference between the two shows up in your behavioral patterns. Can you express disagreement or stand up for yourself with ease, or do you have to blow up before you speak up?

If you find yourself staying silent when you should stand up for yourself because you mainly focus on loving people and don't want to be confrontational, then this Love Letter is for you. Balance it out!

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which explains the spiritual issues behind why we can have problems with our positive thinking and what to do about it!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Just for Today...

Choose to be honest with yourself. On a piece of paper, write down a list of all the things you are tolerating or hiding so you can appear happy, positive and strong to others.

Then ask yourself, "how could I confront or release one of these issues with love so I can move forward to a healthier future?"

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want to learn to be authentically positive instead of faking it?

Give me a call at 732-903-8573 or click on the blue BOOK NOW button to start your healing journey, today!

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