Is your email inbox overwhelming you?

Does the energy of your social media newsfeed bring you down?

Are negative news and stressful business reports literally making you sick to your stomach?

Be kind to yourself: you're an empath and you need better boundaries to protect your energy.

Not all entrepreneurs are created equal; some of us need to unplug in order to be productive.

Watch this week's 8-minute Love Letter video, the second in our 4-week exploration of the Power of Positive Community, to embrace the healing power of unplugging and unsubscribing!

"I don't know where all of this negativity is coming from."

This is week two of four in our new deep dive on the power of positive community. This week in particular the guides want you to know it's time for you to unsubscribe from negativity.

It's time for you to unsubscribe from negativity.

Info diet, in the words of Tim Ferriss, writer of The 4-Hour Workweek and how he simplified his life by streamlining things brilliantly. My guides this week in particular are asking that you have the courage to hit the unsubscribe button, or the unfollow button. Instead of hitting buttons, in your interpersonal life, remove yourself from negative sources of information and experience.

It's really, really important for you to feel vigilant around your intake. If you're watching this video, chances are that you are an empath, which means you pick up ambient emotional data by default. No one has to clue you in on to what is the emotional status of the room or what's the temperature of the crowd or what's going on from other people. You don't even have to ask. You can feel it.

And in fact, the dark side of being an empath is you absorb. You absorb energy. Sometimes even in your body. If someone else has a stomach ache, then you have a stomach ache, too because it just leaps right into you.

Know this: ‪Being an #empath in #business makes you a great communicator. However, if you lack #healthy boundaries and self-care, your empathic sense can drain your energy or even harm you. Be kind to yourself.

With love, that's a sign that you have a lack of healthy boundaries and self-care. I call that spiritual hygiene. Be kind to yourself if that's the situation for you. In psychology, they call that codependent.

When we're codependent, we have a hard time saying no because we depend on the things that we latch onto for our identity. If that's the case, we're subscribing and subscribing, and maybe as an entrepreneur or business owner you've been networking and to be nice, you allow people to just add you on to their email lists or so-and-so in your family keeps posting on Facebook all of this heavy, heavy, heavy reports and angry stuff. And because this is so-and-so in your family, you haven't unfollowed them.

This week in particular it's time to take a stand for your energetic health, your mental health and well being by unsubscribing and unplugging from sources of negativity.

But first and foremost, you've got to be vigilant on what your intake is. Before you even get to the point of unsubscribing, some of you may already think, "Oh yeah, spring cleaning. Read it. Thank you for permission." And to those of you who are ready, mwah. But to those of you who are like, "I don't know where all of the negativity is coming from," maybe this week in particular, you're just becoming vigilant and aware, becoming mindful of, "Huh whenever I talk to this person or hang out with this group, I feel drained afterward. Whenever I read this newspaper or visit this website and read through or watch the videos, I feel more anxious or even a little bit more heavy, depressed, and tired." Start monitoring your information intake.

In nutrition, they say you are what you eat. The same goes for your mindset.

How can you expect to have an abundant mindset when everyone and everything around you that you're taking in is talking about lack, fear, struggle, and it's hard, etc., etc.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy to completely counteract that. Let me come in a little bit closer. It's the fairies. Healing with the fairies, we're gonna be journeying with all month.

So happy to be with you fairies. And I'm curious, fairies, elementals, guides, what do we need to know right now about unplugging from negativity? Ooh. Yeah, buddy. This is where we're going to leave off for the week.

Raise your standards. Absolutely. Raising your standards. Gorgeous card. The fairies are letting you know that you're not stepping back or shrinking down. Instead this is a statement that you have raised your standard for how you are treating your mind by making sure that you're clear and deliberate around what you put into it. Raise the standard of the type of emails that you desire to read.

Raise the standard of the type of phone calls that you desire to receive. Raise the standard of the type of people that you desire to be around, and raise the standard for the way that people should be treating you, regardless of who they are or where they come from.

That comes from you. The standard is always set by you. And it's time to raise your standards by unplugging from negativity.

So, comment below. Send me an email back. If you've got this on the love letters list. Let me know what's come up for you.

This is meant to be a conversation, a two-way street. And remember, if there is any way I can help in your business balancing mind, body, and business for you, just let me know.

You can go to VictoriaWhitfield.com/contact and reach out there. For now, that's it for this week, and we'll see you next time. Bye.

(Original post 04/09/2018)

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Know what others want but can't figure out what you want?

