Do you think that you're not good enough?

Thought that you'd be further ahead in life than you are right now?

Going through a difficult time of arguments and disagreements?

When the going gets tough, our knee-jerk reaction can often be to think "why me?" or "what's wrong with me?"

Believe it or not, no matter how ugly it gets, Source says you need to remember that it's not about "me", instead it's about "we".

Watch this week's 9-minute Love Letter video to find the courage to be compassionate!

"What is wrong with me?"

This week, you must know that it is not about you.

It's not about you. It never has been, it never will be, so from this point forward in time, you have got to stop taking it so seriously.

They told me, be more specific. You have got to stop taking him so seriously. You've got to stop taking her and what she does in her life and in her business, so personally, because it's not about you. It never has been, and it never will be.

Now perhaps someone has really been getting under your skin lately, or they've been throwing their anger your way, or getting very emotional, and clogging up your joy with all of their crusty crap.

Perhaps they talk stuff about you, or hating. (I don't really believe in hating.) But perhaps you feel like you may be getting hated on, or people writing smear stuff about you.

There's this insidious, internal, pre-programmed response that we have, unfortunately, to these interactions of: 

• "What did I do to deserve this?"
• "What's wrong with me, that I can't get ahead, like so-and-so?"
• "What's wrong with me, that I am not married, yet?"
• "What's wrong with me, that I can't have kids?"
• "What's wrong with me, that I'm not financially stable?"

Our ego turns us in on ourselves, because she's actually trying to protect you from stepping out when you're feeling vulnerable.

The reason why she brings you inward, blaming inward, "What's wrong with me? There's something wrong with me," taking everything outside of us, personally or very seriously, turning it inward, is a way, a shadow way, a dark way of centering you. Let me explain.

It's never been about you. Someone says, "You're doing this and the other thing, and I can't believe that this ..." They're throwing all that drama around and on you. That's actually them and their stuff.

If someone comments on your posts, and craps all over your sunshine parade, that is their problem. It's nothing that you did.

Maybe you did drop the ball. I just heard in the energy, perhaps you might have said something offensive, etc., but everyone chooses how to react, and how to respond to life.

That's their choice. It's on them. You don't have to take responsibility for how they feel.

You do need to own up to who you are and how you show up in this world, absolutely. Clean it up, if you made a mess. That's your mess, but you made that.

Whereas, if someone else makes a mess and starts blabbing about it or spewing all over you about it, that's their stuff.

I really don't know why the guides are having me say this in particular, this week. I know that I'm talking to someone, so I'm going to keep going with it, but this week, it's not about you.

Your business, by the way, if you're an entrepreneur, and you're thinking to yourself:

• "Why aren't I doing any better?"
• "Maybe I need to implement more, work harder."
• "Why don't people like me?"
• "Why isn't so-and-so buying in?"

It's not about you. Come out of the ego cave and cage.

The shadow side of centering is reinforcing an identity, so that you can feel and create a sense of stability in your personal ... no, put it that way. The ego she'll bring you in, and be like, something that I did.

Whereas, this is about me, or what's wrong with me? Come out of that cave. There's more outside.

Instead, to flip that, where we're feeling not good enough, it's time to give more. There's so much more love, so much more value, so much more creativity and insight that you're capable of giving. It's about serving.

Tony Robins, I love his quote. "The secret to living is giving absolutely." That's the way to come out of an ego cave.

Know this: If you're not feeling "good enough," then give more to those less fortunate. Focus on WE, not me.

The guides are telling me to pull an Oracle card now. The deck that came forward in this week, is the crystal Oracle cards, in particular, to really weigh in on the topic of this situation.

It's really not about you. It's not about me. It's we. This week, in particular.

Someone just said, pull this card. Amber.

Look at how gorgeous. I love this deck, because it's all pictures. Juicy, juicy amber shot. They're telling me to read.

The words that they've associated with Amber are transparency, calm, purification, and creativity. Here's the reading: "An issue that is causing tension and friction in your life will soon erupt and come to a head."

I'm starting to get the chills. "You are being urged to stay calm during this emotionally-charged event. Express how you feel, but don't be drawn into saying things that you don't mean. This event is, in fact, a blessing. One that is perhaps well overdue."

You can't make this stuff up, people. This is amazing.

"Through it, you will realize where you stand, and how others truly feel. As the air clears, you will uncover a hidden agenda and find creative ways of handling this type of situation in the future. Stay calm, and don't allow yourself to be dragged further into chaos by others. You will emerge from this situation, feeling purified of all the negative emotions and thoughts that have weighted you down recently. Trust and remember it. This event is a blessing."

Here's where we're going to leave off.

Whatever disagreement, argument, or provocative conversation you are about to have this week, remember, it's not about me. This is about we.

Look for the lesson. There's always a dark gift, especially in difficult situations. They always teach us.

Keep your eyes open for the gift. Stay focused on the we. Don't be pulled into that ego cave.

Send me an email back. Comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you around this.

Subscribe on youtube, so that you get your love letters first, and make sure you share this with someone who may be going through something right now, and could really use some positive encouragement.

Sending you so much love. I'll see you next week. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Feeling "blocked" or spiritually disconnected?

Is your work-life cycle monotonous, uninspiring or even draining?

Having a hard time feeling energized and enthused during the day?

When you were a child, you had an endless supply of exuberant energy.

But what do we do when it feels like that bright energy is gone with the wind of adulthood, responsibilities and the daily "grind?"

Watch this week's 12-minute love letter video to send your inner child some love this week and reclaim your lost energy!

"I'm too loud in public."

This week this is a really loving, nurturing message. Last week was a little bit tough, so that's perfectly fine sometimes.

We need that, but this week is all about nourishing yourself specifically by loving your inner child.

This is not going to be more of a talk about so tell me about your childhood, all the trauma that went on back then.

No actually, the guides in particular are talking about your relationships with your inner child now, not what happened but actually what's going on right now, so let's get to it.

Adulting is the word that they sent to me in my writing, in my meditation time before I began recording this love letter for you.

Know this: Side effects from disconnect with your inner child are feeling blocked, depressed & anxious.

The guides describe adulting from a spiritual perspective as a process of self-silencing, of polite self-censorship and even at times a form of energetic or spiritual castration, where the part of us that has the juice, our essence, is just cut off maybe to protect others.

We'll cut off that exuberance that's actually within us.

• • "Don't be so loud out in public."

