Have you ever felt helpless?

And did that experience warp your ability to trust yourself and others?

Concerned that you can't tell the difference between self-care and self-sabotage because of what happened to you?

Sometimes bad things happen to good people... I know.

Yet Source wants you to know that all things can - and do - work together to form greater good in our lives.

Watch this week's 11-minute Love Letter to hear my story of overcoming a very dark time in my life and how I healed from cycles of self-sabotage to embracing a lifestyle of self-care and healing.

"I only smoke because it helps me cool off."

We're continuing the series, sourced this time around has asked to continue you and I building a deeper relationship and a deeper understanding about certain concepts that come up in our spiritual lives.

This series is going to be a five week series around the dark side of self-care. Woohoo. I'm so excited.

I am so excited to bring you to the dark side of self-care. What that basically looks like is self-sabotage.

Now this first week in particular the guides have asked me to share more of my story.

I just finished a session with a new client. I'm so excited for her. It's amazing what inspires people to begin their healing journey. She's beginning a new six month healing journey, Sojourner healing journey, which means she's coming in for an hour, a private hour a month for me. She also gets unlimited meditation classes here at the dojo.

It's so interesting to hear people's stories of what inspires them to begin to heal. What motivates you to really begin healing.

It was just fascinating sharing with her some of my story of what caused me to get into all of this in the first place.

Believe it or not, it comes from actually my pain.

Simon Sinek, very beautifully says that your big why comes from your pain more often than not.

For me, it was a series of three breakups that caused me to break open. The first one was someone that I thought I was going to be with. The whole soulmate situation that you think you have and then turns out sleeping with your coworker and calls you on your wedding day to ask how are you? One.

Two, the next one broke me open again because of the color of my skin. He had decided that we couldn't be together because of the color of my skin. That also compounded my perspective.

Then unfortunately the third one that really broke me open was when I got date raped. Yes, I'm sharing that with you.

No, I'm not happy about what happened to me. I honor the fact that these were the events that grabbed my attention that something is not quite right.

Now maybe you grew up with a history of abuse or maybe you grew up with alcoholic parents or that sort of a thing.

Something happened in our lives that forced us to take a stand and say, "Wait a minute. I don't like this. I don't like this." Right?

It's those moments where you put your foot down and say, "No more. I'm not going to be beaten anymore" or, "I'm not going to select people who would do these kinds of things to me anymore."

One of my first spiritual teachers her question to me, that changed my life, was: "what is the pattern in you that's creating this situation?"

This is where we get into our five week deep dive around self-sabotage.

When I look back into those dark times in my life where I would have suicidal thoughts and would be sleeping at around 22 hours a day, only getting up to go to the bathroom and have a sip of water, trying to escape, escape, escape there were things that I was doing to self-soothe that within my compressed mindset I thought were good for me.

When you have a compressed, like as in a really limited mindset, bad stuff you can't really tell that that's bad for you.

Some of the ways that I used to self-soothe but actually turned out being self-sabotage ... Well, one it was the constant sleeping. Also, I used to chain-smoke Clove cigarettes, the black ones. Like talk about breathing death. Emotional stuffing. I used to live on Twix and Chex-Mix and nothing else except for Captain Morgan's spiced rum and Malibu coconut rum. I remember. I'm so happy that I'm sober now.

There's these things that, "I'll just have a drink so that I can soothe" or escape, get rid of this negativity, or, "Let me go have a smoke. Let me cool off." Or, "Let me just check out." There's so many things that we do to soothe ourselves that within a limited and a compressed point of view feel pleasurable and we interpret them as good even though they're working against us.

Now there was also another form of self-sabotage I would do at the time. I would work around 12 hours or so a day at a really, really toxic job. Like screaming bosses that were financial abusers as in dangling your pay check over your head in order to get you to do things that are completely outside of your principles.

Be kind to yourself if as I invoke the darker side of my story that this is resonating for you like, "Ooh, ooh, I still do some of that, Victoria" ... This is not to say like, "I'm good and you're bad." No.

I want you to know that I've been through some things and when I'm going to talk to you over the next few weeks around self-sabotage versus self-care there's some history there. I'm only tapping on the tip of the iceberg here with respect to your energy.

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My story is my story and it's made me who I am. Here's the light in the darkness is that when you start self-soothing you can choose to raise the vibration of the forms of self-soothing that you do.

