Rushing from one thing to the next more often than not these days?

Been feeling confused, lacking clarity and unsure what you want?

Stressed out because there's never enough hours in the day?

It can be hard to feel grounded and clear when you're always on the go.

Perhaps it's time to deliberately slow down and do less, better.

Watch this week's 6-minute Love Letter video to learn how to pause and be in your power, naturally.

"I have to keep going. I have to keep up!"

This week, Source wants you to pause powerfully.

Maybe lately you've been rushing to get things done, or felt this sense of "I have to keep up and push out." To really show others that you're moving at their pace with them.

Perhaps, your mind has been racing and going through some confusion, not exactly sure how you're feeling, right?

What you need to do, Source is saying, is pause but pause powerfully. There is no rush.

This week in particular. I don't know what is going to come up for you, but this is what's coming through. It's important that you take your time and give yourself the permission to take your time and pause.

You are brilliant, you have so much to offer. You know exactly what you want in this moment. In order for you to access your inner power and your inner knowing, that solar plexus confidence, you need to pause powerfully.

When you take your time and you allow yourself to take your time, you actually ground, so pausing powerfully is actually a grounding practice. It is a communication and mental energy based form of grounding. When we pause and give ourselves pause in communication, there's space. Healing, conscious space, that gathers in that temporal moment, right?

Know this: When we intentionally pause during communication, a healing, conscious space gathers in that moment @SenseiWhitfield

It allows for your energy to reground herself and gather. Perhaps in a more mundane sense, you're gathering your thoughts when you pause, or composing yourself when you pause.

All of that has to do with grounding, and having an integrated grounding practice is the foundation of spiritual health and wellness, of inner confidence, shine and sense of ease and grace.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy now. Goddess Guidance, is the deck that shone to say we would love to offer a little bit more guidance around pausing powerfully.

Angels, Goddess, what do we need to know this week in particular about pausing powerfully?

Woo, you're going to love this!

Aphrodite, Inner Goddess, yes, absolutely!

"Awaken the goddess within you through dance, self care and appreciating your divinity. Pausing powerfully respects your innate spiritual sense, your innate divinity."

It honors yourself, because we're centering and grounding our energy by pausing, powerfully though.

We're not holding back, but instead taking a moment to appreciate perhaps your surroundings, to acknowledge how you feel inwardly. To just acknowledge the stress or acknowledge the rush or anxiety. Acknowledge it, and from there respond rather than reacting. Constantly putting out fires, right?

This is not your inner goddess presence. I mean this for men, too. The goddess in all beings, whether masculine or feminine, the goddess represents flow, nature, organic, creativity, ease, sensuality, innovation, growth, incubation and birthing, right? This is our inner goddess energy. Yes guys, you too, and women, absolutely.

It's about honoring yourself and making space for self care, specifically this week by pausing powerfully, all right?

Comment below, send me an email back. What's coming up for you around this topic in particular? I'm curious to hear. Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your Love Letters first every week, all right? I'll see you next time. Ready for it?

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Intentionally pause to take a moment to acknowledge and appreciate yourself or your environment while you are talking about something to someone.

Visualize healing energy filling the space at that pause creates.

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Rushing from one thing to the next more often than not these days?

Been feeling confused, lacking clarity and unsure what you want?

Stressed out because there's never enough hours in the day?

It can be hard to feel grounded and clear when you're always on the go.

Perhaps it's time to deliberately slow down and do less, better.

Watch this week's 6-minute Love Letter video to learn how to pause and be in your power, naturally.

"I have to keep going. I have to keep up!"

This week, Source wants you to pause powerfully.

Maybe lately you've been rushing to get things done, or felt this sense of "I have to keep up and push out." To really show others that you're moving at their pace with them.

Perhaps, your mind has been racing and going through some confusion, not exactly sure how you're feeling, right?

What you need to do, Source is saying, is pause but pause powerfully. There is no rush.

This week in particular. I don't know what is going to come up for you, but this is what's coming through. It's important that you take your time and give yourself the permission to take your time and pause.

