Are you scared of letting go?

What, or who, do you need to let go?

Feeling strained and drained trying to keep it all together on your own?

Holding on to things, experiences and people indefinitely gets exhausting and can fast-track burnout.

Not only is holding on exhausting, but it actually goes against your Nature.

Watch this week's 8-minute Love Letter to learn why you can't let go, and how to do it!

"I just can't let it go!"

Hi there! Sensei Victoria Whitfield here and this is your Love Letter from The Dojo at Naturalintuition.com, your source for channeled holistic stress management techniques and spiritual guidance for developing your Natural Intuition.

This week Source wants you to have a bit of a meditation on Letting Go.

This is a very, very sensitive topic that the energy wants us to address this week in particular.

Pause for a moment.

When I say, "Let go," or "Let it go," what comes up for you? What do you need to let go in this moment?

Close your eyes just for a moment. Take a deep breath in. Exhale.

Again, inhale and thinking of the word, "Let." Exhale thinking of the word, "Go."

One more. Breathing in “Let” and exhale “Go.”

Be kind to yourself. Letting go is never, ever easy. It is always a learning experience. Letting go of anything is always an opportunity for practice, for training, for experience.

The guides are saying, "For this week in particular, and if only just for now, when you think of letting go replace it with, 'Letting flow.'"

If you find that when someone nonchalantly tells you, "Let it go. Let it go," or something like that and your inner Control Enthusiast comes roaring up inside you, screeching, "I can't let it go! He did me wrong!" or "I can't let her go. She means the world to me. She's not supposed to be gone!" – whether it feels like a crazy control or a "Please don't leave me” control – then that means it’s time to be a little bit more kind to yourself.

Remember #BK2YS? Yeah. 🙂

Showing a little bit more love for ourselves heals us first, so that we can spread love. Let it flow. Let it flow.

Whenever there's something that we need to let go of, it's because there is energetic congestion somewhere in our life. 

By the way, there is no such thing – and I need you to stop saying this if you've been saying it recently – there's no such thing as being blocked.

Know this: You are not "blocked." You're choosing to feel blocked. Choose flow, if only just for #now. #tbt #letgo #bk2ys @SenseiWhitfield

Look at quantum physics and it’s explanation of the makeup of solid structures.

Solids are simply comprised of tiny molecules that are vibrating at the right enough speed to appear solid to us. Solid molecules are not blocked. They are not stationary, stagnant, or stopped, or static in any way, shape, and form.

All of life is in a constant state of motion. Some motion, however, from our vantage point may appear and look like it's being solid or stopped.

The status of being blocked is always, always, always – hear me when we say this – is always an emotional choice.

What? That means I'm responsible for feeling blocked?

Yeah. There's always a choice.

Somewhere within you and even if you have to dig and wait for it to come up, there's a conscious choice you’re making to decide to be blocked and feel blocked.

Your “being” state is simply a choice.

I'm hearing the oracle cards coming in the energy, wanting to weigh in on this topic about instead of letting go, let it flow.

“Earth Magic Oracle Cards” by Steven Farmer is the deck of the week.

When I was asking all the 16 and counting decks here at the Dojo – by the way, we're always accepting donations – who wanted to come forward and who's energy do we need the most for letting go or letting flow to help us understand it, it was the nature energy that stood out from this deck.

 

The #oracle card of the week for you is "Spring Equinox: Rebirth" - Source says this is a time of rebirth and reinvention for you, but you have been resisting the necessary steps you need to take to allow your next level to come through. What are you avoiding? And why? Full reading on #YouTube here: http://youtu.be/FJSolp7px3A #freedom #healing #inspiration #motivation #letgo #relationship #entrepreneur #business #spiritual #positivevibes #reiki

A photo posted by Sensei Victoria Whitfield (@senseiwhitfield) on Feb 29, 2016 at 6:56am PST

Oracle Card of The Week: “Spring Equinox: Rebirth”

Take a look at how she's got the rabbit and the butterfly and all those other incredible awesome things surrounding her abundantly.

This is what Source is saying right now: the reason why Spring is able to present all of that rebirth is that she is flowing with the seasons.

She is allowing the rebirth, the new energy, the new processing to come through all that dead energy.

Here in Jersey we do have four seasons, and during the winter things look really dead. Like, really dead! LOL!

