This is week four of four in our series on talking about rocking your retrograde.

Whether or not you got to see the ones before that, make sure that you make the time to catch up on the series because this has been a vulnerable discussion that we're having, talking about the dark side and about when things aren't working out in business. How do we keep a positive mindset even though we're retrograding? Now, if you don't know what that means, if you think like, "Oh, is that something that a teacher does, retrograding? Is that like doing something backwards in time, like giving grades from before?" No. Go ahead, pause, go back on my blog on victoriawhitfield.com and start from the beginning of the series.

As this week four of four, we are being called as a tribe to change our stories specifically around, “am I breaking down or am I breaking through?” The stories that we tell ourselves as entrepreneurs, as women, as men, as individuals looking to live our best lives and create our life by design, the stories that we tell ourselves have power. And the more that we can tell ourselves a story of empowerment and uplift, positivity, and forward motion, the better. However, we can get into cycles of telling ourselves stories that are disempowering or stories that encourage us to hide, to protect, to shrink, to stop or retreat especially when things get uncomfortable.

Last week, we talked about leaning into the discomfort and learning how to do that. So that you are supported not just for this retrograde, if it's still retrograde time or any other retrograde or transition that you're going through in life and business, this week in particular, we've got to talk about telling a new story, a story of empowerment.

Let’s talk about the way that you reframe when things don't go as planned, which happens typically during regular retrograde as you and I both know and are well aware of by now in our conversation, or now as you've been experiencing in your life and business. ... By the way, leave a comment below about what hiccups have you been going through? Have you been feeling “the molt?” And if so, how's that been coming up for you? I'd really love to hear it. Comment below or send me an email back info@victoriawhitfield.com. That goes straight to me, so I'd love to hear that and support you.

The story that we want to tell ourselves and that we can specifically use to shift our challenging situation is converting what looks like a breakdown in to a breakthrough. Now, maybe it's your cellphone or your laptop or your car, et cetera. A piece of technology is having a breakdown, and for sure that is so frustrating, debilitating. It slows you down. It can really feel disempowering. It's such a frustrating experience because we've become so techno-dependent especially, too.

And with that as an example, how can we shift that from a story of breakdown to breaking through? Could it be that we're breaking through into a time to get the new car that I've been saying I'm going to get all this time or wishing and manifesting and goal-carding for all the time? This is a sign that I'm breaking through to that new paradigm. Or with the washing machine breaking down, could this be a breakthrough of not ignoring the little things in the background in your personal life and instead making sure that they're just as important as the business items and issues that you are placing your attention on?

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Sometimes, what breaks through is remembering to value ourselves personally while being an entrepreneur and a business owner. Interesting? Eww, how icky is that? But I know if you're just like me, you have the same thing where when things get busy, or it's go time, the first thing that goes out the window typically is self-care, some aspect of living clean or taking care of home, et cetera. Guilty as charged! I'm hoping to go there with you. And if you're there too, send me an email back info@victoriawhitfield.com. Let's connect around that.

I also put together a webinar called the Abundant Business Lifestyle webinar series. You go to my website victoriawhitfield.com. It should be right there on the homepage for you to be able to go and sign up to view that webinar, where I go into detail of how I've had bad patterns in the past before I really started prioritizing my self-care at the same level as my business development, what happened and how I was able to turn that around, exactly how. Go ahead and claim that.

But today in particular, or as we say in the practice of reiki, “just for today,” let's focus is on shifting our story from breaking down, or this thing is breaking down, to “I'm breaking through.” This will really empower you not only for this retrograde but for all coming forward. I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. Let's tune in. We’re using the Indigo Angel oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue. Thank you, thank you, Doreen, for all your inspiration and all your resources. I don't know how many oracle cards decks we have there at dojo but I've lost count. Okay, angels, what do we need to know right now about changing our story from breaking down to breaking through especially during retrograde? ...That was loud.

This is so good. I love the bubbles in her hair. Acceptance. The bubbles are like all the stuff that's on your mind, all those lovely bubbles. Acceptance. The angels are bringing the oracle card Acceptance forward for you this week in particular because this is to remind you to accept the gift even though it may be a dark gift, a gift that doesn't exactly look like something nice, but it's full of wisdom, learning, power, experience, progress and healing. This is about accepting the dark gift that comes our way, the learning opportunities that are coming up.

Things may look like they're breaking down but there's a gift in there: accept it. We can switch to a more receptive mode when things start to or appear to be breaking down. Perception is everything; it creates a reality where things appear to be breaking down. Specifically, change your story from “this is breaking down” to “I'm breaking through” and look at what's the gift that you're accepting in that experience.

Go ahead, comment below. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every week and if you are having a hard time accepting the ... I call them dark gifts. You may call them learning gifts. If you're having a hard time seeing them, receiving them and fully integrating that wisdom and learning that Source is trying to send you through these difficult experiences that are coming up for you, go ahead to victoriawhitfield.com/contact. Get on my calendar, share your story with me and let's talk about it. Let's connect and see how I can help.

All right, I'll see you next week. Bye.

(Original post 08/27/2018)

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This is the fifth and final week of our exploration of vulnerability, cultivating our relationship with being vulnerable and improving our ability to engage and open up in a positive way, maybe for the first time.

Now if this is the first video that you're seeing in this series, make sure that you hit pause, go back on my blog at VictoriaWhitfield.com and start from part one, so that you are grounded in this process. Without further ado, this week in particular for the fifth and final week of our discussion on vulnerability, my spirit guides have asked us to discuss vulnerable leadership.

Last week, we talked about the power of opening up as an empath to being vulnerable, so that we can better relate to and interact with the people and things that we care about in this lifetime. We talked about respecting our energy as empaths, but also not letting our sensitivity dominate us in this lifetime – claiming that as a power, rather than a disability – or be something that you're constantly afraid of or overly protecting yourself from. This week, however, we're going even farther into vulnerability as a power and applying it to leadership.

A wonderful role model of vulnerable leadership and someone who's a thought leader in this area, two people actually, I would have to say one is Simon Sinek and the other is Brene Brown. If you have not checked out their work, I highly recommend it. They have amazing, inspiring, empowering things to share with you around vulnerable leadership and how healing it is especially in the professional world.

The most painful thing that I've seen is how insensitive leadership destroys powerful teams that have become like family and overcome the most incredible odds together. These things that come from the top-down in corporate – restructuring, or layoffs, or whatever hot word they use to explain being insensitive to the needs and the preciousness of the relationships of the people that are working under them – it's incredible how destructive they can be.

I grew up watching my mother re-enter the workforce after 17 years as a homemaker to work for a certain corporation as a technical writer, and then a web developer, and coder for over 20 years. I remember as a kid going to their picnics and things and seeing all of these people that she worked with like my extended family, and feeling part of something bigger; seeing them laughing, and supporting one another. ...Then I also lived through, as a young woman, watching them be torn apart, seeing the stress, and the pain of those wonderful relationships being just torn apart, torn apart by restructuring or “re-orgs” as the company would say. I'm not going to say what company because I want to respect privacy here.

Maybe you've seen this happen in your family – your work family – or your corporation as well, this being torn apart by insensitive leadership, putting numbers before people, or putting self-protection first, which is something that we hinted at last week. Let's go into it this time for our final discussion: the toxic effects of putting self-protection before serving their community around us.

We can get protection-obsessed especially in the professional world because for some reason we allow money and numbers to make us paranoid and prioritize dollars and quotas, and metrics above people, relationships, health and mutual human respect. Be kind to yourself if this is something that you've witnessed happening and that you don't want to be a part of any longer. If only just for today, commit to being open as a leader. Commit to developing your ability to be vulnerable along with the people who you are leading.