You are brilliant, you have so much to offer. You know exactly what you want in this moment. In order for you to access your inner power and your inner knowing, that solar plexus confidence, you need to pause powerfully.

When you take your time and you allow yourself to take your time, you actually ground, so pausing powerfully is actually a grounding practice. It is a communication and mental energy based form of grounding. When we pause and give ourselves pause in communication, there's space. Healing, conscious space, that gathers in that temporal moment, right?

It allows for your energy to reground herself and gather. Perhaps in a more mundane sense, you're gathering your thoughts when you pause, or composing yourself when you pause.

All of that has to do with grounding, and having an integrated grounding practice is the foundation of spiritual health and wellness, of inner confidence, shine and sense of ease and grace.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy now. Goddess Guidance, is the deck that shone to say we would love to offer a little bit more guidance around pausing powerfully.

Angels, Goddess, what do we need to know this week in particular about pausing powerfully?

Woo, you're going to love this!

Aphrodite, Inner Goddess, yes, absolutely!

"Awaken the goddess within you through dance, self care and appreciating your divinity. Pausing powerfully respects your innate spiritual sense, your innate divinity."

It honors yourself, because we're centering and grounding our energy by pausing, powerfully though.

We're not holding back, but instead taking a moment to appreciate perhaps your surroundings, to acknowledge how you feel inwardly. To just acknowledge the stress or acknowledge the rush or anxiety. Acknowledge it, and from there respond rather than reacting. Constantly putting out fires, right?

This is not your inner goddess presence. I mean this for men, too. The goddess in all beings, whether masculine or feminine, the goddess represents flow, nature, organic, creativity, ease, sensuality, innovation, growth, incubation and birthing, right? This is our inner goddess energy. Yes guys, you too, and women, absolutely.

It's about honoring yourself and making space for self care, specifically this week by pausing powerfully, all right?

Comment below, send me an email back. What's coming up for you around this topic in particular? I'm curious to hear. Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your Love Letters first every week, all right? I'll see you next time. Ready for it?

Know this: When we intentionally pause during communication, a healing, conscious space gathers in that moment.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Intentionally pause to take a moment to acknowledge and appreciate yourself or your environment while you are talking about something to someone.

Visualize healing energy filling the space at that pause creates.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Hate the thought of public speaking?

Often find yourself hiding your feelings and downplaying your achievements when around others?

Known as the "good listener / friend" do you cheer on everyone else around you to keep the attention off you?

Source says you have a story to tell, and that your story can help people.

But it takes courage to speak up, at the risk of being judged.

Watch this weeks 9-minute love letter video to learn why you should share your story!

"It's been hard for me to talk about that difficult situation."

This week it's time for you to share your story. It's time.

In the energy I'm hearing that you had a story that you've been burying in you heart. Holding close to you, one that is the story of who you are, how you created who you are. From a personal development standpoint, right?

There is a story of how you overcame and also what you're going through now, right? What your challenges are now.

That story, you've been burying down, hiding from others to make sure that others feel safe in your presence that they feel like they can shine while you watch them and shine vicariously through them.

You're not going to let your story out because it's hard to tell the truth.

It's hard to own your story, or even see your story as something that is a consistent string that has a moral to it or a message to it.

It's said, perhaps we're at the moment where we're seeing our stories just like a system of events and random experiences that have happened to us instead of a string of pearls that have been arranged for us.

Source says your story, should you choose to share it, can heal someone. In fact not just one person, but many.

You have permission to shine, permission to speak and permission to be contagious. Yeah. Permission to be contagious.

It's important that you speak, share your energy.

Know this: You have permission to shine, to speak and to share your story! 

We all need to hear about your gift, how you overcame because when we hear the perspectives of others, speaking from the perspective of the community. When we hear others stories it's inspiring, it's intriguing, it's connecting, right?

We all have a story and this week in particular some how in some way you are going to be challenged, the opportunity is going to come to you to share your story. I'm behind you saying, "Go for it! Go for it! Go for it!"

The oracle cards this week are calling in the energy to weigh in also on this topic.

