Dear Love,

We stand at the precipice of the dawn of a new era in your life this week. 

​​With the Winter Solstice occurring this Thursday being the shortest day and the longest night of the year, it signals a time of rebirth. Your rebirth.

It is time for you to let go of the year behind you; to let go of the projects, the people, the dreams and relationships that are unrealized, unfinished, and unsalvageable.

Clear your cache. Empty your emotional and financial Trash bin.

What have you pushed back on to the backburner, indefinitely?
What have you hung up to slowly fade in to the background and be eaten away by the moths of mental abandonment and forgetfulness?

My spirit guides say there are things hanging in your energy like cobwebs - unfinished or unresolved initiatives​​​​​​​​​, conversations and promises - that are sneakily draining your energy in the background, similarly how leaving a ton of apps open on your device eats up its battery life.

But this week, we need to look at why you left these issues unresolved; and my guides say, it's to avoid dealing with the feeling of Disappointment.​​

Let's talk about it...

I explore this in detail in this week's video: CLICK TO WATCH on YouTube.

"Disappointment is hot lava; avoid it at all costs," chants the inner Perfectionist.

"And while you're at it, don't give in to any negative feelings at all. That's not allowed. You can't be wrong. Nope. You can't be negative. Nope. That's not allowed. No anger, no resentment, no frustration, no dissatisfaction, no betrayal, no confusion, no grief, no shame, no jealousy, no regret, no nothing..."​​

She continues, clenching her controller claws around your mind: "Must be positive. Must keep it together​​. Must put on a happy face. Must look successful. Must be fine. Must not let on. Must hide. Must keep going. Must keep up. Must power through it. Must not set off any alarms. Must be strong. Must not be weak. Must stay on top of things. Must..."

​​Denying your negative feelings is not dealing with them.
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In fact, it makes them worse, because when you deny admitting how you really feel, you drive the negative energy of your negative feelings deeper into your body and psyche, and this breeds disease and dysfunction.

Denying is lying.​​​
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To yourself, and to others.​

Still holding on to something - a person, project or plan - that is dead and gone?
Can't seem to let it go and move on to manifesting your next big thing?

If so, let me help you get the clarity you need to move forward:
CLICK TO BOOK A CLARITY CALL WITH VICTORIA NOW

Deep ​breath in... and exhale.

When we can't let go, when we can't admit​​ defeat, when we can't admit we were wrong, when we can't admit we aren't happy, when we can't admit we're angry, when we can't admit we are disappointed...we deny ourselves the right to Humanity.

The inner Perfectionist, the inner Controller - she is doing her best to protect you from how bad negative feelings feel. However, she is part of your Traumatized Mind. She is not part of your Healthy Mind.​​

Mistakenly, her version of protecting you from "bad things" is based in restricting your access to, and even erasing altogether, your authentic feelings​​ that lie outside the range of "acceptable" feelings to have - it's as if you're trying to play music on a grand piano by only using 7 out of he 88 keys. You lack range of expression.

There is beauty and power in the high notes, and there is power and healing in the low notes. They're all yours, and they're all part of your Whole story.

My spirit guides say that this week, you are being called to step in to the full range of your soul's expression, including all of you: the highs and the lows.

And with it being the longest nights of the year this week, this is the best time to embrace the power and healing laying in wait for you in your Shadow. It's time to dive into the Dark Gift of Disappointment.​​​​​​
I go in to this in detail in this week's video. Click the link or video above to watch.

Remember:

You create your reality. You create your flow.

You also can destroy your flow.
The choice is yours.

In case you were not aware: you are not alone in this. We are walking this journey of universal service (as conscious entrepreneurs) and spiritual ascension (as spiritual beings).

The fight to stay grounded and clear in mind, body and business is a daily one. I know.

So I will continue to share these messages out of devotion to my soulmate clients who may be watching from the sidelines; to my Loves who are up at 3am praying for the strength to keep serving their clients and community, praying for a safe place and a safe person who can help them accept themselves, too. Someone who can help them clear their energy, get out of their own way and finally grow and flow into their goals of having massive positive impact. 

Is that you? (Or someone you know?)
If so, I see you, and I am here when you are ready.

You are enough.
You are ready.
You are worthy.

I believe that you do not have to lose your glow as you grow in life and business. 
I believe that you have what it takes to make your vision happen, and that with a little extra love, you will see it manifest and come to fruition.

And that's what I'm here for. If you sense that you need to ground and clear or balance and align your energy in your life and business, and are seeking support in doing so, don't hesitate to reach out. 

You are not weird or crazy for sensing it - it's NORMAL! 
Well, our tribe's "normal." *wink*

As an empath AND an entrepreneur myself, I understand that your energy is everything, especially in businessman a very deep and personal level. 

Your energy is everything because when you feel better, you do better.
It's that simple. 

And when you're energy is off kilter, you feel stressed, stuck and scattered, and that can stop you in your tracks, which cuts off the universal flow of abundance and positive manifestation in your life. 

Manifestation of health, love, money, energy, progress...
I can help you with that.

So let's talk about it -  I'm just one text message away: book your session by clicking below or texting "PRIVATE SESSIONS PRICING" to +1-732-903-8573 for private session pricing and scheduling options now.

With love, that you may shine your light,

S. Victoria

Sensei Victoria Whitfield - Personal Energy and Business Coach for Spiritual CEOs, Business Reiki Master™ | Strategic Meditation for High Performance | Intuitive Business Development | Personal Energy Mastery 

Web: VictoriaWhitfield.com
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Dear Love,

Lately all we do is rush, rush, rush.

"Hurry up!"
"Get the lead out!"
"Pick up the pace."
"Get a move on."
"You snooze, you lose."

Why are you always rushing yourself?

Especially when you know that you don't do nearly as good a job when you rush yourself as when you take your time. Where is this coming from?

Perhaps you were rushed by well-meaning family, teachers or friends as a child, and so you learned to rush yourself so that you don't have to endure their shame and nagging.

Or maybe you were made to feel slow or stupid when you didn't react or think as fast as others, and so you learned from them to be impatient with yourself, as a rule of thumb.

My spirit guides are saying to watch out this week for rushing yourself, because that is fueling your pattern of self sabotage.

Let's talk about it:

I explore this in detail in this week's video: CLICK TO WATCH on YouTube.

In an alternate, negative universe, everybody wins when you sabotage your own progress, and everybody wins when you are distracted.

You win because you are off the hook and don't have to deal with upsetting your status quo.
Others win for the same reason; they are let off the hook not having to deal with you upsetting their status quo.

And, anyone who is seeking power and control over you and others wins, because the less progress you make, and the less you have the ability to focus, the more you are a compliant pawn in helping them realize their agenda.

My spirit guides say that if you are reading this email though, the above idea makes your skin crawl, because the last thing you want is to be somebody else's pawn, let alone make no progress and have everything remain the same.

You and me both!

But if that's the case, then why are you allowing yourself to be distracted so often, especially while doing what you love or spending time with people you love? 

I'll tell you why: focus is a CHOICE and a skill to be developed.

Are you having a hard time getting and staying focused?
Can't seem to stop sabotaging your progress, and wonder if you're blocked?

If so, let me help you get the clarity you need to move forward:
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Technology rewards us for handing over our ability to make our own choices on what to pay attention to because we are currently living in the Age of Attention.
Read that sentence again.

Notifications, pop ups, funnels, commercials, apps, ai-driven data results, social media doom scrolling, algorithms, tracking cookies and ads guide our decisions on what to focus on through a constant stream of interruptions.

