Tired of being "stuck" in life, waiting for your time to shine?

Feeling frustrated that you, your partner or your business still haven't realized their potential, after all your hard work?

Having a hard time just accepting what's happening and embracing yourself and your life "as is"?

Sometimes our "great expectations" can get the best of us, blinding our eyes to the opportunities and positive aspects in our present moment.

This is a particularly sticky situation, because we're caught up in reaching for something that doesn't exist, and meanwhile in our current reality, we end up feeling blocked and stagnant.

Watch the above 11-minute video to learn exactly how you can start practicing acceptance and get unstuck!

"How can I accept my life completely?"

Acceptance keeps the momentum moving forward.

When we do not accept what the circumstances are, there's a lack of acceptance of what is.

When we do not accept who we are dating or married to as what they're showing is who they actually are, we usually are continuously looking past them, thinking: "maybe one day he's going to be this, or maybe one day she'll do this, or maybe someday this will happen."

If we're embracing being more in alignment with nature, practicing acceptance only becomes that much more important, because acceptance keeps you in the now.  

A good place to start is accepting disappointment; thinking, for example: "Okay, I see that this is what it is. I'm in a job that I do not like. I'm not comfortable with my body. This person that I'm dating really isn't right for me as they are, or this person that I'm married to is totally out of alignment with me, as they are right now."

The next step though, after acceptance, is taking action once you are clear on what you have now.

Getting to the point of accepting what is, and having a sense of peace with that, will lower your blood pressure, will calm aches in your body. Acceptance can change the way that you sleep, the way that you eat, the way that you spend your money, spend your time, who you spend your time with.

When we are in a state of acceptance, we're letting go of the fight to make things more than what they actually are -- you put your sword down, and just say "okay, I'm here."

Believe it or not, spirit is saying that the effect of this is that it wipes the slate clean in life.

Emotionally, energetically, physically, socially, financially. Clean slate.

Now for some of you, I'm feeling a nervousness in the energy around having a totally clean slate. I hear you thinking "Well, what do I do with that?"

If that's you, here's what you do. Raise the vibration of that image. Think of it like a blank check. The clean slate is meant to be infinite possibilities. It's not meant to intimidate you.

Know this: If you can accept where you're at now, that gives you a strong foundation for actually changing things for the better.  

It's about taking responsibility for all of what is your actual reality. What is the totality of your world? You need to be able to answer that before you can be in charge of your world.

Source is saying it is extremely important that you have peace with what Source has given you now.

That you have consciousness and clarity with what you have now. It's okay. All is well.

All right, so I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. Doreen Virtue's "Indigo Angel Oracle Cards" is the deck that came through that wanted to share about practicing acceptance.

So we're just asking as we shuffle: "Angels of understanding, acceptance and peace, show us what do we need to know right now about practicing acceptance? What's at stake? Why are we being so prideful? Not saying no, this is not acceptable. How can I be more than who I really am right now?"

The Oracle Card that came through is... Acceptance!

LOL! WOWZA! I've been doing this for years, and well, I must say, it never gets old. It never gets old! I think this is pretty self explanatory that we're in the vortex, that your synchronicity is lining up.

Here's the reading:

 

As an indigo, you're built to question everything, as part of your mission for making healthful changes to this planet. However, this characteristic may cause you to reject a part of your life that's necessary, in order for you to get to the next step.

Let me pause for a second and emphasize this: if you want the next level in your life, the next level starts with acceptance. It's good stuff. Let's continue reading:

 

This card is a message for you to search through your life and determine if there is anything, or anyone, you are rejecting.

Accepting your life completely is the best thing you can do for yourself right now. 

While this may not be easy or even seem right, know that you simply cannot change everything you do not like, and certain things must be tolerated in this lifetime.

Why must they be tolerated? I have to pause here, because I'm hearing someone in the Energy ask "why shouldn't I settle for anything?"

Here's the thing: It's not about settling.

You could be rejecting the dark gifts, aka the lessons and stepping stones that Source is sending you in your present total reality in this present moment of existence.