Several decks wanted to come forward, so we had to like say, "All right, one at a time, who is really going to speak this week?" The one that shone the brightest in the energy was actually the Crystal Oracle. Our stone family is coming to help ground your ability to speak with some good Earth energy.

Speaking of grounding, Red Jasper, oh my gosh!

They didn't even let me shuffle. They said, "Pull the bottom card." Red Jasper. Let's see what this has to say. Holy Moly.

The root chakra is red, red like Jasper, so this is a perfect card for the root chakra.

The guides are saying we're bringing forward and infusing your life with more root chakra energy, so that when you speak you speak in a grounded way. You're not wandering around and trying to make sense of your story, but instead when you share your story, it has a message to it. It's grounded, clear, not, "Oh, I don't remember... blah, blah, blah."

One way that you can clear your story for yourself first is to write it down.

It's much more grounding to do that. To write it out before speaking it. Let's see what's going on with Jasper here.

"Red Jasper represents nurturing caring, protection, energy flow and life force. You may soon find yourself drawn into a situation in which you feel compelled to care for and protect someone who is in need of help. This may be a person or a pet that has recently suffered some kind of trauma and is suffering from anxiety or depression. Your love and attention, your story will help them heal and simultaneously you will subconsciously heal an aspect of yourself that is also yearning to be nurtured. What is being healed is an emotional trauma you experienced in the past, possibly in your childhood, or it may even stem from a past life. There is no need to recollect the past or to try to figure anything out, remember that we each mirror one another and self healing automatically occurs when we care for another's needs. Trust in the healing power of love."

It looks like this is where we'll end.

It's not that your sharing your story necessarily with the world. Someone in need of the healing wisdom that only comes through experience that you have. Someone in need of the healing wisdom that you have is going to come across your path this week.

I urge you to have the courage to share your story with them so that both of you may be uplifted.

Them being uplifted in the hearing of your best practices and being able to learn before their situation gets worse. And you healing because you get to take what was originally a very difficult and trying situation for you and transmute it into love, encouragement and healing by sharing it with another.

Send me an email back, comment below, let me know what's coming up for you.

Or share your story with me. I have a free share your story call with is a half hour session where you get to tell me what's going on with you and see perhaps in the sharing of that story how we can help and make it even better.

Please, open your heart, open your throat chakra. Open your root chakra. Open them all!

Share all that lovely energy that you've been blessed with. I believe in you, I know you can do it.

All right, sending you so much love and healing, and muah! See you next week!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Be on the look out for someone who is experiencing your "before."

When you find them, ASK if you can share your story with them, and if they say yes, do so.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Stuck in a rut lately?

Feeling your creativity is blocked or stifled?

Same old routine producing stale results?

Most people are creatures of habit; to deal with daily stressors we create a sense of comfort through predictability.

That's understandable, but routines can hold us back from achieving new levels of health, wealth and connection in life because they define, and in turn limit, our point of view.

Watch this week's 8-minute video to learn a technique for jump starting your perspective and your productivity: pattern interruption!

"I need help getting a fresh point of view."

This week Source spoke to me and said that she would like to send you a holistic stress management technique for the week, and in particular, she wants you to focus on "pattern interruption."

Pattern interruption -- this is also a lovely Google-ing point if you want to learn more about this technique in particular -- is really great for challenging perceptions and behavioral patterns simply through changing one tiny thing, especially if the thing is environmentally governed.

In the picture of me right now, do you notice anything that looks slightly different? Is there something different in the room or different about me that you're not exactly used to?

The pattern interruption that I'm demonstrating to you right now is wearing bright red lipstick.

That can really shift your perspective about what I'm saying or how you feel about listening to me, because I've changed one tiny aspect of an environment that you've been used to: "Yay, it's the dojo! Oh, it's Victoria, saying blah, blah, blah, blah. She's so cute and sweet, and ... red lips. Oh, my goodness!" LOL!

What kind of association does red lipstick have for you? Do you notice how you feel different about me seeing this?

This is just one example. For the ladies, wearing red lipstick is a pattern interruption that you can shift the way that your perceive yourself, you entire day, how you make decisions, or how you feel about a certain thing.

