Know what others want but can't figure out what you want?

Are you a highly sensitive and/or empathic individual that keeps getting hijacked by negative energy?

Want to improve your communication skills to win friends and influence people?

Mirroring is the rapport-building act of mimicking what others around you are doing.

When you do this intentionally it can be powerful and effective in a positive way, but when you do this unconsciously and all the time, it can really muddy up your mind and energy.

Watch this week's 10-minute Love Letter video to discover and harness the power of mirroring!

"I don't know what I'm good at."

This week, Source wants you to take notice of how and when you are mirroring. Let me explain.

Mirroring is something that we do to establish rapport and a connection to communicate and understand others with, right.

An example of mirroring is when someone is using their hands and nodding to speak with you rather than just sitting, which would not be mirroring.

You, as you listen, you nod and smile at them, or when you respond, you'll use your hands too.

This is a form of connections-making, rapport-building and communication, mirroring. There is a huge difference though that the guides want you to understand between intentional mirroring and unintentional mirroring.

Intentional mirroring is when we are very clearly using that technique to decide, "Okay. I am going to mirror this person to make them feel more comfortable, feel more connected" or "So that this other person understands me more, I'm going to really go along at their pace, slow down my speech or I'll speed it up so I can connect better to them," right.

This is the sign of a strong communicator, is that they're conscious about and strategic, the guides say in particular, about how and when they mirror others in the way that they communicate.

Now, naturally sensitive and intuitive, empathic people such as you and I, we do this on autopilot. There's good and not so good aspects to it.

Let's go to unintentional mirroring. Unintentional mirroring is when, if someone is coming into the situation with frustration or they're activated and intense and you are relaxed, you get swept away by their emotions.

Or if the ... Oh God. This is the worst one. When the hungry children commercial comes on or the animal abuse commercial comes on, ugh, and there's crying and the mirroring then is, "Oh my God. I feel emotional too."

Then because we're natural empaths, it's compounded. Not only are you establishing connection on autopilot, unintentionally, autopilot mirroring, but then on top of that then all of that energy and all of their emotions begins to flow through you and it can really hijack your energy and your mood for the day.

So this can be really serious, especially on the far end of the spectrum. I can't even be on camera.

There's intentional, unintentional and over here. The far end of the spectrum for mirroring, and this is something that you've really got to pay attention to this week, is categorized by feelings of "I don't know what I want" or if someone asks you, "Oh, what do you want to eat tonight?" "I don't know what, whatever you want," immediate mirroring.

It's beyond unintentional. It's a loss of center, a loss of grounding, a loss of self. If you're wondering, "What's my life purpose?" or "I don't know what I'm good at" or "I'm good at everything" or "I'm not good with making decisions. I change my mind all of the time, left and right."

If you don't feel centered or a sense of clarity, it may be, and I'm hearing the gods say, underlining and seeing them underlining this in the energy, it may be that you're off spectrum. You are so far mirroring that you've lost your own center.

Know this: Unintentional mirroring is a sign that you're not centered. #checkyourself @SenseiWhitfield

What happens when you're all the way over there is that, this is the shadow side. Be kind to yourself. You have to hear this. You can become an unconscious energy vampire.

When we're so far off and we're just mirroring everyone at the drop of a hat, that begins to drain all those around us because we're sucking in inspiration and energy from all those that are around us.

Just an example. If you're talking to people and they just start getting tired and tired and you're like, "Oh, why don't they just tell me to stop talking?" No, no, no. It's important for you this week in particular, the guides are saying, to notice when you're on the far end of the spectrum, right. Find your center.

Specifically this week, it's by watching for when you are over-mirroring. I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy to weigh in on this topic.

Healing with the angels oracle cards deck in particular came forward to send some healing energy to us. What if I don't know if I'm mirroring and you know what? I want to be able to be intentional and strategic about it. I want to get out of being unintentional and right out of balance.

Angels, what do we need to know? How can we send more healing to this situation?

Don't shuffle the top card. Woo. Okay. Freedom. This is the freedom card the guides are telling me to read to you specifically out of the book, all right. Freedom.

"The angels guide you to freely express your true thoughts and feelings with love. You may feel trapped right now by life conditions. By drawing this card, the angels ask you to realize that you are the only jail-keeper that ever surfaces in your own life."

You are the only jail-keeper.

"Whenever you realize that you have the power to be free, freedom follows. Everything that you do in your life is by choice, and you are free to choose again always. Even prisoners are free to choose their thoughts so that they feel peace and happiness under any conditions. The next time you begin a sentence with the words, 'I have to,' please stop yourself. Ask God and the angels to show you some alternatives. They will either help you complete the task from a loving mindset so that you don't feel trapped or they will guide you to do something else that you will love."