Then, when springtime comes – like in Newark for the cherry blossom festivals – it's absolutely just this incredible explosion of beautiful life, right out of what seemed to be blocked or dead, but what was actually just momentarily, let’s say, “recalibrating.” Put it that way, to use a GPS word. 😉

Be kind to yourself.

In life right now you may feel you are being called to let go of something significant.

But instead let it flow through you, because Source is saying that's a rebirth.

No matter how small that rebirth may appear in your life, allowing the flow of life to flow through you is something that can really help you with letting go.

Now, send me an email back, or comment below here, and answer:

• What's coming up for you that you need to let it go and let it flow?
• Is this something around physical health, or relationship, or financial health?
• Could it be something spiritual relational?
• What's the difference to you between letting it go versus letting it flow? How does the difference between those two expressions feel to you?

I'm really curious to see your responses.

Sending you big hugs and love!

That's this week's message. By all means, please go to victoriawhitfield.com/freegift and make sure that you subscribe so that you're getting your weekly Love Letters if you haven’t already.

And on YouTube hit that Subscribe button, wherever she is on your screen, so that you get your weekly Love Letters as soon as their uploaded.

Sending you so much love 🙂

See you next time. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Frustrated by your love life?

Wish you could attract your soulmate?

Having a hard time receiving love from people close to you?

One of the oldest pursuits in the human experience is the pursuit of love.

Oddly enough however, when asked most people tend to have no idea what love actually is.

Watch this week's 8-minute Love Letter to begin exploring what love actually is, so you can get more of it!

"I just really want to be loved."

Source has called you to a higher vibration of love and relationships in your lifetime.

It's time we talk about what exactly is love. 

How would you define being and feeling loved in this lifetime?

Have you ever heard of the 5 love languages? That's one way of interpreting love. They are:

• Words of Affirmation
• Acts of Service
• Gifts
• Touch, and
• Quality Time

There's 5 ways of expressing love, certainly.

But love can go unfelt, unseen and unexperienced because we don't have a clear definition of what healthy love is for us ourselves.

Perhaps we witnessed our parents have one version of what love is for them, and how they would define it in their lives.

But what would Love in Her fullest expression be for you?

Going to Source right now, She is saying that love is oneness.

Oneness in all of her expressions: oneness in the sense of being connected, oneness in the sense of seeing yourself in another, oneness in circulating the energy healthfully throughout the entire system as one, oneness in the absence of separation.

During this time of the year or maybe oftentimes, you may be thinking in your mind, "I just really want to be loved. I want to experience feeling loved in a deeper way, or having access to more love in my life."

The way to that, Source is saying, is through yourself first because love is oneness. Start at square one.

How then do you express love for yourself? How do you encounter love within you:

• • Is it in the way that you take care of your body?

• • Is it in the way that you tell yourself stories about yourself?

• • Is it in the way that you put yourself together or express yourself in the art that you create or surround yourself?

• • Is it in the way that you share yourself professionally?

• Is that how you love yourself, or is it in the way that you express yourself personally, with your family?

This week's topic in particular is more of an internal journey -- that's why we're asking so many more questions: because Source really wants to bring you back to you.

What really matters most this week is that you sit down and journal your answers to all of the questions that Source is asking through us.

Now I'm hearing the Oracle Cards calling in the energy.

The Romance Angels Oracle Card Deck is really wanting to send you a lot of extra love this week.

So let's ask them, "How can we raise the vibration of love and romance, not only with another person but also with ourselves?"

 

 

This week's oracle card is "Let Go of Control Issues"???????? Source is sending you this card to let you know that in order to receive the level of love you desire in life, you'll need to open up to defining and experiencing your center, your core, your #nature around what love is. #reiki #healing #love #joy #doreenvirtue #happy #valentines #relationship ???????? Watch this week's reading on #YouTube at: http://youtu.be/Nvhhv1uqcPQ

 

A photo posted by Sensei Victoria Whitfield (@senseiwhitfield) on Feb 7, 2016 at 4:10am PST

This is a doozy: "Let go of control issues. Allow this situation to unfold naturally."

Now in the energy, what Source is saying is -- especially for developing your natural intuition around love, feeling love, receiving love, being love -- it's about embracing your natural impulses around love.

This really brings it full circle back to being about our parents' influence and what you may have witnessed, or maybe the influence of TV or other people around you.

Perhaps other people are getting married or divorced or having children. All these external factors are causing you to judge your own status on love, be kind to yourself. Call upon your own nature.

