What comfort food is your guilty pleasure?

Do you have certain foods that you can’t help yourself around?

When you feel sad, stressed or anxious, do you crave certain unhealthy foods to distract you from the discomfort?

Many of us - in first-world countries - stuff ourselves with food to hide from uncomfortable and negative emotions.

And entrepreneurs in particular tend to eat emotionally to crowd out the feelings of stress and overwhelm they endure keeping up with increasing and erratic amounts of work.

Watch this week's love letter on Food Self-Sabotage, which is part 2 of our 5-week deep dive series on self-care versus self-sabotage.

"When I'm anxious, I know eat food that's not good for me."

This week is week two of five. Our five week deep dive into that interplay between self care and self sabotage. That we dance. We dance across that line as empaths every single day.

Source has really pushed me to raise awareness around this because you have got to shine your light better.

Brighter, bigger, we need you, baby. So whatever it takes, we're gonna raise awareness, where you may be standing between you and your light shining at it's brightest and we just wanna honor that.

Not to make you feel wrong or beat yourself over the head for doing things that way, but instead just honoring that, that's coming up.

This week in particular, for week two out of five, the guides have requested us to talk about food. Oh man. Food, food and emotional stuffing. Alright, let's go there.

What kinds of foods do you eat? When you experience the feelings that are like the following. The following feelings of anxiety, worry, emptiness, boredom, anger, grief.

As I even just say those words, what kind of foods does your body want to ... You start getting cravings for. Is it for another diet soda? Is it for potato chips? Is it for cookies and chocolates and ... Or could it be for cheeseburgers just fill me to the brim, right? Or pizza? All of these stuffing foods versus fuel and clarity foods.

Now, a lot of my private clients, there's certain point in our sessions where we come to this one philosophy that I've said I don't know how many times, but there's two kinds of people in the world.

There's two kinds of people. You could tell by what's driving them.

People who desire clarity, and people who desire comfort. See where I'm going with this? Food.

People who desire clarity, they're going to confront the issue because they just want to clear the air, they're gonna take personal responsibility because that's empowering and it fosters more clarity. It spreads light.

They're going to take a stand and voice their opinion because we're looking for clarity. They're searching for truth.

But people who are desiring comfort are going to blame. It's easier to place blame on others or other events or things that happen in the past or imagines situations.

We're gonna place blame if we want comfort. We're going to feel more tired, we're gonna wanna rest more, we're gonna complain.

Whatever we can do to shirk responsibility and hot potato that off of us.

We're not going to express our opinion or rock the boat because if you rock the boat you'll get spanked. That's what happened in my childhood. So maybe that happened to you, or maybe you'll get denied love.

What did you learn in your childhood when you were really vocal? Were you acknowledged and held or were you punished?

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This affects our emotional relationship with food because food essentially represents nourishment for our bodies. How you nourish yourself.

Do you nourish yourself for comfort, or do you nourish yourself for clarity? What types of foods are you craving? Maybe even right now.

Be kind to yourself. This is not a beat yourself up question, this is simply an awareness question.

What types of foods do you eat or especially reach for when you're under extra stress? Or you're feeling anxiety? Or you're feeling worried? Or you're lover or the person that you love is not acknowledging you, or acknowledging your feelings?

Or the government is not acknowledging your emotions and your feelings? What do you consume? What do you nourish yourself with? Is it food that increases your clarity or increases your comfort?

Now, be kind to yourself because if it's increasing just your comfort and not your clarity, if you're falling asleep after eating something, that's a sign that you're clarity is not increasing.

You're actually taxing yourself. That's called emotional stuffing.

We're stuffing down the feelings of emptiness in particular, such as loneliness, worry, fear, anxiety, anger. That hole, we're trying to stuff the hole full.

So many empaths do this. So you're not alone, I've done this. Remember my previous video, I lived on Twix.

Talk about stuffing, that stuff probably made out of sugar and cardboard. Who knows? Maybe some corn syrup thrown in for good measure, maybe for a little bit of nutrition. Terrible.

No wonder my body at the time was horridly inflamed, and constipated, and tight, and in pain. That's years in the past now. Thank God. But be kind to yourself if you're stuffing. You're emotionally stuffing.

The alternative would be instead to eat foods that cleanse you or increase your clarity. Last month, we talked about going on a cleanse and honoring that as a form of grounding, to clear your energetic system.

Do you drink water filled foods such as foods that require the sun in order for them to be created? Fill in the blank. I don't need to know what comes up for you around foods that require the sun in order to be created and foods that are filled with water. Use your thinking cap.

What comes up for you around that? But the alternative would be to have food that comes into your body with more photons, more nutrients, dense with light energy so you can shine brighter rather than stuff down.

Now, the oracle cards that are coming forward, this week in particular, are the romance angels. I don't know if this is backwards on camera. But this is ... Now I think we have 20 decks, 20 or 21. I just got another donation of a deck. Thank you. Thank you Paula. Yay. So good.

If you want to donate to the dojo, we are always open to receiving more decks because the tribe, the whole tribe uses all the different oracle cards that we have here.

Romance angels, emotional food stuffing. Most notorious of all. We need to know about our relationship with food and love. New love. Oh my, new love.

A new person has stirred your romantic feelings. What are you gonna do with that? There's so many things that can stimulate desire and many of the ways that we shame ourselves, self sabotage, being receptive to desire and new affection. A new stimulation is we stuff it down.

"Nope, I am not lovable, let me eat that cake. Let me eat that Smarties. Let me stuff that down." Be kind to yourself if that's what's coming up for you.

If you're afraid of rejection or even afraid of being seen, to all my entrepreneurs out there. How much do we eat to stuff down our visibility, our fear of being seen? Be kind to yourself if that's coming up for you.