• • "Don't shimmy."

• • "Don't be all excited because we want to be a good girl"

• • "I got to be a nice boy."

• "Don't get so frustrated or angry about things that bother you."

No, no, no, stamp it down, stuff it down.

But it's your inner child that actually retains all of these essence essential feelings, vibrations and sensations that are coming from your spirit.

In order to open to your natural intuition and hear and feel and follow, right, perceive and follow the guidance that you're being sent, you've got to be open to allowing things that you really love to come through you and things that you really dislike to come through you, not putting yourself in an emotional cage.

This is the relationship that we can develop with our inner child as we get into adulting.

I prefer the guides' word of adulting as a verb rather than adulthood, like it's a hood that you put over your body and there's no getting out of adulthood. That's not necessarily the case.

It doesn't have to be that way, right? So be kind to yourself.

If adulthood has felt like this veil that you've dropped over your head where we're in a state of perpetual boredom, perpetual monotony, perpetual pushing, perpetual busyness, because there's a state of perpetual responsibility, be kind to yourself.

We're castrating our connection to our inner child in this hooding of our relationship between ourselves and her. The effect of such a disconnect can be depression, anxiety, fatigue, even a sense of confusion or directionlessness where you feel blocked. There's no such thing as being blocked. This is a thing that we are doing.

We are adulting, we are blocking ourselves, the guides say so it's just a different action, it's a different state of being that can actually shift your state.

It usually has to do with a word that says "un" before it. The prefix "un" can start to liberate us. Unleashed, unbridled, uncensored, is usually when the inner child and all of our inner essential passionate raw energy starts to come through now.

The container is necessary. Having the right container for unbridled passion or unbridled humor and unbridled expression, uninhibited expression, what container would that look like in your adulting part of life? Would that be an unbridled, uncensored journal entry where you just really let it rip.

"I hate fill-in-the-blank." You're just going to: 

• • "I hate this, this stinks."

• • "This annoys me."

• • "I want to go to bed."

• • "I want to go home."

• • "I want my toys."

• "I want to fly around the country in my own helicopter and I want to parachute out of it and then make love on the sand of the beach and then go run a marathon."

Like unbridled, unleashed, where you're not censoring yourself. Where does your inner child get to run free in life? Where do you have uncensored laughter?

Instead of a small laugh it's more like a big laugh, where you're really from the depths of your belly cracking up, do you give yourself permission?

I'm hearing the Oracle cards coming in the energy along that word in particular. Where can you give yourself more the "un-ness" in the relationship that you have with your inner child?

This week in particular it's about loving her by unleashing that cap, that adulting cap, that action of capping that we put on top of her.

Life Purpose Oracle Cards deck is actually the deck here at the Dojo that came forward this week in particular, one of 19 decks and counting as of the shooting of this video. Always receiving donations and gifts, love gifts. I get gifts all the time, thank you, for those of you who sent your love letters and sent gifts.

So, angels, what do we need to know right now about loving our inner child?

They said don't shuffle any further. I'm trying to say the rest of the question about loving our inner child. This one, woo, you're going to love this.

Body Work, this is so powerful for inner child healing. So powerful. This is actually how I in my own healing journey how I began to heal my relationship with my inner child, was actually through receiving regular body work.

By the way, if I could plug who helped me through that, Patrick Lerouge over at livepainfreeprocess.com is magnificent. I mean, his inner child is like running free and crazy, but as a body worker he is bar none the best. The best. I love you Patrick.

"Your life purpose, you who's watching, involves body work such as massage therapy, energy healing, physical therapy, or exercise training."

Your relationship with your body, the guides say, is what's going to help you unleash your inner child's energy and really love on her. Perhaps if you're a woman if it's ecstatic dance, orgasmic meditation, really allowing yourself to feel safe to open up.

If you're a man, maybe it's going for MMA, getting back in the ring of playing basketball like you used to as a kid and just enjoying it, feeling exuberant and having fun. Getting your hands dirty, right? Maybe if it's digging in the dirt, gardening or landscaping, whatever, or craftsmanship. I love building furniture. It just feels so good.

Or even art, art therapy, getting in there and allowing your body to express and move energy through you is the way that this week in particular you can get in touch with loving your inner child or even receiving delicious body work and energy work sessions.

Just to receive that sense of flow and safety and expression in a sacred space such as the Dojo or your local Reiki or energy work practitioner or your body worker by you.

Send me an email back if you're curious about private sessions with me for doing energy work.

I'd be happy to support you, but comment below what comes up for you around Body Work and loving your inner child. I want to hear it.

Are you adulting too much where you feel like you have no time for this? Excuse alert. Be kind to yourself if that's you. I feel you.

It's one step at a time, okay? I'm sending you so much love.

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week and I'll see you next time. Bye.

 In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Give yourself permission to be uncensored.

Go for an energywork session or do an energy healing meditation and allow your emotions to flow and your mind to wander freely.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Struggling to keep up with your never-ending to-do list?

Jam-packed days at the office zapping your energy?

Feeling like you're headed for burnout?

More often than not we identify success as "getting things done."

But what happens to our idea of success when there's too much to do and not enough "you" to go around?

Watch this weeks 8-minute Love Letter video to redefine success to include rest as well as productivity!

"I just need to finish one last thing."

This week in particular, the guides have a message for you. One word. Rest.

Rest.

There's a few questions that I kept hearing as I was preparing to shoot this letter for you, and here were the questions:

• • What do you look like when you are at rest?

• When you are at rest, what do you look like?

Perhaps, you want to close your eyes if you can or imagine if you can't at the moment while you're listening to me.

What do you look like when you are at rest? When you're not responsible for doing anything, when you're not actively performing or producing or sharing etc, when you're not taking action. What do you look like when you are just at rest?

Then from there, seeing that image, the guides shifted the question. I love how they did this.

What do you look like when you are rested?

It's a whole another kind of worms there, right? What do you look like when you are rested?

• • How does your face look?

• • How do you hold your shoulders?

• • How do your hips, knees, and feet feel when you are rested?

• How does your head feel? What are your thoughts like when you are rested?

It's important for you to tune in this right now, tune into this as you are reading or as you are listening to this love letter right now.

When you pay attention, how do you rest in your attention paying?

• • Are your eyes strained?

• • Are your brows furrowed?

• • Is your jaw tighter?

• • Are your shoulders hunched?

• • Are your heaps crunched?

