Do you secretly believe you’re still not good enough yet?

Feeling like you’re always chasing the proverbial “carrot on a stick” in your personal or professional life?

Constantly searching for the next certification or next "thing" that will finally make you accepted by others?

The comparison monster is a nasty opponent, and it can eat sensitive empaths like us alive from the inside, out.

He turns our inner dialogue into a story of struggle and exclusion, but the good news is this: we can change that right here and now!

Watch this week’s 11-minute love letter video, part 4 in our 5-week deep dive on living an unapologetic life, to shift your mindset and activate your instinct of worthiness again!

"People are going to find out I'm a fraud."

Welcome back. This is week four of five, right on our five week deep dive. I'm living life unapologetically. How's this month going for you? We're really going in gangbusters. Last week we talked about the importance of celebrating yourself.

At the end of last week I remember I noticed something was a little bit, felt a little bit deja vu. Turns out we had two of the same oracle cards in a row. Some of you reached out, "Victoria, look." Yeah, so the guides, the angels are making it a point to say, "We are releasing and surrendering to this unapologetic life and it can be easy."

It doesn't have to be a push or a struggle or anything, tough. Instead, we're just opening to living unapologetically. So good, so beautiful, and it's completely in alignment with this week's channel topic, and that's your already worthy.

What would your life look like if you were already worthy, if you believed, deep down in the core of your being, that you are already worthy? That you didn't have to lose a certain amount of weight to be worthy. That you didn't have to have as many degrees on the wall as your thermometer, right, as TD Jakes says.

If you didn't have to make, have this much in the bank and be spending this much in order to be worthy, what would your life look like? What would the internal dialogue in your head look like if you sincerely believed that you were already worthy? We were covering sorry not sorry earlier this month, week two out of five. We're talking about that we're really apologizing to ourselves, right?

This is more of an internal mindset shift. This doesn't have to do with anybody but you baby. What would it look like if you were already worthy? In fact, how would you carry yourself throughout the day, throughout the week, throughout the year if you believed that you were already worthy? My guides say it comes down to permission, especially permission to fail, to take risks, and to try.

Our egos are so powerful in that they're protecting us from taking risks in the first place, or even trying in the first place because ego, he's a good guy. He's trying to protect you from harm and from perceived harm, perceived danger, but he can be firing on overload.

Where we perceive harm and danger in things that are actually possibly growth opportunities for us, but we'll hold back and tell ourselves then, we come in with the story of, "Well, I'm not worthy," or "I'm not good enough," or "People are going to find out I'm a fraud," or "Someone's going to think something of me. I'm going to be critiqued," right, etc., or "What is so and so going to say?"

We come in with the story of unworthiness that stops our growth at our brilliance right in our tracks, but here's the thing. There's no such thing as being blocked. That's an old love letter that you might want to go dig in YouTube for, fabulous topic, but one of the universal laws is that there's no such thing as being blocked. As much as we tell ourselves the story of unworthiness, it is all just a story. It is all just an illusion.

For this week's activity, you are going to give yourself permission to feel already worthy. The same way that a puppy, if you've ever had a brand new puppy or kitten, whatever your animal people flavor is. When they're first learning to howl or meow, they make all kinds of ridiculous sounds, or when they're first getting used to playing and running, they'll fall on their face and have a great time of it. This is just an animal, it's not even a person.

Think of babies, how they try and try, and try, but animals are unique in that they're driven by instinct, and this week in particular I'm calling on you. I'm calling on you to tap into your instinct of worthiness.

‪Know this: You have an instinct of worthiness. Call on it. Decide to turn it in now.

You have an instinctual worthiness that you know that you have within you, that you can just decide is turned on. I'm calling on you and your instinct for worthiness. I want you to feel it, walk in it, feel in it, speak from it, if only just for this week or just for today as we write in the love letters.

My guides are bringing the oracle cards deck back up in the energy. Daily guidance from your angels, Doreen Virtue. I'd be interested to see if maybe we'll have a three in a row. Angels what do we need to know right now about believing and living as if we're already worthy? Life purpose, the purpose of your life is to serve in a way that brings great joy to yourself and others.

Don't worry about finding your purpose. Instead, focus upon serving a purpose and then your purpose will serve you. This is where we'll leave off this week.

I'm sinking deep into my heart for members of our tribe, for you, if you're watching and you would love to argue with me that you are not worthy. You are staunch about, "I am not worthy. I am not ready. I am not good enough." I'm sending you big love, so much love, and healing energy, sending to you.