Simon Sinek gives us a wonderful example of how to measure how open-hearted you are as a leader. Leaders, he says, are people who watch out for the people to the right and to the left of them. That is it. It has nothing to do with titles, what's on your business card, or what your website says, or how big your office is, or how big your bank account is, or not. It's who are you being on a moment-to-moment basis. In order to look out for, to take care of, the people to the left and to the right of you, you've got to be open to what's going on with them, rather than just what's going on with “Me” and making sure that I'm getting x, y, z done, and so on.

It is a mental acrobatic that you do at first to decide, “I'm going to be concerned, and open, and curious, and communicative with the people that are to the left and to the right of me. The people that are supporting me, I am going to support them. I'm going to be open to how do they feel right now. I'm going to ask them, ‘how are you feeling? Are you all right?’ and loving and supporting them in that.”

Coming from a space of your own center of love and support and not forgetting that you as a leader have needs and have feelings is also important, which is something that we also discussed last week, opening to the fact that I have feelings, too, as an Empath. As someone who supports others, I have feelings. I have needs, and they have got to be honored and respected by me first and then also the people that I'm sharing this life experience with.

Be kind to yourself if in trying to be a vulnerable leader, meaning someone who is present to and caring for the people who are in your care, you've sacrificed your own self-care. That is negative vulnerable leadership because it leaves you open to health problems, relationship problems, spiritual and emotion oppression, depression. Be kind to yourself. That leaves you negatively vulnerable.

How can we then as leaders, moreover as Healing Leaders (that's my term) on this planet, how can we open up to leading from the heart, leading with courage, and positive vulnerability? I’m curious, what does that look like? Positive, vulnerable leadership, is healing leadership. I would venture that it starts with healing self, first, and staying open to being present to those that are in our care, who are supporting us, who are following us, and share the same beliefs and vision that we have. We're all working together in one direction. At the same time, there's the person out in front who holds the vision, being the Visionary. --

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Are you healing? Are you present to yourself? Okay, if you are, you're doing your self-care, you're doing your spiritual nourishment, your physical nourishment and love. Good. And are you present to the people around you needing the same, just as much love, and approval, and support, and honor as you're showing yourself? Are they also learning how to do that for the people behind them as well?

Be a Healing Leader. It entails being open to being vulnerable, cultivating that ability to be vulnerable, but if only just for today, commit to being a healing leader by opening to being vulnerable in a positive and empowering way.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards like, "Hey, pick us!" It's Healing with the Angels oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue, her very first oracle cards deck that she ever made in her career. Angels, what do we need to know right now about stepping into healing leadership by embodying being positive, vulnerable leaders? ...This is so good, like I could literally do an entire summit on this, “listening.” Listening! This is so perfect. I love that in the picture, she's listening to her angels, and her angels are listening to her. I'm going to read, I don't really have to, but before I read I just want to tell you what I'm hearing from my spirit guides around listening.

The most powerful leaders I've ever followed in my own life have been profound listeners, profound. Having the courage to listen to your people as a leader is essential. God, She gave us two ears and one mouth. We've got to listen twice as much as we give directions and directives. Anyway, let’s start listening. Let me read:

Listening. You are in communication with your angels and the messages that you are receiving are very real indeed. Trust them. This card is a validation from your angels that you really are hearing them. You have been receiving repetitive messages through your feelings, dreams, visions, inner voice, or knowingness. Are you listening and trusting these messages? Are you following them? If you get an inclination to call someone, go somewhere, or read something, it's important to follow this guidance. By drawing this card, your angels ask you to give all your doubts or worries about divine guidance to them. Know that you truly are communicating with heaven and enjoy the conversations.

This is so perfect. Here's where we'll leave off for this entire series: Cultivating your listening sense. Your active listening is also cultivating positive vulnerability. If you are not comfortable listening to others, or you feel impatient, it's just because you haven't cultivated listening as a skill. It's just a skill that you're a little bit deficient in. If you just dedicate time and mental space to it, it gets easier and more pleasurable with time.

If you need to work on your listening skills, I highly recommend my book Natural Intuition Now. I take you step by step exactly through how to listen with presence and also why it is so important. The more that we become intuitive, open, vulnerable, healing and empowered leaders, the better our world becomes, the better the legacy of love becomes that we leave behind us in all the work that we do and all the people, all the lives that we touch.

Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfiled.com. What's coming up for you around this? Make sure you subscribe on YouTube, so that you get Love Letters first every single week. Tag someone who needs to hear this, and I will see you in the next one.

May you feel loved and safe to be your most brilliant self at work.

Please, enjoy the journey. Muah. See you soon. --

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This is week three of five in our exploration of vulnerability. Vulnerability being having the ability to be vulnerable in a positive and healing way.

Now if this is the first time you're seeing anything about this series, make sure you stop, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com, and start from part one so that you are grounded in your evolutionary process.

Without further ado, for week three of five, my guides have continued us on this journey through vulnerability, specifically looking now at the idea of positive vulnerability. Last week we talked about negative vulnerability and those spaces that gather in our hearts, exploring the negative space that open wounds that we have from past negative experiences. We tend to immediately associate with the word “negative” with “vulnerability”, right?

When we think of vulnerability we associate negative things with it. Webster's dictionary, we talked about that in week one, has that horrible definition of “being open to attack or wound”, rather than just being open and exposing one's self, whether in a good or a bad way.

So this week in particular though, we're advancing this concept of, alright, my vulnerable spaces have been in the past, you know, the first things that come to my mind are negative. But in fact, what about positive vulnerability? Have you ever had the experience of things going really well, but really, really well? Like “oh, my god, what's going to happen if things blow up? Oh no! I don't know what to expect next.” You know, when you start to freak out and say, “okay, he said yes. Oh, what do I do now? Oh no! This person cares about me.” Or “these people are excited to buy in to my program at the number that I told them the price was. What's happening?” Has this ever happened to you?

Have you ever had that positive vulnerable experience, and also clamped shut? Thinking, “oh no, no, no, no. This can't be real. There's something wrong going on here. No, no, no. This is not for me, this is probably for them”, right? Immediately avoiding and dodging and, oh my gosh, repelling all of the good that may be coming through. That’s a moment of positive vulnerability. People wanting to feature you, put you out on stage, share your story. And you wanting to run and hide like, “oh my god, no, no, I don't want to be seen, this is to scary, I'm not ready.” Freaking out when something really big and really good is about to happen.

Be kind to yourself if you've had that experience. That fear of success, or, here it comes, I'm going there:  that fear of arousal or even being in that orgasmic state, letting go. Having a positive, open loss of control. Or that even in just an emotional way, positive openly emotional loss of control. Being held by somebody when something awful has happened, just letting go and crying in their arms.

Recently a family member of mine passed away. And we were there for them through the whole natural death cycle at home. What an amazing honor. And I was challenged to be able, vulner-able enough, that when I went to visit my nephew, and when he wanted to hug me and hold me to console me because he loves me and wants to be supportive, being vulnerAble enough to see “oh, I have permission to let go and cry on his shoulder” rather than hold it all together to be strong aunt Victoria. So I did. And it was beautiful for both of us – haha, he cried too!

Such a healing, bonding, beautiful experience. And I'll put this on me, I've had so many times in my life where someone's telling me it's okay to cry. And I  said “no. I'm happy. I know it's okay to cry.” But I'm going to cry in the bathroom or in the car or late at night after everyone's asleep. I'm going to cry off-camera. Or not when I'm here supporting You. Or while I'm here performing, speaking, etc.