I've heard of one lady who always wears bright red lipstick whenever she's getting ready to pay her bills, because she feels more confident and sensuous and romantic in that stressful and boring situation, cutting checks and reviewing statements.

It's about shifting how you feel.

For the guys, it could be getting a straight razor shave with the hot towel at a proper barber shop. "Oh, it feels so amazing!"

Another one that's universal for pattern interruption is having an at least one minute dance break.

If you are studying for an exam or perhaps you're working hard at work you're just coding, coding. (I code in HTML. I know it's ancient, but it works.) If you get into the zone at work, periodically get up and give yourself at least 60 seconds of dancing.

It can shift the way that your perceive what is happening around you.

In fact, a pattern interruption can activate your creativity in a whole new way. It an bring up new solutions, because what was expected in the environment has shifted.

When you shift what is expected, everything changes.

Know this: Your #routine is holding you back right now.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy this week right now.

The deck that came to use is Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards, so they are some lovely feminine energy.

I'm going to practice pattern interruption again and send you bright blue, so that we can have more stronger throat chakra energy communicating this with you.

Let's see. What do the guides have to say about shifting your environment to shift how you feel?

What matters most is how you feel, and one great way that you can manage that, even going into some feng shui: moving a chair across the room opposite from where it normally is, or moving your desk around, shifting where your computer normally is facing, or putting a scarf over your chair or your favorite t-shirt in where you have to sit very often.

It can completely change the way that you feel from a level of stress, anxiety and overwhelm to comfort, humor and curiosity.

Angels, what would you like us to know right now?

 

 

The oracle cards for this week are two Egyptian #goddess Maat and Bast, encouraging us to maintain our inner #balance and #independent point of view. Don't let work or people water down who you are this week. Full reading on #youtube at http://youtu.be/niRCR7XzHC8 ????????✨ #beyou #health #selflove #respect #inspiration

 

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Wow! Two cards of Egyptian goddesses came out: Maat and Bast.

Okay, Maat who is the Egyptian goddess of fairness, and Bast is strength and independence.

Okay, first off, Maat's message: "This situation will be handled in a fair and just manner."

When you're doing pattern interruption, it's balances a situation so that you are not solely externally focused; you're balanced because you're remembering how you show up, how you feel, and how you are framing the situation.

Health is a balancing act, so it's important to do things that inspire you to become a more balanced wholly integrated individual. Pattern interruption is a powerful tool for that.

Then Bast is saying, "You're independence is a foundation for your strength and success."

And here's where we're going to end. You'll want to practice pattern interruption to keep your point of view fresh and detached from what's going on around you.

It's important to not take things so seriously and not take things so personally.

If by moving your environment around or by wearing a loud lipstick or wearing your favorite pair of earrings or jewelry or a bright watch, or a tie that is fun or confident, it can really help assert your individuality, so that your energy doesn't get lost in the day.

Got it? Try it out!

Let me know what's coming up for you around pattern interruption.

Have your tried this, and what were your results? What did you start seeing differently? Was it weird seeing me with red lipstick? Tell me.

I love to see your comments, and I always respond.

That's this week's message. By all means, please go to victoriawhitfield.com/freegift and make sure that you subscribe so that you're getting your weekly Love Letters if you haven’t already.

And on YouTube hit that Subscribe button, wherever she is on your screen, so that you get your weekly Love Letters as soon as their uploaded.

Sending you so much love 🙂

See you next time. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Change something small about your environment or your appearance. 

Then go back to work or back to your routine and see it from this new perspective.

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Feel like your cell phone is running your life?

Find yourself spending all day in front of a screen - phone, laptop, TV, etc. - and are you concerned about the long-term effects?

Frustrated that your relationships are less satisfying and feeling "less real" because they're becoming increasingly techno-dependent? 

The convenience of techwitty.com.au/app-development and innovating communications technology has changed our sociocultural conventions of interaction. 

Not only that, but the constant exposure to these machines and wireless data also effects your physical, emotional and spiritual energy.

Watch the above 9-minute video to learn to better manage your cell phone energy exposure in life!

"How can I better ground the way that I communicate with others?" 

