Second-guessing taking a certain positive action in your business?

Worried that you’ll screw it up, “like you always do”?

Have you just accepted that most of your friends, family or colleagues have a negative or pessimistic outlook on life?

It’s not easy being the creative and energy-sensitive black sheep.

And if you don’t have a positive high-vibe community to encourage and nourish you, you can end up stuck more often than not in your life and business.

Watch this week’s 11-minute Love Letter video, the third in our 4-week exploration of the Power of Positive Community, to leverage the Universal Law of Association!

"What's wrong with me?"

This is week three, it's our third installment of the four week deep dive on the power of positive community. And this week in particular we really want to take some time to clarify the power of the love association.

When I was journeying on the topic for this week's love letter video my guides said that it's time for us to really talk about universal laws and start understanding them on deeper levels. We'll be covering more universal laws as the year goes on together.

But for this week in particular let's talk about the law of association.

I briefly covered it in the first of our four week deep dive so if you haven't seen that yet, go ahead and pause this video and go back on YouTube to re-watch that or go back on the blog at victoriawhitfield.com. But for this week let's talk about the universal law of association.

And this basically states that you are and your reality is the sum total and median, the common denomination between the five people and five realities that you spend the most time with and around. You're the median of the five people that you listen to the most.

Your bank account and your income is the median of the five incomes and bank accounts that you are the most exposed to or the closest related to. The law of association basically means that in groups we find harmony.

The inverse is to say in general, it's harder to stick out and go against the grain. In nature things tend to find harmony.

And so to illustrate this, I wanted to speak to those of you in the tribe and especially you who's watching who feel like the black sheep. We talked about that earlier this month. So if you've been feeling like a black sheep it's important for you to see exactly what's going on here.

It's not that everyone around you is crazy or everyone around you's wrong. Or conversely that there's something wrong with you. What's wrong with me? No, no, no. You're just cut from a different thread. You have different DNA.

To illustrate this my guide sent me a visual to convey what it essentially looks like.

In that you are a lioness. Or you're a lion. However, as a cub you grew up with cats. So rather than out hunting zebra and enjoying all the space, laying out in the sun and going wherever you please proudly like a lion and being ferocious when needed but soft when else. You grew up with cats and so cats hide. They hide to make sure that they stay safe. They pile together to keep warm. They like to fit into small spaces so that they can feel as safe and protected and small and compact as possible. And cats also more often than not are domesticated. So when they see humans they either feel frightened or they want to be pet and touched.

So can you imagine what the mindset of a lion would be if since she was a cub she grew up around cats?

First her cub ages, she's same size as everyone and hiding and keeping safe maybe even suckling on other mama cats because she was small enough to suckle alongside the kittens. And eventually then she's grown into full lioness where she tries to sit and fit into boxes that she can't fit anymore. Or if a zebra or antelope comes she runs and takes off rather than doing her natural duty as a lioness to eat. That's food, it's not a threat. Or even people. Oh snuggling with them rather than seeing them as prey. The mindset of a kitten or a cat is inside of this lion.

Has this happened to you in your business? Or even in your life? Where, although you were born with the DNA of a lion, you've grown up and surrounded yourself with cats. Who play small and stay small to stay as safe and controlled as possible.

Never let out ferociousness or if they do it's in a short burst and only to a few things. Most things aren't prey to cats. Certainly not on the lion's level. Be kind to yourself if you've been playing small because you have a mindset that's coming from the wrong DNA.

Know this: You are cut from a different cloth: you are a lion. 🦁 So stop acting like a scaredy-cat! 😿

This week in particular the guides are asking you to tune into where you are associating yourself. If you are a lion deep within you, you know it, how many lions are you running with? Can you look to your right and look to your left and see other powerhouses? Forces of nature.

Or when you look to your right and look to your left everyone says you're crazy or you're being too much. You're too big. You're too big. Even though you can't help it. It's your DNA.

Be on the lookout for that. And also be on the lookout for where the lions are. If you're ready to come out more and to invoke more of your bigger presence, go where the lions are. This is where I'm hearing the oracle cards calling and the energy around our understanding of the law of association.

Let's get a little bit closer so that you can see the detail of the cards when I pull them.

It's Healing With the Fairies by Doreen Virtue one of the many oracle card decks that we have here at the dojo. So fairies, what do we need to know right now about the law of association?

And having permission to play big and be lions and lionesses? Ooo, hello. Ooo. Beauty. The fairies are bringing the beauty card forward and this is where we're going to leave off for the week.

In self image. How you care for yourself, seeing how she's combing her hair, how you care for yourself creates how you see yourself. And if your self care is on a cat of kitten level even though your DNA is of the lion and lioness, you are going to recreate an image of yourself as small. And to associate with others who are on that same level.

However, if you know that your DNA is at a higher level, on the lioness level taking this illustration, if you know it's on a higher level it's time for you to up level your self care so that you are treating yourself as a lion.

It starts with you. Your self image matters. So that when you come around other lions you recognize huh, we're the same. We have the same DNA rather than thinking, "ooo, you're a little bit too big for me."

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Work on your own perspective so that you can see yourself in your lion presence rather than just as your cat or kitten presence.

Is this resonating for you? What comes up? Go ahead and type in the comments below or send me an email back. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these love letter first every week and remember, if you need help balancing your mind, body and business just let me know over at victoriawhitfield.com/contact and we'll see you soon. Bye.

(Original post 04/16/2018)

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This is our final week four of four in our exploration of healing sales, our sales scars and shame around asking for the sale. Healing the bad, crusty experiences that we've had in the past.

If this is the first video that you are seeing in this series, make sure you hit pause, and go back on my blog at victoriawhitfield.com so that you start from part one and are grounded in this process.

Without further ado, for week four of four, the guides have asked us to continue the conversation that we started last week, and specifically talk about sales as healing. Sales as healing? Holy tomato! For some people, that's about the most opposite possible thing that they could think of when they think of sales. “Are you kidding me? Sales is like you're raiding and pillaging everyone. It's like an attack.”

Sales can be perceived as an attack, and if we've had some negative experiences in the past, in those really powerful transformational moments that come up for us regarding a larger sale such as buying a house or a car, or a coaching program, or a new building, and so on and so forth. If someone's done you wrong in that level sale, that scar runs deep, but in the words of Robert Bly from Iron John- which is amazing if you haven't read it yet – “Every wound is a womb.” Every wound is a womb.

The wounds that we may have received in our past of sales not going very well for ourselves or being done to us - or even witnessing sales happening between others that aren’t ethical - every wound that we receive is actually a womb. And what is a womb? It's a place where new life is created, so that's why we're talking about sales as healing. These wounds that we've received over the course of engaging in commerce are sacred, whether you are an entrepreneur or not. You don't have to own a business to have engaged in the sale. Anything you have, the clothes on your back, glasses, the shoes, underpants on your butt (hopefully, you're not wearing any? No judgment.) you have that because someone sold it to you.