You could be rejecting those gifts that are the launching pads to get you to the next level that you are designed for, if you're not accepting them or tolerating them, working through them, understanding and using them to flow through your life's journey. The reading continues:

 

You could be rejecting something that's really essential to the recipe of "You." Ask the angels to bring you strength and comfort to make letting go and accepting easier.  Acceptance is not easy. However, it is a decision.

All you have to do is decide in the moment I accept that what is, is what is.

This is what I've got right now, and I am accepting it, or this is who you are right now, and I am accepting you just as you are. Good, bad, and whoa Nelly. Right?

You'll notice that when you do that, such as admitting to yourself "I accept that I am really angry right now," things will process faster.

I encounter so many people, especially when I meet them for the first time who say, "Oh yeah, I'm blocked," or "this is blocked," or "I'm feeling blocked in life." Declarations like these show acceptance, and this is a serious issue because they don't realize they're fueling those blocks with their acceptance of the idea of being a victim of being blocked.

Another issue is that when you can't accept what's going on, you're going to be at an impasse.

There's a gift there that Source is trying to send you in this frustrating or seemingly "negative" experience. So deciding to open up and allow the experience to be what it is, not knowing what may come on the other side of being in that state of acceptance, you are opening up to moving forward authentically.

If you're curious to know more about this, send me an email at SenseiVictoriaWhitfield@gmail.com or comment below. I'm really intrigued to hear what are you not accepting.

Is there something that's been eating at you, or really pressing on you, and really fueling your stress level that you feel is absolutely not acceptable? Email me about it!

Someone in the energy just said that if something bad happened to you, the way that you can practice acceptance is to accept the fact that that happened. It's not in your current total reality.

It's in your history, yes, but is it right here? Happening right now? No. This step has to come first before you let anything go, or even think about forgiving.

This is a very intense spiritual practice. Simple, but profound. So be kind to yourself; I'm sending you so much love, and I will see you next week.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Observe yourself today to find out what people, places, things or actions your are avoiding, rejecting or running from.

When you find one, ask yourself: "What gift from the Universe could I be refusing to receive by avoiding this situation?"

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Want to let go and forgive but don't know where to start? Tell me!

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Feeling stressed out lately because everything's changing?

Having a hard time forgiving someone who does things different than you?

Can't believe that things are not working out the way you expected?

One of the biggest sources of stress is the inability to practice acceptance of how things are.

More often than not, we unconsciously try to force the world to fit our version of how it "should" be, rather than staying non-judgmental and open.

Watch the above 11-minute video to learn to relax and stop "shoulding" all over yourself!!

"Why can't I look at my life and accept it as it is?"

This week, the topic that's coming through is practicing acceptance.

In the energy, as I was searching for what we were going to deliver for this week's love letter, and the following question came out of our soul: "What are the different sources of stress in our lives that different students of the dojo and I observe, and what does the Energy have to say?"

One of the big sources of stress in our lives is our inability to practice acceptance. The first thing that's coming through to share from the spirit is that, acceptance counteracts, or it goes against, the ego.

Ego and pride are catalysts for stress, obstacles and frustration in life.

The way this happens is that we form a mental identification with A when we are experiencing B.

Even though we believe that we are A and we believe in A, we say we are A or have been raised to be A, the experience however -- the physical sensations, the temporal physical manifestation of whatever spirit is delivering into our lives at this moment -- is B.

We're looking at B and overlaying A, because that's our glasses. We're wearing A glasses and the only thing that we could see through these glasses is A. There's no such thing as B. So we're just going to move B out of the way.

That is what a lack of acceptance looks like, energetically speaking and psychologically as well.

What are the effects of that A-B split, personality wise, perceptually? What are the effects?

• Stress
• Lack of understanding
• Suppressed expression
• Anger
• Feeling ungrounded, out of alignment, depressed, anxious, untrusting, unworthy or invalid.

We're looking at B, which is the actual temporal manifestation, the natural physical spacial manifestation that we're experiencing now is a B experience. But in our minds there's nothing but A in terms of the data that we can interpret of it, cognitively. In other words, there's a mental pattern to rather not a have to interpret the data.

So there's a mental pattern that we follow: all data that comes in must be sifted through the A protocol and fit into an A prototype. This is a bit of robotic description on purpose, the spirits are saying, because it is unnatural.