This week Spirit wants to talk to you about cell phones and technology.

Oftentimes as I'm channeling to you I say, "Oh, I hear in the energy..." when talking about vibes and that kind of energy or raising your vibration; and there is the electrical, mechanical, technological connotation to the word "energy," too, however.

But oftentimes we're using just the spiritual, emotional, intuitive meaning of "energy" -- but this week, in particular, Source is saying I want to talk to you about these machines.

My cell phone, who I call Lillian, is going to be assisting today in this week's love letter. Everyone wave hello to Lillian! 🙂

The message that the Spirits are trying to send is that this -- texting and the like -- is not communicating.

By the way, I hear someone like cheering in the energy like, "Yes. Tell my child that. Tell my husband. Tell my son. Tell my sister this is not communicating. Rah-rah-rah!!!"

This one is certainly for you my friend, however also I'm coming for you too, so you may be celebrating now but I'll be right with you in a moment. 😉

So we are talking about cell phone energy.

Ever since Lillian and all of her ancestors have been created it's completely shifted the way that we communicate with each other, not only interpersonally or verbally, but also energetically.

Have you ever had that feeling that you hear a ding from your cell phone or whatever your notification sound is, or you feel it vibrate and you're like, "I know who that is!" before you even look at your phone, and then you check it and it indeed is who you felt in the energy?

Or you're thinking of someone and all of a sudden their name will pop up on the screen that they're calling you, and you say to them "Oh, my God. I was just thinking of you!"

The spiritual connections, the etheric cords have become more potent, more responsive because of cell phones.

It's incredible. 

The quality of spiritual communication has been revolutionized because of wireless technology.

At the same time it has severely ungrounded our ability to communicate with each other heart-to-heart.

Instead, we communicate from the head -- exactly where we put cell phones is usually up around our head, or we're all in our eyes.

All of the energy has moved from the body up into the head around communication, so that the way that people communicate now has become of a more mechanical, or wireless nature: it's a higher vibration. It's pulling us up and out of the body. But the communication has been ungrounded.

It is something that Source is really saying we need to consider and do a bit of a meditation on this week in particular.

"How can I better ground the way I communicate with others?"

First off, let me give a shout out to all of my homies out there, my single homies who are online dating and in the phase when you're texting that person and getting to know them.

Yeah. When you get the, "Hi. How are you? How are you doing today?" texts, just remember that does not mean anything. You're not an item yet LOL!

What means something is when someone calls you or sees you in person. Text, pictures, and all of that stuff does not bring you into your body.

When you're bonding with someone during the dating process, or even if it's in your marriage and it's been quite some time getting used to communicating at a distance with your loved one, techno-dependent communication brings the energy up into your heads.

Whereas your soul connection, where you can feel it in a multi-dimensional and multi-sensory way, is when we bring the energy down into your heart and more into your body.

So if there is ever something that you want to tell someone I would encourage you to CALL them -- because I'm being pushed by the spirits right now. They're like, "Tell them this!"

I would encourage you call them first. Don't text. 

Know this: If you're #writing a text #message that's longer than 2 lines, it's because you should call the person. 

Now, there's so many things that we've restructured in our lives to compensate for this ungrounded communication, as sensitive individuals. 

We send longer texts, right? It's like I'm journaling to a friend of mine, and I'm sending big fat texts more, and more, and more, with a stream of consciousness to try and convey feelings clearly.

And our communication is morphing, but it's not to say that that's entirely bad.

The point that Spirit is trying to make, instead, is that this is ungrounding.

So as much as you send it out you're not really going to express the fullness of your energy through just the phone. You need to embody. Embody your communication.

There's another level underneath this.

Wireless devices are constantly, constantly, constantly uploading and downloading data.

Your body is way more sensitive than the most advanced piece of equipment that anybody could build mechanically, or that any man could make.

Your body has the ability to feel and register that data uploading and downloading, uploading and downloading.

And not just with the cell phone - I'm talking about all wireless devices.

So routers in your house, the wireless sound system, the TV, the cordless phones. (Who uses that anymore?) All wireless technology is constantly uploading and downloading data.