For example, I remember even when I was still chain-smoking I started learning more about crystals and oracle cards. "Well, you know, maybe this will help me feel better." It was something positive about these cards or I feel the energy when I'm holding this crystal. I don't know what the heck it is. I'm going to get into that in the next few weeks.

That was the turning point. It was following things that brought me joy and uplifted me in the self-soothing cycle. It's natural.

I want you to know this and watch this in yourself this week.

Watch the way that you soothe yourself, whether it's positive or negative. Just notice how do you soothe yourself when you're feeling bored, when you're feeling depressed, empty, anxious, angry, unacknowledged, lonely, et cetera. How do you soothe yourself? It is positive things? Or negative?

Most of us have a mixture of both. By the way, at the filming of this video I still have some not so good things, such as eating chocolate and ice cream, that is harmful against my body. As well as doing hours of meditation, grounding out in nature, doing reiki. I have a mixture.

This is called being human. I want us to have a deep dive now for the next five weeks around honoring that self-care versus self-sabotage dance that we're all doing.

I know that you're doing it. If you clicked play on this video chances are you're a natural empath. You're already sensitive to the energy and trying to figure out how to cope with all this energetic overload. We're going to confront this head-on.

We're going to dive deep together. I can't wait to see you next week and hear what you think.

Comment below. Tell me what's coming up for you around this.

Do you have a story that you wanted to share, by the way? Did my story bring up some of yours? I would love to witness you in sharing your story, privately, just to honor you. We don't want to post all that out in social media and all over the place.

Send me an email back and let me know and I'd be happy to set up a share your story call so that we can hold space for you speaking your truth for the first time.

I know it's tough. I feel you but we're going to get through this together.

Are you ready for this? Five weeks. Five weeks. Let's do this. Self-care versus self-sabotage. Going to the dark side. Whoop, whoop. Shining light so that we can all grow together. I'm sending you so much love and I'll see you next week. Bye.

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Just for Today...

Watch the way that you soothe yourself.

Track what you do to soothe negative feelings, to observe if it’s positive self-care or negative self-sabotage behavior..

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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This is our final week four of four in our exploration of healing sales, our sales scars and shame around asking for the sale. Healing the bad, crusty experiences that we've had in the past.

If this is the first video that you are seeing in this series, make sure you hit pause, and go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com so that you start from part one and are grounded in this process.

Without further ado, for week four of four, the guides have asked us to continue the conversation that we started last week, and specifically talk about sales as healing. Sales as healing? Holy tomato! For some people, that's about the most opposite possible thing that they could think of when they think of sales. “Are you kidding me? Sales is like you're raiding and pillaging everyone. It's like an attack.”

Sales can be perceived as an attack, and if we've had some negative experiences in the past, in those really powerful transformational moments that come up for us regarding a larger sale such as buying a house or a car, or a coaching program, or a new building, and so on and so forth. If someone's done you wrong in that level sale, that scar runs deep, but in the words of Robert Bly from Iron John- which is amazing if you haven't read it yet – “Every wound is a womb.” Every wound is a womb.

The wounds that we may have received in our past of sales not going very well for ourselves or being done to us - or even witnessing sales happening between others that aren’t ethical - every wound that we receive is actually a womb. And what is a womb? It's a place where new life is created, so that's why we're talking about sales as healing. These wounds that we've received over the course of engaging in commerce are sacred, whether you are an entrepreneur or not. You don't have to own a business to have engaged in the sale. Anything you have, the clothes on your back, glasses, the shoes, underpants on your butt (hopefully, you're not wearing any? No judgment.) you have that because someone sold it to you.

You live in this house because someone sold it. Be kind to yourself. Your education, you have it because someone sold you on having education. But at the same time some of those experiences of being sold, being brought from one paradigm to another through a sale - a sale bridges gaps - that paradigm shift can be a bit traumatic.

But I want to elevate to this vision that the guides are sending for us right now of sales as something entirely different: sales is healing. I really want to drop into my heart and be blunt right now with you, because a lot of my lists of people who are watching these videos, following on YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, Pinterest, or wherever you are, if it's just landed into your inbox or someone forwarded me to you: nine times out of 10 you're some sort of a teacher, coach, healer, or a caregiver of some sort, right? You support people. You offer a healing presence.