You live in this house because someone sold it. Be kind to yourself. Your education, you have it because someone sold you on having education. But at the same time some of those experiences of being sold, being brought from one paradigm to another through a sale - a sale bridges gaps - that paradigm shift can be a bit traumatic.

But I want to elevate to this vision that the guides are sending for us right now of sales as something entirely different: sales is healing. I really want to drop into my heart and be blunt right now with you, because a lot of my lists of people who are watching these videos, following on YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, Pinterest, or wherever you are, if it's just landed into your inbox or someone forwarded me to you: nine times out of 10 you're some sort of a teacher, coach, healer, or a caregiver of some sort, right? You support people. You offer a healing presence.

If you are watching or reading this right now, whether you're a hairdresser cutting hair, an accountant doing taxes, or a lawyer working through your cases, whether you're working in construction, or you're like a transformational women's divine feminine coach goddess, or some other service-based business in addition to all of the above. If you're watching and still reading this right now, what magnetized you is not just my lovely exciting shirt and sparkly energy, but it's the fact that you see a piece of you in me. By the way, likewise; I see a piece of myself in you, in that we are Healers. We're here to heal the world. We're here to bring healing presence.

If you are having a hard time receiving financial abundance, it's because you have not shifted your point of view yet around sales. You haven't shifted it yet to see sales as healing. Sales is healing. Now, I'm a Reiki Master, an alternative medicine energy healer. I'm a woo-woo person, and proudly wave my rainbow woo-woo flag. I’m down with unicorns and glitter and high vibrational multi-dimensional energy - all of that, 100%. And the only way that I am able to share all that woo-woo goodness juice with the people who are starving and dried out and like desperate for it – they’re spiritually dehydrated. They need the juice. - is if I get out there and share my gift. If I get out, open up and talk about who I am and what I do, and what I can do for you. That's the purpose of sales.

Sales is actually healing for the people who are thirsty for the juice that you have created. I'm not talking about selling people stuff that they don't need. That can actually turn more into an addiction. I mean, hey, I have an addictive personality. Let me pull myself out the closet and like flap that in the air for you, okay? So yeah, I can have an addictive personality where, oh my gosh, I just want to go, I want to buy a bunch of stuff to alleviate my frustration right now. I want to buy a bunch of information courses and a bunch of books, and a bunch of crystals, right? Maybe that's been you before, and to some extent the things that I'm drawn to are what I need in the moment.

And those people who are out there selling the crystals, the necklaces, the books, the audio courses, the things that are going to lift me back up, I thank the Goddess for them. But I'm not going to be going out there and buying like, you know, sprockets and light bulbs and tires and things when I'm in my emotional state searching for a certain thing. If I need energy, I'm going to go out there looking for things that are going to give me energy for what I'm looking for.
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That's the key for sales being healing. It's you putting out “what am I going to help people with? And here it is.” I really appreciate Russell Brunson, his concept of having a Bridge to help us get from that state of “Alright already! I'm in frustration and in trouble” to “here, let's talk about the sale.” Having a Bridge is what's going to help you engage more sales as the healing part of your business. It not only heals your bank account when you close successful sales, but it also is healing for the clients and customers who are receiving exactly what they need.

Having a Bridge, and this comes from Russell Brunson, is to have a phrase that helps anchor in the fact that you are here to help them, and you have something that you would like to help them with. So what is that phrase? It could be asking for permission of someone who, you know, if you're out sharing your gifts and you see they could really use what you are providing, say, "Hey, I see that you have this situation going on. Is it okay if I share with you something that I put together to make things easier for you?” Or, “I put something together to serve you, and I was wondering if you would want to hear more about it?"

Ask for permission. Sales is healing when you always ask permission, first.You want to get consent in guiding someone through their paradigm shift, because the worst thing is pushing someone into a paradigm shift who doesn't want it and isn't ready for it. Sales is healing because we raise the buyer’s vibration. We help people into a new, more empowered reality as long as you're doing it ethically. When done unethically, unfortunately it can become like what we've been talking about for the last few weeks: something that is much more of a scarring experience.

Now, you've got to remember to turn on your natural intuition. Tune into your body. Clear your energy. Listen to your heart. If you feel your heart opening towards someone, feeling compassionate and wanting to help them, listen to that desire, that sensation of oh my goodness, I really want to help them. I feel for them. That's a sign from the Universe to actually take out your bridge, bring it over to them and say, "Hey, I see you're going through this situation. I know about something that could help you”, or “I put this thing together that could really make it easier for you. Is it okay if I share it with you?" Get their consent, and then go ahead, honor them by giving them access to the thing that will help them the most. Sales is so incredibly, powerfully healing. Comment below, send me an email back at team@victoriawhitfield.com. Let me know what's coming up for you around this.

For now we're going to jump into the Oracle cards. The deck that we've been journeying with is Angels of Abundance by Doreen Virtue, these Oracle cards of Doreen with her son Grant. “Alright, Angels of Abundance, what do we need to know right now about sales as healing and how to activate our natural intuition now, other than reading Victoria's book?” ...Oh, snap. Throwing down some serious love bombs.

Face your financial fears. When you are honest with yourself about fears of success or failure, honest with yourself, they can no longer control you. Be free of hidden fears by exposing them to the light of awareness, and you'll realize that you in fact have nothing to fear, and that every successful person has struggled with and releases these self-doubts. This is where we're going to leave off for the week. The perfect landing point for this series.

You know, when you release fear around sales, receiving more or delivering more sales conversations, when you release that fear and you have faith that this is actually a healing going on, all of that momentum around blocking abundance lifts. Have faith that what you are sharing is healing. Focus on the healing. Don't focus on your fear or on your self-doubt. That'll sabotage you. You'll end up self-sabotaging.

Do the inner work first, though, to get yourself into a space of total faith in the work that you do or in the product that you're talking about. Do the inner work around understanding that when you go into a sales conversation, or when someone's trying to engage you in that, there's a healing going on. Be open to receiving or giving the healing more so than the money, okay? Be more focused on the healing work than the finances, and nine times out of 10 you'll end up closing the sale and the finances will come.

Be kind to yourself if you're afraid of focusing on the healing because you're so afraid of the money. If that's your case, please reach out to me at www.victoriawhitfield.com/contact You can hop on the phone with me and we'll be able to get you sorted and see how we can best support you moving through that fear of receiving.

I'm sending you so much love, blessings and abundance, and I'll see you in the next one.

May you feel loved and safe at work, and please: Enjoy the journey.

Bye for now.

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Money stressing you out these days?

Find yourself obsessing about getting more of it, since there’s never enough?

Want the next era of your life to be a time of increasing financial health and abundance?