Calculated colors, sounds, branding, haptics (the vibrations of your device), editing and catchy sayings stimulate our senses to trigger pleasure sensations in the brain and associate Their Choice with pleasure. 

This influences what we focus on, without us even knowing most of the time.

And, "wherever your awareness goes, energy flows" so that means your energy is being siphoned away from what you want to focus on and instead to Their Choice for you to focus on, so that your energy can fuel the realization of Their agenda.

Who are "They"? It doesn't matter; They are not YOU.

Just for today, focus on YOU and Your unique point of view, on moving the needle forward on Your agenda and choosing Your Choice.

And the secret for reconnecting to You and Your ability to focus is practicing the art and skill of Pausing Powerfully, as you go about your day, each day, this week.I go in to this in detail in this week's video. Click the link or video above to watch.

Remember:

You create your reality. You create your flow.

You also can destroy your flow.
The choice is yours.

In case you were not aware: you are not alone in this. We are walking this journey of universal service (as conscious entrepreneurs) and spiritual ascension (as spiritual beings).

The fight to stay grounded and clear in mind, body and business is a daily one. I know.

So I will continue to share these messages out of devotion to my soulmate clients who may be watching from the sidelines; to my Loves who are up at 3am praying for the strength to keep serving their clients and community, praying for a safe place and a safe person who can help them accept themselves, too. Someone who can help them clear their energy, get out of their own way and finally grow and flow into their goals of having massive positive impact. 

Is that you? (Or someone you know?)
If so, I see you, and I am here when you are ready.

You are enough.
You are ready.
You are worthy.

I believe that you do not have to lose your glow as you grow in life and business. 
I believe that you have what it takes to make your vision happen, and that with a little extra love, you will see it manifest and come to fruition.

And that's what I'm here for. If you sense that you need to ground and clear or balance and align your energy in your life and business, and are seeking support in doing so, don't hesitate to reach out. 

You are not weird or crazy for sensing it - it's NORMAL! 
Well, our tribe's "normal." *wink*

As an empath AND an entrepreneur myself, I understand that your energy is everything, especially in businessman a very deep and personal level. 

Your energy is everything because when you feel better, you do better.
It's that simple. 

And when you're energy is off kilter, you feel stressed, stuck and scattered, and that can stop you in your tracks, which cuts off the universal flow of abundance and positive manifestation in your life. 

Manifestation of health, love, money, energy, progress...
I can help you with that.

So let's talk about it -  I'm just one text message away: book your session by clicking below or texting "PRIVATE SESSIONS PRICING" to +1-732-903-8573 for private session pricing and scheduling options now.

With love, that you may shine your light,

S. Victoria

Sensei Victoria Whitfield - Personal Energy and Business Coach for Spiritual CEOs, Business Reiki Master™ | Strategic Meditation for High Performance | Intuitive Business Development | Personal Energy Mastery 

Web: VictoriaWhitfield.com
Mobile: +1-732-903-8573

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We're starting off a new series now and it's specifically on rocking your retrograde.

And so starting now and over the next four videos we're going to talk about exactly how to get the most out of being in mercury retrograde. And here's the reason why you should care as an energy sensitive and spiritual entrepreneur or business owner, or you're just someone who is professional and out and working during this time and you can pick up on the energy.

Here's why you need to know about this: For one, oh my goodness, mercury retrograde comes about four times a year and it's for three weeks each and every time. At the filming of this video, mercury retrograde has just begun so you're getting that retrogrady energy as well as you watch it.

So be kind to yourself if you're starting to feel a little bit off. And so if you're used to being on your game, expecting all the technology and the travel to work, expecting you to be completely dead on with all of your speaking and presentations, expecting others to understand exactly what you're communicating. If you're used to things swimming along and being super productive without interruption, mercury retrograde is a lovely kick in the patoodie.

Because we're being invited to come outside of that normal productivity cycle. And let's talk about why that happens. Before we get to that, I just want to make it clear, if you're like, "Oh my God Victoria, I have no idea what mercury retrograde is," what's happening? I don't understand. Wonderful. 101 as far as mercury retrograde is, it's when astrologically there's an optical illusion in the night sky of the planet mercury going in the opposite direction instead of heading in it's typical orbit through the night sky. And the reason why is because from our vantage point, mercury is going on the edge, the very thin dip. It doesn't revolve in a perfect circle in it's transit through space. It's a very long oval. And when it gets to that long oval point, right there at the point, it starts looking, from our vantage point, our own perspective, that things are going backwards. And astrologically speaking, mercury governs communication, commerce, business, technology and travel.

From our perspective, from our vantage point, all of these areas look like they're going backwards. It looks like there's problems cropping up. And it happens for three weeks four times a year. Sometimes three times a year but it's usually around four times a year. This is a quarterly, semi-quarterly occurrence. Be kind to yourself if you're susceptible to natural energy, forces of nature. We're going to be talking over the next four videos how you can, instead of feeling like everything's going backward and hitting the fan for you, you can actually catch this wave of deep clearing and healing energy that the universe is sending us. And you can use it specifically to deepen your own healing as well as improve all of the systems and standard operations within your travel, your technology, commerce and communications.
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So this is a time for up leveling, right? So we've got to rock our retrogrades because you have been asking for more. You're in your manifesting process, you're open to being all that you can be. And in nature, the way that she copes with becoming more than what she was before is by molting, right? We have seasons. Whether you're looking at bird, right, or a deer's antlers or a bird shedding her feathers, molting, or the deer molting his antlers or the snake shedding skin, it's because there's growth happening.

Or here in New Jersey we have four seasons. So we're going into fall in a little bit, otherwise known as autumn. And the leaves fall, right? The trees themselves are molting because this is a process of sustainable productivity. You're witnessing one of the steps in the process of sustainable productivity. The next time you see something go a bit awry or is not working the way that you used to expect it to in your communication, travel, technology or commerce, in those areas of your life, for this week in particular, be on the lookout for that. Because you have to acknowledge that there is progress. This is one step in the right direction of letting go.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. I'm going to pop up a wee bit closer so you can see them. Back with you, Indigo Angel Oracle cards deck. This is for those of us who are energy sensitive. Thank you, Doreen Virtue for creating this deck to keep us inspired when the energy gets a bit thick and a bit tough to move through. So Angels, what do we need to know right now about rocking our retrograde? And allowing the molt?

Oh yeah. Self reflection. So good. Kind of the perfect segue to what we're going to be speaking about for the next few videos. Self reflection. The angels are bringing this card forward, in particular, to help you slow down and take a good look at who you think you are and who you really are. Right? The reason why we're "molting" is because you have been so filled, so productive and so ready, you've taken in so much brilliance that it's time to let go of who you think you are, the mini you and make room for who you really are. The next iteration of your brilliance. The next level of your business, the next program that you are being called to launch or the next book that you're being pulled to write.

There's a shedding process of your self that has got to take place naturally in order to allow that to happen. So send me an email back, comment below, what comes up for you around this topic? Are you feeling the molt? Right? Be kind to yourself, we're slowing down in our productivity cycle seasons. So let me know what comes up for you around taking time for ore self reflection, journaling, just being aware. You're going to be okay, we're in it together. And if you have more questions and you do want more support, especially during this time, go ahead to victoriawhitfield.com/contact. Get on my calendar and let's connect, you  and me one on one to talk about your unique situation.

I'll see you next week, make sure you subscribe on YouTube so you get these love letters first every weekend. Bye.

(Original post date 08/06/2018)

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Just for today...

Let go and allow "The Molt" to happen this time.