What I'm hearing in the energy, this week in particular, is to challenge you to find your own natural stance. Centering.

Know this: YOU define what love is, based on the feelings that confirm you're showing or experiencing love. 

This week is all about centering, finding where is your square one -- your feeling of oneness -- around love.

And you can find your center by asking yourself in the journaling you're doing this week: "why do I want love? what is love to me?"

It's important to always start with why. (Great book, by the way, by Simon Sinek if you haven't checked it out yet.)

Start with why to find your center.

If you're not exactly sure what your definition is, start with why.

Why do you desire love?

Really unpack that story, and don't be afraid of exploring the dark forest of your heart.

There's so much love there.

As you go for it, let go of whatever stories you may have inherited or created around love.

There's so much within you.

Love is something that can come through you naturally, the same way that air in the form of oxygen for us to breathe naturally comes out of a plant.

She is able to allow the processes to express it naturally.

Perhaps in order for you to receive more love in this lifetime or in this year or in this day, maybe you have to let go.

Comment below, tell me what's coming up for you.

You can even journal your answers if you'd like or send them to me.

I'd love to share and talk to you about that. 

That's this week's message. By all means, please go to victoriawhitfield.com/freegift and make sure that you subscribe so that you're getting your weekly Love Letters if you haven’t already.

And on YouTube hit that Subscribe button, wherever she is on your screen, so that you get your weekly Love Letters as soon as their uploaded.

Sending you so much love 🙂

See you next time. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Want to de-stress and clear your energy but don't know where to start? Tell me!

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Love & Relationships Healing Blisswork Retreat

Sunday, January 31^st  2016   10:00am - 3:00pm

Are you ready to receive more love in 2016?

Want to let go of past disappointments and hurts so you can heal your love life?

Is this the year you want to raise the vibration of bliss, romance and fun in your life?

If so, then this retreat is for YOU!

If you're reading this, then you've been burned in the past. And it was probably by someone you loved and trusted.

Perhaps you may have even been abused. Abuse can be verbal, emotional, mental, energetic, sexual, spiritual, physical, financial, social…

Since our past negative experiences were the norm for us, we come to expect people to abuse us now – our Subconscious projects the past on the present when certain triggers come up, creating pain from a normally “harmless” exchange…

Maybe your experience was so bad that it shaped and stunted the way that you look at everyone else. Take a look and see if you recognize some of your hidden beliefs:

“Love hurts.”   “Trust no one.”   “All men are dogs.”   “All women are crazy.”   “Nobody loves me.”   “I’m afraid to be alone.”   “Everybody leaves me anyway.”   “Maybe I should just settle for less.”    “All the good ones are already taken.”   “They can’t handle the real me.”          “I can’t do any better than this.”    “I need someone to save me.”   “I need to fix her / him; then it’ll be perfect.”   “I’m too [fat, poor, busy, short, ugly, etc.] to be loved.”   "My parents are divorced / I am divorced, so I'll never find love that lasts."   "I don't receive the love I want, so I'll give all I’ve got to everyone and hope they recognize it."    “I can’t speak up for myself so I’ll wait until they figure out I’m not happy.”   “What’s the point? Why try?”   “I always end up alone.”   “Nobody wants me.”

Sound familiar?

If so, then you need to join us at this month's retreat, Love! <3

Singles and couples are equally welcome – but for those of you who are in a relationship, know this: you do NOT have to bring your partner to change your relationship. They don’t even have to know! Why?

Because it’s YOUR private healing journey. ONLY YOUR energy needs to be healed!

This day is about healing the parts of our spirit that were lost at the scenes of trauma and heartbreak in a safe, nonjudgmental and loving environment.

It’s time to get rid of that baggage that’s weighing you down.

WHAT YOU'LL GET:

1. 5 Hours of Reiki & Channeled Guidance at The Dojo with Sensei Victoria Whitfield (Value $625)
2. Discussion: We Are All Sacred Mirrors & The Healing Power of Divine Intimacy and Relationships (Value $150)
3. Holy Fire Karuna Reiki Deep Meditation: The Holy Love Experience for Soul Retrieval and Interdimensional Heart Chakra Healing (Value $200)
4. Cleansing & Grounding Vegan Lunch with Live Juicing (Value $50)
5. Training in Identifying, Cultivating and Receiving R.E.A.L. Love (Value $150)
6. Training in Microcosmic Orbit and Manifestation Magick for Attracting Love (Value $200)
7. Training in Raising The Vibration of Your Sacred Temple with Spiritual Assertiveness and Blisswork (Value $200)
8. Ample Time for Practice, Journaling and Sharing

Total Value = $1,575, but you pay less than $200 for the entire workshop!