If you are watching or reading this right now, whether you're a hairdresser cutting hair, an accountant doing taxes, or a lawyer working through your cases, whether you're working in construction, or you're like a transformational women's divine feminine coach goddess, or some other service-based business in addition to all of the above. If you're watching and still reading this right now, what magnetized you is not just my lovely exciting shirt and sparkly energy, but it's the fact that you see a piece of you in me. By the way, likewise; I see a piece of myself in you, in that we are Healers. We're here to heal the world. We're here to bring healing presence.

If you are having a hard time receiving financial abundance, it's because you have not shifted your point of view yet around sales. You haven't shifted it yet to see sales as healing. Sales is healing. Now, I'm a Reiki Master, an alternative medicine energy healer. I'm a woo-woo person, and proudly wave my rainbow woo-woo flag. I’m down with unicorns and glitter and high vibrational multi-dimensional energy - all of that, 100%. And the only way that I am able to share all that woo-woo goodness juice with the people who are starving and dried out and like desperate for it – they’re spiritually dehydrated. They need the juice. - is if I get out there and share my gift. If I get out, open up and talk about who I am and what I do, and what I can do for you. That's the purpose of sales.

Sales is actually healing for the people who are thirsty for the juice that you have created. I'm not talking about selling people stuff that they don't need. That can actually turn more into an addiction. I mean, hey, I have an addictive personality. Let me pull myself out the closet and like flap that in the air for you, okay? So yeah, I can have an addictive personality where, oh my gosh, I just want to go, I want to buy a bunch of stuff to alleviate my frustration right now. I want to buy a bunch of information courses and a bunch of books, and a bunch of crystals, right? Maybe that's been you before, and to some extent the things that I'm drawn to are what I need in the moment.

And those people who are out there selling the crystals, the necklaces, the books, the audio courses, the things that are going to lift me back up, I thank the Goddess for them. But I'm not going to be going out there and buying like, you know, sprockets and light bulbs and tires and things when I'm in my emotional state searching for a certain thing. If I need energy, I'm going to go out there looking for things that are going to give me energy for what I'm looking for.
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That's the key for sales being healing. It's you putting out “what am I going to help people with? And here it is.” I really appreciate Russell Brunson, his concept of having a Bridge to help us get from that state of “Alright already! I'm in frustration and in trouble” to “here, let's talk about the sale.” Having a Bridge is what's going to help you engage more sales as the healing part of your business. It not only heals your bank account when you close successful sales, but it also is healing for the clients and customers who are receiving exactly what they need.

Having a Bridge, and this comes from Russell Brunson, is to have a phrase that helps anchor in the fact that you are here to help them, and you have something that you would like to help them with. So what is that phrase? It could be asking for permission of someone who, you know, if you're out sharing your gifts and you see they could really use what you are providing, say, "Hey, I see that you have this situation going on. Is it okay if I share with you something that I put together to make things easier for you?” Or, “I put something together to serve you, and I was wondering if you would want to hear more about it?"

Ask for permission. Sales is healing when you always ask permission, first.You want to get consent in guiding someone through their paradigm shift, because the worst thing is pushing someone into a paradigm shift who doesn't want it and isn't ready for it. Sales is healing because we raise the buyer’s vibration. We help people into a new, more empowered reality as long as you're doing it ethically. When done unethically, unfortunately it can become like what we've been talking about for the last few weeks: something that is much more of a scarring experience.

Now, you've got to remember to turn on your natural intuition. Tune into your body. Clear your energy. Listen to your heart. If you feel your heart opening towards someone, feeling compassionate and wanting to help them, listen to that desire, that sensation of oh my goodness, I really want to help them. I feel for them. That's a sign from the Universe to actually take out your bridge, bring it over to them and say, "Hey, I see you're going through this situation. I know about something that could help you”, or “I put this thing together that could really make it easier for you. Is it okay if I share it with you?" Get their consent, and then go ahead, honor them by giving them access to the thing that will help them the most. Sales is so incredibly, powerfully healing. Comment below, send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com. Let me know what's coming up for you around this.

For now we're going to jump into the Oracle cards. The deck that we've been journeying with is Angels of Abundance by Doreen Virtue, these Oracle cards of Doreen with her son Grant. “Alright, Angels of Abundance, what do we need to know right now about sales as healing and how to activate our natural intuition now, other than reading Victoria's book?” ...Oh, snap. Throwing down some serious love bombs.

