Are you really good at doubting yourself?

Always putting yourself down so no one else can, or to make others feel comfortable?

Waiting for the other shoe to drop, so you’re prepared when it does?

Over time we convince ourselves to be careful about not getting to happy or positive, because it leaves us more vulnerable when things don’t work out.

But sometimes this negative mindset takes the ball and runs with it, making sure we are next to never happy, so that we are always feeling “safe.”

Watch this week’s 12-minute love letter video, the third in our four-part Deep Dive on the Power of Loving Yourself, to discover how to start releasing our addiction to negative self talk.

"I'm not smart enough."

This week is week three of our four week deep dive into loving yourself. The power of loving yourself. Knowing how to build self love enables you to love others in a big way, and that's why we're talking about this.

You already want to show up and service, and give big in life. And we're here talking about exactly how to support you doing that for the long haul, by learning how to fill your cup, first and foremost.

So last week we talked about loving your body. And exactly how to take something that you don't like, and use that as inspiration to share love with yourself.

This week, we're talking about loving your mindset. Loving your mindset. Negative self talk ... Negative, fatalistic, perspective is super killer. The reason why it's killer is because negative mindset cuts your dreams off at the conceptual level, before they can even make it out of gestation, and the manifestation, and out in fruition here.

Out in physical reality. Before they can even get that far, at the conceptual level, negative mindset cuts them all off. The vision that I get from my guides is just someone coming and cutting all of the roses off of rosebushes as the buds are trying to come out.

So be kind to yourself, if your mindset is what's holding you back.

What it would look like if that has been happening to you, is that you're surrounded by all the resource that you could possibly need. Right, you have people that want to help. People are capable of supporting you. You're surrounded by all these great groups, where they have ideal clients of yours.

But because, up here you're saying, "I'm too fat. I'm not smart enough. Nobody will pay for that. No one will love me, I'm not lovable. I'm not enough, I'm not worthy. I'm not really supposed to be in business." All my entrepreneurs, I'm talking to you. Because mindset is everything in business.

But to all those who are leaders and caregivers in your own right, the healers out there. We stop ourselves from sharing our light. Or if we're talking in business terms, we stop ourselves from sharing our gifts, our work.

The wonderful services, or products and visions that we've created to make life easier, brighter, better for others. And we keep cutting those roses off before they can even bloom in our mindset we cut it off at conception. And you want to be kind to yourself.

If that's you, it's time to shine more love into your mindset. And the way that you have a more loving mindset, is to have an abundant mindset.

A mindset and a mental state, a point of view, that has abundance. And the assumption of abundance, as its foundation. Rather than the assumption of lack, or struggle, or competition, etc. holding you down. And that being your assumption of what's behind what's going on around you.

If we can get your mind right, if we can love your mindset. Shine more love, send more healing energy to your mindset. Honestly this week can change your life completely. Because Tony Robbins brilliantly says that, "The biggest resource is resourcefulness."

So if you're able to get your mind right, where you see that you have everything that you need. And you see that you have permission to utilize and mobilize everything that you need, for the greatest good. Not only your greatest good, but the greatest good of all. We all win.

So we want to have an abundance mindset. And abundant mindset is one that is based on faith, and positive expectation. It assumes universal abundance. The lack mindset, which is the opposite, is based on fear. And it assumes that negative things are coming.

That there's going to be more trouble. There's always something to do, there's always another fire to put out. The fear mindset of waiting for the other shoe to drop. And my guide said, the mantra for this week in particular, is going to come from embracing distraction.

Know this: The antidote to rampant negative self-talk is instead the cultivation of an #abundant mindset.

So, a natural part of life in general, is that you're going to get distracted. But there's one way to let distraction rule you from a fear mindset, and another way of looking at distraction as fuel. Fearing, or fueling you. Making you fearful, or making you feel fueled by this distraction.

And here it is ... So this is a reframe. The same way that we reframed last week, loving your body. Seeing the parts that you hate the most and saying to them directly, "Okay, this is my opportunity to love myself. I love you anyway." And challenging that self hatred, and using it instead as an opportunity for love. This week, we're going to use distraction as another opportunity to love yourself.