The angels are bringing this card forward, my guides tell me, especially because for those of us where we believe that we're really not worthy, then the bridge to believing in your own worth is having a purpose that is worthy of your attention, of your energy and of your calling.

If you can't believe in yourself yet, find something to believe in. It could be a cause for animal rights. It could be a cause of helping out people in your community that are disadvantaged. It could be for standing for different issues, of serving a purpose.

What causes you to feel passionate? My mentor, Fabian, says that your passions are not random. They are actually your calling.

Tap into your passions this week, if you are feeling that you are not worthy and you are not good enough. Instead, lean on serving a purpose first until you will realize that even without that purpose you were already worthy.

Come and blow. Send me an email back. Write me back, a letter in the mail. You know I love, love letters. Thank you to all of those of you who've sent them. Oh my gosh, that's just like, that's not even all of them. Feeling so much love, thank you, thank you for that.

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first, every week, and by the way, if you need an extra shot of positivity and you want to learn how to really value yourself and raise your vibration at will, join us at the next Master Manifester Challenge.

There will be a link in the description box or somewhere on this page, or around this video, so that you can join in, and we can interact live. You're just watching these videos. I want to see you too. I will see you soon. Next week is our last,

(Original post 01/22/2018)

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Are you, or is someone you know, a workaholic?

Worried that if you say "no" when people who ask for help, that you'll be mean or they won't like you?

Drowning in projects and things to manage, at work AND at home?

It's easier to just give in and say "yes" and be seen as helpful, than to stand your ground and say "no" and be seen as possibly selfish.

But when we do that, we add another project on to our already overwhelmed plate of "helpfulness" - perhaps this is more than just being helpful, perhaps it's now an addiction.

Watch this week's 15-minute love letter for the fifth and final installment in our 5-week deep dive on self care versus self sabotage to send healing to our relationship with (personal and professional) help-a-holism.

"I never feel like I'm doing enough."

We've been on a five-week-long deep dive into the dance that we empaths do between self-care and self-sabotage. All the different ways that we stand in the way of shining our light to our fullest potential. I'm really grateful. I just want to thank you for tuning in for week five.

I want to thank you for all your support over the years, of the love letters, my gosh. What? We're going on four or five years straight of love letters. I just want to thank you for your continued support.

This week in particular, we're going to focus on self-sabotage around workaholism and help-a-holism, fix-a-holism. Helping, and fixing, and putting out all the fires, and working all the limbs all day. Those of us who are highly sensitive individuals who are naturally empathic, who are naturally intuitive. Last week we discovered your call to be a healer, your call to healing leadership. You're sensitive for that reason.

But this week is the dark side of that, where you can be so driven to help, and to fix, and to take care give, and to take responsibility; but you lose yourself. Not only lose yourself, you may even hurt yourself.  Be kind yourself, if this is you. This last one, baby, is for you. This is our swan song, yes?

Workaholism, guides say that the soul craving behind that, or that the hidden feeling driver behind helping everybody, and fixing everything, and working constantly. The addiction to work, and projecting.

Not just projecting stuff, we're projecting people, like in your relationships, yes, yes? Maybe this isn't you, maybe we're talking about somebody else. We can pretend.

But, maybe let that obsession with being everybody's caregiver, taking care of everybody and everything. What's the hidden driver behind that?

And the guides say that it is the feeling of, "I'm not good enough. I'm not doing enough. I am good when I am doing. I am only good when I am doing."

Doing good, doing stuff for other people, pleasing others, when I'm gaining approval. Yes, yes? When I'm gaining recognition, I am worthy based on my output ... which is faulty.

Yes, it is good to do good things and to help others. This is not to say that you shouldn't be helping other people, and that you should be like, "All right, screw you all, I'm going home." Right? Pulling a Cartman. No, that's not what we're talking about here.

As much as that sounds fabulous to one of you ... I just heard someone in the energies saying, "I want to tell everyone, 'Go away.'" If that's you ... Bear with me, we're going to make it through this.

But, what's also coming up behind that, as your working, working, working and saying yes to everything; the flipside is the fear of saying, "no." Our lack of boundaries is fueling this relentless need for approval and affirmation. In the workplace, or in the eyes of someone that you helped, or getting to see their transformation so you feel worthy, because they had an outcome or you had an impact on them.