That positive vulnerability is a whopper. Can we be open to it when the opportunity comes? This week, in particular, my guides are saying there are opportunities on the table for you to open up and receive at another level, the level that you have been asking for. That level of emotional support. That level of financial breakthrough.

I'm thinking of one of my clients in particular: she had the financial breakthrough that she had prayed for years for right in front of her: five hundred thousand dollars. A potential investor was sitting right in front of her, ready to give five hundred thousand. She had done everything right, just as we talked about in our sessions, to attract abundance. But she freaked in the moment, thinking “oh it can't be for me, or oh my god I have to fix it, I got to find Someone Else for this person to donate to because it can’t be for me.” Out of fear and limiting beliefs, she clamped shut to and dodged the abundance – and gurl, I’ve done that so many times too. We all have! Being at peace with positive vulnerability is no joke.

Be kind to yourself if you're pushing away the good rather than being open to that next level breakthrough and moving through your upper limit. That is a positive vulnerable experience, and it is just as challenging and, dare I say, traumatic as a negative vulnerable experience.

Be kind to yourself. It's time to engage being open to it, maybe for the first time.

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Now I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. The deck that we've been journeying with all month is Healing With The Angels oracle cards deck by Doreen Virtue, her very first oracle cards deck that she ever created. Angels, what do we need to know right now about our fear of success, and our positive vulnerability around getting that next-level manifestation? It's happening, so help us. Angels, what do we need to know right now around allowing positive vulnerability?

Forgiveness. Here we go! My guides are immediately saying this has to do with forgiving yourself for pushing away the good or not trusting that you can handle the good or the breakthrough or the next level of success. My guides are immediately saying this is about self-forgiveness. But you know, let's see what Doreen channeled about it in the book. She has really great writings.

Forgiveness. Let go of anger and resentment, and feel yourself healed. You don't need to forgive the action, just the person, so that you can be at peace. By drawing this card, your angels guide you to release anger and irritation. They realize that you may be perfectly justified in feeling angry. Yet they ask you to look at the high price you pay for being the vessel of anger. Forgiveness does not mean what you did is okay to me. It simply means I am no longer willing to carry around pain in response to your actions. When we hold unforgiveness in our hearts, we only punish ourselves after all. Your angels help you to release unforgiveness if you will just ask for their assistance.

This is beautiful. Beautiful. And this is where we're going to leave off for the week. We're talking about forgiveness for fearing our own positive vulnerability.

We're also engaging that trust that may have been broken before when we let ourselves down before in the past. Where things were going so well, and then, we missed the mark. It's okay to forgive yourself. Stop beating yourself up for missing the boat and being human, before. This vulnerability thing is a skill that takes time to learn, and we are open, if only just for now, to engaging it.

So I'm curious, what do you have to forgive yourself for? Around not being receptive to something, but you wish you would have been, and you regret it. Go ahead, send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com. Or comment below this blog wherever it's posted. We post everywhere!

Thanks to all of our subscribers on all social media and online platforms. Mwah. Big hugs and love. Make sure you, by the way, subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first, every week. Because that is where they are posted first. Tag a friend who needs to hear this message, who's having that positive vulnerable experience, and needs to just be kind to themselves in opening to being more receptive.

My prayer, my wish for you is that you may feel loved and safe. Especially at work, because that is half your waking life!

May you enjoy the journey to your soul's expansion. Mwah.

I'll see you next week. Bye for now.

(Original post 04/15/2019)

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Welcome to week two of five of our exploration of vulnerability.

And if, by the way, if this is the first video that you're seeing in the series and you're like, "Holy cow! Two of five?" Hit pause, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and start from part one so that you are grounded in this evolutionary process; you deserve to be grounded and centered in that.

Without further ado, for week two of five, the topic that my Guides have asked us to cover is negative vulnerability. Negative vulnerability, and let's talk about it because when we're opening up, or being willing to be open, which is what we talked about last week, dipping our toe into a sea of vulnerability as a positive in our lives, the first thing that pops up is all the times that we got burned trying to open up and love again, or to trust again, or to lean on somebody else.

I mean, especially if you're a strong one. If you are the leader, or if you are the teacher, the mentor, the healer, the guardian, the provider, the protector, and so on and so forth, or you're the nurturer. If you're Mama Bear and you try to lean on somebody, you’re thinking “it's already hard enough to ask for help, but now I actually need it, let me lean on you,” and then they crack beneath you. We remember that. That one stays in your head, the disappointment, right? And this week in particular is dedicated to invoking and honoring those points of broken trust, those points of grief and rage and disappointment.

My Guides are actually inviting us this week in particular to journal about it. Now, I know some of my clients are very private people and they're like, "You know I can't even write stuff down. I can't have feelings! What if someone sees my journal? My kids are going to crack it open, or they're going to pry it open and read all the things I'm talking about." Okay, if that’s you then go ahead, write it on toilet paper and flush it down the toilet. Or write it on a piece of paper and then throw that in the fireplace. But write it down, because journaling is about therapeutic awareness.

When we're invoking negative vulnerability and beginning to heal our relationship with it, we've got to be aware of what's there in the first place. But, if you really are stuck, thinking, "I can't flush it down the toilet. I can't throw it in the fireplace. I don't even know where to start, Victoria," here's what you need to do. You need to go ahead to victoriawhitfield.com/contact and book in for a call with me, so that we can work together, because what I do in my work every single day is hold space for people just like you to have and explore profound feelings, and I’d be honored to do that for you, too, if we are a right-fit to work together.

In order for you to get to your next level in life and business, whatever that may be, I'm hearing from my Guides to tell you that you have got to open up and release these old toxic wounds around negative vulnerability. These could be in business where you entrusted a big chunk of your marketing to someone who was supposed to help you, and it ended up costing you several times more than you invested in them. Been there, done that. Yeah, that's a wound. That's a loss, and I'll put it on me: every time I go to hire someone new, or ask for support, I have to honor that part of negative vulnerability in me now, that negative space.

Negative space is emptiness, by the way. What is negative space? It is emptiness; there is a hole that is left there in my energy, so that every time I go forward, now I have to honor that hole so that I am making a whole, with a W, a whole decision. I'm using all of my wisdom that I've won from the good times as well as from the times that I've been let down. We honor that. There's wisdom in your negative vulnerable experiences. So that's on the business side.

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Conversely, on the personal side, it’s a wound when you've trusted someone and given them your all, based a part of your identity on them and they take that trust and, whoops! They mishandle it, drop it and it breaks all over the floor, shatters your heart. Been there, done that myself, too. And so again, I'll put it back on me again - of course, this isn't about you or anyone that's watching, of course, no, it's all about me, right? I'll be vulnerable so that you don't have to, okay? ::wink:: By the way, sending so much love to whoever is watching or reading this right now. I'm choosing to be courageous so that I can walk with you through your healing. I hope that's all right. Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com if that speaks to you.

So, putting it on me, as I engage and open to new relationships, again there's that negative space of ooh, you know if I lean on this person, there's that expectation, that vacuum, that hole is there. I will wonder if I trust them, are they going to shatter my identity again? Naturally, that comes up, because it happened in the past. And so I have to honor that, and be conscious and respectful of that part of me, so that I have whole, with a W, relationships instead of relationships with holes, with an H, in them. Where are you at in honoring your vulnerable side? We're invoking that this week in particular.

I'm hearing the Oracle Cards, by the way, calling in the energy to support us in honoring those spaces of negative vulnerability that are within our heart, our body and our mind. All month we're journeying with Healing with the Angels Oracle Cards Deck by Doreen Virtue, the very first Oracle Cards deck that she ever created in her career. All right, Angels, what do we need to know right now about these spaces in our mind and body of negative vulnerability? ...Interesting. Study. Right off the bat I'm hearing that this is a self-study week, like studying yourself, an inward journey. At the same time I'll take a peek and read to you.