So how can we begin eating foods that increase our clarity as oppose to just our comfort? Comment below, send me an email back. Let me know what's coming up for you, what foods are you craving?

By the way, let me see if I can pull this book out here. Doreen Virtue has a book that changed my life, The Care and Feeding of Indigo Children.

In here, she actually has a chart of what food means what emotionally. For example, craving chocolate is a desire for romance and love. Craving beer is the desire to shut out anxiety, wanting more love, fun, and appreciation.

You can deepen your healing journey by getting and reading this book, specifically in your relationship between self sabotage and "self care," the dark side of self care in our relationship with food.

Curious to hear if you're gonna get the book. Let me know what you think of it if you have read it. Did this book change your life too? It sure did mine. Alright. I will see you next week for week three of five and get ready for it. Bye.

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Become aware of why you are eating the type of food you are eating during the day.

Ask yourself: "Am I eating this because I want to nourish myself, or am I eating this because I want to numb myself?"

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

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Have you always tried to "fit in" - changing your looks, your demeanor and yourself to survive, but lost yourself along the way?

Constantly worried that you're not enough yet in life - not educated enough, not attractive enough, not making enough money, etc.?

Find yourself saying "I just wish somebody would love me for me" more and more?

There's a fine line between personal development for self acceptance and personal development for self rejection.

How can you receive authentic abundance if you do not authentically believe you are whole and worthy of it right now?

Watch the above video to explore the question "WHY am I a spiritual seeker?" - are you seeking to authentically love yourself as you are or to hide from or reject the real you?

More Love and More Money - Video Series on Increasing Authentic Abundance

Self-love and acceptance is a life-long journey.

There's no "self-acceptance" nirvana, because we are constantly changing.

You are always evolving and discovering more. Now this can be both inspirational and overwhelming to know, because yes there's always room for improvement but no the journey never ends.

So how do you learn to love and accept a moving target like yourself? Or is it just impossible?

It's not impossible. Learn to move with the target.

Sometimes we feel very low, and at other times we thing we're on top of the world. Like the Earth, we naturally have seasons of feelings and emotions.

Yet the key is to accept and re-accept yourself where you are at, as you go. As you do so, you create a momentum of love and healing in your own life through the actions you take.

When you love and accept yourself, your behaviors like eating, moving, speaking, etc. show that you do - and others' can feel it!

Energetically (empathically) people will pick up on the love you show yourself, and because of your brave model, it gives them permission to do the same.

The ripple effect of embracing yourself is huge.

So why then, is it just so hard?

Maybe somebody told you you're not enough. Not pretty, not tall, not strong, not fast, not smart, not powerful, not old, not young, not educated, not wealthy, not skilled, not skinny, not ...enough.

Or maybe... you tell yourself that you're not enough. All day.

Perhaps that thought's running in the back of your head all day, fueling your actions and your drive to serve, and keeping you on task - perhaps you're thinking that right now?

Know this: You are enough right now. You just are. #MLMM #BK2YS

Most people wait until the last few years of their lives to finally let go of caring about searching for others' approval and acceptance, because they believe they've "paid their dues" and are more afraid of their inevitable transition to death than their fear of living their lives fully now.

As if retirement and old age are the excuse to FINALLY be who you are and do only what you want.

Here's the thing: you don't have to wait that long to give yourself permission!

If only just for now, decide to love yourself as you are, as if you were retired already.

You did pay your dues already - you were born. That's all the permission you need to be yourself in this lifetime, is to make it into this lifetime.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows exactly WHY you can love and accept yourself and HOW to do it, right now!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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If you were already loved, retired, wealthy and healthy, how would you feel?

Would you lose your sense of meaning to life without the struggle for "more" or for others' approval? Be honest.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Here and there, do you feel that you life just not what you envisioned it would be at this point?

Finding it difficult to feel heard at home, work or elsewhere when you try to speak up for yourself - or perhaps you're even afraid to open up at all?

If so, then my guess is that you could easily admit that you are feeling "Frustrated" with how things are going for you.

You may even grit your teeth when people say "Hi! How are you?"  - saying "Fine, thank you." even though that is a lie...

What I want to introduce you to this week is the idea of a Dark Gift being sent on purpose to you from the Energy / Spirit / Universe in your life.

Spirit is always sends us gifts, but often people forget that spiritual health is not just about "love and light" and woo and froo-froo things.

You are a balanced being, and Spirit knows that, so sometimes to help you learn a specific lesson, Spirit will send what I call a "Dark Gift" into your life to help you understand and move on.

Feeling frustration is a good example of a Dark Gift.

Why, you ask? Because this feeling is a signal to a deeper issue, and you feel "frustration" only during times when the Energy is trying to show you where to heal yourself.

When you are frustrated, you are, deep down, Angry. Did you know that you are actually Angry? Are you even allowed to be Angry?

Anger - when misdirected and unacknowledged - is destructive and inflammatory. But when harnessed and honored, can be quite productive and even, beautiful.

Know this: Frustration is your training partner and a doorway for spiritual practice. #BK2YS

There is always light to be found in the darkness, but you have to be ready to reframe negative situations by looking for the "Dark Gift" and assess what are you learning.

• Perhaps in being angry at your child, you still harbor anger toward your parents from your own childhood. #BK2YS
• Perhaps in being angry with your partner, you are still harboring hurt and abuse from a previous relationship. #BK2YS
• Or perhaps in being angry at work, you are stuffing down your heart's desire to do more than just this 9-5 grind in life. Your spirit remembers your dream. #BK2YS

Have a hit a vein, yet? There will be more coming up in the next few weeks about "Dark Gifts" from the Energy.

Comment below, and let me know if something has come up for you in reading this particular topic.

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