This is a new series and my guides have shown me that we are going to be talking about what is it like to be an empath entrepreneur: an entrepreneur that happens to be highly empathic, or someone who is highly empathic, who happens to be an entrepreneur.

Over the next four weeks we're going to be journeying on this topic. And this week in particular, my guides asked us to shed some light on what are the unique challenges of being an empath and owning a business, being empathic and leading your team at your office. For those of us who are called to serve in a professional status of some sort, whether you are the manager of your shift or your office, whether you are the owner of your business or you are just getting started serving more clients as an entrepreneur, or even in the prelaunch stage – regardless of your current status, you are called to serve at a greater level. If that's you, then this one is to support you in particular. Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your first notification every week of when these new love letters come out. Let's get to it. The pitfalls of being an empath entrepreneur.

If you've never really heard of the term being empathic, let me break it down for you really quick. It is not the same as being empathetic. When you have empathy for others, this is a choice that you make to see yourself walking in somebody else's shoes. That's a compassionate mental move that you make to better communicate with others around you, and that's awesome.

However, being empathic removes your choice. This is where whether you want to or not, you feel what it's like to be in another person's emotions or to be in another person's physical body. You can feel the pain sensations that are going through somebody's body while you're interacting with them, or even if they're far away. That's being empathic. You can also feel emotionally when someone may be suppressing or hiding more intense emotion such as anger or great big joy, as if they're sitting on it, hiding it underneath a performance of a different, more acceptable emotion. You may pick up on that, or even in a space where someone passed away and they're not even physically there anymore, but you are able to sense the sadness or sense the happiness in their home. That is a sign that you are empathic.

Now, for those of you who already know that you're empathic, it can be super challenging. Because you are an emotional sponge. And as an emotional sponge, this is extra tough if you work in retail, or you have to handle a high volume of people physically coming to you. Maybe if you work at a stadium, serving crowds or you work at a storefront serving walk-ins. Your job requires you serve whoever walks in; maybe as a salon owner, you don't know who's the next person that's going to walk in to want a haircut. Or as an artist. Who's the next person who is going to come around and take a look at your art and want to give you a commission. Especially in those types of vocations, you don't really know who you're going to get – being a massage therapist is another one.

Be kind to yourself because you, more than ever, have got to learn about how to protect your energy, as an empath entrepreneur, as a professional who happens to be empathic.Why? Because you're an emotional sponge. So, shall we take a look at what can happen when you’re like this? By the way, comment below or send me an email back at team@VictoriaWhitfield.com of your Empath Entrepreneur experiences. Ok?

See if some of the following challenges describe your previous situations. Maybe you've come in, you're juiced, you're ready to go, happy for the work day and a client, customer or prospect comes in and just derails all that good energy and sucks the life out of you. Have you ever had that? Those vampire clients and customers? Oh Man. Other pitfalls of being an empath and a professional person, or a business owner who's an empath is that you have so much love and so much passion for what you do, but unfortunately because of the emotions, the crappy emotions of the people that you work with, whether they're on your team or your clients, it just sucks the life out of you.

Perhaps you're at that point where you're feeling, “is this really what I should be even doing with my life? In the beginning it was so great, but now the people are just vultures.” Oh my goodness. Be kind to yourself, again if that's your situation. Other pitfalls of being an empath entrepreneur is that where some people are able to get so much done in a day and just be able to maintain their focus and, wow, smash through their goals, breakthrough, breakthrough, breakthrough... for some reason, something about the environment that you're sitting in or something about the people that you're interacting with just completely sucks the energy and the focus, the productivity out of you.
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Maybe it's your loved ones who derail you if you work at home, for example. This is another really tough situation that we're going to talk about over the next four weeks. Maybe your home life is not that supportive, and as you are still absorbing all of the frustration of your spouse and the anxiety of your kids into your body, you still have got to be on that client call. If you're a marketing coach or you're a life coach that does video coaching, you've got to be ready to be supportive while your energy is all funked up. As an empath entrepreneur, you sponged up, soaked up so much negativity, anxiety, anger, frustration from your environment that it's affecting your ability to perform at work. If any of that speaks to you, please stay tuned. Subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letters first, and if it's bringing anyone to mind, make sure you hit that Share button and say, "you had better subscribed to this because she's talking to you, baby!"

Let's get to the oracle card of the week. We're going to be journeying with all month with Doreen Virtue's, Archangel Michael Oracle Cards deck, because Archangel Michael is a wonderful archetype for protection and covering. We have got to make sure that your energy feels nourished as you get out there and serve in a big way. You're called to it and you deserve to feel safe and sound and full of life and energy no matter who or what you are called to serve.

Okay, Angels, what do we as empath entrepreneurs need to know right now, especially when we're dealing with the challenges, the frustrations of being an empathic person who happens to own a business or who is a professional serving others? Whoa... We've got some pretty serious energy going here. What do we need to know? This card on top – hey! This is where we'll leave off for the week: Lean on God and the angels for support.

“Lean on God and the angels for support.My prayer: Dear God and the angels, I give you this situation now and completely. I step out of the way and allow divine miracles to shine through everyone and everything involved.”

As an empath more than anybody else in business, more than any other kind of person out there who is a professional and has a career and decides to participate professional activities, YOU have got to lean on Spirit, whatever that means to you. For those of you who are atheist, this means leaning on your human potential, your belief that life is going to have positive outcomes and is bringing you more good, rather than more bad. It’s about you committing to having more of a pronoia or a positive mindset rather than a paranoia or a negative mindset: give it all over to positive expectation.

