Are you, or is someone you know, a workaholic?

Worried that if you say "no" when people who ask for help, that you'll be mean or they won't like you?

Drowning in projects and things to manage, at work AND at home?

It's easier to just give in and say "yes" and be seen as helpful, than to stand your ground and say "no" and be seen as possibly selfish.

But when we do that, we add another project on to our already overwhelmed plate of "helpfulness" - perhaps this is more than just being helpful, perhaps it's now an addiction.

Watch this week's 15-minute love letter for the fifth and final installment in our 5-week deep dive on self care versus self sabotage to send healing to our relationship with (personal and professional) help-a-holism.

"I never feel like I'm doing enough."

We've been on a five-week-long deep dive into the dance that we empaths do between self-care and self-sabotage. All the different ways that we stand in the way of shining our light to our fullest potential. I'm really grateful. I just want to thank you for tuning in for week five.

I want to thank you for all your support over the years, of the love letters, my gosh. What? We're going on four or five years straight of love letters. I just want to thank you for your continued support.

This week in particular, we're going to focus on self-sabotage around workaholism and help-a-holism, fix-a-holism. Helping, and fixing, and putting out all the fires, and working all the limbs all day. Those of us who are highly sensitive individuals who are naturally empathic, who are naturally intuitive. Last week we discovered your call to be a healer, your call to healing leadership. You're sensitive for that reason.

But this week is the dark side of that, where you can be so driven to help, and to fix, and to take care give, and to take responsibility; but you lose yourself. Not only lose yourself, you may even hurt yourself.  Be kind yourself, if this is you. This last one, baby, is for you. This is our swan song, yes?

Workaholism, guides say that the soul craving behind that, or that the hidden feeling driver behind helping everybody, and fixing everything, and working constantly. The addiction to work, and projecting.

Not just projecting stuff, we're projecting people, like in your relationships, yes, yes? Maybe this isn't you, maybe we're talking about somebody else. We can pretend.

But, maybe let that obsession with being everybody's caregiver, taking care of everybody and everything. What's the hidden driver behind that?

And the guides say that it is the feeling of, "I'm not good enough. I'm not doing enough. I am good when I am doing. I am only good when I am doing."

Doing good, doing stuff for other people, pleasing others, when I'm gaining approval. Yes, yes? When I'm gaining recognition, I am worthy based on my output ... which is faulty.

Yes, it is good to do good things and to help others. This is not to say that you shouldn't be helping other people, and that you should be like, "All right, screw you all, I'm going home." Right? Pulling a Cartman. No, that's not what we're talking about here.

As much as that sounds fabulous to one of you ... I just heard someone in the energies saying, "I want to tell everyone, 'Go away.'" If that's you ... Bear with me, we're going to make it through this.

But, what's also coming up behind that, as your working, working, working and saying yes to everything; the flipside is the fear of saying, "no." Our lack of boundaries is fueling this relentless need for approval and affirmation. In the workplace, or in the eyes of someone that you helped, or getting to see their transformation so you feel worthy, because they had an outcome or you had an impact on them.

What happens, however, when there's nothing to do, no one to save, nothing to fix? The big question is, are you still worthy? Are you still lovable? Are you still acceptable? Are you still good? Are you still okay, as a person if you don't have something to do, something to do, something to do? This is a big one. When we have this addiction, this also expresses as a lack of boundaries.

What are boundaries? This is the million-dollar word for every single empath like, ever: boundaries. Boundaries are the invisible lines that separate what is you and what is not you; what is yours and what is not yours.

Now, from a spiritual perspective, yes, there is the universal law of oneness, which says, "All that is, is one." But that doesn't mean you have to do everything all the time, or that everything that's yours belongs to everybody else, or that you don't have any selfness. You don't have a worth because you don't have a self.

No. That's not what that is saying. Instead, that's just to appreciate the interconnectedness and interdependence of all of life, and all that is. However, we're talking about this turning into co dependence. Codependency is when you depend on someone or something outside of you for a sense of emotional security, to give you your emotional security, or even your identity. You're depending on them.

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Workaholism, for example, my dad was a lawyer, I'm a lawyer, my kids are going to be a lawyer. If I ever lose this job, I don't know what I'm gonna do; where your job defines your personality. That's a codependent relationship. That means that you are at risk of losing yourself if that thing shifts at all. You've given all your power over to the thing that you are dependent upon.

Be kind to yourself if this is speaking to you. I don't know who this message is for, but I'm sharing it anyway, following spirit's guidance. With that, also, where we have the sense of addiction to getting things done and putting out fires, putting out fires putting out fires. Whenever we put out a fire, we get that little bit of, "Yay, I did it." And that, "Yay," is what we're addicted to, of winning and the feedback loop of, "I'm putting out and I'm receiving, putting out and I'm receiving."

That's why so many men end up becoming not present at home, because the job is what gives them recognition and affirmation constantly, and you come home to a wife that is just not paying attention, and not able to give you that feedback. It is, unfortunately, natural to become addicted more to work, where you're recognized, and you feel like you have an impact in the relationship more with your job than your own partner. Scary.

That happens to women, too, I'm not just talking about men, okay. I hear my guide saying, "This happens to the ladies, too," where work or the kids become more important than their partner, because there's something to work on. There's always something. The mom-ness becomes the identity rather than yourself being your identity, becoming codependent to the children.

Be kind to yourself if this is you. Now, this week in particular, the guides are saying, "How do we get out of this?" This addiction to working and losing ourself without our boundaries. Well, is to have values. This week in particular, you want to focus on writing out a list of what your core, desired feelings and your most prioritized values are in life. Allow your schedule to be according to what you prioritize most, what you value the most.

First things first, as they say. I believe that's in the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Put first things first. Is family really important to you? If so, where is family in your schedule? This week, we want to put, "What are your core desired feelings?" I want to feel free, I want to feel abundant, I want to feel loved, I want to feel sensual. Where are those feelings in how you spend your time each day? Rather than letting the thing that you are co dependently addicted to, such as the work or the caregiving, et cetera rather than letting only that determine how you spend your time.

This is going to shift your relationship with your workaholism. Your addiction is going shift. If you can just get clear on, "What are your core, desired feelings, and what are your most prioritized values?"

We forget, we're in that tunnel of, "I'm doing stuff, I'm doing stuff, I'm doing stuff. I'm so productive, I'm so busy. I'm doing all this busy stuff." There's a difference between being busy and actually being in business. There's a difference between being busy and actually being focused.

This, our core, desired feelings and our most prioritized values are what are going to help us clarify that. To end, Doreen Virtue, Angel Therapy; yet another one of our Doreen Virtue decks. Angels, what we need to know this week? To round off our five-week deep dive into the dance between self sabotage and self care. "Listen to your intuitive feelings."

Listen to your intuitive feelings. Your body is receiving accurate messages from the divine. This is perfect, given what we're talking about.

One of the main reasons why we can get stuck in, or create stuck-ness in a codependent, workaholic, fixaholic relationship is because we'll drown out the sensations of our body. We're not in touch. We're not in touch with ... "Oh, my neck is starting to hurt because it's 10:00 PM and I'm still at work."

We'll just keep going, going, going. Or, you know what? I actually ... I'm not really hungry for that extra candy bar, as we talked ... The second week was food. I'm not actually hungry for that chocolate candy bar. Actually, I'm craving love and affection.

Instead of shoving a chocolate candy bar down my throat so I can stay working at the computer all the livelong day, instead I'm going to reach out to receive some physical touch, or love and affection from a loved one. Listen to your feelings.