Study. Card meaning: You are engaged in learning and study right now. Your Angels guide you to take time to read, listen and grow. This card validates that this is an important time for you to learn new ideas or skills. Perhaps you feel guided to enroll in a class and this card confirms that feeling. If you are currently attending school, the Angels ask you to continue. Sometimes when we are in a learning phase of our life, we become anxious to test our new knowledge. Instead of learning, we want to apply what we've learned. However, timing is everything, and this card guides you not to rush into action. Instead, enjoy the process of learning. The growth that accompanies an educational experience is enjoyable if we remind ourselves to stay focused on the here and now moment.

This is a beautiful place to leave off for the week. You know, when we're engaging negative vulnerability, this is a skill that has got to be cultivated, right? And how beautiful that we are entering into this as a tribe. If you need more support around the study of engaging your emotional intelligence, your empathic empowerment, and healing your relationship with your negative vulnerability please go ahead to victoriawhitfield.com/contact. Hop on my calendar so that we can get you the support that you need.

Coming up in June this year, we have the Empowered Empaths Retreat, and that is all about healing and having that sense of emotional intelligence and mastery. So go ahead and check that out at victoriawhitfield.com/empoweredempathentrepreneurs. Go there to view more information on attending that live retreat, so that we join together as a tribe supporting one another in the study of engaging emotional intelligence, and receiving the learnings and the empowerment from the negative vulnerability experiences that we've had in the past.

I'm curious. What comes up for you hearing all this? Go ahead and send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com if you have questions, or stories that you want to share. And by the way, subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first every single week.

May you feel loved and safe, especially at work because it's half your waking life, and please: Enjoy the journey. See you soon!

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Welcome to a whole new series of the Love Letters, and it's a five-part series, where we will be diving deep into a discussion of vulnerability.

I call it “VulnerAbility.” VulnerAbility is about healing our relationship with vulnerability, and opening up to receiving new levels of connection, intimacy, attraction, magnetism, healing our relationship with receptivity. And this is not just receptivity to wealth, say, if that's what you are manifesting, but moreover being open to receiving new opportunities. Being receptive to receiving love, receiving visibility, and receiving support, and help.

Be kind to yourself if vulnerability is something that you are not too comfortable with. News flash: you're not alone. In this five-part series, we are going to be cultivating our togetherness around being vulnerable in a positive way. It is my intention that by the time we finish our discussion, we will have lifted the vibration around vulnerability just a little bit for you.

With that being said, this week’s topic is just introducing the idea of VulnerAbility. Webster's Dictionary defines vulnerability as “being open to attack or wound.” This an incredibly negative way to see being vulnerable. For those of us who are high achieving entrepreneurs, or those of us who are the strong one in the family, holding down everybody else when they're having vulnerable moments, the last thing that we want is to ever feel open to attack or wound.

The last thing that you want is to feel vulnerable when you're the space holder. You're the one who's leading, nurturing, protecting, guarding, and so on. To all of my empath lightworkers, healers, coaches, and consultants who are watching this right now, if that's you, and to all of my caregivers, my awesome moms, my do-it-all dads who are watching, and supporting, and providing, to my peeps who are the awesome ride-or-die best friend, to you as well, please know that this is to send love and strength to you. Please know, if only just for now, that if you are feeling vulnerable, that there is nothing wrong with you.

I'm going to repeat that. Please know, if only just for now, that if you are feeling vulnerable, open and exposed, there is nothing wrong with you. --

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With love, I want us to begin to re-write our own definition of vulnerability. Meaning the ability to be positively vulnerable, being open and exposing our hearts, our emotions, our authentic feelings, and being open to exposing the stuff that sucks, and is awful, and horrible, that enrages you. That is VulnerAbility, being able to open, being able to be courageous. Meaning coeur, the heart. Have an open heart. Let's just begin engaging and being willing to be vulnerable. VulnerAble.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards calling in the energy right now. The deck that we are going to be journeying with all month, all five weeks, is Healing With The Angels Oracle Cards deck, by Doreen Virtue. It's the very first Oracle cards deck that she ever made. Angels, what do we need to know right now about dipping our toe in to vulnerability as a strength, and as something beautiful, and empowering, and connecting? What do we need to know right now? ...Yep, I'm going to read it. Yes, I will. This is so awesome. Trust. Trust. I mean, get your tissues out. My guides are saying, "Get your tissues ready."

Card meaning: "Believe in yourself and have faith that God and the Angels are with you. Ask them to help you to lose the fears that block you from enjoying full faith. Your Angels know that you've been disappointed in the past. These experiences may have eroded your faith in yourself, other people, or even God. However, the Angels remind you of the importance of holding on to your faith. By drawing this card, the Angels emphasize the value of self-trust. They know that you, like everyone, have made mistakes in the past. However, these mistakes have not eroded your true nature. You still have omnipresent God within you, and God is infallible. The Angels ask you to trust in God, and to trust in them. They will help you trust yourself."

For those of you who are listening, who are not into the whole God thing, it's to trust in Life. Not just some higher power, but to trust that nature and life continues on, that growth continues on. I'm sitting in our sunroom here, watching at the beginning of spring, as the plants are beginning to reinvent themselves. They trust that nature will continue to reinvent and move forward. That same forward movement, that same potential for growth, and constant evolution is something that is my own birthright as well.

I invite you to feel the same. To trust in that as well. As we're engaging vulnerability, when we open up again, when we begin to dip our toe into opening up again, that means we've done it after Wham! we've shut closed like a clam shell. We're going to talk about that next week.

For now, go ahead and comment below, or send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com about what's coming up for you around this? Is this topic right on time? Are you scared? That's all right. I'll be scared with you, and let's walk hand in hand into this mysterious forest of vulnerability. Because being open is always better together.

I am sending you so much love. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube. Tag your friend below and be like, "Yo! Subscribe on YouTube because this one's for you” so that you get these Love Letters first every week, and I'll see you in the next one.

May you feel loved and safe, at work especially, because that's half your waking life. And please: enjoy the journey.

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Are you uncomfortable receiving compliments?

Is it weird for you to ask for *and* to receive help from others?

Feeling out of place in your new position at work, like you don't deserve it?

Being seen is always uncomfortable; that's why we tend to hide our gifts, rather than share them openly and often.

But positive discomfort can also be a sign of growth and good changes happening, if you know what to look for.

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"Sometimes I feel like I don't belong."

This is our fourth and final week of a deep dive into the power of positive community. So if you haven't seen the previous installments, I highly recommend them. Stop, go back, and watch them on YouTube, or on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com.

This week, for our fourth and final installment, where we're going to land the plane of our journey through the power of positive community is what happens when you actually are in positive community, what you can expect. And it is ... Drum roll please, evolutionary visibility.

Evolutionary visibility. It is so powerful, and this phrase came straight from my guides. I've tried to read more on it, and I haven't really heard of it. So you heard it here first.

Evolutionary visibility is the true essence and power of being in positive community.

Last week we covered the lions and the kittens, right? Where's your mindset at? And we covered the concept of the lioness who grew up around cats, so that finally when she was come of age and fully-formed, it was a bit of a surprise and a shock feeling completely out of space.

What would happen if she finally got around a pride of lions? This is where we're going this week in particular. Are we ready for it? So evolutionary visibility is the experience of others seeing you as your true self, your higher self, and because of that, they hold you to that standard and call that out of you.

And with all of that support around you, you evolve into your full and highest self.