Money is a touchy subject.

Entrepreneurs, and especially holistic healers, get massively triggered by the topic of money, value and receiving support.

Watch this week’s 14-minute Love Letter, the first in our 4-week series, to discover why your financial healing matters now more than ever.

"I would not talk about money."

This month, I'm so excited to talk to you about something that spirit has put on my heart very intensely, very intensely. It's been coming up with my clients and students, here at the dojo, right?

It's been a commons source of conversation and focus in workshops and retreats that I've done over the last, we're going on 6 years in business.

It's amazing to say that out loud, by the way. This is a very sensitive topic, some of the most intense healing that I've done myself, as well as held space for others here at the dojo, and in her other incarnations, whether online or in former locations, or over the phone, etc.

This topic is heavy duty stuff. We are going to do a four week deep dive into, drum roll please, financial healing, financial healing.

At the filming of this love letter, it is currently the beginning of December. In the US, most of the US, we regard this as the beginning of the end of the year, and we're ramping up to a new year, right?

We're getting ready for ... I'm here in New Jersey, so we watch the ball drop in New York City, and the fireworks, and so on and so forth. It's our arbitrary, let's get in alignment time. Tie up all your loose ends because we're going into a brand new epoch, a brand new year.

Regardless of the time that you're actually watching this love letter, I want you to invoke that same sense of ... I am now 4 weeks away from an entirely new era in my life, right? I am only 4 weeks away, right now, from entering an entirely new era in my life.

You get the chills? I'm getting them.

This is powerful. I desire for you to enter, the next era of your life is a financial healing, and being a financial healer. Not just for yourself, of course for yourself first, but for your family, your community, your team, your state, your country, right?

Your hemisphere, your world. This is really powerful. If we heal our relationship with our finances, what we're really doing is healing the sense of safety on Earth.

Now, I know that was like a big statement. Dial it back, in our four week deep dives, if you've been following them now, you understand that our first week, right? Week one, is all about why?

You know I'm a Simonite, I love Simon Sinek. We start with why. If you don't know why you're doing what you're doing, or why we're talking about what we're talking, or why we're doing financial healing, you're not going to have the juice necessary to carry it through.

Be kind to yourself, if you're someone who ... Money and finances is a very touchy subject, right? And you'd rather be listening to more spiritually stuff, or something other than money, don't talk to me about money, because you have strong triggers around that.

This is actually for you, especially, for you especially. Because, if you have funky reactions around financial energy, that means that funkiness or that disgust, or frustration, or anger, or triggeredness, that means it's time for some healing work, right?

Your discomfort is a growth edge. That's a writer downer, or a Tweetable. To my team who's watching this, put that in for the Tweetable of the week. Your discomfort Is a growth edge.

Let's talk about why it's so important for us to walk into the discomfort around finances, so that we can create financial healing.

First in our own lives, and then for our community and world at large. That's our intention.

Know this: Your discomfort is a growth edge. #entrepreneur #healing @SenseiWhitfield

The reason was, when it comes to finances and abundance, it's not about the money. It's not about the money. What's underneath financial healing, is healing safety.

Healing our relationship with feeling safe and trusting that we are going to be safe moving forward, think about it. Think about it.

Think about someone in particular, maybe it's not you, right? We love to take examples from outside of ourselves, because it's easier, yes. With love, mwah, if that's you. Sending you big hearts.

Think of someone who you know, who has maybe a money addiction, or has a hard time keeping money, or can't seem to increase their sales, or make and sales in the first place.

I cannot tell you how many healers I have met over my few years in business. I can't say I have all the answers and I've met everybody on the planet, but I have been on a national tour, and I have been on a world tour, and I have treated hundreds of people, who most of which are healers.

If you're watching this, chances are you're a healer or you're an entrepreneur, because we resonate, yes, yes.

Healers in particular, when it comes to financial energy, maybe it's not you, right? We're thinking of another healer who...

They don't wanna do sales, they don't wanna look at the finances, it's gross, it's creepy, it's scary, it's hard, it's hard work.

No, I wanna communicate with the guides and fly with the platypus in mid air while I'm meditating, all the good things, yes, yes. It's gorgeous, right? I wanna feel the energy, and the white light, and the Reiki ... I'm saying this as a Reiki Master and all of that. I say this with big love, but I'm calling you out.

Healers need the most healing around financial energy, and the relationship with finances, because we need you feeling safe and strong so that you can get out there and heal more people, because our world needs you. If you don't know whether or not you're a healer, yet.

If you don't know if you're a healer just yet, chances are you serve others, right? You support people in your community, you support your team at work, you support your family, we need you to feel safe and grounded, confident in your relationship with wealth and abundance, so that you can continue to serve and uplift the community with all of that love and brilliance that you bring, I know you do, I know you do. This one is for you, this is your month.

Why are we going in for a financial healing, four week deep dive into it? Because you've got work to do, and it's not just about the money, this is not, we're not gonna be talking, I'm not an accountant, I'm not an accountant, right?

We may talk about ways for you to receive for money, and we also may talk about ways for you to give more money, as well as save more money, and to honor your finances, and to really clear out your energy. Sure, but what we're really looking at, is your relationship to safety.

Now, I'm hearing the Oracle cards calling in the energy, and we're gonna be with this deck all month. Angels of Abundance, by the way, came from my financial healer, Julie Shopa at clarityfinances.com. Thank you for this gift, mwah, one of the over 20 decks now and counting at the dojo to play with.

Most of which are donations, just like coming from Julie, so thank you for your love my dear friend, all your support of me and our tribe.

Let's see here, come on out. Okay. Angels of Abundance, Angels of Abundance, what do we need to know right now about beginning a four week deep dive? This is very intense energy, four week deep dive into financial healing. All right now, this is interesting.

Now, regardless of whether your New Years starts in January, or February, or September, right? Regardless of what you're looking at, as far as religious beliefs, or beliefs about the calendar and dating. Not like relationship dating, but as in dates on the calendar.

It's interesting, but this guy's coming up, Santa Claus here. In America, we're a predominantly Christina country, although it is different from time to time, so different Muslim beliefs, Jewish, etc. But, it's interesting that we're got winter scenes, and animals, and presents and things.

The angels are seeing exactly where we are at in time and space and honoring that.

Windfall of abundance.

An increase in abundance is arriving in many different forms, some of them unexpected. Be open to receiving, and know that this abundance comes to you to support your life purpose, health, and charitable work. Check this out.

What we're going to be looking at, is being open to receiving, right? In the next four weeks. For support of your life purpose, health, and charitable work. There's your why. Why you need financial healing, right?

We need to turn up the volume on your life purpose, turn up the volume on your level of help, and health ... I love that, I said help instead of health, so good. And turn up the volume on your charitable work, right? This makes it a lot more specific, but I think it's hilarious that it's Santa Clause, what in the world?