Face your financial fears. When you are honest with yourself about fears of success or failure, honest with yourself, they can no longer control you. Be free of hidden fears by exposing them to the light of awareness, and you'll realize that you in fact have nothing to fear, and that every successful person has struggled with and releases these self-doubts. This is where we're going to leave off for the week. The perfect landing point for this series.

You know, when you release fear around sales, receiving more or delivering more sales conversations, when you release that fear and you have faith that this is actually a healing going on, all of that momentum around blocking abundance lifts. Have faith that what you are sharing is healing. Focus on the healing. Don't focus on your fear or on your self-doubt. That'll sabotage you. You'll end up self-sabotaging.

Do the inner work first, though, to get yourself into a space of total faith in the work that you do or in the product that you're talking about. Do the inner work around understanding that when you go into a sales conversation, or when someone's trying to engage you in that, there's a healing going on. Be open to receiving or giving the healing more so than the money, okay? Be more focused on the healing work than the finances, and nine times out of 10 you'll end up closing the sale and the finances will come.

Be kind to yourself if you're afraid of focusing on the healing because you're so afraid of the money. If that's your case, please reach out to me at www.victoriawhitfield.com/contact You can hop on the phone with me and we'll be able to get you sorted and see how we can best support you moving through that fear of receiving.

I'm sending you so much love, blessings and abundance, and I'll see you in the next one.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey.

Bye for now.

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Just for today...

Commit to shifting your mindset around sales as healing instead of sales as an attack.

Face and take ownership of the parts that make you the most uncomfortable about sales, and see them as wounds where healing can grow.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master.  And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

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It’s week one of four in our new exploration in this Love Letters series around having the courage to stop faking it.

This topic is dedicated to all of the members of the tribe who have issues with perfection paralysis. Be kind to yourself, if that's you. Over the next four weeks we are going to be diving deep into that, honoring it and clearing it from our lives at the right pace for yourself, myself and all of us as individuals in our tribe of light. So make sure that you hit that Subscribe button on Youtube so that you get these Love Letters first every week.

Without further ado, for week one of four, what we are going to be committing to is to stop faking it. Now. This week in particular is the one week that you are going to stop faking it: faking it in life, faking it in business. Faking it at home, faking it at the office, faking it in the bedroom. Or faking it at the doctor's office. Stop faking it.

Now, why is this coming up in particular? My guides are bringing this forward because there are quite a few of us in the tribe who are putting on a happy face to try and be productive, to try to be a “good” leader, or moreover what we've been taught is productive and what is good leadership. We're trying to perform well, and in order to perform well, there is this popular phrase of "Fake it till you make it" to help us shift our mindsets.

But here's what happens after a while of faking it till you make it: you get stuck in plasticity. Being plastic and plasticity is defined as something that is malleable. When you are stuck in being plastic, that means wherever you are, your personality morphs. It shifts shape in order to be pleasing, to be acceptable or to put on a good show. Perhaps as a child, you were rewarded for putting on a good show and looking good.

“Mommy and Daddy want everything to look perfect, so make sure that you pretend in front of everyone else that we're a happy family,” right? But behind closed doors, there's an entirely different story happening. What can happen over time is that if you keep getting stuck in faking it, faking perfection, for one: it eats at your soul.

This is what my spirit guides are telling me to share with you, is that it can very well begin to eat at your soul, and we don't want that for you. Your soul is where your energy and your passion for life comes from. The more that you keep faking it, on top of eating at your soul, is that then you also set yourself up for a whole life faked, because you have to keep up the performance.
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You're not being You. I'll put it on me: I'm not being me if I'm pretending and faking being happy, or faking being energized or anything like that. In fact, the more that I fake being happy or fake being energized, I've seen over the years, the more drained, angry and resentful I become. Maybe this has been your story, too? If so, I've got your back. This series is dedicated to you, so if only just for today, as we say in Reiki: today is the day that you are going to stop faking it.

Now, as I say that, what comes up for you? I'm hearing the Oracle Cards beginning to call in the energy around this. Where in life or business are you faking it? Are you pretending that you are pain-free when you're actually in a lot of pain physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually? Are you pretending everything's fine? Saying, "yeah, the business is growing and it's great and I feel confidence and blah, blah, blah!" Or are you faking your interest in someone and just going through the motions because that's what your family expects you to do, or because you owe them the rest of your life for whatever story you're telling yourself?