See your fatigue, frustration or lack of focus as a sign of you shedding what no longer serves you in life and business.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...

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Are you, or is someone you know, a workaholic?

Worried that if you say "no" when people who ask for help, that you'll be mean or they won't like you?

Drowning in projects and things to manage, at work AND at home?

It's easier to just give in and say "yes" and be seen as helpful, than to stand your ground and say "no" and be seen as possibly selfish.

But when we do that, we add another project on to our already overwhelmed plate of "helpfulness" - perhaps this is more than just being helpful, perhaps it's now an addiction.

Watch this week's 15-minute love letter for the fifth and final installment in our 5-week deep dive on self care versus self sabotage to send healing to our relationship with (personal and professional) help-a-holism.

"I never feel like I'm doing enough."

We've been on a five-week-long deep dive into the dance that we empaths do between self-care and self-sabotage. All the different ways that we stand in the way of shining our light to our fullest potential. I'm really grateful. I just want to thank you for tuning in for week five.

I want to thank you for all your support over the years, of the love letters, my gosh. What? We're going on four or five years straight of love letters. I just want to thank you for your continued support.

This week in particular, we're going to focus on self-sabotage around workaholism and help-a-holism, fix-a-holism. Helping, and fixing, and putting out all the fires, and working all the limbs all day. Those of us who are highly sensitive individuals who are naturally empathic, who are naturally intuitive. Last week we discovered your call to be a healer, your call to healing leadership. You're sensitive for that reason.

But this week is the dark side of that, where you can be so driven to help, and to fix, and to take care give, and to take responsibility; but you lose yourself. Not only lose yourself, you may even hurt yourself.  Be kind yourself, if this is you. This last one, baby, is for you. This is our swan song, yes?

Workaholism, guides say that the soul craving behind that, or that the hidden feeling driver behind helping everybody, and fixing everything, and working constantly. The addiction to work, and projecting.

Not just projecting stuff, we're projecting people, like in your relationships, yes, yes? Maybe this isn't you, maybe we're talking about somebody else. We can pretend.

But, maybe let that obsession with being everybody's caregiver, taking care of everybody and everything. What's the hidden driver behind that?

And the guides say that it is the feeling of, "I'm not good enough. I'm not doing enough. I am good when I am doing. I am only good when I am doing."

Doing good, doing stuff for other people, pleasing others, when I'm gaining approval. Yes, yes? When I'm gaining recognition, I am worthy based on my output ... which is faulty.

Yes, it is good to do good things and to help others. This is not to say that you shouldn't be helping other people, and that you should be like, "All right, screw you all, I'm going home." Right? Pulling a Cartman. No, that's not what we're talking about here.

As much as that sounds fabulous to one of you ... I just heard someone in the energies saying, "I want to tell everyone, 'Go away.'" If that's you ... Bear with me, we're going to make it through this.

But, what's also coming up behind that, as your working, working, working and saying yes to everything; the flipside is the fear of saying, "no." Our lack of boundaries is fueling this relentless need for approval and affirmation. In the workplace, or in the eyes of someone that you helped, or getting to see their transformation so you feel worthy, because they had an outcome or you had an impact on them.

What happens, however, when there's nothing to do, no one to save, nothing to fix? The big question is, are you still worthy? Are you still lovable? Are you still acceptable? Are you still good? Are you still okay, as a person if you don't have something to do, something to do, something to do? This is a big one. When we have this addiction, this also expresses as a lack of boundaries.

What are boundaries? This is the million-dollar word for every single empath like, ever: boundaries. Boundaries are the invisible lines that separate what is you and what is not you; what is yours and what is not yours.

Now, from a spiritual perspective, yes, there is the universal law of oneness, which says, "All that is, is one." But that doesn't mean you have to do everything all the time, or that everything that's yours belongs to everybody else, or that you don't have any selfness. You don't have a worth because you don't have a self.

No. That's not what that is saying. Instead, that's just to appreciate the interconnectedness and interdependence of all of life, and all that is. However, we're talking about this turning into co dependence. Codependency is when you depend on someone or something outside of you for a sense of emotional security, to give you your emotional security, or even your identity. You're depending on them.

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Workaholism, for example, my dad was a lawyer, I'm a lawyer, my kids are going to be a lawyer. If I ever lose this job, I don't know what I'm gonna do; where your job defines your personality. That's a codependent relationship. That means that you are at risk of losing yourself if that thing shifts at all. You've given all your power over to the thing that you are dependent upon.

Be kind to yourself if this is speaking to you. I don't know who this message is for, but I'm sharing it anyway, following spirit's guidance. With that, also, where we have the sense of addiction to getting things done and putting out fires, putting out fires putting out fires. Whenever we put out a fire, we get that little bit of, "Yay, I did it." And that, "Yay," is what we're addicted to, of winning and the feedback loop of, "I'm putting out and I'm receiving, putting out and I'm receiving."

That's why so many men end up becoming not present at home, because the job is what gives them recognition and affirmation constantly, and you come home to a wife that is just not paying attention, and not able to give you that feedback. It is, unfortunately, natural to become addicted more to work, where you're recognized, and you feel like you have an impact in the relationship more with your job than your own partner. Scary.

That happens to women, too, I'm not just talking about men, okay. I hear my guide saying, "This happens to the ladies, too," where work or the kids become more important than their partner, because there's something to work on. There's always something. The mom-ness becomes the identity rather than yourself being your identity, becoming codependent to the children.

Be kind to yourself if this is you. Now, this week in particular, the guides are saying, "How do we get out of this?" This addiction to working and losing ourself without our boundaries. Well, is to have values. This week in particular, you want to focus on writing out a list of what your core, desired feelings and your most prioritized values are in life. Allow your schedule to be according to what you prioritize most, what you value the most.

First things first, as they say. I believe that's in the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Put first things first. Is family really important to you? If so, where is family in your schedule? This week, we want to put, "What are your core desired feelings?" I want to feel free, I want to feel abundant, I want to feel loved, I want to feel sensual. Where are those feelings in how you spend your time each day? Rather than letting the thing that you are co dependently addicted to, such as the work or the caregiving, et cetera rather than letting only that determine how you spend your time.

This is going to shift your relationship with your workaholism. Your addiction is going shift. If you can just get clear on, "What are your core, desired feelings, and what are your most prioritized values?"

We forget, we're in that tunnel of, "I'm doing stuff, I'm doing stuff, I'm doing stuff. I'm so productive, I'm so busy. I'm doing all this busy stuff." There's a difference between being busy and actually being in business. There's a difference between being busy and actually being focused.

This, our core, desired feelings and our most prioritized values are what are going to help us clarify that. To end, Doreen Virtue, Angel Therapy; yet another one of our Doreen Virtue decks. Angels, what we need to know this week? To round off our five-week deep dive into the dance between self sabotage and self care. "Listen to your intuitive feelings."

Listen to your intuitive feelings. Your body is receiving accurate messages from the divine. This is perfect, given what we're talking about.

One of the main reasons why we can get stuck in, or create stuck-ness in a codependent, workaholic, fixaholic relationship is because we'll drown out the sensations of our body. We're not in touch. We're not in touch with ... "Oh, my neck is starting to hurt because it's 10:00 PM and I'm still at work."

We'll just keep going, going, going. Or, you know what? I actually ... I'm not really hungry for that extra candy bar, as we talked ... The second week was food. I'm not actually hungry for that chocolate candy bar. Actually, I'm craving love and affection.

Instead of shoving a chocolate candy bar down my throat so I can stay working at the computer all the livelong day, instead I'm going to reach out to receive some physical touch, or love and affection from a loved one. Listen to your feelings.