What happens, however, when there's nothing to do, no one to save, nothing to fix? The big question is, are you still worthy? Are you still lovable? Are you still acceptable? Are you still good? Are you still okay, as a person if you don't have something to do, something to do, something to do? This is a big one. When we have this addiction, this also expresses as a lack of boundaries.

What are boundaries? This is the million-dollar word for every single empath like, ever: boundaries. Boundaries are the invisible lines that separate what is you and what is not you; what is yours and what is not yours.

Now, from a spiritual perspective, yes, there is the universal law of oneness, which says, "All that is, is one." But that doesn't mean you have to do everything all the time, or that everything that's yours belongs to everybody else, or that you don't have any selfness. You don't have a worth because you don't have a self.

No. That's not what that is saying. Instead, that's just to appreciate the interconnectedness and interdependence of all of life, and all that is. However, we're talking about this turning into co dependence. Codependency is when you depend on someone or something outside of you for a sense of emotional security, to give you your emotional security, or even your identity. You're depending on them.

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Workaholism, for example, my dad was a lawyer, I'm a lawyer, my kids are going to be a lawyer. If I ever lose this job, I don't know what I'm gonna do; where your job defines your personality. That's a codependent relationship. That means that you are at risk of losing yourself if that thing shifts at all. You've given all your power over to the thing that you are dependent upon.

Be kind to yourself if this is speaking to you. I don't know who this message is for, but I'm sharing it anyway, following spirit's guidance. With that, also, where we have the sense of addiction to getting things done and putting out fires, putting out fires putting out fires. Whenever we put out a fire, we get that little bit of, "Yay, I did it." And that, "Yay," is what we're addicted to, of winning and the feedback loop of, "I'm putting out and I'm receiving, putting out and I'm receiving."

That's why so many men end up becoming not present at home, because the job is what gives them recognition and affirmation constantly, and you come home to a wife that is just not paying attention, and not able to give you that feedback. It is, unfortunately, natural to become addicted more to work, where you're recognized, and you feel like you have an impact in the relationship more with your job than your own partner. Scary.

That happens to women, too, I'm not just talking about men, okay. I hear my guide saying, "This happens to the ladies, too," where work or the kids become more important than their partner, because there's something to work on. There's always something. The mom-ness becomes the identity rather than yourself being your identity, becoming codependent to the children.

Be kind to yourself if this is you. Now, this week in particular, the guides are saying, "How do we get out of this?" This addiction to working and losing ourself without our boundaries. Well, is to have values. This week in particular, you want to focus on writing out a list of what your core, desired feelings and your most prioritized values are in life. Allow your schedule to be according to what you prioritize most, what you value the most.

First things first, as they say. I believe that's in the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Put first things first. Is family really important to you? If so, where is family in your schedule? This week, we want to put, "What are your core desired feelings?" I want to feel free, I want to feel abundant, I want to feel loved, I want to feel sensual. Where are those feelings in how you spend your time each day? Rather than letting the thing that you are co dependently addicted to, such as the work or the caregiving, et cetera rather than letting only that determine how you spend your time.

This is going to shift your relationship with your workaholism. Your addiction is going shift. If you can just get clear on, "What are your core, desired feelings, and what are your most prioritized values?"

We forget, we're in that tunnel of, "I'm doing stuff, I'm doing stuff, I'm doing stuff. I'm so productive, I'm so busy. I'm doing all this busy stuff." There's a difference between being busy and actually being in business. There's a difference between being busy and actually being focused.

This, our core, desired feelings and our most prioritized values are what are going to help us clarify that. To end, Doreen Virtue, Angel Therapy; yet another one of our Doreen Virtue decks. Angels, what we need to know this week? To round off our five-week deep dive into the dance between self sabotage and self care. "Listen to your intuitive feelings."

Listen to your intuitive feelings. Your body is receiving accurate messages from the divine. This is perfect, given what we're talking about.

One of the main reasons why we can get stuck in, or create stuck-ness in a codependent, workaholic, fixaholic relationship is because we'll drown out the sensations of our body. We're not in touch. We're not in touch with ... "Oh, my neck is starting to hurt because it's 10:00 PM and I'm still at work."

We'll just keep going, going, going. Or, you know what? I actually ... I'm not really hungry for that extra candy bar, as we talked ... The second week was food. I'm not actually hungry for that chocolate candy bar. Actually, I'm craving love and affection.