Be kind to yourself if you're faking it. That being said, the Oracle Cards that we're going to be journeying with all month are the Healing with The Fairies Oracle Cards deck by Doreen Virtue. Let's see here... Fairies, what do we need to know right now about stopping faking it, maybe for the first time, if not, better than we ever have before? ...Hey, all right now. That's the truth: Raising your standards. This is so perfect. You can't make this stuff up. It's so perfect, and I love that it's raining outside right now, too, sending cleansing and clearing our energy as we go through this topic.

In order to start stopping faking it, you've got to raise your standards for yourself, and the level of life that you are going to live this time around. We're going to get more into that in the coming weeks, but I think it's amazing that the fairies brought this up in particular, raising your standards, because there's an internal story and a value system inside of you that says “living a fake life is acceptable.” And just for today, that is not true anymore.

Just for today. Maybe tomorrow you could go back to faking it, but try it on for a size, even try it on, just for a moment to stop faking it. If only just for today, just for right now. Be kind to yourself if this is bringing stuff up for you, especially if you’re secretly feeling and thinking that “the standards that I have are what created the life that I have... and me faking it is working.”

Your soul knows that it's a drain. And if I have to be the one to break it to you, I'm going to, so that you can break through. So, with love, raise your standards. Today's the day: we're going to stop faking it.

Now, comment below. Send me an email back team@victoriawitfield.com. What's coming up for you? I want to hear it. Make sure, again, to subscribe on YouTube or hit that Share button so that you and your tribe get these first, every single week.

And please remember to enjoy the journey. Make sure that you do not lose your glow as you grow in life and business, and I'll see you in the next one. Bye for now.
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Just for today...

Decide that today is the day you stop faking it, in your personal and professional life.

Love yourself enough to commit to let go of being perfect, and decide to just be yourself.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...

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Hi, I'm Sensei Victoria Whitfield, creator of naturalintuition.com and I help entrepreneurs heal.

I sincerely believe that Entrepreneurs are the future. And I believe that Entrepreneurs need help getting and staying grounded, so they can serve more people and essentially, yes, save the freakin world.

I also believe that Entrepreneurs are naturally sensitized to what they're here to help others with. And that this natural sensitivity is popularly misunderstood as being "weak" or "weird" or "quirky" or "obsessive" or "pie-in-the-sky." And when Entrepreneurs internalize this dysfunctional mindset, their sensitivities become their kryptonite: crippling stressors that overwhelm them, their teams, their communities, their families, and even their bank accounts.

I know this because I've lived this myself and observed it happen firsthand.

Howso? Well, you could say I was built to do this.

#bornthisway

All of my immediate family are entrepreneurs, and I myself have been one since the age of 12. I grew up mixed-race (a taboo in my time) in a household where both my parents had full time jobs, side-jobs AND passion-driven entrepreneurial ventures.

I know what it's like for entrepreneurs behind closed-doors. I have witnessed how entrepreneurialism affect their health, and their relationships. The profound passion, and the profound pain. The isolation in crowds. The hunger, the drive, the stress.

My African American father has had at least 7 different entrepreneurial ventures (only one of which actually made money) and travelled the world as an acclaimed jazz musician. My Caucasian American mom has had two entrepreneurial ventures that paid the bills that dad's didn't during and after their marriage. My two older brothers each have had 3 businesses following and sharing heir passions, and I am myself now on my 3rd.

I've grown up watching my family experience the creative excitement *and* the soul-crushing depression it takes to be in business as an entrepreneur.

The fights about money. The prayers to God about purpose and vision. The fake smiles and performances to always look "okay" to everybody, while it's a mess at home. The looks from people who think you're nuts or eccentric and don't take you seriously for having an innovative idea, or worse yet for being a black man, a divorced white woman, or a mixed race musician. The emotional landmines loved ones step on and blow up the family with, because "I just gotta be me" or "I got my own money; I can do better by myself." The divorce and disenfranchisement. And the remarriages. And the complicated blended families - and yes they also have businesses too: MLMs, sales, retail, real estate and restaurants. (I have 3 stepmothers, 6 stepsisters, 2 stepbrothers, and 1 fairy godfather... yup).