Your sensitivity is your strength here, and it's the gateway to your next level in life. Send me an email back, comment below. Let me know what's coming up for you around this, and how has this series been for you?

Are you liking the multi-week deep dives? Let me know, let me know.

Source has been telling me that you and I have got to develop a deeper relationship, and go deeper into the information, rather than just doing one idea a week. Nah, let's go there. Let's go there together, okay?

Make sure you subscribe on YouTube so that you get your love letters every week, and I'll see you next time. Muah, bye

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Put first things, first.

Write a list of your core values and core desired feelings, and see if you're spending your time each day accordingly.

Notice how you feel at that moment - you're already healing!

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What are the symptoms of turning into a techno-zombie?

Have you Become One with your Netflix and DVR accounts?

Bit by the Email Timesuck Vampire AGAIN? There goes another three hours!

FOMO or Fear of Missing Out has driven us as empathy and as entrepreneurs to be literally attached at the hip to our cellphones and other tech at all times.

And as technology continues to innovate, it's getting harder and harder to tell the difference between being productive and being distracted by it.

Watch this week's 14-minute love letter video for the third installment of our 5-week deep dive into self-care versus self-sabotage, and start healing your relationship with technology.

"I carry my phone everywhere."

We are on week three of five in our deep dive into the dance that we empaths do, between self-care and self-sabotage, right? Dancing that fine line like a boss, or not.

Kind of like a slave, right? If we're really looking at what are our addictions? How are we soothing ourselves versus actually caring for ourselves, right?

Last week, we talked about food, right? And emotional stuffing, how we use food to stuff our feelings, our empathic overwhelm down, so be kind to yourself if that's you, or if you haven't seen that, go ahead and go back in the playlist on YouTube, or back on the earlier blog post on victoriawhitfield.com. You'll see it there.

This week, this is a bit of like a meta-analysis, right? It's the analysis of the actual thing that's happening right now, is technology.

Social media and technology! It's so good, right?

How are we doing self-care versus self-sabotage, with all this technology stuff all over us, right? How impersonal does this feel, by the way, now that you can see my phone as I'm talking to you? Like, it's changed the whole look.

I'm not acting any differently, but now that I'm looking at or having my phone on camera, that feels different talking to you, versus you having my full attention. Hmm. So this is something that we have got to talk about, because you and I are looking at each other thanks to technology right now, right?

Current research says cell phone users touch their phone - they don't even really use it, they just touch it - between 2,500 and 5,500 times per day, spending an average of two to five hours within the screen, and this is just the phone, right?

I didn't even look at TV, or look at computer, laptop, or billboards, and GPS, and all the technology, and then other people's phones, and TVs, and laptops, and computers, and yada yada yada, the list goes on.

It's total technological immersion that we've got going on right now, and yes, it's connectivity, but there's a difference between connecting and feeling connected, right?

So with our phones, and all of these screens that we have around us, there is an emotional need that we are fulfilling, so this week in particular, my guides are bringing forward the Erickson, who came up with the six human needs?

So everybody has basic, human needs, right? That have got to be fulfilled in order for us to feel safe, happy, and fulfilled in life.

Even just normal, right, filling our needs is necessary for satisfying our baseline as human beings. It's just natural, and the six human needs are certainty, right? To know things that are going to be the same.

You know what the outcome is going to be. You know what to expect, right? Certainty. "I'm certain." Also, then, uncertainty. So, to know things are going to be spicy, and interesting, and we'll have adventures, and spontaneity, and diversity, right? Uncertainty.

Next is connection and love, so those two are kind of grouped together, but this is to feel connected to those around us, feel connected to something outside of ourselves, right? To be involved, to be in relationship of some sort. It doesn't even have to be with a human being, right? I think in Japan, they're marrying robots, some people are. Google it.

Four is significance. So, to know that you matter, or that you've been seen, and recognized, and acknowledged, that you're not just operating in a vacuum, but that, "Oh, I'm significant to something, someone, somehow," or, "I am significant," right? Those are our four universal, basic human needs. Everybody's into this. The last two are more spiritual in nature.

Number five is for growth. So, the need to feel like there's progress being made, that we're moving forward, or that we're getting better with time, things are developing momentum. Then six is for contribution, so to know that you have a legacy, or that you made a difference, that you taught something, or somebody, that there was an impact that was made. Those are our six human needs.

Now, if you just have three of those human needs, it's an addiction. Anything above that, you can forget about it. It'll dominate your life.

Technology, how many of those six human needs, right? Already, yes, we're going in to connect, right? Trying to connect, stay connected, get connected. How many times do you see that online, or on the computer, or wherever you're looking, whatever screen you're sucking on, right?

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Then, certainty, to know that everything is the same. I know the weather is the same as it's expected, right? Then uncertainty, "Ooh, look at this different shiny object, or squirrel on a pole, dancing," or something on Facebook.

So we've already got three there. Oh no! Then, well we've got contribution, posts, right? Like, comment, engage, subscribe. Legacy, oh no!

So, I'm sure I missed one, but you fill in the blank. Our human needs are absorbed in these screens, that are following us around all day.

Source wants you to know that the feeling behind that, the spiritual truth behind that, one is you're feeling lonely, bored, under-stimulated, anxious, and impatient. These are all the uncomfortable feelings that we'll have that will cause us to reach, those 2,500 to 5,500 times for our phone, for example, in a given day.

Unbelievable. I'm still flabbergasted by that number, but hey, you know, it's what the research says, as of 2017. So, be kind to yourself if that's you, right? You live with your phone, or you talk with your phone, or your phone is always on your hip, on your boob, on your ... Screens everywhere.

It's those low vibe feelings, though, that we are trying to escape. So this is what we want to honor this week, in particular, with your energy, is how are you escaping life? So this is our form of self-care, right? We're trying to care for these feelings of emptiness, loneliness, feeling bored, or under-stimulated, or even curious.

We're caring for that by escaping, right? Taking off, into the bowels of Google, or into the depths of Netflix, right? Or wherever you're going, in technology. Technology is meant for you to feel connected and have access. It does not put limits on you.

Now, there is an app, one of my awesome clients ... Hi, Elaine! She uses, called Moment, which is tracking you, how many minutes you've been on your phone, and you can start to raise your own self-awareness of, "Oh my gosh, I've been eating my phone for the last few days," right? It tracks your usage. Moment. It looks like a light green and white flower, if you're looking for it in the App Store, to help you, and it'll also give you alerts to put your phone down.

You've met your limit, right? But most technology is built for access, like this infinite connectivity and access, and that is a breeding ground for addiction and escaping away from your natural energy. Very, very, very un-grounding.

So this week in particular, Source is asking us instead, to unplug at the Deep Dive Retreat. Every year, we practice three whole days unplugged, and yes, we go through withdrawal, and yes it's intense, but it's amazing what happens when you go back to being a natural human being. Suddenly you can see flowers, and smell the ocean breeze, or even just, if you're not by the ocean, you're just alive, and aware, "Oh, this part of my body aches. Ooh, I feel like moving more," right? You're so much more in tune to your health, and to your energy, when you start practice unplugging strategically.

So that's your assignment for this week. Here's the Oracle Card deck. Let me pull this right quick, before we run out of time. Indigo Angel Oracle Cards deck. Another Doreen Virtue deck. One of, I believe, 21 now. Angels, what do we need to know this week, about oh God, screen-sucking?