Why?
Because I love ya! 😉

LOGISTICS:                 

Date: Sunday, January 31st 2016

Time: 10:00am - 3:00pm (5 hours)

Bring: Dress to impress / for a romantic date (but clothes you can lounge in), 1 dozen roses or your favorite flowers, a candle to dedicate to Love and Joy, scarf or eye cover, pen and pad for journaling.

Location: Sensei Victoria Whitfield's Reiki Dojo at 922 South Avenue West, First Floor (Porch Right Door), Westfield, NJ 07090 (Free street parking. In-person only; no online attendance at this time. No-shoes facility; please bring socks.)

Tickets: NEW YEAR NEW YOU JANUARY SPECIAL $147 Earlybird (rec. by Jan. 15th), $197 Songbird (rec. by Jan. 27th) required to reserve your space -- prices go up to $197 / $247 starting February 1st 2016, so don't miss this chance to jumpstart your healing 2016! Sorry, no verbal or emailed RSVP's accepted because space is VERY limited: 10 person max; first come, first serve.

FAST ACTION BONUS:

BRING A FRIEND BONUS. Register by 11:59pm with your friend on January 10th and get TWO Group Guided Meditation Class Passes FOR FREE -- A $40 VALUE!!!

(Please put "Friend of ..." in notes on your payment for tracking purposes.)

Reserve your seat NOW

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Disappointment got you down?

Having a hard time forgiving yourself for messing up?

Wish you could just feel better already, instead of feeling like a failure all the time?

If this is you, believe it or not, you're on the verge of a breakthrough.

Every disappointment and seeming "failure" holds healing knowledge sent from Spirit to clean up your energy and move you to your next level.

Watch the above 10-minute video to learn how to shift your energy immediately to receiving healing and clearing spiritual knowledge! 

"I feel like a failure."

To help you find the Dark Gift in disappointment is like finding a needle in a haystack.

When we're really low-vibration in guilt and all those yucky, gooey sensations of resentment and self-unforgiveness, it's hard to see the light.

We're just keep saying to ourselves: "No! Everything's doom and gloom and I'm a piece of doody-pants."

One thing that helps shift your vibration fast -- and if you come to The Dojo you'll always see me do this -- is to celebrate when things don't work out.

I know you're watching, all of my students that this has happened to; when they come back out of meditation, they say: "Sensei, I didn't go anywhere. I didn't see anything, I was right here the whole time."

What do I do every time? My students know that every time they say this, I say: "Yay! Yes! Going nowhere, doing nothing! WOOHOO!!"

Why? Not because I'm a crazy-pants... well, maybe, but I'm a crazy-pants with good reason. 🙂 Everyone is crazy for a reason, just ask them!

The reason why we celebrate is not only because "Well, you tried," which is always positive, but also whenever you celebrate your brain re-orients herself to say "What am I celebrating?"

She is immediately looking to see what are the positives in this situation; she automatically reframes the situation to support positive outcomes. This is called Neuro-linguistic Programming, by the way.

When we're in celebration mode, our brain must support that with data. The new-aged version of this exact same phenomena is the Universal Law of Attraction.

What you need to know most right now is that the more you celebrate in the face of disappointment, the more you will immediately align with what there to celebrate.

You'll know. Seriously, it works like magic. It's like fairy dust.

Try it, you will see just how effective it is.

Know this: You can shift your state right now: celebrate in the face of disappointment & you'll discover why your failure is healing.

By all means clap and scream and celebrate over your perceived failure until you're able to find out what is celebratory in this.

Gratitude, admiration, adoration, joy and high vibrations are constantly present. They just don't show up out of nowhere and then disappear. Why?

Because everything is Now.

All that is, is right now.

The lowest vibrations you could possibly emanate are just as present as the highest vortexy, juicy, yummy woo thing you could possibly experience.

All vibrations are present now.

By being in celebration, choosing to celebrate disappointment, you will activate your ability to perceive and receive any Dark Gifts that are coming out of your experience.