In fact it is manufactured, this A prototype, this A box; we're trying to fit the circle peg that we're experiencing into a square box. This A prototype or protocol is manufactured. Why?

This is what I'm hearing in the energy: "Well, why would we have it that way, of not being able to look at our lives and just accept them as they are? How did that happen?"

Well of course, there's nature versus nurture.

Humans as an animal that has the gift of critical thinking naturally like to look for patterns, and to duplicate patterns, to create a sense of stability, order, reproductibility, familiarity. It is to create a tribe.

Here’s why this happens: We're searching for ourselves in the patterns in the All That Is that is around us naturally.

We are also nurtured then on top of that: socially, culturally, traditionally through advertising, commercializing, religiously.

All of these different external systems will create their version of what type of paradigm you should be looking at your world through, even if the world that you're experiencing is totally not in alignment with it, totally not.

Let's put all the technical language aside for a second. I'll tell you a story to give an example of a lack of acceptance, what that looks like and the effects:

Johnny is a good boy. Johnny comes from a good family. Johnny gets good grades. Johnny plays good with other kids. Off the street or in sports, Johnny is a good boy.

Johnny goes to a good school. He takes on a good major. He does good and he graduates in a good place in his class.

Johnny gets a good job and Johnny is dating a good girl. Their relationship is going good, so they get married and he has good marriage and everything is good.

What determines the version of Johnny's "good" is completely relative.

As you were visualizing and thinking and going along with that whole story I just told you, what were your versions of what is "good" that were coming up for you?

"I'm making good money. We're having a good marriage. We're going to a good school, getting good grades." But what are your version of good grades?

For some people, their version of good or acceptable is entirely different, beautifully different, entirely different than your idea of what's good. 

What matters most is how you feel.

Know this: If you're judging what a "good life" is based only on someone else's idea of what's good, you're out of alignment.

The frustration and the symptoms of being out of alignment, of being ungrounded, frustrated or non-expressed are going to come out, naturally, because there's a fundamental lack of clarity around what's your definition of what's acceptable and not acceptable.

In previous videos, we were talking about protecting your joy and how one way to do that is to know "what the heck is my joy?"

It's about a defining process. You can do that to the Nth degree and find yourself more by defining yourself than finding yourself in some workshop, some retreat, some book, some person's arms.

You don't go find yourself, you define yourself.

That's what I'm hearing to tell you in the energy. And one way that is really powerful, but very simple, spiritual practice to start this path is by practicing acceptance.

It's very simple: "whatever it is, is what it is."

At first glance, I'm going to sound profoundly pedestrian, but I would challenge you to look a little bit deeper into that phrase, especially if you are not satisfied with your job, with your relationship or partner, with your body, with your finances, with your studies, with the food that you're eating, the place the you live, et cetera.

If you are feeling not satisfied, you need to look into embracing a sense of acceptance, but not to settle.

That is not acceptance. That's reticence. Huge difference, go to thesaurus.com if you don't know what reticence is. But the only thing I'm going to tell you is that one is active and the other is passive.

Check back next week for part 2 of this love letter!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Just for Today...

When you start feeling frustrated with someone who is not doing a "good" job according to your standards, pause and remember that what is "good" or "acceptable" performance is relative to each person.

Take a moment to lovingly go over YOUR standards with that person, assuming they genuinely didn't know.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want to de-stress and clear your energy but don't know where to start? Tell me!

Give me a call at +1 (732) 903-8573 or click on the blue BOOK NOW button to start your healing journey, today!

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Having a hard time letting something go?

Still angry about what happened and can't forgive them, or yourself?

Know you "should" stop holding on to the past, but just don't know how?

It seems like every therapist, spiritual teacher, healer and guru tells us to "let go" so we can heal. But it seems like they just don't see how that is WAY easier said than done, right? JEEZ!

One way you can begin to let go and forgive is to understand why you're holding on, and what causes you to hold on in the first place.

Watch the above video to learn how to begin letting go to free yourself from the toxic energy of unforgiveness!

"Ugh. Really? Here we go again! Let's get back on and go for a ride on that old rollercoaster of emotions!"

Isn't it exhausting when the same old stuff just keeps coming up over and over?