Instead of shoving a chocolate candy bar down my throat so I can stay working at the computer all the livelong day, instead I'm going to reach out to receive some physical touch, or love and affection from a loved one. Listen to your feelings.

Your sensitivity is your strength here, and it's the gateway to your next level in life. Send me an email back, comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you around this, and how has this series been for you?

Are you liking the multi-week deep dives? Let me know, let me know.

Source has been telling me that you and I have got to develop a deeper relationship, and go deeper into the information, rather than just doing one idea a week. Nah, let's go there. Let's go there together, okay?

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters every week, and I'll see you next time. Muah, bye

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This is week four of five of our deep dive into shifting our perspective, so that we can step into our divinity, finally, in life and business.

If you are just seeing this for the first time and you didn't start from week one, please make sure that you go ahead and stop now, go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com, so that you can be grounded in this process. Start at week one.

For our fourth week, my spirit guides have said that we need to talk about the importance of knowing what is no longer tolerable. Last week, we really sank our teeth into our role, and knowing it clearly. We honored who we are and what our purpose is here on Earth: to be that guide, that light, that only you can shine, or only I can shine, from my own unique story, and yours within yours.

We're here, again, at Washington Rock in the dead of winter. It is a very foggy day, so normally we are able to see between 20 to 30 miles out. You might have seen that in the previous videos. But, this is so good, that the weather has shifted to be even more foggy, because this now brings the perspective inward. Right? That's a message and a representation of our intention right now, is to be very clear, inwardly, of what is no longer acceptable.

At your previous point of perspective of where you were coming from before, perhaps there were certain people, certain behaviors, certain foods, and certain investments that you were engaging in, that were acceptable. They were part of your standard operating procedure. And, when we get to a certain point of development, or achieve a certain level of success, there is this expectation that what's been working is going to continue to work.

Now, if you keep doing the same thing and expecting different results, however, that is unfortunately the definition of insanity. There's real satisfaction, there is real fulfillment in having progress, meaning, when we get to grow from our experiences. So, when we're called for to expansion and ascension, personally or professionally, that involves changing what our definition of what is tolerable.

I'm not exactly sure who this message is for. But, I want you, since you're watching or reading this right now, I want you to consider, “What am I tolerating?”

Ask yourself “what am I tolerating in my personal life?” for example, that is keeping me at this level of weight, or in this type of relationship. “What am I tolerating? Am I tolerating people talking down to me, or telling me how things need to be? Or, am I tolerating the reaction that my body has to certain foods, such as gluten?” for example. What are you tolerating personally, that could be reinforcing the same sick cycle recurring and recurring personally, but also professionally?

What are you tolerating? Are you tolerating receiving a certain level of income, because other people said you should be satisfied with that? Or, if you look to your right and you look to your left, that's what everybody else makes. And that's what everybody else is saying is “acceptable.” Are you tolerating that? Or are you tolerating, also professionally, a mentor or an authority figure that might rub you the wrong way in some key areas, but because other things are really great, you overlook that? You instead, stay, and follow their rules, but murmur about the things that bother you, on your off time or in quiet moments to yourself, or confidants.
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Be kind of yourself if that's your situation: that you're tolerating things. That can be a coping mechanism, to create a sense of stability, and I'm hearing this very loud and very aligned in the energy, to tell you that in order to create stability finally for yourself, you may have remove more tolerations from off your plate.

Be kind to yourself. There's a difference between telling yourself what’s acceptable and actually having clarity. When you're just accepting what you've been handed to you, there's a of lack of innovation there, a lack of agency. You don't have to give away your power. When you are clear that “this is what I want”, or clear that “this is how I feel”, and you voice that, as well as stand true to that, yes, it may trigger some people, or may ruffle some feathers, or make things a little unstable for a time. But, that's temporary, because you're getting back into alignment, putting yourself back at the center at which you deserve to be.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. All month we've been journeying with the Isis Oracle Cards Deck by Alana Fairchild, and I'll make this quick, because my fingers are freezing. Happy winter everyone! Let's see. Oh, gorgeous. Initiation. Spiritual testing of Ra and lady Isis.This is where we are going to leave off for the week.

The reason why you're shifting your perspective this week in particular, by getting clear on what is no longer tolerable and what you're no longer going to be tolerating, is because you're on a path to Initiation. This is your time. This is the time for you to shift. Not later, it's now. It's now.