It takes two parts, however. When we are first the lioness, that grew up around cats and kittens, we have a certain self image of ourself. We are a cat. We are a kitten, yes? And then when we get around lions, there's this fear, a sense of, I don't belong.

Maybe you have experienced this in your business because you've enrolled in group coaching or you joined a networking group or association. Or maybe you moved your business to a more premium area. Or you may have even rebranded at a higher vibration, right?

And there's this kind feeling that you have where "I'm a fraud. I'm a fraud. I am not what that says I am. I am not what you say I am. I am not what the branding and those ... I'll never be enough. I'll never be enough."

That fraud and not enough-ness, our inner-achiever, comes out with a vengeance, especially when we're growing.

This is a sign of growing pains, however. And especially if you're feeling discomfort. It's extra important for you to be surrounded by lions who will champion you and celebrate you in your power and say, "Yeah. Bring out those claws. Yeah, let your mane shake out.

You're brilliant. You're gorgeous. You're fabulous. You're an expert. You're the best of the best." Those type of cheerleaders and champions cause us to evolve. They're like a mirror, a cosmic mirror. All brilliant loving people are cosmic mirrors, and when they stand in front of you, they reflect your greatness back to you.

With that, the power of positive community is allowing yourself to be seen in that light. There's an element of vulnerability that comes being seen as brilliant. If you think of the light, like the lamp back there, when you first turn a light on, there's a bit of an adjustment in your eyes, if you're sensitive to light.

Know this: All brilliant, loving people are Cosmic Mirrors. When they stand in front of you, they reflect your #greatness back to you. Allow yourself to be seen as brilliant by your #positive community.

Or even especially if you've been in the dark for so long. It hurts at first, but then you adjust.

That pain is the opening of your eyes, the relaxing of your ocular muscles to allow for more light to flood in. The same thing happens to us emotionally and mentally when we open up about our life purpose, or we open up around, this is what I really want to focus on, or this is who I really am.

There's a vulnerability in that opening. But when you're around positive community, if and when you open vulnerably, it is powerful. And those cosmic mirrors of those loving people will reflect back to you the brilliance that you are. Your mindset may be a couple light years behind you, but if you stick around that positive community long enough, you will adjust and relax into your greatness.

So this week in particular, the guides are asking you to bring more evolutionary visibility into your life. Being safe and vulnerable and open in your brilliance and in your power, and because others are reflecting that and championing it and celebrating it in you, you can evolve and step fully into it.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. It's the fairies. Healing With the Fairies by Doreen Virtue. Okay. And I'm always accepting donations if you have an oracle card deck that you would love to donate to the dojo, go to my "About Me" page. There's a "Give Back" link, and there's all the information that you'd like for donating. Thank you, by the way, in advance.

Fairies, what do we need to know right now about evolutionary visibility and positive community? Stepping into our greatness and positive community. Don't shuffle anymore, they said. Ooh. New opportunity. This is where we're going to leave off for this week. Really exciting.

So the fairies are bringing forward a card that says, "You have, within one degree of separation of you ... " Moi, right here. "You are directly connected to the opportunity of stepping into positive community and evolutionary visibility being in that community." Are you aware of that? Be on the lookout. There is a new opportunity coming your way to be part of a next level positive community. A next level space and group of people who see you and celebrate you in your power and in your brilliance.

I highly recommend that you go and check out my visionary shaman circle at victoriawhitfield.com/jointhetribe. Go there, read through it. That is the next level tribe that we have here at the dojo of lions and lionesses who are championing you in your high vibrational presence.

But what's your new opportunity that's coming through? What positive community are you going to commit to join? Is it my Visionary Shaman Circle?

Go ahead and send me an email back or comment below what comes up for you around this. Do you want to be held in that brilliant space of evolutionary visibility? Curious to hear it.

So that's it for this week's Love Letter video, and for our four week deep dive on the power of positive community. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letter videos first every week.

And remember, if there's any way that I can help you balance your mind, body, and business, just let me know at victoriawhitfield.com/contact.

We'll see you there. Bye.

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This is week four of four of our exploration of stopping faking it. You do not have to fake it to make it anymore.

We've been diving deep into that concept. However, if this is the first one in the series that you are seeing, make sure you hit pause, and go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com, click on part one and start there so that you're grounded in this clearing process. Without further ado, this week in particular, we are talking about allowing diversity.

Now, when we're talking about stopping faking it until you make it, there's an undercurrent of emotion flowing underneath it, where we are trying to make everything perfect. There's a palpable undercurrent, and that undercurrent is fueled by a lack of acceptance for diversity, of things being different. There's a lack of acceptance for imperfection, for things going a different way than expected, for multiple viewpoints and new and different, or old and different, points of view. Be kind to yourself if you're driven to perfection because you're driven to uniformity, or to make sure everything is balanced and set ...or else.

With love, that's a traumatized mindset, where everything has to be perfect. Everything has to be fine. We have to look fine. All of our Facebook Livestreams have to be perfect and look fine. All of the marketing materials in the business have to be perfect and look fine in order for anything to happen, or else. It’s insidious. It’s infectious.

Your speech has to be absolutely perfect in order for it to be effective. Your weight has to be absolutely perfect in order for you to be loved or to be seen. Your hair has to be absolutely perfect - according to some external force that says this is what perfect hair is - in order for you to be taken seriously. Only just for today, as we say in reiki, no more, just for today. No more of that traumatized mindset.

What helps us to stop faking it is allowing for diversity. When someone comes early or comes a little bit later, allow for the diversity and say, "How can we acknowledge this situation?" and then weave it in. Integrate it in. If your partner is seeing a completely different point of view, how can we allow our partner to have a different point of view, and still have a two-way conversation as two brilliant beings? Do we have to win, win, win every single argument - or every single discussion, even if we're not arguing? Do we have to win, win, win in order to feel heard or to feel safe, or to feel served?

Allowing feels different than winning. As I’m recording the video for this blog, there’s powerful lightning going on in the background. I'm leaving that lightning in, by the way, because it was gorgeous, and it's just another example of allowing diversity. We're not faking it. I'm not faking it in here. I'm listening to what my spirit guide are telling me and relaying it to you, aka, channeling. The same way that the rain gutters are doing their best that they can here in the dojo to channel the water away from the roof, away from the house. That way, it's protecting as well as continuing this beautiful cycle of flow and nourishment.

Be kind to yourself if you've been feeling blocked and stuck or undernourished in your body, your mind, your heart, your business or your spirit lately. Be kind to yourself if you've been feeling that blocked or stuck feeling. It's because we're not allowing for diversity. This also involves accepting others as they are. This comes up a lot with love and relationship issues in my private sessions with clients who are, as we discussed in our previous weeks, people who orient to clarity. My clients are very conscious, awakening, evolving souls. You come home, and your family is like, "We're just trying to relax and chill," while you’re gushing about your aha-moments and breakthroughs and how things need to change. ::take a deep breath in... exhale...:: Here's the thing. Allow for the diversity. Allow for the diversity.

It doesn't mean you approve or condone bad behavior, or people overstepping your boundaries, per se. Be kind to yourself in that respect, and at the same time, allow people who are orienting to comfort to just be as they are. The big, big, big source of suffering in our tribe of conscious, driven, high-vibrational individuals is not allowing people who genuinely just want to be comfortable to just be where they are at. Just let them be.

Because coaching is addictive, we tend to come in guns blazing: “I'm going to coach you! RAWRRR! I'm going to coach you! I'm going to transform your life!” Lol... umm. That's cool. You don't have to transform everyone all the time, ok? If someone doesn't want it, they don't want it. Let them go. If someone doesn't get it, they don't get it, ok? Relax.