Are you a highly sensitive and/or empathic individual that keeps getting hijacked by negative energy?

Want to improve your communication skills to win friends and influence people?

Mirroring is the rapport-building act of mimicking what others around you are doing.

When you do this intentionally it can be powerful and effective in a positive way, but when you do this unconsciously and all the time, it can really muddy up your mind and energy.

Watch this week's 10-minute Love Letter video to discover and harness the power of mirroring!

"I don't know what I'm good at."

This week, Source wants you to take notice of how and when you are mirroring. Let me explain.

Mirroring is something that we do to establish rapport and a connection to communicate and understand others with, right.

An example of mirroring is when someone is using their hands and nodding to speak with you rather than just sitting, which would not be mirroring.

You, as you listen, you nod and smile at them, or when you respond, you'll use your hands too.

This is a form of connections-making, rapport-building and communication, mirroring. There is a huge difference though that the guides want you to understand between intentional mirroring and unintentional mirroring.

Intentional mirroring is when we are very clearly using that technique to decide, "Okay. I am going to mirror this person to make them feel more comfortable, feel more connected" or "So that this other person understands me more, I'm going to really go along at their pace, slow down my speech or I'll speed it up so I can connect better to them," right.

This is the sign of a strong communicator, is that they're conscious about and strategic, the guides say in particular, about how and when they mirror others in the way that they communicate.

Now, naturally sensitive and intuitive, empathic people such as you and I, we do this on autopilot. There's good and not so good aspects to it.

Let's go to unintentional mirroring. Unintentional mirroring is when, if someone is coming into the situation with frustration or they're activated and intense and you are relaxed, you get swept away by their emotions.

Or if the ... Oh God. This is the worst one. When the hungry children commercial comes on or the animal abuse commercial comes on, ugh, and there's crying and the mirroring then is, "Oh my God. I feel emotional too."

Then because we're natural empaths, it's compounded. Not only are you establishing connection on autopilot, unintentionally, autopilot mirroring, but then on top of that then all of that energy and all of their emotions begins to flow through you and it can really hijack your energy and your mood for the day.

So this can be really serious, especially on the far end of the spectrum. I can't even be on camera.

There's intentional, unintentional and over here. The far end of the spectrum for mirroring, and this is something that you've really got to pay attention to this week, is categorized by feelings of "I don't know what I want" or if someone asks you, "Oh, what do you want to eat tonight?" "I don't know what, whatever you want," immediate mirroring.

It's beyond unintentional. It's a loss of center, a loss of grounding, a loss of self. If you're wondering, "What's my life purpose?" or "I don't know what I'm good at" or "I'm good at everything" or "I'm not good with making decisions. I change my mind all of the time, left and right."

If you don't feel centered or a sense of clarity, it may be, and I'm hearing the gods say, underlining and seeing them underlining this in the energy, it may be that you're off spectrum. You are so far mirroring that you've lost your own center.

Know this: Unintentional mirroring is a sign that you're not centered. #checkyourself @SenseiWhitfield

What happens when you're all the way over there is that, this is the shadow side. Be kind to yourself. You have to hear this. You can become an unconscious energy vampire.

When we're so far off and we're just mirroring everyone at the drop of a hat, that begins to drain all those around us because we're sucking in inspiration and energy from all those that are around us.

Just an example. If you're talking to people and they just start getting tired and tired and you're like, "Oh, why don't they just tell me to stop talking?" No, no, no. It's important for you this week in particular, the guides are saying, to notice when you're on the far end of the spectrum, right. Find your center.

Specifically this week, it's by watching for when you are over-mirroring. I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy to weigh in on this topic.

Healing with the angels oracle cards deck in particular came forward to send some healing energy to us. What if I don't know if I'm mirroring and you know what? I want to be able to be intentional and strategic about it. I want to get out of being unintentional and right out of balance.

Angels, what do we need to know? How can we send more healing to this situation?

Don't shuffle the top card. Woo. Okay. Freedom. This is the freedom card the guides are telling me to read to you specifically out of the book, all right. Freedom.

"The angels guide you to freely express your true thoughts and feelings with love. You may feel trapped right now by life conditions. By drawing this card, the angels ask you to realize that you are the only jail-keeper that ever surfaces in your own life."

You are the only jail-keeper.