Ah, time to create. This is where we'll leave off. You know, the bright side of technology is that it gives us an incredible myriad of platforms for expressing our creativity. I double dare you to get creative when you feel the urge to screen-suck, whether it's TV, laptop, tablet, phone, right? When you get the urge to screen-suck, do something creative. Maybe it's change your clothes, or primp yourself, or start drawing, or make a paper shape, or whatever you can do to get creative.

What's coming up for you? Comment below, send me an email back, what happened when you did that? What are you going to plan to do? Are you going to plan to draw? I love doodling, by the way. I doodle on all receipts, so whenever I'm out eating, or shopping, or whatever, I doodle on every receipt that goes back to the waiter.

So, how are you going to express your creativity this week, instead of jumping on that technology thingy? It's going to suck your energy and your time away, right? Let me know. I'm excited to see it, right? And share your poem, share your images, share your songs. I would love to see them. If you want to post a video back, I can't wait to see you.

All right, are you ready for it? We'll see you next week for week four. Bye.

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Unplug from technology, strategically.

Make time for creative expression with ZERO technology exposure - even try hiding all screens and machines under blankets if you must.

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Have you ever felt helpless?

And did that experience warp your ability to trust yourself and others?

Concerned that you can't tell the difference between self-care and self-sabotage because of what happened to you?

Sometimes bad things happen to good people... I know.

Yet Source wants you to know that all things can - and do - work together to form greater good in our lives.

Watch this week's 11-minute Love Letter to hear my story of overcoming a very dark time in my life and how I healed from cycles of self-sabotage to embracing a lifestyle of self-care and healing.

"I only smoke because it helps me cool off."

We're continuing the series, sourced this time around has asked to continue you and I building a deeper relationship and a deeper understanding about certain concepts that come up in our spiritual lives.

This series is going to be a five week series around the dark side of self-care. Woohoo. I'm so excited.

I am so excited to bring you to the dark side of self-care. What that basically looks like is self-sabotage.

Now this first week in particular the guides have asked me to share more of my story.

I just finished a session with a new client. I'm so excited for her. It's amazing what inspires people to begin their healing journey. She's beginning a new six month healing journey, Sojourner healing journey, which means she's coming in for an hour, a private hour a month for me. She also gets unlimited meditation classes here at the dojo.

It's so interesting to hear people's stories of what inspires them to begin to heal. What motivates you to really begin healing.

It was just fascinating sharing with her some of my story of what caused me to get into all of this in the first place.

Believe it or not, it comes from actually my pain.

Simon Sinek, very beautifully says that your big why comes from your pain more often than not.

For me, it was a series of three breakups that caused me to break open. The first one was someone that I thought I was going to be with. The whole soulmate situation that you think you have and then turns out sleeping with your coworker and calls you on your wedding day to ask how are you? One.

Two, the next one broke me open again because of the color of my skin. He had decided that we couldn't be together because of the color of my skin. That also compounded my perspective.

Then unfortunately the third one that really broke me open was when I got date raped. Yes, I'm sharing that with you.

No, I'm not happy about what happened to me. I honor the fact that these were the events that grabbed my attention that something is not quite right.

Now maybe you grew up with a history of abuse or maybe you grew up with alcoholic parents or that sort of a thing.

Something happened in our lives that forced us to take a stand and say, "Wait a minute. I don't like this. I don't like this." Right?

It's those moments where you put your foot down and say, "No more. I'm not going to be beaten anymore" or, "I'm not going to select people who would do these kinds of things to me anymore."

One of my first spiritual teachers her question to me, that changed my life, was: "what is the pattern in you that's creating this situation?"

This is where we get into our five week deep dive around self-sabotage.

When I look back into those dark times in my life where I would have suicidal thoughts and would be sleeping at around 22 hours a day, only getting up to go to the bathroom and have a sip of water, trying to escape, escape, escape there were things that I was doing to self-soothe that within my compressed mindset I thought were good for me.

When you have a compressed, like as in a really limited mindset, bad stuff you can't really tell that that's bad for you.

Some of the ways that I used to self-soothe but actually turned out being self-sabotage ... Well, one it was the constant sleeping. Also, I used to chain-smoke Clove cigarettes, the black ones. Like talk about breathing death. Emotional stuffing. I used to live on Twix and Chex-Mix and nothing else except for Captain Morgan's spiced rum and Malibu coconut rum. I remember. I'm so happy that I'm sober now.

There's these things that, "I'll just have a drink so that I can soothe" or escape, get rid of this negativity, or, "Let me go have a smoke. Let me cool off." Or, "Let me just check out." There's so many things that we do to soothe ourselves that within a limited and a compressed point of view feel pleasurable and we interpret them as good even though they're working against us.

Now there was also another form of self-sabotage I would do at the time. I would work around 12 hours or so a day at a really, really toxic job. Like screaming bosses that were financial abusers as in dangling your pay check over your head in order to get you to do things that are completely outside of your principles.

Be kind to yourself if as I invoke the darker side of my story that this is resonating for you like, "Ooh, ooh, I still do some of that, Victoria" ... This is not to say like, "I'm good and you're bad." No.

I want you to know that I've been through some things and when I'm going to talk to you over the next few weeks around self-sabotage versus self-care there's some history there. I'm only tapping on the tip of the iceberg here with respect to your energy.

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My story is my story and it's made me who I am. Here's the light in the darkness is that when you start self-soothing you can choose to raise the vibration of the forms of self-soothing that you do.

For example, I remember even when I was still chain-smoking I started learning more about crystals and oracle cards. "Well, you know, maybe this will help me feel better." It was something positive about these cards or I feel the energy when I'm holding this crystal. I don't know what the heck it is. I'm going to get into that in the next few weeks.

That was the turning point. It was following things that brought me joy and uplifted me in the self-soothing cycle. It's natural.

I want you to know this and watch this in yourself this week.

Watch the way that you soothe yourself, whether it's positive or negative. Just notice how do you soothe yourself when you're feeling bored, when you're feeling depressed, empty, anxious, angry, unacknowledged, lonely, et cetera. How do you soothe yourself? It is positive things? Or negative?

Most of us have a mixture of both. By the way, at the filming of this video I still have some not so good things, such as eating chocolate and ice cream, that is harmful against my body. As well as doing hours of meditation, grounding out in nature, doing reiki. I have a mixture.

This is called being human. I want us to have a deep dive now for the next five weeks around honoring that self-care versus self-sabotage dance that we're all doing.

I know that you're doing it. If you clicked play on this video chances are you're a natural empath. You're already sensitive to the energy and trying to figure out how to cope with all this energetic overload. We're going to confront this head-on.

We're going to dive deep together. I can't wait to see you next week and hear what you think.

Comment below. Tell me what's coming up for you around this.

Do you have a story that you wanted to share, by the way? Did my story bring up some of yours? I would love to witness you in sharing your story, privately, just to honor you. We don't want to post all that out in social media and all over the place.

Send me an email back and let me know and I'd be happy to set up a share your story call so that we can hold space for you speaking your truth for the first time.

I know it's tough. I feel you but we're going to get through this together.

Are you ready for this? Five weeks. Five weeks. Let's do this. Self-care versus self-sabotage. Going to the dark side. Whoop, whoop. Shining light so that we can all grow together. I'm sending you so much love and I'll see you next week. Bye.

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Watch the way that you soothe yourself.

Track what you do to soothe negative feelings, to observe if it’s positive self-care or negative self-sabotage behavior..