Feed your faith, my dear, because you're going to be sponging up energy, anyway. You had better know that you've got someone or something watching your back - your power animals, your spirit guides, your angels, your fairies, whoever, your grandma. My grandma has got my back, in the energy. Lean on spirit when you feel depleted, that's what the angels want you to know this week in particular as we start owning it and opening up the conversation around what it means to be an empath in business.

Now, I want to hear from you. Make sure you comment below or send me an email back at team@VictoriaWhitfield.com. I am here to support you. If you want to know more about how you can shift your state in business so that you feel like you are glowing, rather than draining yourself out, as you grow your business, reach out. Let me know and I'd be so happy to schedule a session with you so that we could talk about how we can best turn your light back on.

All right, I'll see you in the next one.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey.

See you soon!

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Acknowledge the unique challenges you or your loved ones face as empaths at work.

Be kind to yourself, and be conscious of your need to lean on Spirit moreso than the average person.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...

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This is a special announcement Love Letter. Yay!

I'M INTERESTED! NOTIFY ME 🙂

So I wanted to let you know that I am so, so thankful for all your years of support. Being in this line of work has really changed my life and changed the lives of hundreds of entrepreneurs around the world. Tribe, I want to thank you, thank you, thank you for all your support over the years and because of that, my work has grown. This is my special announcement, if you didn't get it in the mail: oh my goodness, we're moving!

I wanted to take this week in particular to inspire you, as well as inform you, around the shifts that are happening here at the dojo. Here's what's going to happen. My work has grown so much that my guides have asked me to focus more on serving you and your teams in particular. We have manifested a gorgeous space that you'll be seeing more of come this December onward. My guides have shown me it's time for us to gather more as a tribe in person, and heal together as a group.

For the last three years in particular, the dojo space where I have been presenting to you from, as well as seeing you if you've been coming for sessions and for meditation classes, is really set up for more one-on-one work. When we throw a party there, we're practically sitting on each other's laps. There's nothing wrong with that, however, gathering together in general is where the juice is at. Right? I'm sure you'd agree with me, for those of you who know what I'm talking about -- when we get to see each other as a group in person, this is so powerful.

For those of you who are members of my Visionary Shaman Circle, of my Abundant Business Circle and who come to group guided meditations, you already know, or for those who attend our solstice parties at the dojo, you know it is so enriching to get to see your tribe in person. Because of that, the location that we've manifested is capable of holding 10 times the amount of visitors. Before I could only maybe have like six to 10 people, maybe 12 in the room if we're sitting on each other's laps. Where we're going has between 60 to 100 people in on-site capacity. It's gorgeous, it's a historic home, maybe about seven minutes away from where we are currently. And I would really love to get to share that with you.

So, we're not just throwing a winter solstice party this year. It's a brand new dojo, and I desire for us to have a reunion, and YOU are invited! Want to come? CLICK HERE if you want to be notified as soon as possible for when and where we're going to be throwing our very first Winter Solstice Tribe Reunion Party.

This week in particular, I’m being guided to tell you to ask YOUR guides. Normally, I'm telling you what my spirit guides are telling me. Absolutely. I've been journeying on this for quite some time. But this reunion is actually a personal desire of my own: I desire a reunion. Ask your own spirit guides, ask your own higher self. What would it look like for me to throw a reunion party for all of my beloved peeps? If it's for your clients, if it's a reunion for your family, if it's a reunion for your friends, try it, and for no particular reason other than a reunion.

Because here's the thing: together is better. You have to ask if you want to receive. I know for me personally, I find that the more I think about it, the more I desire to be in the presence of the people that I love. Right? I've made that decision in my own living situation. I will never live alone. I will always live with someone who loves me and who I love dearly. However that works out, whatever it takes. Because I have lived alone before, and I discovered that I personally don't like the way that that feels.

I've also changed my business lifestyle as well with that same value: I will always work with someone who loves me and who I love dearly, too. I will never work alone. That has changed the level of abundance that I get to experience and enjoy in my life as well as in my business. What matters most is how I feel, and I live that with passion!

With that, let's call it in. I know I'm calling YOU in to come to our Winter Solstice Tribe Reunion Party this December, so make sure you click here to say, "I'm interested. I'm there!” Click here if that speaks to you.
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And, this week in particular, I would challenge you to ask your spirit guides, what kind of reunion party should I throw? This doesn't mean that you have to cook, by the way. I never cook at my parties. All of them are potluck style! Baby, bring it, bring it. Whatever you bring. That's awesome. And also, this doesn't mean that you have to chase people down and charge. When I throw a party I never charge, this is just to see you come, hug and spend quality time together.

Now, if you want to contribute, or leave a donation to cover the cups, plates and the space and party supplies, of course I'm grateful and always open to receive support if it brings you pleasure to give. Or for myself I know that when I'm going to a party the hostess is saying, "Hey, could you help us spot five, 10, 30, 50, however for the space, et cetera, et cetera?" I'm happy to oblige, because I have an abundant mindset and I get to be in the party with people I love. Let it be easy.

Ok! I'm hearing my own, personal, Oracle cards deck calling in the energy. This is the very first deck that I ever got for myself, it's the Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards deck by Doreen Virtue. This is the actual deck that is only mine and I'm at my home office right now; this deck changed my life when I bought it and I encourage you to get this one (BUY ON AMAZON).

For this week in particular, goddesses, what do we need to know right now about throwing a reunion party, up-leveling our quality of life, and welcoming in more of the tribe? ...Hey, I love it. This is a bit counterintuitive. And I love that. The goddess card that’s coming to us is “Bast: Independent. Your independence is a foundation for your strength and success.”What I'm hearing right now, coming from my guides about throwing a reunion party and welcoming people back into your space, and with me inviting you to come see the new dojo, is let's celebrate, let's have some fun together.