Your sensitivity is your strength here, and it's the gateway to your next level in life. Send me an email back, comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you around this, and how has this series been for you?

Are you liking the multi-week deep dives? Let me know, let me know.

Source has been telling me that you and I have got to develop a deeper relationship, and go deeper into the information, rather than just doing one idea a week. Nah, let's go there. Let's go there together, okay?

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters every week, and I'll see you next time. Muah, bye

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Just for Today...

Put first things, first.

Write a list of your core values and core desired feelings, and see if you're spending your time each day accordingly.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...

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What are the symptoms of turning into a techno-zombie?

Have you Become One with your Netflix and DVR accounts?

Bit by the Email Timesuck Vampire AGAIN? There goes another three hours!

FOMO or Fear of Missing Out has driven us as empathy and as entrepreneurs to be literally attached at the hip to our cellphones and other tech at all times.

And as technology continues to innovate, it's getting harder and harder to tell the difference between being productive and being distracted by it.

Watch this week's 14-minute love letter video for the third installment of our 5-week deep dive into self-care versus self-sabotage, and start healing your relationship with technology.

"I carry my phone everywhere."

We are on week three of five in our deep dive into the dance that we empaths do, between self-care and self-sabotage, right? Dancing that fine line like a boss, or not.

Kind of like a slave, right? If we're really looking at what are our addictions? How are we soothing ourselves versus actually caring for ourselves, right?

Last week, we talked about food, right? And emotional stuffing, how we use food to stuff our feelings, our empathic overwhelm down, so be kind to yourself if that's you, or if you haven't seen that, go ahead and go back in the playlist on YouTube, or back on the earlier blog post on victoriawhitfield.com. You'll see it there.

This week, this is a bit of like a meta-analysis, right? It's the analysis of the actual thing that's happening right now, is technology.

Social media and technology! It's so good, right?

How are we doing self-care versus self-sabotage, with all this technology stuff all over us, right? How impersonal does this feel, by the way, now that you can see my phone as I'm talking to you? Like, it's changed the whole look.

I'm not acting any differently, but now that I'm looking at or having my phone on camera, that feels different talking to you, versus you having my full attention. Hmm. So this is something that we have got to talk about, because you and I are looking at each other thanks to technology right now, right?

Current research says cell phone users touch their phone - they don't even really use it, they just touch it - between 2,500 and 5,500 times per day, spending an average of two to five hours within the screen, and this is just the phone, right?

I didn't even look at TV, or look at computer, laptop, or billboards, and GPS, and all the technology, and then other people's phones, and TVs, and laptops, and computers, and yada yada yada, the list goes on.

It's total technological immersion that we've got going on right now, and yes, it's connectivity, but there's a difference between connecting and feeling connected, right?

So with our phones, and all of these screens that we have around us, there is an emotional need that we are fulfilling, so this week in particular, my guides are bringing forward the Erickson, who came up with the six human needs?

So everybody has basic, human needs, right? That have got to be fulfilled in order for us to feel safe, happy, and fulfilled in life.

Even just normal, right, filling our needs is necessary for satisfying our baseline as human beings. It's just natural, and the six human needs are certainty, right? To know things that are going to be the same.

You know what the outcome is going to be. You know what to expect, right? Certainty. "I'm certain." Also, then, uncertainty. So, to know things are going to be spicy, and interesting, and we'll have adventures, and spontaneity, and diversity, right? Uncertainty.

Next is connection and love, so those two are kind of grouped together, but this is to feel connected to those around us, feel connected to something outside of ourselves, right? To be involved, to be in relationship of some sort. It doesn't even have to be with a human being, right? I think in Japan, they're marrying robots, some people are. Google it.

Four is significance. So, to know that you matter, or that you've been seen, and recognized, and acknowledged, that you're not just operating in a vacuum, but that, "Oh, I'm significant to something, someone, somehow," or, "I am significant," right? Those are our four universal, basic human needs. Everybody's into this. The last two are more spiritual in nature.

Number five is for growth. So, the need to feel like there's progress being made, that we're moving forward, or that we're getting better with time, things are developing momentum. Then six is for contribution, so to know that you have a legacy, or that you made a difference, that you taught something, or somebody, that there was an impact that was made. Those are our six human needs.

Now, if you just have three of those human needs, it's an addiction. Anything above that, you can forget about it. It'll dominate your life.

Technology, how many of those six human needs, right? Already, yes, we're going in to connect, right? Trying to connect, stay connected, get connected. How many times do you see that online, or on the computer, or wherever you're looking, whatever screen you're sucking on, right?

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Then, certainty, to know that everything is the same. I know the weather is the same as it's expected, right? Then uncertainty, "Ooh, look at this different shiny object, or squirrel on a pole, dancing," or something on Facebook.

So we've already got three there. Oh no! Then, well we've got contribution, posts, right? Like, comment, engage, subscribe. Legacy, oh no!

So, I'm sure I missed one, but you fill in the blank. Our human needs are absorbed in these screens, that are following us around all day.

Source wants you to know that the feeling behind that, the spiritual truth behind that, one is you're feeling lonely, bored, under-stimulated, anxious, and impatient. These are all the uncomfortable feelings that we'll have that will cause us to reach, those 2,500 to 5,500 times for our phone, for example, in a given day.

Unbelievable. I'm still flabbergasted by that number, but hey, you know, it's what the research says, as of 2017. So, be kind to yourself if that's you, right? You live with your phone, or you talk with your phone, or your phone is always on your hip, on your boob, on your ... Screens everywhere.

It's those low vibe feelings, though, that we are trying to escape. So this is what we want to honor this week, in particular, with your energy, is how are you escaping life? So this is our form of self-care, right? We're trying to care for these feelings of emptiness, loneliness, feeling bored, or under-stimulated, or even curious.

We're caring for that by escaping, right? Taking off, into the bowels of Google, or into the depths of Netflix, right? Or wherever you're going, in technology. Technology is meant for you to feel connected and have access. It does not put limits on you.

Now, there is an app, one of my awesome clients ... Hi, Elaine! She uses, called Moment, which is tracking you, how many minutes you've been on your phone, and you can start to raise your own self-awareness of, "Oh my gosh, I've been eating my phone for the last few days," right? It tracks your usage. Moment. It looks like a light green and white flower, if you're looking for it in the App Store, to help you, and it'll also give you alerts to put your phone down.

You've met your limit, right? But most technology is built for access, like this infinite connectivity and access, and that is a breeding ground for addiction and escaping away from your natural energy. Very, very, very un-grounding.

So this week in particular, Source is asking us instead, to unplug at the Deep Dive Retreat. Every year, we practice three whole days unplugged, and yes, we go through withdrawal, and yes it's intense, but it's amazing what happens when you go back to being a natural human being. Suddenly you can see flowers, and smell the ocean breeze, or even just, if you're not by the ocean, you're just alive, and aware, "Oh, this part of my body aches. Ooh, I feel like moving more," right? You're so much more in tune to your health, and to your energy, when you start practice unplugging strategically.

So that's your assignment for this week. Here's the Oracle Card deck. Let me pull this right quick, before we run out of time. Indigo Angel Oracle Cards deck. Another Doreen Virtue deck. One of, I believe, 21 now. Angels, what do we need to know this week, about oh God, screen-sucking?

Ah, time to create. This is where we'll leave off. You know, the bright side of technology is that it gives us an incredible myriad of platforms for expressing our creativity. I double dare you to get creative when you feel the urge to screen-suck, whether it's TV, laptop, tablet, phone, right? When you get the urge to screen-suck, do something creative. Maybe it's change your clothes, or primp yourself, or start drawing, or make a paper shape, or whatever you can do to get creative.