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Hello there. I am Sensei Victoria Whitfield, your business reiki master. And it's my joy to get to support empathic entrepreneurs and business owners like you in getting and staying grounded and clear in mind, body and business.

Welcome back to another installment of your weekly love letter from the dojo at naturalintuition.com and victoriawhitfield.com, my blog. These are your sources for channeled holistic stress management techniques and guidance for developing your natural intuition. Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your personal and professional life, let this love letter be your reminder that you are not alone and that together we can make that happen.

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Are you really good at doubting yourself?

Always putting yourself down so no one else can, or to make others feel comfortable?

Waiting for the other shoe to drop, so you’re prepared when it does?

Over time we convince ourselves to be careful about not getting to happy or positive, because it leaves us more vulnerable when things don’t work out.

But sometimes this negative mindset takes the ball and runs with it, making sure we are next to never happy, so that we are always feeling “safe.”

Watch this week’s 12-minute love letter video, the third in our four-part Deep Dive on the Power of Loving Yourself, to discover how to start releasing our addiction to negative self talk.

"I'm not smart enough."

This week is week three of our four week deep dive into loving yourself. The power of loving yourself. Knowing how to build self love enables you to love others in a big way, and that's why we're talking about this.

You already want to show up and service, and give big in life. And we're here talking about exactly how to support you doing that for the long haul, by learning how to fill your cup, first and foremost.

So last week we talked about loving your body. And exactly how to take something that you don't like, and use that as inspiration to share love with yourself.

This week, we're talking about loving your mindset. Loving your mindset. Negative self talk ... Negative, fatalistic, perspective is super killer. The reason why it's killer is because negative mindset cuts your dreams off at the conceptual level, before they can even make it out of gestation, and the manifestation, and out in fruition here.

Out in physical reality. Before they can even get that far, at the conceptual level, negative mindset cuts them all off. The vision that I get from my guides is just someone coming and cutting all of the roses off of rosebushes as the buds are trying to come out.

So be kind to yourself, if your mindset is what's holding you back.

What it would look like if that has been happening to you, is that you're surrounded by all the resource that you could possibly need. Right, you have people that want to help. People are capable of supporting you. You're surrounded by all these great groups, where they have ideal clients of yours.

But because, up here you're saying, "I'm too fat. I'm not smart enough. Nobody will pay for that. No one will love me, I'm not lovable. I'm not enough, I'm not worthy. I'm not really supposed to be in business." All my entrepreneurs, I'm talking to you. Because mindset is everything in business.

But to all those who are leaders and caregivers in your own right, the healers out there. We stop ourselves from sharing our light. Or if we're talking in business terms, we stop ourselves from sharing our gifts, our work.

The wonderful services, or products and visions that we've created to make life easier, brighter, better for others. And we keep cutting those roses off before they can even bloom in our mindset we cut it off at conception. And you want to be kind to yourself.

If that's you, it's time to shine more love into your mindset. And the way that you have a more loving mindset, is to have an abundant mindset.

A mindset and a mental state, a point of view, that has abundance. And the assumption of abundance, as its foundation. Rather than the assumption of lack, or struggle, or competition, etc. holding you down. And that being your assumption of what's behind what's going on around you.

If we can get your mind right, if we can love your mindset. Shine more love, send more healing energy to your mindset. Honestly this week can change your life completely. Because Tony Robbins brilliantly says that, "The biggest resource is resourcefulness."

So if you're able to get your mind right, where you see that you have everything that you need. And you see that you have permission to utilize and mobilize everything that you need, for the greatest good. Not only your greatest good, but the greatest good of all. We all win.

So we want to have an abundance mindset. And abundant mindset is one that is based on faith, and positive expectation. It assumes universal abundance. The lack mindset, which is the opposite, is based on fear. And it assumes that negative things are coming.

That there's going to be more trouble. There's always something to do, there's always another fire to put out. The fear mindset of waiting for the other shoe to drop. And my guide said, the mantra for this week in particular, is going to come from embracing distraction.

Know this: The antidote to rampant negative self-talk is instead the cultivation of an #abundant mindset.

So, a natural part of life in general, is that you're going to get distracted. But there's one way to let distraction rule you from a fear mindset, and another way of looking at distraction as fuel. Fearing, or fueling you. Making you fearful, or making you feel fueled by this distraction.

And here it is ... So this is a reframe. The same way that we reframed last week, loving your body. Seeing the parts that you hate the most and saying to them directly, "Okay, this is my opportunity to love myself. I love you anyway." And challenging that self hatred, and using it instead as an opportunity for love. This week, we're going to use distraction as another opportunity to love yourself.

The next time you're feeling distracted ... And this is probably going to happen when you're avoiding some responsibility. Or maybe when you're just getting overwhelmed, and there's not enough awareness of your own boundaries. The next time you're feeling distracted, the mantra of the week is, breathe into the distraction.

Deep breath in, breathe into the distraction. Breathe into the distraction, breathe into the distraction. Deep breath in. Now this is loving to yourself in a myriad of ways. One, on a physical level it oxygenates your blood, which cleanses all of the physical systems of your body via the circulatory system. So we're building on last week's loving your body. But also, this is loving your mindset by helping you slow down and become present, and embrace the distraction as your training partner.

Now, it's important to see distraction, and things that would challenge your mindset, as a training partner. Because training partners are there to train you up. They're there to make you stronger, through resistance training. You have to push against it. And in the pushing against it, you become stronger in the process.

So the next time you have a client that sends you a text, or an email, or a call ... Throws you a curve ball. Breathe into the distraction. Deep breath in. Versus, "Oh my God, what am I gonna do?" Nourish yourself in that moment, breathe against it.

Assume that this is working out for you. Something good is about to happen. We're breathing into the distraction to prepare for something good that's about to happen. This is a challenge, it's easier said than done.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the week to encourage us on our path. This deck of the week is angels of abundance, oracle cards deck. Thank you Julie Shopa, clarityfinances.com. She donated this lovely deck to the dojo. Thank you goddess. So let's check this out...

Angels, what do we need to know this week in particular, about loving our mindset? Beautiful, this is so juicy: Partnership.

Allow helpful, supportive partnerships into your personal life and career, and both parties benefit as a result. You are receiving help from heaven, and from a person who brings needed skills and resources. So this is super powerful, and this is where we're going to leave off this week.

If you're watching this, chances are you are a leader, manager, caregiver, healer of some sort, you're an entrepreneur and business owner. Partnering. There's this thing where amazing leaders think, "I can do it all by myself. I do things better by myself." No, breathe into the distraction. Something good is about to happen.

When these people are in your life, you've got to become resourceful, and look for the positive aspects.

As I work with teams and help them to heal together, we celebrate the diversity of opinions, and personalities, and viewpoints. We celebrate that, because that means we have diverse ways of problem solving, rather than just doing everything the same way, one way.

If you look at nature, we have biodiversity. And that what makes nature so powerful, and so strong, is that diversity of opinion. Allow others to help you. But breathe into the resistance that you may have this week in particular, to receiving that help, or that partnership.

Send me an email back, comment below. What's coming up for you around having an abundant mindset, and receiving help.

This is like ... I'm hearing bombs going off, and the energy.

Some people are like, "NO, no." So be kind to yourself if that's you. Breathe into the distraction. Something good is about to happen.

So make sure that you subscribe on YouTube, so you get your love letter videos every week. And I'll see you soon. Bye.

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Stuck at a personal development plateau?

Hit a road block on your healing journey?