And, when you decide that a certain thing is no longer acceptable, that activates your inner power. I can tell that to you from my own story, when I personally decided that being in an abusive relationship - which was most emotionally and, at times, financially, and even physically abusive - when I decided that was no longer acceptable, I was not going to tolerate this anymore, my whole life changed. I had behaviors, such as leaving that person and investing more in my own self-worth, and raising my confidence level, I had behaviors that followed through with that, because it was unequivocal.

I decided I'm not tolerating this anymore. Similarly, my behaviors shifted when I personally decided that smoking was no longer something I was going to tolerate as a behavior of mine, and being around people who smoke regularly was not acceptable either. I had asthma, and it would exacerbate my asthma. Since I quit my breathing has been so much better, and the quality of relationships that I have around me have been so much better, too.

So, what are you no longer tolerating? Comment below, or send me an email back, at VictoriaWhitfield.com/Contact, or Team@VictoriaWhitfield.com. Let me know, what are you no longer tolerating. What is no longer acceptable in your life and in your business? Make sure you subscribe on YouTube, so that you get these Love Letters first, every week, and I'll see you next time.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please, enjoy the journey. Bye for now!

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Take an inventory of what you are tolerating in life and business.

First, write out a list of Tolerations, and then secondly, go back through the list and for each line write out the real, honest reason why you are still (or are no longer) tolerating it.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Scared to ask for help?

Struggling to hold it all together on your own?

Feeling like you're headed for burnout?

Feeling resistant to making a change because it's outside your comfort zone?

Strong, independent go-getters like you and I have learned over time to rely on ourselves to get the job done, and done well.

Yet, there comes a time in life where in order to get what we really want, we have to open up and receive help – so where do you start?

Watch this week's 12-minute Love Letter video to find out exactly what you need to do to turn your situation around!

"I don't want to be a burden."

As a holistic stress management expert and spiritual teacher, it's a really interesting line of work.

I get all kinds of reactions and all kinds of stories from people, when they encounter who I am and what I do.

I support visionary entrepreneurs like yourself, and creative people just like you, in creating a life that they love by harnessing their natural intuition, so that they feel more centered and grounded as they get out there and share their gifts.

And from time to time, that means speaking to people who don't quite get it, or encountering people who love, and need, and desire support in that realm.

They need the one-on-one, or the group spiritual support sessions that I provide. They'll need it, but then they'll resist it, and then they'll throw their resistance, they'll "hot potato" that on me. Right?

Here's the thing. This week in particular, the guides are telling you what they've told me for many years, and that's take a risk. Risky requests.

This week in particular, your visionary challenge is to take a risk by making a risky request.

Now what does that look like? That basically looks like inviting someone in to support you, to affirm you, or to join you, or to help you out, etc, making a risky request.

If you are watching this, chances are very, very likely that you are a natural healer, supportive caregiver, someone who's highly sensitive, and wants everybody else to feel happy, healthy, loved, supported, etc.

You care so much that you take strong, deep responsibility for making sure that everyone around you is well taken care of, except for you.

Correct me if I'm wrong, maybe I'm off-base. Maybe this one isn't for you. Maybe you're amazing at making requests, and that's wonderful.

But to the rest of us watching this Love Letter video, or reading through it, or listening to the recording, etc, we could all use a little bit more practice asking for what we desire, asking for what we need, and asking for support.

So this week in particular, the guides are challenging you to make a risky request. All right?

What would that look like for you? What could you never ask for? Oh, like:

• • "I could never ask my husband to massage my shoulders, no way. No, no, no, no,"

• • "I could never ask for a little bit more time off from my boss. No, no, no, no,"

• • "I could never ask that beautiful person out on a date. No, no, no, no,"

• • "I could never ask for my own one-on-one session with Victoria. No, no, no, no, no. I'm not worth it."

• • "I don't want to interrupt her,"

• • "I don't want to interrupt him."

• • "I don't want to be a burden."

• "I don't want to take up space."

What? Ooh, look at all of those excuses, and all of that resistance that just comes flying out of us.

Requests that are effective, that are really meant for you to move to your next level, in life and in business, usually feel a little bit risky. There's a flutter of vulnerability, because you're risking rejection.

What's the worst thing that could happen, though? They could say no. And guess what?

There's another seven billion people on the planet. You've got that many more opportunities to find the person, the organization, the venue, the space, the time, etc, who can fulfill what it is that you need and desire.