"Whenever you realize that you have the power to be free, freedom follows. Everything that you do in your life is by choice, and you are free to choose again always. Even prisoners are free to choose their thoughts so that they feel peace and happiness under any conditions. The next time you begin a sentence with the words, 'I have to,' please stop yourself. Ask God and the angels to show you some alternatives. They will either help you complete the task from a loving mindset so that you don't feel trapped or they will guide you to do something else that you will love."

Here's where the freedom card comes into play specifically with mirroring. Becoming conscious is becoming aware of yourself.

It's important for you, in order to embrace your freedom as a person and as a sentient being, to become more self-aware. It starts this week or it continues this week with noticing when you are mirroring. Just watch.

Maybe write it down in a journal every time you notice, "Oh, I mirrored that person. I mirrored that person" or "That emotion wasn't mine. I was mirroring them" versus you're not mirroring someone and you're just empathically picking it up.

This is the road to developing empathic mastery, by the way, for all those of you who know about being an empath.

Working with your mirroring and increasing your self-awareness and consciousness level can help you master it as a powerful tool for psychic self-defense.

If you want to know more about that or exactly how to go about that, send me an email back, comment below and say, "Victoria, I want to know more about that" or "I'd like a session around that in particular because this is something I feel that's near and dear to my heart."

Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week and I will see you next time. Sending you so much love and healing energy. Mwah. See you.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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See if you can shift your awareness to being more intentional as you speak with others.

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Feeling anxious and unsafe, as if you're constantly worried that other people or circumstances are going to steal your joy?

Do you know that you need to have stronger boundaries to better protect your positive energy, but don’t know where to start?

When we as spiritual seekers, sensitives and empaths start exploring psychic self-defense, it’s usually because we’ve experienced being overwhelmed or drained energetically, and we want to protect ourselves from that happening again.

But protecting yourself is very different than shutting down or shutting everyone out; mastering your energy entails more than taking the “all or nothing” approach to spiritual and emotional energy management.

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"My precious! My PRECIOUSSSS!” – Gollum"

Hi! Sensei Victoria with you here from victoriawhitfield.com for your weekly love letter. It's my last day in Negril, Jamaica at Jackie's on the Reef and this week we are picking up on last week’s discussion of protecting your joy.

It's very powerful to be in your joyful space, but you have to protect your joy.

What does that mean? The first image in the energy that I get from off of the Tribe is, "Well, you know, I'm not going to pay attention anybody else but me!" Whoa there!

We have an impulse to block out others, or to avoid all negative stuff. We go overboard, thinking: "I can't talk to that person, because they're crazy," or, "I can't go outside, because everyone's going to steal my joy."

Let's be clear. Protecting your joy doesn't mean isolating yourself.

To do so, as we said last week, the first step is to learn about what exactly is your joy and what it looks and feels like, second is to engage it actively throughout each day, and third is to apply your joy to counteract low-vibe situations and experiences.

Those three steps, Source is saying, are how you protect your joy, just by having an active engaging relationship with her.

You don't have to put her in a box and hide it in the corner, obsessing like Gollum "I'm protecting my joy! My precious, my precious is safe!" No, no, no, no, no.

The way that you protect your joy is by being with her, or being with him – however you gender your joy. (By the way, I prefer using gendered pronouns over the use of “it” because it person-alizes your relationship with each noun. Send me an email at SenseiVictoriaWhitfield@gmail.com if you want to know more.)

Now I'm hearing the Oracle cards for this week calling in the energy.

Whenever I travel I always have at least one oracle cards deck with me, and this one is Wisdom of The Hidden Realms by Colette Baron-Reid. It's a wonderful deck, very direct guidance, beautiful illustrations; I highly recommend it. This is a personal deck of mine, so I'm so happy to get to share this with you.

As always, to use oracle cards we first pray over the cards and ask Source, Spirit, and Nature to tell us what do we need to know, knowing that we are open to receiving guidance, and then we shuffle the cards.

I enjoy the fact that I am not the best shuffler ever; it doesn't have to be blackjack style and all that. It's a natural intuitive practice that is meant to be imperfect, and not a performance, lol!

The card that is coming through for this topic is “The Metal King.”

This is so appropriate, because he has to do with having and cultivating discipline, armor, and boundaries. Here’s the accompanying reading from the book:

The Metal King is strong and arrives to lend you his impenetrable shield of protection.

Protect your joy! Well, I wonder why the Energy has drawn out this card? What a "coincidence." 😉 By now, you should know there's no such thing as coincidence!

