Are you known as "the giver" and backbone of your family or team?

Love sharing your art and work so much that you give it away for free more often than not?

Though you love the feeling of giving, are you secretly worried that you're being drained by what you love?

Giving always feels good to the giver because we feel abundant and connected to others when we do.

But what happens when no one gives to us or tries to connect with us, too -- what happens when we are surrounded by people who just smile, take and keep on taking?

Watch this week's 8-minute Love Letter to find out why you're surrounded by "sucklers" and what to do about it!

"When is someone going to fight for me?"

This week, I keep hearing this wonderful phrase that Lisa Marie Rosati from the Goddess Lifestyle Plan and Sugar Free Goddess coming through for you:

"No more sucklers!"

The guides really want to talk to you about this. 

Giving credit for the phrase where credit is due, I am happy to share this idea of "sucklers" with everyone, because I admire Lisa's work so much.

Women creative entrepreneurs are who I work with, and this comes up a lot.

We end up really giving away a lot of our energy because we are abundant, creative, flowing creatures.

That's who we are, whether or not you are a woman. It's for those of us who are highly creative people.

We care, and we love to create. We love to feel abundant and that sense of giving really gives to us.

It also gives us the sense of responsibility and being needed and connected, giving to others as a form of expressing our love and sharing that abundance.

And I love countering that with the unsettling image of "sucklers" sucking on us.

That's the uncomfortable truth that we live with every day.

This is different from energy vampires, too. Sucklers come upon us in a more sneaky way.

Sucklers are a bit more insidious, because it's those in our community and in our tribe who we want to uplift and see it further who, rather than taking our encouragement and running with it to go on their own journey, they are like, "Oh great," and they keep suckling on our energy.

Also, there is an ageist aspect to that phrase: you're overstaying your welcome, sucklers, because it's your time to get out there.

Source really wants you to know that there may be some people in your life right now, who rather than taking their own initiative are hanging on to you and weighing you down.

I don't know who I'm talking to or who I'm talking about in particular, but let's just explore this.

Rather than taking their own initiative and stepping up to the plate, they've learned from YOUR pattern of behavior reinforcing them staying in a receiving state from you.

Don't misunderstand the message here: Source is saying this AND honoring the fact that you are giving a lot.

You're an amazing nurturing being.

However, the question that you must ask yourself when you are feeling drained is, "what is the pattern IN ME that's creating this situation?"

Know this: YOU train people to be energy #vampires by having no self #respect or #selfcare. #loveyourself @SenseiWhitfield

Ouch...

Why would we be asking this question in the first place?

If you feel that a lot of people are taking, taking, taking from you, but you don't feel like anyone gives to you.

Now, we don't mean this in a selfish way, like we're keeping score, murmuring "Grr, when am I going to get mine?"

No, that's not what we're saying.

Instead, just consider: are you the only giver in town?

Or better yet, could giving and being The Giver or The Nurturer be a way that you control every one around you?

If that is so, it's counterproductive for you to be mad at people for continuing the paradigm that you've set up of control through receiving from you.

Also, this is for those of us that are secretly feeling, "Ugh! I advocate for everyone, lift up everyone so much. When is someone going to fight for me? When is someone going to advocate for me?"

That might be coming up because we're exhibiting a behavioral pattern that reinforces having sucklers around.

People are not taking initiative, because we're not giving them the space to take it.

Here are the oracle cards now. This is a bit of a tough love week. This topic kind of sucks. LOL!

It's important on the path of natural intuitive development to see how our energy drains, though.

That's one of the many forms of assessment that we do here at the dojo.

The Indigo Angel Oracle Cards deck, by Doreen Virtue is the deck of the week. 

So let's see what's coming up around this energy drain issue for those people who it started off beautifully, and really meant well to be nurturing and giving, but are now starting to feel drained and resentful.

Suddenly, we've become "mama" to grown men, grown women, and not in a good way, in a draining way.

Wow, look at the image, how the breasts of the angel are exposed to show giving, nurturing, mother energy!

 

 

This week's #oracle card is "You Are Special" -- the #Angels want you to know this week that you are worthy of #love, #support and recognition. Your #joy and #health are just as important as others'; especially if you go out of your way to make everyone else feel special, this week you need to remember that you are special, too. Full reading on #YouTube: https://youtu.be/mjXVG-1uCfM ????????✨????????✨ #reiki #meditation #healing

 

A photo posted by Sensei Victoria Whitfield (@senseiwhitfield) on Mar 27, 2016 at 6:10am PDT

You are special.

The reason why the angels are sending this card forward is this is showing what's the problematic pattern and behavior that you're exhibiting. 

You don't see yourself as special. Everyone else is special in your eyes.

That's so loving. That's beautiful. Humble.

However, it ends up leaving your needs, your boundaries, your standards, your values in the dust, because we place others above ourselves, because we assign everyone on the outside responsibility for making us feel happy.

What does that mean?

That means we're not happy and comfortable unless our entire environment is happy and comfortable. Right?

But making everyone happy doesn't make you special.

It just makes you really busy.

To change the pattern of behavior, for this week in particular, is to say to yourself, "How can I see myself as just as special as everyone else that I am pouring love into this week?"

Are you special?

What's a list of things that make you special?

Comment below, send me an email back. Tell me. I want to hear it.

I'm excited to see you celebrate yourself and begin to shift that pattern of behavior!

That's this week's message. By all means, please go to victoriawhitfield.com/freegift and make sure that you subscribe so that you're getting your weekly Love Letters if you haven’t already.

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Sending you so much love 🙂

See you next time. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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