So good. Is this resonating for you? Send me an email back, comment below, by the way text me, who do you think just walked in the door back there?

I'm curious to see, we're about to have a group meeting here at the dojo, we're a community here. Take a guess, I'd be curious to hear who you think just popped in back there, if you caught that Easter egg. But, send me an email back, is this resonating for you?

What in your life do you feel, and your financial, is ready for healing? Is this timely? Tell me, tell me.

Make sure you subscribe on Youtube, so that you get these love letters first every week, and get ready for it, mwah. I'll see you next week, let's do this. Bye.

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Feeling indecisive, like you’re life lacks direction?

Struggling to “find yourself” and feel like you belong?

Wondering if you’ll ever get the clarity you seek?

Indecision is a symptom of much deeper issues regarding your relationship with your own Spirit, aka your “spirituality.”

And everyone has a sense of spirituality, especially skeptics and realists.

Watch this week’s 12-minute love letter video, the final part in our four-part Deep Dive series on the Power of Loving Yourself, to redefine spirituality and use it to love yourself at work today.

"What is my value?"

This week is week four of four in our deep dive into loving yourself.

The power of loving yourself and this week, the guides are going to have us talk about loving your spirit. Let's define terms a little bit, right out the gate.

What is a spirit? What in the world are we talking about? The spirit for the bounds of this conversation, we're going to understand as the resource behind your decision making processes in life.

It is the force that determines the path that your life takes, right? It is that resource behind how you make decisions.

That's what your spirit is, so for those of us you are religious, we understand to be the holy spirit. For those of us that aren't creative or consider ourselves scientific, same thing, that you can understand to be your creative spirit, your spirit of innovation, growth and progress, that sort of a spirit.

This is the fuel behind your decision making processes and when you're learning how to love yourself on another level, so that you can better love others, right?

We're filling our cup at the faucet, the resource that we need, so that we can then hand that cup or pour from a full pitcher to others to love on them, as well. Showing up in service and loving others, abundantly.

With that, this week in particular, when we're learning how to love our spirit, it's important to then understand what your core values are, especially when you're at work. Now, there's a very professionalism and all those kinds of corporate sort of language. Mission, vision, values that comes up for us when we think of, what do we value? But instead, I want you to think of when it comes to loving yourself, what do you value?

When it comes to your life, what do you value? When it comes to being loving, what do you value? Remembering that your spirit is the force behind your decision making process.

With that, this week in particular, we want to pick one value in particular that is loving to you. One that nourishes you. If we could choose a more concrete word, whether than just loving can sometimes be a morphosis for those of us who are not used to being loving to oneself, right?

We're used to being loving to others, so think of a value that would be nourishing to you, even if you want to pick nourishment. My nourishment is something that I value.

Me personally, my top values are, number one, love. Obviously. Number two is safety and number three is honor. Honesty for me falls underneath honor, so when I have something more vulnerable that I need to share to a team member or someone that I'm in an intimate relationship with, maybe family or my partner and so on, I think of my value of honor and that, for me, is loving toward myself first and that gives me the courage to then speak from the heart about topics that might be a little bit more vulnerable making or feel uncomfortable to bring up.

That value gives me the courage to make a decision with my spirit to allow the spirit of honor to come through me and create more honorable experiences. Are you getting the picture here?

That's loving towards me because I'm bringing that spirit into my awareness in my decision making, which then effects my behavior and how I show up to others, how I serve others.

If I come with a spirit of honor or spirit of love or spirit of safety and honoring my safety, others safety and so on and so forth. What would be your value? How can you, but we want to make this very specific, this week in particular to work. How can you honor your spirit or how can you bring your spirit into your work experience?

Perhaps it is honoring your religion. I'm putting a lot of my value of honor. Perhaps it is bring your spirit's desire to be religious or to glorify God in all that you do and bring that to your work experience.

How would you work? How would you show up? How would you speak to others if the force behind your decisions and your behaviors is, I want to glorify God in whatever I do?

Know this: Your Spirit is the force behind how you make decisions in life and #business. And spirituality is your relationship with it.

On the flip side, what if your value was, I value my health. My health comes first. How would you show up at work today if your value is, my health comes first? This is the one value that I'm going to embody today.

How can you allow that to come forward in your work day? How would you speak to people? How would you sit at your desk? What food would you choose to put in your body if that was your value that you were going to honor today, this week?

Whether you're going all week or just for today, what would be different about the way that you conduct your behavior and the decisions that you make if you made value based decisions?

The power and the self-loving, self-nourishing aspect of making value based decisions is that you become responsive rather than reactive to life around you. When we're reactive, things happen and all right, I got to put out the fire over here and oh, so and so needs me.

Okay, I'll do this and oh my gosh, what about this and da da da da and you're working yourself up spiritually because there's no anchor, there's no value anchoring you down on a spiritual level. Your decisions are flying off at the handle, they're reacting to all of the circumstances that are around you versus making value based decisions.

You're able to ground and then respond with wisdom to the experiences that are coming toward you so that your life, you're building by design in a wise and spiritually grounded way.

Value based decisions, that's the challenge for this week, in particular. The mantra of the week is, what's my value? Remember it's one. I know some of you do core desired feelings and stuff like that and you pick several and all of this. What one? Just one. Simplify it. I value simplicity. Let's all value simplicity right now.

Bring the spirit of simplicity so that you can be kind to yourself and one, what's my value?

The next time someone asks you something, the next time you begin your work day, the next time you sit down to eat, what's my value? That is your mantra. Today, in particular, or for this week, in particular. Whatever you're ready to commit to.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling and energy. Talk about spirit. Fairies. Ding, ding, ding. Yay. Healing with the fairies, another Doreen Virtue deck. Thank you so much for donating.

This is one of over 20 decks that we have here at the dojo that our clients and students play with as well as my co-op members. Between seeing their clients, they're reading their own oracle card readings. I love it. You're welcome to play. My cards are very social.

Fairies, what do we need to know, this week in particular about loving our spirit? What value? Oh, this loud is coming forward. New opportunity, This is so powerful. Check it out. Gorgeous.

What I'm hearing in the energy to tell you about new opportunity for this week, in particular, is that you've been loving yourself and opening up to honoring and heeling and loving, nourishing and nurturing those parts of yourself that have been under loved for the last few weeks.

We've been at that together and because of that, sources taken notice. There's a new opportunity coming your way that you want to use your value. You're going to need to have a set of values or one guiding light that gives you enough anchoring to receive that opportunity.

If you don't have it, you're going to miss this opportunity and it's because you're got to anchor first in order to receive the level of opportunity that's coming to you this week, in particular. Maybe even today. We want to make wise decisions, ones that are responding to life with elegance , with wisdom, with grounding, allowing spirit to come through and wash through our lives, blessing rather than rushing through and feeling unloved, especially by ourselves. Slow down, ground, make value-based decisions so that you can receive the next level opportunity that's coming to you.