Part of your adrenal system is monitoring that and reacting to that on a certain level, constantly.

You ever have that feeling of "I can't turn off," or "I have anxiety / the jitters for no reason?"

Well, you may be interacting with all of the wireless data that your body is processing; she is strong and sensitive enough to be able to see all that stuff passing by.  

So another rule of thumb, and this is a combination of channeling and also Feng Shui principles, is to get the cell phone either on airplane mode or get it out of your bedroom.

If you have trouble sleeping get the TV out of the bedroom, get the laptop out of the bedroom, get the wireless router out of the bedroom.

I remember one of my students she went to bed one night and she was like, "Oh, my God. This is like the worst sleep I've ever had. What's different?"

She looks and her husband had put the wireless router underneath their bed. She was shocked because she noticed it was agitating her.

Your body can pick up on that.

So take charge of your peaceful space. Move the technology and machines out of the bedroom. Get it out of your sacred space, and see the difference.

Your aura extends out into the entire room that you are in, so be kind to yourself. You're capable of picking up on those vibrations.

Check back next week, where we will continue our conversation about dealing with cell phone energy!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Take a 5 or 10 minute technology break at lunch. 

Put down your cell phone and walk away from your computer and TV screen, and acclimate to being "unplugged" for a few minutes. 

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

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Too scared to say what you mean to say?

Feeling like you can't speak up about what's really weighing on your heart?

Do you keep your mouth shut because you're afraid that you'll be rejected or "look stupid" if you say what you think?

Deep down we all know that things left unsaid can slowly eat away at us. But still, we don't say anything in an effort to "keep the peace."

Are we really keeping the peace though if it's at the expense of our health? Because inner turmoil and repressed feelings certainly aren't healthy!

Watch the above video to learn how to break the silence and speak up for yourself with love and healing!

"Rock the boat! Don't rock the boat, baby. Rock the boat! Don't tip the boat over."

This week’s topic is about giving yourself the silent treatment.

Why do we do that to ourselves? What does that mean?

When we're giving our-self the silent treatment, it means we are blocking out whatever we really want to say.

Perhaps there's a situation that's come up at work or at home with a loved one or your kids or friends that you've been interacting with. You feel like you just can't talk about it or you can't speak up.

You feel like you’re out of bounds, telling yourself “well, if I say that they're going to reject me” or “they're going to criticize me,” or “they're going to get emotional and I don't want to have to deal with all that.”

Think about the situation now, as you read this. Do you feel like you can't speak up about what's really on your heart? Like you can't clear the air there?

Also, perhaps you may feel like if you do say something you're going to be singled out. And that’s the last thing you want is to be singled out as the “troublemaker” who rocked the boat or even tipped it over, right?

We tell ourselves a million and one reasons why we should give ourselves the silent treatment and we cut off expression because we believe it’s for our own good.

"It’s safer to just blend into the wallpaper." "I don't want anybody to feel like I'm making waves or that I'm getting too full of myself."

You know, in Australia my Australian friends have a name for this phenomena of giving yourself the silent treatment: it’s called the “tall poppy syndrome.”

In a beautiful field of poppies, if one grows taller, the gardener chops off her bloom because she stands out. So that means you shouldn't stand out too much, and anyone who does should be chopped down to size, to preserve status quo.

Know This: You may think you're "keeping the peace," but choosing not to speak your truth is actually a choice to do more harm than good to yourself and everyone involved. #speakup #clarity

Although "tall poppy syndrome" is meant to protect the status quo, it's actually harmful, because it's based in fear. It is really just the fear of being seen and heard.

Whenever we actively engage in or operate from fear, this is energetically -- spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically, financially, etc. -- harmful. Yes, it actively does harm.

But, wait! There's more!

Giving yourself the silent treatment is not only the fear of being seen. On the flip side, it’s also the fear of being hurt.

Spirit says that we give ourselves the silent treatment to avoid feeling hurt, and that one way this manifests is always apologizing or back-pedaling for something that we did or said.

At the drop of a hat, we think to ourselves, “oh crap, that fell out of my mouth toward you so let me just try and do damage control.”