Here's where the freedom card comes into play specifically with mirroring. Becoming conscious is becoming aware of yourself.

It's important for you, in order to embrace your freedom as a person and as a sentient being, to become more self-aware. It starts this week or it continues this week with noticing when you are mirroring. Just watch.

Maybe write it down in a journal every time you notice, "Oh, I mirrored that person. I mirrored that person" or "That emotion wasn't mine. I was mirroring them" versus you're not mirroring someone and you're just empathically picking it up.

This is the road to developing empathic mastery, by the way, for all those of you who know about being an empath.

Working with your mirroring and increasing your self-awareness and consciousness level can help you master it as a powerful tool for psychic self-defense.

If you want to know more about that or exactly how to go about that, send me an email back, comment below and say, "Victoria, I want to know more about that" or "I'd like a session around that in particular because this is something I feel that's near and dear to my heart."

Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week and I will see you next time. Sending you so much love and healing energy. Mwah. See you.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Pay attention to how you mirror others, intentionally or unintentionally.

See if you can shift your awareness to being more intentional as you speak with others.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Struggling with boredom and fatigue?

Nervous because you have a big event or presentation coming up?

Is your wardrobe cluttered with old, torn or frumpy clothes that have been there, untouched, since the Stone Age?

Your clothes are a daily opportunity to adorn and celebrate the sacred vessel that is your body.
We lock key parts of our authentic selves up to cope, to survive or to fit in.

The right and resonant adornments can raise your vibration, inspire you and increase your joy at random throughout the day.

Watch this week's 8-minute Love Letter video to discover the healing power of dressing for pleasure and how to do it!

"What is wrong with me?"

This week, Source wants you to dress for pleasure.

Yay, this is a fun week.

Dressing for pleasure in particular, it depends on you and how you define what is pleasing and pleasurable to your body, your aesthetic, your mindset.

It also depends on your environment, how much you can express that outwardly, or express it inwardly. Let me explain.

This, by the way, goes for whether you're a male or a female, and regardless of your age. It's time for you, whoever is watching, you, to dress for pleasure this week in particular.

Now what that looks like, is totally unique to you. It may be wearing clothes that are colorful and visually appealing.

I personally dress for pleasure every day. I love wearing clothing that inspires me, because it raises my vibration, and source desires that you raise your vibration through your adornment, as well, this week. 

Know this: Your #pleasure generates #energy for yourself and others. #raiseyourvibration @SenseiWhitfield

It may be visual, such as color, construction, and style. It also may be sensual. The fabric, texture, weight, density of what is on your body.

Then it can also be mental. Meaning. The meaning of different things that you put on your body, and how you adorn her or him.

For example, today I'm dressed for pleasure in a more sensual way. This is silk. This is a silk, men's shirt against a silk, full-length dress. I also put some sparkles on me, because that visually inspires me. I love light. I love all kinds of light, especially sparkly light. That raises my vibration.

Not only how it feels against my skin raises my vibration, but then, when I catch my reflection, I also am inspired by the color and the light that's reflecting off of me.

In a mental note, in the way that I have adorned myself today in particular, this is the masculine energy and the feminine, flowy energy. I love gender, and I love blending those two energies that inspires me so much. I'm a very feminine woman, but I have very masculine haircut, and I do masculine exercises. That for me, represents balance.

How have you adorned your secret vessel in a visual, sensual, and mentally stimulating and vibration-raising way?

For men, that may be, or women, as you go out and you have your work, corporate clothing on the outside, underneath, what have you adorned yourself with? If it's your favorite necklace that you keep underneath your shirt, or your favorite underpants. Wear the good underpants. Yes, yes, hashtag, good underpants week.

Or for guys, are you wearing your under-shirt that has the Superman S or the Batman, or the Tony Stark Ironman circle underneath your suit, to express that part of you, your inner super hero, your inner idol?

Is there certain jewelry that you're wearing, that has a certain level of meaning, that anchors you and gives you power, and raises your vibration?

Ladies, is there really jangly bracelet or earrings that reminds you of the feminine sound, that tinkling sound around you, and really anchors that?

This week, dress for pleasure, because it's time you start raising your vibration on a daily basis. The guides say you need to do this, especially because this week, you are going to be called upon to bring more energy in a more abundant way.

Your oracle cards for the week, of course, goddess, guidance, deck, to bring inspiration and wisdom, divine, feminine wisdom from different goddess archetypes from around the world.