The next time you're feeling distracted ... And this is probably going to happen when you're avoiding some responsibility. Or maybe when you're just getting overwhelmed, and there's not enough awareness of your own boundaries. The next time you're feeling distracted, the mantra of the week is, breathe into the distraction.

Deep breath in, breathe into the distraction. Breathe into the distraction, breathe into the distraction. Deep breath in. Now this is loving to yourself in a myriad of ways. One, on a physical level it oxygenates your blood, which cleanses all of the physical systems of your body via the circulatory system. So we're building on last week's loving your body. But also, this is loving your mindset by helping you slow down and become present, and embrace the distraction as your training partner.

Now, it's important to see distraction, and things that would challenge your mindset, as a training partner. Because training partners are there to train you up. They're there to make you stronger, through resistance training. You have to push against it. And in the pushing against it, you become stronger in the process.

So the next time you have a client that sends you a text, or an email, or a call ... Throws you a curve ball. Breathe into the distraction. Deep breath in. Versus, "Oh my God, what am I gonna do?" Nourish yourself in that moment, breathe against it.

Assume that this is working out for you. Something good is about to happen. We're breathing into the distraction to prepare for something good that's about to happen. This is a challenge, it's easier said than done.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the week to encourage us on our path. This deck of the week is angels of abundance, oracle cards deck. Thank you Julie Shopa, clarityfinances.com. She donated this lovely deck to the dojo. Thank you goddess. So let's check this out...

Angels, what do we need to know this week in particular, about loving our mindset? Beautiful, this is so juicy: Partnership.

Allow helpful, supportive partnerships into your personal life and career, and both parties benefit as a result. You are receiving help from heaven, and from a person who brings needed skills and resources. So this is super powerful, and this is where we're going to leave off this week.

If you're watching this, chances are you are a leader, manager, caregiver, healer of some sort, you're an entrepreneur and business owner. Partnering. There's this thing where amazing leaders think, "I can do it all by myself. I do things better by myself." No, breathe into the distraction. Something good is about to happen.

When these people are in your life, you've got to become resourceful, and look for the positive aspects.

As I work with teams and help them to heal together, we celebrate the diversity of opinions, and personalities, and viewpoints. We celebrate that, because that means we have diverse ways of problem solving, rather than just doing everything the same way, one way.

If you look at nature, we have biodiversity. And that what makes nature so powerful, and so strong, is that diversity of opinion. Allow others to help you. But breathe into the resistance that you may have this week in particular, to receiving that help, or that partnership.

Send me an email back, comment below. What's coming up for you around having an abundant mindset, and receiving help.

This is like ... I'm hearing bombs going off, and the energy.

Some people are like, "NO, no." So be kind to yourself if that's you. Breathe into the distraction. Something good is about to happen.

So make sure that you subscribe on YouTube, so you get your love letter videos every week. And I'll see you soon. Bye.

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Do you often say "I don't know" automatically as filler words in conversation?

Always caught off guard when people casually ask you "what do you want"?

Tired of feeling so indecisive all the time?

Most people are afraid to make decisions because they're worried they'll pick the wrong one, so they just avoid making decisions altogether.

But what if you're someone who genuinely wants to be more confident and decisive, and are frustrated that you literally can't figure out what you want?

Watch the above 10-minute video to find out what is clogging up your confident, decisive energy and what to do about it!

"I say 'I don't know' so I don't have to commit."

Saying, and having that habit of automatically responding, "I don't know" to when people ask you questions is a throat chakra issue.

The throat chakra is an energy center in your body that deals with truth and expression.

If we're stuck saying "I don't know," we're protecting against something.

We're avoiding being expressive.

We're protecting against a sense of rejection, of us expressing whatever our truth is.

That's what saying "I don't know" comes down to.

It's being afraid to express your truth so much that you're in a habit cycle of avoiding being open and honest by any means necessary.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards calling out on the energy to really help us get some more guidance around being addicted to saying, "I don't know."

Saying "I don't know" automatically is like saying "Um."

Have you ever listened to someone speaking on stage, they're like "and, um ... What I think is um ... Our next topic is uh, I uh ..."

Eventually you start listening to them saying "um", and you're like "AAAAAH!"