And so, as if you have a nervous tick, you immediately say “I didn't really mean that” or are just always saying “I'm sorry, I’m sorry” and apologizing for yourself.

Even if you didn't do anything you want to be the first one to say I'm sorry so that you can shut it down. Shut all of the energy down. Control, control, control.

So it all boils down to this: the real reason why give ourselves the silent treatment is to control our energy. But we are doing this in a dark way; it is not The Master Path for controlling our energy.

When you shut down your expression in the energy the angels are saying that it's like being at the ocean and trying to dam up the entire ocean, along the entire beach.

Can you imagine a dam running all the way down the Jersey Shore, just the entire of the state, just trying to keep it at bay and not let it ebb and flow as she needs to do?

Rather than honoring her power and natural beauty, you intuitively know that the dam is trying to control her so only a certain amount of ocean can be present at the beach. The one that comes out of this teeny little tap right here. Ha!

With this image, the angels are saying you’re making your power – which is like the ocean and infinite – very, very small.  

Painfully small.

Harmfully small.

Unnaturally small.

We need to learn how to respect and honor whatever is coming through us; to respect and honor our power and our energy.

If we don't, then there are repercussions.

The same way that the ocean doesn't just disappear if you try to dam her up, is the same way that your energy doesn't just disappear if you clam yourself up -- it reroutes.

Oftentimes when we tend to shut down our own expression it manifests physically with disease and discomfort.

So, for example, do you have chronic neck and shoulder pain? Tightness of the jaw? Do you grind your teeth?

Or when you're stressed out, you crunch it together or do you tend to often want to chew on things? Like chewing on straws, pens and pencils or are you addicted to chewing gum?

Oral fixations and addictions are signs of underlying spiritual issues that have to do with expression being stifled.

If you’re addicted to smoking or drinking, don’t be judgmental, instead just notice yourself from a spiritual and energetic perspective.

Take notice of all of these physical manifestations in and around the throat, such as chronic ear infections, catching a cold every winter or even in the summer, etc. as not random events.

Put them in a spiritual context as guidance and warning signs from Spirit that something you are doing is out of alignment with Source.

And what is out of alignment is your relationship with expression: you’re afraid of your truth and allowing it to flow through you.

We're afraid to really put it out there, really allow truth -- which is Source energy -- to move through us. It's raw, it is beautiful. It's always healing, even if it is painful.

But how the heck do we start to turn this situation around then? Are there any techniques and strategies to stop giving yourself the silent treatment? YES!

You’ll have to watch the rest of this week’s video strategy to find out the exactly how!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Call yourself out when you're clamming up or too afraid to speak up, by announcing it out loud. Yes, really! You can just announce that you're scared.

When you feel yourself shutting down, holding or pulling back, you can literally say "I have something to say but I'm afraid to speak up right now." 

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Want to learn how to speak up but don't know where to start? Tell me!

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Are you "stuck in your head" often because you're so stressed out and busy these days?

Feeling frustrated that you're not getting through to people, or that your loved ones, clients or colleagues aren't quite connecting with you in the way you would like them to?

Worried that when you talk no one hears you, or do you even feel that people think you are "ranting" or "rambling" all the time?

Communication issues have to do with the part of your energetic body that's called the Throat Chakra.

The Throat Chakra governs your ability to speak up and be heard with clarity and authenticity in this lifetime.

Watch the above video to explore why you should stop "speaking your mind," and what you should start doing instead, to heal your communication issues!

Clear communication is an energy exchange.

It involves you expressing yourself clearly, as well as the other person experiencing your expression clearly.

A healthy Throat Chakra exchange leaves you feeling heard, connected and well received.

Therefore, the energy exchanged in communication needs to be clear and open on both sides: both for that of the speaker and listener.

It's obvious that having a garbled message can ruin the quality of our communication with others.

However, what may not be so obvious is that having garbled energy can also affect the quality of our communication with others, perhaps even moreso than the message itself.

Why? Because everyone is an empathic listener, to some degree.

And, on top of that, the majority of people have no idea what the heck that means. YAY! 🙂 It's a hot mess, I know, but hey, that's what we are here to solve, right lightworkers?

