Feeling stressed out lately because everything's changing?

Having a hard time forgiving someone who does things different than you?

Can't believe that things are not working out the way you expected?

One of the biggest sources of stress is the inability to practice acceptance of how things are.

More often than not, we unconsciously try to force the world to fit our version of how it "should" be, rather than staying non-judgmental and open.

Watch the above 11-minute video to learn to relax and stop "shoulding" all over yourself!!

"Why can't I look at my life and accept it as it is?"

This week, the topic that's coming through is practicing acceptance.

In the energy, as I was searching for what we were going to deliver for this week's love letter, and the following question came out of our soul: "What are the different sources of stress in our lives that different students of the dojo and I observe, and what does the Energy have to say?"

One of the big sources of stress in our lives is our inability to practice acceptance. The first thing that's coming through to share from the spirit is that, acceptance counteracts, or it goes against, the ego.

Ego and pride are catalysts for stress, obstacles and frustration in life.

The way this happens is that we form a mental identification with A when we are experiencing B.

Even though we believe that we are A and we believe in A, we say we are A or have been raised to be A, the experience however -- the physical sensations, the temporal physical manifestation of whatever spirit is delivering into our lives at this moment -- is B.

We're looking at B and overlaying A, because that's our glasses. We're wearing A glasses and the only thing that we could see through these glasses is A. There's no such thing as B. So we're just going to move B out of the way.

That is what a lack of acceptance looks like, energetically speaking and psychologically as well.

What are the effects of that A-B split, personality wise, perceptually? What are the effects?

• Stress
• Lack of understanding
• Suppressed expression
• Anger
• Feeling ungrounded, out of alignment, depressed, anxious, untrusting, unworthy or invalid.

We're looking at B, which is the actual temporal manifestation, the natural physical spacial manifestation that we're experiencing now is a B experience. But in our minds there's nothing but A in terms of the data that we can interpret of it, cognitively. In other words, there's a mental pattern to rather not a have to interpret the data.

So there's a mental pattern that we follow: all data that comes in must be sifted through the A protocol and fit into an A prototype. This is a bit of robotic description on purpose, the spirits are saying, because it is unnatural.

In fact it is manufactured, this A prototype, this A box; we're trying to fit the circle peg that we're experiencing into a square box. This A prototype or protocol is manufactured. Why?

This is what I'm hearing in the energy: "Well, why would we have it that way, of not being able to look at our lives and just accept them as they are? How did that happen?"

Well of course, there's nature versus nurture.

Humans as an animal that has the gift of critical thinking naturally like to look for patterns, and to duplicate patterns, to create a sense of stability, order, reproductibility, familiarity. It is to create a tribe.

Here’s why this happens: We're searching for ourselves in the patterns in the All That Is that is around us naturally.

We are also nurtured then on top of that: socially, culturally, traditionally through advertising, commercializing, religiously.

All of these different external systems will create their version of what type of paradigm you should be looking at your world through, even if the world that you're experiencing is totally not in alignment with it, totally not.

Let's put all the technical language aside for a second. I'll tell you a story to give an example of a lack of acceptance, what that looks like and the effects:

Johnny is a good boy. Johnny comes from a good family. Johnny gets good grades. Johnny plays good with other kids. Off the street or in sports, Johnny is a good boy.

Johnny goes to a good school. He takes on a good major. He does good and he graduates in a good place in his class.

Johnny gets a good job and Johnny is dating a good girl. Their relationship is going good, so they get married and he has good marriage and everything is good.

What determines the version of Johnny's "good" is completely relative.

As you were visualizing and thinking and going along with that whole story I just told you, what were your versions of what is "good" that were coming up for you?

"I'm making good money. We're having a good marriage. We're going to a good school, getting good grades." But what are your version of good grades?

For some people, their version of good or acceptable is entirely different, beautifully different, entirely different than your idea of what's good. 

What matters most is how you feel.

Know this: If you're judging what a "good life" is based only on someone else's idea of what's good, you're out of alignment.

The frustration and the symptoms of being out of alignment, of being ungrounded, frustrated or non-expressed are going to come out, naturally, because there's a fundamental lack of clarity around what's your definition of what's acceptable and not acceptable.

In previous videos, we were talking about protecting your joy and how one way to do that is to know "what the heck is my joy?"

It's about a defining process. You can do that to the Nth degree and find yourself more by defining yourself than finding yourself in some workshop, some retreat, some book, some person's arms.

You don't go find yourself, you define yourself.

That's what I'm hearing to tell you in the energy. And one way that is really powerful, but very simple, spiritual practice to start this path is by practicing acceptance.

It's very simple: "whatever it is, is what it is."

At first glance, I'm going to sound profoundly pedestrian, but I would challenge you to look a little bit deeper into that phrase, especially if you are not satisfied with your job, with your relationship or partner, with your body, with your finances, with your studies, with the food that you're eating, the place the you live, et cetera.

If you are feeling not satisfied, you need to look into embracing a sense of acceptance, but not to settle.

That is not acceptance. That's reticence. Huge difference, go to thesaurus.com if you don't know what reticence is. But the only thing I'm going to tell you is that one is active and the other is passive.

Check back next week for part 2 of this love letter!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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