Or, if you're creepy like me, you'll start writing down and keeping score of how many times they said "um" just to pass the time, so you don't go crazy. 😉

The Oracle card deck that said "hey, we can help with this topic" was the Indigo Angel Oracle cards deck.

This deck has to do with those of us who are highly sensitive individuals and spiritual people who are encountering some challenges along the path of our expansion.

That's what this Oracle card deck in particular has been made for.

We're getting two coming out this week: "Physical outlet" and "You are understood."

It's been quite some time since two oracle cards have come out in the reading, but the angels are saying that this is totally on purpose, so we're going to go with it.

"Physical outlet." The angels are saying, "read what the channeling is," so here goes:

 

This current situation is causing you to hold on to something that the angels would like you to release.

That's exactly what we were just talking about.

Having the "I don't know" habit cycle is means we're holding back, we don't want the truth to come out.

We're afraid of the truth, or we're afraid of being rejected or misunderstood.

But the other card, "You are understood", is coming forward to validate, and say, "you don't have to be afraid of that, that's not what we should be afraid of. Don't let that fear hold you back."

The reading says:

 

The angels are asking you to engage in a physical activity as a source of self counseling, and a means of clearing the way to receive new messages, ideas, solutions, and healing energy.

This can be anything from taking a walk, or going running, swimming, doing yoga, playing a sport.

Whatever you feel guided to do, know that the physical motion will accelerate the processing and release of emotions.

Here's something. I really appreciate this advice that the angels are giving us right now, to help us get out of this cycle, because in truth - you do know.

One way that you can access your knowing, your larger knowing, is by shifting your state.

We spend our days pretty sedentary.

Sitting at the computer, or being indoors, doing the same thing over and over and over again oftentimes in environments that don't really inspire us, or if they did at one point, it tends to get a little bit stale.

Know this: Your physical environment affects your ability to make decisions. #clarity #fengshui #decision @SenseiWhitfield

If you are habituated to the same thing over and over again, being in a small, ritualistic energy, that's not fostering your personal and spiritual expansion.

It's just for doing the same thing, over and over again to have a sense of continuity, or control, because everything is the same every day.

Source is saying, through the angels, "Mix it up. Get up, go for a walk."

If someone asks you something that you can't quite answer then and there, instead of saying, "I don't know," say, "Let me think about that, and I'll get back to you."

If it was on the phone, you put them on hold, go dance your brains out, and then after that, be with yourself in that shifted body state and then resume talking with them.

You can access more of your brain when the blood is pumping through your body, and guess what? Like magic, you're going to know exactly what you want.

This works so much for me, especially when I personally am trying to make decisions. I've got to shift my state, so that I feel open, and more of myself.

From my own personal experience, and I'm sure you can relate to this, I say, "I don't know" so I don't have to commit.

That way, I feel safer if I say "I don't know" because then the other person has to bring it out of me, and then we go back and forth until they do.

It makes it easier, because I'm making them responsible for making my decision.

Does this sound familiar? It's all that passive aggressive, gucky yucky, stuff we do.

I don't have to do that, you don't have to do that, we don't have to do that.

We have access to all that we are, and we know exactly what we want, and one way to get there is through shifting your state.

The angels are also sending us back to the card "You are understood:"

 

The angels send you this card because every aspect of your personality and existence makes perfect sense to them.

As an Indigo -- as a highly intuitive person -- you may feel flawed, or that you've made mistakes.

This card reminds you that nothing is a mistake.

Everything is a divine appointment.

Know that heaven and the angels see you as a perfect being, and they have been with you every step of your life.

They know who you really are, and they see your divine perfection.

The angels completely understand why you've made every decision that you've made.

Sometimes, when we've said we do know, in the past, it's ended up that we've made a decision or moved forward with something that wasn't the best decision, or didn't have the best outcome.

And we created a story because of that, that we're incompetent.

We tell ourselves "I'm stupid", "I don't know what I'm doing", and "I should make sure that from other people, I get all of their input", or "I do what so-and-so says", or "I abide by these rules because at least I know that I feel safe", or "because it's not up to me."

We give our power away because of one mistake.

The angels are saying, "Nothing is a mistake. There is only learning."

Here at the Dojo, we call those learnings Dark Gifts: the gifts of greater understanding that come from our experiences -- good, bad, ugly, mess, or fabulous.