Annoyed that things aren't progressing further along, no matter how hard you try?

When we decide to take charge of our lives and make time to make a change initially it yields fast and exciting results, and because the changes are brand new, they excite us and give us an ego boost.

Inevitably though, there comes a point in everyone's healing journey where we reach a developmental plateau in helping ourselves -- and this can be particularly frustrating.

Watch this week's 7-minute Love Letter to learn what to do when you're feeling stuck in your self-help journey.

"I have this under control. I can really help myself."

This week Source wanted to talk to you about feeling stuck in your self help, specifically cycles of self help.

We've got books, we've got sprays, we've got candles, we've got classes and workshops and certifications, oh my!

At some point it appears that we've hit a bit of a roadblock, where we're just preparing and preparing and helping ourselves and helping ourselves and helping ourselves, and nothing's really moving farther along.

Your strategy for this week is to practice asking. Asking for help, in particular.

Immediately I'm feeling some kind of prickly things in the energy from some of the Tribe who's watching right now.

Prickly thoughts like, "Oh, I have this under control. I can really help myself. I have a book," or, "I have a certificate, I should be able with all the knowledge that I have right now, I should be able to shift my situation on my own."

Now to some extent, absolutely, yes you can shift your situation on your own. On your own you can make great strides.

On your own you can learn the importance of taking personal responsibility and taking your own power back, and really identifying that, "Yes, this is my life and I'm going to write my own story. I'm going to reinvent myself."

In fact that's a powerful strategy in and of herself: tell yourself, "I am reinventing myself, I am rewriting my life story right now."

However you may have been at that for a while now if you're watching this video in particular because the books like we're reading the Chopra-Oprah-Tolle-Hicks-Hay-Virtue etc. -- we've got everybody feeding us spiritually, which is incredible.

We're taking in and we're taking in from incredible masters... and then we notice nothing's happening.

Privately, we think to ourselves in exasperation: "I've taken this financial abundance love attraction course and I haven't manifested enough money to really do that thing I wanted to -- pay the bills or pay off my debt. I wrote it on my goal card and it didn't happen."

What do you do, when we're hitting obstacles and roadblocks or feeling a sense of stagnation or being blocked?

Here's what you do: get yourself emotionally ready to being willing to ask for assistance, because self help can only take you so far when you are by yourself.

Know this: #SelfHelp can only get you so far. Plateaued? Then it's time to reach out and ASK for help. #nextlevel #success @SenseiWhitfield

It's time to find support and talk to your tribe.

Bring your problem up and out of you and into the hands of at least one other being who is open, caring, a champion for you naturally, someone who just celebrates you and who is curious about issues and helping, who loves being there to listen.

Bring it up and out of you.

For whatever reason this week in particular Source is saying it's time for you to ask for help.

Perhaps someone, maybe even me, has been on your mind lately.

You've been thinking: "I know that I need to really reach out, but I'm going to try maybe just this one more thing," or, "I'm going to try and figure this out on my own. I know I can do it, I've done it before."

At this level of your development, you need to accept that a new level is a new level.

We just need to accept that sometimes reaching out is the way to go to make it past our plateau.

I'm hearing the oracle cards calling in the energy, now. It's the Healing with the Angels oracle cards deck -- Doreen Virtue's very first oracle cards deck.

This deck in particular came forward intuitively when I asked all the decks here at the dojo who wants to help with feeling stuck on self help.

(I'm always receiving donations, by the way, if you wanted to donate an extra deck that you had. Email me about it at senseivictoriawhitfield@gmail.com)

Angels what do we need to know right now to get out of our decision to be stuck in our self help journey?

 

 

This week's oracle card is "Abundance" -- focus your efforts this week on improving your #abundance #mindset because everything you need is actually right under your nose, you just can't see it yet because of your #perspective. Full reading on #youtube at https://youtu.be/5d6me-nOXGY ???????????????? #positivevibes #healing #oraclecards #abundance #money #wealth #success #motivation #selflove #personaldevelopment #openyoureyes #letsgo

 

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Oh, Abundance!

There is infinite abundance around you of assistance, support, love, encouragement, championing.

But you cannot unlock and receive this abundance until you go out of your comfort zone and pursue it by asking.

That's a very open, vulnerable way of pursuing your next level, asking for the abundance which you seek.

That's challenging, because it takes courage to ask for help, but we assure you that there, right underneath your nose is so much abundance of exactly what you need right now, down to the T.

You are within on degree of separation.

This week, in fact this day in particular, you're within one degree of separation of the help that you need to move to your next level, but you have to step out of your comfort zone and ask for assistance now.

Comment below, send me an email back, what's coming up for you?

Ask me what your question is about your plateau.

You know I'd be overjoyed to support you and answer any questions that you have!

But reach out, don't try and self help, do the do-it-yourself kinds of thing because Source says we're moving passed that paradigm.

You're at a new level now and this new level includes working with your group, your community and leveraging. Okay? I'm sending so much love.

That's this week's message. By all means, please go to victoriawhitfield.com/freegift and make sure that you subscribe so that you're getting your weekly Love Letters if you haven’t already.

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Sending you so much love 🙂

See you next time. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Are you known as "the giver" and backbone of your family or team?

Love sharing your art and work so much that you give it away for free more often than not?

Though you love the feeling of giving, are you secretly worried that you're being drained by what you love?

Giving always feels good to the giver because we feel abundant and connected to others when we do.

But what happens when no one gives to us or tries to connect with us, too -- what happens when we are surrounded by people who just smile, take and keep on taking?

Watch this week's 8-minute Love Letter to find out why you're surrounded by "sucklers" and what to do about it!

"When is someone going to fight for me?"

This week, I keep hearing this wonderful phrase that Lisa Marie Rosati from the Goddess Lifestyle Plan and Sugar Free Goddess coming through for you:

"No more sucklers!"

The guides really want to talk to you about this. 

Giving credit for the phrase where credit is due, I am happy to share this idea of "sucklers" with everyone, because I admire Lisa's work so much.

Women creative entrepreneurs are who I work with, and this comes up a lot.

We end up really giving away a lot of our energy because we are abundant, creative, flowing creatures.

That's who we are, whether or not you are a woman. It's for those of us who are highly creative people.

We care, and we love to create. We love to feel abundant and that sense of giving really gives to us.

It also gives us the sense of responsibility and being needed and connected, giving to others as a form of expressing our love and sharing that abundance.

And I love countering that with the unsettling image of "sucklers" sucking on us.

That's the uncomfortable truth that we live with every day.

This is different from energy vampires, too. Sucklers come upon us in a more sneaky way.

Sucklers are a bit more insidious, because it's those in our community and in our tribe who we want to uplift and see it further who, rather than taking our encouragement and running with it to go on their own journey, they are like, "Oh great," and they keep suckling on our energy.

Also, there is an ageist aspect to that phrase: you're overstaying your welcome, sucklers, because it's your time to get out there.

Source really wants you to know that there may be some people in your life right now, who rather than taking their own initiative are hanging on to you and weighing you down.

I don't know who I'm talking to or who I'm talking about in particular, but let's just explore this.

Rather than taking their own initiative and stepping up to the plate, they've learned from YOUR pattern of behavior reinforcing them staying in a receiving state from you.

Don't misunderstand the message here: Source is saying this AND honoring the fact that you are giving a lot.

You're an amazing nurturing being.

However, the question that you must ask yourself when you are feeling drained is, "what is the pattern IN ME that's creating this situation?"