What's coming up for you? Comment below, send me an email back, what happened when you did that? What are you going to plan to do? Are you going to plan to draw? I love doodling, by the way. I doodle on all receipts, so whenever I'm out eating, or shopping, or whatever, I doodle on every receipt that goes back to the waiter.

So, how are you going to express your creativity this week, instead of jumping on that technology thingy? It's going to suck your energy and your time away, right? Let me know. I'm excited to see it, right? And share your poem, share your images, share your songs. I would love to see them. If you want to post a video back, I can't wait to see you.

All right, are you ready for it? We'll see you next week for week four. Bye.

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Wondering why you’re feeling blocked and stagnant?

Wishing you could manifest more abundance of health, wealth and love?

Spending  most of your work days feeling frustrated, anxious and even bored to death?

Sounds like you have got a Pleasure Emergency!

And the less pleasure you have, the less energy you have - not just physical energy, but also creative energy, too.

Watch this week’s 11-minute Love Letter video, the final of our 4-Part series on Your Daily PRP’s, to reconnect to pleasure and putting it as a top priority in your daily life.

"I eat the same thing for dinner every night."

We have made it to week four of four in our series on your daily PRPs.

These three essential nutrients to having you full of energy and stamina as you pursue your passion and purpose in life. A lot of people are missing out on their PRP nutrients and you are not going to be one of those after this series.

How's it been going thus far? By the way, if you're listening to me say this, you're like, "What the heck is a PRP, I don't understand." Stop this video, go back to week one, right? Go on YouTube, go back to week one where we define all of the terms, and set the stage for why this is important. Go check that out.

Without further ado, this week in particular, we're going to introduce you to the third and final letter in that acronym of PRP. P stands for pleasure. This is your pleasure week.

In particular, the guides want you to understand that your pleasure is abundance. It's not just you enjoying things, or being selfish, or anything like, but no, no, no, no, let's talk about this on a whole nother spiritual energetic level.

Valuing your pleasure, let's talk about it. When we're adulting, when we're adulting, right? We learn that our productivity is way more important than play, right? Being productive, and having high output, and being effective, and responsible, all of that.

You know, we've talked about that before in a previous week about play. We prioritize it higher than our play, and also higher than our pleasure, and higher than our rest. Be kind to yourself if that's what comes to you. Where you're moving from day to day and each day is gray, predictable, monotonous, the rat race, boring.

You spend your time on Facebook, or on your phone, because you're bored, right? Playing Candy Crush because you're bored, right? There's this lack of enjoyment, and the juice, to life.

Be kind to yourself if that's where you're at. This series is for you and this week especially is for shifting that. Especially so that you can value your pleasure. Not just in a Candy Crush pleasure sort of way, but no, let's get specific.

I'm talking about your sensual pleasure. Now notice I said sensual and I did not say sexual, per se. Not knocking sexual pleasure, a essential, that's essential, right?

That's another nutrient, I would say it's a whole nother can of worms that is outside of the bounds of what we're talking about this video in particular, this week in particular.

I'm talking about sensual, as in your Aristotelian senses, sight, sound, taste, touch, and smell. Your sensual enjoyment is powerful because it grounds you. Emotionally and mentally enjoying sight, sound, taste, touch, and smell, throughout the day and really being present to that pleasurable smell, that pleasurable taste, that pleasurable texture, that pleasurable piece of art to look at.

Really enjoying those pleasurable sounds of running water, or birds chirping, or soft music, or jazz, or whatever you vibe with, right? The pleasurable sound even of the way that you talk, speech is a form of self massage, internal self sonic massage, by the way. Your pleasure is essential because it grounds you, first and foremost, into the present moment. Let's take this even farther.

Your pleasure, your sensual, your five sensual pleasure, grounds abundance for you in this present moment, right? Because the only reason why we're looking to manifest more abundance is because we want to feel good, abundance of any kind. It may be abundance of lovers, abundance of affection, abundance of money, abundance of time, whatever.

Whatever your version of abundance is, you're looking to feel good the having of it as Abraham Hicks says. In order for us to get into the vortex, or get into the flow, and get into alignment with that which we are manifesting, or receiving, and asking from source energy, from our creative spirit, the fastest way to do that is actually through your five senses. The enjoyment of the here and now.

If that is true, then your pleasure equals abundance. Abundance now, not later, but abundance here and now. The more abundant you can feel and be, the faster you will manifest the abundance that you have been visualizing.

Some examples of enjoying increased amounts of pleasure, sensual pleasure, throughout the day, so that you are energized and really relaxed, so that you have stamina to pursue your passion and purpose. It could be that you don't eat chicken and rice, chicken and rice every single night, chicken and rice. Chicken and ... Maybe you switch it up a little bit. Increase your sensual pleasure of the food that you are feeding yourself, with variety, or spice, whatever.

‪Know this: Your sensual enjoyment and pleasure is essential because it grounds you.

Perhaps it is in the clothes that you adorn yourself with, whether you are male or female, there's another level of energy that you carry yourself with, guys, when you wear a well tailored shirt that looks clean, you know what I mean. Like clean, you are looking good bro, right?

The way that you feel, that confidence, and strength, and brilliant beauty that radiates out of you when you're feeling put together. It is a whole nother level of energy that you're radiating and greeting the world with, because you feel a sense of pleasure and enjoyment in the wearing of that shirt. Ladies, I don't have to talk to you about shoes, dress, whatever. Whatever brings you pleasure.

Valuing your five sensual pleasure in the way that you conduct meetings at work. What beautiful art is in the room? Are there good smells? Did you wear something that you're enjoying? A scent, that you are enjoying. Not too strong, to respect other people's noses, or are there beautiful flowers? Is there a texture for you to enjoy?

How can you integrate five sensual pleasure into your work life, on to your desk, where you work, on a daily basis? That's your assignment for this week. That's the homework.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. Romance angels, Dorian Virtue Angel Cards deck, final pull for the month. Angels what do we need to know right now about valuing our pleasure as the way to manifest abundance now? Wow, this card has come back, and it's so essential though for what we're going through this month.

Religious Factors, your love life is influenced by your religious upbringing and spiritual path. It's a similar lesson from the last time this card came up earlier in this series. You may have come up in a belief system that told you that your pleasure is bad, right?

Now, be ethically sound in the way that you engage your pleasure. Not trying to push yourself on others. No, no, no, this is more about how you feel, and how you conduct yourself.

At the same time, there's this aspect of denial, being holy, or better, than others, that you can bear the pain better than other people. You can bear the monotony better than other people. Yeah, you're so tough, but that's exhausting energetically is the point that we want to make.

Be kind to yourself. If you've subscribed to the belief, it's become religious of you to say, "Well I'm going to live a bare life, or I'm going to bear it. I can take it. I can take it." Be kind to yourself. You don't have to. Try it this week. Just try out valuing and prioritizing your five sensual pleasure so that you can live abundantly now, and attract more abundance in the process.

Comment below, tell me what's coming up for you around this. What religious factors are coming up for you in relationship to pleasure and abundance. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get this love letters first every week. I will see you next time. Bye. 

(Original post 02/26/2018)

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Do you seldom feel truly rested?

Is it hard for you to relax, because you secretly think it’s a waste of time?

Wish you could increase your productivity and your wellness, instead of trading one for the other?