It doesn't matter. They're all gifts.

Be kind to yourself if you don't trust yourself, or are afraid of making decisions, or commitments, or speaking up, and putting yourself out there.

Believe it or not, if you try, if you open up, you are already understood.

And if it doesn't go well, try to see the Dark Gift or the moral of the story, and you can always change your mind.

With that you'll not only be more decisive, but because you put yourself out there and started practicing, you'll also start making better decisions!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Can't figure out what you want?

Having a hard time making a decision?

Do you always avoid making decisions because it's just easier to let others decide for you?

Being indecisive slows you down personally as well as professionally because it causes your energy to be unclear.

But very few people know that your indecision is fueled by one little insidious lie that you tell yourself all day, and it's this lie that instantly steals your clarity.

Watch the above 6-minute video to find out what lie you're telling yourself all day, so you can stop sabotaging yourself!

"I wish I could just know what I want."

I love what Source is saying this week.

You want to know one of the most annoying truths? It's sticky.

One of the most annoying truths is that we are lying to ourselves for most of the day and here's how: with one simple phrase.

You ready for this? The phrase is "I don't know."

Source says that the phrase "I don't know," is always, always, always a lie.

Really?

If you grasp this, it's going to make life a little more difficult.

Think of it. How many times, on any given day, do you say, "Oh, I don't know..." Or "I don't know," as a guttural response to when someone asks you a question:

• • "What do you want to eat today?" "Oh, I don't know."

• • "So tell me about yourself. "I don't know... I uh am a people person who..." 

• "How was your day?" "I don't know. I went okay; it was good..."

Source says we need to sensitize to listening for when we're saying, "I don't know," because it's a lie.

Know this: In #spiritual truth, you're not an indecisive person. You create your #clarity AND you create your confusion. #wakeup #success

In fact, energetically, what it looks like is when someone ask you something or when you have an opportunity to express yourself, you take all big ball of socks and stuff them into your mouth in the energy. 

Source is pointing this out for your healing. 

We need to sensitize to this, because we need to embrace more honesty in any and every area in our lives-- honesty is clarity energy and that promotes deep healing and abundant flow.

Here's the thing, if "I don't know," is always a lie, how can we start telling the truth more?

What if you honestly have some sort of a mental block at that moment?

When someone asks, "Where do you want to eat?" you just draw a blank, there's no image that's coming up in your head.

Nothing comes up for you or you don't have a predetermined answer, like "I want sushi," or something like that.

So what happens when your answer doesn't automatically come up? What do you do in that moment?

There's a very simple way to turn that around, and what I want you to do is, in that moment, when you feel the urge to say, "I don't know," is catch yourself.

Even if it comes out and you automatically blurt out, "I don't know," immediately turn it around by saying, "Well, what would it be if I did know?" 

Switch it around.

Or, if someone says it to you, ask them. "Well, what would it be if you did know?"

You may sound like a bit of a smarty pants, like a sassafras smarty pants.

Sure. But it's for the higher good!

Believe it or not, this is a NLP -- neurolinguistic programming -- reframe.

It automatically makes your brain shift herself to say, "Okay, so I do know. Well, you know what, I could really go for a salad right now, or I could go for a sub. That sounds really good."

Automatically, if you are searching for, "What would it be if I did know?" you're open to being able to express immediately in that moment.

In spiritual truth, you actually do know.

Like, right now.

You don't have to wait or figure stuff out. In this moment, you have access to All That Is.

In fact, you are a spiritual being. You are a spiritual being that is having a physical experience.

As a spiritual being, you have access to the Superconscious.

You know all of your lifetimes. We're speaking to the higher self in you right now by saying this. You know all of your lifetimes. You know all of the lifetimes of the people that are around you.

You know all of the restaurants that are in the area. You know exactly what foods work for you and don't work for you, if we're taking the food example for there.

What do you want in a partner? You do know.

Let someone sit down and pull it out of you.

"All right, we're going to figure this out, together!"

It will come out, it's not like it's not there.

You're just not in tune with listening to yourself or expressing yourself.

Saying, "I don't know," is a sign of a throat chakra issue.

Stay tuned for next week's continuation of this topic...

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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