• • Is there a tension in pushing that you sustain because you are giving attention?

• Or are you restful in the way that you give your attention?

Then, lastly, what do you look like when you are rested? Do you even have an idea of what you would be like if you were rested?

If you came back from a lovely five-day vacation just for the sake of literally sleeping in a beautiful location, you didn't have to do anything. Just sleeping or just walking outdoors, or running outdoors enjoying scenery. No responsibility.

What would you look like? What would that look like for you?

The guides are telling me that now is the time for you to journal about think and feel envision into these questions because you're really exhausted.

It's okay for you to admit that some things just make you tired, being tired doesn't mean that you're wrong, being tired means you need rest.

Know this: You can be successful and well rested. It is not a trade-off.

Here come the Oracle cards calling in the energy this week.

It's the Archangel Raphael Oracle Cards Deck another Doreen Virtue Deck. One of 19 and counting as of just tuning of this video but it's always shifting.

I'm happy to receive gifts as well as donations, oracle cards deck. You seen one that you think, "Oh my God, this would be amazing for Victoria to do a reading on?" Send in my way. Send me an email at senseivictoriawhitfield@gmail.com if you need my mailing address.

Okay, so Archangel Raphael, what do we need to know right now? What do we need to know right now about rest? Have faith. Have faith.

"Dear, Jesus and Archangel Raphael, thank you for boosting my faith so that I made trust in miracles."

To whoever you vibrate with, having faith is risky business.

It takes a certain level of trust, openness, vulnerability and uncertainty to have faith.

Right now, I'm hearing the guides say, "You may think that image of you being rested what you look, would take a miracle, like seriously?" What you see like, "are you kidding me Victoria? Rested?" "All of these people depend on me and blah, blah, blah, blah."

All right. All the excuses start flying out of us and why we're not allowed to rest? Or, let me just do this one last thing.

The "just", just want us come flying out.. Let this be your periodic reminder that you're going to have faith in yourself. You can do this and you're worth it.

All right, so send me an email back, comment below.

What do you envision yourself as being rested? Type that out. It's so powerful to even at least express it.

Come on over to the Facebook as well to share your idea of being rested, I'd love to see a video share of you because that's always the highest vibration. Don't let it just be me sending you videos, I want to see your lovely face. Muah.

I'll see you next week make sure you subscribe on YouTube so you get your love letters first each time.

All right? See you next time. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Visualize yourself looking well rested: your posture, facial expression, how you hold yourself, walk, etc.

Now, act as if you were that version of yourself, even if you have to pretend.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Do you think that you're not good enough?

Thought that you'd be further ahead in life than you are right now?

Going through a difficult time of arguments and disagreements?

When the going gets tough, our knee-jerk reaction can often be to think "why me?" or "what's wrong with me?"

Believe it or not, no matter how ugly it gets, Source says you need to remember that it's not about "me", instead it's about "we".

Watch this week's 9-minute Love Letter video to find the courage to be compassionate!

"What is wrong with me?"

This week, you must know that it is not about you.

It's not about you. It never has been, it never will be, so from this point forward in time, you have got to stop taking it so seriously.

They told me, be more specific. You have got to stop taking him so seriously. You've got to stop taking her and what she does in her life and in her business, so personally, because it's not about you. It never has been, and it never will be.

Now perhaps someone has really been getting under your skin lately, or they've been throwing their anger your way, or getting very emotional, and clogging up your joy with all of their crusty crap.

Perhaps they talk stuff about you, or hating. (I don't really believe in hating.) But perhaps you feel like you may be getting hated on, or people writing smear stuff about you.

There's this insidious, internal, pre-programmed response that we have, unfortunately, to these interactions of: 

• • "What did I do to deserve this?"

• • "What's wrong with me, that I can't get ahead, like so-and-so?"

• • "What's wrong with me, that I am not married, yet?"

• • "What's wrong with me, that I can't have kids?"

• "What's wrong with me, that I'm not financially stable?"

Our ego turns us in on ourselves, because she's actually trying to protect you from stepping out when you're feeling vulnerable.

The reason why she brings you inward, blaming inward, "What's wrong with me? There's something wrong with me," taking everything outside of us, personally or very seriously, turning it inward, is a way, a shadow way, a dark way of centering you. Let me explain.

It's never been about you. Someone says, "You're doing this and the other thing, and I can't believe that this ..." They're throwing all that drama around and on you. That's actually them and their stuff.

If someone comments on your posts, and craps all over your sunshine parade, that is their problem. It's nothing that you did.

Maybe you did drop the ball. I just heard in the energy, perhaps you might have said something offensive, etc., but everyone chooses how to react, and how to respond to life.

That's their choice. It's on them. You don't have to take responsibility for how they feel.

You do need to own up to who you are and how you show up in this world, absolutely. Clean it up, if you made a mess. That's your mess, but you made that.

Whereas, if someone else makes a mess and starts blabbing about it or spewing all over you about it, that's their stuff.

I really don't know why the guides are having me say this in particular, this week. I know that I'm talking to someone, so I'm going to keep going with it, but this week, it's not about you.

Your business, by the way, if you're an entrepreneur, and you're thinking to yourself:

• • "Why aren't I doing any better?"

• • "Maybe I need to implement more, work harder."

• • "Why don't people like me?"

• "Why isn't so-and-so buying in?"

It's not about you. Come out of the ego cave and cage.

The shadow side of centering is reinforcing an identity, so that you can feel and create a sense of stability in your personal ... no, put it that way. The ego she'll bring you in, and be like, something that I did.

Whereas, this is about me, or what's wrong with me? Come out of that cave. There's more outside.

Instead, to flip that, where we're feeling not good enough, it's time to give more. There's so much more love, so much more value, so much more creativity and insight that you're capable of giving. It's about serving.

Tony Robins, I love his quote. "The secret to living is giving absolutely." That's the way to come out of an ego cave.

Know this: If you're not feeling "good enough," then give more to those less fortunate. Focus on WE, not me.

The guides are telling me to pull an Oracle card now. The deck that came forward in this week, is the crystal Oracle cards, in particular, to really weigh in on the topic of this situation.

It's really not about you. It's not about me. It's we. This week, in particular.

Someone just said, pull this card. Amber.

Look at how gorgeous. I love this deck, because it's all pictures. Juicy, juicy amber shot. They're telling me to read.