It doesn't matter how dark or how painful the situation is, trust me, this always works.

And with that I'm hearing the Oracle cards loud and clear. The Healing with the Fairies oracle card deck is the one that said "We want to talk about disappointment and failure!" Yay!

Interesting. So the card that is coming up is "Vacation." Thank you, fairies!

So what I just heard in the energy is the reason why this card is coming up: a change of scenery.

If you've really been feeling like "I feel guilty," or "I feel like a failure," say you lost your job or the business tanked or the marriage is ending and going down divorce, then the fairies are sending you this message:

A change of environment can really help raise your vibration.

Once you're in that shifted environment, then look back with celebratory energy.

Sometimes things are so heavy, disappointing and immersive that the environment around us can really re-emanate that super low vibration, and your mind follows along with that.

The most stressful part of dealing with disappointment and failure is that we just keep turning it over and over.

But you have to understand that the room, the house, the building, the space that you are in reflects your mind and all of your mental, emotional vibrations.

She will continue to re-vibrate and replay all of what's been on your mind and on your heart, all that energy.

Energy of low-vibration emotions and thought, all of that that you've been putting out, she will continue to replay that and reverberate that back to you.

Changing your environment is really important if you've suffered a pretty serious failure or a big disappointment.

Go on a vacation. If you can't afford a vacation that's fine, go outside or go over to someone else's house, change the scenery and allow your space at home or at the office, to clear out.

It's cathartic always when we go through this clearing process after the business failed and we have to clear out the energy.

Clearing and rebooting is really good because it's clearing your mind.

Environment always effects and reflects the mind, and therefore shifting your environment from one space to another is really essential for dealing with disappointment.

The fairies want you to know that it's okay to give yourself permission to do that.

In the divorce, go over to your friends' or parents' house and spend some time with them. Allow someone to be nurturing to you who you know loves you no matter what.

If the term paper didn't go well and you have the wherewithal to do it, go down the shore (to the beach) and let the ocean wash away your pain.

Be in the mountains, get yourself in nature, or even go to the arcade and whack the mole. Delicious! I love playing Whack-a-mole when I'm pissed about something! LOL! 🙂

It's all about a change of scenery because that'll help you to shift out of that crappy, crusty vibration.

Don't wallow in the mud of the past, because it will just slow you down. 

I am sending you so much love, I'm surrounding you in the energy with white light and I will see you next week.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Celebrate your disappointments and failures! Shout and be silly: "YAY! I DID IT!" And then wait for it.... ????

As you clap and rejoice the fact that you tried, stay open to Spirit showing you any lessons you can learn about yourself and your life.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want to de-stress and clear your energy but don't know where to start? Tell me!

Give me a call at +1 (732) 903-8573 or click on the blue BOOK NOW button to start your healing journey, today!

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Have you ever had a project not work out the way you expected it to, and that threw you for a loop?

Beating yourself up over a failed business or relationship?

Annoyed that you have to start at square one, AGAIN?

Periodically life lets us down or we ourselves drop the ball; we all know that disappointment is just a part of life.

But sometimes when this happens, we can get caught in a toxic never-ending cycle of self-loathing and self-punishment.

Watch the above 10-minute video to begin breaking out of this toxic cycle of self-sabotage! 

"What do I need to know right now? What am I supposed to learn in this moment?"

Have you ever had a project not work out the way you expect it to?

Maybe the business failed, the relationship failed. Or you asked someone to do something, where you delegated something to another person and it didn't work out, and they didn't do it the way that you wanted it to be done.

You put so much work and effort into this project or paper or exam, and it comes back or goes through and you see that it nope, totally doesn't look like what you were hoping the outcome to be at all.

You sent out your college essay and nope, you got a rejection. Working out, eating clean, as best as you can, get on the scale, nope! No weight lost.

Disappointment, oh yeah. Failure... delicious! Lol!

If you're feeling, "I'm struggling with that right now, Victoria" this is not to make fun of you. I'm laughing because I'm in the mud with you, feeling you strongly so my heart is so open to you right now.

We're going to dive right into this, and laugh our way through the crap of life, together. 🙂

Source says that we have a tendency to ruminate and really draw out the failure event with our guilt and disappointment, chewing on it like a cow chewing on cud.

Cud is the stuff that comes out of all of her stomachs--what is it like 8 of them or something like that?