Bast, the Goddess Bast is coming forward about independence. Now, I know you. You are a “strong, independent, insert word here.” Strong independent woman, strong independent man, strong independent girl, strong independent boy. Strong independent business owner. Strong independent entrepreneur. Strong independent artist. Strong independent musician. Strong independent mother. Strong independent father. So on and so forth.

Be kind to yourself. Your independence is a foundation for your strength and success. AND there is more to a house than just the foundation. I do believe it's powerful to be strong and independent. Right there with you! I'm an achiever. Achievers unite, haha! And, that's our foundation. What fills in the rest of the house is the power of positive community. Your ability to be resourced and resourceful. Call it in, ask for what you desire.

If you've been feeling lonely at work, ask for people to come by and visit. If you've been feeling like you're not hanging out with, or seeing enough of your friends and family, ask for them to come by. Don't wait for somebody else to ask you. I just felt a chill in the energy like someone who's watching this right now, maybe it's you, or maybe it's whoever you're going to share this with, because you got to make sure that this word gets out to our tribe. Someone who's watching this right now, could be you, has been waiting to be invited and has been angry or frustrated that they haven't been asked to come out, or everybody else is going out, or everybody else is having parties and things to celebrate, blah, blah, blah. Instead, take a deep breath, and accept that – if only just for today – it’s officially on you this time to make it happen.

It's official: Happy Everything Week! Okay? Got it? Declare happy everything. Join me in this.

And by the way, click here and make sure that you join us, so that you get on that notifications list to be there for our winter solstice party. Our reunion this time will be at the new space, and let's enjoy being together. We can be independent, absolutely, and be powerful in that independence. And then let's enjoy our lives together. Two strong independent people come together, and they become interdependent, and create this amazing life full of love, fulfillment and togetherness. Doing it alone is great, but together is better.

Comment below, send me an email back at info@victoriawhitfield.com, that comes straight to me, or you can email my team at team@victoriawhitfield.com. Let me know what comes up for you around this. Make sure that you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters first every week, and I will see you next week with our next series. Bye for now!

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Declare that it's "Happy Everything Week" and call in people you miss seeing.

Take a deep breath, center yourself, and ask someone you miss to come visit you or to meet up to reconnect in person.

Notice how you feel in that moment - you're already healing!

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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

Let's schedule a chat, and see how I can help you...

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Secretly mad about something?

Hiding how pissed off you are to appear "polite" and not rock the boat?

Tired of putting on a happy face for everyone?

From an early age, most of us are taught that our anger is wrong, bad and should be tamped down.

So we hide that fiery energy in our minds and bodies and this can lead to dis-eases of many kinds.

Watch this week's 11-minute Love Letter video to learn how to honor your anger in a healthy way!

"I feel so blocked. I don't know what the problem is."

This week it's important for you to honor your anger. Honor your anger.

Now you may be watching this and be the most happy and positive person you know. I'm sure you're just like me where you love to spread sunshine and positive energy and because of that there's nothing wrong, right?

No one ever makes you angry. In fact, I bet you can't even remember the last time you were actually angry or even showed any anger. 😉

How hard do you smile when you do share your smile? Is it like this or are you sharing your joy with ease?

Are you pushing that sunshine and positive energy out of you? Or is it naturally flowing out with a sense of ease, abundance and just spilling out of you? Or could we be pushing?

If you feel like you're pushing to be positive, keep listening because rather than being the happiest person you know you just might be the angriest person you know.

Get this. Did you know that most highly sensitive individuals, those who are energy workers, healers, body workers, people who have a servant's heart and are really here for a healing purpose are in fact the angriest persons on the planet? They're the angriest people.

Yes, really. Zen master that you see doing her yoga Zen thing or his yoga Zen thing actually is pretty darn angry.

It's interesting because that intense fire energy is what motivates the person to give so much. It motivates us, you, to be that change that you wish to see in the world, to really want to clean up and have the nice house that's all put together and everything where it's supposed to be.

It's that fire energy that motivates you to get to the gym everyday or to get into your yoga practice everyday. It's that fire energy of anger filling up your empathic sense and you think it's other people's negativity but I'm here to tell you, you actually need to honor your anger.

There's nothing wrong with anger. In fact anger is quite beautiful, just like fire.

Now, you can have in a fireplace the ability to admire the fire safely and have it warm your environment and really bring more of a sense of beauty and sensuality to your space. That fire energy, just oh my god, I love fireplaces, they're so sensual. It's wonderful, right?

So grounding or you could have it spread in her own divine feminine way consuming everything in her path destructively such as a forest fire where oh crap or the house is caught on fire because of one little thing, one little trigger and she just starts consuming all of the fuel that confirms her anger energy and just explodes out or perhaps if there's enough fuel.

Be kind to yourself. It's time to honor your anger and see the beauty in her.

Now as I'm talking to you, you're like this love letter is totally not for me. Hold on a second.

Anger that is not honored can show up in sneaky ways and we cover these ways in many different love letters but in particular we're talking about anger this week but it's suppressed energy.

Suppressed energy can affect your sexual libido, can give you achy joints, neck, jaw, head and eye tension, tensed pelvis, let's see, what else? We're just going to go down the list.

Water retention, excess weight holding, insatiable appetite. We just keep eating and for some reason we're not getting built. Repressed anger energy can also come up as feeling blocked or confused, craving a sense of clarity that we just can't seem to get.

Know this: Anger that is not honored can manifest in sneaky ways, such as inflammation, aches, apathy and confusion.

I'm just really trying to clarify my message but I can't quite get to it because I'm blocked. No, actually, you have some anger in you to release.