So let's read more:

No matter who sends you criticism or jealousy, you will not be hurt. This ally --

Oh, someone in the Energy just stopped me there. Those are another two things that tend to steal our joy: being preoccupied with other people's criticism and other people's jealousy.

Here’s the thing: if someone is critical of you, or jealous of you, that means that they notice you.

Let's just turn that around for a second. It's OK if someone is trying to be critical of you – we're not condoning their criticism if it is harmful – however, we have to notice something in this that could increase your joy.

Criticism and jealousy received means that you are doing something big and noteworthy.

Use this idea as your take-away from the criticism, instead of taking on their crap, and it can cultivate and increase your joy.

Think instead to yourself: "No, that's OK. I see that you see me, I see that you have an opinion. Go ahead over there with that. That has nothing to do with me, but I appreciate the fact that you are validating that I'm doing something big right now, or doing something noteworthy, whereas maybe you're not."

Oftentimes people criticize or feel jealous of us because they don't have the drive or the confidence enough to do what you're doing, and it speaks to the insecurity within them and tugs at it.

You're out shining brightly, whereas they're still hiding. Criticism and jealousy says more about the criticizer or the jealous person than you. So laugh, and let it go.

Let me continue the oracle card reading, then:

This ally also prompts you to think about setting healthy boundaries. When you do, no matter how uncomfortable that task may be, everyone benefits. He asks you to make sure you know where you end and others begin. Other's emotions are NOT yours.

By the way, that's a message straight to all of my empaths who are watching and reading right now: Other's emotions are not yours.

If you’re an empath, you may go out to places or speak to someone and then leave from them and still carry all of the energy and the emotion of that space. Let it go.

When you hold on to and analyze their energy in you, that's a waste of your time and energy, because our focus is on other people's problems that we're taking responsibility for emotionally and mentally.

Find a way to clear yourself, whether it's being outdoors, or taking a shower, or doing a mediation, writing in your journal, whatever your clearing ceremony is. If you need to know more techniques, then maybe email back or comment below, I'm happy to share.

The oracle card reading continues:

Other's emotions are not yours, no matter how empathetic you may be. Another of The Metal King's messages is to remind you how important it is to have a healthy sense of self-esteem. It is a good time to shine and be proud of what you have accomplished.

In the energy, Spirit is asking you to be clear about what self-esteem is for you.

That's a bit of an overused term, I'm hearing, so let's reword that as self-awareness: a loving self-awareness, not a self-consciousness with the negative connotation.

You do want to be conscious, but not shrinking, putting yourself down or hiding yourself with your self-awareness.

Instead, draw your eye inwardly and do what we said last week: write that list out of what makes you joyful and begin interacting actively with that list.

The act of writing that list is going to create clear boundaries organically for you, through self-knowledge. 

And self-knowledge is always empowering.

Know this: You don't have to shut people out in order to have healthy #boundaries.  On the contrary, being who you really are creates clear boundaries!

So many of us sensitive, loving, spiritual individuals have terrible boundary issues. I've been working on mine, so I'm included in this bunch – I am right there with you!

We want to help, we want to fix everybody, or we're so afraid of being overwhelmed by other's energy that we want to avoid everybody to the point where we just scream "I hate people!" and go lock ourselves away for a while, lol! You know?

Hey, I’ve been there, done that, got the t-shirt. But that's not the master path. Instead, that's letting your sensitivity, which is a gift from Spirit, run your life rather than embracing it and becoming more a partner in the experience of that energy.

Rather than being a slave to or a victim of your sensitivity, engage your joy, know your joy, and by doing so, you will protect your joy. And the earth needs ways more joy, way more.

I can feel the trees and the ocean and the coral reef down here at Jackie’s On The Reef in Negril, Jamaica agreeing, saying: "Send more joy! We're doing our best, but you're joy generators; it's very unique amongst humans.”

So, I'm curious to hear: what's your list of things that make you joyful? What are going to be the things that are non-negotiable that you feel are a daily prescription of things that make you happy?

Share them with your TRIBE here, so we can encourage each other. Share it on the Facebook group, Facebook.com/SenseiVictoriaWhitfield, or you can tweet me at Twitter.com/SenseiWhitfield, and I'm open to hearing what you would like to share.

Sending you a big hug and kiss, and I will see you next week, back in the States. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Re-evaluate how you go about protecting your energy.

Ask yourself: "Am I just shutting people out and avoiding the energy off and on, or am I creating a consistent sense of emotional and energetic safety, balance and flow for myself?"

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

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Do you feel exhausted after talking to certain people and don't know why?