So what's your risky request? Is it for more time off? Is it for a sick day? Is it for flowers? Is it for a compliment and an affirmation?

I want to hear it. Type in the comments below or send me an email back at senseivictoriawhitfield@gmail.com. I want to hear your risky request, but I dare you to share it publicly.

Know this: Quantum leaps in life and business require you to take a risk.

Mine's coming, but first I hear the Oracle cards calling in the energy.

And talk about risk, Angel Answers, by Doreen Virtue. This is the yes/no deck.

So you ready to play a little bit of Russian roulette? Let's go. This deck is similar to the old Magic 8-Ball thing, where you'd shake it and ask a yes/no, binary type question, and it would say Yes, No, Maybe, Ask Again Later. I always got the Ask Again Later, what about you? Oh my gosh.

Angels, what do we need to know right now? Should we ask a risky question this week? Can we ask a risky question this week?

You know there's nos, there's two nos, actually, and two yeses in this deck in particular.

Can we ask a risky question this week? What do we need to know right now? This is so good. You ready? Compromise.

Compromise, and this is so beautiful. Look at, there's the two hands, the higher self and the lower self. Ooh, they just told me to read. I'll give you the channeling that I'm hearing first, though.

The guides say, "When you ask, remember that it's not your way or the highway. It could be what you ask for, or something even better. Let your risky ask be of mutual benefit. Ask in a way that pleasures you as well as the person that you are requesting for." What would that look like?

Also, asking from a space of pleasure and abundance versus asking from a place of, "Arrgh, you're not going to even answer my request anyway, so I'm just doing this homework because Victoria told me to." Don't do that. Compromise.

Also, the guides turned this upside down and said, "Be careful how much you compromise your boundaries in order to meet others' requests. Remember, you have needs and desires too."

Here it is, "In order to create a happy outcome for this situation, you will find it necessary to compromise. Allow yourself some time to become clear about what is truly important to you."

Some of you may be thinking, "Well Victoria, I don't know what to ask for."

Okay, don't jump to it. Take some time to reflect about what you want, or what you would ask for that feels a little bit, "Ooh, I can't ask that."

"Also take note of matters where you would be open to changing your position. Work toward an agreement where everyone wins." Same as the channeling. Beautiful. "Be open to cooperation that would allow you to get what you need while also assisting others in fulfilling their desires." Is this beautiful or what? "Be objective about finding a balance between respecting everyone else's viewpoints and still being true to your own."

So good, and this is where we're going to leave off.

Your risky ask is actually a blessing. So be kind to yourself. And share what that desire is, because it could very well, and it can very easily, bless the other person. By them getting to serve and support you, it gives them an opportunity to show you love.

Here's my risky ask, by the way. If you could, please send me a comment back or an email below. In what way have I touched you? Maybe it was in this video. Maybe it's been over the years. Maybe in a group experience, or maybe in one of your private sessions.

As someone who's out and sharing, sharing, sharing abundantly, and it's my joy to share, sometimes I wonder, "Have I ever touched anyone, or really helped them?"

I can tell you, this is a risky ask because I feel a bit of emotion flutter, like, "I wonder." Right? Even I wonder, I'm not perfect.

So if you want to return a little bit of the love received, please send me an email back or comment below, and let me know what has been my effect on you, whether right now or in the past, et cetera.

And if you're very new to my work, what do you see me doing in the future? I'd love to hear that. Okay?

I don't know if anyone's going to answer that, but I'm trusting and putting it out there, and I'm open to receiving your love, support, and affirmation. I'm sending you so much love, regardless.

Muah, make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your Love Letters first every week. All right, we'll see you soon. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Make a risky request.

Go out on a limb and ask for something you normally wouldn't or worry would "bothersome" just to see what happens.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Too scared to say what you mean to say?

Feeling like you can't speak up about what's really weighing on your heart?

Do you keep your mouth shut because you're afraid that you'll be rejected or "look stupid" if you say what you think?

Deep down we all know that things left unsaid can slowly eat away at us. But still, we don't say anything in an effort to "keep the peace."

Are we really keeping the peace though if it's at the expense of our health? Because inner turmoil and repressed feelings certainly aren't healthy!

Watch the above video to learn how to break the silence and speak up for yourself with love and healing!

"Rock the boat! Don't rock the boat, baby. Rock the boat! Don't tip the boat over."

This week’s topic is about giving yourself the silent treatment.