This week in particular, it's time for you to honor your anger.

Now the oracle cards are coming in the energy. It's the Indigo Angel Oracle cards deck.

This is actually a really great oracle cards deck for working through our anger.

I just saw the image in the energy of an iceberg and this is how engaging your anger works.

You may think you've gotten to it. Like I'm mad about this but there's a whole … like the little iceberg on top, the split image and then the big, big cavernous iceberg underneath the water. There's layers and layers and layers of anger energy that you can release.

Trust. And they're telling me to read.

The trust card comes up.

Oh boy, I could feel someone on the other side of the screen being like, "oh God, what are we going to find out now." Take a deep breath in and exhale.

This card asks you to trust that there's a purpose to life right now. The guy just saying that there's a purpose to your anger. Keep faith that the chaos you see around you has an underlying meaning and divine design. When times are hard, naturally sensitive people can feel that the world has been orchestrated to work against them and that nothing is fair. The truth is that your viewpoint has not yet expanded enough to put your problems into perspective. As you age, you'll see that what seems overwhelming and unbearable now is only a minor hitch. Trust that there's so much more out there including magical experiences for you available to you right now. You will see how balanced the world has the potential to be when you look for them. Take this card as a reminder to persevere, stay strong and believe in yourself because the world needs you more than you may know.

And here's where we'll end.

The gift of your anger, just like fire, is that it brings light to the world.

Do you ever notice that when you really honor your anger and confront it, stand in it, you're so clear about what you're mad about? Magically and your body generates clear sensations and feelings to expel and express that anger. You need to trust that that is actually for your positive gain and that your anger is not something that is inherently bad.

In the past you've been told that being angry is bad. It's not what good boys do and it's certainly unladylike to be angry. It's natural.

You see it out in the wild and animals all the time, they process through that ferocity, ferociousness, right, and allow it to move right through them but do they stay in that or like suck it in? No, they express and they use it to break through whatever is in their way. Some healthy ways to express your anger include exercise or screaming in your car with the windows closed by yourself as you drive, writing it out, drawing, tearing up pieces of newspaper that belong to you.

Post below what are some examples of ways that you process your angry in a healthy way.

Do you go to a kickboxing or an MMA class? Do you dance it out? Share how you process that fire energy that you naturally have so that as a tribe we can come together and let it go. Okay?

I'm sending you so much love, subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week and I'll see you next time. Bye. Happy angering.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Secretly mad about something?

Hiding how pissed off you are to appear "polite" and not rock the boat?

Tired of putting on a happy face for everyone?

From an early age, most of us are taught that our anger is wrong, bad and should be tamped down.

So we hide that fiery energy in our minds and bodies and this can lead to dis-eases of many kinds.

Watch this week's 11-minute Love Letter video to learn how to honor your anger in a healthy way!

"I feel so blocked. I don't know what the problem is."

This week it's important for you to honor your anger. Honor your anger.

Now you may be watching this and be the most happy and positive person you know. I'm sure you're just like me where you love to spread sunshine and positive energy and because of that there's nothing wrong, right?

No one ever makes you angry. In fact, I bet you can't even remember the last time you were actually angry or even showed any anger. 😉

How hard do you smile when you do share your smile? Is it like this or are you sharing your joy with ease?

Are you pushing that sunshine and positive energy out of you? Or is it naturally flowing out with a sense of ease, abundance and just spilling out of you? Or could we be pushing?

If you feel like you're pushing to be positive, keep listening because rather than being the happiest person you know you just might be the angriest person you know.

Get this. Did you know that most highly sensitive individuals, those who are energy workers, healers, body workers, people who have a servant's heart and are really here for a healing purpose are in fact the angriest persons on the planet? They're the angriest people.

Yes, really. Zen master that you see doing her yoga Zen thing or his yoga Zen thing actually is pretty darn angry.

It's interesting because that intense fire energy is what motivates the person to give so much. It motivates us, you, to be that change that you wish to see in the world, to really want to clean up and have the nice house that's all put together and everything where it's supposed to be.

It's that fire energy that motivates you to get to the gym everyday or to get into your yoga practice everyday. It's that fire energy of anger filling up your empathic sense and you think it's other people's negativity but I'm here to tell you, you actually need to honor your anger.

There's nothing wrong with anger. In fact anger is quite beautiful, just like fire.

Now, you can have in a fireplace the ability to admire the fire safely and have it warm your environment and really bring more of a sense of beauty and sensuality to your space. That fire energy, just oh my god, I love fireplaces, they're so sensual. It's wonderful, right?

So grounding or you could have it spread in her own divine feminine way consuming everything in her path destructively such as a forest fire where oh crap or the house is caught on fire because of one little thing, one little trigger and she just starts consuming all of the fuel that confirms her anger energy and just explodes out or perhaps if there's enough fuel.

Be kind to yourself. It's time to honor your anger and see the beauty in her.

Now as I'm talking to you, you're like this love letter is totally not for me. Hold on a second.

Anger that is not honored can show up in sneaky ways and we cover these ways in many different love letters but in particular we're talking about anger this week but it's suppressed energy. When you want to stop watching porn for example, stop supressing and use systems from pornaddiction.co.uk.

Suppressed energy can affect your sexual libido, can give you achy joints, neck, jaw, head and eye tension, tensed pelvis, let's see, what else? We're just going to go down the list.

Water retention, excess weight holding, insatiable appetite. We just keep eating and for some reason we're not getting built. Repressed anger energy can also come up as feeling blocked or confused, craving a sense of clarity that we just can't seem to get.