She chews so that she can continue the experience of getting through all of the nutrients in that grass for hours and hours and hours on end.

You don't need to be in that slow, drawn-out process, is what the Spirit is saying.

It's one way to approach failure and disappointment: to draw it out and say "This is exactly why I suck."

Or waxing poetic: "How many ways can I be horrible? Let me count the ways," or "Let's get creative! How can I express how much failure I am in 60 seconds? Go!"

My love, let me count the ways. No Shakespeare, stop it! Just stop. STOP!

The way that we want to deal with disappointment is to embrace her.

Failure must be embraced. To cast her away or pull her out and torture yourself is to drag yourself thought the mud excessively.

It's when we go into that process of self-deprecating behavior and masochism, the "I'm guilty, I feel so bad. Oh my god you washed the dishes for me, I feel so bad, I'm a failure at being helpful..." etc.

Interesting, one of the Spirits just said "be kind to yourself, if that's what you're going through." Again, this is not to make fun of you, but to help you see yourself.

Know this: Guilt and negative self-talk are low-vibrational forms of centering meditation. Be kind to yourself; there are better ways.

The energy says that whenever we experience failure or that strong sensation of being out of alignment, we come out of our bodies.

This happens because all of the energy that we have put out into that project or relationship, or into whatever, didn't work out. We funneled ourselves into that identity that we formed, we put so much of our energy into that and when it doesn't go through, we find ourselves outside of our bodies and our truth.

Guilt, disappointment and all of that negative rumination is a mistaken and low vibrational way of centering: you're coming back to a sense of self through masochism.

We see that you're trying to come back to center and recreate your identity after failure through guilt, like "Oh I know who I am because of what I am not." Ok.

That's a fallacy though, because that's going to take you farther away from who you really are as a divine being; this is what I'm seeing in the energy right now.

Be kind to yourself if that's where you're at.

You're just mistaken.

You see, in the moment that you are trying to re-center and find your authentic energy, you're striving to get to the point where you're thinking positively: "Okay, this is me, this is me. Phew! I'm all solid again, I'm not pushed out into all of this stuff around me that's failing and being disappointing. That person didn't do it the way I would. That doesn't mean I'm horrible." Or, "That relationship didn't work out, but that doesn't mean I'm a failure."

You're identity, Source says, is spread out too thin so that act of guilt and the act of drawn out disappointment and holding onto that sense of self-unforgiveness (which is guilt and dragging ourselves through the mud and resentment) is just an inverse way of trying to re-center.

We tell you this for a reason: See the light, even in the darkness.

The way that we best deal with disappointment is for searching for The Dark Gift in it.

I don't mean dark gift, like Dracula spookypants boogadeyboo, etc dark gift, lol.

What I mean by dark gift is gifts that we find in our shadow, gifts that the spirit sends through experiences.

And by the way, the spirit is constantly sending gifts, infinite amount of gifts you are receiving now.

Not in the past, you got them. Not in the future, that didn't happen. Now.

There is an infinite amount of gifts that are present to you and latent in the dark side of what's happening, like disappointments.

Those gifts in the darkness or in uncertainty or in your shadow are what we mean by dark -- not like boogedy evil, we don't mean that.

Dark Gifts are learning gifts.

They're there to help you embrace the disappointment, embrace the distraction, embrace the failure. You embrace by saying "I screwed up and I GET to LEARN from it."

One of my students awakened me to a wonderful quote years ago.

A quote by John C. Maxwell, "We always fail forward. Why? Because you tried."

Failing forward is the ability to get back up after you've been knocked down and to learn from your mistakes.

It really embodies this concept of embracing the dark gifts that disappointment is trying to send us.

In the previous video we talked about acceptance and how that can kind of be lubricant to life if you're feeling blocked or static.

Being in a state of Acceptance can help you figure out where's the stepping stone for you to take in this experience you're having now.

That absolutely applies here because in our disappointments, when things don't work out, there's always a way to look back at the process and see how could that have gone better and if it couldn't have gone better, reflect on "What do I need to know right now? What am I supposed to learn in this moment?"

Check back next week for part 2 of this love letter!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Pay attention to how you talk about and describe yourself today, listening for negative and guilt-laden language that's focused on past failures, shortcomings and disappointments.

When you catch yourself doing this, finish the following sentence to yourself: "I accept that I can't change what happened and I know I can only change myself and how I feel; so what I am learning right now is..."

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

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