Why do we do that to ourselves? What does that mean?

When we're giving our-self the silent treatment, it means we are blocking out whatever we really want to say.

Perhaps there's a situation that's come up at work or at home with a loved one or your kids or friends that you've been interacting with. You feel like you just can't talk about it or you can't speak up.

You feel like you’re out of bounds, telling yourself “well, if I say that they're going to reject me” or “they're going to criticize me,” or “they're going to get emotional and I don't want to have to deal with all that.”

Think about the situation now, as you read this. Do you feel like you can't speak up about what's really on your heart? Like you can't clear the air there?

Also, perhaps you may feel like if you do say something you're going to be singled out. And that’s the last thing you want is to be singled out as the “troublemaker” who rocked the boat or even tipped it over, right?

We tell ourselves a million and one reasons why we should give ourselves the silent treatment and we cut off expression because we believe it’s for our own good.

"It’s safer to just blend into the wallpaper." "I don't want anybody to feel like I'm making waves or that I'm getting too full of myself."

You know, in Australia my Australian friends have a name for this phenomena of giving yourself the silent treatment: it’s called the “tall poppy syndrome.”

In a beautiful field of poppies, if one grows taller, the gardener chops off her bloom because she stands out. So that means you shouldn't stand out too much, and anyone who does should be chopped down to size, to preserve status quo.

Know This: You may think you're "keeping the peace," but choosing not to speak your truth is actually a choice to do more harm than good to yourself and everyone involved. #speakup #clarity

Although "tall poppy syndrome" is meant to protect the status quo, it's actually harmful, because it's based in fear. It is really just the fear of being seen and heard.

Whenever we actively engage in or operate from fear, this is energetically -- spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically, financially, etc. -- harmful. Yes, it actively does harm.

But, wait! There's more!

Giving yourself the silent treatment is not only the fear of being seen. On the flip side, it’s also the fear of being hurt.

Spirit says that we give ourselves the silent treatment to avoid feeling hurt, and that one way this manifests is always apologizing or back-pedaling for something that we did or said.

At the drop of a hat, we think to ourselves, “oh crap, that fell out of my mouth toward you so let me just try and do damage control.”

And so, as if you have a nervous tick, you immediately say “I didn't really mean that” or are just always saying “I'm sorry, I’m sorry” and apologizing for yourself.

Even if you didn't do anything you want to be the first one to say I'm sorry so that you can shut it down. Shut all of the energy down. Control, control, control.

So it all boils down to this: the real reason why give ourselves the silent treatment is to control our energy. But we are doing this in a dark way; it is not The Master Path for controlling our energy.

When you shut down your expression in the energy the angels are saying that it's like being at the ocean and trying to dam up the entire ocean, along the entire beach.

Can you imagine a dam running all the way down the Jersey Shore, just the entire of the state, just trying to keep it at bay and not let it ebb and flow as she needs to do?

Rather than honoring her power and natural beauty, you intuitively know that the dam is trying to control her so only a certain amount of ocean can be present at the beach. The one that comes out of this teeny little tap right here. Ha!

With this image, the angels are saying you’re making your power – which is like the ocean and infinite – very, very small.  

Painfully small.

Harmfully small.

Unnaturally small.

We need to learn how to respect and honor whatever is coming through us; to respect and honor our power and our energy.

If we don't, then there are repercussions.

The same way that the ocean doesn't just disappear if you try to dam her up, is the same way that your energy doesn't just disappear if you clam yourself up -- it reroutes.

Oftentimes when we tend to shut down our own expression it manifests physically with disease and discomfort.

So, for example, do you have chronic neck and shoulder pain? Tightness of the jaw? Do you grind your teeth?

Or when you're stressed out, you crunch it together or do you tend to often want to chew on things? Like chewing on straws, pens and pencils or are you addicted to chewing gum?

Oral fixations and addictions are signs of underlying spiritual issues that have to do with expression being stifled.

If you’re addicted to smoking or drinking, don’t be judgmental, instead just notice yourself from a spiritual and energetic perspective.

Take notice of all of these physical manifestations in and around the throat, such as chronic ear infections, catching a cold every winter or even in the summer, etc. as not random events.

Put them in a spiritual context as guidance and warning signs from Spirit that something you are doing is out of alignment with Source.

And what is out of alignment is your relationship with expression: you’re afraid of your truth and allowing it to flow through you.