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Molding your children is a give and take. This is something that, especially when you're trying to be the best guardian for your children that you've manifested in this lifetime, it’s a give and take: on one hand, you can't just let them roam free. We're guarding them and making sure that they know that they're safe because someone's watching them. And at the same time, if they see the world differently than you do, allow the diversity. As a parent, be kind to yourself and allow their diversity, their point of view, within your sacred container of safety for them.

Here’s the mindset of assertiveness and allowing that my guides are offering to parents. Within these four walls, when I pay the bills for this, when I cook the food for you, and I wash your clothes, you honor this sacred container I created for you. I take care of you, I birthed you, I love you, and you're fully yourself, within these certain sacred parameters. You still have a mind of your own, and at the same time, you get to honor the fact that you're being taken care of, protected and guided with deep unconditional love. Allowing diversity is a special case with kids. I understand that. I honor that and respect that.

However in your career, alternatively, when you have teen members who see things differently from you, don't throw them to the side too fast. Allow them to have your back, ok? Imagine I'm standing back-to-back with another person. If I face this way, I can't see what they're seeing. Does that that if they look the other way that they're wrong for what they're seeing? No. Not necessarily; we are just standing back to back, looking at different sides of the same thing, with different eyes.

In fact, they actually have my back. That's the greatest gift of having a diverse team with diverse points of view. Allow it, so that they can have your back and watch out for things that may be in your blind spot. Allowing diversity doesn't have to be perfect. It does, however, need to be conscious. This is where we've got to turn up the volume on our communication arm, leaning into uncomfortable yet productive and loving conversations.

Loving to yourself, being loving to the person you're having the conversation with, and being loving to the entire tribe that the two of you are a part of or supporting or building. Lean into those loving conversations because they allow diversity and diversity is power. The fairies are calling in the energy, by the way - Healing with the Fairies: Oracle Cards deck is who we've been journeying with all month for this series around stopping faking it. You literally can just stop. Just let it go, if only just for today, as we say in reiki. Only just for today, let go of faking it.

Fairies, what do we need to know right now about allowing diversity? ...This is a good thing to add. I'm grateful for it. Creative Expression. And here's where we're going to leave off for today, and for this series. When we're stopping faking it until we make it, when we're stopping pretending and starting to allow different points of view, allow imperfection, allow being natural or being ourselves, there emerges a beauty in diversity. There's an incredible beauty in diversity, and it is creative expression. You get to see how marvelous and awesome it is to have so many different points of view and have so many different experiences. Variety is the spice of life, right?

This tree behind me, for example, and all the other ones with it too, are gorgeous because it's unique expression. It's natural. It's not perfect. It is perfectly imperfect, and it is a part of creation. Right? Well, guess what? That's a tree. If a tree is allowed to be unique and expressive and imperfect and still be gorgeous and healing and beautiful and precious, so are you. I mean it sounds like a bit much, but as we're stopping faking it, can we at least give ourselves the same permission that we give to freaking trees to just be natural and to be magnificent at the same time?

What's coming up for you around this? What are you creating now that we're walking this path together as journey partners to releasing faking it, and stepping into an authentic life and business? I'm curious. Go ahead. Comment below or send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield. Tell me your story.

Perhaps you need help tapping into your creative expression - that flow for you, maybe it's blocked right now. If you just can't see your own perfectly imperfect natural beauty and magnificence, please go to naturalintuition.com. Hop on my calendar by clicking that Contact button, and let's talk about working together so I can support you as your journey partner, okay?

I'm sending you so much love. Do not lose that glow as you're growing in life, in business. Enjoy the journey. I'll see you in the next Love Letter video. Bye for now. --

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This is week three of four in our exploration of stopping faking it. It's time; #StopThat.

If you haven't seen the first two parts, by the way, hit pause, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and click on part one. Start there so that you are grounded in this clearing process that we're going through together.

The topic of this week's Love Letter is self-acceptance. Self-acceptance. If we are going to stop faking it ‘til we make it, and if we are going to let go of being perfect - or let go fighting because we think we're not good enough - if we're going to let go of that fight and put our weapons down to surrender in that fight - I get the chills as I say that for you, sending you so much love around having the courage to put down your weapons and stop fighting to be good enough - if we're going to do that, that means we've got to learn how to practice self-acceptance. Self-acceptance!? What the heck does that mean, Victoria? Does it even exist?

Self-acceptance is, for one - my guides are telling me to tell you this - for one, it is not a single event. Self-acceptance is not like a, “ta-da, I accept myself and then I'm done” sort of single event. No, no, no. Self-acceptance is an ongoing series of choices, observations, and celebrations over and over and over again. And it’s celebrations not only of the good stuff, but also celebrating, “you know what? This about me kind of sucks. Yay. I don't have to have it all figured out.” I'm going to be kind to myself because I accept that I have limitations. There are things that I don't know. There are, in fact, things that I don't know that I don't know. There are things that I don't like.

Believe it or not, there are emotions that I have where I can be mad from time to time, or sad, and I celebrate the dark side to me: the preferences, and the point of view that I have as a unique human being. I do not have to be the way that someone may have told me that I have to be. Repeat: I do not have to be the way that someone told me that I have to be. Instead, I accept myself as I am. Over and over and over again - especially when it's hard to, especially when I don't like myself - this is when I need to celebrate my shortcomings even more.

Now, for those of you who've been following my work or who've known me for quite some time now, you know that my automatic setting right now is Auto Clap, lol, it’s like I'm just on Auto Celebrate. And this behavior is something that I didn't used to have as a person. I used to be pretty gloomy, I had a really, really dark personality earlier in life, but I trained myself over time to look for things to celebrate in all situations.

What that did is it made me emotionally stronger and stronger with time. It helped open my eyes to the good. There's so much good. Even in the darkest things that have ever happened in my life, there has been so much good because I'm set to celebrate, and that setting is an act of self-acceptance that I have been engaging in - that I've been deciding to engage in - over and over and over and over again.

On the other hand, what is also a learned behavior is self-rejection. Be kind to yourself if you are the Queen of self-rejection or the King of denying yourself. Be kind to yourself if you're really, really good at booing yourself before anybody else can, making sure that you put yourself down before anybody else can. Sometimes we learn that as a coping mechanism for growing up and coming up in an abusive environment, so that you can, in a twisted way, empower yourself by hurting yourself first to cut people off at the pass. That behavior, you don't need it anymore. I give you permission, if only just for now to let that go once and for all.

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Hey, hey, hold on a sec - you're watching or reading this on a device, right? I'm inside some screen somewhere as you're watching or reading this, so that means we are having a very, very private moment, you and I. No one else can hear or see me like you can right now. So, I want you to know in the bottom of your soul: you don't have to do that twisted stuff anymore to yourself. Today's the day. I know you wouldn’t admit that openly. That’s fine. But if you're watching or reading this, in this very moment, Spirit brought you here, so right now please know you have permission to just let that go completely. You have no more need to beat yourself up at all.

Self-acceptance is what you're called to, and it takes just as much energy as self-rejection. If you were to count how many times a day you put yourself down, sooner or later you'd realize there's a pattern behind that, and that pattern is a learned skill. The opposite is true, right? How many times you celebrate yourself in a day, that's a pattern, too. That is a learned skill, too. That's something that you can build, a muscle that you can grow over time.