The words that they've associated with Amber are transparency, calm, purification, and creativity. Here's the reading: "An issue that is causing tension and friction in your life will soon erupt and come to a head."

I'm starting to get the chills. "You are being urged to stay calm during this emotionally-charged event. Express how you feel, but don't be drawn into saying things that you don't mean. This event is, in fact, a blessing. One that is perhaps well overdue."

You can't make this stuff up, people. This is amazing.

"Through it, you will realize where you stand, and how others truly feel. As the air clears, you will uncover a hidden agenda and find creative ways of handling this type of situation in the future. Stay calm, and don't allow yourself to be dragged further into chaos by others. You will emerge from this situation, feeling purified of all the negative emotions and thoughts that have weighted you down recently. Trust and remember it. This event is a blessing."

Here's where we're going to leave off.

Whatever disagreement, argument, or provocative conversation you are about to have this week, remember, it's not about me. This is about we.

Look for the lesson. There's always a dark gift, especially in difficult situations. They always teach us.

Keep your eyes open for the gift. Stay focused on the we. Don't be pulled into that ego cave.

Send me an email back. Comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you around this.

Subscribe on youtube, so that you get your love letters first, and make sure you share this with someone who may be going through something right now, and could really use some positive encouragement.

Sending you so much love. I'll see you next week. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Wish you could speak up for yourself in difficult situations?

Constantly trying to make everyone else happy while you're drained and exhausted?

Worried that if you aren't "nice" enough that people won't accept you as you are?

Being able to resolve conflicts is an important skill in life.

However there's a fine line between being helpful and being a people-pleaser -- and we often tend to blur that line.

Watch this week's 6-minute Love Letter video to find out if you're being "too nice" and what you can do about it!

"How can I tell if I'm being 'too nice?'"

This week, Source wants to ask you: Are you being too nice?

This a rhetorical question by the way! It's more to raise your awareness around the fact that you are being too nice.

Let's just cut to the chase. Recently, maybe you've been feeling some of the following scenarios:

• • You want to speak up in a certain situation and you just don't because you want to "play nice,"  "keep the peace" or make sure everyone feels okay.

• • There's something that you want, but because you want someone else, or everyone else, to feel comfortable and have what they want or because you don't want to hurt anybody's feelings, you keep it to yourself or hide it.

• Or better yet, you don't freely express what you want in general, so when people innocently ask what you want because they want to support you, you've been holding back expressing what you want for so long that you don't even know what you want, and so you just draw a blank.

When someone you care about asks, "What do you want?" or "Where do you want to eat tonight?" or "What would you like to do?" for example, you shut down.

Perhaps we were raised or socialized to "politely" shut down like this, or perhaps you just decided at some point to believe that when you're a nice person, you make concessions and let others go ahead and make the decisions, always.

It could be under the guise of having a servant's heart.

It could be under the guise of being gentle, compassionate, giving, loving, even.

But here's the thing: what matters most is how you feel.

Know this: You can tell if you're being too #nice according to how you feel. #motivation #feelings @senseiwhitfield

How do making concessions and being indecisive feel?

How does hiding your true wants and desires feel?

How does holding back like this feel?

Source is saying you're hiding your anger.

Here's the thing: hiding your true feelings to be "polite" is only hiding from yourself, and that's a sure-fire recipe for anger and resentment.

When you want to be a good person, that doesn't necessarily mean that your blood should be boiling in the background all the time, putting on a nice front in order to make others feel comfortable and more safe in your presence.

That is inauthentic and moreover a symptom of being ungrounded.

It's about becoming aware of the difference between:

Not knowing what you want because you're hiding it from yourself, and by extension hiding it from others and appearing politely indecisive

versus

Knowing what you want and how you feel, and having the communication skills and courage to be truthful and meet others halfway

They're completely different arenas, completely different emotional experiences.

Especially when we're sensitive, empathic, intuitive beings, we tend to take on others' emotions. And we absorb the energies of environments and that will even more push us to want to be extra nice.

Because if we can only contribute positive energy and only appease (read: people-please) others, then that will create a comfortable exterior environment which then, once that happens, then we can on the interior feel comfortable.

So, as empaths we're unfortunately used to being defined by our circumstance.

That's a serious problem, because this complex issue of being "too nice" sets you up for Enabling codependency, disempowerment, self-sabotage and living a very small, confused life.

So Source in the energy, She is simply asking for you to notice if you are being too nice at all this week.

She wants you to notice if you are losing your point of view and your identity in order to appease others.

This week in particular -- you clicked on this video blog now, so you need to be vigilant this week in particular.

I'm not talking about all the time, but Source says something's going on this week where you're going to need to be extra vigilant.

And I'm hearing the Oracle Cards calling. It's the Indigo Angel Oracle Cards deck.

Let's ask the angels, "what do we need to know right now about possibly being too nice? Could we be being too nice?"

Archangel Michael.

Archangel Michael comes forward with his fiery sword.

If you notice, that's his back on the card. The message is: he's got your back.

 

 

This week's oracle card is "Archangel Michael" with a message that he's got your back. Are you afraid to be bold and stand up for what you believe in? Full reading on YouTube at https://youtu.be/rsDkYwuB--k ????????????????✨ #motivation #motivationmonday #instadaily #confidence #strength #selflove #healthy #letsgo #healing #angel #oraclecards #youtube

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Sometimes we can be overly nice in people-pleasing as a protection and a coping mechanism.

Don't sacrifice your personality, your preferences, your desires, to simply fit in or appease others.

Your point of view is worthy. YOU are worthy.

Send me an email back, comment below, tell me what's coming up for you around if you're being too nice or being curious about it.

If you want to ask me about a situation, I always respond. Let me know, and I'm happy to mastermind with you through this situation, okay?

Subscribe on YouTube so you get your love letter every week.

Until next time, don't be too nice. 😉 

See you next week. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Are you known as "the giver" and backbone of your family or team?

Love sharing your art and work so much that you give it away for free more often than not?

Though you love the feeling of giving, are you secretly worried that you're being drained by what you love?

Giving always feels good to the giver because we feel abundant and connected to others when we do.

But what happens when no one gives to us or tries to connect with us, too -- what happens when we are surrounded by people who just smile, take and keep on taking?

Watch this week's 8-minute Love Letter to find out why you're surrounded by "sucklers" and what to do about it!

"When is someone going to fight for me?"

