Love Letters | Take A Risk

Scared to ask for help?

Struggling to hold it all together on your own?

Feeling like you're headed for burnout?

Feeling resistant to making a change because it's outside your comfort zone?

Strong, independent go-getters like you and I have learned over time to rely on ourselves to get the job done, and done well.

Yet, there comes a time in life where in order to get what we really want, we have to open up and receive help – so where do you start?

Watch this week's 12-minute Love Letter video to find out exactly what you need to do to turn your situation around!

"I don't want to be a burden."

As a holistic stress management expert and spiritual teacher, it's a really interesting line of work.

I get all kinds of reactions and all kinds of stories from people, when they encounter who I am and what I do.

I support visionary entrepreneurs like yourself, and creative people just like you, in creating a life that they love by harnessing their natural intuition, so that they feel more centered and grounded as they get out there and share their gifts.

And from time to time, that means speaking to people who don't quite get it, or encountering people who love, and need, and desire support in that realm.

They need the one-on-one, or the group spiritual support sessions that I provide. They'll need it, but then they'll resist it, and then they'll throw their resistance, they'll "hot potato" that on me. Right?

Here's the thing. This week in particular, the guides are telling you what they've told me for many years, and that's take a risk. Risky requests.

This week in particular, your visionary challenge is to take a risk by making a risky request.

Now what does that look like? That basically looks like inviting someone in to support you, to affirm you, or to join you, or to help you out, etc, making a risky request.

If you are watching this, chances are very, very likely that you are a natural healer, supportive caregiver, someone who's highly sensitive, and wants everybody else to feel happy, healthy, loved, supported, etc.

You care so much that you take strong, deep responsibility for making sure that everyone around you is well taken care of, except for you.

Correct me if I'm wrong, maybe I'm off-base. Maybe this one isn't for you. Maybe you're amazing at making requests, and that's wonderful.

But to the rest of us watching this Love Letter video, or reading through it, or listening to the recording, etc, we could all use a little bit more practice asking for what we desire, asking for what we need, and asking for support.

So this week in particular, the guides are challenging you to make a risky request. All right?

What would that look like for you? What could you never ask for? Oh, like:

• • "I could never ask my husband to massage my shoulders, no way. No, no, no, no,"

 

• • "I could never ask for a little bit more time off from my boss. No, no, no, no,"

 

• • "I could never ask that beautiful person out on a date. No, no, no, no,"

 

• • "I could never ask for my own one-on-one session with Victoria. No, no, no, no, no. I'm not worth it."

 

• • "I don't want to interrupt her,"

 

• • "I don't want to interrupt him."

 

• • "I don't want to be a burden."

 

• "I don't want to take up space."

What? Ooh, look at all of those excuses, and all of that resistance that just comes flying out of us.

Requests that are effective, that are really meant for you to move to your next level, in life and in business, usually feel a little bit risky. There's a flutter of vulnerability, because you're risking rejection.

What's the worst thing that could happen, though? They could say no. And guess what?

There's another seven billion people on the planet. You've got that many more opportunities to find the person, the organization, the venue, the space, the time, etc, who can fulfill what it is that you need and desire.

So what's your risky request? Is it for more time off? Is it for a sick day? Is it for flowers? Is it for a compliment and an affirmation?

I want to hear it. Type in the comments below or send me an email back at senseivictoriawhitfield@gmail.com. I want to hear your risky request, but I dare you to share it publicly.

Know this: Quantum leaps in life and business require you to take a risk.

Mine's coming, but first I hear the Oracle cards calling in the energy.

And talk about risk, Angel Answers, by Doreen Virtue. This is the yes/no deck.

So you ready to play a little bit of Russian roulette? Let's go. This deck is similar to the old Magic 8-Ball thing, where you'd shake it and ask a yes/no, binary type question, and it would say Yes, No, Maybe, Ask Again Later. I always got the Ask Again Later, what about you? Oh my gosh.

Angels, what do we need to know right now? Should we ask a risky question this week? Can we ask a risky question this week?

You know there's nos, there's two nos, actually, and two yeses in this deck in particular.

Can we ask a risky question this week? What do we need to know right now? This is so good. You ready? Compromise.

Compromise, and this is so beautiful. Look at, there's the two hands, the higher self and the lower self. Ooh, they just told me to read. I'll give you the channeling that I'm hearing first, though.

The guides say, "When you ask, remember that it's not your way or the highway. It could be what you ask for, or something even better. Let your risky ask be of mutual benefit. Ask in a way that pleasures you as well as the person that you are requesting for." What would that look like?

Also, asking from a space of pleasure and abundance versus asking from a place of, "Arrgh, you're not going to even answer my request anyway, so I'm just doing this homework because Victoria told me to." Don't do that. Compromise.

Also, the guides turned this upside down and said, "Be careful how much you compromise your boundaries in order to meet others' requests. Remember, you have needs and desires too."

Here it is, "In order to create a happy outcome for this situation, you will find it necessary to compromise. Allow yourself some time to become clear about what is truly important to you."

Some of you may be thinking, "Well Victoria, I don't know what to ask for."

Okay, don't jump to it. Take some time to reflect about what you want, or what you would ask for that feels a little bit, "Ooh, I can't ask that."

"Also take note of matters where you would be open to changing your position. Work toward an agreement where everyone wins." Same as the channeling. Beautiful. "Be open to cooperation that would allow you to get what you need while also assisting others in fulfilling their desires." Is this beautiful or what? "Be objective about finding a balance between respecting everyone else's viewpoints and still being true to your own."

So good, and this is where we're going to leave off.

Your risky ask is actually a blessing. So be kind to yourself. And share what that desire is, because it could very well, and it can very easily, bless the other person. By them getting to serve and support you, it gives them an opportunity to show you love.

Here's my risky ask, by the way. If you could, please send me a comment back or an email below. In what way have I touched you? Maybe it was in this video. Maybe it's been over the years. Maybe in a group experience, or maybe in one of your private sessions.

As someone who's out and sharing, sharing, sharing abundantly, and it's my joy to share, sometimes I wonder, "Have I ever touched anyone, or really helped them?"

I can tell you, this is a risky ask because I feel a bit of emotion flutter, like, "I wonder." Right? Even I wonder, I'm not perfect.

So if you want to return a little bit of the love received, please send me an email back or comment below, and let me know what has been my effect on you, whether right now or in the past, et cetera.

And if you're very new to my work, what do you see me doing in the future? I'd love to hear that. Okay?

I don't know if anyone's going to answer that, but I'm trusting and putting it out there, and I'm open to receiving your love, support, and affirmation. I'm sending you so much love, regardless.

Muah, make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your Love Letters first every week. All right, we'll see you soon. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

VictoriaWhitfield.com
Facebook.com/SenseiVictoriaWhitfield

 

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Make a risky request.

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Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

 

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