We're afraid to really put it out there, really allow truth -- which is Source energy -- to move through us. It's raw, it is beautiful. It's always healing, even if it is painful.

But how the heck do we start to turn this situation around then? Are there any techniques and strategies to stop giving yourself the silent treatment? YES!

You’ll have to watch the rest of this week’s video strategy to find out the exactly how!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Call yourself out when you're clamming up or too afraid to speak up, by announcing it out loud. Yes, really! You can just announce that you're scared.

When you feel yourself shutting down, holding or pulling back, you can literally say "I have something to say but I'm afraid to speak up right now." 

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Have you lost track of how many certifications and degrees you've gotten, yet still feel like it's not enough for what you want to do?

Constantly reading more books and articles on personal development and happiness, and feeling frustrated that you still feel like you're always starting at square one?

Wondering when you'll be prepared or qualified enough to finally go for your dream?

In school and in the media they tell us that "knowledge is power." But it seems like the more we learn, the less we know, and the more inadequate we feel.

If that's how it works, then how can we get to feel powerful and adequate?

Watch the above video to explore why knowledge by itself is NOT power!

"Congrats grad! Now on to the next thing..."

In grade school we would have rites of passage ceremonies to commemorate certain levels of learning.

Having these graduations helps to anchor the feeling of self-worth and achievement in our energy, so we know we are worthy of taking our next steps.

The power in the ritual of graduation ceremonies is not just the celebration, but the sense of closure they bring.

Otherwise, we feel like we are not enough.

How do you know you've had enough middle school? Eighth grade graduation. How do you know you've had enough high school? High school graduation. How do you know you've had enough college? Again, college graduation.

But what happens after you've gotten your doctorate and still are looking for what's next? Or what happens when you stop getting recognized for all you've learned--like at work during the rest of your adult life?

Here's the thing: externally derived closure will never really satisfy you.

The desire  for more--to know more, achieve more, experience more, have more, etc.--is insatiable.

Now, in terms of your education this is all well and good--to have a healthy curiosity and thirst for knowledge--at first, but if we start using the search for knowledge as an excuse to put off taking action, that's where it gets problematic.

Maybe this post isn't for you. Maybe you're already clear on what you want  to do with your life, how you'll do it, and when you'll start.

However, if you feel like you're going to classes and getting degrees and certifications and don't still know why, or are still wondering when you're going to finally find and live your purpose, then keep reading.

The insatiable pursuit of more--specifically around information and knowledge--can turn from healthy curiosity to unhealthy addiction.

It's an addiction to consumption and preparation, because we are avoiding the big brown elephant in the room:

You have to take action.

And here's exactly where knowledge alone is not power.

That phrase is misleading. Sure, we all want to empower ourselves and "know" how to make our lives better.

But knowing alone isn't enough--to really see your life shift for the better, you have to actually apply the knowledge you've got.

Think of it this way: imagine that a storm is coming and you know it will knock out everyone's electricity for at least a week, if not several weeks.

So, to prepare for the storm, you start stockpiling candles, flashlights and lanterns. As many as you can grab. And it makes you feel safe and like you are doing good while you buy them.

The storm comes. The lights go out. And then you realize that in the rush, you forget to buy lighters and batteries.

And here you are, with hundreds of candles and flashlights, but no way to turn any of them on--surrounded by potential for so much light, but no way to actually use any of it.

You see that? You could have all the knowledge in the world, but if you don't take action, or "turn it on" so-to-speak, you're just hoarding potential energy.

Know this: Knowledge alone is not power; it's potential energy. Be the catalyst and take action! #success #selfhelp

Spirit this week is saying that you've been avoiding taking action on something you've been studying and preparing for over the years.

Perhaps it's a move, starting a business, teaching a class or giving a lecture, etc.

There's something in your heart that you keep telling yourself "I'm not good enough yet" just because you may not have a PhD or 30 years experience. Believe it or not, telling yourself that negative story is protecting you from changing your life.

Learning more and more is fun indeed, but it can turn into a delay tactic that enables you to avoid taking action on realizing your dreams and goals.

Why do we do this? Because we're searching for permission to graduate.

You can give yourself permission now and become the Catalyst for all that potential energy you've stored up. Now's the time!

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows how we hide from taking action and what to do about it!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Think of a topic you've studied at length, professionally or for pleasure.

Then ask yourself: "How would I teach this to someone if I had to do so?" And write out your process for teaching it.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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