You would think that you'd be fine by now, after all you've been through, right? You gave yourself space, said you were moving on, said you were done with the issue - you basically did everything that you were "supposed to" do.

And yet here it is again, the same old feeling is biting you in the butt and getting your emotions all riled up, reviving the whole sick cycle of feelings that you buried.

Perhaps you see that person that betrayed you years ago. Perhaps you watch a movie that triggers a memory. Or perhaps you happen to smell something that reminds you of how things used to be.

Then comes the anger, the sadness, the drama. They all fall on your head fresh like a ton of bricks. Wham!

You say to yourself: "They hurt me. How could this happen? This shouldn't have happened. Why does this always happen to me? It's not fair! It's wrong! It's wrong, damnit! I don't deserve this!" and so on...

Suddenly you find yourself angrily rejecting what happened or what "they" did all over again as if it's happening now, and it makes you feel clear, strong, and "in the right" - justifying how far you've come and what you've learned, how good of a person it made you, etc.

But at the same time, you feel grief and ache, having lost your innocence to that experience.

Pumping yourself up every so often like this always feels artificial as the underlying grief of having lost part of your innocence to what happened continues to weigh on your spirit... Sound familiar?

This is the cycle of unforgiveness.

And it's maddening.

Time is just an emotion; it's made up. And the feeling of unforgiveness is actually proof that time doesn't exist, because it can cause "old" experiences to be brand new in the moment because they are so full of emotion.

In fact, your brain knows that time doesn't exist, and so once you start reliving the emotions of the "past" your brain can and will send signals to your body to trigger your fight or flight response - your heart rate increases, your palms and armpits sweat, your jaw tightens, your digestion stops and your stress hormones release more and more.

All this from thoughts you keep thinking, or get triggered to think of again.

Being re-triggered and reliving these issues like this creates a fertile breeding ground for disease in your body and dis-ease in your life, by the way.

Chronic pain and illness are often caused by habitual holding on or an addiction to unforgiveness. It is the body screaming against these toxic emotions being in your system.

You see, your body knows that those emotions and feelings are bad for you, so s/he will do whatever it takes to grab your attention to tell you that something mentally, emotionally or spiritually is seriously out of alignment - and you can gauge how out of alignment you are by how severe your body's disease is manifesting.

But how the heck do you kick an addiction to unforgiveness?

Well, the same way you would kick any addiction: start with WHY. It all starts with understanding WHY you would be addicted to unforgiveness in the first place.

Know this: Letting go starts with finding out why you're holding on in the first place. And it usually boils down to CONTROL. #forgiveness #freeyourmind

Here's the thing: no matter what happened that rubbed you the wrong way, it happened, and it made you feel powerless and not in control of your life and feelings in that moment.

Because of that, your identity - or "ego" - was compromised, and in the moment it (identity/ego) basically flipped the "freak out switch" to defend itself by getting angry, rebelling and infusing the situation with all kinds of inflammatory emotions.

These inflammatory emotions are meant to protect you, so you could survive the experience and continue living; they are part of your psyche's evolutionary, primal protective mechanism.

Think of the inflammatory emotions as inflating a big bubble suit around your body/essence to serve as a buffer that allows you to keep going, just like an airbag deploys in a car crash to save your life.

But what if you continued to live inside that mangled car after the car crash, holding on to the airbags for dear life?

Think of it. It's years later, and the wrecked car is overgrown with weeds and wildflowers, perhaps birds and squirrels have made their nests in the rubble, and people are driving past you on the highway in brand new cars totally oblivious to the fact that you're still living inside this car wreck just because the airbag deployed and made you feel safe ONCE.

That's what holding on looks like, and it's time to be willing to set yourself free from a self-imposed imprisonment.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows us how to let go and forgive for good!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Just for Today...

Take an inventory of past experiences that still trigger negative emotions for you by writing it down in your journal.

Then ask yourself and journal about these two questions: "1) How does feeling these emotions now make me feel justified, powerful or in control of what happened to me in the past? and 2) Can I just decide to feel powerful now without thinking about or basing my feeling upon what happened?"

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want to finally let go and forgive but don't know where to start? Tell me!

Give me a call at 732-903-8573 or click on the blue BOOK NOW button to start your healing journey, today!

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