Know this: YOU train people to be energy #vampires by having no self #respect or #selfcare. #loveyourself @SenseiWhitfield

Ouch...

Why would we be asking this question in the first place?

If you feel that a lot of people are taking, taking, taking from you, but you don't feel like anyone gives to you.

Now, we don't mean this in a selfish way, like we're keeping score, murmuring "Grr, when am I going to get mine?"

No, that's not what we're saying.

Instead, just consider: are you the only giver in town?

Or better yet, could giving and being The Giver or The Nurturer be a way that you control every one around you?

If that is so, it's counterproductive for you to be mad at people for continuing the paradigm that you've set up of control through receiving from you.

Also, this is for those of us that are secretly feeling, "Ugh! I advocate for everyone, lift up everyone so much. When is someone going to fight for me? When is someone going to advocate for me?"

That might be coming up because we're exhibiting a behavioral pattern that reinforces having sucklers around.

People are not taking initiative, because we're not giving them the space to take it.

Here are the oracle cards now. This is a bit of a tough love week. This topic kind of sucks. LOL!

It's important on the path of natural intuitive development to see how our energy drains, though.

That's one of the many forms of assessment that we do here at the dojo.

The Indigo Angel Oracle Cards deck, by Doreen Virtue is the deck of the week. 

So let's see what's coming up around this energy drain issue for those people who it started off beautifully, and really meant well to be nurturing and giving, but are now starting to feel drained and resentful.

Suddenly, we've become "mama" to grown men, grown women, and not in a good way, in a draining way.

Wow, look at the image, how the breasts of the angel are exposed to show giving, nurturing, mother energy!

 

 

This week's #oracle card is "You Are Special" -- the #Angels want you to know this week that you are worthy of #love, #support and recognition. Your #joy and #health are just as important as others'; especially if you go out of your way to make everyone else feel special, this week you need to remember that you are special, too. Full reading on #YouTube: https://youtu.be/mjXVG-1uCfM ????????✨????????✨ #reiki #meditation #healing

 

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You are special.

The reason why the angels are sending this card forward is this is showing what's the problematic pattern and behavior that you're exhibiting. 

You don't see yourself as special. Everyone else is special in your eyes.

That's so loving. That's beautiful. Humble.

However, it ends up leaving your needs, your boundaries, your standards, your values in the dust, because we place others above ourselves, because we assign everyone on the outside responsibility for making us feel happy.

What does that mean?

That means we're not happy and comfortable unless our entire environment is happy and comfortable. Right?

But making everyone happy doesn't make you special.

It just makes you really busy.

To change the pattern of behavior, for this week in particular, is to say to yourself, "How can I see myself as just as special as everyone else that I am pouring love into this week?"

Are you special?

What's a list of things that make you special?

Comment below, send me an email back. Tell me. I want to hear it.

I'm excited to see you celebrate yourself and begin to shift that pattern of behavior!

That's this week's message. By all means, please go to victoriawhitfield.com/freegift and make sure that you subscribe so that you're getting your weekly Love Letters if you haven’t already.

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Sending you so much love 🙂

See you next time. Bye!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Allow any images, ideas, memories and guidance to come up for you in response to that question, and don't judge what you hear.

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Having a hard time being consistent and focused?

Can't trust yourself to make good choices?

Wish you had more self-discipline?

Don't beat yourself up about it -- that won't help you get better!

In fact, there's a reason you are the way you are; you're just not able to see the "dark gift" in where you're at right now.

Watch the above 10-minute video to find out what's stopping your natural ability to generate results consistently!

"I've got to work. I don't have time to play the guitar anymore."

Because the number 3 is the presence of spiritual guidance, we want to put consistently at the beginning, during the meat of, and at the end of each day rituals that support you in staying consistent. Why?

Because the universe is consistent. 

When she's flowing, her energy continues and reverberates without end. Without end.

In order to set yourself up for success, Source is asking for 3 in particular: 3 points during the day where you have set up intention time.

In the middle is refocusing and refreshing time during the day, and then at the end of the day it's take down and appreciation time.

End of the day is great for gratitude journaling also.

I'm hearing in the energy of the Oracle cards also calling for the week to really help us weigh in on the topic of consistency is key.

Before we go to the Oracle cards deck, though, I just got a download from the energy saying that creative people by design are inconsistent. Let's take a moment to honor that.

I'm smiling because it's brutal and delicious at the same time!

I can't describe it any other way!

Being creative means that you are open to uncertainty. I mean that positively and I mean that as a disaster, lol!

Sometimes we make incredible new decisions. Yay!

Sometimes we make horrible new decisions. Yay!

By design though, we're meant, as creative-type individuals -- as visionary, intuitive, imaginative beings -- to mix things up.

This catalyzes the entire earth -- her evolution.

Source says we are catalysts for change.

So don't look at your sense of uncertainty and inconsistency like, "This is a character flaw and I'm screwed." No, that's not the case.

It's actually a blessing in disguise once you learn how to harness her.

The way that you harness this creative, inconsistent, chaotic, creative vibration is through creating a consistent container for it. And that's why Source is saying: beginning, middle and end of the day.

The Oracle cards this week is Healing with the Angels. The very first Oracle card of the deck by Doreen Virtue.

When we asked, "Who can really help us with this conversation about consistency is key?" This the deck that came through.

The card that immediately popped out is: Study.

Right off the bat, I'm hearing the angels talking about being a little bit more serious with your energy work.

To all my light workers, empaths, healers, therapists, body workers, all of my artists, all those of you out there who are working with the energy, or at least say you are, or you say you journal from time to time, the angels are calling you out and asking:

When was the last time you actually did that? 😉

Know this: #Now is a good time to re-commit to your #vision. And so is this now, and also this now, too. #focus #success @SenseiWhitfield

It's time to be a little bit more consistent with your studies, because the learning never stops. 

The development, the sharpening of the saw never stops.

It's funny, you know, when we get to of school, because no one's watching we'll slack a little bit on our studies and keeping up with our craft and I mean that with like a capital C.

I mean like our intuitive Craft, our Gift.

We pull back on that because, we tell ourselves: "Oh you know I got to work. I don't have time for that," or, "Oh I got to spend time with my husband and I don't have time for that." "Oh I got to take care of the kids I don't have time to play the guitar anymore."

Keep up on that because that's your gift. Your light work is your gift, so staying consistent with that and again - I'm just going to keep saying it because consistency is key:

"Repetition is the mother of skill." - Tony Robbins

So the beginning, during the meat of, and at the end of the day: Study.

Here's what the reading says:

 

You are engaged in learning and study right now.

Your angels guide you to take time to read, listen and grow. This card validates that this is an important time for you to learn new ideas or skills.

Perhaps you feel guided to enroll in a class and this card confirms that feeling. If you are currently attending school, the angels ask you to continue.

Sometimes when we are in a learning phase of our life, we become anxious to test our new knowledge. Instead of learning, we want to apply what we've learned...

They just stopped me in the energy.

We become more inconsistent, or we drop the ball on keeping our positive momentum going, because we're not honoring the process.

And we're not honoring being committed to the study, or committed to our energy work, or being committed to our self-care, or being committed to our new goal, our resolution or whatever we're trying to manifest and whatever we're creating in life.

We're getting ahead of ourselves by thinking, "I don't have to learn this anymore; I kind of got the gist of it so I'm just going to go for it," and then you wonder why you don't have enough momentum and kind of peter out, right?

Hm. Food for thought!