Comment below. Send me an email back.

What's coming up for you hearing all of this? What opportunity, have you recognized it yet? I'd love to hear about it and how did you ground and make a value-based decision in order to receive that.

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Pick one Value to focus on that is loving and nourishing to YOU.

At work, choose to embody the spirit of that value in your communications, your time at your desk, your self-care, etc.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Hate your body?

Self-conscious about how you look?

"Looking good" on the outside according to others, but secretly suffering emotionally on the inside?

News flash: your body image distracts you from truly loving yourself.

Image alone is not sufficient -- you deserve deeper nourishment than that!

Watch this week's 12-minute Love Letter video to discover a simple yet profound hack that uses your body to teach you to deeply love yourself, flaws and all.

"I need better nourishment."

Whether you are looking to improve your personal or professional health, please let this video be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

This is week two of four. Our four week deep dive into the power of loving yourself.

Maybe it's time, like if you've clicked play on this video, maybe it's time for you learn how to love yourself at a whole new level, because as we covered last week, you've been called to love others in a big way.

But, in order for you to fill their cup and quench their thirst for love and support, you have got to go and get a faucet of water with which you can fill your pitcher and your cup first. So, that you can continue to serve them.

So, this week. Week two, the guides have said it's time for us to talk about loving your physical body now.

For some of us, this is a lifelong battle against the grain of loving our physical body. We hate our bodies.

Hate your greeters. I hate the extra juice. All the extra things and so on. Or, the different scars that we've accrued over time. Or, maybe you don't like your curly hair, or your straight hair, or your skin tone, or your eyes, or your ears, or your nose, or your tooth, right?

There's so much, so much emotion that's caught up in the physical representation and the physical presentation of our bodies that we can get caught up in body hatred, rather than love.

So, be kind to yourself. If that's you, if you're still battling with your weight or your skin condition, or part of your body that you've just always hated, this week is for you, darling. So, again, the reason why we're taking the four week approach to loving ourselves is we want to take a deep dive together.

And, there's power in loving yourself, but sometimes we just flat don't know how.

We hear it all the time in different positive writings as we were talking about last week, you've got to love yourself, you've got to love yourself.

Different people in the media being positive, you've got to love yourself so that you can love others and so on and so forth.

But, how in the world do we do that? So, week two through four is exactly how. This week, we're going to focus on loving your body. Loving our bodies.

So, when we're beginning with body image on the path to loving ourselves, if we begin on the physical level from the standpoint of body image, we're already setup to completely fail.

Loving your body has nothing to do with your body image. Love is bigger than image.

So, this is the message from the guides from you. This week in particular, if you've always been struggling with body image and never feeling enough, right, looking in the mirror and not really feeling like it's ever enough or ever completely arranged, and nice. Image will not get you there.

Know this: Loving your body has nothing to do with body image; Love is bigger than that. Image is circumstantial, conditional.

If we're looking to increase your self-love and loving yourself, starting from the physical, the image of your body is the wrong place to start.

And, you know I don't really deal in the whole right versus wrong thing, but I'm going to tell you, you're setting yourself up for the scenic route and I don't mean that in a positive way, if you're going for body image. So, here's why.

Body image, or the visual representation, the spatial physical representation of your physicality is circumstantial. It's conditional. Your body, the way that it looks is a condition. You could have the most cut arms or you could have the most soft and voluminous arms.

Both of those are conditions that determine whether or not you can share love on the physical level.

So, for this week in particular, we want to elevate your ability to love yourself on the physical level, but we're not going to go from the standpoint of body image, right?

So, let's make that clear. Getting all cute and stuff like that, yes it's pleasurable, but again, it is circumstantial, it's conditional. That would sound like, "Oh, I only love myself if I look good" or "Me looking good and taking care of how I present myself is a sign of self-love on the physical level."

But, what if you're depressed and you don't have the energy for that? What if you don't have the money to buy jewels and makeups, and haircuts, and all sorts of things? How can we love our bodies on a physical level that does not have to do with body image?

So, the guides, first and foremost are bringing forward the concept of contrast. Using your body, the contrast that you experience in your body, as a gateway for increasing yourself love. What does that mean? Contrast means that which you do not want. That which you do not want is what contrast is.

So, let's take a double chin or extra juice around your belly, for example. Extra belly fat. Maybe that's something that you do not want. This is a gateway for loving yourself, because it is contrast coming forward. Contrast is always an invitation to expansion. Contrast, this week in particular, is your training partner.

Now, when I'm talking about contrast in terms of fat on the body or for you, it might be pain in the body, et cetera. Let contrast be your training partner in that contrast is there to draw your attention toward yourself.

Now, we're going to cover this more next week, but let the attention that's drawn toward you change to be curious about how can I be more loving towards this contrast? What does this pain signal me to.

Oh, okay. I need more self-care, right? Change the story around the pain of your body. What does this extra or excess flesh on my body draw me to, what positive aspect, what type of growth, progress, love, and connection do I need that my fat is blanketing me with?

So, with that, it might a positive story on extra weight gain might be, "I need better nourishment", right? So, the fat on my body is showing me, okay, I'm malnourished. I need to better nourish myself.

Now, I heard someone just say in the energy, "Oh, that means I'm over-nourished, I'm eating way too much", okay. So, that's a different form of nourishment, right? It's eating the right things versus eating the stuffy things and the crappy things.

So, embracing contrast in your body and allowing that to be a gateway for self-love. When in doubt, remember why. There are imperfections in your physical body. That Source has sent you here to challenge you. To challenge you to love, despite all the imperfections.

If you saw a baby with a cleft lip, you wouldn't hate that baby or say it's disgusting or ugly, it's a baby. It's precious.

You deserve the same level of acceptance that you would give that baby who had that cleft lip or had a deformity from her birth. You'd automatically honor that baby's divinity and worthiness.

Challenge yourself this week to look at the contrast in your body and simply say, "I love you anyway", right? Look at it fully, head on. And, "I love you anyway", that's your mantra for the week.

The oracle cards of the week, speaking of, Archangel Raphael Healing oracle cards deck. This is our healing angel on the physical level. Angel Raphael, what do we need to know about loving our physical body? Increased energy! Yay!

Dear Archangel Raphael, thank you for filling me with the unlimited energy of divine love and light. And, here's where we'll end this week. The more you send love to the parts of you on a physical level that you actually hate, the more you will actually increase your energy. You'll fill your cup and love yourself first.

Go ahead and comment below, send me an email back.

What stands out to you? What part of your body are you going to say "I love you anyway" to? This week in particular.

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so you get these love letters first every week and get ready for it. Muah! See you soon, bye!