I also grew up with family stories and values about "being yourself" and "never giving up" and "helping people" and "don't let anybody hold you down."

My father's grandfather founded the first gradeschool for African American children in the state of Virginia, while his wife made money playing the organ for the church and for the motion picture shows.

A positive story of overcoming obstacles.

My maternal grandfather was a talented, highly competitive and successful salesman. Dropped dead at work at 55 of a massive heart attack from the stress, leaving 3 girls orphaned.

A cautionary tale of working yourself to death.

I could go on. I will some day in a book I guess, but let's get back to why do I care about helping entrepreneurs heal?

Because I KNOW we are born different.

Highly sensitive. Empathic. Intuitive. Creative...

Energetic.

But, somewhere along the line we didn't get an education on how to

manage that high energy in a healthy way. So we just scramble to "figure it out" as we go. Finding ourselves on a burnout hamsterwheel:

Find fire,

Put it out,

Find fire, 

Put it out,

Crash,

Again, Find fire...

And so society politely tells entrepreneurs in this situation you should stop putting out fires and get yourself together. Settle down. Stuff it down. Get a real job.

But I believe that what was deemed polite advice there is actually quite insensitive. Because they neglected to see that that Entrepreneur is looking for fires not because she's "too much" or "weird" or "too sensitive."

It's actually because she's a Firefighter, by nature. She can see the fires that most people can't. In fact, I believe...

Her sensitivity is her strength.

It gives her uniquely designed insight, discernment, vision... it fuels her Intuition.

Our world needs Vision like that, in order for us to all move forward and heal.

So I sincerely believe we need to help our entrepreneurs learn to harness the hidden power of these sensitivities by harnessing he power of their Natural Intuition.

Intuition it's not just some positive thinking or mindful mindset or new age spiritual stuff - I believe it's a science. Why? Because I've codified it.

I've developed - and am continually innovating - an effective system that consistently transforms your natural sensitivity from being your greatest weakness into your greatest strength. It's called "The Natural Intuition System" and I already wrote the book on it (Amazon: Natural Intuition Now: Book One - Uplevel Your Life by Awakening Your Innate Spiritual Senses.)

I researched and codified this out of necessity. To survive in my own life - to escape and overcome abuse, betrayals, depression and victimization. At one point I thought I'd lost myself because of what my attacker did to me. But I decided that was not how I wanted my story to end. So I changed. I originally just did all this healing and research for Me. To heal myself.

And then I realized... it's not about me. It's actually about who I'm here to serve:

Purpose-driven, empathic, heart-centered entrepreneurs.

That's who it's about.

I believe entrepreneurs need this more than most people because they're especially motivated (by passion, and yes, by money and commerce) to help and to serve as many people as possible, and to make the world a better place.

And I desire to leave this world better than I found it.

I want to stop them from dropping dead at work like my grandfather did.

I want to help them stop stressing over money and making misaligned decisions.

I want to keep them from faking smiles and imploding their marriages.

I want to stop them from stressing themselves and their teams and families so that they can create authentic abundance financially AND personally.

I feel purpose-driven entrepreneurs are who I am called to serve. When I help them heal, they have greater impact. Here's a video of me spreading that message of healing and positivity to a crowd of 100's entrepreneurs from around the world, as their equal, for a success panel for my business mentor:

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Where do we start?

If an entrepreneur is reading this and feels pulled to start their healing work, she can get the book and read it, or join to a class or a group program I offer, or even hire me privately.

But I believe that this mass miseducation of Entrepreneurs has got to stop. I'd say it's a conspiracy, but I'm not in to playing the victim. My name is Victoria.

Your sensitivity is your strength.

Im done hiding it: I'm hell bent on supporting entrepreneurs in standing strong in that strength. It is the light you shine in a dark world.

Stop hiding your precious light; we need it. Yesterday, we needed it.

Too many of us waste time thinking "what will they say" "what's wrong with me" "what will happen if I really do it" - but the more we hide our gifts the more the world starves. And oddly enough we starve when we hide ourselves, too.

:: hugs ::

If you read this far,

Thank you for your love and presence.

It means the world to me to be able to open up and share my story...

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xoxo,

Sensei Victoria Whitfield

P.S. - Do you have a story to share? Send me an email at info@victoriawhitfield.com and tell me yours...

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Feeling "blocked" or spiritually disconnected?

Is your work-life cycle monotonous, uninspiring or even draining?