Know this: Anger that is not honored can manifest in sneaky ways, such as inflammation, aches, apathy and confusion.

I'm just really trying to clarify my message but I can't quite get to it because I'm blocked. No, actually, you have some anger in you to release.

This week in particular, it's time for you to honor your anger.

Now the oracle cards are coming in the energy. It's the Indigo Angel Oracle cards deck.

This is actually a really great oracle cards deck for working through our anger.

I just saw the image in the energy of an iceberg and this is how engaging your anger works.

You may think you've gotten to it. Like I'm mad about this but there's a whole … like the little iceberg on top, the split image and then the big, big cavernous iceberg underneath the water. There's layers and layers and layers of anger energy that you can release.

Trust. And they're telling me to read.

The trust card comes up.

Oh boy, I could feel someone on the other side of the screen being like, "oh God, what are we going to find out now." Take a deep breath in and exhale.

This card asks you to trust that there's a purpose to life right now. The guy just saying that there's a purpose to your anger. Keep faith that the chaos you see around you has an underlying meaning and divine design. When times are hard, naturally sensitive people can feel that the world has been orchestrated to work against them and that nothing is fair. The truth is that your viewpoint has not yet expanded enough to put your problems into perspective. As you age, you'll see that what seems overwhelming and unbearable now is only a minor hitch. Trust that there's so much more out there including magical experiences for you available to you right now. You will see how balanced the world has the potential to be when you look for them. Take this card as a reminder to persevere, stay strong and believe in yourself because the world needs you more than you may know.

And here's where we'll end.

The gift of your anger, just like fire, is that it brings light to the world.

Do you ever notice that when you really honor your anger and confront it, stand in it, you're so clear about what you're mad about? Magically and your body generates clear sensations and feelings to expel and express that anger. You need to trust that that is actually for your positive gain and that your anger is not something that is inherently bad.

In the past you've been told that being angry is bad. It's not what good boys do and it's certainly unladylike to be angry. It's natural.

You see it out in the wild and animals all the time, they process through that ferocity, ferociousness, right, and allow it to move right through them but do they stay in that or like suck it in? No, they express and they use it to break through whatever is in their way. Some healthy ways to express your anger include exercise or screaming in your car with the windows closed by yourself as you drive, writing it out, drawing, tearing up pieces of newspaper that belong to you.

Post below what are some examples of ways that you process your angry in a healthy way.

Do you go to a kickboxing or an MMA class? Do you dance it out? Share how you process that fire energy that you naturally have so that as a tribe we can come together and let it go. Okay?

I'm sending you so much love, subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters first every week and I'll see you next time. Bye. Happy angering.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Honor your anger by engaging Her in a healthy way.

Dance, run or scream it off, tear up old papers and magazines, or take a kickboxing class.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Wish you could speak up for yourself in difficult situations?

Constantly trying to make everyone else happy while you're drained and exhausted?

Worried that if you aren't "nice" enough that people won't accept you as you are?

Being able to resolve conflicts is an important skill in life.

However there's a fine line between being helpful and being a people-pleaser -- and we often tend to blur that line.

Watch this week's 6-minute Love Letter video to find out if you're being "too nice" and what you can do about it!

"How can I tell if I'm being 'too nice?'"

This week, Source wants to ask you: Are you being too nice?

This a rhetorical question by the way! It's more to raise your awareness around the fact that you are being too nice.

Let's just cut to the chase. Recently, maybe you've been feeling some of the following scenarios:

• • You want to speak up in a certain situation and you just don't because you want to "play nice,"  "keep the peace" or make sure everyone feels okay.

• • There's something that you want, but because you want someone else, or everyone else, to feel comfortable and have what they want or because you don't want to hurt anybody's feelings, you keep it to yourself or hide it.

• Or better yet, you don't freely express what you want in general, so when people innocently ask what you want because they want to support you, you've been holding back expressing what you want for so long that you don't even know what you want, and so you just draw a blank.

When someone you care about asks, "What do you want?" or "Where do you want to eat tonight?" or "What would you like to do?" for example, you shut down.

Perhaps we were raised or socialized to "politely" shut down like this, or perhaps you just decided at some point to believe that when you're a nice person, you make concessions and let others go ahead and make the decisions, always.

It could be under the guise of having a servant's heart.

It could be under the guise of being gentle, compassionate, giving, loving, even.

But here's the thing: what matters most is how you feel.

Know this: You can tell if you're being too #nice according to how you feel. #motivation #feelings @senseiwhitfield

How do making concessions and being indecisive feel?

How does hiding your true wants and desires feel?

How does holding back like this feel?

Source is saying you're hiding your anger.

Here's the thing: hiding your true feelings to be "polite" is only hiding from yourself, and that's a sure-fire recipe for anger and resentment.

When you want to be a good person, that doesn't necessarily mean that your blood should be boiling in the background all the time, putting on a nice front in order to make others feel comfortable and more safe in your presence.

That is inauthentic and moreover a symptom of being ungrounded.

It's about becoming aware of the difference between:

Not knowing what you want because you're hiding it from yourself, and by extension hiding it from others and appearing politely indecisive

versus

Knowing what you want and how you feel, and having the communication skills and courage to be truthful and meet others halfway

They're completely different arenas, completely different emotional experiences.

Especially when we're sensitive, empathic, intuitive beings, we tend to take on others' emotions. And we absorb the energies of environments and that will even more push us to want to be extra nice.

Because if we can only contribute positive energy and only appease (read: people-please) others, then that will create a comfortable exterior environment which then, once that happens, then we can on the interior feel comfortable.

So, as empaths we're unfortunately used to being defined by our circumstance.