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Challenge yourself to embrace contrast to practice loving yourself.

Put your attention on something you don’t like about your body and say “I️ love you anyway.”

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Do you think that you're not good enough?

Thought that you'd be further ahead in life than you are right now?

Going through a difficult time of arguments and disagreements?

When the going gets tough, our knee-jerk reaction can often be to think "why me?" or "what's wrong with me?"

Believe it or not, no matter how ugly it gets, Source says you need to remember that it's not about "me", instead it's about "we".

Watch this week's 9-minute Love Letter video to find the courage to be compassionate!

"What is wrong with me?"

This week, you must know that it is not about you.

It's not about you. It never has been, it never will be, so from this point forward in time, you have got to stop taking it so seriously.

They told me, be more specific. You have got to stop taking him so seriously. You've got to stop taking her and what she does in her life and in her business, so personally, because it's not about you. It never has been, and it never will be.

Now perhaps someone has really been getting under your skin lately, or they've been throwing their anger your way, or getting very emotional, and clogging up your joy with all of their crusty crap.

Perhaps they talk stuff about you, or hating. (I don't really believe in hating.) But perhaps you feel like you may be getting hated on, or people writing smear stuff about you.

There's this insidious, internal, pre-programmed response that we have, unfortunately, to these interactions of: 

• "What did I do to deserve this?"
• "What's wrong with me, that I can't get ahead, like so-and-so?"
• "What's wrong with me, that I am not married, yet?"
• "What's wrong with me, that I can't have kids?"
• "What's wrong with me, that I'm not financially stable?"

Our ego turns us in on ourselves, because she's actually trying to protect you from stepping out when you're feeling vulnerable.

The reason why she brings you inward, blaming inward, "What's wrong with me? There's something wrong with me," taking everything outside of us, personally or very seriously, turning it inward, is a way, a shadow way, a dark way of centering you. Let me explain.

It's never been about you. Someone says, "You're doing this and the other thing, and I can't believe that this ..." They're throwing all that drama around and on you. That's actually them and their stuff.

If someone comments on your posts, and craps all over your sunshine parade, that is their problem. It's nothing that you did.

Maybe you did drop the ball. I just heard in the energy, perhaps you might have said something offensive, etc., but everyone chooses how to react, and how to respond to life.

That's their choice. It's on them. You don't have to take responsibility for how they feel.

You do need to own up to who you are and how you show up in this world, absolutely. Clean it up, if you made a mess. That's your mess, but you made that.

Whereas, if someone else makes a mess and starts blabbing about it or spewing all over you about it, that's their stuff.

I really don't know why the guides are having me say this in particular, this week. I know that I'm talking to someone, so I'm going to keep going with it, but this week, it's not about you.

Your business, by the way, if you're an entrepreneur, and you're thinking to yourself:

• "Why aren't I doing any better?"
• "Maybe I need to implement more, work harder."
• "Why don't people like me?"
• "Why isn't so-and-so buying in?"

It's not about you. Come out of the ego cave and cage.

The shadow side of centering is reinforcing an identity, so that you can feel and create a sense of stability in your personal ... no, put it that way. The ego she'll bring you in, and be like, something that I did.

Whereas, this is about me, or what's wrong with me? Come out of that cave. There's more outside.

Instead, to flip that, where we're feeling not good enough, it's time to give more. There's so much more love, so much more value, so much more creativity and insight that you're capable of giving. It's about serving.

Tony Robins, I love his quote. "The secret to living is giving absolutely." That's the way to come out of an ego cave.

Know this: If you're not feeling "good enough," then give more to those less fortunate. Focus on WE, not me.

The guides are telling me to pull an Oracle card now. The deck that came forward in this week, is the crystal Oracle cards, in particular, to really weigh in on the topic of this situation.

It's really not about you. It's not about me. It's we. This week, in particular.

Someone just said, pull this card. Amber.

Look at how gorgeous. I love this deck, because it's all pictures. Juicy, juicy amber shot. They're telling me to read.

The words that they've associated with Amber are transparency, calm, purification, and creativity. Here's the reading: "An issue that is causing tension and friction in your life will soon erupt and come to a head."

I'm starting to get the chills. "You are being urged to stay calm during this emotionally-charged event. Express how you feel, but don't be drawn into saying things that you don't mean. This event is, in fact, a blessing. One that is perhaps well overdue."

You can't make this stuff up, people. This is amazing.

"Through it, you will realize where you stand, and how others truly feel. As the air clears, you will uncover a hidden agenda and find creative ways of handling this type of situation in the future. Stay calm, and don't allow yourself to be dragged further into chaos by others. You will emerge from this situation, feeling purified of all the negative emotions and thoughts that have weighted you down recently. Trust and remember it. This event is a blessing."

Here's where we're going to leave off.

Whatever disagreement, argument, or provocative conversation you are about to have this week, remember, it's not about me. This is about we.

Look for the lesson. There's always a dark gift, especially in difficult situations. They always teach us.

Keep your eyes open for the gift. Stay focused on the we. Don't be pulled into that ego cave.

Send me an email back. Comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you around this.

Subscribe on youtube, so that you get your love letters first, and make sure you share this with someone who may be going through something right now, and could really use some positive encouragement.

Sending you so much love. I'll see you next week. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Look for the love and learning in a difficult conversation or argument.

See the difference and disagreement from a third party perspective, considering the pros and cons of the opinions of everyone involved.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Are you a worry-wart?

Do you believe that when you love someone, you should worry about them to show you care?

Wish your life was less stressful?

Worry has been said to be a negative form of prayer for something you don't want.

So why do we worry so much?

Watch this week's 10-minute Love Letter video to understand what worry really is, and why you can't seem to stop doing it!

"I'm a worry wart."

This week, the question is: Why so worried?

Why are you so worried? It would be really easy for me to just tell you, "Stop worrying! Don't worry anymore. Let it go. Release it. Release the hounds of your worry," but that's not what I've been guided to relay to you this week in particular.

Instead, this is a digging week, a journaling week, a self-reflection, internal, introspection week.

Why so worried? Perhaps you are someone who other people have called, or you self-identify as, "I'm a worry wart. I worry about my kids. I worry about my business. I worry about the economy. I worry about my health. I worry about my boyfriend," or "I worry about my pets. I worry about what I'm going to make for dinner tonight."

Perhaps you self-identify as, "I'm a worry wart," or other people might have said, "Oh she's always worrying all the time."

Maybe your husband or your wife, your significant other has said that about you, you know, your partner. Maybe, in business, the other person is like the visionary, creative risk-taker, and you're the worrier. "How are we going to do this? Let me look at all the metrics and get into the nuts and bolts of things."

Worry is suffering.

I'm sorry to have to be the one to break that to you, but worrying is a form of suffering, so the more that you identify with being a worry wart, or being someone who worries a lot, the more you identify with having a life that is driven by your suffering, by the way you identify that.

