Archive: Year: 2023

Dealing With Disappointment At Work

Posted on by Sensei Victoria Whitfield

Dear Love,

We stand at the precipice of the dawn of a new era in your life this week. 

​​With the Winter Solstice occurring this Thursday being the shortest day and the longest night of the year, it signals a time of rebirth. Your rebirth.

It is time for you to let go of the year behind you; to let go of the projects, the people, the dreams and relationships that are unrealized, unfinished, and unsalvageable.

Clear your cache. Empty your emotional and financial Trash bin.

What have you pushed back on to the backburner, indefinitely?
What have you hung up to slowly fade in to the background and be eaten away by the moths of mental abandonment and forgetfulness?

My spirit guides say there are things hanging in your energy like cobwebs - unfinished or unresolved initiatives​​​​​​​​​, conversations and promises - that are sneakily draining your energy in the background, similarly how leaving a ton of apps open on your device eats up its battery life.

But this week, we need to look at why you left these issues unresolved; and my guides say, it's to avoid dealing with the feeling of Disappointment.​​

Let's talk about it...

I explore this in detail in this week's video: CLICK TO WATCH on YouTube.

"Disappointment is hot lava; avoid it at all costs," chants the inner Perfectionist.

"And while you're at it, don't give in to any negative feelings at all. That's not allowed. You can't be wrong. Nope. You can't be negative. Nope. That's not allowed. No anger, no resentment, no frustration, no dissatisfaction, no betrayal, no confusion, no grief, no shame, no jealousy, no regret, no nothing..."​​

She continues, clenching her controller claws around your mind: "Must be positive. Must keep it together​​. Must put on a happy face. Must look successful. Must be fine. Must not let on. Must hide. Must keep going. Must keep up. Must power through it. Must not set off any alarms. Must be strong. Must not be weak. Must stay on top of things. Must..."

​​Denying your negative feelings is not dealing with them.
​
In fact, it makes them worse, because when you deny admitting how you really feel, you drive the negative energy of your negative feelings deeper into your body and psyche, and this breeds disease and dysfunction.

Denying is lying.​​​
​
To yourself, and to others.​

Still holding on to something - a person, project or plan - that is dead and gone?
Can't seem to let it go and move on to manifesting your next big thing?

If so, let me help you get the clarity you need to move forward:
CLICK TO BOOK A CLARITY CALL WITH VICTORIA NOW

Deep ​breath in... and exhale.

When we can't let go, when we can't admit​​ defeat, when we can't admit we were wrong, when we can't admit we aren't happy, when we can't admit we're angry, when we can't admit we are disappointed...we deny ourselves the right to Humanity.

The inner Perfectionist, the inner Controller - she is doing her best to protect you from how bad negative feelings feel. However, she is part of your Traumatized Mind. She is not part of your Healthy Mind.​​

Mistakenly, her version of protecting you from "bad things" is based in restricting your access to, and even erasing altogether, your authentic feelings​​ that lie outside the range of "acceptable" feelings to have - it's as if you're trying to play music on a grand piano by only using 7 out of he 88 keys. You lack range of expression.

There is beauty and power in the high notes, and there is power and healing in the low notes. They're all yours, and they're all part of your Whole story.

My spirit guides say that this week, you are being called to step in to the full range of your soul's expression, including all of you: the highs and the lows.

And with it being the longest nights of the year this week, this is the best time to embrace the power and healing laying in wait for you in your Shadow. It's time to dive into the Dark Gift of Disappointment.​​​​​​
I go in to this in detail in this week's video. Click the link or video above to watch.


Remember:

You create your reality. You create your flow.

You also can destroy your flow.
The choice is yours.

In case you were not aware: you are not alone in this. We are walking this journey of universal service (as conscious entrepreneurs) and spiritual ascension (as spiritual beings).

The fight to stay grounded and clear in mind, body and business is a daily one. I know.

So I will continue to share these messages out of devotion to my soulmate clients who may be watching from the sidelines; to my Loves who are up at 3am praying for the strength to keep serving their clients and community, praying for a safe place and a safe person who can help them accept themselves, too. Someone who can help them clear their energy, get out of their own way and finally grow and flow into their goals of having massive positive impact. 

Is that you? (Or someone you know?)
If so, I see you, and I am here when you are ready.

You are enough.
You are ready.
You are worthy.

I believe that you do not have to lose your glow as you grow in life and business. 
I believe that you have what it takes to make your vision happen, and that with a little extra love, you will see it manifest and come to fruition.

And that's what I'm here for. If you sense that you need to ground and clear or balance and align your energy in your life and business, and are seeking support in doing so, don't hesitate to reach out. 

You are not weird or crazy for sensing it - it's NORMAL! 
Well, our tribe's "normal." *wink*

As an empath AND an entrepreneur myself, I understand that your energy is everything, especially in businessman a very deep and personal level. 

Your energy is everything because when you feel better, you do better.
It's that simple. 

And when you're energy is off kilter, you feel stressed, stuck and scattered, and that can stop you in your tracks, which cuts off the universal flow of abundance and positive manifestation in your life. 

Manifestation of health, love, money, energy, progress...
I can help you with that.

So let's talk about it -  I'm just one text message away: book your session by clicking below or texting "PRIVATE SESSIONS PRICING" to +1-732-903-8573 for private session pricing and scheduling options now.