Having a hard time feeling energized and enthused during the day?

When you were a child, you had an endless supply of exuberant energy.

But what do we do when it feels like that bright energy is gone with the wind of adulthood, responsibilities and the daily "grind?"

Watch this week's 12-minute love letter video to send your inner child some love this week and reclaim your lost energy!

"I'm too loud in public."

This week this is a really loving, nurturing message. Last week was a little bit tough, so that's perfectly fine sometimes.

We need that, but this week is all about nourishing yourself specifically by loving your inner child.

This is not going to be more of a talk about so tell me about your childhood, all the trauma that went on back then.

No actually, the guides in particular are talking about your relationships with your inner child now, not what happened but actually what's going on right now, so let's get to it.

Adulting is the word that they sent to me in my writing, in my meditation time before I began recording this love letter for you.

Know this: Side effects from disconnect with your inner child are feeling blocked, depressed & anxious.

The guides describe adulting from a spiritual perspective as a process of self-silencing, of polite self-censorship and even at times a form of energetic or spiritual castration, where the part of us that has the juice, our essence, is just cut off maybe to protect others.

We'll cut off that exuberance that's actually within us.

• • "Don't be so loud out in public."

• • "Don't shimmy."

• • "Don't be all excited because we want to be a good girl"

• • "I got to be a nice boy."

• "Don't get so frustrated or angry about things that bother you."

No, no, no, stamp it down, stuff it down.

But it's your inner child that actually retains all of these essence essential feelings, vibrations and sensations that are coming from your spirit.

In order to open to your natural intuition and hear and feel and follow, right, perceive and follow the guidance that you're being sent, you've got to be open to allowing things that you really love to come through you and things that you really dislike to come through you, not putting yourself in an emotional cage.

This is the relationship that we can develop with our inner child as we get into adulting.

I prefer the guides' word of adulting as a verb rather than adulthood, like it's a hood that you put over your body and there's no getting out of adulthood. That's not necessarily the case.

It doesn't have to be that way, right? So be kind to yourself.

If adulthood has felt like this veil that you've dropped over your head where we're in a state of perpetual boredom, perpetual monotony, perpetual pushing, perpetual busyness, because there's a state of perpetual responsibility, be kind to yourself.

We're castrating our connection to our inner child in this hooding of our relationship between ourselves and her. The effect of such a disconnect can be depression, anxiety, fatigue, even a sense of confusion or directionlessness where you feel blocked. There's no such thing as being blocked. This is a thing that we are doing.

We are adulting, we are blocking ourselves, the guides say so it's just a different action, it's a different state of being that can actually shift your state.

It usually has to do with a word that says "un" before it. The prefix "un" can start to liberate us. Unleashed, unbridled, uncensored, is usually when the inner child and all of our inner essential passionate raw energy starts to come through now.

The container is necessary. Having the right container for unbridled passion or unbridled humor and unbridled expression, uninhibited expression, what container would that look like in your adulting part of life? Would that be an unbridled, uncensored journal entry where you just really let it rip.

"I hate fill-in-the-blank." You're just going to: 

• • "I hate this, this stinks."

• • "This annoys me."

• • "I want to go to bed."

• • "I want to go home."

• • "I want my toys."

• "I want to fly around the country in my own helicopter and I want to parachute out of it and then make love on the sand of the beach and then go run a marathon."

Like unbridled, unleashed, where you're not censoring yourself. Where does your inner child get to run free in life? Where do you have uncensored laughter?

Instead of a small laugh it's more like a big laugh, where you're really from the depths of your belly cracking up, do you give yourself permission?

I'm hearing the Oracle cards coming in the energy along that word in particular. Where can you give yourself more the "un-ness" in the relationship that you have with your inner child?

This week in particular it's about loving her by unleashing that cap, that adulting cap, that action of capping that we put on top of her.

Life Purpose Oracle Cards deck is actually the deck here at the Dojo that came forward this week in particular, one of 19 decks and counting as of the shooting of this video. Always receiving donations and gifts, love gifts. I get gifts all the time, thank you, for those of you who sent your love letters and sent gifts.

So, angels, what do we need to know right now about loving our inner child?

They said don't shuffle any further. I'm trying to say the rest of the question about loving our inner child. This one, woo, you're going to love this.