It's not something that anybody else puts on you. I know this is a little bit tough to hear, but I want you to know this because I care about you.

The guides are also saying worse yet, you may be someone who associates worry with caring. If worry, under our definition currently, is suffering, that means you associate suffering with caring, or better yet, love with suffering. There's this sense of, "Oh gosh," fear of being in intimate relationships because, "What if I care too much? What if it ends?" And we begin to worry about that.

Suffering before anything has happened, or before there is any proof of something to legitimately take care of and respond to.

Know this: Worry is suffering. The more you identify as a "worry wart," the more you ask for a life driven by suffering. #letitgo

Be kind to yourself. If this is you, I know this is tough to hear if this is you. I'm feeling a lot of tense energy coming through as we're channeling.

When we are worrying, we are actually managing and creating a sense of felt control and influence on an object, or a person, or something, a situation that it's impossible to control or manage.

Take, for example, love. When we worry, we create this connection through the management of how we feel and how we think things are going to go for them.

Like, "Oh what if this happens, and what if this happens, and what if this happens?" Because you've suffered your way through all of the imaginary possible situation and scenarios. Get ready for this.

It gives you a sense of significance, whereas without that, all that suffering and imagining all of that, you wouldn't feel, for some reason, secure or significant to that person that you care about.

Did you know that you are so special that, in fact, you don't have to be responsible for figuring out every future by yourself, especially if you're worrying about somebody else. Include them. Hello? Share what's on your heart.

Why so worried? Why do you associate and root your sense of significance as a human being, or as a mother, or as a lover, or as an owner? Why do you associate your significance with worry, and your ability to envision and create possible negative outcomes?

Don't blame it on anybody. I just heard somebody say, "Well, my mother worried all the time, or my father." Oh my God. "He was always worried about the next thing." What next? Resist the urge to blame it on someone. This is a journaling opportunity. The guides, now, are calling, "Read the oracle cards."

Angel Therapy is the oracle cards deck for this week. I know this is a touchy, kind of squishy subject, but you've got to hear it.

This is what they said. Angels, please tell us. What do we need to know about worrying? Why? Why do we worry so much? What do we need to know? Get ready for this. Heal away addictions.

The guides just said, "This is a big reason why you cannot blame your parents, your society, or your community for your identity as a worrier." That's your addiction.

This is not to blame the victim. Instead I want you to know you have power to shift the story of your life, and the story of who you are. You don't have to be worried all the time. You don't have to be "the worrier." There's more to life than suffering through her.

"It's time to let go of behaviors that are blocking you from your heart's desire. Ask Archangel Raphael to help you with this healing."

I'm just going to do this in behalf of you.

Archangel Raphael, for whoever is watching right now- Whoo, the energy. For whoever is watching right now who is filled with worry, or who identifies as being a worrier, I ask that you surround this person, or people, with your healing green light and infuse their heart with your healing energy. Thank you. I feel your presence so strong right now. Lift the worry out of them. Take it away, and we give all of our worries over to you, over to Source, over to God, knowing that we are never alone in that which concerns us. We ask that you heal the identity around worry, and that we be released to a higher vibration, from being the worrier to being the communicator, the connector. Let us come out of our caves and into the world to shine our light in the way that we have been built to in this lifetime, and so it is.

Comment below or send me an e-mail back. What's coming up for you around worrying? Did you need to hear that? What did you feel during that sequence just now? Perhaps it was a prayer or meditation for you. Let me know.

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By the way, share this with the worrier in your life. If you know who it is, don't let them continue on this path of self-imposed suffering. There's so much more to life than that. Okay?

Sending you so much love and blessings, and I'll see you next week. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Journal about why you worry or why you connect worry with caring or loving.

Make sure to really write out how worrying makes you feel significant and how it gives you an emotional sense of "felt control" as you worry.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Feel like there's not enough You to go around? 

Stressed about a big upcoming event or project?

Worried that you're about to burn out?

You're a busy bee, high achiever and get-it-done task master -- awesome!

But what if you're better at working hard than playing hard?

Watch this week's 9-minute Love Letter video to start adding strategic self care into your busy schedule to increase productivity!

"I might look bored, but I don't feel that way!"

You have got something big brewing, I had to say maybe it's a launch date or maybe it's a date with somebody cute coming up, or maybe your kids have their first day of school or their awards ceremony, something big is coming.

Maybe it's the sale meeting on your house or on your business, something big, there's a big event coming up, right?

Source wants you to know the best way to prepare and to surround that experience in positive energy is through strategic self-care.

This is what it's about this week is specifically prioritizing your self-care strategically. Getting that ready for what's coming up for you.

Be kind to yourself, this is something new to you if you're feeling clearings as I'm talking about this because you, you my dear don't prioritize your self-care.

Maybe you have in spurts, maybe you've been working on it but you and I both, we have this conditioning around other people's care comes first, right?

Caring for others is priority versus our care being a priority.

But if you're looking to manifest something big or you're getting ready for an event maybe it's your wedding, or your big birthday coming up, it's important to strategically pad and plan for your self-care before, during, and after like strategize it because if you don't strategize it it's not going to happen. Right?

We'll have all of this frustration afterward of, "Oh my gosh, I worked so hard and now I have to go right on to the next thing. I don't have any transition coming out of that experience." 

Focusing strategic self-care, what does this look like?

How do we do it? For me and my business, every month I have SSD as my AB calls it, baileyfruman.com by the way, go check her out.

I have an SSD which is a strategic spa day every month at least to make sure that I'm creating space for clearing my personal energy as the mother goddess of the business, the owner of the dojo and the space, I have to clear my energy.

Then also, I give myself time at the spa and it's a spa day, it's like five, eight hours at the spa. We're putting in work there, right?

It's enough space to sit down in creative vision, reevaluate different things that are going on, making sure that I'm staying in tune to the heartbeat of my business and also where she's going in the future.

Every month I know my SSD is coming, right? Strategic self-care because I create space for working on the business versus in the business to make sure she continues growing but that's from a business owner's perspective.

Maybe it's your wedding coming up, how have you created space for relaxation and rest leading up to your big day?

Is it all go, go, go, got to get everybody's cards and the flower and the bubbles, like the dress color, is it all just go instead of rest and production, rest and production?

Know this: Prioritize your self care before, during and after your next big event.

I'm starting to hear the oracle card deck calling the energy.

One sec, it will get to you in a minute but the point for strategic self-care is to not only focus on output but look at your energy as more cyclical similar to nature, how there is the high times of production in spring and summer and then the quiet and restful times of fall and winter.

She goes in her cycles to perpetuate all of life.

You can do this on a month cycle because women's bodies do this one month cycle so we do this anyway. By the way, if you're a woman you should make time to honor your body during her cycle, just saying.