So, if only just for today, please know that the name of the game is self-acceptance: to find something at all times - whether it is good or bad - about yourself, as you are, to celebrate, to accept, and to just observe. Doesn't mean you necessarily right out the gate approve of everything. Hey, I’m right there with you. We are human. And at the same time, we are human beings: being willing to celebrate it, being willing to observe it, being willing to see it rather than just stuffing, stuffing, stuffing, stuffing down.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy around that. Healing with the Angels by Doreen Virtue is the deck that we're journeying with all month. Let me ask the fairies. Wait... I said Healing with the Angels? ... autopilot. Oops! It’s Healing with the Fairies oracle cards deck! LOL! I bet you didn't know the difference, though, did you? Ha ha. Maybe you did. I’m so leaving that perfectly imperfect mess up in! I love it... Okay, fairies, what do we need to know about self-acceptance right now? Oh my goddess. Yay, I love this card! Breaking Free. And that's you. Breaking Free - and the fairy on the card is out in the outer realms, arms spread wide, wings all the way up and just flying high, breaking free from everything.

Here's the message from the fairies: you are breaking free in to a new level of self-acceptance, maybe for the first time. Your ability to, as you can, find something to celebrate, find something about yourself to observe and to accept and just see – this is breaking you free. You don't even have to do anything about it. Just observe it. This is you breaking free from the chains that have been holding you down - maybe in life, maybe in your business. One chain at a time, you’re breaking free, breaking free, breaking free. You can do it! You’re doing it!

This is an affirmation from source that you're on the right path. Keep going. And know you’re not alone - I'm your traveling partner, Sensei Victoria Whitfield – on your ascension path in life and business. Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every week. Let’s keep journeying together.

Hit that share button, by the way, if there's someone that you love and care about who you believe it's time for them to break free, too, send this letter their way. Maybe this might just bless and change their day. And remember to please enjoy the journey. Make sure that you do not lose your glow as you grow in life and business.

I'll see you in the next episode. Bye for now! --

Just for today...

Celebrate the good and the bad about yourself today, in an act of radical self-acceptance and healing.

Honor and appreciate your strengths as well as your weaknesses, acknowledge and announce what you know that you know, as well as what you genuinely don’t know, shame-free.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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This is week two of four in our exploration of releasing faking it.

This is your time, finally, or maybe for the first time, to release this pattern of “faking it ‘til you make it” so that you can have authentic momentum, authentic growth, and authentic success. Whether it's in your personal or professional life. If you didn't see part one, hit pause, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com. Click on part one and start from there so that you are grounded in this clearing process that we're going through over these four weeks.

The topic that my guides have asked us to cover this week in particular is the two types of people that you're going to encounter in all of life, but especially when you decide to stop faking it. There are two types of people in life. Now, be kind to yourself. We've all been either type at any given point in time in our lives, but especially when you decide to live a life where you’re going to fake it anymore, where you’re not going to be little Miss or Mr. Perfect, not going to hold back, but are going to be all in, your type shifts. Two types. You ready to write it down? Get your notepad.

The two types are: people who value Clarity, and people who value Comfort. There are two types of people in life. There are those who are valuing and seeking Clarity, and those who are valuing and seeking Comfort. In all things. Now this is super important because as you make the decision to stop faking it, you are moving from one paradigm, where you are valuing and seeking comfort in all the decisions and actions that you make, and you are stepping over into a whole other paradigm, where you are valuing and seeking clarity in all the decisions and actions that you make and take throughout your life and in your business.

Now, this is a tall order. Last week we were already talking about deciding to stop faking it, and how it's time, let's go, let's go, but now on top of that, your orientation, your alignment shifts. If you've been wondering why you're having such a hard time living authentically or stopping faking it, or stopping putting on the show, it's because this is an alignment issue. Are you aligned with comfort and seeking that? Or are you aligned with clarity and seeking that?

If you don't know where you are aligned, look at the decisions that you already have made. Hindsight is 20/20, as they say, so as you look back at the decisions that you made, maybe it could be a mixed bag. I'll be honest, I have a bit of a mixed bag of decisions as I look over my shoulder, too. I'm certainly not perfect. There are some choices that are, especially when it comes to food, that sometimes I'm deciding I would like to seek comfort right now, and I'm going to pay for it by going to the gym. Or making sure that I'm shifting my eating back or, well, there's going to be digestive issues as a consequence if I'm basing my decision on comfort to eat something very fatty or full of dairy or wheat and all of that.

I'm going to have consequences of that decision. Whereas if I make the decision - continuing to put this all on me - if I make the decision to choose food that is clarifying, or that gives me clarity that when I eat it so I don't feel tired afterwards, but instead I feel energized afterwards - not because it's artificial but because it's alive, and living food brings your body alive, I know it does for me - then there's also going to be consequences to that.--

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There's consequences on both sides. So, if only just for today, you've got to choose - you and I both - we have got to choose, where are we aligning ourselves? Am I or are you being the type of person who seeks and cultivates clarity and values clarity all the time, or one who seeks and cultivates and values comfort? By the way, and we're going to get a little more into this in the coming weeks, but as I hear the oracle cards - I hear you, I hear you - calling in the energy, be kind to yourself if there are people around you who really value comfort.

Yet while there are people who genuinely value comfort, sometimes you can find yourself, for whatever reason, as a conscious person and a conscious entrepreneur, in really valuing clarity, you’ll end up lording over them, expecting them to be a clarity-oriented person. This is suffering: expecting something else from people who just aren't aligned with that same value. This is going to cause you a lot of suffering, is going to drain a lot of energy from you.

This week in particular, I just want you to be a little bit more vigilant. First of yourself: checking in and asking, “am I being someone, with this decisions or this action that I'm taking, valuing comfort or clarity?” Or you could even, in my case - because this is my journey right now, around food – ask: “am I eating this because I'm seeking comfort or I'm seeking clarity? What am I creating with this decision?” For you it might be something else, such as “with this business decision” or “this investment that I'm making right now.” Ask yourself “am I going for comfort, as I'm investing right now or considering investing, is this something that's going to increase my comfort or my clarity?” It's up to you.

Okay. Let's get to the oracle cards. The oracle cards all month are “Healing With the Fairies” by Doreen Virtue. Let's ask them: “Fairies, what do we need to know right now about the two types of people that are out there? About these value alignments and such.” ... Problem resolved. Check it out, the fairy on the card, she's got a snake of wisdom right there wrapped around her, speaking in her ear. Shedding skin, one of my spirit guides just said. Shedding layers of what you used to be, the smaller you. We're shedding layers of what we used to be.

This is so powerful, and where we'll leave off for the week. This alignment issue is what's going to accelerate your progress. The more that you become aware of clarity versus comfort in the decisions that you are making. This will put you on the path to resolving the problems, the challenges that you've been facing. Choosing that clarity, if you dare, over comfort. Sending you so much love around that.

I'm your traveling partner on this journey so, send me an email back, comment below, let me know what's coming up for you around this. And if you need more support around choosing clarity and aligning with clarity and releasing that addiction to comfort, go ahead on over to naturalintuition.com, click the contact button. Hop on my calendar and let's see about getting you supported and working together.

With that, that's it for this week's episode. Thank you so much for tuning in and watching the Love Letters. It's been eight years. Eight years! Thank you so much for all of your support.

Looking forward to hearing from you soon, and I will see you in the next one. Bye for now. --

Just for today...

Make time to evaluate what you are valuing and creating in the decisions you make.

See the difference between choosing to create more clarity or more comfort, as you weigh your options.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...

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This is week four of our deep dive into conscious relationships and unpacking the different forms of loneliness that conscious entrepreneurs face on the path to rapid financial ascension.

We want to make sure we unpack that and explore it together so that you don't lose your ability to glow as you grow your self and your business. Without further ado, for week four what we're going to be covering in particular is professional loneliness.

As conscious entrepreneurs, from time to time we can continue to put the blinders on in order to be productive. We started to talk a little bit about this last week with the law of distraction. By the way, if you haven't tuned in for that, make sure you stop now, go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com and start from part one so that you are grounded in this process.