With love, that you may shine your light,

S. Victoria

Sensei Victoria Whitfield - Personal Energy and Business Coach for Spiritual CEOs, Business Reiki Master™ | Strategic Meditation for High Performance | Intuitive Business Development | Personal Energy Mastery 

Web: VictoriaWhitfield.com
Mobile: +1-732-903-8573

The Secret To Getting And Staying Focused

Posted on by Sensei Victoria Whitfield

Dear Love,

Lately all we do is rush, rush, rush.

"Hurry up!"
"Get the lead out!"
"Pick up the pace."
"Get a move on."
"You snooze, you lose."

Why are you always rushing yourself?

Especially when you know that you don't do nearly as good a job when you rush yourself as when you take your time. Where is this coming from?

Perhaps you were rushed by well-meaning family, teachers or friends as a child, and so you learned to rush yourself so that you don't have to endure their shame and nagging.

Or maybe you were made to feel slow or stupid when you didn't react or think as fast as others, and so you learned from them to be impatient with yourself, as a rule of thumb.

My spirit guides are saying to watch out this week for rushing yourself, because that is fueling your pattern of self sabotage.

Let's talk about it:

I explore this in detail in this week's video: CLICK TO WATCH on YouTube.

In an alternate, negative universe, everybody wins when you sabotage your own progress, and everybody wins when you are distracted.

You win because you are off the hook and don't have to deal with upsetting your status quo.
Others win for the same reason; they are let off the hook not having to deal with you upsetting their status quo.

And, anyone who is seeking power and control over you and others wins, because the less progress you make, and the less you have the ability to focus, the more you are a compliant pawn in helping them realize their agenda.

My spirit guides say that if you are reading this email though, the above idea makes your skin crawl, because the last thing you want is to be somebody else's pawn, let alone make no progress and have everything remain the same.

You and me both!

But if that's the case, then why are you allowing yourself to be distracted so often, especially while doing what you love or spending time with people you love? 

I'll tell you why: focus is a CHOICE and a skill to be developed.

Are you having a hard time getting and staying focused?
Can't seem to stop sabotaging your progress, and wonder if you're blocked?

If so, let me help you get the clarity you need to move forward:
CLICK TO BOOK A CLARITY CALL WITH VICTORIA NOW

Technology rewards us for handing over our ability to make our own choices on what to pay attention to because we are currently living in the Age of Attention.
Read that sentence again.

Notifications, pop ups, funnels, commercials, apps, ai-driven data results, social media doom scrolling, algorithms, tracking cookies and ads guide our decisions on what to focus on through a constant stream of interruptions.

Calculated colors, sounds, branding, haptics (the vibrations of your device), editing and catchy sayings stimulate our senses to trigger pleasure sensations in the brain and associate Their Choice with pleasure. 

This influences what we focus on, without us even knowing most of the time.

And, "wherever your awareness goes, energy flows" so that means your energy is being siphoned away from what you want to focus on and instead to Their Choice for you to focus on, so that your energy can fuel the realization of Their agenda.

Who are "They"? It doesn't matter; They are not YOU.

Just for today, focus on YOU and Your unique point of view, on moving the needle forward on Your agenda and choosing Your Choice.

And the secret for reconnecting to You and Your ability to focus is practicing the art and skill of Pausing Powerfully, as you go about your day, each day, this week.I go in to this in detail in this week's video. Click the link or video above to watch.


Remember:

You create your reality. You create your flow.

You also can destroy your flow.
The choice is yours.

In case you were not aware: you are not alone in this. We are walking this journey of universal service (as conscious entrepreneurs) and spiritual ascension (as spiritual beings).

The fight to stay grounded and clear in mind, body and business is a daily one. I know.

So I will continue to share these messages out of devotion to my soulmate clients who may be watching from the sidelines; to my Loves who are up at 3am praying for the strength to keep serving their clients and community, praying for a safe place and a safe person who can help them accept themselves, too. Someone who can help them clear their energy, get out of their own way and finally grow and flow into their goals of having massive positive impact. 

Is that you? (Or someone you know?)
If so, I see you, and I am here when you are ready.

You are enough.
You are ready.
You are worthy.

I believe that you do not have to lose your glow as you grow in life and business. 
I believe that you have what it takes to make your vision happen, and that with a little extra love, you will see it manifest and come to fruition.

And that's what I'm here for. If you sense that you need to ground and clear or balance and align your energy in your life and business, and are seeking support in doing so, don't hesitate to reach out. 

You are not weird or crazy for sensing it - it's NORMAL! 
Well, our tribe's "normal." *wink*

As an empath AND an entrepreneur myself, I understand that your energy is everything, especially in businessman a very deep and personal level. 

Your energy is everything because when you feel better, you do better.
It's that simple. 

And when you're energy is off kilter, you feel stressed, stuck and scattered, and that can stop you in your tracks, which cuts off the universal flow of abundance and positive manifestation in your life. 

Manifestation of health, love, money, energy, progress...
I can help you with that.

So let's talk about it -  I'm just one text message away: book your session by clicking below or texting "PRIVATE SESSIONS PRICING" to +1-732-903-8573 for private session pricing and scheduling options now.

With love, that you may shine your light,

S. Victoria

Sensei Victoria Whitfield - Personal Energy and Business Coach for Spiritual CEOs, Business Reiki Master™ | Strategic Meditation for High Performance | Intuitive Business Development | Personal Energy Mastery 

Web: VictoriaWhitfield.com
Mobile: +1-732-903-8573