That's a serious problem, because this complex issue of being "too nice" sets you up for Enabling codependency, disempowerment, self-sabotage and living a very small, confused life.

So Source in the energy, She is simply asking for you to notice if you are being too nice at all this week.

She wants you to notice if you are losing your point of view and your identity in order to appease others.

This week in particular -- you clicked on this video blog now, so you need to be vigilant this week in particular.

I'm not talking about all the time, but Source says something's going on this week where you're going to need to be extra vigilant.

And I'm hearing the Oracle Cards calling. It's the Indigo Angel Oracle Cards deck.

Let's ask the angels, "what do we need to know right now about possibly being too nice? Could we be being too nice?"

Archangel Michael.

Archangel Michael comes forward with his fiery sword.

If you notice, that's his back on the card. The message is: he's got your back.

 

 

This week's oracle card is "Archangel Michael" with a message that he's got your back. Are you afraid to be bold and stand up for what you believe in? Full reading on YouTube at https://youtu.be/rsDkYwuB--k ????????????????✨ #motivation #motivationmonday #instadaily #confidence #strength #selflove #healthy #letsgo #healing #angel #oraclecards #youtube

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Sometimes we can be overly nice in people-pleasing as a protection and a coping mechanism.

Don't sacrifice your personality, your preferences, your desires, to simply fit in or appease others.

Your point of view is worthy. YOU are worthy.

Send me an email back, comment below, tell me what's coming up for you around if you're being too nice or being curious about it.

If you want to ask me about a situation, I always respond. Let me know, and I'm happy to mastermind with you through this situation, okay?

Subscribe on YouTube so you get your love letter every week.

Until next time, don't be too nice. 😉 

See you next week. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Stop being "nice" at the expense of your integrity and inner truth. 

Want spiritual support on your healing journey but don't know where to start? Tell me!

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Are you having a hard time recognizing, respecting and communicating your own personal boundaries to others?

Wondering why you always end up being the only one giving or trying to make things work in relationships?

Disappointed that your partner or coworkers never pick up the slack when you need them to?

Spirit wants you to know that there has to be a clear line in the sand for you between what you're willing to put up with in life and what you want.

The energy this week wants to discuss why we let ourselves -- as well as the people in our lives -- get away with highway robbery overstepping boundaries.

Watch the above 16-minute video to make sure the something that’s got to give isn’t your sense of personal wellbeing!

"But if I don't do anything, nothing gets done..."

Why do we allow ourselves to feel day after day drained, exhausted, unfulfilled, sad, frustrated, anxious, and holding repressed anger?

Source is saying that something's got to give if we keep this up because the universe is in a constant state of motion.

What does that mean? The way that nature works is that she's in constant growth and decomposition.

There's this constant cycle of expansion through shedding the old layers; just watch how a tree grows if you want to see it. NASA even reported that they recently confirmed that the universe is expanding—just like you. Why? Because that is nature. How does that apply?

Here it is: In any given situation in life, if you don't give in, something else will or if something else won't give in, you have to. Something has got to give, always.

This applies specifically to boundaries: how you lay out your boundaries, or standards rather, in life. Not only how you lay them out, but also whether or not you truly honor them in the way that you interact with people.

Be kind to yourself if you're the someone that's usually giving, rather than allowing the circumstance or the other players involved to be the someone or something that has got to give to you.

What does that look like? Well let me gender this for a moment, and talk to the ladies.

Oftentimes women will give wonderful, colorful excuses.

Excuse after excuse about why they shouldn't express what they're really thinking because they’ll say to themselves “oh I'm going to get in trouble,” “oh someone is going to get angry,” “oh I'm going to get fired” or “oh they're going to leave me,” right?

There's millions of excuses to maintain this status of silence.

But, the truth is excuses are an avoidant protective measure designed to create an artificial sense of control over where we're at, emotionally and energetically speaking. 

Rather than staying open and expressing whatever needs to be expressed for whatever reason, we tell ourselves it doesn't matter.

However, what really matters most is how you're feeling in that moment.

Here’s why: if you're maintaining the silence for fear, the effects of this show up elsewhere, because something’s got to resolve or give in to confirming your sense of fear.

If we're holding that (false) sense of “safe silence,” the thing that's going to give is usually your sense of emotional support, bodily health, personal safety, relational health, financial health, right?

If we're not able to stay open, there will be things in your environment that will reflect your lack of openness.

Something has got to give. If you won't allow that authentic energy you’re feeling to flow through you, which is Source energy and the energy of honesty and truth, it's going to come out in a different way.

With women oftentimes our weight will reflect the inability to express our emotions, depending on the woman.

Whether it is not being able to hold on weight, so having eating disorders, or having excessive weight that just won't go away. If you don't give in, something else will.

Coping mechanisms are meant to psychologically block against that feeling of not being open, better known as a feeling of vulnerability, but blocking this feeling can have detrimental effects.

In fact, there's a universal law that applies here. The Universal Law of Causation: for every cause, there is an effect. Something always has to give; things don’t happen in a vacuum, all energy is responsive.

On the other side of the fence, I've seen men who are holding on to a past disappointment of guilt of failure and it will reflect in their bodies.

Hip tightness or a consistent tightness around the shoulders—this sense of restriction is the manifestation of guilt and disappointment that they're not able to let go of.

Why do men hold on? Often for pride, for honor... which is just pride. Telling ourselves “I was wrong and I should be punished,” so there is a series of punishments that come down to resolve this in life, indefinitely.

Unforgiveness and not being able to let go of the past can also have financial repercussions, believe it or not.

Know this: Not being able to let go of the past is a desire to not confront raw feelings within ourselves; & this can affect your #finances!