Goddess says what we need to know this week in particular, about dressing for pleasure,

“There's no need to worry. Everything is working out beautifully.”

This is Irene, Goddess of peace. PAX, peace goddess. She's holding a baby, as well as a cornucopia here. There's water and dolphins. All this is abundant imagery and being taken care of by the mother goddess.

The guides are saying that Irene is coming forward for you in particular this week.

Don't worry about, "Am I wearing the right thing? Is this acceptable?" You have permission. You have permission to wear what brings you pleasure.

In that, you generate your own peace and your own sense of certainty and security. Choose to have permission this week, to dress for pleasure.

I want to hear, what are you going to wear that is visually, sensually or mentally stimulating to your energy, this week in particular. Tell me, tell me. Comment below or send me an email back at SenseiVictoriaWhitfield@gmail.com. I want to hear. I'm excited.

Also, let me know, how does it feel to dress for pleasure?

Bonus homework for the week is, if there's something in your wardrobe that has holes and stains, and is old, or you haven't worn it in a thousand years, give yourself permission to get rid of it. Liberate your space and clear your energy. Raise your vibration in this beautiful and easy way.

Subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters every week first, and I'll see you next week. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Dress for your pleasure, fun and enjoyment.

Use color, texture and meaning in your clothing and accessories to inspire joyful, positive feelings in yourself.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Are you "stuck in your head" often because you're so stressed out and busy these days?

Feeling frustrated that you're not getting through to people, or that your loved ones, clients or colleagues aren't quite connecting with you in the way you would like them to?

Worried that when you talk no one hears you, or do you even feel that people think you are "ranting" or "rambling" all the time?

Communication issues have to do with the part of your energetic body that's called the Throat Chakra.

The Throat Chakra governs your ability to speak up and be heard with clarity and authenticity in this lifetime.

Watch the above video to explore why you should stop "speaking your mind," and what you should start doing instead, to heal your communication issues!

Clear communication is an energy exchange.

It involves you expressing yourself clearly, as well as the other person experiencing your expression clearly.

A healthy Throat Chakra exchange leaves you feeling heard, connected and well received.

Therefore, the energy exchanged in communication needs to be clear and open on both sides: both for that of the speaker and listener.

It's obvious that having a garbled message can ruin the quality of our communication with others.

However, what may not be so obvious is that having garbled energy can also affect the quality of our communication with others, perhaps even moreso than the message itself.

Why? Because everyone is an empathic listener, to some degree.

And, on top of that, the majority of people have no idea what the heck that means. YAY! 🙂 It's a hot mess, I know, but hey, that's what we are here to solve, right lightworkers?

So what exactly is an empathic listener?

Does that mean everyone is psychic or something? No, not exactly.

An empathic listener is someone who is "listening" to or moreover aware of the energy that someone else is giving off in a given situation. In short, they pick up the person's "vibes."

For example, have you ever had the experience of watching someone read a really well-written speech, but you could tell they were faking it or being disingenuous?

What gave them away? They had correct body language, they varied their voice tone elegantly, and said all the right words. Heck, they even had a great outfit on and smelled good!

But how you could tell that they didn't really feel what they were saying to you, even though all of your 5 senses were being "correctly" tickled by the book?

Here's how: your 6th Empathic Sense felt the imbalanced energy that they were sending out, and you in turn concluded they were being disingenuous.

This is therefore a more extreme example of someone speaking their mind, and not speaking their heart.

The meaning, the resonance, gets lost in translation when we are personally out of alignment when communicating.

And that's a big reason why people can and will misunderstand what we are trying to say, or even write off what we are talking about: it's not coming from the right place.

Know this: Don't speak your mind. Speak your heart. #communication #leadership

When we try to do a "perfect" job in talking, sometimes the heart of the matter can get lost in translation.

Maybe you've been preparing your presentation at work for a very long time, or maybe you've been trying to figure out "just the right way" to tell your loved one something that's a sensitive subject.

Just get out of your head, and into your heart.

The ego is very powerful at wanting to wrap himself around everything you experience. However, it can in it's wrapping end up choking the flow of expression with too much censorship and analysis paralysis.

So, when you feel like your loved ones, clients or colleagues aren't quite getting it, make time to stop what you're saying and check in with them. You can ask "did that make sense or have I lost you?" for example.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which explains exactly how to speak from your heart and who you're really doing it for!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Pause, and drop into your heart.

Watch the video and do the simple heart-centering exercise before you go to speak.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want to remove blocks from your throat chakra and speak clearly?

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