Annoyed how certain activities suck up way more of your time, yet leave you feeling like nothing much has actually gotten done?

Frustrated that no matter how much you give at work or at your organization, the more they ask of you?

There's a term for things that drain your energy -- spiritually, physically, emotionally, financially, etc. -- and it's called an Energy Vampire.

As hard-working, sensitive, loving and giving people, we tend to attract them -- Yikes!

Watch the above video to learn what an Energy Vampire is, and what to do about it.

"Blah, blah! I 'vant to suck your blood!"

This week’s topic is Energy Vampires.

Now, the vampires we're referring to you are not like the movies  where someone comes up to you, bites you on the neck and says, “ha! I got your energy!” drinking it out of you in the literal sense. No, this is very different.

Not everybody knows what an energy vampire is, but this Love Letter is for those who don't know what to do and don't know what an energy vampire is, and as well as for those of us who know all too well what they are, but don't know what to do about it. So let's get to it!

An energy vampire is someone or some thing – like an activity, or a space, an item – that for whatever reason when you are in its presence for an certain period of time, the more you're around them, the more drain you feel emotionally and physically.

What does that mean? The person, place, or thing could be really positive. It could be in Florida, a sunny day at the beach, and everything is supposed to be amazing, right?

You could be at a party spending all this time with these great people who are supposed to be really nice and they're your friends and family, or they're supposed to be your significant other or your children, or your pet, or even your business.

But it still drains you.

Here's how to tell if you're being drained:

If you are in this person, place, or thing's presence for let's say one hour

1) Do you feel more energized, do you feel excited, happy, wired, inspired, lifted up and encouraged?

2) Or after an hour in their presence, do you feel on guard, small, or hiding, or are you saying to yourself “ah, I'm getting tired.”?

The exhaustion starts setting in physically as well as emotionally. You say to yourself “I feel like I'm just talking to a brick wall here. We're getting nowhere, and the more energy I exert, it's like it's not enough.”

The more you give, the more, it takes, or the more hats you have to wear in order to be good enough or acceptable.

The person will tell you more of their life story – and you have to hear it in order for them to "make you understand" how they feel – and they keep talking about how “this happened to me, this and then this happened too...”

They feel great because they got to dump, dump, dump on you.

They’ll often start by saying something like “I just want to share.” or “Let me just get this off my chest” and onto yours, or “Just one more thing” over and over... Sound familiar?

Know This: My time and My space are a "No Dumping Zone." #affirmation #selfcare

Someone in the energy just told me to mention that in psychology, there is a phenomena called the “Doorknob Effect.” An example of this comes up often socially.

Imagine it's the end of your time together with someone – maybe you're doing a session with somebody or maybe someone came over for tea and just to talk and hang out – and you say: "Oh, well, time to go. I got to get going" so you can wrap things up.

You both walk over to the door, and then they touch the doorknob, stop and say, "Oh! One more thing I just thought of..."

It's like the doorknob can activate that “one more thing” for them. Whereas you on the other end are may be thinking, "Oh my god, I gotta go. I want to pee." Yeah... Energy vampires.

Not only on that level, but maybe we're in a relationship with one of them. Sometimes they not only suck our emotional energy and our physical energy, but also our financial energy.

They keep asking you for more, more, more. "Oh, I can't play this bill. Can you cover it?" Or, "Oh, I missed this." Or, "I really want that." It's just an escalation.

Here's the thing: We always want to give abundantly when we feel safe to, but it's important to tune in to how YOU feel when you're giving.

It helps to ask yourself, first: “okay, do I feel like I'm getting so much more spiritually and emotionally? Do I feel supported and sparkling when I give in a big way?” or “Do I feel like, all right, I'm pushing, we're working hard.” or “Maybe one day this person is going to become my vision of what they are” rather than accepting who they currently are at face value.

Ok, that's all well and good Victoria, but why do energy vampires exist? Where does all this come from?

Here's why: If any person, place, or thing is draining your energy – like where they just keep going, going, going as if the story that they're telling doesn't stop, or if they're sharing, they just don't stop talking and share the conversation time with you – it's because they, the person, place, or thing, is supremely ungrounded.

Now, what exactly is “being grounded,” and how does that apply to energy vampires?

You’ll have to watch the rest of this week’s video strategy to find out!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Notice if you feel drained, tired or resistant while doing something or talking to someone.

Then visualize a cord between yourself and that person or thing, and see that cord being cut.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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