That avoidant behavior can show up in your finances in the form of other self-sabotaging behaviors: ignorance, impulsivity, mismanagement and lack mentality.

Think of it this way. If I can't confront that painful issue in the past, then I darn well can't look at what's going on my bank account or have a sense of personal mastery about that now! Be kind to yourself if that's you.

Something always has to give. You don't have to be the one that's incurring the repercussions of that fear, though.

You can give yourself permission to be free of always being The Giver, or the one who has to shrink, or bear the brunt of the pain, frustration, the effects.

Yes, you can choose to allow others to assume the responsibility for their actions.

So many times the most spiritual, sensitive people absorb the effects of others, because we want to protect them, love them, or because we’re so empathic that we can’t help ourselves.

You know, the psychological term for that is “enabling,” right?

We'll absorb the effects of others' behaviors because we think we're being responsible, doing our best.

We're trying here at Share Prices Australia to make sure everybody else feels comfortable, at the expense of our own physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health. Financial as well.

We'll just take it in because be think proudly “I can take it. You don't have to. You don't have to.”

It's a mistake to think that this is courageous. Instead you're just being a martyr.

We're not respecting the fact that we all have thresholds, telling ourselves over and over “I'm going to ignore this, I'm going to ignore my feelings. I'm going to ignore my dreams. I'm going to ignore my own energy for as long as I possibly can so I can push through to look...normal.”

You're doing a lot more harm than you think because it's going against Nature. In terms of our Nature, she is never static, she’s always flowing—something's got to give.

It may appear that you're holding back negativity from others but in actuality you’re inviting it in to your energy, and then only hiding from yourself.

Watch the video for this week’s oracle card, which shows you how to stop sabotaging your natural flow of wellbeing and abundance, by stopping this behavior pattern before you burnout!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Notice how you're enabling someone’s negative behavior or treatment of you by staying silent.

When you notice your silence as YOUR PART in enabling the situation, ask yourself “What could I have done to stop feeding that situation?”

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want to protect your energy but don't know where to start? Tell me!

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Is it hard for you to take compliments because you doubt people's sincerity?

Resistant to others offering to help you, thinking you'll appear weak or that you "should" do it all yourself?

Avoiding calling back that great contact you just met or even that friend you miss, and don't know why?

Though we often ask Spirit for abundance--not just of money, but also of friendship, love and health, etc.--we can be resistant to receiving what we asked for when the opportunity finally comes our way.

Believe it or not, it's because we're actually afraid of getting what we want. Yikes!

Watch the above video to start learning to receive abundance without fear!

"Be careful what you wish for--you just might get it."

We've all heard that phrase before.

It sums up the inherent fear we all have about receiving abundantly.

With that popular phrase, we learn to avoid abundance because we learn that 1) our own judgement is not trustworthy, and 2) life will be harder when we get more of x, y or z. So don't bother.

Let's continue to look at this limiting, negative mindset for a bit--the syndrome of "why ask for more?" or "why bother?"

Isn't it just "safer" to live on crumbs of love, ghosts of friendship, and paycheck to paycheck?

Rich people are mean anyway, people who have lots of friends or who claim they are "happily married" are fake, and being healthy is impossible because our genetics and the food and pharmaceutical companies are stacked against us because of a grand conspiracyzzzzzzzzzz...

YIKES! Fear is a slippery slope of sludge and slimey energy. Yum.

Didn't you enjoy that sludge slide? Bet you were ready for more, right? LOL!

We all have patterns in our energy to create excuses to justify not asking for more, dreaming bigger, taking risks and imperfect action, being vulnerable and making mistakes--basically all the good stuff that makes life, well, REAL.

These patterns of thought and belief aren't there because they're reality, they're there for your protection.

Feeling resistant and fearful in the face of growth is just your Ego letting you know your out of bounds; She is trying to protect you from Her enemy: the Unknown.

You can always find Love in fear. You just have to look with intention.

To see the Love in your over-flagellant Ego, Spirit is saying to picture it this way:

Imagine you are driving a top-of-the-line luxury car on a very long road trip. The car has all the bells and whistles, including something called "Lane Assist" -- that new technology that keeps your car from drifting out of the lane on a highway, to prevent collisions.

Now, you've been using Lane Assist with the Cruise Control on a particularly long stretch of highway that you had to go. But the GPS says your exit is up next, so you begin to switch lanes. Since you forgot to shut off the Lane Assist, all the alarms go off saying "warning! you're drifting out of the lane!" because the computer doesn't know why you're turning.

The warning alarm was to protect you, but it no longer applies now.

And the same applies here with your Ego flaring up.

The Ego sends resistance and fear up to warn you that you're departing from who you WERE, because She isn't "programmed" to notice who you ARE right now or who you are about to BECOME.

Your Ego is designed to preserve you (as you WERE) and protect you through sending warnings in the form of emotional avoidance and resistance.

Giving in to this resistance and avoidance though reinforces your status quo; if you are happy with that, great! But if not, then we need to allow things to change.

The key is to recognize when you are resisting or avoiding something, especially if it's a good thing.

Your Ego doesn't resist just the new or possible bad stuff, She resists the new or possible good stuff too, because She's defending you against the Unknown because She believes (read: you harbor a limiting belief) that all Unknown is Unsafe.

Know this: Affirmation: I am open to receiving more love, truth and support. It is safe for me to be abundantly happy. #gratitude #success #love

Notice when you are resisting receiving a new good thing or taking a new good action; once you notice your resistance, you become conscious of your Ego overreacting, and that gives you the ability to choose how you feel and what's your next move.

The more you consciously choose how to feel and what to do, the more abundance you'll receive.