Body Work, this is so powerful for inner child healing. So powerful. This is actually how I in my own healing journey how I began to heal my relationship with my inner child, was actually through receiving regular body work.

By the way, if I could plug who helped me through that, Patrick Lerouge over at livepainfreeprocess.com is magnificent. I mean, his inner child is like running free and crazy, but as a body worker he is bar none the best. The best. I love you Patrick.

"Your life purpose, you who's watching, involves body work such as massage therapy, energy healing, physical therapy, or exercise training."

Your relationship with your body, the guides say, is what's going to help you unleash your inner child's energy and really love on her. Perhaps if you're a woman if it's ecstatic dance, orgasmic meditation, really allowing yourself to feel safe to open up.

If you're a man, maybe it's going for MMA, getting back in the ring of playing basketball like you used to as a kid and just enjoying it, feeling exuberant and having fun. Getting your hands dirty, right? Maybe if it's digging in the dirt, gardening or landscaping, whatever, or craftsmanship. I love building furniture. It just feels so good.

Or even art, art therapy, getting in there and allowing your body to express and move energy through you is the way that this week in particular you can get in touch with loving your inner child or even receiving delicious body work and energy work sessions.

Just to receive that sense of flow and safety and expression in a sacred space such as the Dojo or your local Reiki or energy work practitioner or your body worker by you.

Send me an email back if you're curious about private sessions with me for doing energy work.

I'd be happy to support you, but comment below what comes up for you around Body Work and loving your inner child. I want to hear it.

Are you adulting too much where you feel like you have no time for this? Excuse alert. Be kind to yourself if that's you. I feel you.

It's one step at a time, okay? I'm sending you so much love.

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week and I'll see you next time. Bye.

 In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Just for Today...

Give yourself permission to be uncensored.

Go for an energywork session or do an energy healing meditation and allow your emotions to flow and your mind to wander freely.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Sunday, October 26th, 10:00am - 3:00pm

Embrace your sacred sensuality for deep spiritual healing and empowered energywork.

If you are reading this, then you have gone very, very deep in life. You are a powerful Spirit Warrior and Love Master in this lifetime. When you decide to love someone, Heaven and Earth move. No one Loves like you do. And that unfortunately can be painful..

Because you have gone deep, you’ve gotten some deep wounds and battle scars. But where does the General go when s/he is wounded? So many people need you – your family, friends, clients, coworkers, lovers – so you do your best to take care of yourself. You take classes, read books, do energywork and more to heal – truth be told, you’re more healthy and balanced than most people.

But there’s always been that one area that gets pushed all the way to the back of the closet of your mind because it is so powerful to even knock you, in all your power, off your horse: sexual intimacy. Sacred sensuality is a gateway for communion with the highest vibrations of Spirit. At this retreat we will explore how the strength and balance of your sexual self is actually The Key to unlocking your most powerful, beautiful and effective energywork.

WHAT YOU'LL GET (Value $1,400!):

1. 5 Hours of Reiki, Channeled Guidance and Counseling with Sensei Victoria Whitfield (Value $500)
2. Discussion: Spirituality, Sex and The Sacred Temple (Value $100)
3. Holy Fire Karuna Reiki Deep Meditation: The Heavenly Banquet Hall Experience, for Bliss Communion with The Divine (Value $150)
4. Cleansing and Grounding Vegan Lunch with Live Juicing and Earthing (Value $50)
5. Training in Divine Intimacy and Your Energy Body (Value $200)
6. The Sensual Empath: Navigating the Master Path with Your Angels (Value $200)
7. Training in The Microcosmic Orbit and Manifestation (Value $200)
8. Ample Time for Practice, Journaling and Sharing

Date: Sunday, October 26th
Time: 10:00am - 3:00pm
Bring: Dress in your most soft / smooth slothing, bring but don't wear your favorite perfume or incense, scarf to cover your eyes for meditation, pen & pad for journaling. (more will be added soon.)
Location: Sensei Victoria Whitfield's Reiki Dojo, 523 Westfield Avenue, 3rd Floor in Westfield, NJ 07090. (In-person attendance only; no online attendance at this time.)
Tickets: $197 -- $50 deposit required to reserve your space, due by October 15th. (Space is limited; 10 max accepted.)

FAST ACTION BONUS:

Send in your $50 deposit by 11:59pm Sunday Oct. 12th and get $100 off admission!

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