This week, I keep hearing this wonderful phrase that Lisa Marie Rosati from the Goddess Lifestyle Plan and Sugar Free Goddess coming through for you:

"No more sucklers!"

The guides really want to talk to you about this. 

Giving credit for the phrase where credit is due, I am happy to share this idea of "sucklers" with everyone, because I admire Lisa's work so much.

Women creative entrepreneurs are who I work with, and this comes up a lot.

We end up really giving away a lot of our energy because we are abundant, creative, flowing creatures.

That's who we are, whether or not you are a woman. It's for those of us who are highly creative people.

We care, and we love to create. We love to feel abundant and that sense of giving really gives to us.

It also gives us the sense of responsibility and being needed and connected, giving to others as a form of expressing our love and sharing that abundance.

And I love countering that with the unsettling image of "sucklers" sucking on us.

That's the uncomfortable truth that we live with every day.

This is different from energy vampires, too. Sucklers come upon us in a more sneaky way.

Sucklers are a bit more insidious, because it's those in our community and in our tribe who we want to uplift and see it further who, rather than taking our encouragement and running with it to go on their own journey, they are like, "Oh great," and they keep suckling on our energy.

Also, there is an ageist aspect to that phrase: you're overstaying your welcome, sucklers, because it's your time to get out there.

Source really wants you to know that there may be some people in your life right now, who rather than taking their own initiative are hanging on to you and weighing you down.

I don't know who I'm talking to or who I'm talking about in particular, but let's just explore this.

Rather than taking their own initiative and stepping up to the plate, they've learned from YOUR pattern of behavior reinforcing them staying in a receiving state from you.

Don't misunderstand the message here: Source is saying this AND honoring the fact that you are giving a lot.

You're an amazing nurturing being.

However, the question that you must ask yourself when you are feeling drained is, "what is the pattern IN ME that's creating this situation?"

Know this: YOU train people to be energy #vampires by having no self #respect or #selfcare. #loveyourself @SenseiWhitfield

Ouch...

Why would we be asking this question in the first place?

If you feel that a lot of people are taking, taking, taking from you, but you don't feel like anyone gives to you.

Now, we don't mean this in a selfish way, like we're keeping score, murmuring "Grr, when am I going to get mine?"

No, that's not what we're saying.

Instead, just consider: are you the only giver in town?

Or better yet, could giving and being The Giver or The Nurturer be a way that you control every one around you?

If that is so, it's counterproductive for you to be mad at people for continuing the paradigm that you've set up of control through receiving from you.

Also, this is for those of us that are secretly feeling, "Ugh! I advocate for everyone, lift up everyone so much. When is someone going to fight for me? When is someone going to advocate for me?"

That might be coming up because we're exhibiting a behavioral pattern that reinforces having sucklers around.

People are not taking initiative, because we're not giving them the space to take it.

Here are the oracle cards now. This is a bit of a tough love week. This topic kind of sucks. LOL!

It's important on the path of natural intuitive development to see how our energy drains, though.

That's one of the many forms of assessment that we do here at the dojo.

The Indigo Angel Oracle Cards deck, by Doreen Virtue is the deck of the week. 

So let's see what's coming up around this energy drain issue for those people who it started off beautifully, and really meant well to be nurturing and giving, but are now starting to feel drained and resentful.

Suddenly, we've become "mama" to grown men, grown women, and not in a good way, in a draining way.

Wow, look at the image, how the breasts of the angel are exposed to show giving, nurturing, mother energy!

 

 

This week's #oracle card is "You Are Special" -- the #Angels want you to know this week that you are worthy of #love, #support and recognition. Your #joy and #health are just as important as others'; especially if you go out of your way to make everyone else feel special, this week you need to remember that you are special, too. Full reading on #YouTube: https://youtu.be/mjXVG-1uCfM ????????✨????????✨ #reiki #meditation #healing

 

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You are special.

The reason why the angels are sending this card forward is this is showing what's the problematic pattern and behavior that you're exhibiting. 

You don't see yourself as special. Everyone else is special in your eyes.

That's so loving. That's beautiful. Humble.

However, it ends up leaving your needs, your boundaries, your standards, your values in the dust, because we place others above ourselves, because we assign everyone on the outside responsibility for making us feel happy.

What does that mean?

That means we're not happy and comfortable unless our entire environment is happy and comfortable. Right?

But making everyone happy doesn't make you special.

It just makes you really busy.

To change the pattern of behavior, for this week in particular, is to say to yourself, "How can I see myself as just as special as everyone else that I am pouring love into this week?"

Are you special?

What's a list of things that make you special?

Comment below, send me an email back. Tell me. I want to hear it.

I'm excited to see you celebrate yourself and begin to shift that pattern of behavior!

That's this week's message. By all means, please go to victoriawhitfield.com/freegift and make sure that you subscribe so that you're getting your weekly Love Letters if you haven’t already.

And on YouTube hit that Subscribe button, wherever she is on your screen, so that you get your weekly Love Letters as soon as their uploaded.

Sending you so much love 🙂

See you next time. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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If you find yourself feeling drained by a person or situation, pause for a second. Ask yourself: "what is the pattern IN ME that is creating this situation?"

Allow any images, ideas, memories and guidance to come up for you in response to that question, and don't judge what you hear.

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Frustrated by your love life?

Wish you could attract your soulmate?

Having a hard time receiving love from people close to you?

One of the oldest pursuits in the human experience is the pursuit of love.

Oddly enough however, when asked most people tend to have no idea what love actually is.

Watch this week's 8-minute Love Letter to begin exploring what love actually is, so you can get more of it!

"I just really want to be loved."

Source has called you to a higher vibration of love and relationships in your lifetime.

It's time we talk about what exactly is love. 

How would you define being and feeling loved in this lifetime?

Have you ever heard of the 5 love languages? That's one way of interpreting love. They are:

• Words of Affirmation
• Acts of Service
• Gifts
• Touch, and
• Quality Time

There's 5 ways of expressing love, certainly.

But love can go unfelt, unseen and unexperienced because we don't have a clear definition of what healthy love is for us ourselves.

Perhaps we witnessed our parents have one version of what love is for them, and how they would define it in their lives.

But what would Love in Her fullest expression be for you?

Going to Source right now, She is saying that love is oneness.

Oneness in all of her expressions: oneness in the sense of being connected, oneness in the sense of seeing yourself in another, oneness in circulating the energy healthfully throughout the entire system as one, oneness in the absence of separation.