In truth, the Universe is ready and willing to deliver what you want to manifest--more love, friendship, money, health, free time, etc.--but She needs to see that you're conscious enough to choose to receive it.

The key, however, is to start small: notice resistance to small good things, like compliments, for example.

If you reject, repel, avoid or refuse to accept compliments, it's two things: 1) your Ego is overprotecting because she's repelling positive feedback, and 2) you're not conscious enough to choose to receive positive energy, even on a small scale.

Source will never send more than you can bear. So if you can't bear to receive positive, abundant energy on a small scale, she won't send it for bigger things--like love, money, cars, etc.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows one fun and easy action you can take to fast-track your ability to receive abundance without fear, now!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Start small with receiving abundance.

When someone pays you a compliment or offers to help you, pause, smile, and simply say "Thank You."

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want to let go and receive but don't know where to start? Tell me!

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Do you have a hard time saying "no" to people?

Always end up kicking yourself afterward, because you're too quick to say "yes" when others ask you if you can do something for them?

Wondering why you have trouble knowing and respecting your own boundaries?

Chronic people-pleasing behavior comes from our core human desires for significance and approval.

It's natural to want to feel significant and approved of, but it's a whole other can of wormy worms when you're dependent on others to feel emotionally secure.

Watch the above video to embrace the fact that your yes actually means no sometimes, and what to do about it!

"Can you do this for me? -- YEAH SURE!"

It's like a knee-jerk reaction.

The YES! comes flying out before you can check your schedule, before you have considered your current workload and commitments, and before you can even blink.

And we wonder why we feel so overwhelmed lately...

All of a sudden your workday is jampacked, you're wearing 5 hats in the office, and then when you get home you're putting out fires, going to parties with people you're not really interested in to keep up appearances of being "social" and "normal," the dishes and laundry are piling up, your socks have holes in them and your shoes and underpants are falling apart....

Meanwhile, everyone around you says you're a "good friend," a "good mom" and you "work hard" and that they love you for "always being there." In fact, whenever they hear that someone needs something done, they'll send them to you to do it for them, too!

That's quite beautiful on one hand to be so connected, involved and loved, however sometimes being so over-committed can catch up with you.

Your health and self-care are the first to go. Suddenly you've found that you're exhausted all the time, and you're not sleeping at night because you just can't turn off your mind.

Thoughts are racing through your head late at night when you should be sound asleep about the next thing that you "have to do" or "has to get done" around the house, at the office, or for so-in-so up the street, etc.

To stay organized and create some sense of order, you write up lists on sticky notes and pieces of paper and revel in the juiceyfulness of CROSSING OUT tasks when you finish them. YES!

And sometimes, when no one's looking... you'll even add a few tasks on to your existing lists just so you can cross them out immediately and feel EVEN MORE accomplished...

Is this sounding familiar yet? Maybe I'm the only one. 😉

Believe it or not, being addicted to solving other people's problems is actually a form of controlling and avoidant behavior.

Here's how it goes: if you can crowd your life with other people's issues and opinions, you can

1) "have a hand in" (read: "control") part of their lives, and that will make you feel personally significant--even if that significance is temporary and externally determined or artificial, and

2) you can also avoid confronting and healing your own internal insecurities and deep-seated emotional wounds, because you're too busy dealing with other people's stuff.

Having a Savior Complex therefore is an emotional Get-Out-Of-Jail-FREE Card! YAY!

Now, I'm not saying you should never help people and turn into a selfish, angry hermit crab. No.

However you should learn to honor YOURSELF and YOUR NEEDS when making a decision to lend a hand or get involved with others' projects.

You see, you don't have to save everybody who comes across your path.

Read any comic book or watch any movie about superheros, and that's one of the biggest lessons they have to learn too--you can't save everybody. It's about teamwork AND facing your own inner demons in the process, too.

One way you can combat overwhelm or caregiver's fatigue is by studying and practicing using a magickal two-letter word: "No."

You actually already say No now, while you're saying Yes--internally, that is.

Know this: Saying NO to you is saying YES to me. #selfcare #boundaries #love

Ever had the experience of your boss or a client or someone asking you to do something, and you said "Yes" out loud, but you felt uncomfortable in your body while doing it?

THAT is an example of when your Yes really means NO.

You see, your body never lies. And your emotions express themselves constantly to you through the sensations of your body through what is called your "gut feelings" or "listening to your heart"--notice the bodily organs: heart, gut.

Where we get lost is when we tune to and value other people's feelings moreso than our own--our own point of view gets lost in the sauce.

The "sauce" of empathic overwhelm, that is. And that's when our mind-body sponge becomes saturated by other's thoughts and feelings so much that we can't hear our own anymore.

Most people describe empathic overwhelm as "I need to get rid of all this negativity" or "I need clarity" or "I'm just so stressed out, I can't think straight" -- it's all the same.

Watch this week's video for the Oracle Card of the Week, which shows us what's the spiritual reason for WHY you're saying "yes" when you really mean "NO!"

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Notice if you are aware of your needs and how you feel the next time someone asks you to do something today. You are nobody's servant and nobody's slave.

When someone asks you to do something today (that isn't about a life-threatening situation), buy yourself some time to check in with yourself and say "Let me see. I'll get back to you on that." And set a time later on, after you've tuned in to YOUR schedule, needs and feelings, to update them...

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

SHARE THIS! You’d be surprised how many people you know right now are in desperate need of healing and could use this information to change their life. If you can read this, you know someone who needs this Love Letter!

Want to stop being a doormat but don't know where to start? Tell me!

Give me a call at 732-903-8573 or click on the blue BOOK NOW button to start your healing journey, today!

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