Type-A personalities tend to have a hard time really resting and feeling relaxed because they’re wired to value getting as many things done as possible above their feelings and wellbeing.

This can lead to chronic anxiety and stress, as well as cycles of depression and burnout if left unchecked.

Watch this week’s 10-minute Love Letter video, the third in our 4-week series on Your Daily PRP’s, to put an end to this vicious cycle and instead adopt a practice of restful productivity.

"I feel lazy when I take breaks."

This is week three of four in our four-week series on Your Daily PRPs.

If you don't know what PRP stands for, stop the video now and go back to week one where we explained exactly what PRPs are and why you need them. So, without further ado, if you do know what's going on, this week in particular we're going to cover the second letter in that acronym PRP, the R which stands for "Rest."

The reason why we get our daily PRP nutrition in is so that you have the energy and the stamina to pursue your passion and purpose for the long haul. This, when you implement is as a proactive regularized practice, whether it is on a daily basis or weekly, monthly, quarterly, yearly, right? However you schedule it in for yourself, it will stave off or even put an end to cycles of burnout, being overworked, feeling cranky, overwhelmed, and pushing yourself past your limit.

In particular, this week that we're talking about with rest is having restful productivity. I know that kind of sounds like an oxymoron, if I have any of my type As watching. Yay. All my creepy control enthusiasts, all my perfectionistas, yes, yes, where everything has got to be perfect. Be kind to yourself if that's you.

You might be burning the candle at both ends by adopting the type A, get it done perfectly as fast as possible, as efficiently as possible all the time. There's a way to be restful and productive at the same time.

Now, my guides have given me a four-step process to share with you this week in particular so that you can get to implementing restful productivity, so that you have the stamina to pursue your passion and purpose for the long haul. You ready for it?

Number one, unplug. Write this down, by the way. Get a pen and pad or open up another window, whatever you guys do or ... inscribe it on your brains.

Number one, unplug. In order to rest but also to be fully productive, your ability to focus, not just on a mental level but also a physical level is called for and unplugging is necessary. What does that mean? No TV, phone, tablet, laptop, computer, no plugging into technology. The less technology period you can be around ...

I was just talking about stuff that makes you connected to the worldwide webs-y things and cables and stuff. But if you wanna go completely native and have candlelight and all of that, the campfire, great. But, for those of us who are not able to do that, just unplug. Make it a point to unplug so that you can be focused on being restfully productive.

‪Know this: You can be restful AND productive.

Secondly, and this takes courage, it's time for you to rage. So, how are you going to rage? For some people it's getting at that heavy bag, and pow, pow, pow, pow. Let that bag have what it had coming! But, I also highly recommend that you use a written medium for your rage. So, have a rage journal. I have a rage journal, by the way.

Or, grab a piece of toilet paper and start writing on that, all the things that you hate, that annoy you, that make you angry, and cranky and frustrated. Write it out, write it out, write it out. Or, all those extra brown paper bags, time to write all over them. Write of all the things that you wanna get out of you and rage about. This is cathartic clearing. So, that's really going to help you be restful but it's also productive because you're bringing stuff up and out, getting it out of you.

Thirdly, is to release. The way that you release this practice is you can close the journal and leave it behind for a little bit, if you are okay with that. Or, if you need ultra secrecy take that toilet paper, flush it down the toilet. Let the crap go where it's supposed to, down the toilet pipes, right? Or, with your brown paper bag, rip it up into tiny pieces or even throw it in the fire pit and watch it burn. Bye-Bye! Right? Burn that crusty crap away.

So, release all of that energy that came out of you. Then leave it be. That you could do it for an hour, leave it be for an hour afterward, or even entire day, or week, who knows? What's important is the fourth and final step, and this is what makes it super productive, is to review. What came out of you, what you raged about, what makes you angry is actually what I call a dark gift, meaning a gift that comes in a darker kind of, not very attractive package, right? It's a learning gift.

So, the things that you raged about are signs and hints at where your boundaries are being overstepped. If you have any boundaries with love, right? Where you need more support in your life, in your business, or in your relationships. Where your desires are not being met. There's so much clarity that comes from raging and releasing and the review, that's fourth and final step, is essential for you grounding and receiving all of the gifts that came out of this restful productivity process at the end.

So, this is how to find your way through the resting process. Those of us who are type As, we tend to go on vacation, or enjoy the spa or have downtime and we're being as productive and go, go, go, as possible. We can't seem to turn off, can't seem to let go, because we gotta do everything on the list that we said we were going to do.

The reason why that happens is because you have pent up rage that you haven't released yet. So, this is your four steps process to be restful and productive. And you can do this. You can work it in, in many ways on a daily basis, in a little bit bigger ways on a weekly basis, more of a significant time space on the monthly or quarterly basis or once a year. Give yourself a bunch a time to really enjoy the sacred process.

So, I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy. This month in particular we're journeying all month with the romance angels, another Doreen Virtue oracle cards deck. Thank you for your donations. Always welcome to receiving more. So, angels, what do we need to know right now about restful productivity as our daily PRP? Calling in your soulmate. Calling in your soulmate. Your prayers, affirmations, and visualizations help bring you together. This is where we're going to leave off for the week.

The reason why calling in your soulmate is coming up, is because when we clear our energy, when we clear all of that rage and inflammatory thoughts and feelings, when we release our emotions, we create the space to receive our divine partnerships. First with ourselves! Remember, all of this is really about your relationship with you. But, also, for those around us we're more receptive to their love and their support, whether it's in personal or professional relationships.

So, calling in a partner who's able to meet those needs that you discovered weren't being met yet, starting with you being that partner for you. Comment below, send me an email back. What comes up for you around that?

Are you going to do some productive rest time?

Let me know how that goes. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week, and we'll see you next time. Bye!

(Original post 02/19/2018)

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Do you work hard and play hard?

And when you do, do you tend to overdo both?

Feeling annoyed that you work hard all the time and find yourself having less and less fun in life?

It seems that the minute we become adults that play loses its status as top-priority in day-to-day life.

We are told that play is silly, irresponsible and a waste of time, and somehow we believe it.

Watch this week’s 10-minute Love Letter video, the second in our 4-week series on your daily PRP’s, to shift your mindset to be play-positive and bring back the joy and fun in your life!

"I've lost my sense of adventure."

This is week two of four of our deep dive into PRPs, your daily PRPs.

Last week we defined exactly what is a PRP and why do you need it. We always start with why. If you have no idea what happened, stop now and go back. Go back and watch the previous video.

You can find it on YouTube or on my blog. The link should be somewhere, wherever you clicked. With that being said, this week let's talk about the first of that acronym, PRP.

So the first word in that is play. What the guides want you to know this week is that you've got to shift your mindset around play. It's time for you to shift your mindset around play. Often we are taught to work hard, play hard, work hard, play hard, work hard, play hard. Right?

That's even a chant sometimes, or even in a Nike video, or something like that, some other marketing, work hard, play hard. It's seen as strong and outgoing and fitnessy to work hard and play hard.

What does that end up looking like in our lives? So we're working, playing, working, playing, working, playing.

Where we're going, going, going in one direction, and then going, going, going in another. So that, in both directions, whether we're working or we're playing, we're going hard and we're over doing it.

That is not natural, first and foremost, you gotta hear this. And also that is not compassionate. Lastly, it's not sustainable.

So, it's time for you to shift your mindset around how you play, instead of working hard and playing hard, this week in particular, and forever more going forward, let's commit to working smart and playing smart. You may have heard before, "Don't work hard, work smart." But, have you also heard, "Don't play hard, play smart," right?