Let's keep reading:

 

However, timing is everything and this card guides you not to rush into action.

Instead enjoy the process of learning.

Of course they say process! Ha!

No coincidences...

 

The growth that accompanies an educational experience is enjoyable if we remind ourselves to stay focused in the here and now moment.

Consistency is key because it brings you into the present moment.

We may have long term visions and goals. We may have ideas and things that we want to start up and really achieve.

But the power to really step into and ground that vision here into physical reality, is in your moment by moment decisions.

I see you resonating with this right now in The Energy.

It's your moment by moment decisions.

So if you can set up yourself for success and consistency of reminding you about what your moment by moment decisions are through intending your decisions in the morning, refreshing yourself during the day, and then honoring and appreciating the decisions that you have made --

That triad of positive focus each day creates positive momentum.

Consistency is bound to happen.

It's organic when you have that kind of positive momentum.

Commit to your studies. You can do it.

Yes, you really can do it! Practice.

Do your practice. Go for it! 

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Love starting new things?

Have you set a new, inspiring goal or resolution for yourself recently that you're worried you won't achieve?

Feeling secretly anxious because you know you usually have a hard time finishing what you start?

Being creative and excited about starting new initiatives is always awesome and inspiring.

However, seeing your ideas all the way from vision to fruition is a whole other can of worms -- and it involves seeking and tracking a magikcal and elusive little unicorn called: Consistency.

Watch the above 7-minute video to learn how to be more consistent!

"I have a lot on my plate, I'll put that on the back burner."

This week, Source wants you to know that consistency is key.

Key to what? The key to success in anything in life, is being consistent.

Of course, being creative is powerful because we're able to start new things and have grand visions and receive guidance creatively and intuitively from Spirit.

If you're anything like me, you tend to get a lot of inspiration and a lot of new ideas and start a lot of new creative projects.

And then all of a sudden you're on to the next thing.

We're on to opening another tab on Google Chrome or Mozilla.

And we're watching two different channels on the TV because we don't want to deal with the commercials, so we switch between a few channels.

Or on our cell phone, we have about 100 different windows open in the web browser. 

Or whenever it comes to meetings at work we're always a high idea generators, or we get excited about new ideas or new initiatives.

But you're drained and annoyed when things don't come out the way you initially envisioned -- this happens because we're high start up energy people.

And that's okay. It's not a bad thing!

The universe knows that about us, as spiritual, intuitive and sensitive individuals. She knows that.

So she's coming in to offer a bit of advice to say: consistency is key.

The way that we set ourselves up for success, instead of self sabotage, is by setting up rituals that support us in being consistent.

The first thing in the energy in order to do what Source is asking, is creating morning rituals, mid day rituals and evening rituals.

We've previously talked about having your non negotiable's with yourself.

And that's usually three to five things that you do to set your energy up off at the right pace first thing in the morning, and you can't negotiate.

You can not negotiate with yourself about those things.

We often sabotage our success in life because we negotiate whether or not we're allowed to take steps, healing steps, for ourselves:

"Okay, I really don't feel like it today", or "I have a lot on my plate, I'll put that on the back burner."

We begin negotiating and talking ourselves down from taking action steps.

Having and keeping up your "Non-negotiables" is just another teaching here at the Dojo that we share with students about how to really create positive momentum on their healing journey.

It's about having a set of standards, called non-negotiables, which are off limits for YOU to negotiate with yourself whether or not they get done.

This week in particular Source is saying you need a ritual for the beginning, middle and end of the day to create a vortex of consistency.

What does that look like?

At the beginning of the day we have our non negotiable that sets the intention, a positive focus and intention for the day at large, which is in and of herself very powerful.

On top of that, in the midday -- or throughout the "meat" of your day if we're looking at it like a sandwich -- we need rituals of getting up and moving to keep your vibration high.

Know this: You can create your own #vortex of consistency to put momentum behind achieving your #goals. #newyearnewyou #success

Habits of re-centering and looking again at "what are my goals for today?" build momentum behind the actualization of your goals.

Have a set time during the day where you check in with someone who keeps you accountable to what your goals are for the day and they're doing the same thing so you keep each other accountable.

Or you have a place that you go to that keeps you inspired and open, during the day.

For me, there's certain places -- we're in Westfield, NJ here. Nearby is the Watchung Reservation. There are certain places in the Watchung Reservation that I visit very regularly to keep myself open and in a state of flow.

That might not be the case for you environmentally, but it could be that you go to the bathroom and recenter your energy so that you're able to feel more refreshed.

(I don't just mean going potty! It could be just to clear your head, to get up and walk away from the computer or walk away from your office, walk away from the kitchen for a little bit so you can recenter and refocus.)

At the end of each day, Source is saying have an ending ritual where you look back on what happened throughout the day and appreciate it to help close down, have a sense of closure and achievement.

All of these, though, we want to tie into whatever your goal is.

Maybe you have a New Year's resolution, Source is asking to work in that New Years resolution to these rituals. Or maybe you have a new goal in mind.

Perhaps you have a affirmation or a goal card that you've been working on for some time.

Work it in at three points in the day, numeralogically speaking, three is the presence of spiritual guidance.

Stay tuned for part two next week!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Do you often say "I don't know" automatically as filler words in conversation?

Always caught off guard when people casually ask you "what do you want"?

Tired of feeling so indecisive all the time?

Most people are afraid to make decisions because they're worried they'll pick the wrong one, so they just avoid making decisions altogether.

But what if you're someone who genuinely wants to be more confident and decisive, and are frustrated that you literally can't figure out what you want?

Watch the above 10-minute video to find out what is clogging up your confident, decisive energy and what to do about it!

"I say 'I don't know' so I don't have to commit."

Saying, and having that habit of automatically responding, "I don't know" to when people ask you questions is a throat chakra issue.

The throat chakra is an energy center in your body that deals with truth and expression.

If we're stuck saying "I don't know," we're protecting against something.

We're avoiding being expressive.

We're protecting against a sense of rejection, of us expressing whatever our truth is.

That's what saying "I don't know" comes down to.

It's being afraid to express your truth so much that you're in a habit cycle of avoiding being open and honest by any means necessary.

I'm hearing the Oracle cards calling out on the energy to really help us get some more guidance around being addicted to saying, "I don't know."

Saying "I don't know" automatically is like saying "Um."

Have you ever listened to someone speaking on stage, they're like "and, um ... What I think is um ... Our next topic is uh, I uh ..."

Eventually you start listening to them saying "um", and you're like "AAAAAH!"

Or, if you're creepy like me, you'll start writing down and keeping score of how many times they said "um" just to pass the time, so you don't go crazy. 😉

The Oracle card deck that said "hey, we can help with this topic" was the Indigo Angel Oracle cards deck.

This deck has to do with those of us who are highly sensitive individuals and spiritual people who are encountering some challenges along the path of our expansion.

That's what this Oracle card deck in particular has been made for.

We're getting two coming out this week: "Physical outlet" and "You are understood."

It's been quite some time since two oracle cards have come out in the reading, but the angels are saying that this is totally on purpose, so we're going to go with it.

"Physical outlet." The angels are saying, "read what the channeling is," so here goes:

 

This current situation is causing you to hold on to something that the angels would like you to release.

That's exactly what we were just talking about.

Having the "I don't know" habit cycle is means we're holding back, we don't want the truth to come out.

We're afraid of the truth, or we're afraid of being rejected or misunderstood.