Men menstruate as well so periodically guys make sure that you give yourself time to release, go through the things that are bothering you and then just do something about it to release it out of your energy if it's run, workout, right?

Go for a good scream in your car with the windows closed by yourself. I have so many stories, you have no idea.

Anyway, back to the point, strategic self-care, whether it's on a monthly cycle, weekly, or even parts of the day as well.

Where is your strategic rest time? Do you give yourself meditation time at the beginning and in the middle as well as the end of your day? Are you just from the minute you hop out the bed you're going until you smash into the pillow at the end of the day?

Now, the oracle cards are screaming at me. I'm happy to bring them in. It's the earth magic oracle cards deck, it's our Shamanic deck here at the dojo. One of I think 19 counting so far book guides.

What do we need to know in particular about strategic self-care? What do you have to tell us?

This is good. This is good. This is good. This is good. Island, solitude.

Solitude.

Look at the reflection and that's what it's about, it's giving yourself space rather than being above ground and interacting and social and putting out but it's also to be below ground. Reflective, restorative, restful, reviewing, all the res, recycling, renewing, all the res, it's the output as well as the input. Time, right? Honoring that.

How can you schedule and I mean in the calendar, how can you schedule more strategic self-care so that you know it's in there?

By the way, it's so powerful. If you see in your calendar there are blocked out like black periods that say rest. Trust me, I know.

From somebody who's very super productive and a control enthusiast, right? I'm a get it done girl, absolutely.

It's so powerful to see that there's rest in my schedule.

Yeah, I can give, give, give, and I can rest as hardcore as I give. Is that you? Maybe it's not you. I don't know who I'm speaking to.

Maybe you need to share this video with someone else who really needs to hear this message because it's obviously not you.

Oh my gosh, send me an email back, comment below, let me know if this resonates with you. Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your Love Letter first every week and I will see you next time. Bye.

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Especially turn it up for big events, meetings, launches or life transitions.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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Is helping others hurting you?

Worried that if you say "no" to others' requests that people won't like you?

Struggling to keep up with your overcommitted schedule, because you "have to" do it all?

As natural givers, we love to help others and jump at opportunities to serve.

But what happens when we actually don't know how to say "no" with ease and grace?

Watch this weeks 8-minute love letter video to start standing in the truth that you don't know anybody anything.

"I have to do this."

This week's source wants you to know you don't owe anybody anything.

You do not owe any one any thing. You are free.

"Why would this be coming up, Victoria? What? Guides, what are you trying to say?"

In the energy I'm hearing to tell you that this week, in particular, you are going to feel pulled or obligated to reciprocate, to agree, and to commit to someone or something out of a sense of an impulse, or like a, "I have to. I have to."

All right. Maybe you've been going through this recently, where you've been pulled by your have-tos, pulled by your obligations. Pulled apart, not just pulled towards. Right?

Compulsion, and trying to keep up with everything, but you're being pulled apart at the seams where you're over-committed. Right? Or overbooked, or overwhelmed, overextended, et cetera.

What's underneath all of that, the Guides want you to know, is that you don't owe any one anything, but for now, you believe that you do.

So if someone has paid you a compliment or supported your business, or loved you in the past, or asked you a question, there's this compulsion within you, and I'm talking to you. I'm talking to you directly. Just you, to say, "Yes," or "Oh, I want to support you," or "Oh, I'm here for you no matter what. No matter how crazy they get. No matter how difficult things are."

No matter what's going on with you, right? There's the sense of I have to help other people. Right?

Because that's my purpose. That's all that I am is helping other people, but guess what? If all that you are is helping other people respectfully, who are you without other people?

Know this: If all you are is helping other people, then who are you without other people's problems? @SenseiWhitfield

That's a big question and I'm asking that with big love for you. I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with you, but there's a pattern of give, give, give, giving, and what happened to receiving? What happened to it? Is it uncomfortable, right, for you to receive?

Do you feel like you owe it to them? If the guy says, "Oh, you look really good today." Do you have to pay attention to him as he tells you the rest of his life story? If he offers you a drink, do you have to drink it?

Even if it's not in like that kind of dating situation. If you're at the party, right, maybe it's someone's birthday or a holiday, or something is going on right now as you're watching. Do you have to drink that alcohol? Do you owe it to them? To look like you're having a good time, right, but drinking.

Underneath, especially, our addictive parts of our personality, there's a sense of, "I owe it. I owe it to them."

Now this is not all addictive personality, but quite a few. If this has to do with some sort of a social situation, there is a sense of, "I have to fit in. I have to. I have to. I must," and that, is not the case. You always, always, always have a choice.

The phrase that you say to release yourself from this is, "Thank you and I choose not to."

Like if someone asks, "Hey, can you come move the furniture, and my kids, and my foot, and my house?" "Thank you. Thanks for thinking of me. I choose not to," or "Thank you. No. No, I can't." It stops there.

Don't give excuses. You don't owe anybody any excuse. You don't owe anybody any explanations. No is sufficient, because it's a choice.

There's a difference between, okay, reciprocity, and being tied energetically and karmically into transactional relationships. There's a difference between that and choosing when and where you desire to participate.

You desire to contribute consciously, and this is where I'm hearing the oracle cards coming through in the energy.

This week is Archangel Michael Oracle Cards Deck. Brand new, are now 19 decks and counting, here at the dojo.

If you ever want to donate, send it on over. You can send me an email at senseivictoriawhitfield@gmail.com to find out exactly how you can donate your decks or just bring them in the next time you come and visit.

Okay, so Archangel Michael, what do we need to know right now?

I'm already hearing things in the energy. He's very, very, very vocal. Archangel Michael, what do we need to know right now about not owing anybody? What do we need to know?

You are on the right path.

You're on the right path, and each card in this deck comes with a prayer, so it says, and let's all close our eyes for a moment.

"Archangel Michael, I call upon you now. Thank you for giving me loud and clear guidance that I easily understand. Thank you for motivating me and filling me with the courage and confidence to make healthful life changes."

This is where we'll leave off.

It takes courage and confidence to be conscious. You can decide to participate or not. You're free to come and go as you please. Know that you're on the right path, and know you're alignment.

Know your healing journey, so that when someone comes in and invites you to participate in their stream, right, in their journey, you can tell the difference between yours and theirs.

If you need help seeing the difference, send me an email back, or a comment below. I'm happy to help you to get more clarity on that, or if we need to go for a deeper dive in a private session.

Know that you're on your right path. Find your inner alignment, and remember, you don't owe anybody any thing, so I'm sending you so much love.

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get these Love Letters every week first, and ready, muah! See you next week.   

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Remember that you don't have to explain yourself — "no" is sufficient.

The next time you decide to decline, try leaving the excuses, apologies and explanations out.

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