The two go together. In nature you never see a plant or an animal or any type of weather pattern, et cetera producing everything it could possibly do, and then dive. Right? Or completely crashing and burning. There is balance.

‪Know this: ‪‪“Work hard, play hard” is not natural, compassionate or sustainable. Shift your #mindset to work smart AND play smart, every day.

Think of ocean waves, there is a constant ebb and flow, and because of that there is perpetual motion of the waves washing on the shore. There are seasons, cycles of energy, cycles of temperature, and weather, et cetera that allows for life to perpetuate. There are life cycles where it's a constant.

Your breath is going in and going out, if you only exhaled, what happens? That's what happens. Right?

That is not natural. And that is not compassionate, and that is not sustainable. So we want you to shift your mindset around how you play. So, working smart, you're a smart cookie, I'm sure you're already working smarter.

Right? You've got life hacks going, you may have hired people or are in the process of looking for people to help you out with texts.

You've got your kids, they cook and they wash clothes. You're working smart, great. Let's turn it up another notch and get you playing smart. So what would that look like? This is a two way conversation, I'm not just teaching at you. Right? This is for your inspiration. Some examples, and I want you to post below, how do you play smart?

For this week in particular, I would highly recommend that you intersperse play throughout your day. How can you make your morning and evening commute more playful? How can you add more playful elements to your work space, or even to your meetings?

How can you add more playful elements to your home life and your personal spaces, or your interactions with your friends? How can you bring play in?

For some people that's enjoying toys. Just bringing in something silly, like a slinky and leaving it on your desk at work for people to play with while their talking to you. Right? Or it could be a funny game that you play with your family. It could be enjoying exercise and movement in the middle of the day. Have recess when you go for lunch. Right? Or, listening to comedy as you drive to and from work.

Here's the thing. Remember what we said the first week, reason why we're doing this is so that you have stamina for the marathon of life, stamina for the marathon of pursuing and living your passion and purpose. So, the more play that you integrate throughout the day, the lower your crankiness and resentfulness about going and doing your day to day work will be, because you're having fun.

That's your challenge for this week. How can you integrate more play? I don't care how old you are or how crusty, crunchy, crotchety, crumply, you are, all the crunchy sounds. I don't care, figure it out. You deserve to play and enjoy every day, rather than once in a blue moon, have some fun.

Know every single day there can be play. How can you integrate more playfulness into your wardrobe, into your marketing materials? To all my entrepreneurs. How can you integrate more playfulness into your day to day life as an essential vitamin, an essential mineral in your daily diet?

The oracle cards for the week? The romance angels oracle cards deck. Angels, what do we need to know right now about playing? Positive playfulness. Playing smart.

Oh la la. Oh la la. Passion. Something's throbbing, oh my. Allow your heart and soul to sing with joy. Passion, this is where we're going to leave off for the week.

If your relationship with yourself, yourself first, has lost the fire and the flame and the sparkle, the sense of fun and adventure that you used to have, that creative inspiration or sparkle, if you lost your passion or your mojo, or your juice, however you say it, if you've lost your passion, here's how you start. Here's how you start. Allow your heart and soul to sing with joy. Allow yourself to insert more joy into your day to day.

How are you going to do it? Comment below. Send me an email back. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first, every week. I'm so excited to see how you play. All right we'll see you next week. Bye.

(Original post 02/12/2018)

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Make it a point to do activities and listen to things that are fun and make you laugh.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Feeling cranky lately?

Frustrated that you’re always on the go and never seem to feel “rested”?

Find yourself daydreaming about sleeping in, quitting your job or even running away?

Sounds like you’re exhausted from working too hard!

And not just at work, but also at home, too...

Watch this week’s 9-minute Love Letter video, the first of our 4-week series, on why it’s time for you to start valuing you “PRP’s” on a daily basis so you can get out of your rut.

"It would be lazy for me to take time for play and rest every day."

This is the first of a four-week installment, a brand-new four-week installment on your PRPs. You down with PRP? Yeah you know me. So good. So, this month and for the next four weeks, whenever you are watching this, we're going to be talking about getting you in-tune with your PRPs.

And this week we're going to talk about why you need to make time for your daily PRPs. And what does PRP stand for? Play, rest, and pleasure. These are three essential minerals in every healthy entrepreneurial little, in every healthy person's life, on a day-to-day basis.

You have gotta get play, rest, and pleasure in your daily life. Now, strategically of course we're going to expand that out on a weekly, monthly, quarterly, and yearly basis, right? In increasing doses. But on a daily basis we want to make sure that we create space for your holistic health, with play, rest, and pleasure.

Why is this important to have daily space for play, rest, and pleasure? Isn't that irresponsible? Isn't that lazy? Isn't that .... What are the? You send me an email back, or a comment below. Tell me what are your inner monkeys saying as to why you can't have your daily PRP time.

Now, this is not to say that your entire day, every single day is going to be devoted to getting your three essential nutrients, but most certainly on a daily basis we are going to strategically create time and space. Starting now, and for the next four weeks, shall we? Okay.

So, the reason why your daily PRPs become so important, is because this is your fuel. This fuels you emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. We're going to be covering that over the next four weeks, but this why. Your PRPs as essential nutrients to your holistic health power you. You know life is a marathon. Living your purpose and pursuing your passions is a marathon experience.

Now, for most creative types we may think, "All right I'm going to ... at the last minute put everything together." Right? You push the clock, or procrastinate, put things off, and until after the fact or until the 11th hour then maybe I might rest. There's the phrase, "I'll sleep when I'm dead." Well, you know what? If you live that way, you will be getting to sleep faster than you think. Right?

Burn-out is very real, and it doesn't ever have to be an experience of yours, but if it has, this month in particular, and starting this week in particular. We are going to shut that down.

This is a writer downer. "Burn out may have happened in my past, but it will not happen in my future." #PRP

‪Know this: ‪“#Burnout May have happened in my past, but I will NOT have one in the future.”

Let's do this. So, that's why it's to pro-actively fill your cup on a mental, emotional, and spiritual level. Progressively over time, so that you have creative juices, so that you have the energy to pursue your passions, so that you feel healthy and have a sense of fulfillment in life. You don't have to wait until you're old and retired and can't enjoy life, in order to engage and prioritize your PRPs.

With that being said, the oracle cards for the month are calling. And that is the romance angels oracle cards deck. Oh how romantic. So, we're going to be journeying with this deck all month, over the next four weeks, whenever you're watching this. One of many decks.

You can always hit the contact page on victoriawhitfield.com to find my mailing address. Always receiving donations if you want, or gifts if you'd love to gift me a deck. Yeah. Okay.

Angels what do we need to know right now about why it's so important to work PRPs into our regular diet? This is so powerful. Religious factors. Let's get to it. Your love life is influenced by your religious upbringing and spiritual past.

Now, by the way this deck talks a lot about relationships and love of course, it's the romance deck. So, for those of you who are single and looking, or single and not looking, remember this is a relationship with yourself, right your inner being. And for those who are in a relationship, remember that this is about your relationship with yourself, and your inner being, as well as your partners or those we are working with.

Religious factors, your love life is influenced by your religious upbringing and spiritual path. This is where we're going to bring it to at close for the week.

You know, you may have been brought up in a religious, or philosophical, or social system that told you to put others first, to essentially give up your needs, right, to the service of others, right. To give up the pleasures in life, that living in denial of your own sense of play, rest, and pleasure, is holy, or honorable, or like, "Oh you sacrificed for us." Just like this person or these people sacrificed in these stories, according to that religious, or philosophical, or social system that you've been brought up, or psychological system that you've been brought up in, or adopted over time.