But the other card, "You are understood", is coming forward to validate, and say, "you don't have to be afraid of that, that's not what we should be afraid of. Don't let that fear hold you back."

The reading says:

 

The angels are asking you to engage in a physical activity as a source of self counseling, and a means of clearing the way to receive new messages, ideas, solutions, and healing energy.

This can be anything from taking a walk, or going running, swimming, doing yoga, playing a sport.

Whatever you feel guided to do, know that the physical motion will accelerate the processing and release of emotions.

Here's something. I really appreciate this advice that the angels are giving us right now, to help us get out of this cycle, because in truth - you do know.

One way that you can access your knowing, your larger knowing, is by shifting your state.

We spend our days pretty sedentary.

Sitting at the computer, or being indoors, doing the same thing over and over and over again oftentimes in environments that don't really inspire us, or if they did at one point, it tends to get a little bit stale.

Know this: Your physical environment affects your ability to make decisions. #clarity #fengshui #decision @SenseiWhitfield

If you are habituated to the same thing over and over again, being in a small, ritualistic energy, that's not fostering your personal and spiritual expansion.

It's just for doing the same thing, over and over again to have a sense of continuity, or control, because everything is the same every day.

Source is saying, through the angels, "Mix it up. Get up, go for a walk."

If someone asks you something that you can't quite answer then and there, instead of saying, "I don't know," say, "Let me think about that, and I'll get back to you."

If it was on the phone, you put them on hold, go dance your brains out, and then after that, be with yourself in that shifted body state and then resume talking with them.

You can access more of your brain when the blood is pumping through your body, and guess what? Like magic, you're going to know exactly what you want.

This works so much for me, especially when I personally am trying to make decisions. I've got to shift my state, so that I feel open, and more of myself.

From my own personal experience, and I'm sure you can relate to this, I say, "I don't know" so I don't have to commit.

That way, I feel safer if I say "I don't know" because then the other person has to bring it out of me, and then we go back and forth until they do.

It makes it easier, because I'm making them responsible for making my decision.

Does this sound familiar? It's all that passive aggressive, gucky yucky, stuff we do.

I don't have to do that, you don't have to do that, we don't have to do that.

We have access to all that we are, and we know exactly what we want, and one way to get there is through shifting your state.

The angels are also sending us back to the card "You are understood:"

 

The angels send you this card because every aspect of your personality and existence makes perfect sense to them.

As an Indigo -- as a highly intuitive person -- you may feel flawed, or that you've made mistakes.

This card reminds you that nothing is a mistake.

Everything is a divine appointment.

Know that heaven and the angels see you as a perfect being, and they have been with you every step of your life.

They know who you really are, and they see your divine perfection.

The angels completely understand why you've made every decision that you've made.

Sometimes, when we've said we do know, in the past, it's ended up that we've made a decision or moved forward with something that wasn't the best decision, or didn't have the best outcome.

And we created a story because of that, that we're incompetent.

We tell ourselves "I'm stupid", "I don't know what I'm doing", and "I should make sure that from other people, I get all of their input", or "I do what so-and-so says", or "I abide by these rules because at least I know that I feel safe", or "because it's not up to me."

We give our power away because of one mistake.

The angels are saying, "Nothing is a mistake. There is only learning."

Here at the Dojo, we call those learnings Dark Gifts: the gifts of greater understanding that come from our experiences -- good, bad, ugly, mess, or fabulous.

It doesn't matter. They're all gifts.

Be kind to yourself if you don't trust yourself, or are afraid of making decisions, or commitments, or speaking up, and putting yourself out there.

Believe it or not, if you try, if you open up, you are already understood.

And if it doesn't go well, try to see the Dark Gift or the moral of the story, and you can always change your mind.

With that you'll not only be more decisive, but because you put yourself out there and started practicing, you'll also start making better decisions!

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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Can't figure out what you want?

Having a hard time making a decision?

Do you always avoid making decisions because it's just easier to let others decide for you?

Being indecisive slows you down personally as well as professionally because it causes your energy to be unclear.

But very few people know that your indecision is fueled by one little insidious lie that you tell yourself all day, and it's this lie that instantly steals your clarity.

Watch the above 6-minute video to find out what lie you're telling yourself all day, so you can stop sabotaging yourself!

"I wish I could just know what I want."

I love what Source is saying this week.

You want to know one of the most annoying truths? It's sticky.

One of the most annoying truths is that we are lying to ourselves for most of the day and here's how: with one simple phrase.

You ready for this? The phrase is "I don't know."

Source says that the phrase "I don't know," is always, always, always a lie.

Really?

If you grasp this, it's going to make life a little more difficult.

Think of it. How many times, on any given day, do you say, "Oh, I don't know..." Or "I don't know," as a guttural response to when someone asks you a question:

• • "What do you want to eat today?" "Oh, I don't know."

• • "So tell me about yourself. "I don't know... I uh am a people person who..." 

• "How was your day?" "I don't know. I went okay; it was good..."

Source says we need to sensitize to listening for when we're saying, "I don't know," because it's a lie.

Know this: In #spiritual truth, you're not an indecisive person. You create your #clarity AND you create your confusion. #wakeup #success

In fact, energetically, what it looks like is when someone ask you something or when you have an opportunity to express yourself, you take all big ball of socks and stuff them into your mouth in the energy. 

Source is pointing this out for your healing. 

We need to sensitize to this, because we need to embrace more honesty in any and every area in our lives-- honesty is clarity energy and that promotes deep healing and abundant flow.

Here's the thing, if "I don't know," is always a lie, how can we start telling the truth more?

What if you honestly have some sort of a mental block at that moment?

When someone asks, "Where do you want to eat?" you just draw a blank, there's no image that's coming up in your head.

Nothing comes up for you or you don't have a predetermined answer, like "I want sushi," or something like that.

So what happens when your answer doesn't automatically come up? What do you do in that moment?

There's a very simple way to turn that around, and what I want you to do is, in that moment, when you feel the urge to say, "I don't know," is catch yourself.

Even if it comes out and you automatically blurt out, "I don't know," immediately turn it around by saying, "Well, what would it be if I did know?" 

Switch it around.

Or, if someone says it to you, ask them. "Well, what would it be if you did know?"

You may sound like a bit of a smarty pants, like a sassafras smarty pants.

Sure. But it's for the higher good!

Believe it or not, this is a NLP -- neurolinguistic programming -- reframe.

It automatically makes your brain shift herself to say, "Okay, so I do know. Well, you know what, I could really go for a salad right now, or I could go for a sub. That sounds really good."

Automatically, if you are searching for, "What would it be if I did know?" you're open to being able to express immediately in that moment.

In spiritual truth, you actually do know.

Like, right now.

You don't have to wait or figure stuff out. In this moment, you have access to All That Is.

In fact, you are a spiritual being. You are a spiritual being that is having a physical experience.

As a spiritual being, you have access to the Superconscious.

You know all of your lifetimes. We're speaking to the higher self in you right now by saying this. You know all of your lifetimes. You know all of the lifetimes of the people that are around you.

You know all of the restaurants that are in the area. You know exactly what foods work for you and don't work for you, if we're taking the food example for there.

What do you want in a partner? You do know.

Let someone sit down and pull it out of you.

"All right, we're going to figure this out, together!"

It will come out, it's not like it's not there.

You're just not in tune with listening to yourself or expressing yourself.

Saying, "I don't know," is a sign of a throat chakra issue.

Stay tuned for next week's continuation of this topic...

In Love and Light,

Victoria.

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