During this time of the year or maybe oftentimes, you may be thinking in your mind, "I just really want to be loved. I want to experience feeling loved in a deeper way, or having access to more love in my life."

The way to that, Source is saying, is through yourself first because love is oneness. Start at square one.

How then do you express love for yourself? How do you encounter love within you:

• • Is it in the way that you take care of your body?

• • Is it in the way that you tell yourself stories about yourself?

• • Is it in the way that you put yourself together or express yourself in the art that you create or surround yourself?

• • Is it in the way that you share yourself professionally?

• Is that how you love yourself, or is it in the way that you express yourself personally, with your family?

This week's topic in particular is more of an internal journey -- that's why we're asking so many more questions: because Source really wants to bring you back to you.

What really matters most this week is that you sit down and journal your answers to all of the questions that Source is asking through us.

Now I'm hearing the Oracle Cards calling in the energy.

The Romance Angels Oracle Card Deck is really wanting to send you a lot of extra love this week.

So let's ask them, "How can we raise the vibration of love and romance, not only with another person but also with ourselves?"

 

 

This week's oracle card is "Let Go of Control Issues"???????? Source is sending you this card to let you know that in order to receive the level of love you desire in life, you'll need to open up to defining and experiencing your center, your core, your #nature around what love is. #reiki #healing #love #joy #doreenvirtue #happy #valentines #relationship ???????? Watch this week's reading on #YouTube at: http://youtu.be/Nvhhv1uqcPQ

 

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This is a doozy: "Let go of control issues. Allow this situation to unfold naturally."

Now in the energy, what Source is saying is -- especially for developing your natural intuition around love, feeling love, receiving love, being love -- it's about embracing your natural impulses around love.

This really brings it full circle back to being about our parents' influence and what you may have witnessed, or maybe the influence of TV or other people around you.

Perhaps other people are getting married or divorced or having children. All these external factors are causing you to judge your own status on love, be kind to yourself. Call upon your own nature.

What I'm hearing in the energy, this week in particular, is to challenge you to find your own natural stance. Centering.

Know this: YOU define what love is, based on the feelings that confirm you're showing or experiencing love. 

This week is all about centering, finding where is your square one -- your feeling of oneness -- around love.

And you can find your center by asking yourself in the journaling you're doing this week: "why do I want love? what is love to me?"

It's important to always start with why. (Great book, by the way, by Simon Sinek if you haven't checked it out yet.)

Start with why to find your center.

If you're not exactly sure what your definition is, start with why.

Why do you desire love?

Really unpack that story, and don't be afraid of exploring the dark forest of your heart.

There's so much love there.

As you go for it, let go of whatever stories you may have inherited or created around love.

There's so much within you.

Love is something that can come through you naturally, the same way that air in the form of oxygen for us to breathe naturally comes out of a plant.

She is able to allow the processes to express it naturally.

Perhaps in order for you to receive more love in this lifetime or in this year or in this day, maybe you have to let go.

Comment below, tell me what's coming up for you.

You can even journal your answers if you'd like or send them to me.

I'd love to share and talk to you about that. 

That's this week's message. By all means, please go to victoriawhitfield.com/freegift and make sure that you subscribe so that you're getting your weekly Love Letters if you haven’t already.

And on YouTube hit that Subscribe button, wherever she is on your screen, so that you get your weekly Love Letters as soon as their uploaded.

Sending you so much love 🙂

See you next time. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Disappointment got you down?

Having a hard time forgiving yourself for messing up?

Wish you could just feel better already, instead of feeling like a failure all the time?

If this is you, believe it or not, you're on the verge of a breakthrough.

Every disappointment and seeming "failure" holds healing knowledge sent from Spirit to clean up your energy and move you to your next level.

Watch the above 10-minute video to learn how to shift your energy immediately to receiving healing and clearing spiritual knowledge! 

"I feel like a failure."

To help you find the Dark Gift in disappointment is like finding a needle in a haystack.

When we're really low-vibration in guilt and all those yucky, gooey sensations of resentment and self-unforgiveness, it's hard to see the light.

We're just keep saying to ourselves: "No! Everything's doom and gloom and I'm a piece of doody-pants."

One thing that helps shift your vibration fast -- and if you come to The Dojo you'll always see me do this -- is to celebrate when things don't work out.

I know you're watching, all of my students that this has happened to; when they come back out of meditation, they say: "Sensei, I didn't go anywhere. I didn't see anything, I was right here the whole time."

What do I do every time? My students know that every time they say this, I say: "Yay! Yes! Going nowhere, doing nothing! WOOHOO!!"

Why? Not because I'm a crazy-pants... well, maybe, but I'm a crazy-pants with good reason. 🙂 Everyone is crazy for a reason, just ask them!

The reason why we celebrate is not only because "Well, you tried," which is always positive, but also whenever you celebrate your brain re-orients herself to say "What am I celebrating?"

She is immediately looking to see what are the positives in this situation; she automatically reframes the situation to support positive outcomes. This is called Neuro-linguistic Programming, by the way.

When we're in celebration mode, our brain must support that with data. The new-aged version of this exact same phenomena is the Universal Law of Attraction.

What you need to know most right now is that the more you celebrate in the face of disappointment, the more you will immediately align with what there to celebrate.

You'll know. Seriously, it works like magic. It's like fairy dust.

Try it, you will see just how effective it is.

Know this: You can shift your state right now: celebrate in the face of disappointment & you'll discover why your failure is healing.

By all means clap and scream and celebrate over your perceived failure until you're able to find out what is celebratory in this.

Gratitude, admiration, adoration, joy and high vibrations are constantly present. They just don't show up out of nowhere and then disappear. Why?

Because everything is Now.

All that is, is right now.

The lowest vibrations you could possibly emanate are just as present as the highest vortexy, juicy, yummy woo thing you could possibly experience.

All vibrations are present now.

By being in celebration, choosing to celebrate disappointment, you will activate your ability to perceive and receive any Dark Gifts that are coming out of your experience.

It doesn't matter how dark or how painful the situation is, trust me, this always works.

And with that I'm hearing the Oracle cards loud and clear. The Healing with the Fairies oracle card deck is the one that said "We want to talk about disappointment and failure!" Yay!

Interesting. So the card that is coming up is "Vacation." Thank you, fairies!

So what I just heard in the energy is the reason why this card is coming up: a change of scenery.