So what exactly is an empathic listener?

Does that mean everyone is psychic or something? No, not exactly.

An empathic listener is someone who is "listening" to or moreover aware of the energy that someone else is giving off in a given situation. In short, they pick up the person's "vibes."

For example, have you ever had the experience of watching someone read a really well-written speech, but you could tell they were faking it or being disingenuous?

What gave them away? They had correct body language, they varied their voice tone elegantly, and said all the right words. Heck, they even had a great outfit on and smelled good!

But how you could tell that they didn't really feel what they were saying to you, even though all of your 5 senses were being "correctly" tickled by the book?

Here's how: your 6th Empathic Sense felt the imbalanced energy that they were sending out, and you in turn concluded they were being disingenuous.

This is therefore a more extreme example of someone speaking their mind, and not speaking their heart.

The meaning, the resonance, gets lost in translation when we are personally out of alignment when communicating.

And that's a big reason why people can and will misunderstand what we are trying to say, or even write off what we are talking about: it's not coming from the right place.

Know this: Don't speak your mind. Speak your heart. #communication #leadership

When we try to do a "perfect" job in talking, sometimes the heart of the matter can get lost in translation.

Maybe you've been preparing your presentation at work for a very long time, or maybe you've been trying to figure out "just the right way" to tell your loved one something that's a sensitive subject.

Just get out of your head, and into your heart.

The ego is very powerful at wanting to wrap himself around everything you experience. However, it can in it's wrapping end up choking the flow of expression with too much censorship and analysis paralysis.

So, when you feel like your loved ones, clients or colleagues aren't quite getting it, make time to stop what you're saying and check in with them. You can ask "did that make sense or have I lost you?" for example.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which explains exactly how to speak from your heart and who you're really doing it for!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Pause, and drop into your heart.

Watch the video and do the simple heart-centering exercise before you go to speak.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Feel like your life or career has a bigger purpose?

Dreaming big, but hiding your dreams for fear of rejection and ridicule?

Waiting to find out when it will be your time to shine, instead of helping or watching everyone else around you make it?

Well, I have a funny story to share with you about this.

Watch this video to get the confidence to Stop Muffling Your Message and get out there in a BIG way.

My top two core values in life are Love and Learning.

And because of that, I inject that into everything I do, personally as well as professionally.

So, to stay in alignment with my values, I invest in myself by attending different workshops, conferences and retreats throughout each year.

You could say that some are for spiritual development, others for personal development and still others are for professional development, but when it comes down to it, everything is connected.

Know this: You have a higher purpose in life and a healing message that needs to be heard. It's time to stop muffling your message and get out there! #H2LYS #BK2YS

Here's where this week's message comes in: I was driving up to another workshop for spiritual and professional development. It was a 2-hour drive. And then within one mile of arriving at my destination I hear a CLUNK, followed by loud gurgling whenever I hit the gas in my car.

I love my car. Her name's Daisy. She's over 14 years old, and I take great care of her. But, you know, sometimes older cars can surprise you 🙂

It turns out part of the pipe for my muffler detached as I was driving - wow! Here's the kicker though - Spirit waited to do this until I was off the highway and within half a mile of a mechanic to send me this experience.

No coincidences. Ever.

I parked and went to the workshop, and decided to go to the mechanic the next day. As I was getting my muffler fixed up at the mechanic, I began to channel and ask Spirit "ok! I know this is on purpose. What do you want me to know right now by detaching my muffler??"

Immediately I heard:

"Stop muffling your message."

Spirit is saying it's time to speak the inner truth, and turn up the volume on it, too! #NOMORE or shrinking to make others around you feel more important than you.

I've done this a lot in my own life - playing small and putting everyone on a pedestal around me at work or in my relationships, as if I'm not as worthy.

I am worthy. And so are you!

Not only that, but we have a higher purpose in life that we've got to get going on! It takes a lot of courage to admit you're the only person standing in your own way from knowing and living your purpose.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows one technique for helping you move out of your own way and turn up the volume on sharing your healing message in a bigger way!

In Love and Light,

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