We started talking about the law of distraction, where we have these blinders on and we're missing out on the good and blessed people and things that have gathered around us. Also, we were talking about acknowledging and appreciating the platonic relationships that we already have.

But this week in particular, if you are experiencing professional loneliness, what that looks like is feeling like you are deeply alone in your business or deeply alone in your career. Maybe the purpose that you've been driven towards – your calling in life, your professional calling – is one that sets you apart from others. The people in your life, for whatever reason, personally and professionally, aren't fully in alignment with it or can't exactly see the entire vision that you've been blessed with the ability to see just yet.

If that's the case, as always, I'm sending you so much love because it can be such a challenge. It’s a challenge to feel truly grounded and clear when in the past, in order to ground, you've been retreating and pulling away from different relationships. Or maybe you had to leave your corporate position, or a job that you had previously, to really follow your dreams and create a way out of no way for yourself because you woke up. You became conscious, whereas before, you weren't so much. If that's the case, naturally, as you're leaving the comfort zone, you can end up leaving by yourself.

This is especially true for those of us who work from home, or have created our business as a virtual business. Or perhaps you have a home office and you do a lot of the billing, bookkeeping and accounts work from your home while out at your location your employees are doing their work. In this set up, you can feel a bit alone even in the management of your business. Is this sounding familiar?

If this is not for you, no problem. I'm sure you know someone who does feel this, though, because statistics show that 75% of entrepreneurs feel lonely on their journey, and get depressed, as well, on their entrepreneurial ascension path. It's a very real thing. Whether or not you're comfortable bringing this up, we've got to talk about it so that we can ground and clear your blocked energy flow, and get you back to that state of glowing as you grow.

For me, personally, I'm at my eighth year in business and I've had several different locations of the dojo. Where I am writing and filming this blog is the latest iteration of it. At first, I moved in with my mentor. It was wonderful to get to bounce my ideas off of him, and him vice-versa. We could support each other on our ascension paths professionally, every day. Then things changed and he had to manifest a new space to move his business into so that he could take care of his children and run his business in that home.

Once he did, I was with the space by myself. At first, that was so empowering. I was thinking, “oh my goodness, I'm carrying my own office space for the first time in my life!” I was coming to the office, day after day, and there's no one but me. Except for when I was seeing a client.

For those of you who have your own business as a solo entrepreneur – which I was at the time, I didn't have the team that I do now – you know most of your time is spent marketing. That is, if you have any clients. Big hugs and love to you if you're still fighting for your first one. Don't give up. But, most of your time as an entrepreneur is spent marketing. Marketing, marketing, marketing... And not necessarily being with people in your space.

After a while, it can be really quiet and lonely at times. At first, I'm an introvert. I love being by myself. So I lasted a few months. That was pretty good. And then the quiet got too quiet... where I had a harder and harder time focusing. Even though I love doing what I do, it was so difficult to look to my left and look to my right and not have anyone to work around, to work with.

With that being said, what helped me shift – and this is what my guides are suggesting for you right now – was opening up to collaborations and coworking. If you are feeling alone in your business, then maybe it’s time you started opening up to collaborations and coworking, as well as joining an entrepreneur tribe like ours. Meaning, a big group of entrepreneurs that are excited to work together so that they can glow as they grow in life and business, like you. That really started healing it for me. I would invite you to consider that for yourself.

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Wherever you're at in your age and stage in business. Whether you are just at the very beginning, where it's startup and you're launching, or you're an established business, and you're looking to take it to the next level, being around others who are at that similar stage or even in all the different other stages is energizing. It's inspiring to see people launching for the first time, really going for it. It's inspiring to see others who are established and, wow, they're breaking through that glass ceiling, moving into higher levels of your realization of their potential. It's a beautiful thing to witness.

But it begins with allowing that feeling of, “you know what? I am alone. I am feeling alone in my business.” Big difference there. What matters most is how you feel. However, you may not actually be alone. Perhaps as the founder, the visionary founder of the business, you're looking to your right and your left and you may have 50 employees but you're still feeling alone because there's no other visionaries for you to resonate with.

Be kind to yourself if that's been your situation. If that's where you're at in your business's development, it's time for you to receive the nourishment of positive community. Through collaborations, coworking, and joining a tribe like ours.

That is why here at the dojo we provide the Abundant Business Circle and the Visionary Shaman Circle so that no conscious entrepreneur goes unsupported, wherever they are at in their level of development. If you're at the startup phase, just getting used to attracting and receiving clients, that's the Abundant Business Circle. We support each other in that shift with our financial healing circles. You get to see everyone's faces, and network, and connect with others who are there with you, too. Or if you're in an established business looking to ascend through your upper limits in life and business, especially by rooting deeper down into your spiritual health, that's the visionary shaman circle for you. Both are nationwide, worldwide tribes. Thanks to the internet.

It's great to have these love letters, of course. I'm here sending you lots of love in your email inbox, or in your YouTube feed. Wherever you're picking up what I'm putting down, wherever you're finding this. But it's a whole other level of emotional nourishment when you allow yourself to get into the group and join the tribe. I highly recommend you reach out to us at naturalintuition.com, hit that Contact button and let's talk about you becoming part of our community.

With that being said, I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. The Romance Angels is who we've been journeying with all month. This deck is by Doreen Virtue. Let’s pull a card for professional loneliness, being kind to ourselves, allowing that feeling, and drawing a line in the sand, saying, "I don't like how this feels. I'm aware that this doesn't feel good. I want to change it. I want an overabundance of juicy, joyful, professional relationships. And so it is."

Angels, what do we need to know right now about manifesting that? ...Oh, I had a feeling that this was going to come out before I hit record. Codependency. Addictions are affecting your romantic life. What a can of worms to open up, angels! What the heck? LOL! This is where we're going to leave off for the week. If you are experiencing professional loneliness, this is two-fold.

On one hand, your workaholism, your addiction to micromanaging and addiction to perfection, is making the world unbearably small for you. If you're feeling that exhaustion coming from professional loneliness, it's because you've become codependent with workaholism. You're addicted to it and being sucked into that vortex. If that's your situation, if you're a workaholic, you need positive community of other entrepreneurs who are demonstrating what it's like to glow *as* they grow their business rather than to burn out as they grow their business, then apply to join the tribe now.

On the other side, this also affects our romantic life. The professional achievements that we have as entrepreneurs can sometimes give us that hit of dopamine. It is so fulfilling that causes us to focus only on our work instead of the love of our lives. Be careful about that. It's another sign of being a workaholic that your love relationships and your friendships are suffering because the business is eating up all of your time and emotional energy.

Again, if this is happening in your life, then apply to join the tribe now. Collaborate and connect with others who are happily married, have wonderful friends, and are demonstrating a healthy business that is growing by leaps and bounds. Being around others who are demonstrating this lifestyle will teach you how to make that happen for yourself, and how to truly enjoy the journey.

By the way, let me know what comes up for you around this. Send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com if you'd like to email me privately and directly; that'll come straight to me through my team. By the way, hit subscribe on YouTube so you get these love letters first every single week.

Hit the SHARE button, and make sure someone who has a business knows to not overwork themselves. We will see you in the next one. Thank you so much.

I appreciate you so much for tuning in to these love letters every week. Bye for now.

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Just for today...

Be honest with yourself about the quality of your mental health and relationships at work; get clear on how you truly feel about your worklife and if it is Your version of healthy and abundant.

Then seek out and join an entrepreneur tribe, like our Visionary Shaman Circle and Strategic Spa Retreats, to feel surrounded by fellow spiritual entrepreneurs who fill your cup.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

-- Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business. Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...

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