If you've really been feeling like "I feel guilty," or "I feel like a failure," say you lost your job or the business tanked or the marriage is ending and going down divorce, then the fairies are sending you this message:

A change of environment can really help raise your vibration.

Once you're in that shifted environment, then look back with celebratory energy.

Sometimes things are so heavy, disappointing and immersive that the environment around us can really re-emanate that super low vibration, and your mind follows along with that.

The most stressful part of dealing with disappointment and failure is that we just keep turning it over and over.

But you have to understand that the room, the house, the building, the space that you are in reflects your mind and all of your mental, emotional vibrations.

She will continue to re-vibrate and replay all of what's been on your mind and on your heart, all that energy.

Energy of low-vibration emotions and thought, all of that that you've been putting out, she will continue to replay that and reverberate that back to you.

Changing your environment is really important if you've suffered a pretty serious failure or a big disappointment.

Go on a vacation. If you can't afford a vacation that's fine, go outside or go over to someone else's house, change the scenery and allow your space at home or at the office, to clear out.

It's cathartic always when we go through this clearing process after the business failed and we have to clear out the energy.

Clearing and rebooting is really good because it's clearing your mind.

Environment always effects and reflects the mind, and therefore shifting your environment from one space to another is really essential for dealing with disappointment.

The fairies want you to know that it's okay to give yourself permission to do that.

In the divorce, go over to your friends' or parents' house and spend some time with them. Allow someone to be nurturing to you who you know loves you no matter what.

If the term paper didn't go well and you have the wherewithal to do it, go down the shore (to the beach) and let the ocean wash away your pain.

Be in the mountains, get yourself in nature, or even go to the arcade and whack the mole. Delicious! I love playing Whack-a-mole when I'm pissed about something! LOL! 🙂

It's all about a change of scenery because that'll help you to shift out of that crappy, crusty vibration.

Don't wallow in the mud of the past, because it will just slow you down. 

I am sending you so much love, I'm surrounding you in the energy with white light and I will see you next week.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Celebrate your disappointments and failures! Shout and be silly: "YAY! I DID IT!" And then wait for it.... ????

As you clap and rejoice the fact that you tried, stay open to Spirit showing you any lessons you can learn about yourself and your life.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Have you ever had a project not work out the way you expected it to, and that threw you for a loop?

Beating yourself up over a failed business or relationship?

Annoyed that you have to start at square one, AGAIN?

Periodically life lets us down or we ourselves drop the ball; we all know that disappointment is just a part of life.

But sometimes when this happens, we can get caught in a toxic never-ending cycle of self-loathing and self-punishment.

Watch the above 10-minute video to begin breaking out of this toxic cycle of self-sabotage! 

"What do I need to know right now? What am I supposed to learn in this moment?"

Have you ever had a project not work out the way you expect it to?

Maybe the business failed, the relationship failed. Or you asked someone to do something, where you delegated something to another person and it didn't work out, and they didn't do it the way that you wanted it to be done.

You put so much work and effort into this project or paper or exam, and it comes back or goes through and you see that it nope, totally doesn't look like what you were hoping the outcome to be at all.

You sent out your college essay and nope, you got a rejection. Working out, eating clean, as best as you can, get on the scale, nope! No weight lost.

Disappointment, oh yeah. Failure... delicious! Lol!

If you're feeling, "I'm struggling with that right now, Victoria" this is not to make fun of you. I'm laughing because I'm in the mud with you, feeling you strongly so my heart is so open to you right now.

We're going to dive right into this, and laugh our way through the crap of life, together. 🙂

Source says that we have a tendency to ruminate and really draw out the failure event with our guilt and disappointment, chewing on it like a cow chewing on cud.

Cud is the stuff that comes out of all of her stomachs--what is it like 8 of them or something like that?

She chews so that she can continue the experience of getting through all of the nutrients in that grass for hours and hours and hours on end.

You don't need to be in that slow, drawn-out process, is what the Spirit is saying.

It's one way to approach failure and disappointment: to draw it out and say "This is exactly why I suck."

Or waxing poetic: "How many ways can I be horrible? Let me count the ways," or "Let's get creative! How can I express how much failure I am in 60 seconds? Go!"

My love, let me count the ways. No Shakespeare, stop it! Just stop. STOP!

The way that we want to deal with disappointment is to embrace her.

Failure must be embraced. To cast her away or pull her out and torture yourself is to drag yourself thought the mud excessively.

It's when we go into that process of self-deprecating behavior and masochism, the "I'm guilty, I feel so bad. Oh my god you washed the dishes for me, I feel so bad, I'm a failure at being helpful..." etc.

Interesting, one of the Spirits just said "be kind to yourself, if that's what you're going through." Again, this is not to make fun of you, but to help you see yourself.

Know this: Guilt and negative self-talk are low-vibrational forms of centering meditation. Be kind to yourself; there are better ways.

The energy says that whenever we experience failure or that strong sensation of being out of alignment, we come out of our bodies.

This happens because all of the energy that we have put out into that project or relationship, or into whatever, didn't work out. We funneled ourselves into that identity that we formed, we put so much of our energy into that and when it doesn't go through, we find ourselves outside of our bodies and our truth.

Guilt, disappointment and all of that negative rumination is a mistaken and low vibrational way of centering: you're coming back to a sense of self through masochism.

We see that you're trying to come back to center and recreate your identity after failure through guilt, like "Oh I know who I am because of what I am not." Ok.

That's a fallacy though, because that's going to take you farther away from who you really are as a divine being; this is what I'm seeing in the energy right now.

Be kind to yourself if that's where you're at.

You're just mistaken.

You see, in the moment that you are trying to re-center and find your authentic energy, you're striving to get to the point where you're thinking positively: "Okay, this is me, this is me. Phew! I'm all solid again, I'm not pushed out into all of this stuff around me that's failing and being disappointing. That person didn't do it the way I would. That doesn't mean I'm horrible." Or, "That relationship didn't work out, but that doesn't mean I'm a failure."

You're identity, Source says, is spread out too thin so that act of guilt and the act of drawn out disappointment and holding onto that sense of self-unforgiveness (which is guilt and dragging ourselves through the mud and resentment) is just an inverse way of trying to re-center.

We tell you this for a reason: See the light, even in the darkness.

The way that we best deal with disappointment is for searching for The Dark Gift in it.

I don't mean dark gift, like Dracula spookypants boogadeyboo, etc dark gift, lol.