With love, I am not saying that you need to like throw that out of the window, that is at your discretion, that's your relationship between you and God, or you and source, or you and your higher self, your inner self. Right? And I would strongly advise you this week in particular to evaluate how your beliefs about your PRPs on a daily basis, play, rest, and pleasure are effecting your health. Is it serving you or hindering you?

Type in the comments below. Send me an email back what's coming up for you. Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first, ever week.

I'm looking forward to your responses. Are you read for a deep dive into play, rest, and pleasure? Let's do it. Okay. I'll see you next time. Bye.

(Original post 02/05/2018)

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Take stock of what you believe about your daily PRPs, and write it down in your journal.

Then ask yourself: “do these beliefs help me or hinder me in the long run?”

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

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Feeling indecisive, like you’re life lacks direction?

Struggling to “find yourself” and feel like you belong?

Wondering if you’ll ever get the clarity you seek?

Indecision is a symptom of much deeper issues regarding your relationship with your own Spirit, aka your “spirituality.”

And everyone has a sense of spirituality, especially skeptics and realists.

Watch this week’s 12-minute love letter video, the final part in our four-part Deep Dive series on the Power of Loving Yourself, to redefine spirituality and use it to love yourself at work today.

"What is my value?"

This week is week four of four in our deep dive into loving yourself.

The power of loving yourself and this week, the guides are going to have us talk about loving your spirit. Let's define terms a little bit, right out the gate.

What is a spirit? What in the world are we talking about? The spirit for the bounds of this conversation, we're going to understand as the resource behind your decision making processes in life.

It is the force that determines the path that your life takes, right? It is that resource behind how you make decisions.

That's what your spirit is, so for those of us you are religious, we understand to be the holy spirit. For those of us that aren't creative or consider ourselves scientific, same thing, that you can understand to be your creative spirit, your spirit of innovation, growth and progress, that sort of a spirit.

This is the fuel behind your decision making processes and when you're learning how to love yourself on another level, so that you can better love others, right?

We're filling our cup at the faucet, the resource that we need, so that we can then hand that cup or pour from a full pitcher to others to love on them, as well. Showing up in service and loving others, abundantly.

With that, this week in particular, when we're learning how to love our spirit, it's important to then understand what your core values are, especially when you're at work. Now, there's a very professionalism and all those kinds of corporate sort of language. Mission, vision, values that comes up for us when we think of, what do we value? But instead, I want you to think of when it comes to loving yourself, what do you value?

When it comes to your life, what do you value? When it comes to being loving, what do you value? Remembering that your spirit is the force behind your decision making process.

With that, this week in particular, we want to pick one value in particular that is loving to you. One that nourishes you. If we could choose a more concrete word, whether than just loving can sometimes be a morphosis for those of us who are not used to being loving to oneself, right?

We're used to being loving to others, so think of a value that would be nourishing to you, even if you want to pick nourishment. My nourishment is something that I value.

Me personally, my top values are, number one, love. Obviously. Number two is safety and number three is honor. Honesty for me falls underneath honor, so when I have something more vulnerable that I need to share to a team member or someone that I'm in an intimate relationship with, maybe family or my partner and so on, I think of my value of honor and that, for me, is loving toward myself first and that gives me the courage to then speak from the heart about topics that might be a little bit more vulnerable making or feel uncomfortable to bring up.

That value gives me the courage to make a decision with my spirit to allow the spirit of honor to come through me and create more honorable experiences. Are you getting the picture here?

That's loving towards me because I'm bringing that spirit into my awareness in my decision making, which then effects my behavior and how I show up to others, how I serve others.

If I come with a spirit of honor or spirit of love or spirit of safety and honoring my safety, others safety and so on and so forth. What would be your value? How can you, but we want to make this very specific, this week in particular to work. How can you honor your spirit or how can you bring your spirit into your work experience?

Perhaps it is honoring your religion. I'm putting a lot of my value of honor. Perhaps it is bring your spirit's desire to be religious or to glorify God in all that you do and bring that to your work experience.

How would you work? How would you show up? How would you speak to others if the force behind your decisions and your behaviors is, I want to glorify God in whatever I do?

Know this: Your Spirit is the force behind how you make decisions in life and #business. And spirituality is your relationship with it.

On the flip side, what if your value was, I value my health. My health comes first. How would you show up at work today if your value is, my health comes first? This is the one value that I'm going to embody today.

How can you allow that to come forward in your work day? How would you speak to people? How would you sit at your desk? What food would you choose to put in your body if that was your value that you were going to honor today, this week?

Whether you're going all week or just for today, what would be different about the way that you conduct your behavior and the decisions that you make if you made value based decisions?

The power and the self-loving, self-nourishing aspect of making value based decisions is that you become responsive rather than reactive to life around you. When we're reactive, things happen and all right, I got to put out the fire over here and oh, so and so needs me.

Okay, I'll do this and oh my gosh, what about this and da da da da and you're working yourself up spiritually because there's no anchor, there's no value anchoring you down on a spiritual level. Your decisions are flying off at the handle, they're reacting to all of the circumstances that are around you versus making value based decisions.

You're able to ground and then respond with wisdom to the experiences that are coming toward you so that your life, you're building by design in a wise and spiritually grounded way.

Value based decisions, that's the challenge for this week, in particular. The mantra of the week is, what's my value? Remember it's one. I know some of you do core desired feelings and stuff like that and you pick several and all of this. What one? Just one. Simplify it. I value simplicity. Let's all value simplicity right now.

Bring the spirit of simplicity so that you can be kind to yourself and one, what's my value?

The next time someone asks you something, the next time you begin your work day, the next time you sit down to eat, what's my value? That is your mantra. Today, in particular, or for this week, in particular. Whatever you're ready to commit to.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling and energy. Talk about spirit. Fairies. Ding, ding, ding. Yay. Healing with the fairies, another Doreen Virtue deck. Thank you so much for donating.

This is one of over 20 decks that we have here at the dojo that our clients and students play with as well as my co-op members. Between seeing their clients, they're reading their own oracle card readings. I love it. You're welcome to play. My cards are very social.

Fairies, what do we need to know, this week in particular about loving our spirit? What value? Oh, this loud is coming forward. New opportunity, This is so powerful. Check it out. Gorgeous.

What I'm hearing in the energy to tell you about new opportunity for this week, in particular, is that you've been loving yourself and opening up to honoring and heeling and loving, nourishing and nurturing those parts of yourself that have been under loved for the last few weeks.

We've been at that together and because of that, sources taken notice. There's a new opportunity coming your way that you want to use your value. You're going to need to have a set of values or one guiding light that gives you enough anchoring to receive that opportunity.

If you don't have it, you're going to miss this opportunity and it's because you're got to anchor first in order to receive the level of opportunity that's coming to you this week, in particular. Maybe even today. We want to make wise decisions, ones that are responding to life with elegance , with wisdom, with grounding, allowing spirit to come through and wash through our lives, blessing rather than rushing through and feeling unloved, especially by ourselves. Slow down, ground, make value-based decisions so that you can receive the next level opportunity that's coming to you.

Comment below. Send me an email back.

What's coming up for you hearing all of this? What opportunity, have you recognized it yet? I'd love to hear about it and how did you ground and make a value-based decision in order to receive that.

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters every single week and ready for it? We did it. We made it through the four weeks. See you soon. Bye.

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Pick one Value to focus on that is loving and nourishing to YOU.

At work, choose to embody the spirit of that value in your communications, your time at your desk, your self-care, etc.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

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