What I mean by dark gift is gifts that we find in our shadow, gifts that the spirit sends through experiences.

And by the way, the spirit is constantly sending gifts, infinite amount of gifts you are receiving now.

Not in the past, you got them. Not in the future, that didn't happen. Now.

There is an infinite amount of gifts that are present to you and latent in the dark side of what's happening, like disappointments.

Those gifts in the darkness or in uncertainty or in your shadow are what we mean by dark -- not like boogedy evil, we don't mean that.

Dark Gifts are learning gifts.

They're there to help you embrace the disappointment, embrace the distraction, embrace the failure. You embrace by saying "I screwed up and I GET to LEARN from it."

One of my students awakened me to a wonderful quote years ago.

A quote by John C. Maxwell, "We always fail forward. Why? Because you tried."

Failing forward is the ability to get back up after you've been knocked down and to learn from your mistakes.

It really embodies this concept of embracing the dark gifts that disappointment is trying to send us.

In the previous video we talked about acceptance and how that can kind of be lubricant to life if you're feeling blocked or static.

Being in a state of Acceptance can help you figure out where's the stepping stone for you to take in this experience you're having now.

That absolutely applies here because in our disappointments, when things don't work out, there's always a way to look back at the process and see how could that have gone better and if it couldn't have gone better, reflect on "What do I need to know right now? What am I supposed to learn in this moment?"

Check back next week for part 2 of this love letter!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Pay attention to how you talk about and describe yourself today, listening for negative and guilt-laden language that's focused on past failures, shortcomings and disappointments.

When you catch yourself doing this, finish the following sentence to yourself: "I accept that I can't change what happened and I know I can only change myself and how I feel; so what I am learning right now is..."

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Having a hard time letting something go?

Still angry about what happened and can't forgive them, or yourself?

Know you "should" stop holding on to the past, but just don't know how?

It seems like every therapist, spiritual teacher, healer and guru tells us to "let go" so we can heal. But it seems like they just don't see how that is WAY easier said than done, right? JEEZ!

One way you can begin to let go and forgive is to understand why you're holding on, and what causes you to hold on in the first place.

Watch the above video to learn how to begin letting go to free yourself from the toxic energy of unforgiveness!

"Ugh. Really? Here we go again! Let's get back on and go for a ride on that old rollercoaster of emotions!"

Isn't it exhausting when the same old stuff just keeps coming up over and over?

You would think that you'd be fine by now, after all you've been through, right? You gave yourself space, said you were moving on, said you were done with the issue - you basically did everything that you were "supposed to" do.

And yet here it is again, the same old feeling is biting you in the butt and getting your emotions all riled up, reviving the whole sick cycle of feelings that you buried.

Perhaps you see that person that betrayed you years ago. Perhaps you watch a movie that triggers a memory. Or perhaps you happen to smell something that reminds you of how things used to be.

Then comes the anger, the sadness, the drama. They all fall on your head fresh like a ton of bricks. Wham!

You say to yourself: "They hurt me. How could this happen? This shouldn't have happened. Why does this always happen to me? It's not fair! It's wrong! It's wrong, damnit! I don't deserve this!" and so on...

Suddenly you find yourself angrily rejecting what happened or what "they" did all over again as if it's happening now, and it makes you feel clear, strong, and "in the right" - justifying how far you've come and what you've learned, how good of a person it made you, etc.

But at the same time, you feel grief and ache, having lost your innocence to that experience.

Pumping yourself up every so often like this always feels artificial as the underlying grief of having lost part of your innocence to what happened continues to weigh on your spirit... Sound familiar?

This is the cycle of unforgiveness.

And it's maddening.

Time is just an emotion; it's made up. And the feeling of unforgiveness is actually proof that time doesn't exist, because it can cause "old" experiences to be brand new in the moment because they are so full of emotion.

In fact, your brain knows that time doesn't exist, and so once you start reliving the emotions of the "past" your brain can and will send signals to your body to trigger your fight or flight response - your heart rate increases, your palms and armpits sweat, your jaw tightens, your digestion stops and your stress hormones release more and more.

All this from thoughts you keep thinking, or get triggered to think of again.

Being re-triggered and reliving these issues like this creates a fertile breeding ground for disease in your body and dis-ease in your life, by the way.

Chronic pain and illness are often caused by habitual holding on or an addiction to unforgiveness. It is the body screaming against these toxic emotions being in your system.

You see, your body knows that those emotions and feelings are bad for you, so s/he will do whatever it takes to grab your attention to tell you that something mentally, emotionally or spiritually is seriously out of alignment - and you can gauge how out of alignment you are by how severe your body's disease is manifesting.

But how the heck do you kick an addiction to unforgiveness?

Well, the same way you would kick any addiction: start with WHY. It all starts with understanding WHY you would be addicted to unforgiveness in the first place.

Know this: Letting go starts with finding out why you're holding on in the first place. And it usually boils down to CONTROL. #forgiveness #freeyourmind

Here's the thing: no matter what happened that rubbed you the wrong way, it happened, and it made you feel powerless and not in control of your life and feelings in that moment.

Because of that, your identity - or "ego" - was compromised, and in the moment it (identity/ego) basically flipped the "freak out switch" to defend itself by getting angry, rebelling and infusing the situation with all kinds of inflammatory emotions.

These inflammatory emotions are meant to protect you, so you could survive the experience and continue living; they are part of your psyche's evolutionary, primal protective mechanism.

Think of the inflammatory emotions as inflating a big bubble suit around your body/essence to serve as a buffer that allows you to keep going, just like an airbag deploys in a car crash to save your life.

But what if you continued to live inside that mangled car after the car crash, holding on to the airbags for dear life?

Think of it. It's years later, and the wrecked car is overgrown with weeds and wildflowers, perhaps birds and squirrels have made their nests in the rubble, and people are driving past you on the highway in brand new cars totally oblivious to the fact that you're still living inside this car wreck just because the airbag deployed and made you feel safe ONCE.

That's what holding on looks like, and it's time to be willing to set yourself free from a self-imposed imprisonment.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows us how to let go and forgive for good!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Just for Today...

Take an inventory of past experiences that still trigger negative emotions for you by writing it down in your journal.

Then ask yourself and journal about these two questions: "1) How does feeling these emotions now make me feel justified, powerful or in control of what happened to me in the past? and 2) Can I just decide to feel powerful now without thinking about or basing my feeling upon what happened?"

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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